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My Romantic Relationships Keep Failing
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@jonathansaindon788 Год назад

The sad thing is, even when you divorce, you go with you. Your internal problems don’t go away magically.

@agentfyre Год назад

But it was all the other person's fault, surely!

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Год назад

@@agentfyreright!!! She’s insufferable

@sherriflemming3218 11 месяцев назад

She needs to do the healing introspective work. Self love. Likely she's an anxious attachment. Deal with the past wounds and trauma. The Hoffman Process by John and Julie Gottman What The Heck Is Self Love Anyways? Jonathon Aslay Attached by Amir Levine Wired For Love by Dr Stan Tatkin Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix - Imago Emotional Intimacy by Robert Masters The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer The Body Keeps The Score Brain Mind And Body In The Healing Of Trauma-Dr Gabor Mate The Myth Of Normal by Robert Masters The Language Of Emotions by Robert Masters I Hear You by Micheal Singer

@Chalk89 Год назад

You divorced him - you have zero say in his life so long as it's not negatively impacting the children.

@JebJeff Год назад

I agree. But who is to judge the new gf is a good or bad impact on the kids? Of course anyone he brings around will not help her state of mind

@davidmackinnon5138 Год назад

She left because she was alone. SHE MARRIED A MILITARY SERVICE MEMBER!!! What did she think she was getting herself into? When women marry active duty service members, you gotta know that he won't be able to be home for long periods of time, especially when he's deployed. I have zero sympathy for her.

@wonder12374 Год назад

She willingly goes through with and has a baby with a man she hardly knew then marries thus man who was in the military....realized life in the marriage was lonely because he was never home , due to the military, yet she continues to have kids with him....a man she never really knew. Then she decides FINALLY she is not happy with the lifestyle and ices him out until he finally asked what's wrong, she asks for divorce, gets divorced and now is unhappy that her EX is not miserable and clawing for her to come back. Rather he is happy and found a relationship he is happy with and that new happiness makes him a great dedicated dad. She needs to grow up!!..Stop trying to jump back out there and start dating no other man needs to fall victim to her instability...she needs to focus on her, her kids, and a therapist.

@Melissa.712 Год назад

High value men don't want 25 year Olds with multiple baby fathers and 3 kids!. She'll get a simp/beta male at best.

@SaystheTruth3 Год назад

💯 !

@Zerodebtliving Год назад

They were both 2 young and got whammed. She should have aborted and moved on. Even if you had 1, her parents should have put her on birth control. Ppl think having kids is a hobby. It’s the hardest thing you ever will do in your life. Getting pregnant from a 1 night stand is just not ok. So many ppl having kids and then regret it. Kids are not “fun” and easy. It’s hard. They are both way too young to have that many children. God bless her and the kids. Hope she figured it out

@wonder12374 Год назад

@K C people need to start looking at having a child the same as joining the military it IS an act of service that you are volunteering your entire life for.

@sarazink2237 6 месяцев назад

I agree, she needs to grow up. This guy pry couldn’t do a thing right in her eyes. She holds resentment from getting her pregnant right away and taking away her youth!

@yoshimuranoemi1968 Год назад

She sounds just so unstable. I would stay far far far away of dating until I could find my footing, getting on with the kids, work etc

@Chalk89 Год назад

Exactly; she'll be the type to get involved with a guy and get married and have a kid within a two, three year time-frame - then go through hardship and blame the guy.

@missyfrank880 Год назад

Right these ppl have 3 children and they’re thinking about where my next lay is lol disgusting some ppl just shouldn’t have kids. Take care of the kids you have and support them through the divorce instead of being selfish

@mikenelson8377 Год назад

She?? I’m not defending her or him as they both made poor decisions are are not dealing with the consequences but everyone who calls in to Dr. JD’s show is so unstable. In fact, you’re probably just as bad 🤷🏼‍♂️

@hikerhobby1204 Год назад

She needs to learn boundaries.

