Really gajab ka coincidence. Today I gave lift to 80 years old uncle. I dropped them till their doors. He stopped me and started crying and beta Bhagwan tume bahot lambi aur tarkki wali umar de. I said uncle you stop crying. He started saying I am retired person get very pensions from the government. My both the sons migrated abroad and trying to please me by sending money. What I should with this excess money. I gave support to them for their education and I stood behind them for 28 years and when I need that they should stand behind me. Is my expectations wrong? I couldn’t answer. But felt very sad.
inhi uncle ne 80s 90s me apne sons ko bahar jaane encourage kiya hoga saying india bekaar hai. my parents were also like that, now they repent. i luckily came back to india last year after 17 years abroad in europe. i went as a student, worked for 12 yrs, hit a saturation point in life.
After finishing my education in Australia and living there for 10 years, I came back in 2007 and found India emerging market in IT and started my own business back in 2010 after learning all the trade tricks and Indian psychology, I am doing very fine and happy with my business and always ahead of the competition. I now have clients in 4 countries and deliver lectures to University students in Australia and Canada.
Indian craving to go abroad is escapist for many to runawayfrom harshrealities and over ambitious few for career prospects. But the parents have to suffer financially and emotionally. Same money can help in providing reasonably happy life within own country.
@@user-kr2wj3pi1q I worked in USA for 13 years in hitech industry and never once I experienced racisms. B'cos the group of people I used to hang out were of high quality human beings. When you yourself are like that u will be surrounded with same type of people. Of course that does not mean there is no racisum in USA. But its minimal. In our country India even if a Bihari comes to Mumbai to work, he also experiences persecution from political parties like MNS. So where ever human beings like they do have some level of tribal mentality.
Just calling someone by his state name is not so bad and not gaali in my opinion. I found out that bihar people get offended by calling them bihari, this is not case in any other state person. Punjabis brags about being Punjabi. It's a fact.
Bhar jaane ke reason :- 1. Wapas a sakte h kabhi bhi dollar kamake agar india me bhaut opportunity considering foreign me white collar job kr rhe h app. 2. Reservation syestem is killing a lot of dreams of general male. 3. Too much competition for even decent level education. 4. Even after all the strugle job pay is not decent. (Purchasing power is same but we should also consider quality of life also) 5. Work culture in jobs is not good in india.
We are a retired government servants from kerala ...our only son had all opportunities to go abroad for higher studies ....but as parents I think our lifestyle influenced his decision making a lot ....having completed his MTech he is trying his luck for a government job ..presently placed in a private firm...definitely not lucrative one though but can be home on weekends.....and looks apparently satisfied....I used to tell exactly what u said about..visiting abroad for vacations is always a option for anyone ...be rooted in our thoughts and feelings ...life is to be enjoyed and not a rat race ....
Yahi to problems hai Indian parents ki , wo kabhi baccho ko yeh nhi bolenge ki beta tu chinta mat kar mein hun tere sath. Parents too paida karne ka karz mangte hai baccho se or apne hi baacho ke beech partiality karte hai or khud ke baccho ko depression mai dal dete hai #meenakshitimes
I lived 15 yrs in heart of western Europe. Working with one of Best company. I like your comment: Rich kids never settle in foreign land - perfectly described I am back in India and very happy 😊 including family. You just lose to celebrate "holi" "Diwali" and all good-bad time in family. If you are good in whatever you do, trust me you can grow anywhere- more in India than out of india.
@@reenas1115 Your English is not easy for others to understand. Kindly write in your native language. Regardless, you may not get an answer from them above. Thank you.
Sir Ji, please do not compare middle class with children of industrialists. Ambani, Birlas or Adanis. Their next genration has to manage their empires in India. Opportunities for middle class are certainly scarce even today because of population explosion and quota restrictions at every level. Many MBAs and graduate engineers struggle to get decent jobs. Leave aside aspirants with less education. Unless you jump into waters you don't get it's depth. Again the overseas life is not easy as you are looked upon with no skills. One has to prove one's merits. Those who want to venture they can certainly test the waters. Every one knows that India is a bigger market, people acquiring new skills abroad can certainly come back and thrive in India. Since returnees know best out of both the world's, they can deliver better. I will encourage youth to break the barriers.
