SHE WANTS A $60,000 DOWRY?! 

Iman Kouidere, Masha'Allah

That is so beautiful

Me too! And now it's displayed in mine and my husbands lounge room ❤️

That is a beautiful story. May Allah bless you and your family. THAT right there is the true message and meaning of an Islamic marriage. It's not worth 60k. Priceless blessings.

MashaAllah, that's really cute, imo

Awww that's actually more expensive and worthy then a billion pounds.❤

Raniya T love this comment, genuine praise without shade vs. people being the “modesty police” on photos/styles they don’t approve of

Ikr!!

agreed! not even because of the modesty issue but because it suits her and the shape of her face better

I like her turbans.

Connie Schlomer Exactly. It's such a pretty look on her mashaAllah

Rani Parin Australian

Depending on where you live this could be considered as a super expensive mahr. Not everybody can afford such a thing.... Anyways I do not see the point of comparing what or how much people get: that's what creates so called "norms" where things depend on the groom and bride stances.

Maha did I discuss the amount? Did I set a norm? Not sure why you are acting butt hurt for no good reason. Investing in the Akhira is a smart thing. The purpose of my comment was highlighting that my sister asked for something for God. And then Allah SWT provided so many provisions to make it happen. Can people get off their moral horses for a change. So sick of super sensitive people who can't handle mature conversations & feel the need to police and monitor folks through a keyboard and make them feel bad. Sit on that for while. And consider people's intentions before you slam them.

Maha on top of that we have no brothers and dad was ill, so this in my opinion was a great request. But I don't owe an explanation to a silly judgmental person online who wants to criticize everyone.

You misunderstood me, I never insulted you and was not referring to you personally but all the comments regarding what XYZ received. As human being we have a tendency to compare so it's best to keep things to ourselves as what is fine/normal to us might be the complete opposite to others. For you it's a good things to ask for hajj but please understand that for many such a thing is extremely expensive (around 8000euros per person). I am not feeling offended at all and believe that no matter the stances we should be able to discuss respectfully. Please read again my comment and your response as you are being excessive, insulting and attributing me ill intent... I am sorry if you thought I was attacking you or anything similar to that.

This is actually on the modest size compared to some of the other stories out there, especially places like the Gulf..some women have have an out-of-control sense of entitlement.

Hahahahahahahah

Lee Lee the dad didn't approve of the proposal is literally the only reason why he asked for 60k because he knew they wouldn't give such a massive amount

That’s probably more likely. Typical sneaky narrow minded asians.

siemenssx1 it'll tell you how, it causes resentment.

siemenssx1 The amount is symbolic of value yes for sure. However, my point is that when you ask an amount which doesn't fit the means of anyone in the union, you are devaluing the union as there is potential for it to be broken when agreements are not made on the mahr. If you ask for a decent amount, subjective of course, you facilitate the union rather than work against it. Does that make more sense to you?

Tanzina K I agree with you!

Sadjida Carter Thanks for letting me know :) I'm glad others agree. It's similar to what Sid and Dina were saying too tbh. It's good to have level-minded people out there on this topic.

Tanzina K hello sister i hope sub my new channel

sky bee fr. I would be like Fuck this I'm out

Ikr

Agreed

batman

sky bee Exactly. It shows the intention of the family as well which would definitely put me off. You have to remember that you are also marrying the family as well as the women. If you have a family that puts the dunya and wealth above anything else. What is going to happen in the next couple of years with the in laws if you become broke?

pretty parveen 😂😂😂❤️

This was a year+ ago so how are you doing now? I plan on marrying after I make hijra from the United States because I fear for my children being raised around these crazy events occurring here.

Rebekah Bell that's how I wear it!!

siemenssx1 maybe it isn’t a lot for you, but it sure it for loooads of families :) you don’t know anything about the guys financials

siemenssx1 hardly a lot of money? Bitch you must be loaded shut up

Giving a person 60k with no strings attached is a surefire way of making a person financially irresponsible and extremely spoiled.

siemenssx1 averge salary of london is 27k ( a year)...

Me, a rat BTS, the Pied Piper ARMYYYY

AHHHH JIMINAAHHH. MY BAE

I don’t have one either but even if I did it would probably be empty

HAHAHAHHAA

Heart of Africa heyyy gurrl I watch your videos. Plus what you said is so right. Wallah parents are so different from us and the way we think. I know it's the generation difference.

Ahoud Dobashi Thank you! And yes I know exactly what you mean. That’s why I like Dina and Sid’s advice so much, they relate to our generation!!

Heart of Africa hey I'm Sudanese too and watch your videos! And I'm agreeing with you, because I can't convince my parents of anything!!

Tell me about it!!

Heart of Africa i

hahaha

Same man, same.

same!

Nadia Miah it is!!!! That's one of the many reasons for a Mahr

why though? is she going to stop working/being financially independent when she gets married that she needs the dowry if something goes wrong? i understand this may have been practical a long, long time ago but now?

