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my family literally told me my hair is getting too long and that i 'look like a girl' when i was starting to feel comfortable with how i looked too :sob:
I am a transgirl (AMAB) and I've had some of the weirdest dysphoria. For example, my smile makes me dysphoric but my voice doesn't. Wearing masculine clothes makes me dysphoric, but I still wear and love boxer shorts. Leg hair doesn't bother me, but my arm hair does. It so random what dysphoria chooses to care about lmao
Cis guys walk with their shoulders swinging instead of their hips. When walking, try to practice keeping your hips pointed forward and your shoulders will automatically swing to compensate :) Hope this helps
I spent a good hour crying when I realized that I probably won’t grow taller than 5’6”. Then I felt dysphoric about crying. Also, I am sometimes lucky enough to not feel dysphoric, but then I worry that I never was dysphoric and will never get to transition. And I cry. And feel dysphoric about crying. . . . FML
Hey I'm a cis gender female who's 5'6 and found out I like guys my height! I specifically dislike dating tall guys - I didn't realize till I tried both. Also loved being able to try on clothes for my cis male ex to find out if they'd fit him :p
Alsooo there's a comedian who specifically hates small guys with tall girls but now she's dating a very short guy :p and loves him just the same. Just saying, even born as a guy you could easily be short and this wouldn't be a dysphoric issue but a being issue. I'm not invalidating okay :) just trying to tell your brain that it's a cis thing too so it doesn't make you different than cis people. Sorry if this rant is annoying instead :p
Two of my friends want me to have a sleepover with them in December and they’re both girls. I’m non-binary and out of the closet but they keep calling it a girls night. And I’m just feeling dysphoric about having to go to this girls night :/
Ugh I hate that. Just casually being connected to a gender group you don't belong to. The worst thing is that you can't really even correct it, because it would feel like I'm interupting a conversation that was totally not about me just to point it out.
I’m bigender and it’s weird I don’t feel too much dysphoria towards being male but I feel a lot of dysphoria towards not being female, if that makes sense. So I feel weird about gender groups as well, just in a slightly different way in that I feel like I belong to both but don’t belong as well and it’s super awkward
Tbh, I remember having a sleepover with my cousins and my best friend, they did makeup but i did not want too but of course, when you have a mom who tells you that your friends want to have fun with you and it is just one time, you have no choice but, I stayed playing games on the computer while everyone else was doing the sleepover. I never liked sleepovers or tea parties tbh.
Same, at least I think so. I remember in 3rd grade just thinking something like, "wouldn't it be much nicer if I could just slit my throat and release my soul from my body." That makes me sound depressed as heck, and some of the other things I thought about in third grade would also make you think I was depressed, but I don't think I actually started being depressed until sixth grade.
I am FTM and I am so jealous of cis boys, everytime I see a boy that's a friend of mine starting puberty and has his voice changing, my mood descend to the lowest point possible .... Anyone feelling the same...
abso-fucking-lutely. I always kinda die inside as I scream inside about how lucky they were to be born in the right body and to be happy in life as well.
My dysphoria triggers: - seeing guys in sweaters - stupid annoying bathing suits - "oh WoW lOok *sHE* is now a *yOunG wOmAn*" - "traditional family values" - being sad about my dysphoria and then crying and then getting dysphoric over crying and then crying and then getting dysphoric over crying and then crying...
I have a girl in my class who has my dead name (my new name is in the register as Dan) but every time I hear her name get called, I have like a random spout of dysphoria and it *sucks.*
I feel like it's important to mention that some trans folk don't get dysphoria at all. For example, in the case of non binary people like myself, I don't feel necessarily dysphoric about my body. However, I experience gender euphoria for things that make me feel or look more androgynous. Gender euphoria is just as valid as gender dysphoria.
Thank you so much. I experience more euphoria than dysphoria, so I often question. I feel euphoric about binding my chest, my hair, presenting more masculine, but I only experience slight dysphoria. I could wear bras instead of binders, but Id rather not, bc i like how flat my chest feels and looks.
@@ilikeice450 There is no right way to be trans! There's no correct percentage of dysphoria to euphoria that you need in order to be valid. Whatever you are feeling is real and if you identify as transgender then you are, simple as that.
