Letting Go Of An Ex To Get Them Back 

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Trust the process of letting go. You will be transformed by it. No matter what the outcome, not being attached to it is liberating. You CAN NOT lose when you approach it with this strategy. Trust the process of letting go of attachment to outcome. It is NOT the same as giving up. Thank you Clay for your-and your team’s work!

Thanks for this great video Clay!

I bet it was scary to share such personal story. Wish you, your mom and your family all the best things in life. Youre videos are really helpful

Clay. Love your expertise. Prayers for your mother’s recovery.

This is wonderful. I appreciate the long explanation of letting go. It’s the hardest part. 😢❤

Great video Clay! Thank you. You have helped me so much. 😊❤

Keep going man!

I’m new to your channel and have already binge watched a lot of your videos! I like your sincerity - Thank you for sharing such a vulnerable story with us. Hope your mother is doing better ❤️

Great advice... Thanks Clay!

Hi Clay, First and foremost, I am happy to hear your mom seems to be doing okay. I hope this is something that continues to stay progressively positive 🙏🏻 I appreciate this content. You’ve gotten me through a lot of tough situations with my ex, so thank you. I am struggling currently with building a connection with my ex. We’ve been separated for about three months now, but about two months ago he expressed interest in talking and seeing if we could find happiness together. After chatting, we felt pretty good about pursuing a dating relationship, but hadn’t solidified it yet because I had some travel coming up and we wanted to really think over our chat and the things that we would need to feel good about dating again. When we were supposed to reconnect, he pulled back because his uncle was diagnosed with cancer and was given just a few short months to live. This had taken a big toll on his mental state, and I noticed his communication became less frequent and more formal, even with me giving him space and understanding he needed to prioritize that first. When we reconnected after I noticed this disconnect, he said he feels it’s not right to leave me hanging while he figures out his emotions with all of the struggle he is currently experiencing in his life, and he feels he can’t be what I deserve right now. I told him that I wanted to be by his side in the good and the bad, but I couldn’t force my presence in his life and wouldn’t want to unless he wanted me there too. So I’ve pulled back these last few days and haven’t engaged in conversation. Is the best thing to give him space right now and not contact him? I love him and want to be there for him, but he knows this and hasn’t seemed to want to move forward given his current mental state. He did say he would reach out if he felt like he was ready, but he was feeling anxiety entering any relationship right now. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!

Hello Clay, thanks for this video ! Timing is quite fun because I'm in this particular situation right now of taking some distance, not from an ex really but a guy I had a "situationship" for 2 years. He tends to get scared when things start to be a bit intense and intimate, and to freeze. Last year, he told me he met someone and we drifted apart before I followed your advice about nurturing the emotional connection and we kind of got back together. I felt like we really hit a new level of trust and it went really well for several months with the both of us making efforts to communicate and be clear and honest. But he just went back into sabotage mode a few weeks ago and this time it was too much for me. So I've been following the advice you give here for several weeks now (change my perspective on things, focus on myself, and also identify why I've been feeling so exhausted and unfulfilled). And I really feel like I'm regaining energy, power even, on myself and my life. I still love him of course and even though I have no idea how things may evolve, it feels quite comforting to know that it was not only out of need :) I hope your mother feels better, and thank you again for the advice you share on this channel !

I apreciate this reflections on how to step over the inner wall and sit with the feelings we are pushing away.

Very useful advice. 👌

So far, you are the most realistic mentor I have listened to so I will run my situation by you. My x and I had a mutual breakup that was based on lack of trust not lack of love. We are 2 very different people but that was the best part to me me because we enhanced the other weaknesses. Im a focused, professuon and responsible person while he is immune, has low self esteem, chabges job constantly and suffers from the trauma of his fathers suicide and lives with his possedive mother. We lived together for a 4 to 6 mobths twice but seems difficult for him to place healthy boundaries between him and his mother. I grew up in a very loving home with 2 parents that were best friends and truly a remarkable couple. Unfortunately, my x did not grow up with such wonderful role models. He use to make many comments that he didn't know why I would want someone like him. I have no idea what to do except give him time and space to sort his thoughts out. My concerns are that he has the maturity level of a 14 year old and is extremely sensitive. Please let me know how to approach this breakup. He is the sweetest man I know, and I love the way he brings out the silliness in me.

