I actually thought it was going to be about straight dudes who were a little into dudes and open about it. I was like 2019 fuck yeah But this comment section not bad
I stopped watching immediately once I heard "Mormon". I was curious what the situation would be like but Mormonism explains it perfectly. So sad that he has to shape his life to fit the religion he was indoctrinated with.
There’s a lot of them here in Arizona. They are also not allowed to have caffeine which I keep forgetting since I always offer to our Mormon neighbor. They are hands down the most interesting people I’ve ever met in my life 😳
Kawthar Abukhdair That's actually not true. Coffee and non herbal tea are not consumed at all. Caffeinated sodas, chocolate, etc. are definitely "allowed," but as with everything else, it should be consumed in moderation. Addiction to any substance is not healthy, caffeine included. I prefer to not be addicted to coffee and tea. Some members of the church choose to not have any caffeine at all, but it's definitely not a rule.
@Luxitos you don't understand the implication of your argument. If marriage is based on sexual attractiveness then equally two men married can leave each other if they find someone more sexual attractive or a more frequent occurrence a man can leave his wife if his attraction after witnessing child birth becomes less. marriage, as it should be, is based on love and commitment then you cannot dismiss the man's love and commitment to God and his wife.
@Luxitos there were multiple people in that report the first couple they spoke to have not broken up. Tanya and Jeff Bennion. www.google.com/amp/s/www.deseret.com/platform/amp/2018/2/7/20639656/the-weeds-story-is-one-of-many-stories-of-lgbt-latter-day-saints-that-continue-to-be-written
@@heathersoares186 I am a lesbian and I could find a man emotionally gravitating but nothing would make me want to jump into bed with him. So I am assuming he enjoys her company but I can't see how he could enjoy it sexually.... that part makes no sense. He is comparing a diet to being gay as if being gay is a diet if it was people wouldn't have a problem being hetero.... lol
I don't think I could be married to a man who is attracted to men. For one, I don't want to get in the middle of his happiness and I will always wonder if he only stays in the marriage out of obligation or true love. Also.. I want to be desired and feel the heat and passion between us.
I have a gay friend and youd be surprised how many men are in his DMs. Your opinion just now is precisely why youd never find out. Being close minded like that will just cause your man to sneak around and do it behind your back.
@@naysaynetwork5271 She's entitled to how she feels and what she wants.. and as open as she is he should be too. So she's not closed minded..as most men a closeted..dl not owning up..no reason for that in today's world you can date and marry freely...so that OPINION THAT IS CLOSED MINDED.....NOT BEING YOURSELVES IS WHAT'S KEEPING YOU IN PRISON...PERIOD
@@naysaynetwork5271 I've seen so many women never trusting men again because they WON'T ACCEPT THEIR OWN SEXUALITY FOR WHAT IT IS...THE MEN THEMSELVES...
He's hiding behind the faith. Behind closed doors are probably much different. The sarcasm that nothing can go wrong is exactly correct. His friends struggling with the same issue, are the ones they are tempted with, secretly.
So depressing. They're just storing up pain for the years to come. He'll leave her when the kids are older. She has waisted years of her life. Feel sorry for them both.
Bro i feel sorry for her he can still have the time of his life while back at the ranch shes standing in the very back of the que trying to find leftover scraps of men that are even willing but hey atleast we can still pay for it right
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Exactly what happened to me... marrying a gay man. He walked out on me after 29 years of marriage... Heart breaking.... Now after 3 years, I am beginning to slowly lift my head and face the world again... These 3 years was hell... a nightmare to say the least... I thought we would make 'old bones together'. Well... we didn't and we won't... It has always been about him... never about me... Very very depressing, Tamsinwood. We have two adult sons.... both gay. I love them to the moon and back, but I won't have grandchildren...
...this is sooo stupid. He's stupid. She's stupid to the point where she's decided to blind herself...this is insanity in its highest form. He's trying so hard to be something he's not.
He's not happy...he's just pretending for religious purposes. Was I only one watching the video? In the man in the video's case, their treating it like a mental issue that can be cured with religion, marrying a woman and having children. This couple is lying to themselves and their children. Everyday must be a struggle, keep it real. Happy...no, just dealing with it, following his religion, following societies rules, shoving his true feelings deep down inside, hoping it doesn't eat at him. No offence to anyone else, that's my take on the men in the video.
