Iyanla Fix My Life | Season 5 Ep. 1 | Kidnapped At Birth (Kamiyah Mobley) 

Shae Middleton , to funny.

I agree with you

LOL!!!

Hahahha

hol'lin😭😬

racheal gulston i was like omg she looks soulless 😓

Latoya Atkins - yes, she's gone, so much pain in her heart...

I felt like she was triggered at the 1st hug. Something made me feel like the confusion of her life is so deep, that everybody is on eggshells with her. Like if she had never known about her abduction, who we saw at the very beginning is who she would have been her whole life. But that girl's impression of life is completely fractured. Everything is rooted in a lie...

racheal gulston Mine too. She was so emotionless the entire time, until that blowup.

that lil bitch is a lost cause! and if i was her bio father i would walk away. I would not suffer that kind of abuse from NO ONE ,Why?

Lauren Finesse thank you I hate it when uneducated misinformed people blame iyanla ... she's really good at ehat she does however ist up to that person to want to change

Agreed

Exactly!

right

I agree. I also feel like this one was not made for tv. Too much trauma for a few episodes. Sometimes Iyanla has to know when to back off.

julie jules I think she did. From what little was shown of her life she upgraded from a teen mom to a middle class only child. But then by it got here the whole situation had already imploded and the kidnapper was in jail. So there is all that guilt of having caused her 'mother' to be in prison when she never really hurt her beyond taking her. And possibly the realisation that she probably was saved when really saw her original family. Whatever she was trying to do, register in college or whatever, didn't happen and all this is going on and the person who would normally rescue her is in jail and its her fault and what next. She is likely to be the one that set po-po on her kidnapper wanting to meet her real mom. And then realise after what she was giving up and what she was getting. The woman didn't even show up. Its a lot. I might have blown sooner.

PJ Samuels true

julie jules probably but we’ll never know that

This girl is attached to this woman like a child gets attached to the father that has been raping her all her life. Her real mother did the right thing not showing up. She'll never except the real mother. The father is taking the ride for the fame and money. LET HER GO!!!! Don't let this child take your happy. She's very disrespectful

@@pjsaythis Right. I think shes hurt and confused about her feelings. She needs baby step therapy. Work through one issue at a time. No matter how long it takes.

eric brunson I’m with you on this!!!

eric brunson I second, third, and fourth that.

POV is dynamic and definitely something that is missing in the black vlogosphere. That degree in Economics and that MBA are definitely showing in his ability to articulate and craft thoughts are impeccable. LOve the conversations. I literally go to bed listening to Q's breakdown of Monique every night! Deadass. lol

Agree 100%

Agreed.... he’s made me unfollow so many pop culture vloggers, because they just don’t give me what I need. lol

Dasani605 right

Facts

We haven't experienced that level of disrespect from people but we've also never crossed the boundary of continually disrespecting someone's mother even though they correct us each time.

Yes she is very disrespectfull

Maybe not that this child didn't want help. Maybe she needed "Baby Steps" or extensive clinical therapy. I think this case was way too much to wrap up in a reality show of 1 to even 4 parts. That was a MESS!!!!

HTownChopNTrue Right on the nose 🙌

Yes

Peach Cobbler right

Peach Cobbler Exactly...I believe that anger was already there and finding out the truth just made it worst. Her attitude did not develop over night nor did the physically and verbally abusive behavior. Yo could tell by everyone's reaction that her behavior was not new to them. I hope this young lady get the help she needs

Peach Cobbler THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!! I tell people that she is there to get you to look at yourself and start on a path of healing.Shes not GOD! And he doesn’t completely step into your life unless you ask him and even then he can only do as much for you if you are willing to put in the work.The truth is that many people can’t even get into where Iyanla is coming from because they lack understanding themselves anyway on a deeper level.So you know they misunderstand what she’s trying to do anyway.

I agree, they called Iyanla! So Iyanla did her research, she even had Carlina White on the show to provide some insight.

Tecora Washington I agree!

Tecora Washington when Iyanla said that if the girl calls the father and boyfriend and they’re not gonna answer she went completely irate and very disrespectful which was totally uncalled for,she wasn’t in the right mindset to receive the help this girl’s world was turned upside down

Latoya Johnson Kimaya 'bout that life.

