Casual sex with an IG crush cost me. I ended up with genital herpes & was on the verge of doing some things I NEVER could imagine. All from something so “causal”. Listen to TONY! The healing I had to do has changed my entire perspective. Legs closed until marriage & I now coach about this. Thank you tony!
Wow Amber. Thank you for being transparent. This is so personal and you didn’t have to share, yet your testimony will help so many! God bless you Beautiful! ❤️
Just this weekend, a grown boy, I'd known for less than 24 hours, begged for access to my private parts. After I adamantly said HELL NO CAUSE I SAID SO, he told me I need to bring my standards down before I end up alone. I blocked and deleted him, patted myself on the back, and drank some kool-aid. Know your worth.
What kind of man was that my dear. He was possessed with a demon when he was talking to you and wanted to pass those demons unto you. Thank God you dodged satan's bullet. Wallahi!
Having a relationship won’t make you happy. Giving everything to a man doesn’t mean he’ll reciprocate. I tried this and it left me with two failed marriage and a single mom of 7. I finally learned how to love myself, wrote over 7 books, started my RU-vid channel to help other women, and an online academy coming 2021. Tony’s teachings have truly changed my life.
When I was 23 I started dating a guy and two weeks in he asked me to "sing on his microphone"....I had never dated before and was a virgin who literally had never gone past a kiss. I was horrified and broke up with him. He called me weird for never having done that before. I listened to my gut and stayed away from him. Thank God I knew better. Young girls today are made to feel like an outsider if they don't do these things.
A lot of men convince women this is what they have to do to be desired/desirable. They lie to them to get their needs met, use them up, then toss them aside, then call women delusional and crazy.
The only how you can buy into “casual sex” is if you believe you have no purpose for yourself and life. Basically you’re lost. I pray for all my female friends who bought into that belief.
It is Self abuse.. Casual sex, is NOT casual.. It is Perverted, and Twisted. Thanks again Tony. These things have to be addressed. Even though it's Disgusting.
Abstinent for 11 years and counting. Will not give myself away....ever again!! Until my husband finds me and we have a strong healthy relationship..God-centered
I used to work at pregnancy center, so many women who’ve had the “procedure” done multiple times and when they were ready to have a baby usually after they are doing well in their career, in their 30s, recently married or engaged and find out they aren’t able to get pregnant 😔. But society has lied to us and told us that sex is casual and all you need to do is get on birth control and use protection, but never talk about the physical and spiritual consequences of “casual” sex. “Casual” sex causes “casualties”.
@@trinap.8904 literally 98 % of the cases are due to the baby being an inconvenience and people just having sex. How is it a hard decision when some women are having 3 to 12 abortions in a year? Miss me with that “hard decision”. It’s not right to kill your own offspring because of YOUR irresponsibility. Was it a hard decision for my associate to kill her baby because she was sleeping with multiple men? Her abortion happened at 7 months! Let’s hold people accountable please.
The DEMONIC SOCIETY lied...They're the uncleaned spirits of course they want us ALL to be..They the main ones who STAGED Covid 19🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ to strip us from our GOD given birth rights. The brainwashed don't understand this yet.. Especially with the mask wearing.. All this was a Set Up!!
It's already difficult breaking a soul tie with someone you haven't slept with, now imagine the difficulty in breaking or weakening a soultie with someone you've slept with casually. It really isn't worth it.
I needed this! “Casual sex” ended with me being pregnant for the first time and abandoned by a guy I later found out had a girlfriend. I’m healing & learning now tho!
Wow! This is my exact situation. First time mom Thinking we would become a “family”. I’m in my healing stage and definitely learned my lesson ♥️ not getting on my back for no man who’s not my husband
Some women fall out of love with themselves and accept things they wouldn’t normally accept. Accepting a casual sex only relationship is not what any woman would joyfully sign up for. Something is going on with that woman internally. I can honestly say I’ve lost myself along the way but getting back to falling back in love with myself.
I get you - men may think it does not affect them, but it does. Thanks for your comment. I am trying to teach my son's this while they are young. Blessings 💯
The devil is running amuck! So many lost people creating more lost people. It's time to pray harder and stay closer to God more than ever. I truly pray more leaders like Tony can help bring more awareness and healing into people's lives through God.