I'm in my mid 30's and just coming to understand that what I've been feeling all of my life is dysphoria. It was confirmed for me when I went out on a date with a coworker that I like and...when he told me I was beautiful and held my hand, I just felt...devastated. Like, being seen as woman in his eyes made me feel wretched. It helped connect the dots to a lot of other incidents. Like the time I was in a friend's bridal party, and had to wear a dress; when I saw a picture of myself afterwards, and I looked SO female...cue a mental breakdown that landed me in a hospital. And all the awful shopping trips and women's clothes. And after puberty, the depression that hit hard. Looking back, it was because my body had (quickly) become obviously female. The running from any kind of intimate relationship because I felt that even existing was lying. I haven't had the language to connect the dots until the past two years. And tonight I have to tell the guy I'm seeing that...hey, the person you think I am is not real. Should be fun. UGgghhhhhhh. I'm so nervous I feel like I'm going to barf.
I get dysphoria over my handwriting, because it's really curly and feminine looking. I was told I have such 'nice, girly handwriting' and since I've just been.... Ehhhhhhhh. And that's lead to hand dysphoria
Oh what a big, big mood. My handwriting is super looped and swirled and I hate it so much. I desperately want to change it but ahhhh I just can't, it's etched into my brain to write like this. Typing too, apparently my typing comes across as really "girly" which just doesn't sit great with me
My handwriting was really curly and fell into that "girly handwriting". What it helped me a lot was trying to change just one letter at a time, it took me almost 6 months to change all the letters that made me feel wrong but it was much more effective that trying to change everything at once. What I did was to pick a letter, write it in a lot of different ways until I found one that didn't make me feel bad and started using it and maybe in a week or two my brain was almost used to write it the new and nicer way. I hope this can help you guys c:
My (cis) boyfriend has a fancy handwriting that you usually don't expect from a guy. It's is curly and straight at the same time. I think it's cool when guys can write like that. I just wanted to share this because it might make you guys feel a bit better :)
I honestly don't know if I have dysphoria. I don't exactly feel feminine in the way people see me, but also not masculine. I feel "dysphoric" over things like my hair, my chest and my waist n stuff and I don't know if that's just me wanting to look different I can't even talk about that with my therapist since nonbinary pronouns dont exist in my country and I would feel even less comfortable with switching pronouns to he/him. I honestly don't know what I should do and if this is just a phase,,,
Ah, the things that dysphoria likes to latch on to: how I walk, how I talk, how I sit, how I stand, my skin, my eyes, my nose, the books I read, the way I draw, the lip balm I use, the food I like, the instruments that I play, the music I like, the socks I wear, etc
I feel this too. Especially the nose!The nose dysphoria is real. Mine is small and when I was a kid I used to hold it down with a spoon in the hopes that it would grow down more lmao. Needless to say that didnt work. But our noses keep growing as we age, that's the good thing!
shit dude I see so many things like this that just sorta make me realize like "Shit, i kinda have dysphoria over that too and i just ignored it" like my eyes are very feminine, i only wear white socks (because colored ones are too feminine), posture, walking, sitting, lip balm and/or rather the felling that I shouldn't use it because yknow, feminine I guess, etc. dont like apologize or anything!! Most of these things bothered me before and like its almost sorta validating that someone else gets dysphoria over these things (but i'm sorry you have dysphoria!!! it fucking sucks kjsfhal!! Im not wishing dysphoria on you or anyone it just like oh someone else gets that too!!)
@@gavinpotter9286 bassoons are so cool! I feel like all woodwinds (except saxophones and very occasionally clarinets) are female dominated. But I play the manliest instrument of all: the flute.
@@gavinpotter9286 I guess brass is seen as being more masculine because it's louder and more blaring, while woodwinds can be quieter and more mellow sounding
When I look in the mirror with my shirt off, it doesn’t feel like I’m looking at myself. I feel like it’s not my skin. I feel like it doesn’t belong to me, like I’m expecting something else. I don’t know if that’s dysphoria. When I look in the mirror I don’t see myself, it really feels like I’m looking at someone else. It doesn’t feel right. I feel weird because it doesn’t seem right, like my brain expects to see something else. Every. Single. Time. I get this feeling over pronouns, name, body. I still don’t know if that’s dysphoria. I always expect to look different when I do (like, every time I look in the mirror before showering, my brain always tells me that this time I’ll no longer have a big chest of small waist. It feels wrong, but it mostly feels like I’m looking at someone else and not me.) is that dysphoria? I mean I’ve bought a binder in hopes to fix this feeling. I still don’t know. (Doesn’t help that I’m 14 and everyone tells me that it’s just me being uncomfortable with my body because I’m still growing) idk. I also experience getting so happy, too happy, when I get called a boy or shit like that, since I’ve cut my hair. It feels so good to be male. I’m just confused Edit: the binder is still shipping right now
I think that's dysphoria. When I have my shirt off in the mirror I like to adjust the mirror and stand so the angle is above the chest and it's just my shoulders. It looks like a male shirtless body and makes me feel slightly better before my shower.
