My 8-Year-Old Saw My Husband Kissing Another Woman

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@yogaqueen1527 5 дней назад

That man BEEN cheating. She is in denial.

@tkbreen1381 5 дней назад

His response to getting caught cheating proves that he knows she won’t do anything about it

@triplebbb291 5 дней назад

This guy being so brazen in front of his family home, daughter and wife is scary. RUN!

@texasgoddess323 5 дней назад

Because he knew he could do it to her!

@pamelawilliams9574 5 дней назад

I feel for this woman. My daughter discovered emails between my then husband and a co worker (telling each other they loved one another, etc) and my poor child had to be the one to tell me. I got all my ducks in a row and divorced him. My daughter and I are thriving together 5 years later. I could never stay with someone I couldn't trust and I could never let my daughter think that was how a man treats his wife. God bless all who deal with cheating....it is heartwrenching.

@Manarhaz_8 5 дней назад

You’re a great mom ! Proud of you

@pamelawilliams9574 5 дней назад

@@Manarhaz_8 Thank you! No one deserves to be disrespected and we must teach our children that.

@supernotnatural 5 дней назад

Men needs more than 1 woman. That's how it works. Men doesn't cheat with emotions and intimacy, womens do. Just like kings who have more than 1 wifes etc. Even in strict religions, men are allowed to have wifes up to 4 or 5. It's the nature. Men needs to spread their sperms as much as possible for survival. And for you, that's what happens when you pursue relationship for guy to settle when it'snot %100 for him. He goes along, then finds love and you are shocked why.

@Lipstickandchampagne 5 дней назад

Very proud of you! ❤ Happy to hear you and your daughter are flourishing. 😊

@pamelawilliams9574 5 дней назад

@@Lipstickandchampagne 🥰 Thank you!

@SLickev92 5 дней назад

Divorce that bum. He’s bold af to do that in his driveway for everyone to see. Definitely not his first time believe that. And don’t blame it on the booze . He’s not happy with his life.

@juicysmith38235 5 дней назад

Ashley, if you read this please know this comment is out of respect & compassion. I'm so sorry your heart is broken. I am the product of a child who grew up in this environment. I never witnessed the cheating, however I lived through my mother's heartbreak and trying to step up to the plate to help my mom when my father wasn't around due to being out partying & drunk with God knows who. My mother never left my father. I never understood. My mother deserved better. I am now almost 40 & growing up in that environment like that made a huge impact on my life that has followed me into adulthood. If you love your child so much much then please leave for her sake if you can'tleave for own self respect. No "family" meeting is needed. All she needs to know is that daddy made a decision on his own and so mommy had to make her own decision based off respect for herself. God bless 🙏

@brightpage1020 3 дня назад

💯!!! 🎉❤ I’m so sorry for what you went through but I know this comment will help so many. For that reason, I feel grateful for your share.

@miltoncat 5 дней назад

She doesn’t sound ready to leave him yet. I hope she gets strong enough to leave soon.

@mariaroquavega5664 5 дней назад

It's not her job to save him. That's his responsibility

@DrewsThoughts 3 дня назад

I wish all women took the same approach. It's not a man's job to fix a woman's past of how broken they are or damaged from their past either.

@DHass64 5 дней назад

Dr Delony is right....this isn't your husband's first time cheating. They get bolder and bolder each time. I know this because I was married to a serial cheater for 16 years. He could always talk his way of things that happened, someone calling our house, him coming home super late, etc. Until he met the woman that he wanted to leave our marriage for. I tried to keep our family together for the sake of the kids. It didn't work which was a blessing for me. I am now with an awesome man who, in 19 years, has never given one reason to question him or his intentions. Meanwhile, my exhusband cheated on the woman he left me for, and she cheated on him as well. I'd encourage you to get out of this marriage! He will manipulate the situation so it's all your fault. Put yourself first. It's time!

@JustinCase780 5 дней назад

John.."Are you having to explain about his funeral.." 😅😅😅😅

@dahliaherrod4301 5 дней назад

Oh Ashley. She's not leaving this man. My mother has friends just like her and always recommends two choices: Leave or let that man cheat in peace. I suspect, based on the fact their house is near or on a golf course, that this reckless husband is providing a nice life for Ashley and she's hesitant to stop the gravy train. If her daughter hadn't seen what happened, I guarantee you she would have sucked it up and never even mentioned anything to anyone. But now she's gotta deal with reality and wreck a very nicely decorated fantasy.

