Men on Dating Apps | Men's Round Table | A Black Love Series 

A dating app is a tool of opportunity. It won’t guarantee you anything, just like your chance meeting in a grocery store won’t guarantee anything. It affords you the opportunity to meet folks you otherwise may not have. That’s it.

Dating Apps are like meeting the representatives when you first meet a person "organically." No matter how you meet first (on app or in person) its gonna take time to get to KNOW the real person. Just my thought.

Whether you meet them naturally in person or on a dating app, you STILL have to go through the same process of getting to know them and weeding out the good and the bad and using discernment to see if that person truly wants what you want and vibrates on your same frequency. Davinci point of view is flawed to me

The young guy speaks from life inexperience. Being a Christian doesn’t mean living life closed minded.

Meeting “organically” or via a dating app doesn’t change the fact that if a person isn’t for you it’s not going to work regardless of how you meet. I understand both viewpoints though on the matter.

Lol this youngin has sooooo much growing to do and life to experience. You can meet someone in person and have a great vibe but they turn out to be the Joker. 😂 In person or online it’s the same thing. Lol I think he’s letting fear cloud his judgment because he’s afraid of getting catfished.

Once you understand that dating apps are just another tool in the toolbox, you are less apprehensive about them. Because even if you meet someone “organically” or in a more conventional way, you’re still going to have to go through the same motions to get to know them.

Ah, the confidence of your 20s!!!😉 The older you get, the harder it becomes to meet single (and available) people organically.

I like how Davinchi thinks - he is saying whatever God has for you will find it’s way to you no matter the circumstances. He would RATHER meet the person in real like and not by an app but I don’t think he is discrediting dating apps as if there’s no change a soulmate can be found on it. I never used a dating app and I rather meet people in person as well.

Online dating is an opportunity.I met my husband online and we are happily married with problems. We are about to celebrate our 9 year anniversary.

it's refreshing to hear young men saying for them they rather meet someone in person

I agree with the 3 guys, dating apps are not for everyone, but it’s nothing wrong with taking action. The app can be as good to you depending on how you use it. If you have good intentions and try to make a genuine connection there is a chance it might work.

I met my bf through a dating app. If we would of met in person "naturally", I am not sure if we would be dating right now. The dating app honestly saved me time trying to guess who an individual was. I am one of those people who is able to read between the lines (whether it be ones words or photos) . So it was actually easier for me to filter through who I actually wanted to invest my time with through the dating app rather than meeting someone the traditional way. Plus with my personality type , I very much dislike the idea of meeting someone at club or bar.

I completely understand where homeboy is coming from but at the end of the day, regardless if you initially met that person online or face-to-face.. you still have to run them through your filter to discern their intentions. It’s just all about perspective. 💕

"the chances of that happening is you taking action." Okay I'll take that word, Brandon.

It's a validation tool for women.

I agree with Da'Vinchi. Its much harder to find a real soul connection on dating apps. People can fake a lot on social media and apps. I refuse to use them. Plus women always have an advantage in dating and its harder for men to really stand out when everyone is vying for her attention.

I agree with the app being a vehicle to meeting. Then you get to know the REAL person.

So i won’t be meeting Davinci on the dating apps because he ain’t on them lol okay how am I gonna meet this man 😂🤔

I’ve personally grown to prefer meeting people online, I see it as a filter. The photos they choose to share, how they express themselves through words. It lets me know if I want to move onto video (COVID-19 first date).

Pleasantly entertaining to hear the different perspectives👏🏽👏🏽

I agree every time I tried to force something it never worked!

Da'Vinchi doesn't need a dating app that's why he doesn't see the significance of using them. He's so freaking adorable 😍😍😍. Great conversation 👍🏾

Love listening to these conversations- Thank you for your honesty!

Are these brothers considering that Covid restrictions have changed the ability to meet other singles considerably? Dating online is, in more cases than not in this season, the only way many of us will meet anyone until this is over.

A Dating App is just to help meet a person not to go on dates "on the app".

Can we get some 40 year old men at the round table please?

