Meet Yourself: A User's Guide to Building Self-Esteem: Niko Everett at TEDxYouth@BommerCanyon 

things i love about myself: 1- i'm hardworking 2- i'm gentle 3- i'm fun 4- i sing nicely 5- i tought myself how to speak English fluently (Portuguese's my first language) 6- i always wanna help people and make them smile

It's so unbelievable that there are a lot of people out there who's so beautiful,talented,inspirational can still find reason to unlike themselves ,I hope people can all realize how beautiful they actually are .

if i meet myself, i will hug her and be friend of her.

This video should be aired in schools....

One thing that helps boost my mood when I'm down is complimenting someone else-- By brightening someone else's day it can help make you feel better about yourself too-- Spread the positivity 😌

The first ted talk in history that actually gets to the fucking point Bravo.

I struggle, I struggle, I STRUGGLE SO HARD with this issue!!

1. Spend time with people who make you feel good. 2. Build on postive thoughts, delete the negative ones. 3. Tell the people around you what you like about them, and help them start their own positive thinking. 4. Upon receiving compliments, gracefully and boldly say “Thank You” 5. Write 10 things you admire about yourself.

"Let's all be someone's Julie" - beautiful!

A good way is to pretend you are talking to your younger self whenever you say negative things. So if I say "You're such a loser" to myself, Instead I think of my younger self. And I think, ifmy younger self was a different child, would I still say to them, "You're such a loser." Would I treat other people like I treat myself? Why should I treat myself like crap, when I even refrain from treating actually bad people this way?

Ok, let's try ten things... Oof. Here goes... 1. I love my ability to create stories (fantasy specially is a passion of mine) 2. I admire my courage to speak up, in public, as I am doing now 3. I am resilient, stubbornly so, and I keep trying to be authentic and to be better every single day 4. I admire the bravery I have to delve deep into my soul and make peace with my "demons", because I truly believe myself and others to deserve the best of me 5. I love my taste and passion for food and cooking. Thanks to my mom's insistence I can nowadays enjoy most ingredients and cuisines, and that's just so much yummy! 6. I love my love for the outdoors, heat and exercise, and I may not practice it as much, but I have not yet given up on learning martial arts, even though I'm nearly 30 and have been dreaming of it since I was 5! 7. Although imperfect, I admire my commitment to be empathic and kind to others, so they may never suffer; and I admire my capacity to feel guilty over the damage I've done, and to try to rectify it. 8. I admire my good judgement and capacity for forethought; it has saved me and guided me in making some sane financial and interpersonal decisions. 9. I am friendly af. Gods, I could befriend a lamp post lol 10. I admire my curiosity, capacity and desire for learning and travel and adventure, and the gifts and many talents I've been given. ... Bonus, 11. I admire how I'm always trying my best, even when depression keeps telling me I'm better off dead. I really need to read these to myself more often :)

This video made me cry somehow, my ex had kept telling me how terrible person I am. I lost all my self esteem and the tough feeling led me to search and watch this video. Many thanks for Niko, I am writing down some good things that I used to like myself and I am crying so much. everyone who is wathcing this, you are amazing because you are trying so hard to be a better person and actually you already are.

did this make anyone else cry

Ten things I love about myself (today especially): 1. I have a way with people that can greatly influence them in beautiful ways, helping them open up, helping them feel included. 2. I love that I have a very strong, sturdy body that lets me get places easily, dance, and work out. 3. I have a unique look, sense of style, a weirdness that's always evolving and changing. 4. I am proud of the way I work on myself, taking steps towards personal growth, even though it's difficult. 5. I love the way I've made amazing relationships and friendships. 6. I have done lots of cool things, all because I'd never done it before. I am daring, brave, and adventurous. 7. I admire the way I am practicing radical honesty better each day. 8. I appreciate the good head I have on my shoulders. I think I've done what I've needed to do to survive, and have lived an incredible story. 9. I love how my teeth are naturally straight. 10. I am one of the best teammates anyone could have because I am always looking for ways to participate.

her face radiates so much positivity and joy.. great video the 10 list is very helpful if you do them everyday before bed

Things I love about myself: - I’m friendly - Hardworking - have a great sense of humour

1. I am literally a good friend. Especially when someone's having a tough time. I literally listen to him/her. 2. I feel connection with music. Music is like meditation for me. So, I sing beautifully too 3. I went away from my home at the age of 16 for studies and stayed alone. I survived that period, learned many life lessons and currently I'm studying at good place due to that. I'm glad I did that at a young age. 4. I am artistic and creative. I understand things deeply and from different angles. Which make things clearer.