@lauramclaine504 5 дней назад

You took the words right out of my mouth that’s exactly exactly what I was going to say, I know a lot of women like that that will stay for the lifestyle and they’ll just sleep in separate bedrooms. It’s more common than we think. I see it a lot in my age group 60 and over.

@spriggy4382 5 дней назад

They entertained friends in their home within days of the offense. Can you imagine? Ashley is desperate to sweep this under the rug at any cost.

@CG-MP 5 дней назад

about the golf cart: lots of average people own golf carts in small towns. There's only two stores, so they buzz around town on them. My sister lives in a town like that. Just saying that it doesn't necessarily mean they're rich.

@thornyrose1235 4 дня назад

Yep. She called Dr. John thinking he would tell her what to say to her husband to make him feel bad so he won't do it again. Dr. John tried to help her accept reality but she's not ready for it yet.

@AlexisDavis16 5 дней назад

I saw my dad kiss another women at 8 years old too. I still think about how crushing it was. My dad NEVER stopped cheating.

@manylaughs9002 5 дней назад

That is so sad

@actual_doge3221 5 дней назад

My dad took me to his girlfriends house. And going by my moms words he kept going for years. My mom and I knew he cheated but she doesnt know about the first part.

@chancegocrazy 4 дня назад

@@actual_doge3221Damnn u gotta spill the beans

@daisy9910 5 дней назад

She needs to divorce the loser.

@dabd8175 5 дней назад

@@daisy9910 she needs to submit to her husband

@marylevin9262 5 дней назад

@@dabd8175bad joke

@alwaysyouramanda 5 дней назад

😢 peas… peas will pod

@MissG-yl6xj 5 дней назад

She's a loser herself ..i cant stand woman like this

@maybel5012 5 дней назад

@@dabd8175😆😆😆 go bible!

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 5 дней назад

No regard for the family whatsoever 😔

@truehogan 4 дня назад

The woman is in such denial that she gaslighting her own daughter.

@wodi28179 5 дней назад

I was married to someone exactly like him. Same exact thing happened except there wasn't a small child around. He doesn't love or respect you. It will happen again maybe not with her but with someone else. Stop making excuses for him and start loving yourself!! You have to do what's best for you. You can't be the best for your daughter if you're miserable all the time. I get it if you're scared to be alone because I've been there but you deserve so much better whether you believe it or not. Get an attorney and get it done. Don't wait another day. It won't get better. I promise you. I know it hurts but it's the truth.

@alluringbliss4165 5 дней назад

I think she has much deeper problems which derive from low self worth. She need a lot of help.

@jennifersteen8236 2 дня назад

My husband was like this. Got sober. Been sober for a long time. He has never really been sorry or owned up to his actions. He still does unacceptable things eventhoughhe's sober. He has pivoted to slightly less bad things. But as a whole he really hasn't changed .

@BigBobbyBoLo 5 дней назад

" No Im trying t have some fun" is a wild ass response! wow! Drunk responses are true responses

@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose 5 дней назад

I am a crush to a married man right now & he's so addicted to see me that he keeps staring at me with a big smile, even in front of his children although I am cold to him & even two times near his wife who then looked at me like as if I was his affair or something alike although there is & will be NOTHING between us... Those people are NEVER marriage material because they just don't even care for their children, which is clearly shown with their egocentric, zero empathy actions. Leave him to have a better future with a right man who sees & appreciates your high value. Don't lower yourself for people who aren't worth the time. 💯 ✨️ ❤

@Mrs.TJTaylor 4 дня назад

He has no respect for his wife or his daughter. He shamed them in front of their home for their neighbors and all the world to see. She’s the proverbial doormat.

@StarletOfDavid 4 дня назад

She still wants this man? She’s trying to excuse his behavior by saying he’s got PTSD. No, he’s just an ass. She needs to figure out logistics. Selling the house - hoarding some money away. Sthg along those lines.

@esmeseyfried6394 5 дней назад

She's fine with the situation, she just upset the daughter knows

@marylevin9262 5 дней назад

😮

@flashthecorgi2053 5 дней назад

@@SarahConnor562Eh I feel like she’s in shock more than just “tolerating this for the security of marriage.” Delony did give her some great guidance if she will take it!