Yep people out here living casually dangerous with one another , I see it everyday I knew it was wrong an demeaning, but since I’m by myself I’m the one get looked at like I’m crazy ! But I know better
So true! There is absolutely nothing casual about having sex! Everytime that I have ever had sex I felt something emotionally, spiritually, n physically. I even felt bad about even doing it in the first place. My legs have been closed for months now, but satan does try to creep in sometimes.. Pray for me. I don't even want to have sex again unless me and my partner are going to be together FOREVER 💍 Sex ain't no Joke 😫
@@NekeishaWise so true you gain clarity when you don't have sex we see how dumb these grown boys are🤦🏾♀️I've messed up dealing w. My daughter's dad twice this yr.. I forgave myself..Moving Forward💖 untied w. Him. Finally..I'll wait for My GOD Ordained Husband👐🏾
It’s amazing how much women will put themselves through for a man, but won’t put that level of sacrifice for God. Praying, fasting reading the word is doing the most. But putting yourself through abuse, threesomes, etc to keep a MAN by your side. The best feeling in the world is have an intimate relationship with God. Nothing can fill that void outside of Him. If you want to stop giving desperate energy and subjecting yourself to these things, turn to Him
This is so disgusting to hear! Its sad that women don't love themselves and know how valuable they are to society and the future. Thank you for covering this Tony! I'm too square to have any friends or followers who post these obnoxious idiologies!
People start feeling special when they can get men/women to sleep with them. It’s almost like bragging rights. All of this is very true! Satan has blinded so many people. Sex wasn’t designed to just sleep with whoever and whenever. Love and respect yourselves. Thank you and stay safe.
Indeed, there's nothing casual about it! It can result in regret, creating soul ties, depleted self esteem/codependency & many other unwanted or unplanned repercussions.
For once a man voices it out and am so happy some people still think this way. I have been thinking for a long time or my whole life I was an alien for rejecting casual sex and sex in general.
I've bn thinking like this my whole life. Ya'll pray 4 me those good prayers. Cos being hormonal n ur 40's aka wanting 2 do the nasty all the time. I'm like Lord control these urges until I'm married. Where my husband @ cos I'M READY. I'm a proud member of "I'm just being honest committee". Ya'll pray my strength n the Lord.🙏🏽🙅🏿♀️🤦🏿♀️ Cos whew chile!
I truly believe that women who think theres nothing wrong with sleeping around and thinking theres no emotion these are women who dont love themselves who have low self esteem they dont know themselves they are empty inside and they just want to feel wanted and loved but at the end of the day its their choice we all have the power to choose like Tony says "IGNORANCE". Ladies let us honor God with our bodies if you are a virgin keep it that way if not abstain you are valuable and way worth more than anything. Love yourself you dont deserve to be in unhealthy soul ties and unhealthy attachments.
“They just want to feel wanted and loved,” that part. I haven’t been with anyone yet but I can attest that when you don’t love yourself and began to feel desperate, you’ll start to think that lowering your standards and doing stuff you wouldn’t normally do is the only way to feel love. Thank God, I never let that way of thinking get to me but it did swiftly pass through my mind once. So, what you’re saying is true but you have to really dig deep and have strong convictions to withstand it.
Thank you God for covering me and, protecting me when I thought, laying down casually was what I should be doing. I forgave myself but still feel the pain daily of giving my body away. Almost 2 years into a lifestyle transformation and all the glory goes to God! Your videos were the slap in the face I needed.
@@kaleema1987 😊😊😊 I can't wait! Celibacy is the best choice I ever made , I am way more emotionally stable. People don't understand that all their problems would significantly decrease if they stopped slangin' microphones, and dessert like it was going out of style!
Unfortunately I am proof that soul ties can haunt you for years and years... STD’s, abortion’s, & heartbreak are consequences of “casual sex”. As a young woman I experienced it all. I’m so grateful to god for bringing me through those years into loving myself and my body. Sadly, as long as sex in promoted in our culture, young women will continue to participate. Unless they have strong influences in there life, I really pray for young teens&20’s
Sadly i grew up being taught sex is causal no one told me about soul ties🤦🏻♀️ few years ago this video would of ticked me off but it’s so true. and i’m tired of people promoting this b.s
See, people are evil They don't care about what it will cost you, spiritually, mentally and physically. Twitter won't be there when you're in a mess. No one talks how crappy or degrading it feels after a casual encounter. Misery loves company. Every word of wisdom in the Bible is to protect you. God knows people out there won't choose the best for you on your behalf. So he has equipped us with his word.