5:20 a group of gay men who are married to women, talking constantly about their temptations as they sweat around spotting one another in basketball games. What could go wrong?
@@boribbora sarcasm and shaming (to talk a woman out of her intuition/feelings) helps the gaslighting processfor a little while and keeps everybody in the relationship miserable until it all falls to shoyt, but thanks for the hilarious little funny.
Andrea Daniels Ok but what about when straight people have anal sex and do ass licking to each other? (which is really hot) is that just as bad? They’re doing the exact same things gays are doing that your disgusted by, “fecal matter play” as you said in one of your other comments I saw on here.
Sometimes. Most cases it's literally just bi guys tho so it's nbd. Find someone u love. Some gay guys r destroyed inside by this. I could never even get it up for a girl so I couldn't do it
@@candirockstar135 but He said He's attracted to men more, He'll be attracted to 9 men per one woman, the bi spectrum is really huge, that's why we have bi curious guys, they're more into women but sometimes they go for men in the dl, I'm fully gay and let me tell you I will not marry a woman no matter what 😅 ( I'm also raised in a relgious household but not that into it)
Because they explicitly say he is attracted to men, not men AND women. He is not bisexual. He is a gay man shackled to a woman because his stifling religion says homosexuality is a sin.
This is one of my biggest curiosities. "how do we differentiate a closeted gay man who is with a woman(for convenience's sake) from a bisexual man with a woman?" so as to help combat bi erasure.
Marthajsfilms; How well represented is bisexual in the mainstream world?!? Hardly not recognized, or as: they live out heterolifestyles and what they do in the privacy of the bedroom they care less for! Most Mormons I know, know little to nothing about sexuality. Sex is just as taboo like in other Christian religions. Bisexuals have been told they just have not jet made a choice, and with monogamous lifestyles being aspired. "Healthy normal lifestyle" as mainstream would put it. they would have to make a choice when starting a relationship many times over. With a woman or with a man... How often can they live with both? TLC would have a better programming with these types of sister wives/hubbies. But that is a no-go; in the FLDS take as many women you like..... considered a healthy male vitality, even biologically speaking.
Kelly Applegath this first guy said 90 percent of the time he's interested in men, but he's attracted to his wife. A lot of these men seem bisexual but just more gay leaning
no cause these are gay men who are being affected by their religions horrific homophobia and feel forced to be in a marriage with a woman. not everything is about bisexuals. stop.
The first gentleman admitted he 'suppress' same-sex feelings - he thinks they're unhealthy and that he rarely notice attractive women. Hello - comparing women to broccoli and men to donuts? Doesn't sound like bisexuality.
Ray Christian yeah I definitely was thinking the show should be renamed “my husbands not straight.” And it’s so common. I have a ex friend who had sexual relations with men but recently married a woman. Repeatedly he would say he wasn’t gay, but he was fucking men. His wife doesn’t know about it. I don’t understand.... gay isn’t a dirty word. But he adamantly didn’t want to be called that.
@@thedojodjsx9605 "debauched desires"...... No, no, no, you're mistaken.... the words you're looking for would be: NATURAL/SCIENTIFICALLY REASONABLE/ HUMAN..... Because as you clearly don't understand, Believing in mythological fables and your imaginary friend called god, IS NOT and NEVER will be NORMAL. Imaginary friends called god and Jesus and their buddy Satan AREN'T scientific. AREN'T grounded with evidence & last but certainly not least AREN'T REAL!!!!!!!
“Your husband is sitting next to you talking about his attraction to men, how does that make you feel?” “ I’m attracted to men too” SCREAMING SCREAMING SCREAMING
"I desire to live a healthy lifestyle so I don't eat a lot of donuts" So is he basically saying that he is cheating behind his wife's back with a man?? This relationship makes me so uncomfortable
The donut thing made me cringe. He's literally saying that he doesn't "choose" to eat donuts b/c he wants to be healthy. In other words, "I'm having sex with my wife b/c I'm being told that's the only way for me to be healthy."
