My Husband is a Cheater… Is My Marriage Worth Saving?

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My Husband is a Cheater… Is My Marriage Worth Saving?
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@amandadean3948 3 года назад

I’m so sorry dear. If he’s admitting to 3 women it’s probably been at LEAST 6.

@shakemiz 3 года назад

I don't know abou that. she knew about one. Why would he admit to the other two if he wanted to deceive her?. He would have said "Oops, first time". Makes no sense to admit to the other two if there were more.

@fhuber7507 3 года назад

@@shakemiz He admitted to 3... then she found out he's going to hookers. There's more.

@amandadean3948 3 года назад

Leaks and Leaks ...I think you may have missed the part about the hookers. You think he only did that once? If so I’ve got some beachfront property in Arizona I want to sale you...

@chasityeverett3668 3 года назад

@Amanda Dean...🤣😂

@chasityeverett3668 3 года назад

@Leaks and Leaks??!! C’mon now.. I think you missed some parts of that story.

@DaisyBerk2 3 года назад

You can give him forgiveness AND not stay with him.

@Tomi_janet15 3 года назад

Exactly

@topcheese2889 3 года назад

I’m sure he’ll change...😂

@snoozyq9576 Год назад

And it's even easier to forgive someone when you get that space from them. Hard to forgive someone while they're there triggering your resentment

@geofferypmeyers 3 года назад

I’d wager that there has been way more than 3 women. Girl please LEAVE, immediately.

@alvinmann7675 3 года назад

Agreed

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

For sure. If they know they can get away with it once or even twice, they are most likely gonna do it again. Best to just focus on yourself and move on.

@carableu 3 года назад

Yup!

@impactajuvenile 3 года назад

Does this go for men in the same situation as well? Have been in a sexless marriage since 2011 and she has recently moved out with our two young children...???

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

What is the point of keeping yourselves and your children in a toxic environment? Everyone just ends up miserable. I’m sorry but I respectfully disagree. I grew up in a home with parents in a similar situation and they were terribly unhappy. For 36 years. It is extremely damaging to children to see this. I struggled with anxiety and depression for years. And had a very difficult time in school. and no, my marriage didn’t work out either.

@MyPasture 3 года назад

It’s not about giving him another chance, but giving yourself a chance! Please move on.

@brittanysellscars5528 3 года назад

YES. This comment.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

Yes, she needs to focus on herself in this situation. Because in most cases if they get away with it once they can and will do it again!

@ms.newcomerteacher6554 3 года назад

Love that! Give yourself a chance!

@LifeDIY 3 года назад

Yes!

@LisaLisaCJ 3 года назад

As someone who found out their spouse was cheating with many people you will never be the same. I divorced and have ptsd from all of the lies and deceit. We were married 26 years. He didn’t think I would leave but I did

@Luxlat 3 года назад

Good for you

@Somegirl3602 2 года назад

I'm glad you left, they continue to miss behave because most women put up with it till the end. But it's totally unacceptable behavior.

@lesliemontagne6797 Год назад

Good for you, I wish you all the best. Gave that snake-man away!!

@vintagegirl68 Год назад

Please SugarBear take care of yourself! It's not right what happened to you. I am in the same boat the only way out is getting help for yourself, they did the crime, you have to take the time to heal. I hope you are doing okay, you are worth healing!

@mks9469 6 месяцев назад

26 years….wow! I am so sorry. That would be tough.

@gelyc5407 3 года назад

A man is supposed to love and protect his wife and children! Disgusting. She deserves better.

@Tomi_janet15 3 года назад

Definitely

@lela888 9 месяцев назад

I agree! What a distrusting man!

@mdooms76 3 года назад

Is her husband calling into a show asking what he can do to save his marriage?? NO! He's staying because she's allowing him to get away with this. All his hooked money is about to go to child support....girl RUNNN!!!

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

Exactttly! That’s the problem- he KNOWS he can get away with it. Seen it too many times!

@lonnierashid6812 3 года назад

She’s not allowing him to do anything because... he has free will!!!