I went to a job interview. After the first few minutes of discussion, I remember one of the interviewers smiling. He said "I like you, son. I like your energy." Even though I had just met this man, it warmed me up more than I can vividly describe. It's not very often I feel that kind of positivity rushing through my mind, but for that brief moment, I caught a glimpse of myself. And I must say, he's pretty freaking cool!

Tedx please send this woman a letter with a cookie in it.

I've always believed and still believe that self-esteem builds up self-confidence.And self-esteem can be built not only by ourselves, but also by the people around us. I've seen many people that tend to give compliments to their friends, they just start sending positive thoughts to them by the idea of acknowledging them and believing in them. That's usually what makes people think positively about themselves ignoring the negative thoughts that are usually brought up by their enemies or friends.

She exhibits a lot of confidence and ease ... Good

I actually cried. Even the comments are making me cry with joy and realization. I'm depressed and I believe that I'm fat and worthless but this video just told me that I'm defined by what I do and not how I look. I love this video and I love all of you!

Healing is hard. But it is essential :) 10 things I love about myself: 1. How kind hearted I am 2. I’m fun to be around 3. I’m a deep thinker 4. I am good at singing, dancing & acting 5. I am creative 6. My laugh 7. My skin color 8. My boldness 9. My strength to fight battles alone 10. My smile

Thank you so much for this piece of beauty.

I'm considerate I'm very intelligent I have nice taste in music I can write I dare to make the first move on people I like I dare to keep toxic people away from my life I'm thoughtful I'm entrepreneurial I have a sense of humor I'm resilient and I don't give up "I'm 21, and I think I'm as successful as my friends." Thank you!

Thing I like bout myself: 1- I have great ideas 2- I can be alone and go to places by myself 3- I’m brave 4- Im a great liar 5- I fought depression by my own 6- I keep myself alive even to I want to die so badly 7- Im creative 8- I have a great music taste 9- I am able to understand others emotions

5 Things I like about myself: 1. I'm smart 2. I am musical and have good taste in music 3. I'm proud I got sober 13 yrs ago 4. I'm proud i got a certificate from an ivy league school 5. Ugh this is hard Think im gonna start a self-esteem journal and write a few things I like about myself each day

this was my worst day in my entire life until thanks to you, it turned to be the most helpful day! All thanks to you! THANK YOU... :) i will always remember this day .. as a very good day

[07:48] “Let’s create a new culture. A culture where we all get to grow up feeling good about ourselves; a culture where we can rewrite our histories; we can create new stories about ourselves.” Great TED Talking, Niko Everett. Thank You. Actually we should thank the creators of social network and the internet that we are able to feel so close. It feels so beautiful that I am able to praise Niko for her work straight.

I'm 17 and suffer from extreme body dysmorphia. uhmm thank you sooo much for this! I was crying throughout the video.

I am brave and courageous I am intelligent I am beautiful I am unique I persevere I am strong I am optimistic I compassionate I am attentive to details I am caring I’m the best.

10 things I love about myself 1. I love that I am a very caring person 2. I love that I always make people laugh 3. I love that I am open minded and understanding 4. I love that I always go above and beyond for people 5. I love that I am introverted 6. I love that I can sketch very well 7. I love that I am quick at learning new skills 8. I love that I am straight forward and blunt 9. I love that I know when to say no and not get taken advantage of 10. I love that I am honest

i see this video now, again, and i see my list. the first thig that i put on that list is "im prode that i have not yet killed myself". i see this and im crying

I loved my self up until I was about 12 or 13. I could list what I was good at and what I was proud of. I never thought I was ugly or worthless until I downloaded social media. Social media and our society makes beauty standards so high and makes kids so self conscious and makes them feel so unworthy of love and confidence. I am 17 and I've just started my journey on self love and spreading kindness.

