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Half the unlisted content Tom talked about here got unlisted because of the bad people in his community that doesnt acknowledge what the creator would feel about before doing dumb shit in the creators behalf
@@cikablyat6943 some of the videos he unlisted involved his friends and some people and the people who watched the videos annoyed the people who are in the video and got uncomfy and because of that, Tom unlisted it to prevent further harassment
sure, but... you cannot control crowds, even if all the people involved have a common goal/ interest, they're still all different people. i think it was responsible of tom to act the way he saw fit
Jesus, those comments from 7:15 onwards. I know that some of them may be kids, but a lot of them seem to be people wanting to just to get a reaction. What assholes. I'm sorry that you had (and maybe continuously have) to do deal with that.
I am horrified he's still getting these comments. I have so much love for Tomska and having seen his channel grow and mature as I've grown as well has been such a good experience. It hurts my heart to know he's still getting shitty comments especially on that topic.
@@SamuraiPipotchi from memory, I believe it was an advert for one of his new merch releases or something or other. Might have been Sam kills Christmas, might have been an announcement for one of the cons he went to. I'm sorry I couldn't be more specific hah
@@ChronologicalFern 1. ~90.000 people watched that video. 2. He spoke about racist things he said a long time ago. I think it's really hard to admit that. 3. Rethinking one's own actions is in itself very admirable. Only a few people can do Rethinking one's own actions is in itself very admirable. Only a few people can do that. So in my eyes that's inpressive.
Also I feel you. My dad passed when I was 16 and it hurts to have people ask "where's your dad?" "why wasn't he at graduation?" and shit like that. Now I feel like I don't want to have a wedding because I can't have him there. The hurt never goes away. Love you, so so much, Tom.
Can I just say that "The Sex Talk" came at exactly the right moment in my life where I needed to know about it, and it made a huge positive impact on me, so thank you!
Yeah! Like, I understand that it’s a bit uncomfortable to have out there and may even feel a bit creepy, but it’s still something that people who want to have sex need to know! But yeah, there’s probably better content out there for that (recommended; sexplanations)
What a couldn't understand was other youtubers branding hin a pedophile over it. I think that was also the point in time when everything was about drama and drama channels, and it was just really popular to hate on certain youtubers, and Tom - whether due to Edd's passing and him taking over showrunner, or gaining wieight, or some other reason, became a really popular target sadly.
"My friend died" really helped me when my mate died a couple years back. So thank you for making in Tom, but I completely understand why you hid it. ❤️
People: "do you miss him" Me even back then: what the hell of course he misses him what kind of sick person are they to put something like that to a grieving man
@@darthsidious4022 Did you need to do that ? Does it bring you joy to know that you're one among hundreds of others mocking the sorrow of a man missing his friend ?
I want to hug this man. He should just get hugged any time, any convention, in the street, when he's at his house, and people just need to bombard him with hugs, and also cookies. Because everyone loves cookies.
Dear commenters from 8:37 ish, I know you're all young, so let me try to explain something: pretend your brother died. You can't picture it right? It's too extreme, too emotional, too drastic to even comprehend, and you have no idea how you'd react. It'd hurt like hell to even say his name for a while, but eventually it'd get to the point where it still hurts, but you're ready to move on. You want to live your life, but not necessarily forget him. How could you? There are reminders EVERYWHERE. But you just want to that wound to heal. Now picture people years later asking if you miss him, if you want to talk about him. Of course you still miss him, he's your brother!!! But you have moved on, the wound was healing, and someone just poked it with a toothpick. Now imagine that someone, but there's at least a thousand of them. Tom has moved on, because he wants to live his life. Of course he misses him. It's no secret they were best friends; but he doesn't want to keep mourning him. Tom has his own life and his own projects to work on. He can't spend every minute and every second mourning his life when Tom has his own to live still. Please keep in mind, I'm not Tom, so I can't say this is exactly how he feels, but it isn't hard to imagine what he went through and what he might still be going through if you've suffered a close loss. Think before you type, kids.