@josecalderon4879 3 года назад

Men will be men. We provide and where else in the animal kingdom do you see mammals practice solely monogamy. The man still comes home. He could’ve left much sooner, but he was still coming home.

@lela888 9 месяцев назад

@@josecalderon4879What a disgusting excuse! We aren’t lions living in a cave. Cheating is abuse to your partner. Period!

@birsancristina9278 4 месяца назад

@@josecalderon4879 🤡

@reinaisabelle06 3 года назад

I did my best to forgive and forget. Didn't work. Got a divorce. That worked. I'm the strongest I've ever been.

@ladypink3473 3 года назад

Same.

@vickieclark5931 3 года назад

That's awesome.

@anitaknight3915 3 года назад

Good for you having the strength to move on. I pray you have the best years of happiness ahead of you

@fhuber7507 3 года назад

She's crushed... and doesn't want to give up on the marriage but knows she has to.

@Jane5720 3 года назад

Yeah, she knows

@budgiebirdy 3 года назад

She needs to, just for the sake of her health if nothing else. She can't trust him if he's sleeping around with prostitutes. I know if I were in that situation, that's enough for me to never want to sleep with him again. Marriage is over. Also, there's no maintaining your self respect by staying with this guy.

@Holaquetalcontigo 3 года назад

@@budgiebirdy exactly. Not to mention that his infidelity places her overall health at risk. She could contract STD’s from him.

@SarahR2D2 3 года назад

@@Holaquetalcontigo 🤮🤮🤮

@SarahR2D2 3 года назад

@Heinrich Himmler With prostitutes??? Yuck

@RainWave13 3 года назад

I’ve watched a few of his videos on infidelity and I’ve noticed an interesting pattern in the comments. Whenever someone in the comments condemns the cheating husbands behaviour, there’s almost always a few men in the comments quick to defend him: “well you gotta look at both sides of the story maybe she wasn’t putting out or he didn’t feel like he got enough out of her” “well he said he won’t do it again” “well he said it was only 2 women and he’s trying to work for her forgiveness!”. Y’all. That kinda defending behaviour is disgusting and reflects poorly of your own character.

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

Those men be the same disgusting cheaters themselves who aren't loyal to their wives, who aren't loyal to their kids and choose to protect their family but instead destroy it for a piece of poonani who willingly have their legs opened to give and STD

@soul1380 6 месяцев назад

They've probably cheated, too.

@matinaki1644 26 дней назад

For me, the most disgusting ones are those saying "a man can love his wife and cheat, women cheat when they have found another man". The audacity. And the ignorance of how some selfish women operate. They were raised all women are fragile creatures born to serve and respect their husband while they get cheated on.

@brittanysellscars5528 3 года назад

She is not ready to hear the truth. Until she is ready to see her husband for who he really is, she will continue to get hurt. You can not change a man like that, he will change if he is ready. She shouldn't hang around. She will waste her life.

@Majinbu老板321 3 года назад

Well said

@k.biache.6874 3 года назад

Been there and 💯💯💯💯 and now divorced.

@Cindy-by3ho 3 года назад

Once a cheater, always a cheater.

@kamarwashington 3 года назад

Sounds like she’s being manipulated

@rokeishiarodgers7205 3 года назад

I have a one and done policy. You cheat on me once, and we are done for good. My husband knows it, and he has the same policy for me lol

@Carolina_Berean 3 года назад

Same girl!

@bres9977 3 года назад

Yep, settled that while dating exclusively. We are both on the same page. “If you cheat on me, you’ll wish you never married me”.

@Srna2024 3 года назад

For the life of me, I can’t understand why anyone would cheat on the person that gave them children. My ex wife cheated and after a year it still feels like I’m stuck in a nightmare. I wanted to be married, I loved being married, I loved the person that I thought she was. When someone cheats everything goes out the door. It’s time to move on and heal. She sounds like a beautiful person and I hope she walks away from someone that doesn’t deserve her love.

@racpatrice 3 года назад

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I hope you were able to find healing in your heart and hopefully in your marriage

@janettetimms8650 2 года назад

I hope you find someone deserving

@korab.23 2 года назад

People like you give me hope. 💛

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

@@korab.23 I hope things get better for you.