I feel the same way!! I’m 13 and people say it’s just puberty and my sexuality is just a phase or I haven’t met the right person. (I’m ace/aro and maybe non bianary)
For me I'm confused about my gender because when I see my body, it DOES feel like my body, but the thing is... I feel like I interpret my body differently than others. They call certain body parts things I don't interpret them as. I know objectively what I'm looking at in the mirror, but it doesn't feel like it's truly what I'm looking at. But.. I also don't really care if I'm referred to as she or not. I hate being called a woman, lady, ma'am, or miss.. love being called 'sir..' I think I'm neutral, if not just ever so slightly uncomfortable, with being called 'girl.' Neutral toward being called he/him. And if someone calls me a man or a boy, it doesn't gross me out like with woman or lady, but it feels like I'd be... lying to them? By letting them think that? Well, more like if I told them I was a boy, I feel like I'D be lying to them. And if they tell someone else I am, I'd be lying to the person they're telling it to by letting them say that. I can't tell if I just hate my body and being called a woman reminds me of it, or if I'm trans and my mind just won't let me view myself as male (or nb) due to I guess internalized transphobia and that's why I don't get gender euphoria. The ONLY gender euphoria I get is being called sir. That feels great.
As a cis guy, I'd love to see a video about gender euphoria (especially as it relates to other people doing validating things,) I have loads of trans friends and would love to be a part of euphoria as opposed to dysphoria
@@himei4004 Not discounting your experience, but I have been told directly by trans people that gender euphoria is a distinct thing and a result of certain confirmations and affirmations of a persons gender.
Really, the biggest answer to this is dOn'T fUcKiNg pOiNt iT oUt! Yes, my nose is small and my jaw is weak. Yes, my thighs are huge and my feet are tiny. Yes, my skin is soft and my hands are half-sized. If you know someone is trans, don't point out anything that could cause them dysphoria. Chances are they already know about it, and if they didn't, GREAT! Now they do.
@@Someone-gn4st but as Jamie stated, some people experience dysphoria over strange things, and others do not experience dysphoria over stereotypical things.
Skylar, your best bet is to lead the conversation away from what is causing dysphoria. E.g. if your friend brings up how his hands are too small or her body hair is too thick, a hug (or other show of friendly support, my guy friends would rather punch each other in the arm), affirmation of their gender (doesn't make them any less of a man/woman), and then talk about an upcoming event or a shared hobby.
@@socialdeviant13 I know. I have bad dysphoria over my lips and fingernails. But just as a general rule, don't draw attention to the stereotypical things because a lot of people (including me) are dysphoric about them.
@@Someone-gn4st personally, sometimes I struggle to know exactly what could cause dysphoria. obviously i know to avoid all the big ones, but I would never have thought to avoid talking about someone's hands before this video,.
I have recently realized I am genderfluid, born female, and my hips and thighs really bother me when I identify as male. Mirrors are also a huge problem. I don't want to wear makeup, but my Rosacea is SO bad I feel like I need it. However, I am tall and have broad shoulders and a fairly strong jawline, so I try to focus on those traits when the others upset me. Sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't.
Oh my gosh Jamie I really feel like schools with a high LGBT or trans population should show some of your videos in health classes. I have several friends who could have benefited from your videos back in middle and high school when they were first transitioning or figuring out they were trans
YES PLEASE SCHOOL DO THIS FOR OUR SAKE!!! (Is now thinking of mentioning this in my presentation to the teachers at my school) {The presentation is about gender and pronouns, it’s supposed to help the teachers understand us better. And give them some more gender accepting language to address their classes with. So they stop say “Ladies and gentlemen” because I know plenty of kid in the school who are NEITHER, me included. Few examples for any teachers out there: General: Students, people, humans, children, folks, ext. Science: scientists (all I have for now...) Language arts: Writers, readers, (all I have for now) Math: Mathmatitions (sorry can’t spell, also all I have for now) Art: Artists, painters, sculptors, ext. PE: gymnasts, runners, athletes, ext. And there are more classes but, this is a lot... (I write books but this is a lot?) My presentation is March 8th so maybe next year I’ll do this for other schools as my high school community project. And slowly we will get better at accepting people. Although my family might be the last I work with on this, I’m not looking forward to their reactions........
