zyn zang That's why this country has a 55% divorce rate because people marrying for love. smh While most of the world marries to form stable family units based on social, financial and spiritual ties. Not love! And they have divorce rates and single mother rates less than 20%. Most of the world doesn't marry for "Love".
Aisha Prince Bitch Cinderella Saw that Prince who though he could get some thanks to his status. Ol girl said nope. Next thing u know he wifed that up cause he couldn’t wait to get that virgin p. Bag secured.
she had no idea he was a prince. she only wanted to enjoy herself at the ball. others were lined up to snatch him which bored him to death. when he saw Cindie, he saw a girl not caring who he was. She actually enjoyed dancing with him, not knowing he was the prince and that stunned him. The moral - rich men know you're after their money. Some agree to the exchange, some go for the girls who have life of their own. No desperate pickmesha, under the guise of 'leveled up quality bullshit' will be wooed.
@@julijakeit Thank you! I hate when people talk like that about Cinderella. Her genuine goal was just to have one, single, night of freedom, to enjoy herself, away from a life where she was abused, and basically imprisoned. She saw a charming, handsome guy, and there was immediate, mutual connection.
Sara Okurrr ever since I stumbled across this channel, I stopped looking for this love fairytale. Like Raven said, I’m not doing no 50/50 with no man. I see pregnant struggling to go work, while being sick because the man can’t provide for her.
And they are proud of it! My mega pick me mother always said "I worked until one week before I gave birth", like wow congrats on not taking care of both yourself and your unborn child, how noble!
@referral madness Women shouldn't get their bodies for free to broke men, everything in this life has a cost like it or not, ladies, don't sleep with poor/broke men let them without sex, don't date them, a man like this is worthless, and again, BROKE MEN DON'T DESERVE SEX! sex is a luxury and most men are not even good at that, don't give them that luxury unless he is paying your bills, love is an excuse to use your body.
My ex was trying to fool me into struggle love. He showed me an older pic of him and an ex. I noticed leaning furniture,dirty carpet in the background and saw a glimpse into my future if I would have stayed. Dropped him.
Ooh, yes! I dropped my dusty, struggling, non educated ex-boyfriend after his ex told me the reason why she left him... He just wants to stay "settled" and wants to stay poor. I didn't settle - I left. I married the next guy who HAS a career going and has money! Life is great for me and hubby!
Lol! Out to dinner with my family and my aunts said "You're beautiful. Use your looks. Go older, with money!" I said "Don't worry, you didn't raise a fool". If your family didn't teach you, SheRa is telling the TRUTH! #WhenTheFamAgreesWithShera 😂😂😂😂😂
Love is a fleeting emotion , respect lasts way longer ... Unfortunately , most people don’t want to hear any of this .. they will call you all types of bougie and gold digger . No sweetie it’s called playing chess not checkers ..
Marriage for wealth is part of our ancestors customs. You had to have some sort of wealth for the Parents to agree for the marriage. union. India/Africa
Makes all the sense in the world. Westerners look down thtirs noses and say Africans are selling their daughter. Men are not owed a wife, you have to have means to look after a wife. I fully agree.
My ancestors told me straight up to marry someone wealthy . Marry someone who loves me more than I love them , and they’ll grow on me . They said I can’t be with a broke man or they will stop my blessing 😭😭 Then a week later I found Shera videos 😭
Yes in m'y country a husband must have his own house his own car , giving money to thé wife before mariage contract and many many jewlery ..lots of them and bring her gifts every occasion ... And now thèse value are getting Lost 😖😖😖
I could marry for love because I never dated broke men. Poor men never crossed my radar. Finding out about the money is among the first things to learn about the man you plan to date!
