it's okay not to be okay... let's talk. 

Life isn’t supposed to be figured out it’s supposed to be lived

Why is nobody talking about your hair, your skin you look flawless Breenylee

The most mind fucking thing is when you rush through life like that and actually get the goal and the goal feels like NOtHInG, it literally feels like its not happening or like a tasteless piece of bread, because you are absolutely burnt out and empty of life

I’m struggling with anxiety and a bit of depression because I’m seeing everybody around me having a good job, boyfriends, marriage and babies... and me at the age of 31 with none of these things and still at University. I know that It’s stupid to compare myself to others but sometimes it’s difficult to not have negative thoughts about yourself :( God help me to trust the process and have faith 🙏🏾🍃

The key to solving your problem is to start wanting less instead of more. I learned as a woman who has always been a entrepreneur and strived for more is that as women we have to stop trying to live to impress others and learn how to be happy with less. Always wanting the newest car, bags/shoes, biggest house , traveling all over the world- all these things cost money which means you have to work harder. Women and work is a tricky thing because although we should be self sufficient, too much work makes a woman hard on the inside with not much time for self care which keeps us soft and in our feminine. When a woman can’t have plenty of self care time it literally will drive you crazy.

Breeny!! I relate to this so much! It’s so hard to find the balance between living life and feeling like you have to respond to every dm, every comment, and show every single thing that you’re doing. Just know that you’re doing a wonderful job inspiring us and we don’t take your content for granted at all! 💕 Continue caring for your mental health above all else friend!

this is why I hate toxic positivity, sometimes there are hard truths about life that we should accept; one of them is: we can't always be happy, and that's fine :)

Same with me, I put too much pressure on myself. I'm currently struggling with anxiety, still working on myself. I happy I finally found someone who is supportive. Put your self first and stay calm, enjoy life and all it goodness. Life is too short, the right people will come your way.

I'm here too, just tired at this point! After sacrificing my 20s for my career, relationships not working out and life being life, I'm done! I'm starting over. Just one day at a time I'm not pressuring myself over anything

I read this book and it spoke about “a form of self sabotage is psychoanalysing your emotions to the point they’re no longer there instead of feeling them directly. It made me realise I actually focus on where the feeling comes from so much that I ignore the actual feeling itself

That's why it's best to be like children. As in just have fun and play. This Western Society no one should come harm themselves mentally for likes, views and money. Or even just trying to help others.

I haven’t read my Bible, prayed or gone to church in several months. But when you said God wants to bless us not because we deserve it, I felt it. Thanks Breeny. Take care of yourself 💋

I never thought I will see a therapist cause I thought I'm immune to being depressed but here we are are, life is very humbling and I realised no one has a perfect life we just have to push through it. Thank you for this message

God won’t give you a battle he doesn’t think you can’t win ❤️ sending you strength Breeny. If you’re reading this and are hurting, I’m with you. It will get better.

after 2 years of struggling with insecurity, depression, anxiety, overthinking, loosing friends etc. 2 days ago was when I finally said enough is enough. I applied to get therapy.

Hey breeny, We are not created to focus on ourselves sis. (I felt prompted to tell you this when I saw the title of your last video but I didn't) When "self" is at the centre of our universe we are inevitably unhappy because it is not why we are created... its just not the reason that God gives us life and breath every day.

I watched a video a few days ago that changed my thought process so much. It was by teal swan and she mentions on how working on urself and trying change, u will always go back to what is called “self hate” that self love in this direction will always lead that way. Why? Because in the time you are trying to change urself, u are essentially telling urself that you hate who u are and u try to run away from that person (think of it like an elastic band) and the more u pick ur flaws and run away from that person the bigger the fall when you come back to that self and end up in deep depression. The key is to forgive, ACCEPT and love who u are including ur flaws. Accept her and love her and then look at “change” or transformation as something you are doing FOR YOURSELF rather than running away from urself. Because you love her so much and have come to the point where u are accepting and gentle with her, u want to see her even greater or get to the next level of her transformation therefore you are doing different things FOR HER and not to resent her. Once you see it thay way, ur life completely changes. U can become whatever u want super fast, but remember u arent broken so u dont need to fix anything and u arent “changing” because u hate urself. Hope it makes sense

You could never be a ‘failure’, as long as you’re trying. At the end of the day, our greatest achievement and success comes from our good works and our life of service. This reminds me of my favorite scripture, ‘Love is patient’. When we truly love ourselves, we slow down and give ourselves the patience we’re so worthy of.