@@alexneufeld8918 This comment clearly wasn't for you. You seem to understand what Tom was saying during that part of the video. I made this comment for the kids in the back who haven't suffered a close loss yet. The ones who didn't quite understand what Tom was saying. What might be clear to you and I may not be clear to others. I'm just trying to help those kids out, and on the off chance Tom or one of his team sees my comment, I made it clear what the comment was about so they could either delete it (/ask me to delete it) or scroll past it. Things like moving on are hard to talk about and explain to a kid with no experience with it; especially if people don't want to talk about it. I'm just trying to give those kids some perspective and help them understand. Nothing more, nothing less. Edit: oh shit, sorry didn't mean to write another essay, but I hope you understand why I made this comment now lmao
06:30 - It's understandable man. It sucks because people keep bringing up and saying and assuming shit like you forgot or never liked him and it must be tiring and making you angry reading those every fucking day. It's just like your public relationship thing, people never know when to shut the fuck up or leave it alone. And yeah, you are not a moral authority but your failures, stuff that you learned in those years helped me be a better person overall. Those personal videos in this channel helped me a lot becoming a better RU-vidr and person. I kinda grow up with you, while you're growing up yourself. I can't thank you enough.
who watches this video and thinks "oh yeah I better bring up the issue again in the comments" like Tom didn't just say he's sick of reading comments about it????
It’s unclear what her job is to me. I think she specialises in counseling couples with relationship struggles and maybe people with eating disorders. She just seems to make a lot of content outside of her areas of interest, especially for collabs, and winds up spreading harmful, misleading, or just useless information. It wouldn’t be so bad if she wasn’t being brought on as an expert on these things. Anger issues is an area she should be qualified to give some useful information on but she was definitely not going to be an expert on “sociopaths”. Made no sense why someone with Shane’s budget wouldn’t just hire an actual expert on the topic. I suppose maybe he tried but the actual experts knew better than to get involved.
@@genericname8727 im 100% biased cause i just dont really like shane dawson as a person very much, at least from what i know, but that series was definitely meant to be less "genuine case study" and more "shitty tv minidocu that gets controversy and makes money" so i think getting someone who would make... wild claims, while still TECHNICALLY being a field professional was always the intent. calling him a sociopath and then acting like that makes him this evil inhuman figure is a lot better for dramatic effect (and controversial clicks) than a specialist just going like "yeah hes a bit of an asshole huh?"
WARNING I am the unprettiest human alive and I need YT to afford my house and the desires of my two girlfriends so please observe my highly stimulating videos, dear lewis
@@AxxLAfriku Dear AxxL instead of not going forward go forward Do 2 vids a day just do a random video just think just look at somthing and make it a video an trie to make your girlfriends happy just trie to save up money keep your dreams and make it a reality
I really like seeing how human celebrities are. Also wtf, Tom was talking about comments and said ,"people leave comments like..."then a really another ad played (starting with a girly scream. ) Not really fitting, but funny
Tom: talks about fat videos and his late friend, says; "Post comments along the lines off," Maccas ad: HEY BIG MAC TASTY BRING ALL UR FRIENDS TO MACCAS
Some people can be so damn insensitive. Loosing someone is already a hard thing to go through without people asking you about it 24/7. Holy crap, people can be awful. I'm sorry Tom, that sucks having to go through that. Hope you have a good day.
People haven’t experienced much of it yet and they are thinking through the mind of a kid but some people (such as me). have dealt with death of a loved one/friend or best friend and just don’t type so only the idiots shined in the comments and whenever someone says something about my uncle I almost burst into tears. But people are EXTREMELY STUPID and don’t understand that questions hurt more than insulting somebody.
@@nenkers3884 Well they’re stupid enough to even type that crap to Tom after everything he’s done to keep Edd’s channel alive, that’s bad enough for me.
I know it had a harmful effect on others, but I just wanna say the "It Doesn't Get Better" video was what I needed at the time. It made me focus on the future and getting myself to a place and time where I wasn't surrounded by the assholes who I felt I could never connect with. If I could get to A Levels, the shitheads from my GCSE years would bugger off, and they did. And if I could get to second year of uni, I wouldn't have to live with my asshole apartment-wrecking first year roommates. As long as I could look to a future where the people who were pulling that shit were no longer in my life, I still had hope, and no one ever phrased it that way before you. Everyone just repeated "it gets better", but no one said why or how. It felt like the first time someone was straight up with me about it. I know it doing some good doesn't undo the harm it did, particularly in relation to an LGBT suicide prevention campaign, but I just want you to know it wasn't a total loss.
I cannot tell you how upset those comments made me. To be constantly reminded of something like that is heart wrenching I hope that people will realise the error of their comments and how damaging they can be. Much love Tom ❤️
its an unfortunate side effect of time not existing on the internet, a decade from now people will still be discovering his work getting invested and learning what happened. for them the grief is fresh and they take it to the nearest related creator, Tom. its been years but because its all on the internet it all can still feel like yesterday.