@flashthecorgi2053 5 дней назад

@@SarahConnor562 Yeah I guess you’re right. It’s hard to say if there is a definitive answer here. I do believe Delony is right this isn’t the first time he’s cheated based on the husbands firm “NO, I’m just trying to have fun.” BUT then again alcohol makes you do stupid, wild stuff. I really think the deeper issue here is the drinking and that’s what needs to be addressed unless he is truly having an affair with the neighbor which it’s hard to say at this point! Bottom line though feel terrible for the poor little 8 yo girl in the middle of this!

@yogaqueen1527 5 дней назад

Bingo

@anglofrancaiseyvonne9349 5 дней назад

When I got divorced, I begged my ex to keep his dirty business away from my boys, I just didnt want them to think whatever he does was right and let them lose respect for themselves and others, how bad that man is divorce him!!

@lav7161 5 дней назад

John nailed it. This call isn't about the daughter. She's too prideful to say she was devastated to see her husband with another woman. Edit: After hearing the full call, she is in complete denial. Deep down, she knows this wasn't the first time he cheated. Low self esteem can ruin you.

@alluringbliss4165 5 дней назад

I wondering what’s wrong with you: prideful!!!

@erzabetf9544 5 дней назад

Prideful? Or maybe bewildered and unprepared for her husband’s disgusting, disrespectful behavior. And maybe she doesn’t want to admit to herself or anyone else that she married and had a kid with a degenerate. And maybe she knows that, as bad as it is to be married to this @sshat, it might be worse to be divorced from him. Imagine “co-parenting” with this guy, who hates his wife and doesn’t seem to care about his daughter; he’ll skip visits whenever he feels like it; and he won’t pay child support on time, if at all.

@Kinksgalore 5 дней назад

She's the type to say, "I'm only here for the kids." Thanks to Dr. John for calling her out and saying keep the child out of adult drama.

@cherylvisconti 4 дня назад

@@erzabetf9544exactly

@thornyrose1235 4 дня назад

Yeah it was sad. She kept saying that she's going to have more words for her husband later as if there's a magical concoction of words that can get him to change his behaviours and that is why she called Dr. John for help. Her husband will not change because he doesn't have to. She will accept all of his bad behaviours because she's in denial. I feel for her daughter who will grow up thinking this is ok

@MissG-yl6xj 5 дней назад

That lady is Insane!!! YOU ONLY GET TREATED THE WAY YOU ALLOW PEOPLE TO. How is she not outraged or fuming mad at what her husband did ..she's more concern on how it looks to her daughter .... smh.

@dahliaherrod4301 5 дней назад

I don't think she's allowed herself to feel the full weight of her husband's betrayal. It's a lot so I get it but it's not helpful at all.

@kellyturner4571 5 дней назад

Am I in the twilight zone?! You’re showing your daughter what love and marriage looks like. This is unacceptable behavior! His actions AND his words. *Leave.*

@cindieogata1578 5 дней назад

She may not have the skills. He should be the one to go - she should change the locks - put his clothes in luggage and in his car - file for a restraining order and divorce.

@erzabetf9544 5 дней назад

@@cindieogata1578 You can’t just get a restraining order because you’re mad at someone. 😂 I think she should leave this jerk, for sure, but she can’t get a court to order him to stay away from her because he kissed the neighbor. And she’ll make herself look like a crazy harridan if she tries.

@Siamese66 4 дня назад

What if she have anywhere else to go?

@PollyPatriot 5 дней назад

I saw my father kissing a neighbor when I was about 3 years old; It stuck with me. I’m 61 years old.

@jamiebrown-nugent9120 5 дней назад

Yikes! I'm trying to have some fun?!?

@BSCTrainerRob 5 дней назад

A friend of mine confided in me that when he was 8 he walked in on his dad making out with his secretary in the office. After that his dad became much closer with him and he never became very tight with his mom, even to this day. Its like his dad took him under his wing to keep him quiet. He never told him mom but who knows what she knew

@alwaysyouramanda 5 дней назад

Gross… here’s one for the birth control adds. (If women were directing them.)

