@@andrewmitchell7850 no one wants a difficult life. life just happens and may turns difficult due to circumstances beyond our control. you cant control life but you can control you.
When I was depressed I realized this: First, happiness is a tool, not a constant state. It's nature's way of telling you: "good, you like this, more of this, please." Same goes for sadness, it tells you what you don't want in life. Second, we usually fantasize about happiness, we dream of things that we believe would make us happy and we chase them, despite not really knowing wether they'll makes us happy or not. However, we never fantasize about things that would make us sad, it would be a waste of time, because we're not rooting for those things to happen... So, in conclusion, instead of trying to figure out what would make you happy, figure out what makes you sad. It's way easier to spot, it will be based on facts, not fantasies. Then stay away from those things that sadden you, till you can be calm and peaceful. That state of mind is open to happy moments, which will happen every now and then while you stay away from things that undermine you. And this is way better than forever chasing the never ending shadow of an ever expected happiness.
As someone who endures depressive episodes often, I agree with the logic however I have also found that this mechanism can induce social withdrawal if the circumstances which are being removed is in fact a social circle
@@emailaccount4483 Yeah, what I said should be taken with a pinch of salt. Everyone has to walk their own path and they and only they are to say what works and what doesn't for them.
@@TheCrazycrab2 Not worth it. I would set a deadline, I would save as much as possible and do some introspection and research, trying new things to find some other job I might like, and then on the deadline I'd quit and start a new life.
He's talking about happiness vs fulfillment. Happiness is easy but fleeting. Happiness is a bottle of whiskey or a perfect cheeseburger. Fulfillment is the feeling of completing something you've spent a year of blood, sweat and tears building and then understanding what you learned in the process and how to do it better next time. fulfillment > happiness
Zack Matson I agree. I knew when I wrote it that I should've put 'happiness' in semis but I was thinking of the unhappiness caused in a lot of people who get sold happiness and how they think of it culturally.
Swap the word happiness with the word pleasure, and the word fulfillment with the word happiness, and I think you're onto something. Pleasure is that fleeting "I feel good." Happiness is the product of treating yourself and the world around you properly.
Seriously just listen to the way Joe speaks at the end, the one thing I love about his podcast is that he comes off as this cool fun to be around guy but when he gets deep into a topic, he speaks with a very powerful conviction that very few are able to convey or even interpret.
@@shadowbannedmgtowman9045 true, nowadays it's hard to find a loyal wife and raise a family. But if you're looking for happiness outside, in other people, even if those are a wife and children, you're doing it wrong. Plenty of miserable family men out there, plenty of happy lonely dudes. It's an important part of life for sure, connections, but not everything there is.
Rogan is correct; for most people, not all, happiness is something to be cultivated. It’s a state of mind, of attitude. It’s not easy but over time it can be developed or “cultivated”. It’s achieved by having a purpose, having goals, small and large, meeting and overcoming challenges. All these things bring meaning to life and without them we condemn ourselves to a life of unhappiness and misery. It’s difficult, at first, but it becomes easier over time and then it becomes second-nature.
@@nab345t I read David Goggins book and that set me on a path towards it. I’m still cultivating it right now but I found I feel so good after pushing myself, exercising, going further than what my mind thinks it can do. I was in a chronic depression for years until now. I feel like I’ve gotten my second wind. The only thing to do now is keep the momentum going, pushing my limits. No matter how hard life gets in other aspects if you’re physically healthy you can always achieve this
Mystic King being able to buy a lambo isnt the goal but being able to put yourself in a position where youre financially stable and able to help the ones around you is the goal, which just requires building wealth to do so. It’s more materialism vs financial stability as the motivation for building wealth
Eliminating interactions with negative people is a huge key to happiness and living a positive life , it’s about positive energy you receive from inspirational people. joe nailed it very clever man !
@@r5gtturbo197 but I'm not a dick, I think if you really love someone you should put time and energy into helping them get better. Especially If you are positive and happy, why would you only want that for yourself. Just make unhappy people unhappier when you leave them because you think they are a dick when really they just really need your help.
The point i think joe was making is that those people act like they don’t want your help, and you can’t help someone that doesn’t want to help themselves
I agree with Joe on this one. It's never constant. We do however, improve in the way we view things and our attitude towards life, and that can bring us contentment and peace. One of the things that I find make me unhappy is uncertain, uncertainty worries me and prolonged worry sends me into a depressive state. But I become aware and start doing things that I have done to help myself or get help for myself before.