I love the show fellas. It helps alot. Thanks

The two gentlemen to the right are coming from a place of tradition. I appreciate that. People can put whatever spin they want on apps...they are speed dating . Lets just keep it 100. Do you as long as no one is hurting people nor misrepresenting .

Its a convenience for those who don't go out all the time. Especially in this pandemic life. What if your an introvert, what if you don't feel safe to go out alone.

Thank you for this video!! I enjoyed your conversation.

It’s the mature conversation and the contrasting views for and against for me!!

I hear them but I too am not for the dating apps. I’ve tried them and it wasn’t for me. I found them to be an additional task and a force. Kinda like a “pick me” thing as oppose to just going outside doing the things I naturally do or love and letting Fate take the wheel. But now that I’m writing this I realize I’m an outgoing person and someone who is the opposite of me may not be but still want love, so for that I can understand the use of the app. So I guess it’s a to each is own. Find your love as you see fit. 🤷🏽‍♀️♥️

Dating apps definitely don't work for me been using them for years and never met anyone because alot of the women on there just be playing games

Great conversation!! Great points!!

I enjoyed the respectful difference in opinions ♥️ new subscriber

I agree with @Davinchi 100% I share his sentiments! I can always custom make my pizza, not so much a boyfriend. I just prefer the authentic, organic meeting. However I'm totally not against dating apps...

People who are anti dating apps 5 years ago are currently on dating apps today...situations and perceptions can change with time...

Dating apps are questionable. If it's meant to be yes it will be BUT there are a lot of married individuals on dating apps looking for jump offs..and jump offs looking for jump offs. I'm with side part...totally on par with the natural chemistry, connecting in person thang....

Matching on app (exchanging a few messages) -> Video chat -> In-person date

Love the man in black shirt! Organic encounters are the most real.

I've learned about the dominance hierarchy and pre selection. Men persue, but women ultimately select. I believe being on these online dating platforms after extended period of time, actually hurts your masculinity. Men , we gotta know our value and worth at all times.

Quasim!!!! Love it!

However I meet my person whether app or in person I’m intentionally keeping myself open for availability. So to each their own. If u set the intention the connection will happen which ever way one chooses to direct the energy. Happy manifesting! 😀💛💪

I am old enough to have a comparison between in-person and online dating, and I don't see a difference in success rates. In fact, the worst men I've dated, I met in person lol. The DJ on this panel should keep in mind that he is more likely to only come across a certain type of woman at the parties he DJs. Then at 40, he may find himself thinking, "why do I ALWAYS meet the same type of women!?". At least online, you can make a conscious effort to go outside of your "norm" by choosing certain attributes in a search. And as far as people misrepresenting themselves online...besides a photoshopped photo, there really is no difference in meeting someone in-person who lies/misrepresents themselves 🤷‍♀️

I'm not even tryna date during this pandemic. I've had positive experiences from each possible scenario (met from work, instagram, mutual friends, dating app) at the end of the day it's just about being open and going for it.

The App is just a platform like every other opportunity. You have to expose yourself to more than one platform of opportunity. Most importantly be vigilant, expect the unexpected but never say never.

Amazing how it has come to this, we were warned w/COMPUTER LOVE a long time ago, We are losing our natural CONNECTIONS - Knowledge of self -

They're all very handsome. Great conversation as well.

I would like to see more of these round tables of men and woman that are still in the dating pool and some that recently got in relationships

I agree with both sides...it can.be uncomfortable, but it's an option. I agree with the gentleman you have to put in the work for love to manifest on its own

good discussion

Dating apps are there so people can meet in person....not continue talking virtually, what would be the point of that?

As someone who has met people on-line and in person, it's definitely more about meeting in person after a few conversations to feel a person out. I'd rather authenticly meet someone while I'm out to be honest but my schedule is crazy. My problem is I feel dating apps can make people lazy, my opinion.

Dating apps will tank most men's self esteem. You do not get many matches and the few you do get don't even turn into a date. Most guys need to meet someone in person and give very little, if any, time to dating apps

if he's never home, why are you dating or hoping to date? is there an end date to the travel?