Very good and threadbare analysis. My son who lives in Gurgaon,SunCity and works with a global company as Product Manager is of the same view and talked to us about purchase power parity.l agree with yourजंगल में मोर नाचा किसने देखा वाली बात।
One major reason for people going abroad is the work culture in India. The salaried class is highly dissatisfied with the pay , work culture and office politics prevalent in India.
If one is 20 crore+ in india, settling abroad is stupidity. But if one is not worth much in property and making less than 30000 rs, going abroad is only option for good life.
20 crore+ ?!?!,bhai to live a quality life a 1-2 cr corpus is more than sufficient in India. with medical insurance for family.,yes nawabon wale shauk hain to any amount is insufficient. when abroad 99.99% indians live a lower middle class life doing everything themselves. if they lead same life in india, they can easily survive under 60-70k in any metro city.
@@srinivasaniyer6219no 1-2 crore is sufficient for a single guy, not for married one. Inflation will eat up the sum in no time. Look at education fees, transportation, fuel. Even insurance premiums woul sky rocket.
Sir, idhar 1-2 lakh per month wale ko bhi expectations hai 12-13 ghante kaam karne ki, gadha majoori. Canada etc. mei labor laws hai ONLY 9-5, kisi bhi job me, usse upar hua for any reason then people get overtime. It's QUITE a drastic difference and much better work-life balance.
So true uncle…Me and my husband went to Canada on PR. but it’s not worth the trade of leaving everything behind here…and build a life there from scratch. We came back..and so happy to be back here. very good video
Thank you for a good insight. Very balanced. We need to be aware of possibilities for our children to come back and flourish here well before we send them abroad.
Indian taxes, infra, corruption, dirty political aspects ke baare me sochana chahiye Sir. These are the reasons lakhs of people are giving up citizenship every year. Salaried class ke liye foreign developed countries hi sahi hai.
Correct. There's no public safety for common prople, no justice and ofcourse dirty politics. These are the biggest reason why people are leaving India.
Despite that, 130 Cr people are still living in India and they are happy as well. Ye foreign vgr mohmaya hai. You people need only excuses to go in foreign and explore their western culture, nothing else. Apne sare Relative’s, mother father, bahen bhai, Bachpan ke best friends in sab ki company pyar sacrifice kar ke foreign me jane walo logo ke mentality pe taras ata hai muze..... ye vo log hai jinko relations important nahi hote hai, they just want High Class in life that’s it... if you earn 80 k per month in city like Pune, you can live very happy life. Happiness heart me hoti hai kisi foreign country and high paying job me nahi...
Foreign countries are good for young age ..but for old age INDIA is always best...we can keep servent for every thing...in young age people will have strength to struggle but every one need peaceful life in old age....old people can happily live in INDIA...i love my INDIA and INDIA is always great compared to any other countries
Sir you explained it in such simple words. Everything made so much sense. Really appreciate. Parents really are struggling with this issue and not able to take an informed decision. Thanks for the wonderful video.
I want European life style....I am unmarried female and want to run Europe because everyone here in India is after my marriage and always question my dignity....
Not only indian parents but the Indian society is also quite suffocating which tempt younger people to run to the countries that are tooo open about everything.. From extreme to another
After living in the US for 27+ years and now retired back in India...I endorse most of your advices especially this growing trend of sending kids for undergraduate studies. The unfortunate brain drain and lonely old parents left behind is growing in numbers. It is challenging to convince kids to stay behind though...my own son who grew up in India is now looking to go abroad and it is difficult to convince him not to.
I am also a desi in USA, I want to ask you, Why did u live in USA for 27 years ? U saved in $$$ and for retirement u r back in India b'cos its cheaper to live in India. Sir, U are a hypocrite.