lightningmcgee queen, well kind of... a teacher emailed my parents (I didn’t even tell this teacher) I wasn’t ready to tell the yet, but I was forced to anyway, they yelled at me, a lot. But I didn’t really expect anything else from them, honestly the whole family is only ever yelling... then they ignored it, and pretend nothing ever happened. So I brought it up again, well I wrote a letter kind of this and left it at my parents door before I went to school. Then when I got home I was told that my mom’s sister died, so... I was ignored again... Although this time she said she’d try, but not right then because her sister had died. I haven’t brought it up with my parents again after that, but I did talk to my siblings, my sister is really the only one who is actually trying, and I’m glad she is. So yeah I guess I’m out, but some people in my family don’t care, and others are very unhappy about it, and then theirs my sister. I’m glad I have her, but she and I never really got along, just like the rest of my family... It’s just a huge mess, but I mean I’m physically save at least, although from an emotional point of view I honestly don’t know, then again that has nothing to do with being out, now does it? Well have a nice night/day!
@@wolfkid4297 oh man thats crazy. Im sorry. I never did have the courage to come out so im still waiting, but I know my Christian grandma will not be happy about it :/ Im hoping your family comes around soon once they understand have a good night/day
I am not transgender or gay, I just wanted to tell you, from a straight bio and otherwise female, I have watched a ton of your videos and I found them frank and candid and educational. I appreciate your being willing to share your story and I imagine it has helped other transgender people as well as helping non trans people understand. Thank you.
I'm nonbinary and genderfluid and when I hang out with a group of girls and am refered to as one of the girls it makes me dysphoric. also, for a very particular body part: my upper arms/shoulders. I'm kinda chubby and I would like to be more muscular. I'm also really small (5'1) so when people aren't sure about my gender they will assume I'm a girl because of that.
when he described dysphoria as “euwegeh” i felt that. that was the genuinely most accurate way ive ever heard it be described and i feel weirdly validated.
same this person my friend is friends with always calls me a lesbian because of how "masc" i am (lol weird stereotype that lesbians are masculine) and im just- i dont have anything against wlws im just not a lesbian and i dont like being looked at as a girl
I don't really know what's with me yet. I have only a little bit of dysphoria that involves my physical body (slender arms, little waist, full lips, sometimes my chest) it's my pronouns that really bother me. Sometimes I'm really comfortable in my skin and love my body, other times I just want to tear myself apart.
@@abandonedchannel1290 i feel the same way, i thought i was the only one! i love when strangers use he/him or they/them pronouns but i feel really uncomfortable when my family uses any pronouns.
I kinda relate to this. Also I am kinda comfortable with seeing my chest as long as I don't think about it, but if I stand in front of the mirror, looking at those two things just hanging there on my body it weirdly feels like they are just glued on or something and I could easily take them off. Then I hate that they aren't even a bit smaller because it is nearly impossible to hide your breast if they are bigger than size d which makes it very difficult for me to experiment with a more masculine presentation because everyone will just see me as a girl.