I think years ago I would have watched in horror thinking this sounds cruel. But after having been in two relationships with Dusties, I know she's spitting nothing but facts. I've experienced nearly everything she's talked about on the bad side. I won't be stupid again, LEVEL UP!!!✊🏾👸🏽
It's so very true. But the weirdest thing is I bet you had a friend who was doing her thing and you thought she was crazy as hell lol. I did, I have a friend with this mindset from the moment I met her, and she always says her pee pee isn't for free, so if she goes out and a man wants to dance with her she let them know that dance isn't for free and honestly the men would normally pay and even give her money for all of us to get a taxi home, I mean I use to think my friend was a gold digger, but now I respect her so much because she never got use by a man and she still the same. Honestly took a few leaf out of her book and it worked for a while but end up falling in love and honestly my common sense when out the window. But definitely learning now.
AdrienneStarr Everthing is not about race, however when it comes to dating and marrige black women are below the curve. Check the stats. We need to weed out the Dusties and pick some winners!
Why is "love" to tolerate a broke man? To try to sort out his mess, financially, emotionally etc? Why should u waste time to be his mommy when his real mother failed to raise him right? If a man loves you, why doesn't he want to provide for you and to make sure you have a quality life? It's so stupid and contradictive if you take a min to think about it. Like "I love you, but I am totally ok with you not being able to afford healthy food/take care of yourself/being in constant stress for the bills". I got news for those men: This is NOT love, it's malignant self love at best and just adding someone to your misery because misery loves company.
referral madness The video isn't about love, it's about value. Most men don't value children or family because they simply can't afford it. That's why it's more practical not to choose them. It's nothing personal.
If only all women thought like this. Women these days talking feminist shit . And romantic books where girl is forced to marry rich but ends up marrying a poor guy IS THAT A GOOD END CUZ YOU LOVE EM FUCK THAT
referral madness you're the one who thinks that you're entitled to women without meeting their individual standards. 😂 nobody is begging for you, just rejecting you.
diivaXOXO I already have a rich husband.I live a charmed life , l wake up when l want.Got my own coffee shop that l own ok and my job is to count the money 💰 I’m just watching Shera coz l love her videos and l support her 💯
diivaXOXO Shera has two degrees, investments and business. In addition I’m sure her husband has a pension she will inherit if he passes in addition to any life insurance policies. Shera will be taken care of from the cradle to the grave. Go watch a pick me channel to help you stay in your masculine so you can build your own.
@@missphilosophie This chick is proud to take care of losers. Wow!!! If I split the bill I will take myself out instead. Please....Shes one of those "Affordable Chicks". It's good to have your own money, but it's better to spend his and save yours.
diivaXOXO you will not find a man because you are too masculine to attract a male, you may attract a man who needs your help tho..... good luck, ! I have 2 degrees, my name on the deed and investments as well as several online businesses. I get to save all of my money since my husband fully provides, If he dies , they have these things called life insurance policies, and 401K.... lol
bella657 I know one, I fear for her, but I could see based on their history that he’ll leave once he’s settled financially and can take of a woman without paying 50% of the bills
😳😖😓 The men in my family would never let me be that foolish. Poor thing. I hope it works out for her, but most dudes won't respect a woman who helps them achieve those basic things. Your family/mentors should help you prepare for home ownership, building credit, etc before it's time to settle down. :-/
That's why they gotta break them with Magick..... They birth them fools and they betrayed their Goddess. Now they should feel her wrath. Wise up.... I mentally manifest my ex struggles. Not because I hate her but my ass really wanted her to be a better version of herself. She hung around wrong people and did negative things
True! I see ‘men’ commenting on her videos but this can’t be real can it? Like men? How do they have time for RU-vid? Have they no jobs? Business deals? Meetings to attend? Whew😅!
A dustie I had a crush on ages ago told me ( when I asked him: what would you do if you're a woman?) He said: I'll look at my best, find a rich man and stick to him. Exactly what you say. He told me directly what to do and I still wanted him broke hot mess dustie. We women are so stupid when young in love :/
It's not so much that we stupid, it's more like most of these dusties tell us who we are but we just don't listen, as Mikki say don't talk too much just listen to what they say you will learn a lot. 😂
My grandmother was married twice she said the first time was for love and the next time was for money...I never met her my grandfather but I knew my step grandfather
Omg my ex dusty told me that he wants me to work my ass off, that I need to get out there and work as hard as him. Thank you for helping me I’m never going back to that shit. I need a man who lets me be a woman.