@@WisdomInExperience At first you must have understand that person who has lived in USAfor 27 years must be an elderly person. So you must have respected him. Secondly, he wanted to make money in USA and he did. He must have also invested $$$in India, which is very useful for Indian economy. Now if he feels that he has worked enough in his life and has managed to save money for his family and retirement then what's the problem? Do you mean that if a person is working abroad must die overseas? If he returns then he is a hypocrite? I disagree you.
Hello Sir, your point about the hospital waiting period is correct. But to be honest, you don’t get sick easily as the quality of air, water and food is great. Since medical is free in Canada, so the waiting period for a surgery can be a bit longer but for other medical emergencies its not bad. Your point about purchase parity is correct but which company would pay you Rs 50000/- per month in North India😂 may be a small percentage. On average, everybody earns living wage from day one in Canada/Australia/US with respect. Is it possible in India for a middle class? You point about happiness is correct but how can you bring happiness without money. Every relation needs money in today’s world. Otherwise its tough to stay bonded. Except parents(small percentage). Canada/Australia/US provides endless opportunities to middle class to explore and grow which is tough to do in India as rich people don’t allow the lower middle class to compete. Your point about education is correct. But STEM jobs are the same all over the world. So it doesn’t matter where you studied. How much an average engineer earns in North India? Rs 15000/- per month. Itne ka to Petrol lg jaaye ga bicchare ka. Ek cleaner, maid kbhi rich ni ho skti/skta India me but here its 100% possible even with these jobs
I was not happy in India at all. Also if you are divorcee and some other such tragedy happens then remaining in abroad is more helpful and Indian society will drive you to depression ..
I got educated in India its worthless taking a a foreign passport I was abroad for 7 years working I tell you Canada USA UK or Australia and New Zealand they are over hyped well its been my experience I would rather save in India and travel around the world well you are absolutely right you need a good purchasing power and value of money well I can see many middle class children going abroad and then spending 50 lakhs on education and most important is rental even foreign citizens have been staying on rent doing 2 jobs still cant save money well I frankly tell u while I was on working on ship i travelled 100 countries and solo traveled 20 countries all on my Indian Passport my job is not so great I am working in Security department in hotel but still I can achieve my passion and before my 50 ill be retired and prior retirement i might have explored solo 50% of the world Well I am working in security department last 15 years if I could manage to pursue my passion of traveling why can a common Indian can ? that too staying in India on Indian passport
Excellent advice and insights. Thank you. I agree with you 200%. India is a fast-growing economy - this means the career growth here will be must faster. I am already seeing this happening. Unless one has a degree from a top-notch foreign university, there is no value if one has a degree from a average foreign university in India. So in some way you are stuck abroad, and even if one wants to come back to India - one cannot.
salaried class is most squeezed both by the govt and the employer in india that is reason for going abroad. also depends where you want to go abroad , USA if person wants to chase money and best opportunities, europe if person wants peaceful life close to nature, canada and australia mostly average people go who are not able to find jobs and just want to settle abroad.
i live in sweden,. salaried upper middle class is squeezed everywhere, were not a votebank anywhere. dont tell me we get benefits here. benefits yes, but there is no privilege or service. in india also there is unemployment exchange govt hospitals etc, but we dont go there right.. real money can be made by doing business, not by monthly salary..and i personally think doing side hustles in india is far easier than europe. Also information flow and getting advice on how to grow in career life etc , forming network is better and easier in india.
Youth especially middle class went out to study, because of frustration. Education is all about memorizing without creativity and originality. Then comes the frustration due to not getting into decent education institutions due to marginal marks or reservations policy. After that comes competitive exams, govt jobs which are few. Foreign universities do not conduct entrance exams and don't have reservations. Jobs are there in plenty so a child eventually settles down even while studying as he earns money. He learns to value Money and savings. Job market becomes global as now he is ready to find job in an international level. He learns to cook and become independent. Plenty of Indians abroad in each and every country, community living is possible. In other words a child gets a chance to see and survive in a wider world. So sir don't just preach. At your age ...u don't even know what level of frustration the young children are experiencing
It's not easy anywhere to work these days and you are right jobs are not growing, inflation is beyond compare. Economy is a roller coaster ride and society refuses to accept that we are globalized now. Why on earth do we not have dual citizenship in this country where everyone is crying about brain drain? Growth in education and job sectors is very limited. Beyond this, those who can, choose to move abroad for several more reasons than career or to show off. 12 saal pehle ye showoff hota hoga ab nhi, ye show off bolne wale log ek bar akar dekhen ki immigrant hona kya hota hai. About lonely parents, loneliness is not just being alone also it's not just the older generation that suffers loneliness. Bacche bas pados mein ya ghar par rhe par agar kisi aur state mein reh raha ho to kya lonely nhi hote parents? How many of these parent's left their own parents in villages themselves . Bahar rehna gunah nhi hai aur har abroad rehne wala bachcha apne parents ko neglect nhi kar raha.