Thank you! I tell my friends I simply can’t because it’s too intimate and serious for me to sleep with anyone. That’s crazy to me. Like I need a man to love, care, protect, and faithful to me for me to have sex with him. I just can not.
I agree, I have told men many times that catching feelings is what makes me a woman. It is not always easy because the men have been very appealing BUT their brokenness with this mindset always turns me off.
I think we need to talk about casual sex in marriage as well. Some marriages are lacking emotional connections and intimacy yet the couple still participates in sex with each other, but they don't have a loving relationship. It has become just an act to get that dopamine release.
@@kaleema1987 neither did I until I watched this video. I am married, but I have been abstaining for this reason and other reasons I don't want to make public. I didn't fully understand the impact of my decision until I watched this video.
@LAVICHA WILSON it really gets in the way of a true connection. Like Tony said "you have to make love to the mind and everything else will naturally happen." I knew I wanted this but couldn't adequately convey this to my partner. Instead I would comply or shut down and not be satisfied either way.
Many were told this. It’s not that easy when you don’t have the guidance needed from the right people. It has to start young with us keeping these children emotionally and mentally sound as much as possible so they don’t go looking everywhere else for validation. I had a great one parent home and still fell. Yes, I’ve been cool for almost 15 yrs but before that (and after the damage was done) I was a mess and have to clean up now.
Sad thing is, if she does see this video she’ll probably laugh & brush it off because the message is coming from a man. Her only argument (which is a strong bias) is “soul ties don’t exist!”. Like okay, energy/emotions aside what about other consequences? Getting pregnant? Catching an incurable STD/STI? Him having a vengeful wife/gf that finds out? Hell, HE could be crazy?! Why even go through that headache? Heavily vetting people is extremely important to avoid ending up in messed up situations. She’ll learn one day.
I happened to fall upon one of the so called alpha male video. He was actually encouraging men to have more than one woman. Tony I thank God for you and I pray that your videos reaches more people to enlighten them. It seems like you're the only who
I am ashamed to say that for years this was my way of thinking. So many things lead up to my old way of thinking, starting from the age of 5. It took the power of the Holy Ghost to stop destroying myself, and it's gonna take daily refillings, prayer, fasting, studying the Word of God and counseling to get rid of all the soul ties I have attached to myself over the years. I am 46 and I feel like I am just starting to live. Thank God I am still alive. With Christ, I have hope that someday I will be free from the hauntings, the breakdowns, the depression, the pain, the shame, and the overwhelming guilt that I feel at times and cannot put into words. I declare that there is a man God has created just for me at a time He has appointed who will love me through what I was, and for who I am becoming.
Preach Tony!! This what I try to instill in the young girls I mentor and clients I work with!! I’m a social worker at a low income OB/GYN and I see this all the time. 🥺 I speak to them with transparency in hopes to inspire someone else! When I learned about soul ties it changed my perspective!!!!! You are right Tony, it’s no longer a mistake it’s Insanity!!!
Please and thank you for this message!!! I pray for all the women who don’t understand that casual is broken and lost!!! Ignorant and sorrowful. Lord lift these women up!!! Bless you Tony! Women have to remember they are fearfully and wonderfully made!!! 🙏🏽🥰‼️ ❤️
Watching this video after the roe v wade situation, hearing you speak about the clinic really surprised me. God really is speaking through you. You’re always spot on.
If sex was went to be casual God would have saw fit to place our organs just as accessible as a handshake Coach Tony knocking it out the park again today!!
I'm so proud of you Tony, speaking out against the false narratives and false prophets. I rebuke the spirit of thirstiness and pick-meshas! We are the "good thing" and as soon as women realize that, the better. Hold on to your morals and values. Obedience is better than sacrifice and you will reap what you sow. Thanks again Tony for using your platform to spread the truth and rebuke the lies.🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Wow. Thank you for your honesty. I think you hit it on the nail when you talked about how those connections follow you. If sexual activities were casual they wouldn't linger with us for ages. We wouldn't have flashbacks and dreams about these memories if they were so insignificant. These things just can't be forgotten because - whether we like it or not - true & real connections have been made.