@alluringbliss4165 5 дней назад

He probably will become like his father

@tamiaedrington5762 5 дней назад

I feel bad but this woman was a bit frustrating to listen to. You just walked out on your husband cheating in front of your daughter and you don’t know what to do? Glad he told her to grow a spine, protect your daughter’s heart if you’re too weak to do it for yourself but my empathy runs low when kids are involved.

@alluringbliss4165 5 дней назад

You sound as cold as the husband. Better say nothing when you have nothing valuable to add.

@Abulls33 5 дней назад

She’s asking a genuine question. Shes almost certainly in shock considering she saw her husband, kissing another woman. And you shouldn’t say “but” during an apology. No “but”

@Cashhhhew 5 дней назад

@@SarahConnor562would you say the same to a career fire fighter? They have the highest rate of lung disease/cancer and they chose to do that job. It’s on them then, right?

@Abulls33 5 дней назад

@@SarahConnor562 and how exactly did the caller bring this on herself? What was her said “role” in this situation?

@Abulls33 5 дней назад

@@SarahConnor562 you are so unsympathetic and you’re not proving me wrong so, conversation over. Have a nice day

@karil6461 4 дня назад

"Im trying to have some fun" 🙅‍♀️ that man would have needed the cops after that

@indiaandrews6996 5 дней назад

It is amazing what adults do in front of children thinking it won’t go anywhere.

@erzabetf9544 5 дней назад

I think he knew what he was doing. He hates his wife and probably struggles not to hate his daughter. He’s trash. Ashley should leave this dirtbag.

@joansmith8840 5 дней назад

I stayed 20 years with a guy just like that because I didn’t want my family torn apart… but the fact is he had already torn our family apart every time he cheated drank gambled and lied

@midnightblue117 3 дня назад

I’m assuming you are co- dependant?

@pamelavesey6381 5 дней назад

She is going to sacrifice her daughter to keep the man. I no longer feel sorry for weak enablers.

@Carla-hl3fm 5 дней назад

I don't think she was trying to put it on her daughter. She was trying to figure out what to say to her and how.

@elizabethlkemp 5 дней назад

Why are people so rude in the comments???

@JustinCase780 5 дней назад

Pretty strange. Sweet lady made this call and she's in so much pain and in fear. John helped her a lot.

@dahliaherrod4301 5 дней назад

@@SarahConnor562 I was worried the responses to this woman's question would be terrible but yours was actually quite apt and really summarized what I've seen in every Dr. Deloney video I've seen to date.

@ilykepink 4 дня назад

Telling the truth isn’t rude

@amethystmoonchild6568 4 дня назад

Because they want better for her and I know she’s not gonna get it because she’s going to stay with him she doesn’t want better for herself. This will be her life and it’s upsetting

@elizabethlkemp 4 дня назад

@@ilykepink The truth is fine. The judgements attached are what I have a problem with. Using descriptors like "stupid", "loser", "insane", "bad mom" are unnecessary.

@9liveslisa 5 дней назад

His drinking problem is 10 times worse than she thinks it is. What he did is not OK in any way, shape, or form. If she stays married to him, it will happen again. He doesn't care at all. He wanted her to see this. If it were me, I'd walk out the door with my daughter and never look back. I'd be telling myself, I deserve a hell of a lot better than this. And I'd be teaching my daughter that too.

@Emptytopfloor 5 дней назад

Divorce

@dabd8175 5 дней назад

@@Emptytopfloor Dog mom

@Mmmmkaaay 4 дня назад

@@dabd8175you say that like it's a bad thing. 🤔

@dabd8175 4 дня назад

@@Mmmmkaaay it is

@Mmmmkaaay 4 дня назад

@@dabd8175 That's okay. Not everyone loves dogs.

@user-ku5vm5jb1h 4 дня назад

That cheater would have been out of the house THAT NIGHT! Divorce papers served next business day. Period.

@melkerner 5 дней назад

I feel bad for her. My wife hasn't kissed me or touched mt for 8 years and very little the 7 years before that - and I would never do anything like this, especially in front of my kids. Good Lord what is wrong with people?

@GalaxyFluke 5 дней назад

That’s so sad. What is your wife’s problem? Sounds like she doesn’t care about you. Good for you for being a good man. But this breaks my heart

@brownin329 5 дней назад

Why are you still there? Does she know how you feel? If you've done the work and it's still not working, you know where the door is. Get some counseling for yourself and when you're ready to go, get a lawyer and a place to live before you end things. Good luck to you.