I've been feeling so low because of the very same reason. I can't allow myself to accept that I'm not okay. I'm literally crying as I watch you. Thank you for this, I feel seen

I’m currently dealing with the worst anxiety I’ve ever had. These videos are great to watch & help alott! Also your hair looks gorgeous, Love you Breeny❤️

I work 9-5 and never ever see any of my friends. It’s not just you! It’s happening in all areas. We are worked out!!!!!!!!!!!

"I put so much pressure on myself to be great." I felt that 😩🥺Thank you for being honest and I appreciate the value you give on this platform. If you need to take a break, please do so without feeling bad because your mental health is everything. You're amazing, Breeny!

I needed this. I’ve felt so unlike myself and so confused about my emotions and it’s almost as though this came right when I needed permission to feel things.

This video came at the perfect time.. I’ve been so hard on myself and I feel like I’ve been very negative towards myself and people around me. I haven’t been too happy honestly. Not depressed but I’m just not okay. I’m questioning everything my relationship (he’s such a great guy but my over thinking is practically ruining things) my life .. it’s just so weird Breeny.... in terms of moving , finding. Job , being out of college man it’s a lot ... I hope we can find a way out of this... u feel like this is definitely a safe space for me to vent so lol yea 🥲

“you’re so chill” thanks, I gave up

Take it easy on yourself gorgeous. You come first, try to take breaks. We love you.

Life success is the peace and joy you accomplish for yourself

I love how transparent you are. And I relate to this so so much. Finding the balance between real life and content is extremely difficult as an online entrepreneur. Especially as a coach, we put immense pressure on ourselves to show up perfectly. But trying to portray a perfect image will leave you unfulfilled. Thank you for being so vulnerable and brave 🤍

I agree with this video so much, I just wrote in my journal about getting out this “grind” mentality, beating myself up always trying to do the absolute most to get ahead, when it’s all about divine timing. I told myself I just wanna live my life soft,gentle, and attract whatever is meant FOR ME! Knowing that God makes all the moves, I still wanna be Hard working but a soft hard worker! Love this Breeny always dropping gems🤍

I was deadass crying watching this….Indeed, Here Is Holy. It’s self development but God’s way and not ours

“Jesus is my perfection.”

You're going to be okay. God has got you.. He has a plan🙏🏽❤️

It's nice to see this more relatable part of u. Seeing you walk your dog, seeing u doing ur hair. And no advice but just be you

Breeny i totally feel you. Me in particular, i travel to some of the most exotic travel destinations and review them, post and promote the place for my group trips but its just work for me. Its not until i get home and just crash then wake up and look at my pics just to say wow Tyra you really did that destination (s) ect. I totally relate to you. I dont go to these exotic places and relax, i mean i try to relax but i cant bc i need to get the content, its work for me. I take travel and my business so serious so YOU ARE NOT ALONE

Wowwww literally was just crying over feeing like I'm not being productive enough... comparing my life to the ones I see on Instagram and feeling like I'm not doing enough! This is a reminder and sign that it's okay to be exactly where I am and I'm not "running out of time" I am exactly where I'm supposed to be.

Breeny is the big sister we all need 🥰 our internet big sis

The journey to working on yourself isn't linear. It took me 2 almost 3 years to fully discover my identity and recognize the true meaning of loving myself. I knew I healed when life circumstances arrived and I had to make tough decisions. I cried , celebrated, felt helpless, cried again, smiled, and cried again. I'm at peace and I am learning more about myself each day.

You look amazing Breeny! This hairstyle is just wow 😍😍

I’m 17 & a perfectionist I realized I was an overachiever and a perfectionist when I was crying on the phone to a friend about feeling so behind in life and like I’m not doing enough at 16 (even though I’ve definitely achieved so much ) It made me realize that sometimes that we get so caught up on the end goal that we forget to live in the moment I was putting so much pressure on myself to constantly do more As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned to appreciate the small things in life and to just enjoy life overall 🥰

Breeny! This is right on time. As someone pursuing content creation as the foundation of my career, I think I needed to hear this. Especially because I am just starting out, I think it’s important to start establishing boundaries and balancing priorities while I’m still a small creator. Thank you so much from bringing light to the mental health aspect of content creation. You are truly inspirational! Thank you for doing what you do.

DND! Literally the answer when u need time to yourself and worship music sis❤️ Not just cuz u an influencer sis, you are a human first! If you’re not right mentally, you can’t perform. Always put yourself first. God got you, you just need a breather.

I had to take a break for the first time not posting on my story in 9 months, I'm an influencer, and I truly believe that taking a break is hard because of hustle mentality, and achieving success, I know I may have lost so many followers in the weekend I decided to take off but I really needed it, I feel so refreshed for this next week, and I feel like I can perform my best.

