Listen to YOURSELF: you likely already know the answer 

At this stage of my career, I conduct consultations with men from all walks of life from all over the world. One of the most frequent reasons men book my time is to receive an objective, third-party gut check on their relationships: should they continue to invest or cut their losses? After only a few minutes, it often becomes clear that these men already know the answer to their question -- though they may not want to face the consequences it entails. It's important for men to listen to themselves. If your story was coming out a friend's mouth, how would you respond? Book a paid consultation: oriontarabanpsyd.com/consultations Social Media Facebook: facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090053889622 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/orion-taraban-070b45168/ Instagram: instagram.com/psyc.hacks Twitter: twitter.com/oriontaraban Website: oriontarabanpsyd.com Orion's Theme: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WrXBzQ2HDEQ.html Thinking of going to grad school? Check out STELLAR, my top-rated GRE self-study program based on the world's only empirically-validated test prep system. Use the code "PSYCH" for 10% off all membership plans: stellargre.com. Become a Stellar affiliate and earn a 10% commission for every membership purchased by a new student you conduct into the program: stellargre.tapfiliate.com. GRE Bites: www.youtube.com/@grebites4993 Become a Psychonaut and join PsycHack's member community: ru-vid.com/show-UCSduXBjCHkLoo_y9ss2xzXwjoin Sound mixing/editing by: valntinomusic.com Presented by Orion Taraban, Psy.D. PsycHacks provides viewers with a brief, thought-provoking video several days a week on a variety of psychological topics, inspired by his clinical practice. The intention is for the core idea contained within each video to inspire viewers to see something about themselves or their world in a slightly different light. The ultimate mission of the channel is to reduce the amount of unnecessary suffering in the world. #psychology #relationship #men

A lot of men think a relationship is trying to make an unhappy women happy. It isn’t your problem

Experienced divorce lawyer here. I approve of this video. Many guys suffer from cognitive dissonance.

“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” - Marcus Aurelius

"You didn't come here to make the choice, you've already made it. You're here to understand why you made it" - the Oracle, Matrix reloaded

"Like Fuck That" that's right there is the best line.

This is some of your best advice ever.🤣😭🤣 I've recorded myself talking about my last relationship, and it was over 3 months later. All I heard was stress and emasculation trying to make sense of her chaos. This video is the definition of a therapist's level of tough love.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

I totally agree. I'm 57 and can confirm, things don't get better in a relationship, especially after marriage. They will only get worse. Also, anything other than a definitive yes is a no.

"Picking fights with people in public and expecting me to come to her defense" 😵‍💫 that was me not too long ago..

I once advised a guy "You know that small voice whispering in the back of your mind? LISTEN TO IT".

every man regardless of age should be subbed to this channel

Wow. That recording idea is brilliant. The therapist I hired repeated back to me what I had said then said, “why the f are you married to this woman?” I couldn’t come up with anything.

This was my consult exactly. Dr. Taraban was spot on. #1 this consult most likely saved my life. #2 Saying this stuff out loud was terrifying. Worth every penny. Money well spent. Thanks for everything doc.

Everyone has such great wisdom and insight for others, but everyone fails to take their own damn advice. Isn't that humanity in a nut shell. Love this channel

It's mainly because most guys have a scarcity mindset, so we start to convince ourselves to accept bullshit because we may never find another person again. Which of course is all horse shit.

We're all gonna make it brahs

It’s been one year since my wife separated from me. 8 months since she served me with divorce papers. As Valentine’s Day approaches and a year of loneliness I contemplate reaching out to my ex wife. The depression and loneliness has obscured the memories of loss and betrayal. Listening to this self assessment was a breath of fresh air! Thank you

I am a man who has decades of experience with women. I am no expert & still learning, but I can say that Orion is spot on. However, he’s also right that only YOU can make the decision. It’s not one size fits all. The biggest mistake men make is allowing the fear of being alone or sex to stay in bad relationships. Your in for a terrible life if you do that

I retired Navy Admiral once told me "son always listen to your gut". This was after multiple combat tours.

It is difficult the first time to walk away, but years later you know you can survive and if you have a similar relationship in the future, you know you can do it. Walking away is a good skill to know that you can do.

If it isn’t a “Fuck YES!!!” - it’s a No. The best advice I ever heard ❤

My man, you are literally dropping truth bombs as always. Not a freaking word is redundant!