@madisonandthespirits 5 месяцев назад

I’m sorry this happened🙏🏼

@Holy_Athletics 3 года назад

Once someone cheats, it's never the same. Ever, and the mistrust will be there for years. Walk away.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

Yes this is the truth for a good friend of mine. The wife took him back but there has been a huge emotional disconnect ever since. On both ends. I don’t think she will ever fully trust him again and I don’t think their relationship will ever be the same. And sadly he knows he got away with it once... and will most likely do it again. unfortunately this is the case for the vast majority of these situations.

@LisaLisaCJ 3 года назад

Every person that I know that stayed with a cheater got cheated on again. It’s not worth it

@Jane_1994 3 года назад

The risk to her health this whole time has been unreal. Who knows what diseases this man could be carrying from these women, especially if he's participating in high-risk activities like seeing prostitutes. This is life or death and she doesn't get it.

@ssebo8354 3 года назад

He doesn't want this to work out, but he doesn't want to be the one who left. This is why he has been confessing. This is why she found out in the first place. He wants out.

@sarahmc8309 3 года назад

This is what happened to me when I found out my ex cheated He then told me that he didn’t want to be the one who left and wanted me to find out what hat he had done so I would leave ..it was soul destroying

@Annonymight Год назад

When Jessica said he said "it's progress" paying for a Sex Worker and not "doing anything" I almost passed out. Gaslighters and their narcissistic friends know who they're in relationship with and take full advantage of their "forgiving" partners. I'd have passed out laughing with that "progress" line....getoutofherefriend! No one has time for this.

@lynette599 16 дней назад

Yes. Dr. Ramani, an expert on narcissism, says when you forgive a narcissist, they see it as permission to do it again.

@k.embers 3 года назад

In most cases, I’d advocate for the marriage, say that you should try to work it out, but if it’s REPEATED infidelity, it’s not likely to change. It doesn’t seem like he has any remorse for his actions. He’s already moved on. The kids deserve a better example of a healthy relationship and of a man with a strong moral compass. Praying for you, sister! 🙏🏻❤️

@ViajanteSemRoteiro 3 года назад

Kids needs real dad and mom together strong. Another man will never replace the real father.

@vickieclark5931 3 года назад

@@ViajanteSemRoteiro It's better for her to be single than to be with a man that is cheating. That is definitely not good for the kids. Especially if there is a lot of fighting and stress in the home cause of the cheating. This girl probably should be single cause she does pick men very well. She need to take care of her kids and not worry about a lowlife that is cheating on her every time she turns around.

@anneshirley9560 3 года назад

Felipe Lima If she stays, the father is not teaching the kids to stay faithful in a marriage, and have good character. Unless he decides to change, it can bring more harm then good on both the mother, and the children.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

You are absolutely right. When it becomes a pattern then that’s when it’s probably a situation beyond repair.

@anitaaustralia 3 года назад

NO WAY. NO excuses for cheating and definitely NO second chances

@joesillamanrs7189 3 года назад

Drop him. Finding someone else will be tough but you’ll never trust your husband again.

@MrWololo90 3 года назад

Very very tough, especially for her. No one wants thw baggage of a used up single mom.

@babatundeonabajo 3 года назад

@crooked truth83: I wouldn't call a single mother, *especially* in this case where it's not her fault at all, "baggage". That's contrary to human dignity. BUT it is supremely true she will find it hard to find another man. That's just the fact of the matter. Even if she did find someone else, she would have to enter into a whole host of other issues like the safety of her children (it's well-established guys are much more likely to kill children who are not their own). When you are in a situation like this, you have to consider the prospect of being single as the safest and best option there is.

@emmarose6590 3 года назад

@@MrWololo90 used up? You sound like your talking about an item not a person. Kinda gross

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

@Babatunde Onabajo true

@lexiemaep7930 3 года назад

Her husband doesn't want forgiveness, he wants permission to keep cheating.