I pray that whoever NEEDED to hear this message, gets it into their heart & soul bc SOUL TIES ARE REAL 💯 Do the work and break the cycle. God bless you. 🙏🏾
Tony, this is the meaning of Idiocracy: An idiocracy is a disparaging term for a society run by or made up of idiots (or people perceived as such). Idiocracy is also the title of 2006 satirical film that depicts a future in which humanity has become dumb. the Holy Spirit, actually gave me this word a while back, so once I looked it up everything made sense about the current society we live in.
Facts! All truth! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Even before marriage both should get tested, exchange test results before going unprotected. My Husband & I were tested first before going unprotected. It only takes one time for a disease, pregnancy, or a lifetime of pain. Be blessed.
A 2 min thrill ain't worth all the emotional damage. I'm straight without it . I can wait until marriage. No casual happenings. This is the realest I've ever seen Tony. You're my new virtual brother. That's it. God bless you.
This was right on time for me. I've been celibate for some mths, almost a year this is the first time I've ever done this. I have my days when I feel weak but I can not fold! Soul-Ties are very much real and dangerous. Thanks Tony!
Ladies, listen closely to this message! It will literally save your life! Tony, MAY OUR LORD ALMIGHTY BLESS ABUNDANTLY You and Your Family IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!
I’m sorry for my previous comment I couldn’t find the words to articulate myself. You may or may not know HOW HARD this post hits some of us! But perhaps I should speak for myself! The emotions that bring up, the anger, the pain. The thought that A complete stranger who has never met me yet loves me enough to tell me what’s up is a blessing but it hurts! We have a lot of work to do my brother, a lot of work!! Thank you for being bold enough to start clearing the field to build a road, this is bigger than you think, take it from me, I’m a woman with 3 daughters.This message is bigger than any of us may think! God bless you for your boldness!
You Preaching today Tony! Give yourself away to Jesus! He’s the one who can use you in a positive way. If you allow God to use you and not man you will be pleased with the outcome.
God bless you Bro Tony on this beautiful Monday, so sad how the mind of the world is when it comes to sex. And you right how there's no morals no values . Amen ,Bro Tony ain't nothing casual about laying down with a man and get with a sexual transmitted disease or pregnant and the list goes on. 💯 Truth message
I reside in a small town in Ohio and remember years ago crossing paths with a young lady that shared she was HIV positive. She shared that she contracted the virus from her so called boyfriend. She also shared that it was later found to at 3 of her friends contracted the virus because the boyfriend supposedly slept with them on the low. I’m not sure if this young lady is still alive today but at that time she was advocating and providing motivational speaking to young women to talk to them about the dangers of casual sex. Felt led to post this…
Thank you for this message. 🙏🏾 As a mother and a woman it is important to not only obtain the knowledge but to educate those who do not have it like Tony is doing. Receive his blessing and be a blessing to someone by empowering them with this knowledge. Our culture as Black women need to change from the direction it’s going into.
I have taken it the minute it was offered. That was a big accomplishment for me..I was surprised when I got a certificate after the quiz 🥰🙏👏👏 thank you Tony a million. I learnt ALOT
Amen! We need this. Especially from a grown, mature, married Man. I watched a video the other day with two males that have a platform on relationship topics, but geared towards men. Curious to see their mindset, so i listened to some of their message from the "male perspective", but most was actually great information and advice. But there were a few suggestions made that were on the side of their own preference and age/single immaturity. I just hope that there are women on there that can see that and not take that as far as "every man's" thought process. Appreciate you. You and the family enjoy the vacation.
A young male coworker was talking about his multiple hookup girls (at WORK I know) and how unfortunate it was that one was getting "attached". I chastised him, and the girl talking to him JUMPED to his defense. Pretty crazy. These people are broken, in extreme denial, and need some serious help.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Brokenness will stop spreading when people accept that unacceptable behavior and choices. Its sad and unfortunate but true. Please continue your videos.