I'm really vibing wt the perspective of the gentleman with the dark grey shirt. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

At this point, I’m just gonna do both...between in-person🧍🏽‍♀️and on-line 👩🏽‍💻, something’s got to give!! 💓🤷🏽‍♀️ If there are any single men (for single woman) scrolling thru the comments...I’m in Atlanta 😉

I think dating apps are great for getting a chance to see what’s out there. And if you’re really busy like I am I have time in the late evenings but I’m typically working out and then on the weekend. I’m out and about with family so for me, I feel like online dating is definitely another way to meet individuals when you are not out much to mingle. But either way I feel like you’re still gonna have to go through the same Avenue of getting to know a person, and that takes time, depending on how transparent they are.

I respect each of their opinions but dating apps are just the vehicle to meeting. I personally would never use it again because most of the guys I met are weird in person. I rather vibe & meet in person, if we meant to meet then God will allow us to cross paths despite any circumstances

Incredibly an informative lol,

I agree though you still have to wast time and energy texting before you can tell whether the vibe is there

The “ Organic Way” Is The Best Way For ME~

I gotta agree, these dating apps really don't work for me.

Da’ Vinchi fine!!!!! 🤣🤣 & he looks familiar too!! What work has he done?? Edit: omg!! This is Cash from Grownish 😭

I like what the guy was saying about the dating app is the vehicle like a concert. The first meeting is when you get to see if there is a connection. My only thing is that if you’re meeting someone online, that first meeting needs to be something quick, simple and not expensive. It can be more of a greeting than a date. If y’all vibe, then set up a date. With all that said, I think single people should meet people on apps and in real life! Why limit yourself?

Life doesn’t work like that for everyone... take action and explore opportunities... cover your bases!!!

Love ❤ It

Um, so how long is black shirt talking to people online? LOL If you not trynna meet in person after a week of back and forth, I don't have time. 🤷🏾

Da'vinchi has a point and I learned to stop trying to find someone and let God send me the right one. I tried the dating apps and it was so much lying, married men trying to see if they still got it, people getting killed meeting up. Lesson learned. I am much happier waiting on God.

God gives free will and asks us to use his wisdom to guide our decisions and actions. Finding your wife through a dating app is not interrupting God’s plan.

Dating apps have their place... but I’m done with them. I’ve had goose egg luck... another avenue for liars and cheaters. Smh

What dating app did your homegirl meet the billionaire on? Asking for a friend, lol.

Honestly there’s no difference in dating apps and meeting someone online. I feel like you can feel the connection either way. People mask who they are in real life. You can see a man in person who’s dressed to the 9s, who puts on this facade as if they are a gentleman when really he is a woman beater, lives with his mom and etc. people are just as catfish in person like they are online. It’s really NOOO difference. I’m definitely giving these apps a try 🤷🏾‍♀️

id rather find women who dont use dating apps, i feel most are shallow

Where's Kirkwood's socials. I need it for something. 😍

I think it depends on what you want in a partner. I think it takes a lot more effort for a man to approach a woman vice shooting their shot on tinder to several women at one time...

I don’t do dating apps I’ve gotta side with my man Davinchi. It’s too hard to filter through people on an app.

A particular vibes from a couple of these guys... maybe another possible

DaVinci sounds like he puts in no effort 🤣🤣🤣

Agreed. "When you force something, you're going against Gods plan"

Love this conversation ❤️ I date online

I haven’t been able to trust dating apps either. I just look at the profiles & log off.

I met my man on an datibg app and it was one of the worst ones out there. Yet he's the best thing that's happened to be since the quarantine (we met during Rona). I agree on when your not looking it will find you but that doesn't apply to everyone.

Dating apps give you the opportunity to meet someone you may never have met. But it also can lend to not giving someone a chance because you have way too many people to choose from. Either way it takes time to get to know someone.