@Xsilif 3 года назад

The fact that he admitted to being with 3 women shows a lack of respect towards her and that he knows she’s accepting his behavior. He’s going to keep cheating. Time for a divorce.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

Exactttly. If they know they can get away with it, they will keep doing it! This is what so many women fail to realize. They never address the root of the issue (cheating) and the relationship continues to suffer -and perpetuating the same cycle of dysfunction.

@Xsilif 3 года назад

slp2007 the root isn’t really the cheating. There’s a “why” behind it. Often the cheater will tell the other what’s wrong (before they cheat), and their partner will brush it off. Then that person cheats and the one that’s cheated on says they didn’t do anything wrong.

@anafernandez7237 3 года назад

Run! And hire a good attorney...this man will ruin your and your children's lives!

@borgirvspitsah7329 2 года назад

I've noticed in these cheating questions how men in the comments keep bashing the woman cheater, whereas when the man cheats the women in the comments are supportive towards the woman victim and not really comment anything about the guy

@Samihamcat 3 года назад

Girl please leave him ❤️

@ViajanteSemRoteiro 3 года назад

How about the kids?

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

The kids are better off in a healthy safe environment where there’s not toxic behavior taking place.

@anitaaustralia 3 года назад

@@ViajanteSemRoteiro the kids are much better off without him!

@skincareceo 3 года назад

@@ViajanteSemRoteiro kids don't wanna watch dad cheat on mom.

@jimmyboy1582 3 года назад

I remember a friend of mine told his wife that he only cheated with two women. I KNEW he cheated with with at least 20. She gotta let him go. He is definitely not gonna change.

@anitaknight3915 3 года назад

Yeahhhh when they actually admit the number than you know it's much higher but they are trying to look better lol

@terraalbritton6405 Год назад

I hope you told her. She could have gotten a life-threatening disease. You deserve a better friend.

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

😮

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

@Terra Albritton I personally would never be friends with a cheater if you could cheat on the person you're going home to and you can't be loyal to your kids and family you can't be trusted with anyone period

@jimmyboy1582 Год назад

@@terraalbritton6405 nah. Not my place. I knew him not her.

@estyria5961 2 года назад

It is very important to recognize the differences between forgiveness and reconciliation. You can forgive someone, release that anger and hurt, and yet never speak to them again because the relationship cannot be reconciled.

@moxythepirate1281 3 года назад

Male or female, doesn't matter, cheaters will never change. The best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.

@rebeccaoprea9917 3 года назад

Forgiveness and grace is for those that offend or use us , not husbands that cheat on us .

@mom4christ191 3 года назад

Matt 7:6. Do not give dogs what is holy, and do not throw your pearls before pigs, lest they trample them underfoot and turn to attack you.

@owenb8636 3 года назад

Forgiveness shouldn't mean that people are free of consequences. People learn through consequences. I told my ex that I forgave her for cheating on me but I still don't talk to her anymore.

@tenshi.kurama 3 года назад

The only being who forgives and forget is God himself. Not even his followers are expected follow the forget part

@LL-lj1kq 3 года назад

Before you get a disease from him like I did years ago. Just leave honey.

@Lala89856 2 года назад

Or like me, he gave me an STD while pregnant and he denied it🤣

@USA-GreedyMenOfNoIntegrity 3 года назад

Congratulations...You’ve got yourself a serial cheater. Stop forgiving and enabling an unremorseful POS. Do not keep his shenanigans a secret. A good public outing is a warning to all single and married women in the community to steer clear and ensures his friends and relatives know that they hang out with a man of no integrity.

@Donna-C 3 года назад

I hope she reads up on Narcissism. Then trusts her own instincts.

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

True

@lizaw.7313 Год назад

If your husband isn't heartbroken and trying to find accountability somewhere for his behavior, he's done. Cheating is a decision, it doesn't depend whether "things are good" or not in the marriage.

@mdooms76 3 года назад

Infidelity is a DEAL BREAKER. You can't forgive and give second chances to someone who is not sorry. He doesn't want her...move on! Why is she even asking if she should leave this bum...he's disgusting.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

It is truly astounding the number of women who are willing to stay in denial and/or put up with this sort of issue. We truly have a problem. We need to be able to be our own emotional support and be in a position to provide for ourselves in the event that marriage doesn’t work out. I think too many feel like they are doing the right thing by staying for the kids... but keeping children in a toxic environment with unhappy parents is extremely damaging and often doing more harm than good.

