I think valid reasons may be: 1. Infedility which has both emotional and health repercussions such as depression among other mental illnesses, and of course the risk of sexually transmitted diseases. 2. Domestic violence which is a no-brainer. The endurance of abuse leads to many problems in the long run, and at times even death. The trauma exposed to the victim and children will have ripple effect in their respective lives, and frustrate society even further. 3. Incompatibility which is something people are often unaware of in the early stages of their relationship, which at times baffles me because the partners start realising their lack of mental, emotional and perhaps even sexual connection until they're hitched then make the courageous decision to split and not waste each other's time. I have come across many couples who experienced this and it's sad, and makes my mind spin about how you may think you really know and understand a person until a certain time when you discover that you really don't. I feel like these are very prominent, but of course there are others that may justify the grounds for a divorce, no matter how unfortunate the circumstances may be. Divorce is financially and emotionally stressful. It's not for the faint hearted. However we can never judge. My own parents walked down that path when I was 11 years old, although I wish they got divorced earlier for everyone's sake. Luckily it was an amicable one.
I do not need a lawyer right now but I know who my future lawyer will be😂. Nthabiseng Dubazana, I am putting you on my speed dial in advance😂. Thanks so much for a 3rd episode of an informative session🤗
Thanks uncle Dave for bringing such voices on these platforms, this convo is so enlightening , vs radio its like an unplugged session jam session, you just get there bare real convo, no distractions etc. love it.
Wow, so married couples can divorce just to claim pension funds and pay their debts and they remarry each other. Finances are a big concern in marriages🤔
Yes but it's risky. My male colleague did it with his unemployed wife. As soon as madam received the money, she told umsebenzi that listen mina nawe sidivosile, this is my money, move out of my f@^#% house and I'm gonna apply for a spousal maintenance. The dude lost his 50% pension fund and his house
Awu ntate Mashabela 🙏 I always feel like I'm eavesdropping on old people's conversations when I listen to these chats as a young man 😂 but I'm happy to be aware, so i step into matters with a more open mindset..
Bra Dave..... Thanks for very insightful and character building discussions.... May the Good Lord & Ancestors continue to bless you with wisdom so you can bring exciting people to the platform.
David has hit the spot about us men letting things slide and not call a spade a spade, I'm battling with that and I actually thought there's something wrong with me😢
Nthabiseng must be a chairperson of basadi conference, i would not mind to have her as a family friend, conversations like these are needed . Thank you Bro David. Thanks also to the platform like these as even after 20 years i can go back and watch or refer someone here.
i enjoyed both Ausi Nthabiseng episodes, i have so much in common in my journey as her and it really made aware of many things that i had questions in mind but never discussed with my husband. please keep up the good work Aubuti David
Unmarried. Wanting to get into a partnership. This podcast just opened my eyes in appreciating me being single and not wanting to get into marriage. Man after divorce don't come ryt. It's a war man don't come back mental ryt. So no thanks.
What do you mean they don't come right? Not everyone wants marriage anyway, but you can still have a partner and just live the rest of your lives together cohabitating.
David you are right about men sugarcoating things instead of telling the truth. I could tell that my ex was tired of me and wanted out. We were living together. But he used every excuse under the sun to convince me to move out. Luckily, I could read in between the lines and I acted accordingly. But as soon as I moved out, he starts being good towards me again. Which got me to think that he actually wanted us to continue the relationship but living separately. Men can't just be honest, they would rather lie.
Hello David, all the podcast link in your website are not working. Can you please fix it? or better still put all the complete episodes of the podcast on RU-vid. That way one can always have access to all your content and end the re-direction. Thanks for the amazing job. Looking forward...
Hay ntate Mashabela, I know you don't need the money, but can we at least get a "thanks" option because the insight we're getting on this channel is too much, I feel uncomfortable listening for free.
A mother should always find out what the child does with everybody, including the estranged father, because you never know what is going on. It could be the child is even being sexually abused and the mother doesn't even know because she is busy sanctimoniously "maintaining boundaries".
I think what she meant was, that info should be voluntary , not to always ask the child as if u are expecting her to be mistreated. Am sure the child still talk about everything with granny but voluntarily.
@@agnesmkhuzangwe7308 There is a way to ask for details without poisoning the relationship between father and child. As you can see, even Advocate Dubazana has admitted, that her daughter recently made a cryptic message , which has left her wondering if there is something wrong. I'm not saying that something major happened between father and daughter, nevertheless her daughter has expressed some disquiet, which came as a surprise to the advocate and has now put her on alert. Sometimes it pays to have direct conversations with your children, especially if you know, that you are not coming from a place of malice.
I wish I could ask her this question... say you are in debt or you want to buy a house. Deep down, you know you have your pension fun and you want to use it. What legal options do you have that you can apply for in order to access that cash?
It depends on the individual's on how they were raised at home . They know of boundries, mostly its about respecting the other person space. Now'days people are interfering in other people affairs. Older generation 👵👴 practice that #Botho.