Can someone plz tell me Wat the ACTUAL logic behind a bride giving a dowry?? Like wth she moves house into her in laws deals with their crap and slaves for them and for all this she has to cough up huge sums???? Like whyy

The logic is that a man is more valuable than a woman because he takes care of the elders, the female child is considered borrowed property by her parents because she leaves home after marriage. So when you get a groom it's like getting a son and that's valuable, and ladies, that comes with a hefty price tag.

UK youtube yeah that happens too. As I said, it's awfully sad.

Pallavi Sanyal yes this is ny understanding if the dowry too. I'm surprised that its the other way round as Sid & Dina explained!

Hina Singh the original significance of dowry for us was also as a gift for the outgoing daughter given by her parents. But over centuries that significance has been replaced by what we have today. But, I'll clarify that in most educated urban families it's not accepted any longer.

At least his daughter won’t be a widow in a year or 3

Ruki blomst ikr. I would be like well F you too I'm out this bih

Ruki blomst 😂😂😂😂 comedy gold

Umarah Abid agreed!

Finally a sensible comment. People are saying marriage should be based on trust and it should not be started on fear of divorce. I mean what dream land these people are living in? No one has seen the future, even the perfect marriages fall apart. Allah has given us this right to protect our furure. Why not use it? you dont have to use the right if you dont want to, but stop telling others that its wrong to ask for dowry.

👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

^^^This is correct. Islamically the mahr is not just a gift, it is a kind of insurance that is there to protect the woman in case of divorce. Or to escape domestic abuse or even in the case of death of her husband especially if he doesn't have savings. It allows her to have savings available to her so that she can support herself whilst she is not being provided for by her husband. Of course the mahr doesn't have to be money, and women have a choice in what they ask for (if anything).

Exactly. That's the problem with the ummah nowadays. Families are becoming greedy and brothers are becoming stingy

newyorksbaby94 awwww I really like this

Hasina Akther like your own personal opinion about a certain topic

Aamina L mate I just quoting what she said I know what it means 😅

Hasina Akther oh my bad lool 😂

Beautorgeous World ikr. These guys the realest

siemenssx1 would you pay $60k? People get so greedy about money that they take advantage of the dowry and demand ridiculous sums of money. Also asking for that kind of money in exchange for the daughter sounds like they want to sell her off.

siemenssx1 clearly the groom feels like it's too much money so the bride's family should be considerate on his case. I know it is a must for the groom to give a dowry however if he feels like he can't give that much money then they should understand. I'm not judging at all, it's simply the brides decision on how much however in this case it's her parents who are demanding for it and that should not be the case because it's only the bride who decides what she wants. It's not fair on the grooms part if he can't afford to give money but the parents are asking for it. They should at least do what Dina's parents did and ask the groom how much he is able to pay instead of asking for dowry money when not knowing if it's okay for the groom to provide for it.

siemenssx1 he clearly states in the email that he can't afford to pay that much money for the dowry. Her parents want the money but the dowry is supposed to be for the bride. It's just very inconsiderate on her parents behalf because you should ask before to see if the groom is able to give that kind of money before he goes in to debt.

siemenssx1 that's exactly what I was trying to say but some people are far too greedy and don't think about what the bride would like. It's a bit sad on her part and his. Inshallah it works out for them though.

Also 60,000 is reasonable because if he divorces her she gets nothing! He could leave her with kids and just move on to the next like so many do. Islamically that money is given to the bride to protect her in case of situations like these.

Usama Fayyaz it's okay, everything is sorted now, it was all worked out because my brother and his fiancé understand each other. But when it comes to her family we all really say a new side of her parents, honestly no matter how many times you meet someone you can never be sure of what's in their heart.

Usama Fayyaz that’s Islam dumbass, the husbands duty is to provide his wife with provisions, accommodation, pay the walima and provide a dowry. This is why they say only marry if you can afford it

Jazzy Lady hello sister please sub my new channel

Sumzz oxo what makes you think we haven't.

Khatija Kay I felt this 😫😫

xXxbaxroxXx I hear what you're saying but 60k? I think that's extremely unfair and it's abusing the meaning behind the mahr. 60k is above the average YEARLY salary of a lot of western countries. It was completely unreasonable to ask for such a high sum and that greed prevented two people from getting married

xXxbaxroxXx tell the wife to get a job

Savage Longbottom You must either be a child or a non Muslim. If they are practicing muslims chances are the man won't want his wife to work. And realistically most of them don't want her working, especially if he grew up with a stay at home mother chances are he wants the same for a wife. So that is why she needs a good mahr and can't just be told to 'get a job'

Sadiya S so muslim women aren't allowed to get jobs. it doesn't matter if your muslim or not women can do what they like