@@kazmark_gl8652 I was thinking about this just today, but I can only imagine how hellish the grieving process must be for the loved ones of an even _moderately_ famous person. When both my grandpa and my stepdad died within about a year of each other, my family was able to get through the process relatively well (I don't wanna say "easily" because it's never _easy_ to grieve or mourn, but hey). But when a celebrity of _any_ caliber dies? Especially an internet celeb? People talk about it. All the time. Even if they may not understand how negative the effect may be, they still do it. And they still talk about it _directly to that person's loved ones._ The loved ones have to deal with people constantly reminding them and it makes it hard for them to recover, to properly deal with the grief. Yes, the messages may be well-meaning sometimes, but they aren't helping. We really need to afford more privacy for people who are grieving, regardless of their social standing.
Not gonna lie, definitely feels weird to be here long enough that I recognize a huge chunk of these videos and remember watching them when they first came out. The part about the videos with a certain friend definitely broke my heart, I remember finding you through him, and seeing all the stress through those videos during that time. There are so many people who don't think before commenting on this platform, and its just.... augh....
The fact that you’ve taken the time to explain yourself again and again about your past mistakes in videos makes you a very strong and honorable person, and I really hope you know that. I can’t say I would be able to do the same. Facing your past mistakes (especially those that have to do with personal beliefs) is incredibly difficult, and I applaud you from the rooftops. I’m so glad I get to support a creator that keeps themselves accountable, honest, and continually shows growth to improve themselves. Keep it up :) ❤️
For some reason the one person who hasn’t been in a video in years that I always remembered was Ruth because of that cucumber bit! Been a fan since the beginning, strange thing to remember lol
Tom, you're a great guy, the fact that your willing to take down videos by your friend's request rather than being an asshole about it because it has a lot of views shows just how genuine you are. Good job.
God how refreshing is it to have a creator talks about the videos that they taken down and why. Very happy and I actually enjoyed watching you're growth and process
I love that Tom has been a really big part of RU-vid and has been able to reinvent himself and still stay strong. He's such a genuine person and he really shows it here in how he can own his mistakes and move on.
the fact people to this day, still harass Tom about (you know who) is really upsetting, I know they'd be little kids who don't really grasp how bad the situation is, but it's still awful he has to put up with it eight years later.
We love you Tom... don’t feel bad about anything... we’re your fans, and we won’t feel discouraged or anything (at least I don’t) about any of the content you create. Edit: Also when I was younger I saw your puberty and sex talk videos, and those genuinely helped me learn how life works and stuff. Thanks stud!
Hey, talking about not only mistakes you have made, but things that have severely hurt you in the past; that’s really brave. It’s really cool that you’ve addressed these things to your fans and fully intend to move forwards from it. You’re a pretty good role model, whether you like it or not
I respect the fact he doesn’t want to talk about his friends death and everything about that especially since his mental state isn’t that stable…. Ever
@@eggy_legs7657 hey man, don't apologise to him aha. You're allowed to be glad someone uploaded, even if they do have a schedule. Don't bring yourself down like that 😃
I always found it to be ridiculous how people can be so insensitive. Things are taken off the internet for a reason, and I feel like most people forget that "famous" people have feelings too.
I'm glad Tom is seemingly enjoying himself. Like yeah there's sadness in his voice sometimes, especially now. It can't have been easy to go through and he didn't need to acknowledge this stuff in 2020 but he did. And I hope that whatever closure he's getting from making this video is cathartic. But I'm also glad that he acknowledges he fucks up sometimes. We all do. He's only human and either you can stick your hand up, admit you did something wrong and will learn from it or you can double down. And I'm glad Tom doesn't seem to double down as much anymore
Tom, Rock Bottom is getting reccomended again, figured id share if youre unlisting vids that feature him at all, you might like to know that one is gonna start getting more comments
You, tom, thomas tomska ridgewell (sorry if that's spelt wrong), are a fucking legend. You are one of the strongest people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing about.
The thing I think I respect about Tom most is his willingness to confront his own mistakes and failings, it not only allows his audience, us to get to see a more human side of him, but personally it helps me a bit at working to coming to terms with my own personal shortcomings. Good on ya man!
“A few years ago but not enough years to blame it on on the folly of youth” is such a fantastic thing to say because so many creators (cough Shane Dawson) blame their mistakes on being young (even if they’re literally in their 20s). You addressed this all very well :)
Honestly Tom I've stuck with you through the years because I've seen you get better after mistakes. The 'it doesn't get better' video stuck with me for a long time after watching it because I personally was going through some pretty dark shit regarding my sexual identity. Bad timing mostly. It means a lot to see you own up to the way that came across. Thanks for continuing to be better. I thoroughly enjoy your work and hope to continue to do so far into the future. Cheers!