So many videos about self esteem on youtube.This is the best one everyone with these issues can relate.I think she is so good at it because she has gone through all that struggle herself and can relate easily to other people's pain despite their different stories and therefor she can really make an impact.Great woman indeed!Respect

Today I accept myself for who I am, I am proud of myself for the accomplishments I have done.. I came to this country a few years ago, and I hated the fact that I spoke wierd.. I'd hate to speak in public .. i was so hard on myself and i pushed myself so hard that I overachieved. Now when I speak, people actually think I'm from here.. and when I tell them I am not from here they compliment me on how well I speak that kinda helped my self esteem.. but im still struggling with self esteem.. and I am finally thankful for accepting me for who I am. Thanks to Niko I enjoyed your talk.

Struggling right now with my self esteem. I feel really low. I actually don't know what im supposed to take from this video but i do appreciate it being posted and the strong woman who shared the information. Maybe one day I will be as empowered as she is. To everyone else struggling today i pray you find all of the high self esteem you need to be successful.

i'm going to do my list of 10 things now ,i really need that change ,i'm 41 years old and got to the stage that i take diazipam just to feel good about my self even though i have done nothing wrong.

10 things i admire about yourself 1. I am kind and good hearted 2. I am hard working 3. I am unique 4. Many things motivates me 5. I am smart 6. I am forgiving 7. I am a decent song writer 8. I have a good sense in fashion 9. I am good at makeup 10. I like to learn

Im still trying to find myself I'm almost 24

This was so beautiful and powerful. Taugjt me so much in a fes minutes, i will definitely start working on these - lastly, you are a beautiful, powerful, helpfull and inspiring woman -

Happiness and self esteem r so elusive they come and go. I remember from about 16 to 20 i was very confident. Now its been a couple years of losing my mojo. Life happened and it took my self image with it. Trying to build it back up again but it seems easier to wallow in self pity. Its easier when u have a busy social life and get out of ur comfort zone. High school helped cuz there r so many people to talk to. It takes lots of effort. 12 step groups helped alot too cuz i could use many mentors. Sad thing is u have to find ur own way cuz 90 percent of our daily conversations have nothing to do with how we truly feel about lifuuue and urself but these r conversations we need to have. Be willing to listen to others who seem to have self esteem if u don't have it.

10 things I love about myself: 1) I am a cool and relaxed person 2) I have my own unique fashion sense 3) I strive to be better everyday 4) I notice the small things...Flowers, birds, little animals chirping 5) I love fiercely 6) I try to help people whenever possible 7) I am chill about many things and let people be themselves 8) I am good with kids and animals like a sixth sense 9) I love animals 10) I can sing quite nicely

Self esteem is based on our own thoughts. Say 10 things you are proud of yourself. 1. Spend time with people who makes you feel good. 2. Turn up volume of positive thoughts. 3. When you recieve a compliment say thank you. 4. Meet yourself. 5. 10 things about myself i love.

Some things i love about myself: i am calm and gentle i can easily motivate and inspire people for positive change in their lives i smile from the depth of my heart i am so caring and kind i empathize with people going through difficulties and offer help where i can. i love that i am very expressive and eloquent with words i admire my sense of humour i love learning i love putting smiles on people's face i can bring out the best in someone i love Niko Everrett for sharing her story and helping others build their self esteem. Thank you.

Thank you for this video and the energy ✨ Here is my list: - I’m smart and always curious about the world which help me with my work and made me move to another country - I am a good friend, I always try to do my best to support them - I am funny and always making joke - I am creative in my own way, I like to experiment with my hair and clothes - I am resilient, I always try to do my best and don’t give up - I am good dancer, invite me to a party and I will dance all night long - I am ambitious, I want to accomplish my dreams and objectives - I am thinker, I try to understand the world around me and questions everything, which make me learn all the time - I am beautiful just the way I am - I am me ♥️

things I love about myself 1.i am hardworking 2.i make an effort to make people happy 3.i am empathetic 4.im funny 5.im fun to hang out with 6. im talkative

I’m proud of myself for still being alive.