I mean, it's insane for sure. This kind of life is totally inconceivable and insufferable for me as a gay male (or as most of any other people...). But at least they are honest about themselves and each other. He's not in denial or spreading hate either. These marriages at least don't carry deception or secrets as other fake marriages do. If both sides want go on like this then, it is the decision they make. Whether they're content, we don't know; whether it'll work out perfectly as planned, only time will tell. It is not our place to judge.
I agree .I'd rather live like these men than live a gay lifestyle .I have same sex attractions but because I've acted on them and realized that's not what I want for my life ,I choose not to follow .Everyone has a choice .I am going to marry a straight woman and have a family .My identity isn't defined by sexual preferences .period .
I have a good friend who's gay and married to a woman. EVERY, and I mean EVERY conversation is 20 minutes of him telling me how happy he is and how long they have been married. Just wondering...WHO'S HE TRYING TO CONVINCE?
I'm not sure what you are asking when you say, "...so you don't believe him?" So I'll answer in the way I think you want me to. I don't believe he is being honest to himself about the power of his attraction to men...and how it impedes his ability to love a woman as a LOVER. (not excluding that you can love someone without being IN LOVE with them) I certainly disagree with his declaration, "...the only acceptable expression of sexuality and romantic feelings is within a marriage between a man and a woman. Many gay men are totally in love with their male partners and husbands. And they are able to FULLY express that love and romance with a same sex relationship. That statement makes all other relationships illegitimate. His religious views virtuously excludes any other loving relationship...and that is bias and judgmental. If he battles with his same sex feelings, I have to ask what kind of marriage can exist in that environment battling the very sexual core of a relationship. In other words, He is in constant doubt. Do I believe their sex life is as terrific as they espouse it is? No, I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT. I was married to a woman for 34 years....and NO I never cheated on her with a man or a woman. However, I did love her, but we were not lovers. No matter how hard we tried, our physical relationship was at best just a physiological response to stimulation...because a man's body will physically respond to any stimulation by anyone or anything. But there was no emotional/physical connection. I have two friends who are in man/woman relationships. And they also will regale how wonderful their physical relationships are...endlessly proclaiming how GREAT it is. But each endless proclamation of how wonderful and great it is, causes me to wonder, who are they trying to convince, me or themselves. Far to often, these men latter get caught having extra-marital affairs...because it is natural for them to seek out what they are attracted to. I hope i've covered your quandaries.
I agree. Her comparison being attracted to men doesn’t make sense. She didn’t think before talking. For example, she gets to be with a man intimately, therefore her cheating on him is highly decreased. He on the other hand is not with a man intimately, so they’re not necessarily compatible, meaning there’s no correlation. Even though I don’t agree with being gay.
They aren’t homophobic. Just because you don’t want to live that lifestyle doesn’t mean you are homophobic. That word is so overused. Not everything is homophobic.
@@chandlerrose4545 they are gay but hate and fear gay people so much they are willing to live like this. If they weren't homophobic they would be dating who they are admittedly attracted to, men, but they aren't because they are too scared and phobic. And what is "that lifestyle"?? 🤔
Extraordinary Machine You are purposely taking that the wrong way and being overly sensitive. I do not care if they decide to live as gay men or if decide to live as straight men, why do you? It’s completely their personal choice. They aren’t saying they hate gay people. If someone has the right to live their life gay they have the right to live straight.
Maybe they're bisexual.... Why do people treat sexuality so harshly when it comes to men? Women are often assumed to be bisexual, but men are either gay or straight?
Hillary Campbell He is gay the only reason he doesn't marry a guy is because he think is a sin. Man can be bisexual but this guy says he us attracted to man 90% of the time so yeah he is gay.
absolutely, especially in a religious countries i guess (including mine). well, love is totally different from lust, love is universal, is about focus on giving, never about receiving/taking advantage.
The thing is, there's a difference between being bi and being gay. But like... does it work? Because there are SO many cases of suicides or depression for kids trying to change their sexualities... some guys may be Bi and make it work, but for ppl who are gay... I can't imagine them being happy.