I have something similar to this. I want to be called by he/they and I feel like I’m too feminine for that. I’m in the closet though so I can’t really do anything like bind or cut my hair. Online whenever I get called by he I get a ton of euphoria and I’m really happy. But in real life it just doesn’t seem as I pass as male/masculine / you have to look masculine to use he/him
I'm bigender, born female. Just, I'm not too dysphoric but sometimes I can't stand myself :(. My voice gives me dysphoria (even if it's already deep) I want it to be more masculine, louder ect. My hands feel a bit to tiny sometimes but I'm really comfortable with my body :/. I'd like to be called "He" AND "She" at the same time but it's a bit hard and tiring to say and explain. I think the worst part is that, on the gender spectrum, it changes really REALLY quickly. I the same week I can feel full girl/boy/NB, half boy half girl ect... And because I'm still a teenager (don't judge me to quickly please) it's even harder to make people understand and accept who I am (I haven't came out to my parents yet -_-). (Also I'm French so excuse me if my English is REALLY BAD)
This is probably gonna get lost but I'm trying anyways.. I am SO CONFUSED over my gender and I don't know what to do. I was assigned female at birth, and I can't remember it bothering me much in my childhood or teenage years. I always hated "princess" themed things, pink and glitter and all that stuff, but being a "girl" never was a problem for me until my young adult years (I'm 20). I get weirded out when I'm called "she" and a "girl", but only some times. I get happy when people call me "he" (I present kinda masculine), but only some times. I want to have a flat chest, but only some times, and for long periods of time I am okay with my breasts. The things that consistently disturb me and make me uncomfortable are my period and the fact that I could technically get pregnant even if I would never want to do that ever. Has anyone ever lived something like that, and how did you figure yourself out? (Also side note, please don't call me a trender or anything, I literally never talk about it and do not call myself trans and I know people have it wayyy harder than me. I repress it most of the time for those reasons but I do think it's kinda unhealthy at this point)
in the same boat here but from the other side. while i can't say I've figured myself out i'm making progress for the longest time it felt like there were two of me one who was okay with being male with some one else sharing my body who wanted to be female she only came out when i was lonely when i had my thoughts to myself. a few years ago the distinction between my "2 selves" broke-apart and now i find it harder and harder to cope but i've re-examined myself and i think that i never actually liked being male i just put up with it and finally after all these years i can't fight the feelings i shoved to the back of my mind any more. think about if you actually like being a girl or if your simply okay with it it's entirely possible that you don't hate being a girl simply because you feel like you shouldn't and are holding back your real feelings.
@@rayshiotile9487 i'm super happy that you're figuring it out!!:) and yeah i do think it's more of a "well it's not the worse" situation than me actually liking being this gender, but i'm so terrified of letting myself explore something else.. thanks for your answer
Like Iva said, it's possible you could be genderfluid, I'm genderfluid and the pronouns thing sounds a lot like my thoughts on pronouns, but you might not be. I hope you figure it out, and good luck!
Dysphoria doesn't necessarily come all at once, for me especially it was very slowly manifesting itself. Although, I realized I was trans when I was like 11, so before I really got dysphoria from anything except clothes. I'd leave it for a while and see how you think of yourself in a year or so, then decide who you are when you feel ready.
I'm a trans man and I think the biggest thing for me is my height (a tiny 5ft) and my hands. I have tiny fingers, like 1/4th too small, even for a girl. Thanks for this video, I always love watching you!
I like my height (5'3" and a half) but it's like I get social dysphoria iver this physical thing. I wouldn't want to be taller, but I hate that, it makes me so easily clocked as AFAB. What helps me with it and might help you guys is just looking up some short cis male celebrities.
Swimming. That’s a big one for me. I wear just a t-shirt and shorts and when I get out of the water it just sticks to my body. It makes me feel quite horrible. I’m not too sure of it’s body dysmorphia/insecurity or dysphoria though. I’m not self-conscious about my fat and stuff, I’m self-conscious about my feminine figure. Can someone pls help me?
I live in the uk and I’m finally being referred to as “pal” by strangers instead of “love”, most of the time. “Love” makes me dysphoric. oh my that sounds so sad
I personally don't mind nicknames like that but I understand how that'd be dysphoric. I'm Scottish and my Mum calls everyone "hen" so ig I'm just used to it.
Oh dang, I'm southern in the US and use hon, love, buddy/bud, and stranger, as well as the classic "sweetie" all as gender neutral, I had never considered someone being upset by that as an afab guy myself. Something for me to keep in mind, ty!
Thankyou so much for your explanation, I have been search for some times, and your explanation is cut to the chase and to the point. I also respect the fact that you are just being your self unlike most in this situation who are dragging and faking them self too far.
I am in my thirties now and have dealt with this feeling nearly my whole life, starting around age 4. I spent a lot of my childhood pretending to be a boy, playing sports with the boys, and idolizing my dad and older brother growing up. I recently quit drinking and this issue has become a huge focal point of my life as I’ve gained some mental clarity on things I need to work on in my life. I don’t necessarily feel transgender, but I have always had a general hatred towards my female body, mainly with my breasts and torso. It’s been a lifelong battle, full of loneliness and sadness. I hope I can work thru this, finally.