@secretsiren6769 Месяц назад

Honestly I stayed with my ex husband who cheated on me because I didn’t want to be a single mom. I am the breadwinner he depended on me financially. I filed for divorce when our child was turning 18. When someone asked why do you stay I replied for my children.

@matinaki1644 26 дней назад

@@secretsiren6769 an acquaintance of ours did the same. It is only reasonable. However, my grandmother kept welcoming him back multiple times. She was obsessed. No self respect whatsoever. She had hysterectomy due to a serious infection caused most probably by him and his indiscretions.

@korab.23 2 года назад

People tend to confuse forgiveness and reconciliation.

@lilpinkbubbles6592 3 года назад

A man would not battle with this decision. He would divorce her. Let him go!

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

Yup! You are absolutely right. 90% of men are not going to tolerate infidelity of any kind. Don’t understand why so many women are so tolerant of it! My guess is just poor self-confidence..(they think they can’t find better).. And for family or financial reasons.

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

@@EadsB7002 I'd go with the latter

@Wewereneveryoung 3 месяца назад

@@aprilchow-chee5281well jokes on her because it's not a real "family"

@secretsiren6769 Месяц назад

@@EadsB7002I stayed for my children. You’re either a single mom who won’t put up with that for her kids , or the mother who allows a man to disrespect her for the sake of her children. Kids don’t need to know what adult issues are going on. My children never saw us fighting…. Ever. I am the breadwinner BTW . I am working 24 hours so he can pawn off our children to his mom so he can go drink and cheat. My child never saw our battles. My ex husband learned that my silence is more dangerous

@Michelle.05 3 года назад

Jessica, please know that there's a man out there that will treat you the way that you're supposed to be treated. Get rid of that zero and get yourself a hero! It's time to worry about your children and yourself. You will be just fine in time. All of this will make you stronger...

@austinkatz1551 3 года назад

Her husband has major issues to tell his wife he's made progress, that is totally manipulative and probably a total lie.

@SamanthaBellerson Год назад

what I had to ask myself is- would I go insane and want to follow him around, expect him to show me his phone constantly and would I constantly worry he is. It just wouldn’t be a marriage worth saving for me anymore.

@mariek.474 3 года назад

She needs to see the facts for what they are, regardless of what he *tells* her.

@ViajanteSemRoteiro 3 года назад

Finally someone got it. She’s still have not clue why he did that. Nobody is perfect. It must be a reason for it... that both aren’t working together for a better relationship. It could be that romantic intimacy and love is lacking inside their bedroom.

@mariek.474 3 года назад

What you seem to think is frankly not what I meant AT ALL, you totally misread. What I mean is he's dishonest and lacks morals, he can tell her all he wants with his apologies but his actions showed who he truly is. It's frankly disgusting that you somehow excuse his cheating with prostitutes in the defense that their sensual life maybe was lacking ? even if so he's still a coward to have betrayed her trust like that (and risk her health possibly...) instead of talking to her directly about it. But I won't argue with you any further.

@ms-corleone Год назад

@@ViajanteSemRoteiro what are you talking about? OP was saying that the cheater is in her ear and minimizing the crap he’s doing. If Jennifer’s husband is not getting his needs met he can ask her for a divorce or marriage counseling. Calling/emailing an escort is not the answer.

@BlessedBlended 3 года назад

She can do it though!!! It's possible to leave. I did leave a marriage where he cheated with two young kids. One of my children only being 7 weeks old. She can do it. It won't always be easy, but it's worth it!

@spiritualservicesgodbless7641 3 года назад

I personally would NOT stay if I were her. The problem with cheating is that the person is NOT telling you the truth. I have NOT been cheated on, and I would NEVER cheated / NEVER Have cheated on any man. I would leave a man BEFORE it got so boring that I cheated

@rubyred8845 3 года назад

run Jessica run

@ambertorres5358 Год назад

I could never overlook that. I have the emotional management and maturity level to forgive and move past it but wouldn’t. Exclusivity is a core value of mine. And if he’s buying other woman that’s a morality issue (even worse if she was giving him sex). And if he didn’t even restore equity that’s just an extra slap on the face anyways (but even if the person did, I wouldn’t overlook it). Move on, find someone who respects you so you can model what a healthy marriage compromised of love and respect looks like.