@ShaveItDown Год назад

I like how she said how something went down. Dr. John gives feedback and she immediately says “oh no I did say it that way, my bad”. Red flags from her end.

@ShaveItDown Год назад

@Ivan S 100% agree

@luminous6969 Год назад

Yeah he's not gonna be able to help her if she's not gonna be honest with him.

@isaacwojo3273 Год назад

She’s just jealous he’s not miserable. Be careful what you wish for.

@David-wo9un Год назад

How did she end up with “3” kids if they were having so many problems for so long?

@lonelydogclub Год назад

Because she is just dumb and won't listen to advice from someone wise

@mustangthings Год назад

The strongest aphrodisiacs are poverty and marriage problems.

@l-train7876 Год назад

This is what I never understand.

@bee12355 Год назад

People do it all the time

@Devin1993x Год назад

It’s refreshing watching a video where John doesn’t put 100% of the blame on the man two minutes into the call.

@braziliannigga Год назад

Betcha most of his audience is female. That's why he always plays that game... I stopped watching this type of call because of it.

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

When doesn’t he do that though? I don’t really hear him place “blame” on any one sex/gender at all. In fact it mostly seems that he takes what each caller states as the truth and attempts to help them navigate the current situation. I mean regardless of each particular relationship, both parties played a role, neither are blameless but neither are solely responsible either. Idk I’ve seen this sentiment multiple times, on his video’s, but have never heard or seen an example of him actually regularly placing blame on either sex.

@BarnzTT Год назад

@@sarahalderman3126 See you are seing this from a female's point of view. Why do most women disregard a man's opinion as if it does not matter. The way you are stating this because you said so totally disregards any opinions made by the previous commentators.

@glitterstarbeau Год назад

@@BarnzTT you must be fun

@BarnzTT Год назад

@@glitterstarbeau Indeed I am. 😅😅😅😅😅 You made a snarky comment without even disproving my point. Shaming is a go to move made by some women who can not dispute an arguement. So sad to see you are one of them. Your husband must be a lucky man.

@DavidValeTX Год назад

There’s a certain warmth John brings when he talks to the callers: humor, contagious laughter, empathy, and he listens. God bless you, John! Wish there was more people like you in these crazy times!

@knicholas8768 Год назад

I hope these kids’ dad can offer them some stability in the years to come because their mom is clearly unlikely to.

@Anangelfromabove Год назад

Almost every solution to any problem is personal development and shadow work. Just the truth!

@Chalk89 Год назад

She came off immature from the beginning, middle and end of this call. This is why I hate the power women wield in a marriage. She made the decision to get the divorce, gets the kids, gets child support, alimony (maybe?) and then has the audacity to set ground-rules for the ex-husband.

@Melissa.712 Год назад

They only have that power cause of WEAK guys.

@cptfreeman8966 Год назад

And then gets mad that he still leaves the situation happier than her. Lmfaoooo

@Chalk89 Год назад

@@Melissa.712 Weak guys? I know plenty of strong providers who were taking to the cleaners in court. That just doesn't make the least bit of sense.

@Melissa.712 Год назад

@@SarahConnor562 💯

@l-train7876 Год назад

How do you coparent without setting ground rules?

@JP-ll8iy Год назад

Love the way Dr. JD handled this woman!! She needs to continue therapy and focus on herself and the kids!!

@Dotthel Год назад

Maria should not be dating. Maria needs time off to just be happy with herself.

@parkerskeeper9621 Год назад

He never wanted her. He was stuck with her which is why he was so miserable. He wanted to do what was right and be a provider for his kids and keep his family together but he was never actually happy because he did not consciously chose his life it was a result of a teenage mistake that snowballed. Now that he is divorced he gets to chose someone he actually likes to be around not someone he had a one night stand with and was obligated too.

