Why are women expected to be the mature adult in these relationships? Why can’t men govern themselves from acting like small children, and when they see a valuable woman, treat her as such? Why is that too much to ask? Why do we have to babysit a man’s behavior? Why can’t he do that???
He can unless it's the wrong he and there are a lot of wrong ones out there. I've learned to ask myself: Why would I tolerate this? What am I trying to get from this manboy that I can't give to myself or find in someone who's done the inner work like I have? Usually, I've allowed inexplicable, incongruent, hypocritical, disrespectful or disloyal behavior because I'm subconsciously trying to correct a relationship from childhood. When I recognize that was never my problem to fix because I was just a child and I can now meet my own needs or find safe people to meet them, there's no longer a perceived need for the manboy. Then, I'm free and he's stuck with himself.
I don't think maturity is expected from women, what do you think? Sometimes they target the unexpected because w/o maturity anything goes, no boundaries are respected.
I blame their Mother's for that! Seriously! Mothers teach their Sons how to treat women, and Fathers too, but a lot of Mothers coddle their Sons and let them act like fools when they're little, and grow up into bigger fools!
BEST line I've ever heard "God designed you to start reserving power whenever someone is draining you of yours" Thank you so much, I needed to hear this today. God Bless you.
Lord knows you are telling the truth. God truly has given you a gift of knowledge to help others. We all fall short and we’re not perfect. But that doesn’t take away the gift that God has placed within us. You don’t know how your messages have helped heal broken hearts❤
Exactly what I teach my daughter. I'm also kinda mean, he has to earn my ...... they get envious of me and I don't even have a degree. They think I'm on a high horse. I have a bad picker. All in all "I know my self worth (now) , It's going to take more than good sex for me. Spark my intellect. Without communication, we have NOTHING!
Amen thank you for the truth Thank you for helping the ones that try to help others.🙏💯% and are literally being took for granted this destroys precious Souls of God if they don't have strong faith.💯% destroys good Heart and souls in people.🙏💯% this is why I always tell anyone never give unless you are truly given from the heart so it won't destroy you when they show you no love back.🙏💯% know that you should only do this for the love of God giving him all the glory.🙏💯% not to give yourself the glory for the gift you've given from your heart for the heart of us is from God.🙏💯 may God always surround you with his precious Guardian Angels you and yours.🙏💯% All love and respect for speaking and teaching others in Jesus name amen.💯%💗🤍💗💯%
Wow, amazing content!! Yes as a woman we are so often trained to give even more even if it does not feel good. I am finally seeing through this and stopping it.
Thank You Derek ❤ Yess AMEN 🙏🏽 You have a Ton of Haters on the Tube Derek, but you are serving your Purpose! Your Personal life is “Personal” Thanks So Much for This Video! I’ll watch it a few times!
You are so correct!!! Once they slow down and pull back. Ungrateful persons get the boot. We are not doing nuthin if he has not contributed anything to value me. This has to stop!!! Walk out!! Value yourselves.
So true. This person drained me and then categorized me under a group of women that he will never support her or stated his standards have changed. He sure had access to several woman and playing games
You're so right- and I like the analogy for power saving! Women often give and give and give without saving any of that energy for themselves. Self love, self respect and spiritual awareness are so important for healthy relationships. Thank you!
I, after time i pulled back n i know what i must do n its been long enough now i know my worth n my growth has been reality check in me, myself, and I bless u thank u keep doing truth
Only mistake I made was i used to judge him unconsciously on mind level but I was someone very good person for everyone though I always tried to release unwanted negative thoughts about him but still got hurted.everyone has flaws but only the one who truly wants you will stick around .
I fail back because I felt I was used and he was one sided. When things went wrong and he wants me to do something and I questioned it. He said I was wrong and I was hard headed. So I came in out and told the truth about what was going on and I told him all you do is take take take. He said he was tied because I won't do right. That was the last text I got from him. That's the last text I left behind. Derrick I seen the red flags and didn't want to see and I stayed in the relationship for several years. Lesson learned.