@melkerner 5 дней назад

@@brownin329 We are in counseling

@azimuthbusinesscenter 5 дней назад

this is a teachable moment. Little Jimmy needs to learn about blackmail and extortion

@alwaysyouramanda 5 дней назад

😂

@Juli-ge4yp 4 дня назад

It is not Ashley's job to make her husband a better dad or better man. She can't make him something he's not. But Ashley can model for her young daughter what self-respect looks like and what types of behaviors are unacceptable & and will not be tolerated. This shouldn't be confused with showing someone grace and giving forgiveness. He hasnt demonstrated any remorse or assumed any responsibility for the behavior his child and wife saw, his complete lack of respect for his wife, and his disregard for the impact his choices have made on those he supposedly loved.

@distorbia20 5 дней назад

This woman has checked out too and an eight year old is stuck with them. The husband and wife both have weird way of communicating.

@Lipstickandchampagne 5 дней назад

Wow! Had a similar experience but it was my Dad getting cheated on by my step mom. She took me and her daughter to go shopping (I was then 6 and she was 3). She then pulled over in front of a house, got out the car, and met some guy and they just started kissing. I was like wtf? Once we got to the house, my Dad asked where we had been. Of course I was truthful, and she started calling me all types of liars. Like lady what? 😂. And she got her daughter to lie for her. I also had to go back home after that. (I was visiting for the summer).

@Elizabethatthebeach 5 дней назад

It feels like she still isnt ready to leave yet... Hopefully she can begin to get some counseling and build up her self enough to face reality. Then maybe she will be strong enough to leave.

@gschneider225 4 дня назад

If anything, The wife is under reacting to what her husband did. Drinking is not an excuse, and he has probably cheated on her before and will continue to do so.

@thornyrose1235 3 дня назад

For sure. If that was the first time his drunk ass kissed that neighbour she would have been like "Get off me! What the heck are you doing?!" They've been going at it a lot longer than the caller wants to believe

@kayn2756 5 дней назад

She is looking for every excuse to rationalize his behavior. 😢😢😢. He has been messing with the neighbor for a long time, and maybe there are others.

@sds6303 5 дней назад

Dr. John is missing the fact that this man is highly narcissistic & will NEVER change. He won’t go to therapy, he won’t go to AA, he won’t stop cheating. He has no empathy & even likes seeing her in pain. He sadly doesn’t care about her or his family. He doesn’t think he has a problem. This is a personality thing.

@userP8t05jP82K 4 дня назад

Very well put: "he doesn't think he has a problem" Exactly like my ex-husband. He sees prostitutes and thinks it's cool and acceptable while having a wife meanwhile professing undying love to the wife at the same time.

@noone-dv1jo 3 дня назад

@@userP8t05jP82Kwell if it’s just prostitutes it’s probably just a man being horny, those two aren’t mutually exclusive

@mrsTraveller64 4 дня назад

So she caught him with his secret gf, but she is too blind to see it. The husband is lucky to have a wife who allows him to have a gf!!!!! I hope she stops lying to herself about thinking it's a one time fling, IT IS NOT. And it really doesn't matter, she needs to get out fast OR get used to beeing the wife of a cheater. He will NOT stop, he will continue to HAVE FUN as he calls it.

@brightpage1020 3 дня назад

I know a lady who caught her hubs cheating when she and their kids drive up to surprise him with supper at closing time. They got a surprise. Her daughter (I think 7 at the time?) goes: “Daddy is *so* busted!” She said if it weren’t for the kids in the car, she’d have driven over the affair parties. She had to stop herself from doing that because she knew that would mean Dad was dead and mommy was in jail and either of those would be worse than seeing what they had just seen. But she said her foot was over the gas pedal for a full minute while she talked herself down before they realized his family was there watching them in the car.

@laurao8099 5 дней назад

I think it's a stretch to say that the mama's putting all of this on her daughter! The dad is the one who put this on his daughter

@erzabetf9544 5 дней назад

I think JD meant that she was focusing on her daughter when she should’ve been focusing on her husband’s behavior and her own reaction to it. Not that she was blaming her daughter.