@wf4983 Год назад

Don't blame the caller! She is 25 , not an old wise woman... life happens ... (that's for some comments here)

@fatvegan4621 4 месяца назад

Old nuff to be making babies round the clock tho

@katcihealer Год назад

I guess she was shocked he learned from his mistakes. It happens, once in a while people learn from their mistakes.

@michaelrandle6884 Год назад

25 & 28 with am 8 year old. We asking the wrong questions. Haha

@Drifter-tw4kt 11 месяцев назад

Lol😂

@milana2020 Месяц назад

When she was 17 he was 20 lol

@9liveslisa Год назад

Get over your divorce before you start dating. Create stability for yourself and your children before you start dating. Men are not the ultimate panacea in any shape or form. Don't watch Hallmark movies that depict perfect relationships. There is no such thing. Love your children, love yourself, and heal. Then see what happens.

@gabriellacallahan2649 Год назад

Focus on your children. Don't look for love. God will provide for you if you pray to him. I prayed for a nice husband if I ever would meet a second man to marry, the first one abusive. Good Lord was I blessed with the nicest, sweetest, loving husband for my second marriage. Just focus on your life, your children and your family. Good Luck!

@GeetarPsycho Год назад

The way she responds is toxic, 100% believe she voiced her issue with her husband, he tried to change and most likely did, she held a grudge, fixating and his past actions, he was committed, as soon she wanted a divorce he was done, and destroyed, someone else saw value in him and how good of a man he is, but she wouldn't let it go, she wanted him to be miserable, woman like this are Toxic!

@texan903 Год назад

Even the way she met her now ex in-laws, you can hear the resentment, bitterness, and irony in her voice. Being married to her couldn't be anything more than pure misery. I feel sorry for her ex-husband that he impregnated her once, much less three times. People like her want everything to be their way, and when it isn't, they become frustrated but take no accountability for their actions. She blames everyone else for things she dislikes and uses crying as a manipulation tactic to gain sympathy.

@reginasemenenko148 Год назад

She got married way too young. She doesn't know who she is or what she wants, so how can anyone else know? The timing must be right--not just because someone asked you.

@elizabethpieters7798 Год назад

She is a dysfunctional relationship addict and will find another Simp to help her raise her kids for a few years and then that relationship will fail too. She needs to work on herself and atleast try to raise emotionally healthy kids.

@hell2thennnaw Год назад

I am confused. I thought high school sweethearts are people that were in a relationship while BOTH were in school. Sounds like he had already graduated at least two years prior, he took her to her prom, got pregnant and then got married. She even said she didn't even know him that well. Smh

@l-train7876 Год назад

Did she use those words, high school sweetheart?? I thought she said she had a “prom baby”.

@jeromehenry4484 Год назад

I'm a little confused too. I thought caller meant she got pregnant beginning of her senior year, then delivered baby around prom/graduation time. She might have been 17 or 18 when baby was born, and that would make him around 20 - 21 years old at that time. I'm wondering if they legally married to avoid him being prosecuted for Statutory Rape? Sounds like he was already in military when they first hooked up; he probably was advised by his superior and parents to get married regardless of how he felt. Also sounds like she stayed with his parents around birth time, that's when she got to know his family without husband being there with her. Did her parents turn their backs on her when she was pregnant? If so, it's been a bad situation for both wife & husband.

@hell2thennnaw Год назад

@@l-train7876 yea she said high school sweethearts. And i thought a prom baby is a result of a hook up during prom night. So baby was born 9mths after prom.

@hell2thennnaw Год назад

@@jeromehenry4484 you might be right. She left out a lot in her story.

@hikerhobby1204 Год назад

@@hell2thennnaw You’re right, that’s is what she said. He went in the military three months later would have been after graduation.

@salonsavy6476 Год назад

I can hear “ Resentment in her voice “,, she should be thankful that he’s supporting the kids ,,my sons father was a deadbeat dad ,, I raised my son alone !,, he’s 19 now ,,

@luminous6969 Год назад

5:23 "I definitely asked over and over, but I could be wrong." Well you either did or you didn't lady. I'm guessing she sat in the corner and sent smoke signals for him to interpret.