I agree with you as far as how the young lady spoke to Iyanla. However, Iyanla did say that she was going to make her mad so that she could express what she is experiencing internally. I think The episode should have aired because like you said, Iyanla cannot “fix” everyone. Also, when you go into a therapeutic situation, you have to be willing to do the work! Good bad or indifferent. I don’t think the family was emotionally ready to do that.

Agreed. My sentiments exactly.

China Gyal that behavior came from a “well” deep deep within

China Gyal I agree

I thought the same thing.. people never act out of character and that is her character through and through! She was raised by a woman who would dress up as a nurse and kidnap someone else's baby! No surprise here.. But I actually feel for her she is so oppressed!

China Gyal. I totally agree because if the woman that raised her was decent, she would be remorseful and admit she did something very wrong. The mother probably raised her to be defensive because she had to protect and hide the life (or lie) she was living!!

Definitely agree with u there boo

Exactly.

Niyah , For what? Wrong!

Jackielajohn Dejavu I Agree with you, Funky Dineva 2018 is gonna be your year boo, yes Nessa girl Yessss

This is my first time commenting on this page. I can relate to everything said. Iylvanta did the best she could. The show needed to air to help other families.

Jackielajohn Dejavu yes! These videos just make my day!

Jackielajohn Dejavu Same here 👏👏👏👏

Shawty Dangerous - I agree with you Shawty. It's called a "choice", and they know how this works so, there's that...

Shawty Dangerous Right! They was the ones who reached out to Iyanla. How was Iyanla suppose to know she wasn't ready?

Shawty Dangerous I have said that time and time again,they seen the show,they know how Iyanla gets down they know how she works so it wasn’t like they went into this blindly but definitely think that the entire family needs serious help without the cameras

Thank you

I'm so tired of how our ppl cannot use common sense and blame everyone else for our actions except ourselves. She agreed to do the show and that meant being willing to do the exercises given(ON NATIONAL TELEVISION). No one said they would be easy. But the amount of us I see blaming iyanla and not Kamiyah shows why we have so much dysfunction in our community. We must take accountability for our ACTIONS!

Exactly what I said!!

Travis Midgette 😂😂😂😂

Travis Midgette not a single treasury committee member counted those funds 😂😂😂

Darryl Henry...Shol wasn’t. Lol

Lol. 😂😂😂 you couldn't hv said it betta....

🤣🤣🤣

xblatino328 me too

I think the mama got a little attitude in her too... remember when they were in the white room (with that big ass triggering ASS painting I was like wtf?) Iyanla asked her to call her mom. She was like, you call her and get cussed out smh! She is the one Who set this into motion then pulled out, which I think was the source of kamiyah distrust of the process. The dad said she will get mad and block the girl, she told iyanla the mom is cool One week then tripping the next. They're both so hurt, devastated, distraught, angry, helpless... it's a situation I couldn't fathom I don't judge either just wish them better

xblatino328 HELLO!! I just told somebody that. He might of not never seen act like that, but he knows something.

But if she don't like that attitude..why even call iyanla ?

I totally agree !!

wow

Jaxx Thefitmom it will get better I pray !

Jaxx Thefitmom I can relate. I was a young stay at home wife & mom so I inherited my younger siblings and I’m a mom type to them. All I want to be is their big sister but they can’t separate what they grew up in and what’s the truth.

Jaxx Thefitmom your story really touched me you are a strong black woman and you just keep strong because they need that firmness in there life

You described my EXACT current situation and sentiment. Wow. Thank you.....

Diary of A Mad Black Teacher YAY another teacher

1netta41 exactly ! She knew and she and her kidnapper had already coped and made a pact about the situation. Remember, Kamiyah had a lot to do with her case being solved. That lady was tired of running. They had relocated so much and she had to keep lying. When you tell 1 lie you have to keep lying to keep the first lie up. They are not telling the whole truth about this story.

1netta41 exactly, she didnt care about her biological mothers feelings then and she doesnt care now!

JaNeal Thomas yes, I just know finding out the whole truth of this situation. I didn’t know this girl knew a whole year and some about what happened to her.