I was born and raised in the mormon church and I'm also bisexual. Being both a Mormon and a member of the LGBT community is an extremely difficult position to be in. The church tries to avoid judgement and appear accepting, but the way they go about it is far more damaging (I think) than just flat out condemning any non heteronomative sexual preference. We are taught that it's ok that you feel a certain way and that it only becomes a sin if you act upon it. Its kind of like saying that it's ok to want to punch someone in the face, but doing so is wrong. The problem with this line of thinking is that it is overly simplistic. Wanting to punch someone is not a defining characteristic that makes an individual who they are, but sexual identity/preference is.
I don't think that he is gay. I think that he is bisexual, who has a leaning towards men. If he was gay, he wouldn't have any sexual attraction to women. It wouldn't be 9 times out of 10z
Your Grandma i think he's gay & trys to make it sound "better" by including a small percentage of women. He doesn't call himself bi because he knows deep down he isnt.
@Flick I also have a gaydar and you're so right about the physical features. And I know a lot of gays from all shades, race,weight and they share those characteristics. Lol, But I don't need all that ,its in my dna,I just know..
The Glittery Warlock I agree that being bi is a spectrum but I'm pretty sure in this context it's men trying to convince themselves they have any sort of sexual attraction to their wives
I would say that too if not for the context "my attraction is really 90% men" saying that he notices a sexual attraction to men 80% more than women. Although his preference is men, he does notice a sexual attraction to women but not nearly as much. In this context I believe this man is bisexual, it doesn't matter the percentage of the attraction nor the dominance of that attraction. The context of his words describing that he notices a preference of sexual attraction to men and these words further describe someone who is bisexual but with a preference for men.
I definitely think the target audience is for gay men without any sexual attraction to women. But in a reply to Iartistautravial you can see why I believe that this specific man is bisexual taking consideration of the context and specific words he stated before going on to say the "90%". Hopefully, that can articulate why I believe he is bisexual. The timestamp of the quote is 1:14 if you would like to examine the statement again after reading my explanation. I think the show is trying to convince gay people that they can change sexuality while giving the example of a bisexual man with a preference for men which is quite a different situation.
I don't see how, really. Being a woman, we are wired differently. I need to see that look in his eye that says, I want to posses every part of you. I want to be thrown on the bed with abandon...that was what got me and kept me, that passion. My ex was really good looking and all, but there just wasn't that passion because he sexually preferred men. There was love there, but barring the abuse, it still just didn't work! What's odd though, is he told our daughter that losing me was the biggest mistake of his life. Love is Definitely confusing, huh!?! Given those two senerios, I love the one I have now. I feel like a real woman! What the hell fun would life be if I couldn't tease my husband mercilessly all day, then be his dream all night?
Also, what works for them/how healthy their relationship is really doesn't matter in the end. Bottom line, all that matters is that their religion is respected and followed so God will love them. As long as marrying a woman guarantees that, their relationship will be made to "work"
Kris Damnation Who cares if they want to live this way and are happy. His faith means a lot to him, so I don't see it as the church forcing him as some seem to. He made the choice bc of his religious convictions.
Bard To Death LETS PUT HER TO DEATH BECAUSE SHE DIDNT SEPERATE HER A FROM LOT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! gtfo here man. This does not look like an English class. Pathetic.
***** their strategy appears to be in confusing the issue by pretending that admitting you're gay and living like it is a choice while the preference itself is just one more "challenge" that comes with being a traditional family man. To their way of thinking some men like alcohol and go to AA meetings and other men have hot, sweaty dudes as their vice.
Victor Chen yes he is. I know a guy who says the opposite. he is attracted to girls 90 percent of the time and 10 percent to men. sexuality is a spectrum
These men are bisexual, with a preference for men, but choosing to be married to women...I think this is a lot more common then you think, but men keep it hidden. At least, they are honest and upfront about their feelings
Lol what bisexual do you know goes through periods of depression for having to sleep with a woman. Please, don't insult us. There are gay people in religious communities who live 'heterosexual lifestyles'. This is an example.
Tara Tedesco this isn't bisexuality, the way they're talking about men sounds very repressive and dark. they're just scared of the concept of hell and god, that is a sad way to live.