I think one of the best ways to explain why "it" sucks is because we all want closure from painful experiences in life. It just sucks to have old wounds opened up again, and that is completely valid.
I liked that you opened up about using food as a coping mechanism for depression because it helped me understand a loved one who was going through the same struggle, for what it is worth.
Tom, to be perfectly honest. You can't do anything without making mistakes and videos like these remind us that you're not perfect either, and it's good for aspiring creators to see that. If anything matters, I just really wish I could share a drink with ya one day and talk about the shittyness of online media 😂
I’m so surprised that I remember the majority of the videos mentioned here. Can’t believe I watched your shit that many years ago and am just not coming back to it. Dope shit man, glad to see the improvement.
It’s interesting to see you through the years, and how you’ve grown. I’ve been following you for awhile and always glad to see how you’ve grown, and how you try to always be better.
Your self awareness and ability to be honest about yourself in such a way is v admirable, Tom. Wishing you all the best, and that any bad things going on internally/externally you’re capable of coping with in a healthy way x
I saw every one of these videos when they came out so seeing clips from them again made me feel really nostalgic. At the time I was really young and obviously didn't see anything wrong with a lot of stuff included. Now though I'm super proud of you for talking about things and bringing these up again. My favourite creator then and my favourite creator now. Hoping to meet you again at Comic con in the future!
i can feel you about commenters like them theyre just so rude,just because tom doesnt tell us exactly that we all know and well that he does yes the comment is made in a way to avoid his mentioned filter
The comment on 8:44 just brakes my heart. How can someone be so mean? As someone who lost someone very dear to me, this stupid comment that probably means nothing to the poster would ha hurt, so much.
God, I can’t fucking watch you beat yourself up over everything in your past. Just know you’re a big inspiration of mine, all your videos on DarkSquidge and Tomska make me laugh on a daily. I’ve got to check out for your sad stuff though 👌🏻
I'd just like to say a big thank you to you and your team, I've been watching you since 2011 and you have inspired me so much over the years. I will always remember the day I watched Sniper Pug for the first time, this wasn't the first TomSka sketch I watched but something clicked, I started writing ALOT and even started making mini short films. All of that culminates today when I release my first ever sketch, even though the quality isn't the best, I am still proud of where I stand with me writing multiple shorts over lockdown and I am now filming them and starring in them. All of this because I saw that one sketch, I am forever indebted to you but the best I can do is say thank you, thank you so sooooo much.
I've been a long time TomSka fan. Since the early days. I didn't see all your content, mostly I saw your most popular stuff, but been watching a long time, and now my kids are fans. I'm a little torn on this video (and your other similar ones). Quite frankly, I just learned about a bunch of content you made that had someone else brought it up in a large enough forum, you could have been "cancelled" and had I found out that way, I would have been like "Yeah, cancel TomSka, he's an asshole amd deserves it" But since I found out this way... That you came out and boldly are stating "Yes, I did this terrible stuff, and it was wromg and bad and I took it down and this is why" rather than trying to sweep it under the rug, I respect that. This isn't an apology video, it's so much beter than an apology video. You're not tryimg to deflect blame, you're not trying to pretend it didn't happen, you're nit even asking for forgiveness, you are facing your demons in a very public but also very healthy way.. I know you have mental struggles, Tom, and I know you have, like all of us, made mistakes. It's very brave to come out and address this stuff like this, and rather than ignore the problem, you actually try to improve yourself. It's not an easy thing to do. You could have swept it under the rug and likely no one would have known. It's good that you chose not to do that, though. I sometimes get the impression that you think you're a "bad" person. We all do bad things, unfortunately. A truly bad person would not do this, though, and I hope you know that. I don't know you personally, but I believe that deep down inside you are a good person with a good heart. So, maybe I'm not so torn on this video, after all.
Talk about cringy. Random guy on the internet makes an unbearably long, heartfelt comment to a popular RU-vidr he doesn't actually know and that NO ONE will even see, and it is so long that the few that might see it would never want to sit through and read it. Then, same guy replies to his own comment filled with self loathing because no one else ever will. Man, low... Yet, I'm going to do it again, and again... because I'm feeling compelled to for some reason today that I can't explain...