“I like that in different” 🥺 BAWLING

Thanks Niko: Kindness goes a long way in changing the World! It is Time for PEACE. It begins within. Happy New Year!

What i love about this Tedtalk----she actually shows you How. Good talk...!

I really needed this. Thank you so much. This is AMAZING! Your awesome!!

Thanks for lifting me up. I have always been pulling myself down and now started to realize only thing wrong is that I dont love myself enough. This video reaffirmed that for me. Thanks a lot. Keep spreading the message and helping people.

1: I love myself for becoming so brave 2: I love myself for always trying to better my life 3: I'm proud of myself for never losing hope in my potential 4: I'm proud of myself for fighting against my depression 5: I'm proud of myself for finding help to truly heal my heart and soul 6: I'm proud of myself for making others laugh and feel happy 7: I'm proud of myself for being genuine 8: I'm proud of myself for being such a strong fighter 9: I love myself for all of the flaws I couldn't embrace 10: I love myself for always trying to discover more of who I really am and and to be, truly just for myself. I love myself very much. I love that I don't let other people's opinions guide me anymore. I am proud of practicing forgiveness and inner peace instead of hatred and anger. That when I'm starting to hurt, I acknowledge it, I accept it, and I face it. I will not run away from it. I'm strong enough and I can overcome anything. :,) I love you, Nancy.

I'm sitting in an airport alone and I really want to cry right now. This video resonated me.

Ten things I like about myself : 1. I'm really a good friend , to the ones who are in tough times I always stand by them and I'm proud of it 2. I'm hardworking 3. I'm soft spoken ( which many people don't like about me but I love myself for that 😌) 4. I always try to make things easy for others 5. I care about the orphan , people in need and I'm proud of that 6. I have a good heart ❤️ 7. I'm confident ( but still trying to be more confident ) 8. I always stand for the right 9. I like that even after a mental breakdown , depression I was able to collect myself and stand up again and show the world my power 10. Last but not the least I always want good for others .

Things i like about myself 1: i care about people, i dont want them to feel bad because of me or someone else 2: im intelligent 3: im not over-confident and i dont like to show-off 4: i respect my elders and love my youngers 5: i can fully understand english even when i was younger i was the only sibling who could watch and understand english cartoons (btw im Pakistani) 6: i can bear hardships and i have alot of patience 7: im hardworking and i get the highest grades in my class 8: i respect others opinion

At the end of the day you have nothing but yourself. No matter what life throws at you if you are at peace with yourself

started this video thinking "yeah, I can totally came up with a ton of positive aspects about myself" and ended it thinking that no one of them would be envied by anyone

1.A good friend 2.Intelligent 3.Good-hearted person 4.Not living in poverty 5.Artistic soul and creative 6.Being skillful 7.Being openminded

I can't believe it made me cry. This happens rarely

i feel like i dont wanna watch any other video after this , i dont wanna spoil this moment of awesomeness created by this inspirational fantastic Niko Everett !

A couple of minutes ago I was a teen feeling shitty about every single thing going on with me thanks to you I'm already starting to feel amazing about myself

Thank you so much for this awesome talk! I am 48 years old and I am still trying to find myself. I suffer from self-loathing negative thinking low self-esteem Etc yes this makes me feel like crying! But it also makes me feel like there's hope and that I'm on my way of loving myself and healing more and more everyday

If you're a kid or a teenager reading this, I hope you learn to love yourself. Your self-worth should not be in the grades you make on a test but it should be within yourself. I thought I was dumb and stupid as a kid/teen because I always failed tests, didn't know how to study effectively and barely made it out of high school. Looking back I now know that the reason why I did so horrible in school was because I didn't believe in myself. I actually really believed deep down that I was stupid and worthless. The most important thing you can learn is how to love yourself, respect yourself and honor yourself. How to believe in yourself even when no one else does. How to be kind to yourself as well. I hope you will take the time every day to develop your self-esteem. I'm 27 now and I WISH that all of this was taught to me as a kid.