Gay guys are more woke than straight guys imo and they understand how real life works and u can' just call the gas company and say "I found true love but he doesn't have a money, connect our gas back".
Get money before getting into a relationship. This is why I date older women lmao. They got their own bag and aint trynna suck a guy's hard work dry smh.
That'll be me.👋 Those women asked for a ride. I had no idea she was going shopping like that. She said we was going to pick one item up and eat. I buy the food. Shopping for her wasn't on my schedule or radar while wearing my beater sneakers n favorite t shirts. . Once she expected me to pay, its confirmed she was conniving. I wasn't supposed to be at the mall that long anyway. I wasnt given any heads up shopping was up her sleeve. She was showing off. I was saving my appetite for applebees lunch specials we planned, not mall foods. Oh, I'm not her boyfriend. We have fun and sex. Since we friends or you have a secret SUGARDADDY, I'm only good for $50 and clean all-American fun
That's right. Forget happiness. Building for suckers. Fun is for dummies. Marry twice your age so you can spend his money. Sacrifice your youth for luxury trinkets and vacations. Steal money from any accounts you got the code to. Pussy makes men forgive anything you do. Leave your broke classmates with they dusty college boyfriends. They happiness coming later, you getting paid hard cash today.
Totally agree with this 💯💯💯 it’s the only way to level up. You can love someone and they cheat on you then what? They have nothing to offer you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 and Ladies keep your legs closed if he has nothing financially to offer you. Not because you’re a gold digger but because if and when he traps you by knocking you up, he’s gonna leave you heart broken in poverty with a child he won’t even see. It’s not being harsh we see it everyday. Don’t think your guy is special, secure your future. You can still be a boss babe and independent and make your own money, but let’s be smart baby!
Thank you, I almost feel into this trap , but let me tell you my ancestors stepped right in a devoured the whole relationship and that is when I woke up out of that fake ass dream .
Now she is talking my language, marriage is for power position, not love at all. No need to be in love, that is so overrated. Marry for power positions only.
This is so true. Love is just a feeling that comes and goes. Respect and appreciation is the key. You appreciate your husband because he is the provider (masculine energy. Your husband Respects you because your a Lady a Goddess, having his children etc.. (feminine energy) Took me a long time to figure this out. I'm 33 and will never settly with dusty guys. I had enough of those. Time to level up, reprogram our minds for the best. ❤️
Lmaooo I swear you my homegirl in my head. We have so many of the same views and my “friends” look at me like Im wrong for thinking like this. Yall go head and be poor in love lmaoooo. See where that gets you.
This is not bad advise this is REALISTIC advice, trying to help women not to be abuse or making stupid decision with man. Masculine men are the providers *_*
Your message in this video is profound. I've never even considered that marrying for love is a program for the masses. Thanks for these videos :) I appreciate you! P.S. "5 star to Applebees" LOL!
the problem is no one knows what love really is. it not a feeling that just hapoens love comes from what that person does to show ypu that they love you.
thankuwelcome 215 yes if I had seen these videos I would not be in my current position. W/dusty seriously considering leaving, but hard because have baby.
31:50 channel your sexual drive towards your goals, business, creation 37:00 picking the right target is crucial; one who treats you as the prize 41:01 when you have money you won’t be bored and you’re giving up that lifestyle to sleep with a cute dusty
Looking at the house she is in makes me want to listen to her lol...its so interesting that I was thinking this same thing today because while I was at work I saw this "Instagram model" types and they had theirs noses in the air but then I realized that they weed out the bums and attract men of means by looking the way they do...tho I embrace being natural I understand their get down...
ugh that reminded me that once i helped a woman to prepare the apartment she was going to move in with her fiance...we spend the whole day cleaning we had someone to paint the walls and at the end of the day there he comes with his hands on his hips inspecting the place and making observations. THAT IRCHED ME SO MUCH. Lesson learned.