@l-train7876 Год назад

Why is the first 60 seconds of every call always the most awkward exchange in the history of mankind. Good thing I love Deloney anyway lol.

@annemarie3811 Год назад

“We were high school sweethearts.” “I was 23 at the time…said ‘You’re 28 years old…!’” Those do not match. He’s a creep, why was that not addressed?

@ShaveItDown Год назад

The divorce took 1+ years. I thought the same thing, I think there's a 2 year difference.

@wonder12374 Год назад

Doesn't matter her parents obviously permitted it and it's not that big of an age gap. They were both kids he was the one trying to make something of his life.

@elladeon Год назад

@@wonder12374 no, he would have been 21 when she was 17. That's a stupid age gap because of the different life stages, and he could have been convicted of statutory rape in a lot of states. (Most have consent at 18, not 16 or 17.)

@jeromehenry4484 Год назад

@@elladeon I have a feeling that Statutory Rape was the issue in this specific case, and both parties were coerced into marriage to avoid prosecution.

@FTG2Eli Год назад

John did a great job of telling someone the hard truth about themselves.

@JebJeff Год назад

I feel for her to a degree. God knows it is tough enough for any single mother or father, but this is the way life crumbles sometimes. It is not fair.

@mariaotto6732 Год назад

Dr. Delony, your words to Maria from minute 12:00 and on, are all the things I want to say to a good friend of mine going through a similar situation at 40. Filling voids and avoiding reality by dating people, expensive trips, spending money, only delays the harsh reality that happens once divorce is finalized. Please consider putting those minutes in a short clip on IG. Thank you!

@gabrielamartiniuc6322 Год назад

Date all you want, I’m perfectly fine with that. She told him what to do ? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 She left him and isn’t happy he met someone? She is INSUFFERABLE.

@thegenxgamerr Год назад

Wow, call where someone from the Ramsey net work doesn’t blame the man 100%. I’m literally shocked. Bravo thumbs up.

@djpuplex Год назад

I think all our comments and points we bring up are getting to them.

@abbyxiong3931 Год назад

John isn't blaming people, callers or their ex's. It's about taking accountability.

@djpuplex Год назад

@@abbyxiong3931 Getting a woman to take accountability 😳 we'll have world peace, sustainable free energy and flying card by then. I don't care if you Jon, Dave, Mark, Ringo, Jesus whoever accountability and women do mix.

@thegenxgamerr Год назад

@@abbyxiong3931 have you been listening to the Ramsey network long?

@alycescanlon-batt9715 Год назад

Oh honey, your ex is on his best behavior at the start of his new relationship. But don’t compare your relationship with his new one coz he WILL slide back into old habits once his new bf audition is over.

@missyfrank880 Год назад

I can’t believe these ppl have 3 kids and their priority is dating other ppl asap lol

@AnOriginalYouTuber Год назад

There's more to this story.

@MamaK1776 4 месяца назад

Road trips were ALWAYS the best places to really talk with my kids. They are 20's & 30's and we still do it!

@tanyamilewski5700 Год назад

He didn’t love you if he watched you do everything yourself. Now when you see him showing up in a way he didn’t do for you just see that as vindication he didn’t love you not as something you lost. Because if you stayed together he would still not be showing up and you wld still be doing everything on your own. So the divorce was a good thing for you not a bad thing as you maybe assuming. Infact if he is a guy who doesn’t show up he will do the same to the the new woman so I wldnt be jealous about them at all. You know what it’s like to be with him, he is most likely the same guy and she will get the same treatment. Unless he just didn’t love you enough. In that case there is also nothing to be jealous of because he wld never have loved you. Look forward not behind. He wasn’t the guy for you. If he was good to or for you- you wldnt have dumped him or felt alone with him.