Important Clippings: - Self-esteem is based on our own thoughts, and we can control our own thoughts, so we should be able to control our self-esteem. 1. The first thing we can do to feel good about ourselves, is to hang out with people who make us feel good about ourselves. 2. The second thing is we can turn up the volume on that positive thinking. We can build up those thoughts about ourselves that are good and delete the negative thoughts. 3. The third thing is starting to tell the people around you what you like about them. Jump start their own positive thinking. 4. And the last thing is that when we receive a compliment, stand our ground, and just say: “Thank You.” - To Do: 1. Be somebodies support and help them find themselves 2. Get out a piece of paper and write down 10 things that you admire about yourself. Even things that somebody else might even be jealous of.

I never realized before this how many of my thoughts were criticizing myself rather than what I like about myself. Truly inspiring

10 things i love about myself 1. I am gentle 2. i am funny 3. i am intelligent 4. I am hardworking 5. I give good advise to my friends 6. I am respectful 7. I am tolerant 8. I try to motivate myself 9 I am unique 10 . i am persevering

Excellent talk. I've got something out of Niko's '10 things' tool and the 'turning up the volume on the positives' tool already, just by running through them, and I'll definitely try to use them regularly. Thanks Niko, that tweeked my paradigm, just a little bit but in a very good way.

When I watched this, I cried. Thank you so much. For this. Thank you so much for what you are doing for young women. I never realized how I dis guard myself because I compare myself to the "idea of the Ideal girl" But even to my friends, who are more successful than I am, there's this quote I have on my wall, that I regard it to my relationship status and friends even to family, because by my age, all 3 of them have one of the two things what I dream of my life to be like at this age and that wasn't business success, but really I should just apply it to my whole life. When I get together with my friends next week, I want them to watch this and I want to make an everyday effort to make sure they know they are beautiful inside and out.

I saw this video today 27/7/2020 and before now I’d never thought about what I like about myself.. I just realised now that there are so many qualities I posses that I should be proud of. I wish I can see myself often in this way

Things I love about myself: 1.I'm funny 2.I'm smart 3 I'm loyal 4.I'm fun 5.I'm talented 6.I'm friendly 7. Anything I want I work hard to get it 8. I'm blunt 9.I give good advice LOVE YOURSELF❤❤

I think the 'delete thoughts' thing she said might be misinterpreted to include suppressing emotions/feelings, which I think is not healthy at all... I think it's important to know the difference here!

This made me CRY :'( Thank you. This is so powerful and inspiring :)

This is the first video I've watched when I googled "how to build up self love". I can't stand myself right now and I'm making this the beginning of my story.

That's the kind of volume button we need to find....I love the idea of a supportive circle. Great clip.

Beautifully articulated! Niko has done an amazing job helping to boost the self esteem of hundreds, if not thousands of people by her exercise and sharing it here on Ted Youth! It isn't the "cure all" but it is a darn good start! I did this exercise with my 7th grade health class that I teach and they absolutely loved it! Thank you Niko for this great idea! And thank you for being someone's Julia! :)

Great talk! It touched me deeply. Thank you Niko

1, I love my simle 2. I love my kindness and wonder. 3. I love my gratitude, and positivity. 4. I love my voice. 5. I love me. 6. I love me.

1. Honors classes 2. My taste in music 3. Grades (Nearly straight A’s) 4. My nonexistent hopelessness in my career 5. My drive for my career 6. My love for food 7. Financial status 8. Social status 9. The empathy I occasionally feel 10. Well known 11. I’m the best 12. I’m the best 13. I’m the best 14.