Deep

Coy Gary you hit the nail on the head

Simple and to the point. Agreed

Wanda Vaughn Amen. Il

I wouldn’t even talk to my peers the way that girl did iyanla.

natasha brown AGREED TO THE 1000%

100%%% Agreed

Nic Nic well said!

Carissa Owens thank you! You have a beautiful name by the way. Carissa, Clarissa, & Claire sound so sweet to me.

1K

Nic Nic yesssss you better say that!!!

Nic Nic good point!!

devinngeorge Agreed! 👏👏

Yes please

Danielle Epson he seemed somewhat afraid of her. Or either afraid to lose her by going against the grain..IDK....Something said "fear" to me.

I got that too.. . Like she had them all shook, and she can manipulate them because she is a victim.

Daddy definitely enabled her

Danielle Epson exactly!!!!!

yeah and she definitely said something along the lines of "when i call they need to answer" and "thats my ride". Sounds like she feels like she can leverage her relationship to get them to do what she wants them to do.

Putty Kat they all do especially the father because he’s at such a loss homeboy couldn’t even think straight

Latoya Johnson I could bet that the birth mother experience that venom. That’s why she didn’t come. She is not a baby she is a confused, hurt young lady.

Putty Kat They all need deep therapy. I hope she gets healed instead of making shipwreck. The dad love ❤️ her so much that the little girl know she can tell him to do anything she wants. I understand he feels guilty, but he is not helping with this approach. Sad story. I pray God intervene.

Putty Kat Yes ,mama , THANK UUUUU!

Tanya Dove he doing what he think is right. He don’t know her. He loves a missing baby. All that anger she has would have scared me. If I love her I can’t see her go around carrying that anger.

iDreamOfCece88 All of this!!

Yes, not sure how loving the home was-my children can't go off like that if they tried. She then yelled out it wouldn't be the first time she slap someone and she's slapped bigger b's

iDreamOfCece88 I agree with you

Exactly Spot on!

Sadly, that’s how I feel about the situation.

It was about the bf&not the father

Jennifer Halliwell I️ totally agree with you. I read an article that her dad picks her up and takes her to Jacksonville for weeks a time. I think she uses him as ride to visit the mom in jail. She has no interest in getting to know her family. She knew who she was at 16 and didn’t want to be found

Wow, I completely agree with you👏🏾 I know the bio mom may be hurt because she probably thought she would gain a healthy relationship with her daughter but sometimes you have to let people go even if it’s family. I’m sure Kamiyah would make their lives a living hell anyway cause you can tell she’s very manipulative and that mouth is vicious 😔

I agree with you and don't give af who thinks it's immature. I would've never had a relationship with her because she would've been mad when I beat if not killed her kidnappermom. Kamiya seems heartless. She wants to flaunt her relationship with her kidnapper in her bio family's faces, but get mad if they speak ill of the woman. What she wants is damn near impossible.

Chezza Outta Nowhere You are loved. Accept the full circle of it all.....Focus on the Newness. Keep your head up Sis...and don't carry it all on your shoulders.

RayneyKayLa Thank you for your kind words. Trust me, I do my healing immediately and am fairly equipped myself to deal with the depths of darkness and the brightest of light. I dedicate my life to examining the psyche and observing. I love my pain as much as I love the highlights of my life. My dad and I are fine, he suffers greatly though, and that sometimes makes me sad, but I have life to focus on, and he has his journey to end when he chooses to be done. I've expressed great love and gratitude for him and his redemption story and he has done to same, he's always proud. We cannot get any of that time back, but I also never feel entitled to life of joy without trauma and heartache, it is as much the human experience as anything else. So, believe me when I say, I carry only that which I need, sis. You are loved and I wish you joy and light and understanding through your dark times :)

Chezza Outta Nowhere wow Chezza thanks for sharing that... you really told him straight from your heart after your dad yelled at you. Sorry to hear about your dad in Hospice

Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe your disclosure can help me reconcile my relationship with my father.

Tamarra That's what I said. I need Dinerva as a friend.

Tamarra sadly, it seems rare that independent thought escapes common folk so much, that the very display of, “I have a brain” is nothing short of amazing!!

Tamarra giiiiiiirl go on ahead and ask for 3! Won't he do it!!

Tamarra RIGHT!!!