@SomeBody-ce3gq Год назад

Great comment, I agree completely!

@tishataray Год назад

But even when you love and invest in yourself, life can still be lonely.....and knowing you gave your all in a relationship and the person did not reciprocate but now seems to be doing it for someone else

@janets9179 Год назад

Be careful what you wish for. Often doesn't turn out like you planned.

@sha2596 Год назад

She seems young, and insecure, she still needs counseling. I’m also divorced, and my ex wished me unaligned. I’m not at all invested in my ex’s life or behavior outside of the people my son interacts with. Background checks come back clear? Cool. As long as my son is happy and cared for, we are cool. But I invest none of my emotions into my ex or his life choices. Focus in my home is on the happiness and care of myself and my son, because I know we are both worth it.

@Gabster1990 Год назад

Sometimes people have bad luck when it comes to romantic relationships.

@sherryd3299 28 дней назад

The more bad decisions they make the worse their romantic relationships are.

@victoriaporsiempre 16 дней назад

that has nothing to do with luck, those are choices, plain and simple

@elizabethzajac7591 Год назад

If she was 23/24 when he was 28, and she has her first baby at 16/17……doesn’t that mean he was 21/22? I think John missed it or maybe it doesn’t matter now but 🚩 🚩

@Chalk89 Год назад

Thank you! I heard that bit and scratched my head.

@srobertson422 Год назад

I think the math is a bit dicey, she said she's 25 and he's 28, then she was 17 when the now-8-year-old was born and dad was 20. So it's right on the edge.

@denisehulick47 Год назад

And....with all the age discrepancies, "they were high school sweethearts "????

@hell2thennnaw Год назад

I was confused too. I thought high school sweethearts are people that were in a relationship while BOTH were in high school. Sounds like he had already graduated, he took her to prom, got pregnant and then got married. She even said she didn't even know him that well. Smh

@denisehulick47 Год назад

@@SarahConnor562 if it's as you say, technically they met in high school.

@elainebmack Год назад

It sounds very strange that this lady starts out sounding so fun, chirpy, and giggly, yet within 2 minutes she's in tears. She said she was nervous, but there is so much more to it than that.

@faith6833 Год назад

That is 90% of his callers

@florencia2771 Год назад

They giggle is out of nervousness and lack of confidence. ( yes it’s annoying)

@sairaphilip437 Год назад

Grief does that.

@bee12355 Год назад

It’s a defense mechanism

@madelinem3216 Год назад

Its called going thru a divorce. As dr Deloney said, she is grieving but trying to avoid the process of it. She doesn't understand that this is part of the divorce process, all the parties will grieve.

@EmpressMermaid Год назад

Sounds like she was with him when he was young and immature. Now that he has grown up he's acting more like a responsible adult. There's nothing "bad" here, just two who got knocked up and married way too young. Accept how he's living his life now as his thing and no longer anything to do with her. Plus, John is correct: other than verifying that his new partner is safe around the kids she has no say in his new relationship.

@Amysalol Год назад

It look like their marriage conselor was not much of help to her and her ex-husband.

@djpuplex Год назад

My guess is she wants prince charming a guy with all the 6's and one that will overlook the fact she has three kids. Back in the day single moms were what men had to settle for infact things haven't changed that much. Im a nurse men rarely see it coming the women strategically plan gor divorces way in advance. Love how as soon as she'd have to take responsibility for filing for the divorce she cries blames her parents his parents his pay cut ect. ect. Men don't marry don't date single moms at the first sign of drama, love bombing 💩 testing, blame shifting. He can't bring someone randomly around but she can. This is like watch my 600 lb life or hoarders just reminds you not to ever get attached.

@moondog7694 Год назад

Why would hoarders remind you of anything? Why do you bring up hoarders and 600 lb life?

@djpuplex Год назад

@@moondog7694 Makes me want to immediately diet run a marathon and clean the f out of my apartment throw everything out.