Solid advice. I spent 14 years hoping that being a kind and considerate partner would ultimately lead to some kindness and consideration in return… Nope, apparently I was just “hoping to change” her, and loving someone doesn’t require such a demand. I got played. In hindsight, I had a bad gut feeling the whole time.

100% correct. And it's not just personal relationships, it's life: If the answer to whatever question isn't "F*ck yes," it's a no.

You a real one Taraban

Gentlemen, our good sir also indirectly mentions, keep self respect, dignity and worth paramount for us men. If excitement and comfort lasts only 2-3 months and then drama and control issues arise, communicate, not working, WALK AWAY. We men all go through that feeling of pain/fear/confusion. At that time, face it, take it. Hurts like hell at times for weeks etc. after that you’ll see something happens within mostly. Slow character development and self growth.

Impossible to get clearer than this. Agree 110% Regards from Brazil 🇧🇷

My mother said several times how some people think marriage is a magic wand that is going to fix problems in a relationship but it's just the opposite.

Man you are a really smart honest coach. I’ve looked all over the web for an answer and couldn’t find it. I’m 50 and I have learned so many things through hardship. Gentleman trust this guy.

Dont ignore your intuition. Your inner voice is your inner child trying to protect itself from experiencing more trauma. Think of that little boy, and woukd you put him through these things.....again ?

Denial is a long, long river for men. Every time a guy ignores his gut he pays the price

When in doubt, say no. This motto has saved me countless times.

“There’s really no hurry to make a decision.”

I have it on my calendar to have my son start listening to, reflecting on Orion's advice (yt clips) as soon as he turns 17.

This is so extremely true. I was in a situation where a girl started ignoring me randomly, and I let her go. After a month or so (I was still very attached to her then), she started showing interest in me again, but didn't talk, and because I was so attached, I took the plunge and started talking with her again like nothing had happened (I even started acting a little weak cuz I deep down got insecure when she pulled away), even though she should have been the one to fix it. I even thought that was disrespectful, but cuz I was so dumb and full of emotions, I didn't trust my gut instinct and made it a lot worse. Obviously she left again, lol

This video should be sent to every young man ...

True. If things are not absolutely fantastic in the initial dating stage, walk. As he mentions, that is as fun and easy as it is going to get. It is going to get more stressful and difficult as you go along. Also consider that during that stage the woman is trying to sell you on a long term relationship, marriage. If she can't even fake being cordial and enjoyable during the sales pitch period, that signals some emotional and psychological problems.

This guy gives advice like the dad some of us didn’t have (even if they were present)

Had I listened to myself and cut things off at the first sign of poor behavior, I wouldn’t have experienced the worst pain I ever have in my life last year. I don’t say this out of bitterness but my relationship that ended last year is hands down the worst thing I’ve ever experienced in my life. I was better off cutting her off after 2 months like I originally wanted. Instead, we dated for 2 years and 3 months, 1 year and 10 months as an official couple. I thought I wouldn’t have been able to find anyway else. Not finding anyone else would have actually been better than dating the woman I dated.

I felt suffocated in a relationship for months and suffered the emotional aftermath with physical health ailments and debilitating chronic anxiety for a year and a half straight. It all only lasted until I had the clarity to listen to myself and move on. This advice works like a charm, not just for relationships but for other areas of life too!

The list of man complaints was hilarious 😂 😃

...sums up my 30+ year marriage. Wise words I wish I could have heard 30+ yrs ago. Young guys...listen up.

7:37 LMAO 🤣 What a way to hammer down the point.

Jesus this guy is complete fire.

It’s one of your best videos boss. We need more straight forward talk like this 💪

Hands down one of your best videos. Fantastic work. ✨

Haven't seen Orion that passionate (a little bit even angry on us) in his videos before - this tells a lot how we are not listening to ourself, men. Really good idea of recording yourself and listening as it would be your friend telling you it. Golden video and I wish Orion more subscribers and followers who can take his shared wisdom!

I’m a woman and I approve of this message.

Killer clip Dr Taraban. Right on the money. I’ve experienced it all. Brothers, we have to dictate the terms and conditions of our relationships right off the rip. It’s the only way. As soon as she disregards the terms and conditions, pull the plug. Solitude is far better than a bad relationship.