But it's so hard to let it go, Clay...😔 I think many people here are going through hard times...

Hi Clay, thanks so much for your video's and I'm glad your mum is doing ok. I've just managed to let go of the concept of a guy who I was seeing for a month and he ended up pulling away and ghosting me when he decided he didn't want to get in to any commitment as he'd left a 6 year relationship less than a year ago. Our connection seemed so strong and real, it's the happiest I'd been and I'd never felt so sure of someone being the right person. But I ended up projecting and asking him to not go or to speak to me but he kept ignoring my messages, most of the time not reading them. He agreed to see me just over 3 weeks ago and it was just a normal conversation over a drink with no mention of issues and now he's gone again. I really hope we can reconnect but I know I've had to let him go and let us both reflect but he's already going on dates again even though I know there must be something there still for him to of seen me weeks ago. Any advice would be so appreciated as I feel very lost and I hope we can re-kindle when the time is right again, but have I lost him? Thank you.

Going through it. It’s been 4 months since he’s broken up with me. Up until now, he still likes me but is not romantically ready for a relationship. And then theres me being ready to get back with him but I know deep down I haven’t fully healed, I really think I need to give him space cause I do text him a lot and always ask to hang out

My ex boyfriend broke up with me three months ago but we used to talk sometimes. He is sick. Every time I showed care for him he tried to ignored me. The last conversation he told me that he is getting worse so I showed care but he blocked me and I have no contact with him then. He blocked me for almost 3 weeks from now.

Lovely

He wants a divorce. But taking him time getting information from me. He will txt me to get somthing for him to assist with the divorce . Then I wait a week before he replies. What do I do

I should of never ignored His energy when he came back to me after I broke it off because toxic ways I came back loving and him he came back for revenge to make me fall for him and his discard me and tell me he move on after having sex and me finding out about the rebound person

How can I help you

Or just be done with them. If you don't have kids with them then bounce... Phuvk it.. Lifes to short

Let go of her for my healing after 3 years she contacted me ...she said alot of wonderful things like she regrets and appologised not giving us another chance Well it's been a year she started games again her excuse was a promotion at work... she contacted me a few more times said she's really busy she replies and text whenever she feels like it i told her we should start to communicate more we need to talk in person build I told her if she's playing games I'm not dealing with it she said no she's busy What should I do cut her off again or play her game? I did stop contacting her for 02 months she seemed to be less emotional and put up a wall I now have her contacting me at her pace .... I'm calling bs my friends said she's keeping me as a option 🤔🤷‍♂️ seems to be it ...

Hello

Hi Clay, long time no see! After 10 months of separation, she has a new bf. After a month, she's moving him in, and she "loves" him, so yeah, it's serious. I think it's going too fast, but whatever. Now she's in a serious relationship, do I continue building the connection? Hope you're well :)

Let them go for 5 month already and still nothing happen lol 😅

This ius the most convoluted explaination Have ever heard Ihave no idea what he is talking about He talks too abstractly... very confusing

My split was a month ago she left, has deep insecure issues. However last 2 weeks have seen mixed signals on her fb by playing our songs we loved . Just unsure of her thoughts , feelings . I do miss her ....no contact for a month now

Thank you so much for this video Clay 🙏🏻🥹 Our break up has been in process for a few months and it officially happened last week. Even though it's mostly circumstantial we still need to see what we actually wants. He says he doesn't know and has to work things out first. I say I would love to move on from this as a couple but I also need to heal and focus on other priorities. Your advice really help me as I am trying to understand how to let go yet not give it up. 🌅