jobs are plenty abroad?! whats the source of your enlightened information. i lived in sweden for 15 years, came back to bangalore last year. you have to be very good and competent to get proper white collar jobs abroad esply in the west.. there is no free lunch. in many countries now, locals have started protesting against jobs given to IT chopshop workers sent there.. yes for blue collar folks, life is an upgrade for them, but those guys dont get visas that easily. locals are struggling to get entry level jobs even in developed countries despite qualification, indian second generation kids are not doing as well as their parents as a statistical average....in IT industry for instance, indians coming onsite are paid less than local counterparts..this is creating lot of illwill against the system both in US and europe offlate...india me we have a lot of help around to upskill ourselves as compared to abroad where mostly everything is self study. only the mentally strong can adjust to this kind of life in a long run, and after many yrs you get trapped here for different reasons like family, kids etc and cant leave even if you wish. you must talk to welloff ppl in india who tried living abroad for an extended time to have a more informed opinion.
@@yono4633 theyre going to dubai and singapore to save tax by registering themselves there. Theyre doing business in india only and spend 90% of their time in india only. Even in US emigration is at an all time high, people move as per individual preferences and lifestyle choices. You must also see rate at which millionaires are getting created in india as a businessman.
Love the content sir ! to answer one of your questions, my personal opinion is to keep astrology and religion separate from these life issues as it will mix pragmatism with mysticism which are, in certain ways, complete opposites.
All the points are golden ie PPP concept and lifestyle aspects Do not follow the crowd and support children to setup business If sending your children abroad is last option, go with them for some time.
As a person who did his masters in US and worked for 10 years in US and Canada. I can say that all the points that you spoke are true. I have also kept bad company for a while but could come out of it. One thing that living and studying abroad teaches you is independence and value of various things in life. I advise that parents must send their kids abroad and the kids must have that hardship for a while. Sending one parent to cocoon the kid is not the right idea.
Thank you for sharing this. My experience, people discourage left, right and center to come back. It is mentally exhausted to answer to them as they are not ready to hear any difficulties or experiences abroad. Indians have blindly assumed that life is better abroad, and always discourage coming back.
Sir, one of the reasons for people going abroad is also bragging right in front of their relatives / friends. We as Indians are still suffering from colonial hangover. So my son / daughter is settled abroad looks like a big bragging point.
Just like getting admission is difficult in any IIT or IIM, same is the case about settling abroad. There is nothing wrong to be proud of your children who have done well and have settled abroad. Once you reach a foreign country you open your eyes and see a totally new world and new horizons. U will see how incredibly hard it can be. U will see the struggles the new country has gone to reach the next level of human civilization. U will learn so much, you cannot even imagine. There are so many perks and when u understand all of it, u will be motivated to give up your Indian citizenship in an instant.
@@yeshemant certainly some parents are stubborn and are hard to get along. Those parents stay back in India. I have seen so many parents living happily here in USA with their kids. Parents sometimes dont want to adjust to new ways of life in a foreign country, only those kind of parents suffer. My father loves to live in USA and he goes out for a walk every evening make new friends and they even have formed WhatsApp groups, where the plan and have a lot of fun. Ofcourse there are exceptions to this case and there is suffering even when children and parents both are living in India in same house or city. There is every case u will find.
Awsome Video , i had lots of confussion and regrets about foreign jobs , but you have cleared all , i have also bet on india for growth , God bless you !!