@digitatissue8502 Год назад

There seems to be some personal work Maria needs to move through.

@danilaroche1156 Год назад

She doesn't seem grounded at all. I know divorce is traumatizing. I pray she finds peace, strength and purpose in the Lord Jesus. Only He can help her.

@l-train7876 Год назад

I wonder what she expected to happen?

@karenKristal Год назад

Men literally take 5 seconds to forget a person and move on to the next convenient whatever with a pulse

@loezakidd3149 Год назад

That is absolutely not true . Women do that

@l-train7876 Год назад

She left him. He deserves to be happy.

@JusticeSleuth 6 дней назад

0:17 I love how he said Maria in the Blondie tone hahahaha 😅

@NinjaKiwi12058 Год назад

This lady made her bed now she gets to lie in it. Actions have consequences

@sassytoez Год назад

IMMATURE. Scary truth - these are the majority of parents today.

@elainebmack Год назад

What's wrong with birth control? Why do women think that having a baby (babies) somehow validates their life? I have no sympathy. She says she's alone. Annexing yourself to anyone does not guarantee security, emotional or otherwise.

@sarazink2237 6 месяцев назад

I feel like she undermined everything Dr. Delony said.

@5thdimensionliving727 Год назад

She needs to let go of him, period. All they need to do is agree on boundaries around the children 🙏

@victoriastone2975 Год назад

Stop having children if your relationship is unstable! It’s hard enough to bring up children with a good relationship, but 3 kids at 25? That’s stupidity.

@chrisdakilla3173 Год назад

You can’t make this stuff up

@kcourtney6826 Год назад

She needs to grieve the demise of her marriage and I don’t think the new woman is random he was probably already with the other woman which is why marriage counseling didn’t work. I know some people get married young and stay married for years but for others they have to learn and grow.

@citrustaco Год назад

Yes, there is something wrong with Maria, but John won't say it. All women claim to put their all in a relationship, but usually that's not the case.

@l-train7876 Год назад

She’s 25, has zero life experience other than going to high school and being a mom. She can’t possibly even know what “giving my all” actually means.

@AlexBobalexRavenclaw Год назад

I’m so sad for her situation. She seems easily dissatisfied with life. She’s stuck with herself, which I hope she evaluates before getting into another relationship. I’m actually glad her ex husband was so honest with her and learned his lesson, which is a brave and mature thing to do.

@bee12355 Год назад

She’s not ready to date. Please focus on your children and get therapy. Get therapy.

@Ja50nkAt Год назад

Marriage counseling is always the "on deck" stage to divorce.

@Tionaintown876 Год назад

Not always

@Ja50nkAt Год назад

@@Tionaintown876 Most of the time.

@nathan4725 23 дня назад

Bitter tears of regret

@dsma06 Год назад

She didn't have any concrete reason for leaving her husband, they didn't work on their marriage. How dare she rip her children's lives apart on a whim. -_-

@texan903 Год назад

Well, she has ripped her children's lives apart on a whim. The damage is done. She has three young children to raise and she'd better figure it out.

@michellelafleur4232 Год назад

Poor kids! Quit looking for a man to meet all you dreams. Invest in your kids and yourself

@usernameheda 3 месяца назад

i mean 3 months in he's got a new gf, he couldn't be that shocked or devastated

@sherryd3299 28 дней назад

She can't tell her ex he can't introduce new girlfriends to their children. Sadly the kids have to suffer from the bad decisions their parents make.

@sarazink2237 6 месяцев назад

I think she may have some maturing to do because she needs to own some of her choices and learn. She keeps throwing him under the bus and its impossible to make changes for a better life if you can’t look in the mirror.

@JustActNormal Год назад

So he provided and gave you children. What a horrible guy

@lot2196 Год назад

What a mess. Good luck finding a guy who will take on someone else's three kids.

@luminous6969 Год назад

@@lot2196 She'll have to settle for a lower quality guy that can't do any better, beggars can't be choosers.