モンスターフライドポテト if i was asked that, while on camera, i’d say the same thing. Not cause it’s mediocre. But because saying “OH my sex life is AMAZING” can feel personal. i’d feel awkward and not know how to respond
i use to be gay and i thought it was my thoughts and desires for men till i thought about calling it out and i felt this dark mass come up my throat and it took its thoughts and feelings with it and i havent desired men since the spirit left me.
***** He was probably raised to believe it was wrong, or he's bi and doesn't think it's a real orientation. When people are raised to believe something is disgusting or harmful and that thing is a part of them, they try to force themselves to be someone they're not. Believe me, I was there.
***** If you're born into a cult, you can easily get brainwashed and lose the will to be yourself and truly happy...You assume this hasn't happened to him. If you were born in India, you'd be raised to not eat meat, or not eat beef at least, because cows are sacred; yet if you grew up in America, you'd be eating burgers. Try to think outside the box a bit....and not fixate so much on your Book of Mormon....
You can also ruin your life "living who you are" there is value in the staying with one partner, and sleeping with many different people isnt "sexuality", its a lack of self control. About the gay issue though, they arent following completely on a religious scale and they arent really atttracted with who they are with either. Bad deal both ways. I think if they really believe this way, they should at least find a very masculine woman so they arent always lusting after men, since im assuming thats also a sin for them.
"My husband's not gay"--and he's sitting next to his wife telling the world that he's sexually attracted to men just 90% of the time...if this doesn't set the record straight that he isn't gay, nothing will...
Lmao! I'M SAYING! They're literally describing bisexuality and these idiots are sitting there all 'I'm big time gay but also I can get it up for this woman and have kids'. YOU'RE BISEXUAL, YOU BOOB.
just because he hasn't persued a relationship with a man does not mean he is not gay. you can be a virgin and still be gay. you can live a heterosexual married life and still be gay.
Him: “I’m attracted to 90% of men.” Her: “I’m attracted to men too.” 🤓 She know damn well she’s not okay with that. She know DAMN WELL he is, in fact… GAY. This man said “I’m just mad she got to kiss more boys than me” LOL WHAT??? He’s part of a “stuck in the closet” support group for crying out loud!!!
God's sun/son JBP777/sodomite slayer Nope. He only married a woman because of religious beliefs. He is picking his beliefs over being true to himself because he is brainwashed.
p diddy Look up Asexuality and Aromanticism. These issues are more complex than most people realise. And these are valid identities and valid personal choices for living with such identities. As long as it isn't hurting anyone, does it matter how others find happiness?
He literally states his attraction to men and then denies his sexuality by saying he’s not gay! What kind of mental gymnastics do you have to do to believe in that?!
Forced hetrosexuality by society & religion. The straight people wont get it how hard it is for you to come out, and be condemned for your very existence. So lets pretend we fit in.
it's not that hard to understand. he is not gay cause he is BISEXUAL hun. He can't say that he is not gay because he likes women too. he even stated that he thinks about his wife during their sex (not thinking of other men) ya fucking goose.
Laura Laín right??? it’s like me saying because rn im not in a relationship or looking for one that im aromantic and/or asexual???? he’s always gonna be attracted to men whether thats being bi or gay or pansexual????
So he's comparing his marriage to being on a diet and homosexuality is the donuts. That right there tells you that his preference is homosexuality. We'd all prefer donuts to a diet but we FORCE ourselves to stick to diets. I feel bad for both of them actually. She is in denial as much as him.
That statement implies that bisexuals can not be monogamous. Why is it wrong for a bisexual to choose and be monogamous to someone of the opposite sex?
yeah just because you are not christian doesnt mean you dont believe in god just incase you dont know basically religion believes in god but maybe slightly different
He's probably biromantic homosexual. He's capable of forming ROMANTIC relationship with a woman but isn't really sexually attracted to them. Sexuality is complicated like that.
@@pet.me102 You won't be able to stop liking men. You like what you like. What's so hard about owning and living your truth? You like men and women so you are bisexual and that's ok. No one can judge you because none of us are perfect so you should tell your girlfriend, I'm sure she'll be hurt at first but she'd respect you and won't feel betrayed later on.