I hope young adults (18-mid 20's) relax a little in the obsession to be perfectly happy or expect to just get it over night. You start to really understand the world a little more as you age. My skin is more loose but I'm waaaaaay happier in day to day life.
“Lessons are learned through struggle” 👌🏼 “People are fuel” 👌🏼 “Human reward systems are carved deeply into your DNA” 👌🏼 “Comradery, love, family, friendship, Struggle, testing yourself, learning... they’re all giant parts of being a person” 👌🏼
- eliminate interactions with negative people - you can get energy from motivational videos, and from being around happy inpirational people who do difficult things - fulfillment comes from overcoming struggle - seek lessons, difficult tasks, accomplishments over comfort - seeking comfort brings sadness/depression
Who decides what negative means? Should we cast aside anyone depressive and leave them with no aid at all? This suggestion sounds pretty narcissistic to me tbh.
Productivity never comes by accident, It is always a result of planning, commitment and consistency. I'm grateful to God for my advisor Mr Zachery Micah Demers, with his help I am now financially stable- I make returns weekly
Your approach is correct and shows you have lots of experience, it is very important to work with a professional especially as a newcomer when investing< this why I also work with Mr Zachery Micah Demers
9:45 another gem, setting your own healthy personal goals and working to achieve them is a fantastic motivation. I was a non-runner start of 2019, set a goal to run 3 miles under 30 minutes by end of the year and accomplished it just before Thanksgiving 2019. Really boosted my confidence because that was MY achievement, no one else could take credit for it
Joe I don't know if you read RU-vid comments man but let me tell you this. Your podcasts saves lives dude and hell yeah it saved mine too. Keep em coming!
Wow....wtf? This dude better stay true to himself and not blow up and forget that his words are needed and healing and helpful. This was profound. Love it
Happiness is not a concept. It is a reality. High serotonin=happy. It is an action. There are actions that increase serotonin and other “happy hormones”. Eat clean, sleep well, exercise well, personal growth and healthy relationships. That’s it. No overthinking... just do it.
The happiest man I know doesn't give a damn about ppl. Your like hey I wanna talk to u. Hey I need some help. Hey I wanna make u feel bad. He's like I don't give a damn.
This comment was forever ago so you probably won't see this. But serotonin would actually be more accurately described as a measure of confidence. And the things you listed back that up. Now self-confidence and happiness go hand in hand. But too much serotonin leads to arrogance. Too little leads to being overly self-dismissive.
Joe's spot on about having negative people around you. While watching these video, I always get inspired, set up workout routines, diet plans, the whole nine yards and it sticks with me until I go to work or the rest of my house gets up and see everyone lying around, eating crap, smoking and complaining how shitty they feel. When I'm around that you feel like an outsider for wanted to not eat something or go out for a run, they look at you like somethings wrong with you or your apart of some health fad. It's really oppressive and I don't think most of us can combat it without a lot of personal stress. You have to stop being a regular human to become a better human it feels, because what passes as regular nowadays isn't anywhere near what a regular human should be.
I'm experiencing very similar things. Every time I go for work, my colleagues are bitching and complaining about their jobs and coworkers. Even during lunch! Its taken a big toll on my mental health, working with people like that.
Thanks joe ! Your podcast make me happy, I realized how much I changed my mentality, when I started to watch your podcast a year ago. Happiness most important in life, and I try to fight for it, and look after for happiness, doing things which makes me happy etc... you helped me a lot through difficult times
Joe rogan is like a father to me. I mean my parents meant no harm, and always wanted the best but never lost a minute giving this kind of conversations and advices to me.
Joe Rogans the closest thing I’ve got to a father as my own walked out on my sisters & I a week after my moms passing at 11, like bro said they most likely weren’t & won’t ever read deeply into life in such a way & should they, I strongly doubt they would keep this wisdom to themselves : )
Joe never started off as rich. He has constantly said he worked hard to get where he is now. AND HE DID. Watch his 2006 comedy special. This is a 50 year old ass man. Once upon a time, he was just like you, struggling.