Can you make more (if dysphoria was a person) videos, the last one was so funny and unfortunately true as well.. Do you make a couple QnA soon? Luv your videos
I've struggled with mental health issues along with gender dysphoria for almost 4 years. I'm only 16 and my mom won't listen to any of my concerns or let me talk about starting treatment in any way saying "we can't be moving too fast and too suddenly" or saying "we need to get you mentally stable before we worry about anything else," which I completely understand. The only issue is, a lot of my depressive episodes are linked to being dysphoric and feeling like nothing will ever happen, leaving me stuck in the body I feel like I don't belong in. How should I deal with this? I've told her several times that my depression is linked with me being trans but she always seems to disregard it and continue in talking to doctors trying to see if this is all a result of me being depressed. I know in her heart she doesn't mean to make me feel invalidated but I can't help it when she's constantly researching ways that I could be messed up that causes me to THINK I'm trans. Either way, I need help! I want to start finally living full time as male but don't know how to approach it because of this. It would be very helpful to hear from you Jamie, thank you💛
I understand. I've been out for a little over a year now, but my parents still don't want me talking about my pronouns in public. I also have depression, and I agree that dysphoria can feel like a downward spiral. As hard as it seems, your best bet might be to talk it out with your mom. By the way I read the situation, your mom really does have your best interests at heart.
Just wanted to thank you for the video, feeling shitty and dsyphoric while watching hella resonates today. Anyone going through the same thing, love and acceptance is on the wire. Be good people y'all.
Oh my gosh, this came up at a funny time. My mom has been telling me how she just doesn’t get why I’m so focused on “this gender thing” and “she never had to think about gender” and “why are you so focused on the name thing!” It’s so frustrating! I tell her it’s legit because I have gender dysphoria, I was diagnosed and everything and she just is like “but IIIIII never had to think about it!” And I’m like yeah, because you’re cis. Cis people rarely ever think about their gender! She also recently has been sharing how weird and “unnecessary” social media is. Like I bring up one bad thing about social media and she’s on my case about how she never had this stuff when she was a kid and people didn’t need to share everything they’re doing and blah blah blah. Like yeah, people don’t need to share everything they do, but if people want to it doesn’t hurt anybody, especially not her!
Jamie is honestly just so intelligent just the way he speaks and articulates his words and how he is always so informed (obviously in this case he knows the information first hand but I mean just in general he seems very well read) thank you for keeping us educated!!
👍 as a gay older male. I’ve been meeting more trans gender people in the community and your inspiring informational words makes it more easier to communicate and understand was going on in their life. Thank you yes there shouldn’t be any weirdness if you wanna call it. But coming from IA malethat was born a male you make it so much easier to give the respect they deserve
Hi, so I'm not trying to be rude, and I realise it may be autocorrect , but generally transgender is written as one word. Thanks for taking the time to understand though, I'm in no way trying to attack you for a simple mistake. Have a good day:)
A couple of days ago in pe the teacher was referring to us all as ladies and girls (I'm not out at school yet but I want to be) and that made me really dysphoric and I basically just had a terrible day from that point onwards which wasn't great, especially considering that I have pe second thing on a Monday morning Thanks for taking the time to read my random rant about my feelings, you're amazing and don't deserve any of the bad stuff (especially dysphoria, that can go and die in an abyss) that happens to you ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Thank you so much for this content. I understand that dysphoria must feel shit bc I have my own mental health stuff but it’s hard to understand and support trans friends when I don’t truly know what they’re feeling or how to help. I guess just knowing and supporting has to be enough 💜
I feel disphoric about everything; about my tiny hands, my height, my eyes, my mouth, my voice, my actitude, my smile, my legs, my feets, my nose, my hips and my shoulders. I feel like every year it's gets worse, i tried to be positive, but i cant be masculine, it's get me crazy and i don't know what to do about it.