@laurao8099 5 дней назад

@erzabetf9544 Yeah, I know it's just the way he worded it that was really abrupt and blunt. In the beginning, she said she wanted help on how to approach this with her daughter.

@erzabetf9544 5 дней назад

@@laurao8099 She seemed to be looking for magic words to make this okay for her daughter, instead of trying to figure out how she feels about it. She’s like a lot of people who just want a miracle to make the bad thing disappear. There’s nothing she can do for her daughter until she decides what to do for herself. She can’t tell her husband to drink less and expect that he’ll … drink less and behave better. That man hates her. He HATES her. There’s no other explanation. So she can’t focus on what lie to tell her daughter to make it all go away, and expect that her daughter will come out unscathed.

@savedbygracespurling1840 5 дней назад

This lady didn’t care that her husband kissed someone else☹️

@agricolaregs 5 дней назад

That’s not what I get at all.

@donnawheeler2195 4 дня назад

This woman is a flake. He has 100% cheated, and she’s delusional.

@MsBamafanatic День назад

Her "I means" drove me crazy. She is in denial that she is an enabler. She doesn't really want to have the hard conversation of, "You need to do this, or we are moving on." She doesn't want to lose that false security.

@alluringbliss4165 5 дней назад

One reason I am very scared to be married.

@missinginbc 5 дней назад

I pray you find the one God has for you. 😊

@cherylvisconti 4 дня назад

Stay single.

@shayesmithcustomlyricvideos 3 дня назад

I don’t think this will end well. His disregard for his wife and child says it all.

@atomicgeisha 5 дней назад

I would lock him out of the house.

@ae3209 5 дней назад

That he just wanted to have fun 😮😮😮 that was so deeply disrespectful

@tmoh808 5 дней назад

She needs to divorce him ASAP!

@angryshadeofpink 3 дня назад

This wasn't drunk behavior at all. He's a cheater and alcohol is just a convenient cover story because the caller believes it. I hope she finds the strength to realize she deserves better and her daughter absolutely needs better than this.

@l3hxy 5 дней назад

He gets to that point when he's drinking because he wants to. It's not any deeper than that. He's selfish. That's it. She's only down to waste her whole life wondering how he got to this point of selfishness because she doesn't believe she can make herself happier yet. What a redemption story that would be for her daughter though

@honeybadgerdgf8876 5 дней назад

Bless her heart.

@BigBobbyBoLo 5 дней назад

I need to know more about this Neighbor... Is she also married? what was her response? I need answers?!?!?

@tiger05rtc 4 дня назад

This guy is such a woman pleaser. He knows what position in these arguments makes the most money.

@truehogan 4 дня назад

That husband done cheated before and Barbara knows it. Girl, get your ducks in a row and leave him. Blink if you’re afraid for your life. Is he a psychopath? Has he threatened to harm you and your baby if you leave?

@beataimiolek4856 2 дня назад

Our father has disrespected our mum their whole marriage. Over 30 years now. He has cheated, abused mentally and physically, borrowed big sums of money behind her back, he is an alcoholic too, thinks women belong in the kitchen and doesn't do anything at home (even hard work that meant to be done by a man, my mum does). He is the worst husband ever yet my mum never divorced him. We begged her many times and keep advising to do so but she won't. They live under one roof but are basically roommates that hate each other. He ruined her life as much as ours (kids). I'm 33 and never been in relationship. I know what I don't want and trusting a man is hard for me. I wonder if I ever meet one that is loving and loyal because love and loyalty is what I offer and want nothing less than that.

@CaToRi- 5 дней назад

Neighbors should know a lot more about his infidelities

@UpStateNyXHwife12 3 дня назад

She's a lot more hurt than we could ever even imagine, Because if she walks away from her husband she loses everything, her home her lifestyle her car her everything shall have nothing and either will her kids

@mmmmlllljohn 5 дней назад

Alcoholics lie to their family and lie to themselves. They cannot see reality so I hope this mom can be strong and tell him to leave until he can show her he is sober and going to AA. Don’t worry about what he is going through or why he drinks because you can’t control any of that but you can control what you will do with the crap he has put on you and your 8 year old. Show your daughter that women deserve respect or she will allow herself to be disrespected. ❤️

@Girlgonewise 5 дней назад

Xanax is a hell of a drug. This lady is completely zoned out.