That is true. What I have observed in rich people, however, is that it doesn't take long for most of them to basically forget what it was like before - even if they worked their asses off for it, like Joe. Joe has been loaded for about 20 years now. Then their judgments about work and meaning can get really strange because they just forget that most people don't have loads of time and money lying around. Maybe your experience has been different. I just know a bunch of people who got wealthy in tech when I worked at Blackberry before the crash and I saw the same thing happen in most of them. Not all of them. It was pretty bizarre.
13:07 - I whole heartedly agree! You've gotta get up off your ass, move your body and entice your mind. Rest is good to a point but we must strive and be constructive. People lounge around waaaaay too much and wonder why they're depressed and not happy. Joe nailed it!
Sounds like your mother has had a very difficult life indeed. I applaud you for speaking on her behalf and for standing by her. In spite of all that it sounds like she has still strived and done what she can with in her ability to be positive and happy. Your mother's circumstance is exceptionally challenging, so obviously she will have limitations in many regards. That does not, however, mean that she doesn't possess the tenacity to flourish in other areas, where she can. God bless you for encouraging and helping her as you do. Often when one becomes disabled physically they become stronger mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Not an easy task, and I will not make light of your mother's situation but we all have the ability to strive, even though it may not be in the physical sense. My heart goes out to you and your mother. Best wishes!
I absolutely agree with Joe's stance on hapiness and I recognize myself and that part within me, which is lazy and whining (sometimes I am like that)...I needed that tonight. Every single day is a struggle,but if I choose to do things that suck on purpose then I can handle anything and withstand the tough things that I do not choose to experience in my life. Thanks, Joe, for reminding me who we all should strive to be.
I had this realization last Monday and spent a day fulfilling myself and I experienced sober euphoria it is insane how learning and getting outside for a purpose changes your mental health.
I usually find looking forward to something increases my happiness, wheather it's excited about holidays, seeing friends or buying something you've always wanted
My aunt runs an inspirational quote page. She’s in her 60’s and it connects her to a lot of other people. It’s a pretty popular page and running it makes her really happy.
I like hearing people talk about their philosophy of happiness. Really happiness isn't the problem for me, the problem for me is keeping a good attitude when life is difficult
You need to master the control of your emotions and your mind. Once you’ve done that nothing can get to you. Your invincible because your mind and emotions are the most powerful things. I have mastered it and nothing effects me negatively you have to look for a positive out of everything while also acknowledging the mistakes you made but just overcome them
@@bigscapone1261 🧢 I honestly don’t think someone with a girl pick up playlist can talk about emotion and mind control how about ya control ya dick first godamn.
Hey JRE Clips, you guys should really start including the name of the guest and the episode number in the video description. That would be really helpful Edit: for anybody wondering, this is from JRE #1127 - Jesse Itzler. The exact clip is about 1hr 10mins in.
It's the episode with Jesse Itzler. That man's genius. You should also check out his interview on interrupted w/ garyvee. Will teach so much you won't believe it
this line of thinking is what i have learned actually works for me. the more uncomfortable positions i put myself in, the more well rounded of a person i become. at first, its hard to convince yourself to do them but once you get started, eventually you grow to LIKE things that you would have strayed from.
This episode was something else, Joe literally spat straight facts and lessons for a good 10 minutes, it's so fulfilling to think about "what is good for ME?" and then hearing someone else state the same conclusions and you suddenly realise that these rules count for anyone and everybody, not only me
Happiness isn't complicated. It's actually fairly simple. The problem is that people chase happiness as outcomes. When we don't get what we want, we feel unhappy. But you can be happy without those kind of conditions.There's the happiness that comes from getting what you want, but there's also the happiness in being content with who you are and what you have. Meaning is what we gain by the way we choose to engage with the world (goals, projects, relationships), and happiness comes from the contentment we feel for who we are and what we have have in the moment.
As an 18 year old in college I must say finding positive people my age is hard. We all got the big sad and we all want to die. If I were to cut out all negative people in my life I'd be cutting out almost every friend I have
I guess you gotta do what you gotta do man- I'm 21 and would rather be alone than surrounded by negative people. That being said though, sadness is normal but totally different to negativity- you can be sad even as an otherwise positive person, but if your friends are constantly negative and its affecting your own perspective, have a think about whether they're worth having around! best of luck man
@@viktorzivcec2212 What if I like the negative ones more than the positive ones? I also find them more honest, while the positive people I've met kinda try to see the good in everything and don't question stuff, they just 'do it' and go on with life. At the end of the day, they are more happy than the other guys, but I connect more with the thoughts and ideas of my negative friends, not because of the negativity, but because they allow their minds to go deep and dark/scary places the other guys don't. And while that can be damaging, it's interesting nonetheless, at least some parts of it. The positive people just play the game no questions asked, the negative people take a few steps back and look at everything saying, where the fuck am I and why do I have to do this shit? Well, not everyone is like that but some of the people I've met definitely are. I find myself in the middle.