Savage Longbottom you’re not a Muslim so you clearly don’t understand. In Islam there’s certain rules and regulations men and women both have to follow. They say even if a man on low wage marries a billionaire woman he still has to be the one who provides for her and he is NOT ALLOWED to ask her for her money or expect her to pay towards anything. Look it up, she can refuse if she wants, she won’t be sinning for it as it clearly says it’s the mans DUTY to provide for wife and kids and if he can’t he shouldn’t marry

Najma M. It's not a matter of misogyny. A lot of girls have high expectations but just want to sit on the couch all day on instagram and don't offer anything to their spouses in the form of financial, domestic, or even emotional support. If his job is to support you financially and you expect or value a great car, cell phone, home, clothes etc. in your marriage, then as his wife you should be doing your best to fulfill your role as his wife and support him. How you do that is upto you as a couple to decide what your comfortable doing whether it's picking up a full time job to help the both of you or helping out around the house while he's at work. I've seen a lot of girls in my own friends circle wreck their marriage by being unreasonably selfish and demanding from the outset of their marriage and getting progressively worse with their mean attitudes over not getting the newest phone or not being able to go on vacations like the rest of their couple friends. They literally sit at home all day and compare their lives to what their friends post on instagram and then get upset over what they don't have. The point is a man can only provide you with so much, so you should either work hard with him to keep yourself and him happy or just be appreciative of whatever he does bring home. I genuinely don't feel this was an issue of misogyny. I've been married for two years almost and just looking amongst my own friends circle I fear for the expectations both girls and boys bring into their marriages and how it leads to divorce within the first year or so.

at least she'll look flawless with all that shit on her face, a trophy size 0 to show all your buddies too. LOL whist ur in the kitchen making soup from a can! JK AH THE DREAM OF DREAM WIFEY MATERIAL right there dude!

Mas A 😂

Najma M. ‘Did you know that the majority of men treat women like objects?’ Your referring to the fact that the part of a mans brain that lights up when he sees ‘tools’ is the same part as when he sees an attractive woman. This is evidence of nothing. Cite your sources with your comments. That is such a sad and hateful view to have of men. They are your father, brothers, uncles and sons.

Did you watch the video you pig

Maryam Almarar too much

Why should he give her separate money for the dress and jewelry? That's just insane! She should use the dowry money for that or take it form her parents. After all she's still her parents responsibility until she goes to her husband's home for good that's when he becomes responsible for her finances.

R u kidding. All of it sounds like a whole lot of money!

They do that in Asian culture too, men give money for the dress but in return women buy his suit

Ruby Senpai that’s haram, and Allah says for those who change the words of the Quran and add stuff into the religion that Allah or Prophet Muhammad didn’t preach to us will be punished.

Ruby Senpai yea idk what Quran people be reading

Ruby Senpai exactly I went on singlemuslim and was shocked by the amount of men who said 'I won't ask my wife to pay me a dowry' I was like well she shouldn't be anyways, Hindu women pay the husband, in Islam husband pays his wife. Weird how some guys don't know this!!

Yeah i’m sure it is. But you know the usual how people like to mix culture with the deen.

Jeanette Kramer hey you did better than me I got $10 lol.

Are you a revert ? That's taking the piss. But as long as you are happy.

It's not taking the piss. I could have asked my husband for anything but I didn't, just a ring and £50. The most blessed marriages are ones with the least expense.

Like I said, as long as you are happy. May Allah bless your marriage.

Jeanette Kramer awwwww

Chances are your husband has got some valuable stuff of his own that he never uses either. When my husband used to ask me why I rarely wore the expensive jewellery I'd just ask him in return why he rarely wears his expensive watches or cufflinks or uses his expensive wallets

Asees Hera yes , and it’s also to make sure that the man is serious .

Religiously it's just a present to the bride. there is no relationship with financial safety or anything else. Btw if the women wants to ask for a divorce (if the husband sticks to his duties/made no fault) she needs to give the dowry back.

Asees Hera yea because if they get divorced she gots nothing even if they had kids. Not even the house. So all that considering I think 60k is as much as it seems

xXxbaxroxXx who said that she gets nothing!! If she has his kids he will be obligated to provide a house for them and their mom , also he will have to give his divorcée money so can pay food and clothes and everything else for the kids 👍🏻.

Kholoud Yahya nope that in the english legal system. A lot of women after 20 years have been left with nothing and going around hoping a relative will take her in with her kids

Trzippo 16 they still happen because islamically the guy has to give it when they get married. I'm a girl and I don't know why but asking for dowry money would make me feel uncomfortable.

Trzippo 16 it's a woman's right. Commanded by Allah swt

He doesn't have to if the woman doesn't want it. But yeah if she asks for something then he has to provide it.

Sadiya S even if the woman doesn't want it he still has to give dowry because it is the command of Allah swt. there's no such thing as if the woman doesn't want it...

seda kaplan actually I’m pretty sure the woman has the right to decline it or not ask for a dowry. But it’s her loss and she can’t ask for it later.