@stephaniejimenez1794 3 года назад

Its so hard to actually leave and be done especially when you have vested so much. But one day youll find someone who wont ever disrespect you. You are as precious as rubys remember that, self love is the best love.

@traetonmcglohon4563 Год назад

Definitely did not go deep enough on unpacking this. Responding emotionally to these types of situations can lead to even worst long term consequences.

@brightlyart 3 года назад

Thank gosh for Dr. D telling it like it is. Denial is strong here and I don't think the reality has quite hit her yet. Sometimes you just have to plan an escape.

@machintelligence 3 года назад

Get a bulldog of a divorce attorney and make sure he can't skip out on child support (because he will certainly try.)

@robertrudisill5777 3 года назад

She should move on, clean him out, get max child support. Get with a women's group at a good church. From a man that's been on the receiving end of adultery. And you have to forgive him to move on and be right with God. Doesn't mean you stay there...

@perotal 3 года назад

"Clean him out" Nice christian values

@robertrudisill5777 3 года назад

@@perotal he's the one cheating. You do the crime, you do the time. And it's about the kids, perotal, since he's out screwing around, sooner or later he'll get someone else pregnant. The government is not his babies' daddy. He is. So he pays up. She's supposed to sit there and be a doormat?!

@anitaknight3915 3 года назад

@@robertrudisill5777 this is refreshing coming from a male. I'm sorry this happen to you!! Hope you're doing well free now. Did you attempt to reconcile and stay or leave right after? I know some can be one affair or a remorseless pattern of behavior. I'd imagine the trust is ruined after.

@skincareceo 3 года назад

@@perotal Christian values definitely do not include cheating.

@geenal360 3 года назад

I would talk to your parents- If you decided to leave him- I hope you do- I wouldn't tell him. Because some men- may fly of the handle and you find yourself in a battle for your life aNd the kids. First thing to face is that he does not love you- go from there.

@rosaliapena9154 3 года назад

Woman need to stop relying on someone to support them. It was easy for me to walk away from my cheating ex- husband because I had a well paying career and didn’t need him for anything. He never paid child support and I was able to take care of my child without financial support. Walk away and stay away.

@chrisrush3513 3 года назад

Cheating is a one strike, and you’re out policy. I couldn’t imagine even hugging or kissing my woman if she defiled herself to another man. It’d always be in the back of my mind.

@Ethiodawg 3 года назад

Totally! It’s gross

@disturbed4ever2 3 года назад

But you wouldn't have A problem if they 'defiled themselves' with another man or multiple men before you were together?

@disturbed4ever2 3 года назад

@crooked truth83 exactly, so why are they saying the person 'defiled themselves' when the exact same thing could have been done 1 week before the were together and it would be considered fair game?

@drwpsych 3 года назад

Nile because they weren’t married or together at that time.

@disturbed4ever2 3 года назад

@@drwpsych I know that you complete and utter restard. Read again

@lamppole7896 3 года назад

What great advice the Dr. gave! I hope Jessica will stay strong. It’s not easy but she needs to leave and don’t look back.

@annalaycastillo5840 3 года назад

Narcissistic abuse

@bmfsports2490 3 года назад

This is so hard , i have been there this is sickening

@nmc1859 3 года назад

Doesn't every major religion proclaim infidelity is a valid reason for divorce ?? Actually THE only reason for divorce to be allowable? That tells me how serious this infraction is. To forgive it once issued a personal choice. Her situation is with someone who continually disrespects his wife and marriage in the worst way

@cpeacenlove Год назад

YES. The push to reconcile and work through infidelity is odd, given that it's grounds for divorce in most religions. There's a conflict in there somewhere 🤔 😏

@secretsiren6769 Месяц назад

Most religions say only the man can divorce.