;O :P well you can definitely be a positive person and still think those things. I know people, including myself, who do those things, that question the reasoning behind certain things, and make sure I actually understand situations and life. But I’d still say I’m a positive person. And I think the reason behind that is because after I ask myself those questions, I find the positive answer to them. Sure you can just ask yourself that and then find no answer or just say there is no answer. But I disagree. There has to be an answer. And when you find that, you can be positive, happy, and still questioning
;O :P I get what you’re saying and it makes sense, but you definitely will get further in life spending more time with the positive than the negative ones. It’s healthy to question things but if you get stuck in that mindset or even find comfort in it, it’ll lead you down a bad road
Damn older comment but so true I found myself being depressed around peers even though I really wasn't everyone are bummers and they have little to no reason to be
love you Joe. very inspirational and insightful in alot of your videos. I'm 34 and my life took a 180 and is shit at the moment. you give me hope that my life can turn around. some days I want to die but I know everything isn't permanent. with hope and determination a happy life is around the corner. thank you for what you do. it helps me and other people in my situation.
Congrats Joe you made it . You find your way , you fought and still certainly fighting and in many ways you win . This is an Amazing speech but don't forget that there are a lot of us that fought and still fighting hard but don't get the recognition or even the respect they diserve ! Still i love you work , your dedication. And most important i will fight till the end ✌
True happiness is taking the talents and gifts you have inside and expressing them outwardly. Fleeting happiness is taking pleasure from the outside and taking them in.
Everything Joe is saying is what I see everyday in the Army. So many people quit hard courses because they’re negative and it wears them out. Being positive is challenging at times but it makes doing the difficult things a lot easier. Enjoy the process, embrace the suck.
I really enjoyed this "rant." I read the comments; always likes and dislikes; so what. Yes we have to work for a living; doesn't mean we like it. Quit buying shit, get out of debt and find something else to do. Joe said it; happiness is a management issue. Get in control of yourself. Just a thought. Thank you and namaste!
dwatrous51 Entirely too simplistic and judgemental. Bootstraps 😬. Different people are struggling with different problems. Beware assumptions, they are usually wrong and can lead a person to do/say something that causes further harm to others.
George Bushlington That is not my position at all. You are deliberately twisting what I am saying to suit yourself. If you would like to spend some time with my words, think a bit deeper (rather than shallow), and come back I would be happy to talk with you. If you are just going to look for justification to be callous, judgemental, and hateful I am not biting. You are not my patient.
George Bushlington That was not a fair assumption. Try asking someone's views rather than telling them what they think. The economy is one part of it. A big part. But not the only part. So many types of abuse occur at multiple levels of life each day. For you to flippantly reduce the suffering of so many to a case of hemorrhoids... If your life is going well, I am happy for you. But not everyone is that lucky. Seeing other perspectives and exercising compassion are learned behaviors. They require practice. Give it a try. You may be in need of a little compassion yourself one day.
I’m 26 and I know that I have a-lot to learn about life, if not everything. But I have found that in moments where I have gotten everything I thought I wanted you can still be unsatisfied if you weren’t content with yourself in the first place without all those other things. I’ve been on top and back on the bottom. But I’ve gotten back up and found that it isn’t about getting somewhere. Its about enjoying the way there. Life can be worse and sometimes when we step back we may find we have so much to be grateful for and life is good today. It really is the journey not the destination. I hope I keep learning and falling and getting back up on the way.
Then you need to change your environment. The country is full of jobs. All it's gonna take is 3 months maxuimum and you can find a job at another place
@@Jitzlife92 My dad works in contruction too, he complained so much I hated it, when he could invest his free time on an online side hustle and change the matter of his carreer, but he didn't. I don't know you, but I hope you don't do the same. Your kids will be proud.