@alexandrabecerra9271 5 дней назад

I hope because the voice is so calm

@maggiekuzera8243 4 дня назад

I would ask my husband that if a man did this to our daughter how would he feel if she came to her daddy and told him what her husband did. How would he react.

@davinasquirrel7672 4 дня назад

She wants to know what to say, so he can get it together? Nope. Here is what you say... "Time to pack your stuff, you are moving out TODAY. You will not treat me, or our daughter like that. You have a low regard for females, clearly. You made a choice to fool around with the neighbour, in public, and then had the audacity not to be apologetic for your actions (at the time). Choices have consequences, and moving out (and divorce) are those consequences for you." Because the most telling behaviour in all of this, was his attitude straight after the fact "I was just having some fun". That means he has zero respect for you, and he has had previous 'fun' (being so casual when caught). Delony is correct, the chances of this dude turning it around, are next to zero. Rip off the bandaid, and fast. The sooner you do that, the sooner you can get your life back on an even keel.

@dakotaflower5926 3 дня назад

What’s truly sad is that women invited her daughter so she could hit on Dad… this was not the first time they cheated.

@ananimity7332 5 дней назад

DIVORCE HIM!!!!!

@cheriremily9360 3 дня назад

Sunk Cost Fallacy at work. She thinks she has to hold onto this marriage at all costs. She thinks he's 'fixable'. She doesn't want to 'fail' at marriage, but what is she teaching her daughter about relationships is going to damage her.

@callenday6853 20 часов назад

If I had to guess, in his heart of hearts, he wants out. Still a child.

@sherburck 4 дня назад

She wants to fix him….

@TheVampireLily 3 дня назад

Girl, if he was THAT lackadaisical and flip about you catching him....then it certainly wasn't the 1st time, nor will it be the last. The best thing you can do for your daughter is: Be honest and; Kick him out...because if your daughter sees that it was okay for her dad to disrespect her mom then she's going to think that her future partner will be allowed to treat her the same way.

@melodyfluterbox 3 дня назад

I think this lady needs to let herself get angry. I hope she sees her worth one day (very soon) and that her eyes become open so that the awareness of her husband’s disgusting behavior encourages her to make some hard choices. Show her 8 year old daughter an example of standing up for your worth and what won’t be tolerated. Otherwise I fear the daughter is just going to find herself in the same situation when she’s an adult…married…with kids. Stop the cycle!!!

@bayareacali 5 дней назад

ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER! DIVORCE THE LOSER!

@truehogan 4 дня назад

This woman is crying out for help. She’s terrified.

@actual_doge3221 5 дней назад

My father took me to his girlfriends house. I still keep thos secret nearly 20 years later .

@AlexisDavis16 4 дня назад

🥺

@pt4350 4 дня назад

Why do I feel like I’m more upset than she is?

@juniorlsdmusic 5 дней назад

Get video evidence because he'll deny it of course and say it only happened one time drunk.

@lyndalamb3221 5 дней назад

"I'm not real happy about it"-John was right about the husband's funeral. Why did Daddy do that? Because Daddy doesn't think he has to keep the promise he made to Mommy.

@ThePrincessWorrior 2 дня назад

Mother just called wanting to know how to ease her daughter about the situation. She didn’t want to know what to do with the husband, dr. D. All them advises and your ‘help her anger’ were not what she called for. She knew he got side chics for fun all over and is okay with it 😂

@Molly.Blaylock 5 дней назад

Oh darlin…

@beautepley8352 5 дней назад

She's in denial a little bit, give her a break. Her life has completely fallen apart right in front of her eyes & she knows that. That's devastating. It's easier to react & know what to do when you know there's hope. This is a complete relationship dagger & shes just trying to process how soon to hire a lawyer & cook up some divorce papers. Shes calling delony cuz she wants the green light.

@Mayfloweralways 4 дня назад

I’m going to guess that most or almost all of their conversations start with how she is the problem and she has gotten to the point where she assumes that’s true. That’s why she is so calm. She sees it as she broke things by not being enough for her husband. and can fix it- you can hear it in the “i can fix this problem with him” approach. She doesn’t see that he is the one that is the literal problem and she cannot fix him, and it’s not her job to fix this. It’s his. But i can also guess he won’t. He has no respect for her.

@lot2196 5 дней назад

Not one comment about the neighbor woman? This guy must be the catch of the trailer court.