Once you get past the joke Dineva gives great advice

She's admitted it multiple times😐

Michelle Carter baby girl needed more than one session. She needs therapy from a licensed professional

Michelle Carter - First step to healing is acceptance and admitting what's REALLY going on! Facts! Love your comment!👍

She was enraged. She cowed her dad and boy friend. i heard a recording where the Iyanla told him "to leave with his pacifying ass"

She cursed her mama out for talking about the kidnapper I'm willing to bet and daddy is on drugs or something and the child is running them

What she write on Facebook?....

Mary Williams I totally agree with you!

Sad

Misha Bell very true

Rodnye Theoc right

Exactly.

Jessica Amos this!! That’s what I was saying: at the end of the day that’s her mom and nothing will change that. I had to do some background after watching the iyanla episode . Seeing the dateline episode the girl still talks to the woman everyday and cries that she’s not with her and wants to come home.. this is really deep.

Her father wanted her to end the relationship with the adductor. Inyanla was trying to get the father to see that, that’ll never happen.

Jessica Amos right

I think Iyanla pushed too hard honestly

Jessica Amos Like Dinerva says, NAAAAASTY.

Crystal Edwards he was on his live calling Iyanla a bitch himself 🤦🏾‍♀️

Crystal Edwards Yes I was upset too, to see her watch and let her disrespect her. You can tell he's so scared to loose her again so he's just letting her get away with everything. If I'm not mistaken he stated something to the effect that he doesn't want to disappoint her by not picking up his phone if she called.

Porshis Brooks Girl What?! Why he sitting up there talking about he ain't never see her act like that, but his ass know something because why her birth mama ain't fucking with her??? That's the real tea.

J Thompson Girl smh. But did you peep on the show when she was hollering she go say "When I call, he pick up"! Like she run shit. If anything the dad is hurting her not helping.

Porshis Brooks wow so the bio dad and the fake mom are mess. She’s doomed. 🤦🏾‍♀️

Todd Tucker and TV One are probably preparing one as we speak

She gave her power when she told her she could choose to stay or not. Iyanla told her make a choice for her highest good and left her alone but before leaving her alone too long, she popped back in and let her know [that if she stays and] if she tries to call bf and dad, Iyanla already told them not to answer.

tastePINK #salute 🥂

You're so smart. Unlike some who are just looking at Kamiya as just being disrespectful rather than looking at the underlying reasons for her behavior.

When the episode started from the very beginning, I told my husband I'm so scared. I couldn't explain my feelings I was just terrified because of the depth of the issue. I was scared for the young lady because she hasn't really faced her feelings. It's a tough situation and I believed from the very start that if the young lady really allows herself to go to the tough and deep places within her self, she would experience unbearable pain and not be able to recover from it. She needs psychotherapy. A one hour show was not suitable for this subject matter because it has too too many layers. Iyanla is well capable... The anointing on her life is apparent, but each member of that family would have needed a separate week each to really deal with this and then maybe another month as a collective to try to get to some resolution. I'm still really scared for that poor child's sanity. I think to myself, that were I in this predicament, i would think "what kind of person have I been dealing with all my life that could do something so heinous and live with themselves for that many years. I have been I the hands of the same kind of monster who take little children and do horrible things to them you didn't do horrible things to me but what separates you from them." I'm so sure she is suppressing those very thoughts. She didn't even want Iyanla to call her mom (abductor) a liar or refer to the situation as a lie, when that's what you have lived for 17+ years. The poor baby shut down and when she does open up it's all rage and anger. I hope she doesn't turn that on herself.

tastePINK she was waiting for the moment she sat on the sofa watch it again.. it wasnt nothing Iyanla said or done

Latise Wilson right

Latise Wilson That is true, that child is a mess waiting to happen. I do have a degree in psych and this child learn this the lady that raised her RAISED HER SO WRONG IN SO MANY WAYS , I THINK IT IS BECAUSE she was so scared about her finding out about what she did that she let this Child have her way

This family issue needed to broken down into many more segments/ episodes or left alone. It was a major family/life dynamic on too many levels for a one hour episode and to just move on to the next. This was very heavy. Hey---Silver Lining--We were all able to express/discuss

JL I thought he WAS DMX 😏

Jacqui Nesbitt - 👍👏😉💯

my sentiments exactly.. people react differently Kamiyah is definitely oppressed!