@justincarrillo226 Год назад

This is the problem that today’s culture has fed into people’s minds. That it’s all about feelings and when the feelings are gone it’s okay to just leave and try to find that spark again. Think of all the romance movies women love to watch where the girl leaves her fiancé or husband for a new man that makes her feel exited again. It’s no longer till death do us part, but till my feelings change do us part.

@njfuentesrespecter81 2 месяца назад

She’s mad that her ex isn’t miserable. She thought divorcing him would be her moment to “get back” at him for being in the military. Kick rocks lady. I don’t believe her framing of this at all.

@jal8631 Год назад

This woman sounds exactly like a covert narcissist. She has all the signs, takes no responsibility, plays the victim, blames him and does not take accountability. Sounds like she sex bombed him in the beginning to lure him in and then said we didn’t know each other. She constantly makes bad choices and blames her ex. Don’t marry someone you don’t know and have a kid with them. She then gets in a relationship with someone who’s going through a divorce. Bad decision after bad dad decision. She has the nerve to cry because her ex moved on. Good for him, he’s so blessed she left and now he can be the man he wanted to for his kids and someone else because he doesn’t have someone draining him emotionally.

@BG-nm5xt Год назад

I feel sorry for her, it's been very difficult. She would really benefit from therapy to work on these issues before she gets into a relationship. Things can get better for her, but work needs to be done about her issues. The ex-husband improved over time and now she feels the loss.

@danielweaver4591 Год назад

Simple: You reap what you sow.

@diggernash1 Год назад

Sounds like she is finding out that staying and continuing to take care of the kids and hone would have been a better choice. So many women with princess complexes nowadays. And she found out how easily she could be replaced.

@l-train7876 Год назад

Maybe this was a blessing in disguise for him.

@acmb6763 7 месяцев назад

“It took you so long to realize i was acting weird”. Most women do this (and im a woman). This shows a lot about this relationship

@wf4983 Год назад

God, you are young! I was once, too. How stupid of your former husband to mess that up - and I'm sorry you are hurting. I know, when you're young, you don't have the emotional literacy to work through things. And there are misunderstandings - everybody thinks the other person shoud tick the same way as oneself. I would look into that literacy - to understand what's happening and to feel better about that life that is sometimes so unfair - e.g attachment styles, or becoming better in knowing yoursel (needs, core-wounds)... and maybe also to understand what has happened in your marriage (not even for forgiveness, just to be clear and firm and confident).

@emmarose6590 Год назад

Sounds like she didn’t really want a divorce and but knew she had too for her mental health. sad situation

@richthepup Год назад

Why… is no one telling her. She needs to go get her husband back and they need to put together their house. They’re young, breaking marriage over anything 🙄

@camryyyn.s 4 месяца назад

Is this play about me?

@isay207 Год назад

Birth control maybe!!!!!

@sweetbriarhuslin7371 4 месяца назад

“I was alone” you cheated. Code words gents, code words

@nemy2009 Год назад

John: Ultimately, why did you divorce him? Caller: I was alone. Now you’re going to be alone for a while. (I hope not though.)

@EllysaE 3 дня назад

She’s immature. First word and I knew.

@fallon7616 Год назад

Denver CO is awful as far as a divorce 😢

@raspberrykissable Год назад

Can you please elaborate? I am going through a divorce now. I’m a woman. It’s been hard.

@JebJeff Год назад

@@raspberrykissablethink he meant the time it takes and or the hoops you have to jump through

@soni05131 Год назад

Wow!

@stephenwishburne1034 Год назад

You asked for the divorce after giving up! You got what YOU wanted. And now you’re still upset bc the man, who’s heart you broke, is just trying his best to keep it together! I have to say this for the man you divorced, a man who served our country while you stayed home bc of his efforts. OMG how dare you!