Best thing is to meet on app and with in a week meet in person, otherwise it’s a imaginary friend

In general I think dating sites are a good thing. The advantages of dating apps is that it gives you access to a much larger pool of people for very little work and time vs trying to meet randomly people in person (e.g. stores, church) or hitting singles spots/events (e.g. clubs, bars). It also allows you to expand pool of people geographically (i.e. talk to people located far from you or even in foreign countries). You can also target certain demographics based on race (e.g. interracial dating), age (e.g. people over 50yo), religion (e.g. christian, jewish, muslim), sexual preferences (e.g. LBGTQ, kink or fetish), etc. Dating sites are also better for introverts and people who dont like bars and clubs. They are also safer for women in initial contact (e.g. guys spiking women's drinks, stalkers, drunks, guys who respond violently to rejection). Dating sites are also a way for men to avoid embarrassment from public rejection. There are disadvantages of dating sites. The biggest being biases ... stats show that 80% of women all want the same 20% of men typicallly based on their looks and money. So good looking guys will do well. On the other hand women (even unattractive ones) may be bombarded with lot of f-boys just looking to get laid or foreign men looking for green card hookup. Then their are scammers (but you can meet them in person also). Dating sites are also great for catfishers but you can weed them out using live video calls. Dating sites also allow people to project false personas with fake profile photos (i.e. faking wealth, married people cheating) but scammers can lie just as easily in a bar or club also.

Am looking forward for the man of my dream, who is loving, caring and focus.

I'm just curious because the guy is from New York and he says he uses a dating app, I went to New York for a week and I felt you could meet anybody just stepping out of the door. You want to meet a businessman walk down Wall Street, is it because I'm a tourist and live in suburb cities, meaning you have to drive to see many people..although it isn't truly the suburb? I really love New York it was constant entertainment for free and you didnt have to travel for hours, you jumped on the subway you were in a new place. Then entertainment on the train, the New Yorkers looked annoyed and I was like yes, it was actually a great performance. 😍😃, but New Yorkers-->🙄😫

I think you can meet the right person anywhere but dating apps sometimes mean that men and women will talk to multiple people online but never take it offline. I think as long as you try to meet in person as soon as possible to know whether it’s worth a second date or not, there’s a chance of things working out. I’ve met an ex on eharmony and we went on a date after 3 conversations. I was on another site where the men just wanted to talk but no intention of going on a date. Some even said it would be costly to go on dates. I prefer the idea of a man approaching me and pursuing me in a regular environment like a supermarket where I’m dressed casually but 1 in 3 relationships these days start online so it shouldn’t be ruled out.

Ah mahn the first guy who spoke is literally how I think about apps

In the middle of a pandemic, how do you meet people?

I am agree with Di Vinchi. But I do understand that some people prefer to Date online and that’s fine and Daddy. I’m old school and prefer to meet a person in person.

Plus how your gonna see folks with mask on.

Am looking for a serious relationship that will work out

Amazing group of intelligent men. For me I feel like dating apps are ruining my life😂- I'm much older then I look so if I put my real age I get weeded out automatically by 99% of men. If I lie and put 39yrs old I could go on 20 dates a week but 52 yrs with the same photos... and it's crickets. Guess its crickets for life after a certain point these days. 🤷🏼‍♀️

like I tell people...….location doesn't matter...…intention does.....you can meet a guy or woman in a 5 star resort doesn't mean that they're going to treat you any better then the man or woman you'd meet in a liquor store in the hood...….and I understand his point. But me personally video chatting is the time saver for me if we cant video chat so we can feel each other out then its no point of us talking it saves way more time then meeting up with every single person trying to figure them out when I can save my gas and resources figuring out if your for me right through Facebook massager lol

Over 30 seasons of Snapped from people who met in person. Not to mention all the other crime shows. Most of that happened before dating apps. You just have to vet everybody.

the anti-app arguments are so strange...once you meet people on the app you go on dates so you end up meeting them in person, so how is that different from meeting someone at the grocery store and then ask them out on a date ? My wife and I didn't meet online, but I know several couples who did and they are working just fine. And let's not acting like before the app people couldn't be fake, liars or else.

I feel my brother in the black...meet people out; always of attraction. I don’t do dating apps.