The first 6:30 minutes of this video was I needed to hear to confirm my speculations. Thank you for making these videos because as a 19 year old with divorced parents I have been struggling to understand relationships on my own. I just found your channel and I'm so excited to watch all your videos. Thanks for your honesty and btw your cat is adorable. 🖤
I'm currently in a situation like this now , his excuse is that he can become a streamer and make a lot of money . He is good and might be possible but idk what to do.. what if I leave and he becomes successful and I end up looking dumb for not waiting a little
Hey Shera, normally men in their 30's notice me, but Today a much older man noticed me today while I was wearing and buying makeup since watching your videos. He was in the pharmacy line. He looked disappointed that I only said hi back. It was awkward. 😊😬😶. In a split second I, thought about his looks, how much money he had but I got a little nervous, then I took off! It's working tho! Can't wait to be in a better setting, etc. 😌
If this so right and exact, youd Partake anywhere. It's not though. You woulda felt small in the makeup section with a old man pushing up. Especially if the girls pretty and guys your age looking..
Nattyisisyah omg something similar happened to me...after I started watching Shera, I decided to step my game up and start wearing more makeup (I’m in my late 30s). Literally 2 days later I was grocery shopping and the older gentleman in front of me offered to pay for my stuff because “ I was too beautiful to pay for my own stuff”. I was so thrown off by this offer (was used to dusties) that I declined and he left. I have spent the last few weeks kicking myself but determined to stay on my level up journey. I’ll be accepting the next time an opportunity like that happens to me!
Seriuosly Shera, you are sent from Heaven!! I discovered you channel this week and I have found what was missing in me. I am now in your pre-level up group and I feel so powerful!! And I've seen change when I walk on the street :)
My ex dusty was luring me into marrying into poverty living in a bachelor while he earned less then 1k in a shitty job...I was very young , but smart enough to not even give him any cookies...I will never again settle for such no no nooo...
ASHERA 🌟 Goddess OMG Great video This is a must see for women of any age . THANKS SO MUCH For Sharing you're wisdom ! And as the saying goes you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink . And the other saying says ,do not throw your pearls to pigs. I think that one's in the Bible. I know that people are going to not agree with everything but thank you for sharing it anyway because those of us that do want to hear what you have to say and know that you are very wise we appreciate you so much. Thank you so much for sharing your Pearls of Wisdom with us.
I'm going to smugly laugh to myself the next time I see someone post something about twin flame in their caption on instagram or facebook. This pretty young woman I know married a dusty. It doesn't surprise me one bit. When I photographed her for a local high end eyewear boutique she looked classy but then after she got away from home she got a huge tattoo on her leg that went all the way down her thigh and then she married a dusty. I thought, that girl's life could have gone another way if she knew better. Today, she posted she's pregnant. I predict they'll end up divorced in 9 years, maybe 6.
I'm after the bag !! but also want the man with the bag to love me, like I want to be and feel lovED and very cared for by him, and get the bag at the same time, am I doing this right?!
For me, I have BOTH (nothing wrong with that, either). But while dating, I required the men to "show me the money" *FIRST*... only then was I willing to work on the "love" part. And even after that, my strategy is still for him to love me MORE throughout the marriage. He will still have to work for my love and attention.
I definitely agree that money brings freedom. Am glad am at age that I am over the BS call am in love. I remember once some said to me you should always marry for money and love will follow. I wish I had too that advice.
Wow 😯 thanks so much for sharing this! I didn’t know the mindset behind this. It makes sense. I’ve never been married and I’m glad I ran into your video and channel. Thanks so much 🥰🥰🥰🙌🏾🙌🏾