@LOLZHAHANOTFUNNY 3 года назад

Dr. D this blew me AWAY!! I already liked you on the DR Show, and oh my lord did I just learn how great you are on your own as well!! You have a new subscriber, best of love to you and your family 💕

@boots911 3 года назад

It's better for both of you if you leave him. He probably really regrets his actions, but it's not worth it. Catching him with one woman after 10 years might be forgivable, but him easily admitting to 3 means that it's most likely more than 3 and that it's something he might not be able to help.

@whitneyw.7919 3 года назад

This is why you should not rely on a man economically. That inequality in our society is really bad for women.

@erind2261 3 года назад

I learned from the women in my village. Always keep some side $. If he's a good husband over the yrs, cool treat him to a nice gift.

@whitneyw.7919 3 года назад

@@erind2261 Treat your husband well, but don't be stupid. Some women don't like to hear that just cause youre married and have kids doesn't mean you get to have a pass from being an adult. Always work in some capacity or at the very least keep up your job skills

@perotal 3 года назад

She would disembowel him in a divorce settlement, what are you talking about lol

@whitneyw.7919 3 года назад

@@perotal Most men don't make amazing money... especially when split across 2 households. Also, you can't live off of child support (in 98% of cases) and alimony is not guaranteed. You can't always get it and you have to be married for like 10 yrs to even be eligible.

@x_270rr_s3 3 года назад

Never relay on man. Earn money yourself. Get good paying job and listen Dave Ramsey. 1s, t Get lawyer. 2 nd, Take everything he has ever dreamed of having it . Everything! 3 rd,. Charge alimony.

@BadMannerKorea 3 года назад

She’s like defending her cheating husband lol.

@midlifecrisis7888 3 года назад

That’s a good woman

@edgywagy145 3 года назад

@@midlifecrisis7888 A waste woman

@youngtimer964 3 года назад

Trying to justify staying with him. She’s not ready to leave him yet but getting closer every day.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

So many women do this. It’s truly sad to see so many women this day a good age with such low self esteem or feel they have to put up with such for their kids. Not only are they poisoning their own spirit, but also showing their kids a miserable home life.

@slimjim1104 3 года назад

Its called a trauma bond .... bro.... 0_o

@masonhock6442 Год назад

Sunk cost fallacy definitely applies to relationships as well.

@sarahbelo8891 2 года назад

Girl, get out while your kids are little and start a new life on your own with them. I did it and it was the best decision ever. People will help you, God will guide you. You can do it

@FireFortuna 3 года назад

Thank you Dr John! I was furious when he had the cheek to say "PROGRESS!!" How dare he??!

@caniggiaful 3 года назад

Yeah, it sounds like it'll be an extremely bad idea to stay with the dude. Hope you move on and you stay strong and have a nice life afterwards!

@michaelfarley1515 3 года назад

Once a cheater, always a cheater! Run!

@michaelmetler6315 3 года назад

If you have a broken cup Don't try to glue it back together It will not be same and it will break in the same place. Do not put your hot liquid in it Replace it

@aimeelopez3040 3 года назад

I pray she gets more support from church so she can be bold and be able to walk away and/or be wise to be strong enough to truly see progress

@tracemagace8434 3 года назад

Church may not be the place she can find that

@angelaonly7983 Год назад

I needed to hear this, thank you!

@Thecraftyblacksheep 3 года назад

GET OUT !! Get out now! Before those babies understand what’s going on! Start a new life. Set the right example for those babies. I won’t lie. Being a single mother is hard but what I can tell you .... there is happiness on the other side. You will be exhausted but you will be able to sleep at night because you won’t have to worry about some dumb man doing you dirty. Praying she finds the strength to leave.

@zandy0502 3 года назад

Love that you have our own show now!

@GodSaveTheClothes 3 года назад

All you can do at this point is find safety for you and your children. Get healing for yourself. Seek out an S-anon group, a counselor that deals with spouses of cheaters, Redemptive living for women is a great resource as well. It’s not up to you to try and forgive and trust him again. It’s up to him to prove he is trustworthy and he has not shown that. I pray for you as I know the feeling. I found out my husband was cheating throughout our 7 year marriage. I was nursing a 9 month old and had a toddler. Brutal times...but so worth it to find healing for yourself. You can do this mama!

