My Husband Has Been Stealing Money From Our Emergency Fund For Drugs 

Agreed

Yep, and she knows that and is well aware of it and more than likely has known about it for a while.

Marijuana can be very expensive and to spend 5,000 is easy!

It’s not just “her” money, she will lose half of it in a divorce

Gotta agree with you 😐

My ex husband spent between $300 and $400 a month on marijuana. That’s between $3600 and $4800 a year. Depending on where you live, and how much you buy, it might be $5000 a year.

​@@tspencer661good lord that is in the drug abuse catagory! Marijuana is legal here and I spend about $200 per year. As you can see, I'm a very, very low end buyer and I buy 4-6 bottles of wine a year to share with friends and that costs about as much.. My neighbor, on the other hand, has opened a skunk farm that you can smell 24/7. 😂😅

@@lanaj1107 He doesn’t think he’s an addict. He would spend three to four hours a day smoking. That’s what he self reported. He’s not my problem anymore. He can spend as much money as he wants to on it. I’m saving my money for more important things, like my future.

Yeah, she’s part of the problem. She’s lying and covering for him. And her reason for not wanting to leave is borderline manipulation, because her parents separated and she wants to “honor” her vows. The best way to honor your vows is to be with someone who honor’s their vows as well.

These legal marijuana dispensaries aren't cheap. You can't walk out without spending $100. If he's going once a week, that's 400-500 a month easy.

Yep, don't spend your life with someone like this. He's extremely selfish and will never change.

I was an addict and alcoholic for 10 years. My wife was there through a lot of it. If it wasn’t for her I would be dead or locked up. I’ve been sober for over 3.5 years. It’s like jeckle and Hyde or professor klump and buddy love lol. It’s always going to be inside me but since I had the support and love of my wife I have made it far and don’t plan on giving up on myself or them. Not everyone is like me so I get why you would say that. But you don’t even know this guy you have no idea what he has gone through and unless you have dealt with addiction yourself I would shut my mouth if I was you. Just dropping the guy like it’s hot only condemns him. And if that’s cool with you then your very selfish. People need help sometimes and you fall into that hole quicker then you can blink It could be you and then what ? You want your closest loved ones to walk away? Just like that gone? When my parents found out that’s what they did I can tell you It truly hurts my heart and soul to know my dad didn’t have my back when I needed help the most.

@@rodleypumpkins4174 Yes! People are NOT disposable! He is obviously having a hard time

Whatever happened to "In sickness and in health?"

How on earth is there even a question left in her mind?

What happened to for better or for worse?

She should get a divorce because he will never ever change.

​@@wardisan10 This is beyond worse. It is destructive, abusive, dangerous and he not even interested in getting any help.

Divorce usually means 50/50 split. She will have freedom, but part of her financial assets are gone.

There was no mention of him being abusive. He also admitted what he was doing and wrote out a long letter to her. Why are you making stuff up? This was about him taking money out of their savings behind her back and refusing counseling. Disagreement is not abuse.

But you were honest right? You never once lied. ;)

THIS! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 she’s manipulating the situation by saying she wants to honor her vows. She just wants him.

But there is no god.

Amen, Only Jesus can change and build a marriage. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼.

Amen!!

Amen🙏🙏

He's entitled to half of everything.

@@yarrdayarrdayarrda maybe but she needs to Prevent more damage until then. Or she can divert half until then. She should at least get a legal separation until he gets help. It doesn’t have to automatically be a divorce right away but she needs to be protected.

Right! 5k on grass. He's lying.

Husband refused counseling. He will likely refuse drug test and continue to embezzle.

You're right!

Subscription to onlyfans or something

i used to smoke weed heavily from 18-26, and you could easily spend $400+ a month if not way more.. in only a year that’s basically $5k

It aint

The children will always be half his. Maybe choose to breed with a better man next time. 🤔

He's waterskiing barefoot.

@@JustinCase780 an alpha move

Honestly, Dave needs to remain objective. If I were him, I would let my personalities answer marriage/relationship type questions. I would only answer debt related questions. I would not allow anyone to film me or I would have them edit out calls that have me on answering relationship type questions. The whole point of this show was supposed to be on finances, not relationships.