नमस्ते सर, मेरा बड़ा बेटा abroad नहीं जाना चाहता था, हमने बहुत कोशिश की यहाँ उसके business करने की, 3 साल में पैसा फँसाया और जो जम जमाया कारोबार ले कर बैठे हैं वो लोग आगे किसी को छोटा मोटा भी कमाने नहीं देते मैं आपको कम-से कम 5example दे सकतीं हु के , हमारे शहर के बड़े बड़े industrialists के बेटे foreign settle हो गये आपने सही बताया कि India का brain drain नहीं होना चाहिए, पर यहाँ इनको कमाने को भी तो मिलना चाहिए कब तक ग़लत जगह हाथ पैर मारते रहे? और जब future में सब ठीक हो जाएगा, ये सोच कर भी, कब तक ग़लत या सही है, ये सोचकर भी तो पता नहीं चल रहा!!
Jee ,you said what happen in my life , don't send your kids abroad ,i made thus mistake twice , im a Muslim and my children matried another religion and also no one to tell them to follow or to pray or dress code.all have changed i even felt that i didn't educate them well . Anyways now i keep making dua that they go on rigth track ,if happens ,will praise God !
Very nice topic and I feel every one commenting should share their personal experiences mentioning the name of place so that it helps others....before sending your Kids abroad please check all Aspects 1.like economic condition of Country where he/she studying...so that they get a proper job after completing degree 2.for Canada...please do a proper research because there are lot of frauds happening there....and the climate there is not suitable ...anyone not so tough will be forced to come back 3. In case if planning to comeback to India...please check the Credibility of foreign degree in India...how much ROI will it give u ...
Sir, I am from north Delhi & struggled to get my life together for 5 years in india & then settled in USA (18 years now). A lot of things you mentioned are correct. But 1 thing you missed is law and order in New Delhi vs Washington DC. Both are capital of country. So, I have 2 daughters and the images of Nirbhaya still haunt me.
Mr Agrawal, you are absolutely right. DELHI is another level of crime city. In every major city there are crime prone areas and people can mostly avoid those place but in DELHI it can strike anywhere at any time. I would say New York City is similar too.
Well if your daughter is out at 3 AM and flagging down random vehicles for lift, she will get into trouble in any part of the world. I have been in the USA and you get mugged at all times. Do you even look at people on the side walk in the eye when you stop in red lights? For the population we have India is probably one of the safest countries and certainly safer than your USA.
our folks oftencompare the worst case scenario of india with the best case scenario of a foreign country. its a thought defect. see any crime news paper of USA, and the kind of gory crimes that happen in US. In india also there are most very safe pockets and unsafe pockets. like USA.
Thanku sir. Aapke video bhut helpful rahi mere decision lane m. Sir aap bhut aacha kaam kar rahe h. desi language m bhut aache s samaza rahe h. Sukriya sir. Om shanti🙏🙏🙏🙏
Those who have good prospects in India will never go abroad.. either people with no options decide to go or super intelligent people like IITians can benefit by going.. others live like a second class citizen abroad.
If you are smart (I was 99.9 percentile for all competitive exams in India - AIR 5000) , definitely go abroad. You can very easily save 1 cr in 1 year after you get a proper software job. No point in pointless struggle in India.
You briefly touched upon astrology which again is not talked about openly.. many people have their own bitter experiences.. please start an astrology series sharing this science with common people.. and coming this from you will definitely be taken seriously, and people will start realising the importance of this science..
*If the parents put 30L in Infosys, TCS, Wipro, Reliance stocks* ... their kids can live their entire life on just the dividends and become millionaires in 10-15 yrs.
Hats Off To You Sir👌 Your Knowledge, Insightful Approach, Presentation and the Clarity of your Thoughts are all commendable... Wish people can understand the value of Growth while staying Connected to our 'Roots'🌱🌳 Awesome Topics that you are bringing into Light.. 👍👍
Send those children's abroad who himself doesn't drink water bringing ing himself. Out of my 2 son, 1 is in Africa & 1 in own country. By the way job opportunity are very less in our country. Because of our population .