My dear, nothing is easy, no career is. everyone is going through something, happiness is an everyday pursuit. Take good care of yourself and breaks are necessary.❤️

oh I felt you hard on this one sis. I've come to realize that this thing about "self-developing for life" has an underlying message about "not-enoughness" and the issue of control is a huge one I'm overcoming this year. As much as I want (and I know I'm capable of achieving), the truth is that IT IS NOT up to me. It is to a degree, but like you said, God is the one to really provide everything. Very important for you to share this lesson cause there are many of us out here who got on that train and don't know how to let go of it. Cheers!

Great advice Breeny. I find myself in a constant state of anxiety because eventhough at times I'm supposed to be enjoying the moment I am constantly thinking about responsibilities and work. It's important to pause and cease the moment. I love your new hairdo you look beautiful 😍 ❤️ as always thank you for the kind words and great advice you too will get thru this!

Wow! This video was wow😍my mentor also said to me to slow down and enjoy each moment, but it's so hard. I love when you say "if your routine isn't good for you scrap it" and also how we have to learn to trust God. I keep saying to myself I trust God but I try to be in control. Thank you for this wonderful video

perfect timing , God has perfect timing really thank you sis 4 delivering👏🏽.

Girl I understand what you are talking about. And your hair is BEAUTIFUL.

You are literally the older sister we all need! This conversation was needed for sure and I appreciate your vulnerability so much

I’m about to turn 20 and I feel like I haven’t done anything, I keep pushing myself and I’m at the point where i just have random moments where my heart beats soo fast when I think about money , career , college , future. I never feel like I’m doing enough

The way I clicked this video!!! I missed you so muchhhhhhhh

Just sending you hugs. Try not to be so hard on yourself. You’re doing great. And you looked the best I’ve ever seen you looking in this video. 😘

Life is what you make it..create systems..success is subjective..you have to be disciplined enough to create systems that allow you to enjoy your life..if you are living to work that’s not living..if you are dependent on makeup and wigs to feel pretty then that’s an issue you need to tap into..if your job constantly requires you to compare yourself or to surround yourself with self absorbed people faking their life for social media that’s an issue..money is not really success..only people without money think it is..once you have money you realize peace and contentment is true success..If you wait to be happy until………………….you will never ever get there

It’s important to get a relationship with Jesus Christ, we are often so immersed in ourselves, that it makes us unhappy, anxious, depressed., etc. once we get saved and focus on the Lord we have a new purpose in him and a true peace takes over us. God bless you.

Always enjoying your content. You helped during a time of very bad news. Thank you

This video just came in time for me, recently got promoted and cannot even enjoy it because I am afraid of failure

I love this!!! Thank you for shedding light on such an important topic ❤️🙏🏽

Breeny this me. My mental state is a mess, I so unhappy and anxious. I blame myself for everything. I can relate so much to this vlog, I feel like crying 🥺. Thank you for sharing. I hope anyone feeling this way too gets better.

Real talk. As a content creator with a focus on hair and makeup I’ve had to consciously stop myself from filming the process and simply do it off camera ‘cause it was getting to the point where if I didn’t record I felt like I was missing an opportunity to get content. It’s been a journey but I’ve gotten better with balancing it out. I still feel guilty at times when I don’t record but I know it’s better for me not to. Keeping you in prayers Breeny. God gatchu. “And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper (Comforter, Advocate, Intercessor, Counselor, Strengthener, Standby), to be with you forever - the Spirit of Truth, whom the world cannot receive [and take to its heart] because it does not see Him or know Him, but you know Him because He (the Holy Spirit) remains with you continually and will be in you.” John 14:16-17 Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

That hair, serving powerful woman vibes. 😍

Time is an illusion Ms Lee take time to live your life you only have one fall in love with you be kind to yourself and life is going to flow and smile

Breeny (my RU-vid sister) thank you for making this video just on time. I recently been promoted to supervisor at work and have had to step back to priorities my mental health. Im tired of being the strong black woman and keeping it together. Truth is im not okay. I will be once I put myself FIRST 🙏🏾

I was talking about this exactly thing the other day! It’s scary what influencers go through and it’s dangerous to have your livelihood (income) so intertwined with your personal life. I am praying for you and everyone else who have platforms based on their lifestyle. Take time to rest and enjoy your privacy and solitude. Money will always come and go. ❤️

This is SO IMPORTANT sis! Especially for influencers - so many just show the "perfect" life without the struggles, but the struggles are what make us connect the most! We appreciate you ❤️❤️

You’re such an honest person, I really respect that.