Jacqui Nesbitt I totally agree!

Dont get mad at Iyanla either! They reached out to Iyanla seeking help and when it didnt go their way Iyanla gets put on blast. Not right at all.

I agree with you. At this point I don't think she open for therapy. The behavior she displayed did not happen over night.

DeLisha Robinson cuz she yell all the time. You can tell she goes from 0-100 in 2.2 seconds

Tironda Demanya facts! Girl voice sounds strained and demonic

DeLisha Robinson 😂😂😂🙉

Po baby needed a throat lozenge😄

It bothered me too. She sounded like DMX.

Jewels Jewels Well said Queen. A Broken heart is also a broken mind!

My same thoughts the wounds are too fresh it’s only been a year then on top of that she is 19 and doesn’t have the capacity to deal with this. I’m a social worker that works in child welfare and see the same thing with children in foster care, no matter what their parents have done to them or how bad the abuse is at the end of day they still want mama. Q, was absolutely right Gloria is her mom and at the end of the day that’s who she wants. The dad in this situation will only make things worst for her in the future and eventually when he stops giving into her she will become violent and aggressive towards him as well. Bio mom is still that 16 year old girl longing for that infant.

Chequetta Deadmon this is true and so sad for everyone involved, I couldn’t even imagine going thru this, I think it would have driven me off the edge. And that poor biological mom, she now has to process this current place not matching her fantasies And her daughters love for that wicked woman who wrecked her life. It is not right but She will have to find a way to reconcile it in her mind for her peace and sanity.

I think it was the right thing to air it because kidnapped children are apparently more often than not.....now people can see who are also in this situation 1) they aren’t alone 2) these feelings are normal

Jewels Jewels I understand and I can see what you’re saying

Ouroboros right

Great observation!

That young lady has a lot of pent up anger that needs to be addressed and released. Everyone else has been walking on eggshells with her because of fear. This angry outburst was long overdue. It was bound to happen sooner or later. She’s a ticking time bomb and needs help stat! She can very well take someone’s life or lose her own because she’s ill equipped to deal with the magnitude of her situation and will snap again at the slightest provocation. I would agree that this shouldn’t have happened in this venue, but hopefully it will become the impetus for a change in mindset for all concerned. This family is on life support. Ivanla was correct when she said Kamiyah’s anger was really with her situation and not with Iyanla. Iyanla was the safe and easy target. The next one may not be so safe and easy. Even as she was cussing Iyanla out, I never once said that her little ass deserves a classic beat down. She needs help and it was painfully and sorrowfully displayed. To say Kamiyah has “misplaced anger” is an understatement. Her anger shouldn’t be classified as an angry Black woman (I hate that goddam term). That’s minimizing and trivializing her situation. This child was kidnapped and has classic Stockholm Syndrome. Be it right or wrong, at least Iyanla has exposed the depth of the anger, hurt and pain this young woman is experiencing.

EXACTLY! I understand that that girl was in pain, but her behavior was disgusting. We all have stories. We all have tragedies. That girl has to do better. Let's all pray she doesn't have children until she fixes herself.

Ebony Crowell girl thank u for clearing that up. I was getting them mixed up.

Ebony Crowell ...❤ *Ikr! Both of their stories are pretty similar and it's so heart breaking on ALL sides* 😔😢💔

Ebony Crowell me too

Ebony Crowell same here I was like this sounds like that Keke Palmer movie lol

Right I thought she was the girl TV One made a movie about. I’m confused this not the same story

Mesi Blanks right

moosha2122 i mean what did they expect tgey didn't fulfil their obligations... people are a trip

Kenyata Golden that’s the same thing i was saying that whole family is ratchet but i wanna know the real reason the birth mother won’t talk to her

What’s his fb name?

they said because Kamiyah wrote something on FB about her "mother" the lady who raised her and the birth mother felt some type of way but Iyanla said that her mother is still stuck at 17/18 years old when she had her ... thats why she has the immature response

What? This is a mess! I knew it had to be about the money for them. If you are there for real help no money is necessary. I'm glad they didn't give them all of the money they were expecting.