I've liked this guy for a while now, but this video made me love him. lol Good stuff, brother

From my 30+ years of dating experience I can tell that you'll see the first red flag normally in the very few days max weeks of getting to know each other. Take heed and if it's there, run away as fast as you can. It'll save you lots of time and money, my dudes. There's nothing to think over if you have issues like those ones Doc has mentioned.

Regarding decision making, I once wrote down "what is meant for you will always feel natural calm and clear, not forced or chaotic". Then you just summarized the answer as being either a 'F*ck yes or a F*ck no' and yeah, that works too.

F me, this is the voice of sanity, clarity and reason. All men need to listen to this.

Love the no-holds-barred, no filter, exclamatory approach -- and the rage, and the humor. One for the ages.

Thanks for providing guidance and being the voice of reason for many. Not just for this one video, but for the library you have created.

Orion goes off on this one! The examples of things his clients have said are unbelievable.

As usual, everything he's saying here is true. I'm the 67 year old man who occasionally comments here, and for years I have done a version of this myself. Whenever I have a problem, I think, "if somebody else came to me for advice on this same problem, what would I tell them?"

Dr taraban comin wit the heat. Right before the Superbowl too

it's an intuition if something is wrong. believe that !

Heavy Duty 💯!! 🙌 I can really feel the frustration that you have to endure dealing with the countless sessions covering the same subject. 🤦‍♂️ Hang in there Dr. 🙏🏻

She had the following red flags & I didn't listen to myself till my friend woke me up. 01. Raised in a fatherless household, her father was an alcoholic & died. 02. Her relationship prior to mine was toxic. 03. Has been on Anti Depressants. 04. Has slept with 12 men by age 24 05. Is often aggressive & combative. 06. Has been disrespectful on a few occasions. 07. Had lots of male friends. 08. Has some low quality female friends. 09. Has several large tattoos. 10. Drinks alcohol & has shown signs of being irresponsible with alcohol. 11. Addicted to social media. 12. Doesn't apologize 13. Used to go to bars/clubs 14. Throws chit tests, quite often. Honestly when you're emotions are involved, we become so blind to the dangers.

So true! I made this mistake for 9 years and lost so much time knowing that the relationship was not right from month 6!

You have no idea how much abject heartache hearing this at 33 would have saved me.

This is the most RAW Unfiltered video of yours I've ever seen. Spitting truths left and right. Thanks Doc

The HERO we needed!!

Whilst listening to yourself is a great start, it can be greatly enhanced by talking with an informed friend.

I think this is good advice for non relationship stuff too.

Wow, it's strange this video was the answer I needed right now. Thanks!

You left out..."she flirts with other men when we're out in public" and "she's always texting but never mentions who she's talking to."

Thank you. It's one of your best yet.

I watch these videos each day , and I am happy to be single, but my DNA tells me to find somebody.

Once again Orion is 100% spot on. We have all fooled ourselves ignoring the important clues.

You nailed it bother🔥

Brilliant!

This one was such a banger. Thanks Ryan!

Awesome video!! One of your best!

Watch and listen to this whole video. Then watch it again

This is the best piece of advice you've given in any of your videos.

✨THIS✨IS✨GOLD✨ 🙏THANK YOU🙏

This is one of the most awesome videos ever.

This video came 100% in a clutch for me. I needed your thoughts in this matter. Thanks!!

This is amongst the best advice I've ever heard, simple, and to the point.

I love this doctor.

Thank you, I needed to hear this today. I know it’s gonna hurt for a while

Yes.Your internal voice is often your best friend. Thanks Doc.

some of the best advice i've heard in a long, long time

This is one of your best vids. 🤝🏾

You deserve all the success that is coming along with your growing channel. Thank you

This is absolutely true...

Love that! I just sent this to my Son. Thanks

One of your best episodes by far.

Thank you for helping us out. “The few ones that will actually listen and use it”

YOU'RE THE MAN! Amazing how you know exactly what I needed to hear at the exact moment I needed to hear it...

Best psychologist EVER !!!

This fits with my experience. Thanks for sharing. I am really enjoying your thoughts. On point.

That was well said & delivered with a punch to all the men out there... very bold of u, Doc. 💯

This video is a confirmation that I made the right decision a while ago. Thank you!

Best therapist ever

You provide so much value. Thanks.