Ten things that I like about myself I’m calm- I remained calm throughout my labour even though I had to have an emergency Caesarean at the end I’m proud to have continued breastfeeding even though I was in pain. I like that I strive to be healthy by making myself a green smoothie at least 5 days in a row. I like that I’m supportive of my sister who’s been ostracised from my family I like that I spend quality time daily with my daughter by singing and reading books with her I like that I’m creative and resourceful when I’m skint I like that I’m financially independent. I like when I try and stick up for someone who’s been gossiped about I like that I can be friendly with strangers I like that I’m non judgemental about someone and try and see good in everyone

Well done Niko, love it....I found this talk to be inspiring. Note to self to be a Julie to others....

two things i love about myself is being compassionate to others : i really accept people even when they do mistakes second , i love psychology and i learn it third , if i meet myself i will hug me and say to me you are so kind and lovable

This is quite frankly the best one I’ve ever watched. There wasn’t tons of filler, back story, etc. Just straight to the point and brilliantly executed!

This hit me hard even as an adult I have struggled to find value in myself and have allowed others to cast me aside and use that as reinforcement when I would think about myself and my worth. I mean if I had value I wouldn't be cast aside right? Or so I thought. Its been a long battle to get better, but it is possible. If you've just starting that journey please don't give up you deserve to know what is like on the other side of your fear and doubt. YOU define your worth not others. YOU are capable of changing your thoughts and YOU have so much to give to yourself. We have no need to compare because we are all different in our own beautiful ways and we should take that and lift ourselves up. And if you know someone who is struggling themselves send them here, help them find the tools to challenge their thoughts and just be there for them. Please be an ally to your friends and loved ones struggling to see their worth, it could really make all the difference.

I have had a real problem with getting the thoughts out of my head verbally in times when it seems the most important, and in an effort to learn how to be more confident in myself, I have started a personal experiment. I am recording myself speak. I absolutely hate to see myself speak, it is extremely hard, but since exposure to what scares me seems to work, I believe that by forcing myself to practice speaking to myself instead of in my head or through writing.. I may be able to speak my mind more clearly. My body language screams lack of confidence, and maybe by being aware and changing what I see I will be able to better communicate with others. This is a good video, thank you for the tips.

One of the BEST and most transparent TedTalks I've ever seen! Awesome, much needed in this world. May we ALL have healthy self- esteem and UNCONDITIONAL SELF- LOVE!

Almost made me cry. I have struggled with low self esteem for years and this really hit home.

Great Just amazing I wish I was among that crowd and Clap for you. Thanks for sharing beautiful and inspiring word into peoples lives

Awesome. Using the turn it up and delete effectively. Thank you.

Things I love about myself 1. I love the fact that I read alot. 2. I love coaching people 3. I love that I love cooking, doing my shopping 4. I am a loyal friend 5. I can go out and feel good being alone. 6. I aspire to be a good person 7. I like my eyes 8. I am creative 9. I am smart 10. I am courageous

This made my cry so much… I struggle so hard to just be myself and to love myself that I, more often than not, try to hide by using labels and titles I have. “I’m the caretaker” “I’m the coordinator” “I’m the…” or maybe with external validation. But it’s never “I’m me, and I’m pretty dang cool and I love myself so much.” It’s so hard… but this helped me and I’ll take my first steps after 20 years of living. Thank you!

This made me cry. It felt like my story in your words. Thank you so much for this

I am inspired and this is well presented. I think we are all BORN perfect for our experience here we should not let others talk us out of our HIGH ESTEEM

Sat at work feeling awful and I find this.... I click and i haveny cried this much in a long time but im going to sit here allow the tears to stream and just listen and I dont think I've ever felt so heard In my life!!!+

So pure,literally it was not just lecture,the glow of her face showing true...love❤

It's sad how I can think of 10 things I don't like about myself much easier than 10 things I like about myself. This is a great video and I'll try the list again. Thanks, Nico!!

This made me cry. Thanks for this message. I have been dealing with low self esteem since I was a teenager. I'm almost 30 and still have negative thoughts about myself. Wishing I was beautiful and I feel unwanted cause I constantly get my heartbroken. I Feel like no one wants me and I feel worthless. Some people say " God has blessed me with a beautiful heart because I'm such a sweet person." He also blessed me with red hair which is my natural color.

I hardly ever cry watching a youtube video, i felt her in my heart she is very authentic. Thanks you are inspiring.

The moment she said "find your Julie" i could feel a tear rolling on my face.