I feel like I would love to do what Joe does because I love real conversations. We all do. That’s why we’re here. And I think many of Joe’s viewer base would also enjoy a career that involves talking to people a lot, but in a meaningful way, not a “hi how are you? Good. Thank you, come again!” sort of way. Just an idea for anyone else struggling to find a fulfilling purpose in life.
Honestly, living in the United States and living in Europe made me really see what Americans are missing out on. Proper transportation and infrastructure. Sure the roads are paved nicely, but in many parts (or at least the parts I have been in) lack side walks or people on those side walks completely. Over in Europe or even in Kenya, Nairobi you will be walking down the street and its bustling with life. It just really feels like in the US that life is gone. So many people I knew in North Carolina and in the Tampa area in Florida just lived inside all day either in an office or in their homes, there was 0 connection to the beautiful outside world. You can't really blame the people though, because you are just that one weirdo if you try to make a change by yourself and go out, no one is going to join you, especially if you just moved there and know no one.
sometimes, happiness for me is sitting down outside, looking at the world, and just knowing that i’m on earth and surrounded by nature and reality. Instead of feeling intimidated by them, i can find comfort that i exist in a place that i can experience and has outcomes that matter.
Nothing in life worth while has ever been easy. The last minutes of this video truly sums it all up. Anybody that seeks out constant comfort will have constant misery. JR is one of the few objective interviewers out there. The discussion about meditation is very limited. Vioassana meditation requests that you meditate for 10 hours a day for 10 days for the initial retreat. The object is not happiness, but to struggle through profound difficulty to have realization. That is similar to every single aspect of life.
Acceptance, Maturity and Learning how to deal with Difficult Situations help me .... I am not always happy but when I am upset or depressed its important for me to maintian emotional stability. I dont give in to being angry..
I have come away from social media going on 1 year and I feel so much better for it. I no longer lose my day scrolling and have become alot more active and it gives you an extra spring in your step when you know you completed a task rather than sat on your ass. Anyone out there struggling, get off social media and turn off the news. Spreading positivity 👍
That’s why having a cold shower in the morning is the best way to start the day. Because you getting out of your comfort zone and after you feel amazing and full of energy to have another productive day leading to accomplishing goals getting closer to your purpose and final destination and the next levels of your life.
Joe is spot on about negative people, but It just sucks when those people are close to you. I find it being a balance of trying to speak positivity into those people and also shielding myself from their streesful negative ways. Though, I find it difficult to consistently separate myself from their negativity, I find I do a pretty good job. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother with them, but letting go of things can be hard.
Rob Proctor I have the same scenario with my brother. I hear you. It’s difficult to distinguish when to shield yourself from this negative person and when to give them positive advice because you’re exposed to them often. I am drained walking this balance.
You can't shield yourself entirely, meaning whoever you're helping is dragging you down. You're a good person for helping out people who aren't in such a happy place as you are, but you have to realise you can't fix someone. They can only fix themselves. Get someone to a psychiatrist or give him a self-development book, that's the best you can do. Someone else's is not your responsibility.
Well, I guess you just need to look your brother in the eye and tell him: listen bro, I love you .. but fuck you, i don't wanna hear you bitching, we either have a good talk or let's not at all.
Happiness is an emotion. It comes and goes. It’s not a chronic state. Joe, you are right on. I have lost so many… Friends I guess I could call them friends but they’re not friends anymore because they’re so negative. My boundaries are set but I’m really having a hard time finding a new friend group of positive loving people.
In the past 16 months, I've quit Methadone, Vyvanse, Lyrica, Latuda, Celexa, Cymbalta, Buspar, Social Media, and am now working on Smoking/Vaping. I'm working towards a goal that improves my life and makes me happy. That's the key, to always work towards something better.
Well said Joe! It’s a perfect approach to life which is what I try to apply at each and every day! It’s why I’m successful at what I do as career that I love.
Big thing im starting to realize and this video just enforced it! You have to stay busy to stay happy the mind needs positive stimulation if I just sit around and think about what I could be doing or what Im going to do in the future I often find myself overthinking and wondering why Im not "there" yet but when Im busy Im just like yeah i gotta get this shit done even if its stressful I gotta get this shit done and get to whatever the next thing is and that is how you ultimatley become great doesnt matter how many times you fail as long as you learn and just keep moving forward.
Contentment is underrated... happiness come in moments..you have to choose to be happy. Force yourself to smile..its easy to be miserable takes no effort.