@faith6833 Год назад

What we really need to teach our young people, other than contraceptives, is that pregnancy does not have to result in raising a child and that it certainly doesn't have to mean that marriage is required. So much pain and misery could be avoided if this was reinforced.

@alluringbliss4165 Год назад

Single mothers , for the most part, do not raise outstanding kids.

@jerzypopieluszko7524 Год назад

Women are selfish been married 10yrs have two kids my wife is cheating on me but blames me I do everything Dishes Cook Clean Put away laundry So on and so on I'm a single mom in a dudes body I'm divorcing her no cap psht

@soulistic87 Год назад

This is most marriages honestly. Woman does way more than the man.

@SaystheTruth3 Год назад

Really now ?? 😂 Not true at all... Especially with Maria.

@user_abcxyzz Год назад

Shes crazy

@johnnycalderon9951 5 месяцев назад

Maria didnt miss a step dating lol now mad cuz he is happy and shes not lol newsflash 28 .. 3 kids gdluck

@speakersteve9586 Год назад

She belongs to the streets.

@l-train7876 Год назад

12:53 I don’t think anyone knows what that actually means.

@victoriaporsiempre 15 дней назад

I know exactly what that means, it means she should work on herself and get her selfsteem back (if she had any…)

@Mmhmmokay Год назад

Idk man I feel like if the genders were reversed and this lady was bringing a dude she knew for 3 months into her home with her kids, y’all would be jumping at her.

@lot2196 Год назад

First.

@wbae1340 Год назад

Man this women is a mess, it’s sad and a lot of factors go into it, not all her fault, but she is equally at fault for the result of the marriage and this predicament

@janapalmer8370 Год назад

The amount of judgment and hostility towards the caller in these comments is so disheartening. Can we acknowledge that by calling the show she’s making a decent choice, seeking out guidance or at the very least trying to get some feedback and comfort for her situation that is causing her distress? Or perhaps we should acknowledge that she’s recognized her own dysfunction enough to call for help or maybe that she’s called just to share her heart with someone else because she’s feeling isolated and alone? Take a second and imagine it from her perspective. Do you think you would be completely logical and stable? I know I’m certainly not perfect and infallible. Can we not see that she is hurting? Imagine calling in, sharing everything when your life feels like an irreparable disaster for everyone to hear, and rather than being embraced for your vulnerability and effort, you are ridiculed and endlessly criticized for all of your red flags and instability. She doesn’t have to be “right” or completely level headed to be deserving of kindness and grace. This show exists to help us all become more mature, kind, healthy and functional adults.. I don’t have to agree with her to know that judgment and zero compassion are neither helpful nor constructive to someone who is very clearly hurting.

@wonder12374 Год назад

She called because her big problem was that her EX husband had the audacity to move on and be happy with another woman and did not follow the rules for dating that she gave him....and wanted to know how to handle his betrayal....

@VeeAlee Год назад

@@wonder12374 exactly

@sairaphilip437 Год назад

Jana, in the minority who agrees with you.

@sairaphilip437 Год назад

@@wonder12374 Well he is insensitive even if he's got the right to move on.

@basednwhitepilld Год назад

I know she had kids young, but man is she immature. She left a good man and tore her family apart for seemingly no good reason. It was funny when she said "I give my all in relationships". Well one year of marriage counseling when you have 3 kids doesnt really seem like giving it your all. This is why marriage needs to be viewed as a sacrament where both parties stay together for better or worse. There was no abuse or infidelity. She even said he was a good provider! If he made so much money, why didn't she stay at home? Shes going to wake up one day and realize the terrible mistake she made breaking up her family over loneliness. Truly a sad call

@Mitchmyoutube Год назад

Sounds like her ex husband dodged a bullet

@someguynamedvictor Год назад

Remember fellas, just avoid the whole thing. Get yourself a dog, build your finances, mental and physical health. These narcissistic leaches will take it all and demand more. The delusion is off the charts. Save yourself the trouble and skip it.