In the course of writing that last comment, I started imaging a terrible Parody of LMFAO'S "I'm sexy and I know it" but it's "I'm Cringy and I Know It" and l felt the need to post this. SMH
So, last reply to my own comment (I think, anyway, but you never know) and a bit more serious... But, again, no one will ever read or care so why I am bothering taking the time to post all this, what is wrong with me?!!! Here it goes... If "cancelled" celebs would do more of this, and own up to their shit rather than bitching about "cancel culture" then maybe people would be more willing to not "cancel" them or accept them back after "cancelling" them. "Cancelling" typically doesn't happen just because of one mistake. Unless it's a really, really bad one like murder, r@pe, extreme violence, or being a "Chester"... It starts because of a mistake, but only comes to fruition when the response of the party being "cancelled" fails to address the actual issue. Responding with fake apologies, blame deflection, or simply ignoring the problem is when people close the gates and make the decision to actually stop watching them and work to actively "cancel" them. That's when it happens, not the instant the mistake is made like so many whiny celebs claim. Though, truth be told sometimes ignoring it does work, it's at least better than doing something to make it worse. It's better to address it head in like this, though. I really hope this is my last comment... back to my irrelevant life...
Of course, i reread my comments and came up with another one Another good way to deal with mistakes is to actually actively do something to make up for it it in a meaningful way. Like, if you say or do something sexist or homophobic, donating money to a charity that supports equality or, even better, donating your time to them and taking actions to help. A couple of extreme example is former KKK members or former Nazis/Neo-Nazis who realized that simply not doing the terrible things they did before is not enough. Some decided to actively work to find current members or potential recruits and convince them to leave or not to join and also actively work to help members of the African American and Jewish communities through charity work. Being a Nazi or KKK member is a seemingly unredeemable past, but if there's a way to do it, that's it.
I’m sorry for the loss of your friend, I’m also sorry for the stupid ass comments addressing this. It sucks. I hope you can find a way to ease this problem!
I get what you're going for in this message- and I might be wrong here- but isn't bringing it up, even in a kind light, the exact thing Tom was trying to stop?
I absolutely love you for doing this. Facing things you did years ago and talking about why you're unhappy with who you were or what you did is SO STRONG and really inspiring. I really struggle with admitting to others when I'm wrong, and I often go years thinking about it. I realise every single day how humour and daily talk and memes really change, and things that were so overlooked then would be a huge deal now. Thank you so much for sharing this. Also, as a creator, I find your message at the end really important, and I think I'll have to write it down and put it on my wall to remember that I will make many mistakes, and that thats actually ok. I wanna try to have this type of mentality about my flaws. thank you. Also, I really hope you don't beat yourself up too much about things like this. I hope you can be able to move on after making a video like this.
You are honestly amazing, you have gone through tough times and relived them over and over because of things like this, we are all proud of you for addressing these topics and pulling through.
I think it's time some of us comentors take some responsibility is the message I got from this. As it seems these where all unlisted because of comments. Think we should sign post people to this video in the future.
I have so much respect for you Tom. Thank you for sharing this. I hope that you feel you can keep things private when you want to. You're human, this is your job and I hope that people understand that that's all this RU-vid channel is and should be. So much love 💕
You grown a lot and learned a lot. It's always good to learn from the past to be a better you. Same with myself as well. So well done for growing and getting better were always here to support you.💜
Tom is literally like my cool uncle who did donuts in the target parking lot. For people who don’t know what target is it’s a shopping center here in the US.
The honesty, openness, and self-reflection you show is inspirational. It helps me be more honest myself. Always loved the comedy skits, but I prefer these videos of you just talking about things now. Shows you’re just someone trying their best even if it’s not always right and that’s something I feel is really important to hear.
Tomska, I’ve been following your channels for a little under five or six years now, and honestly, I’m really proud and happy to see you turn into the kind of content creator you are now. You’ve made me laugh and smile so hard, but a lot of your stuff is very tangible and relatable. You’re very human, and quite upfront, and I appreciate that from you in a way I don’t really see from other channels that I follow, or ones I am recommended. I’m sure you’re not the exact same person on camera as you are in your personal life, but still, I’ve noticed the changes and I’m glad I keep following you. As a loyal fan, I’m proud to follow your content, and I can’t wait to see more in time. Thank you for all you do, and your support and words to your community. You have definitely made a difference in my life, that I’m sure of. Thanks again! :)
5:00 THIS hit me hard. It's something I'm currently battling in the backlog of my own channel actually. Cleaning the slate is hard, you handle things the best you can and you take each day anew. Your transparency has been super powerful Tom. Keep being... well, a Squidge. We love you for your unique energy. :)