It is is probably planned

@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 but most of the times finances and relationships intertwine. How many people are in debt because of relationships. ?

Lol

I've been smoking marijuana as well as I roll down the block

No, you don't take money out just because someone else did. I'd save that money and get out.

@@jimroscovius I think this person means she will take from the emergency fund the same amount he did when she leaves him. Not go out and blow the same amount of money.

@@jeffinvest1608 Good point.

@@jimroscovius she may need to Move it so he doesn’t spend it all though.

Victim mentality will leave you miserable for life. "As a man", there are many many women hurting relationships as well but I dont life my own life always being the victim.

@@therationalistparty9742 yes, the victims are the problem, not the abusers 🤡

@@physicianskitchen When you run around your entire life acting like youre a victim and never do anything wrong yourself and fail to accept and work on your own human condition then yes you are the problem.

@@therationalistparty9742 Thing is, they use this as an excuse because the SYSTEM gives them that power. Thank fuggin Reagan and politicians in the 1960s for make no fault divorce laws and giving away the working man's hard earned income. Weren't feminist supposed to make women stronger? They are becoming weaker! The politicians need to use them as pawns to get votes. They do not give two craps about the situation.

@@therationalistparty9742 the wife offered counseling with her husband and he said no. So yea ! She is victim trying to improve her situation. She is doing exactly you want her to do, yet still blaming the victim. You are a sad person.

Theu said as much, but the issue is centered around money. It stems from deeper marital problems though.

They are not money "gurus" 😂

Ya… Jade the money guru. 😂

You are right.

They know how to do math and stick to a plan

waste of time

​@@summerforever6736nah your comment was the waste of time

Waste of time. He's not going to be counseled out of this type of behavior.

@@ralphholiman7401he NEEDS counseling/therapy yesterday. His life literally depends on it.

, I think it's one of those ironies of life that therapy is most effective on those who need it the least.

yes, she should leave and take her kids... I am joking. When you have kids... it is all about the kids.

She shouldn't leave, she should file for divorce and court order to keep him away

Seeing as the mom cannot grow or does not have balls, she does not have to grow anything. The laws need to be changed, yes. And women should not be able to use the victim excuse any longer.

😘

How did she able get out from this addiction? It must be tough for her..

@@jasonphung17 jail lol

Sell the husband 🚩🚩

It can be both. Xanax is both. Fentanyl is both. Oxycodone is both. Marijuana is both.

They might do that. A lot goes on behind the scenes.

Spoken like someone who knows nothing about church.

Wrong - what do heathens know?

That is unequivocally false. You don't go to church so don't act like you know what churches do or don't do. Speaking as someone who has gone to church my whole life and who has been helped by them countless times, a church absolutely can be beneficial.

Some churches are fine. Some are just a clique that gossips and feels they're better than everybody else.

Hi! As someone who is currently in counseling for a very similar situation, I believe it’s very beneficial for the other party (wife) to get counseling. If she decides to leave husband she will need someone to process the divorce.

She needs counseling because anyone that understands their worth would have been done the second they found out. She's has small children and it's going to be a long journey staying or leaving. If she had a great support system she wouldn't be calling a radio station.

I’m thinking there may be another woman.

Nice guys who work on themselves long term, aren’t very confident but honest, and don’t try hard to impress or manipulate women are BOORRRING. No games, no thrill… no excitement. Girls just want to have fun 😆 (this mentality starts to change as they approach their 30s)

​@@han1218 Bad boy 😂. When I smoked I was boring, plenty of games though by that I mean PlayStation. I get more girls since I quit, before I was too high to start a conversation

sounds like another man trying to find a round-about way to blame the woman. Thankfully, there are many wonderful men out there who haven't bought into this 'the-woman-is-always-at-fault' cowardliness. Thank you to the men out there who still see that there are good people out there, women and men both

Sometimes people can act one way until you’re “locked in” and then their true colors show. It’s not fair to blame the victim.

But then she should not be entitled to any 50% of his assets. But that is not going to happen right?