@spriggy4382 5 дней назад

The neighbor is irrelevant to the marriage. As Dr. Jon pointed out, it's highly unlikely this is his first offense. Cheaters usually choose whichever willing body is closest to them. If it wasn't the neighbor, it'd be the coworker, the nanny, or some rando from Tinder. The problem lies with him.

@erzabetf9544 5 дней назад

What did the neighbor do? She didn’t violate the husband’s marriage vows. He did. I wouldn’t invite the neighbor over any more, but the neighbor isn’t the problem here. It’s the degenerate husband. 😂

@lot2196 5 дней назад

@erzabetf9544 yes she did. Sheesh

@erzabetf9544 4 дня назад

@@lot2196 The neighbor might’ve violated her own marriage vows. But she didn’t make any vows to Ashley, so she didn’t violate the husband’s vows. I wouldn’t socialize with her, but she’s really the least of anyone’s problems. And … truth be told, I’d never socialize with anyone living in a community where you can drive around in golf carts - whether she’s the cul de sac tr@mp or not. 😂

@CyberXShinobi 5 дней назад

Looking at these comments reminds me that you shouldn't take life advice from people in the comment section.😅

@susanamunoz3537 5 дней назад

Which one for example? They all seem pretty on point to me

@missinginbc 5 дней назад

Hahaha. Yup!😂

@kaitlincyr 2 дня назад

She keeps saying I have "so much to say", he should have lots to say, including apologies and a plan for how to make things better. Iit shouldn't be up to her

@santacruz7455 10 часов назад

My guess is: Ashley has no clue how her life could look like and feel without her husband. She is scared of the big change a separation or divorce would bring. Maybe it would help to figure out the positive sides of being single again , create a mind set where the future is not dark, sad and scary -but light, new and fresh. I just wonder why cheaters like the joke of a husband get married anyway? Bunch of losers who want it all on the back of others..IMO

@chaboi7 4 дня назад

Man my friend actually has stepped out on, and got caught by, his wife a couple times times now.....she isnt going anywhere but likes to complain about him and catch him in texts and what not, so imho, thats now become her fault and shes encouraging him now......the bigger problem for me is that this dude starting going back to church and is preaching now and is trying to tell me i need to repent....im like bro stop fucking other women that aint your wife first....

@Kinksgalore 5 дней назад

9:00 Everyone saying divorce but this is who he is before the marriage or child was born. She accepted all of him the day she got pregnant. Why complain now?🤔

@izzywox8246 5 дней назад

Nobody has tolerate abuse. Man or woman

@Kinksgalore 4 дня назад

@@izzywox8246 she accept disrespect on the first date.

@karenproietti8696 5 дней назад

Sad that she’s too afraid to just leave and find her own happiness. She’s delusional thinking he will change.

@shannon_b 4 дня назад

11:15 she is making all that up as she goes because dr. D is applying pressure. 10000 percent.

@madeleiner3640 4 дня назад

I caught my boyfriend in bed with someone else - his response was "this is annoying" - true chills down my spine.

@Angie-ot2cx День назад

This woman isn’t going to do anything. She chose to be disrespected. I mean how do you have people over again and you still haven’t “told him everything you needed to say.” Girl, bye! I really hope her daughter doesn’t learn from her mom cause she’s not a good role model. Everything she said was laughable. “he’s never done anything like this before.” I just rolled my eyes. And her telling him to come back inside, just so pathetic. You are being abused because you choose to be. I’m glad Dr said it so unapologetically, grow a spine! At least for your daughter sake

@Newfoundadventures-2024 3 дня назад

There’s more to this story. There HAS to be.

@marcoguevara8850 4 дня назад

Sometimes it's hard to be a woman Givin' all your love to just one man You'll have the bad times And he'll have the good times Doing things that you don't understand But if you love him, you'll forgive him Even though he's hard to understand, mm, mm And if you love him, oh, be proud of him 'Cause after all, he's just a man Stand by your man Give him two arms to cling to And something warm to come to When nights are cold and lonely Stand by your man And show the world you love him Keep giving all the love you can, mm, mm Stand by your man, hmm, hmm Stand by your man (Ooh, ooh) And show the world you love him (Ooh, ooh) Keep giving all the love you can Stand by your man, mm, mm, mm