All i want is bottom surgery, top surgery and still have my original curves, and testerstone for deep voice (if i have a deep voice i can have the ability to troll ppl w a high girly voice) I'm a transgender femboy
im transmasculine (ftm) and one time i was with a group of girls and they started talking about having sex and all was good but then my brain went "now they see you as a girl. good job." and i became crazy dysphoric even though none of them misgendered me or anything... i think my dysphoria and anxiety became friends
What’s weird about dysphoria for some people is that when you add or remove a specific physical attribute you have can help beat dysphoria a bit. For example, I cut my hair recently and it made me feel more comfortable with how my face looked (I try to look androgynous, and cutting my hair helped a lot)
Its been hitting me really hard lately, and its alot of things that I cant control... like my cough, I absolutely hate it,, or my voice in general,, my hips, my chest, my stupid face and my jawline. It leaves me in a mood where i wouldnt want anyone to see me so instead i opt to just not go out
This was a nice reminder because I used to feel like I got dysphoria over such simple things, but I've since learned not to discredit my own feelings. For some reason my nails used to trigger me all the time. Just by genetics my mom naturally grows these beautiful long nails and before I went on T I used to clip mine right to the base, basically, because I would freak out about feminine hands. Thankfully I'm much better off and my mental health has improved tremendously, but I remember how bad it used to be and it was hard
I get a lot of dysphoria because of my hair, since 3 years ago that I have to cut it really often and most of the time even with my hair being really short I feel the need to hide it with a beanie (even on summer when it's 41°C outside). It's really frustrating and a lot of times I've had the impulse to just buzz everything off. The same thing with my face, and it's really weird. I've never thought that my face looks feminine or girly, but at the same time I know that my face is one of the main reason that I get misgendered everyday, so sometimes at my worst moments I have even thought of harming my face to, I don't know, change my features and look differently. A lot of times I have thought that it would be better if I just cover my face in scars or something and the urge to cut my skin is huge. I'm glad that I haven't done anything harmful but damn, I would do anything to change that.
Love your beard. Can't wait till mine grows. I'm 9 months into my transition. FTM but happier now because my transformation is coming faster. Got a couple of knitted eyebrows.
Thank you for the video! I was always questioning if I feel dysphoria or not. Cause I’ve never felt bad about my genitals of lack of breast, but for me it always was about how I am recognised and referred to, how I look, how I dress.
Feeling dysphoric when you are enby is wild. Like, some days I love how I look and I love how curvy I am and then I think, "maybe I'm faking it" and then I have a panic of "am I actually nonbinary?" and other times I hate myself and just want to be a genderless blob and then I'll switch to wanting broad shoulder and thin hips and looking masc. I never know.
I get dysphoria about my face, my hair, my inability to grow a beard, my hips, my chest (but basically only when wearing masc clothing because I'm mad they don't naturally fit me like they would someone with a flat chest), that bit of chub that estrogen makes you store on your stomach no matter how skinny you are, she/her pronouns and my name when written but not when I hear them out loud, feminine compliments like being called "pretty" from someone who I know thinks of me as a girl, among other things. I'm agender and ideally would look so androgynous that it confuses people, but knowing that most people see everyone as female or male, I'd rather people assume I'm a guy than a girl.
honestly I don't even know if i have dysphoria anymore. like when I'm with my friends, I'm okay with being called a girl and talking bout girl problems but when I'm alone or in public I get super dysphoric about everything, like how I'm walking, if guys do something like this, if my face looks too feminine, etc. maybe I'm just genderfluid😥😔
i used to stare at my reflection for hours when i got out of the shower. i’m pretty sure i dissociated, but the hours were just filled with loathing myself and wishing i looked more masculine- i’m glad i’m mostly over that stuff
About hand dysphoria, I find that stretching my fingers and like, tensing them so I can see the tendons is pretty good. Idk how you experiance hand dysphoria tho so it may help, but it may not..
Maybe wearing male accessories like those chunky biker rings could help? Or dunking them in a bowl of warm/hot water to make the veins pop out... Filling down your nails to make them really short... This one might be weird but cracking your thumb? Cause you have to stretch it out and for some reason it might help. Any sort of manual work could make your hands a bit rougher too... Or you could try gently filing the sides of your fingers' joints and your palms from time to time to make the skin feel rougher.
Jammi, I been watching your different stories on my cellphone tonight Sunday night in California. I must say how I enjoyed your life and your stories that you gone through. As a gay man of 75 years old it makes me think about the the I lived in Devner, Colo. In 1971. How I miss my old friends and family members their. I think my time in DENVER was the happness time of my life. The different types of people I cane to know?as family. Thank you for letting me know you a little better. I don't think I'll be able to meet you as I live in U.S and I think you live in ENGLAND. All I can say is thank you for making my evening. God Bless Jammu. Bye for now Ronnie.
As a Trans male, I hate the week before my shark demon week and my shark bloody demon week aswell, i dont own a binder and it makes me dysphoric as hell- and i do have a great accepting parent(s) as my mum has bought me men clothes a dog tag (mens) and a pride braclet , I love you jamie and i hope you get everything you’d want in life and i love your relationship with shaba and how accepting amazing and fun you are, i seriously love you videod aswell :)