@noelmercado4514 3 года назад

Doctor D has his own show nicccce!! Congrats man!

@caseyz7993 3 года назад

Wonderful answer John Deloney. New listener based on this answer. 👍

@brandydejesus1675 2 года назад

She sounds very emotionally beat up and tired. You need to leave and get your strength back because this man is killing your esteem and joy for life. I know. There's a light at the end of the tunnel, you are not a bad wife for leaving a cheater who does not care about you

@marcusarelius 3 года назад

4:41 - 5:18.................Critically important and profound statement for anyone whose loyalty to another has been destroyed. Major props to Dr. John for mentioning this as I have to assume he has never been hurt in this manner but obviously has been educated on this type of hurt / response.

@rociopineda9539 3 года назад

I needed to hear this!!!

@Maya23452 3 года назад

I like his advice... usually they are just common sense stuff but he makes gives you something more

@oSaWw 3 года назад

Great channel!

@elizabetha8565 3 года назад

It's hard to figure out daycare ect... it's harder to live with this evil person not knowing what he is doing, he might be doing other things you'll never know.

@priscillaboyce7322 2 года назад

I'm sorry to this lady. You deserve better sweetie, cheating is bad.. but it's even worse when they start paying for it. Starts to sound like an addiction. For your own mental and physical health, leave this man.

@elizabethlangheim7214 3 года назад

Liars lie and Cheaters cheat. Get a good Lawyer...he needs to pay child support.

@angelikalaser7778 3 года назад

Kick him out and get a roommate or two to pay the bills

@evearcana2392 Год назад

Would love to hear an update on these two since it’s been over 2 years since this call Dr. John

@terriwilcox8572 3 года назад

Get a good attorney to get child support and a divorce.

@bsofar1675 3 года назад

A family member broke trust in a serious way and I had to disassociate. For my own sake, I had to forgive, though forgiveness was never requested. Even if they had asked, it doesn't mean things just go back to normal. I think your new path will give you peace.

@BusinessBox13 3 года назад

He’ll cheat again. Either decide to leave or to let him cheat in peace if you choose to stay. He’s doing it for his pleasure primarily, not to cause you pain. You shouldn’t stay, though. He will cheat again. 3+ times is habitual.

@SW-sw7wx 3 года назад

She needs to collect evidence and get check for STDs

@debbieanderson6740 2 года назад

This man is continuously disrepecting you, your children and your marriage. Don't allow it. Be strong for your babies! God Bless!

@rum2664 7 месяцев назад

Going through the same thing and I’m devastated. Family advising me to be more tolerant and stay for the kids is heartbreaking.

@koreanplayboy 3 года назад

i have heard this so many times "yea.. everything was okay in the beginnin.." lol that's already a sign for tug and pull battle between spouses.

@EadsB7002 3 года назад

Yes in most cases cheating is simply a symptom of something bigger going on... Or something terribly missing from the relationship.

@evah787 3 года назад

Yes, a woman with children, can't just pack-up and leave!.... It is harder with children; they depend on you for EVERYTHING!

@aprilchow-chee5281 Год назад

People forget that

@ScaryTimesWeLiveIn 3 года назад

Jessica, u deserve BETTER!!! Leave him!!!!

@Cesar-pq2ck 3 года назад

Dude is a pig. She can find a good man eventually. She doesn’t understand what forgiveness is.

@Ergtt7491 3 года назад

Very TRUE!!!!!

@michellerichardson3090 3 года назад

One time is a mistake, more than that and its just who they are

@CharlesettaAde 3 года назад

Listening to this makes me so thankful to God that I could leave a toxic marriage 😂😂😂

@lynnhampton6269 4 месяца назад

I’m shocked! First time I’ve heard Dr. John not tell the betrayed spouse to suck it up.

@kathleenprokop2153 2 года назад

then buy some flowers and decorate your home with vase filled with nice inexpenstive flowers also drop some romantic cards on his pillows hopes he sees them and hear them