I'm trying to pray more and worry less even though anxiety can become all consuming. You doing great Breeny, working on yourself ❤💕 God Bless! Happy Palm Sunday!^_^❤

Love your transparency! Thanks sis!

Thank you girl, this is seriously such timely content!!!! You have no idea how much this impacted me.

I enjoyed the transparency in this conversation. I’ve currently been trying actively to give myself more grace rather than just saying it. It’s comforting to know that we’re all just trying to be kinder and better to ourselves. Thanks for sharing 💛

Ummm... Breeny I need to ask you an important /personal question and I would appreciate if you answered honestly..... Girl, is there any hair style you cant slay like wtf 😀😭😭😂 U always look so good 😭😭

Your melanin is everything!!!

Breeny. U came right on time with yer again, PURE GOLD. Thank you thank you thank you! The hustling culture is real and too much of it will indeed, be toxic and unhealthy. Stay focused and love yourself ladies! We got this. 💛 Keep on sparkling queens. 👑✨

I truly believe your authenticity is the reason these videos seem to come at just the right time. I couldn’t have asked for a better reminder and I know God wanted me to hear these words. Thank you very much ❤️

It’s hard to break down when we try so hard to be great at everything… it’s hard. I am too understanding my boundaries and limits… journaling for me has helped bc my mind gets crowded. Appreciate you lost. From Texas ❤️

Breeny I want to Thank you for your Honesty! It’s 100% visible that you speak with your beautiful heart! Love you , please take care of yourself and be kind to yourself🥰

I’ve been watching your videos for a while now and I openly want to appreciate all the hard work you put in on our behalf & just what you’ve done for me personally. You are such an advocate for women’s mental health & that is so important. There isn’t enough like you. You are a blessing to all of us Breeny!

Nice! Thank You For Sharing and your vulnerable transparency

Thank you Breeny. Your message really blessed me. Loving how real you are on what really matters.

So happy to see a vid from you❤️💕btw love the hair!!

Omg right on time Breeny! I understand where you are coming from. I hope you find your love for the craft again. You are a beautiful soul and whether you come back or not, I love you for all you have given me and all of your followers ❤️.

Love the candid conversations

Aw I get you when you say it was one of the best days of your life. It’s like if I’m not present, not enjoying, then whatever I’m doing I feel detached. I really feel this vid. Thanks for being vulnerable x

Right on time…thank you so much for sharing this Sis. So relatable! Sending you love and prayers always xoxo

Your videos help me get through a toxic relationship in 2017. God, has given you such a beautiful gift, and don't you forget that. Rest, and understand your followers will continue to support you. 😇😇😇😇

I can relate. Love you, girl. Praying for you beautiful Breeny💞

you're the best! Your videos helped me so so much. I still rewatch your videos all the time when I feel down and doubt myself. You taught me how to love myself and be confident in myself, your videos are the best reminders. You are amazing and don't ever forget that!!

Truth is, most people are not destined for greatness.

These affirmations made me smile😩❤️🥺

Hi Breeny, I think besides the flawless make-up once again, the real talk and vulnerability is so real and in times like this so refreshing. I have a dog too and daily dog walks helped me so much to get through basically the whole world being shut down. Maybe you could get a pet for yourself, so you would have this emotional support that is always there plus something to take care of. I recommend. :)

Great message. Life is beautiful when you’re not so hard on yourself 🥲

I love this... you are real! I prefer this method of delivery!

Breeny ♥️♥️ I appreciate so much your radical honesty. And I resonate so badly with this thinking “ I got all figured out” but then lower moments come and then your love for youself is conditional. So yeah thank you so much for sharing. Hoping for everyone in the world to get to a place of acceptance even throughout the intensity of this crazy momentum of the world

so true breeny i am here right now. praying that you will be comforted

Yes I can relate I’m always overthinking and critiquing everything I do. I’m my own worst critic I feel as though if I’m not hard on myself nobody else will do it for me. Thanks for sharing taking breaks or just removing yourself from social media all together is the right thing to do. Your Mental health is everything & if and when that starts going left , changes need to be made to have a better you

Literally me TODAY feeling overwhelmed with ideas, lack of funds, impatient! Ready for the next step...more faith less doubt! thank you for your message blessings Goddess 💫

Really appreciate how real you are Breeny ❤️ thank you for being vulnerable with us 🥺❤️

I completely resonated with every single word, thank you sister. I wish I had more people in my life like you.

Crying with how vulnerable you are with your affirmations and sharing them with us. 🥺🥺♥️

I absolutely love your transparency and honesty. You are fab! Keep doing what you are doing hunny xx

You owning that hairstyle ❤️