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I paid for one of my bridesmaid's dress in full. I actually let my family pick out the bridesmaid dresses. It turned out to be $300 and I didn't have the money to pay for it either but I did it anyway and I never asked her to pay me back. Just a bit of advice, when you pay for someone, don't ask them to pay you back. Just think of it as a gift bc they'll likely never pay you back, and that's when resentment can build and you don't want to lose a friend over a few bucks.

If u can't afford the dress don't stand. The bride is paying enough

I totally agree about the bride helping her best friend out paying the difference of the dress.

@@chanabayla1823 It's her choice to spend garish amounts of money. No one NEEDS a wedding.

Exactly! She is trying to be there for best friend, but her friend isn't seeing it.🙄😒

@@evelynpeters3384 I'd really like my friends there without this bridesmaid business, who needs this hassle in their wedding preps...

I agree because she knew this was going to be a problem for her friend and should have told her before shopping that she would pay the difference. And this should have to be done quietly so as not to upset the other bridesmaids. I know this is the trend for the bridesmaids to pay for they own dresses even if they don't like them but this plus paying for the bachelorette weekend as opposed to the bachelorette night out and bridal showers makes it punitive cost wise to be a bridesmaid. I am surprised the bride can get anyone to agree to be part of her wedding party.

I agree. And also 300$ is very much for a dress that’s not really important to yourself.

This is such an emerican thing

It was after making her feel crappy that she couldn't afford it though, that is not a best friend.

@@carameldoll96 but even though she didn’t go through with it well at first she made up for it, being a friend is not about not making mistakes but being able to fix them

100% agree.

That's why rich people stay rich. Lower income people are more charitable and wealthy people hoard their cash because they're deeply selfish at their core.

@Leonie lmao no one has to do shit, but if you’re a good friend and don’t want your friends to be left out you would do it.

@@SaltySeaWitch3 selfishness has no socioeconomic restrictions. There are generous and wealthy people in all income brackets.

@@kerryswier4173 statistically lower income people are more charitable as a whole than wealthy people in America. Its a fact. You can look it up.

Or quietly just pay for the dress - especially knowing her circumstances.

Exactly!!

Exactly

@@MichSouthAfrica agree especially if she says she cares so much. Or even her sister who is maid of honour who glotes about being able to pay more. Given she would also know the best friend and would have had her grow up with them too

I felt the same !

I know, right? Like “I” can afford it. Well if you have so much money, pay for the other girl’s dress too!

Her behaviour was ironic because the bride was a single mother before she met her groom. I wonder what she used to say about the bride behind her back.

Also, Brandi is the snobby lady right? Lisa is the single mom with a budget? The captions are out of sync at one point and they look similar so now I’m confused.

@@kitm141 yes, Lisa is the single mom

See, I took that comment the other way. Kind of like - she likes it, letting the bride know that she'd be happy to go that way, but that she understood that Lisa might not be able to afford it and would be fine if they had to go with something different. (If you get what I mean. I suck at explaining what's in my head, LOL!) Anyway, I didn't really hear any malice in her comment, more of an empathetic feeling.

The consultant let them down big time. The fact that he even showed the bride a dress that was more than double the low end of her budget was mind boggling.

yes but thw broke was the one who agreed and to not say the price until after they tried it on, he mentioned it first and it could have been he was trying to find the right style of dress and she wanted the exact one

Agreed, if you know there is a budget you stay in that budget until given the go ahead to go just a little over it, not almost double.

But it's what the bride wanted he was uncomfortable and it showed

I think Brandon did say several times (1:06, 2:19) that the lace was more expensive and warned her about budget and also clearly recognized that the dresses were over budget, however his job is also to please the bride and show her what she is asking for (3:11). I think it would have been equally rude to tell the bride "no you can't look at those dresses because your friends and family are broke". I think he actually did a really good job of showing the bride "this is what you are looking for, this is what it costs, you'll have to decide if this is worth it" and then when she did the right thing and chose friendship/family over the dress, he gave her a good alternative that was within budget.

Which country are you from?

@@swagatakarmakar5475 Armenia

In my country the bride pays for the bridesmaids dresses. Doesn’t make sense why they would have to pay themselves

@@crushkamamakho8992 exactly! If the bride wants the bridesmaid to wear what she wants, then she needs to pay for it.

@@zaruhigharibyan in the UK the bride pays for the bridesmaid dresses. After all they probably won't wear it again. I paid for the dresses and they wore their own shoes.

They do that at the USA locations allll the time 🥲😅 makes better tv drama than just a happy bride with a happy family finding a lovely dress for the day of their dreams

They don’t pull wedding dresses out of the brides budget, so you would think they would respect the bridesmaids just as much.

They shouldn't...but this show loves the drama.

I asked my bridesmaids to choose any brown gown they wanted. The color probably wasn't their favorite but they could choose style and cost.

Especially a SECOND wedding!

@@kitty62862 her first wedding was just a courthouse quickie. she's doing a formal wedding this time - for the FIRST time. me, I struggled to get my bridesmaids to reimburse $50 for the fabric - if I could have afforded to gift it, I would have.

I think it depends on the situation. But yes if the bride wants a specific dress that she chooses, she should pay, or at least help her friend out. At my wedding i was prepared to pay for my bridesmaids, but they declined and said they would pay for their own dress because a wedding with 500+ guests is expensive, told my bridesmaids that they can choose they’re own dress in as long as it’s champagne/beige color. I told them to let me know if needed help to pay. They all showed up stunning ! I know and trust my girls so I didn’t see the dresses until the day of the wedding. When we came home from our honeymoon I found out 3 of them couldn’t pay for they’re dresses so the rest chipped in. Love my ladies 😘 Oh yeah, Im danish with Palestinian roots, so of course 600 showed up instead of 500 🤣

My thoughts exactly!!

Reality shows are scripted. They probably already had decided on the cheaper navy dress.

Yeah, I agree

Especially the one who clearly stated she was a 2 income household

Especially Ms. "I'll even pay more than that" with a snarky glance.

100%!! Coming from the UK I find it so odd the bridesmaids need to pay for their dresses in America especially when the bride is so specific!

@@mcswiftino it’s generally seen as the norm in the US for bridesmaids to buy their own dresses. If I ever get married I would probably pick a color for my bridal party and let them pick whatever dress they like in that color. That way they can wear it again (and that would be my gift to them)

It really depends. If the bride has more than 2-3 bridesmaids and also has to pay for her dress that is a lot, but I do think that if you know that your bridesmaid is on a tight budget. I personally wouldn't take them specifically to a bridal boutique for the dresses if they are paying, because those dresses will automatically cost more.

I still don’t get why anyone would try on the thing without looking at the price tag. I never try in an item that’s too much.

Actually it happens in my country. The brides have their bridesmaid, and the bride choose the color theme of their party, and ask the bridesmaid to wear the dress (not always should be a new dress) that match with the theme

Pssst! If you go to David’s bridal and order on line if you’re not from the area, you can find lovely dresses for all occasions for affordable prices. Even a lot of the wedding gowns are absolutely gorgeous and under $1000

@@snowbird1381 be careful though. Their zippers are crap and will bust the first time you bend over. Order a size bigger than you need and get it tailored to fit and pay for a better zipper.

@@snowbird1381 agreed - bought a dress that had been worn ONCE on stillwhite from david's bridal. beautiful dress, slip, and veil for $300 plus shipping.

@@snowbird1381Agree. Their bridesmaids dresses are so reasonable! I paid about $90 for one on Black Friday sale. If I would have had to pay full price, it was still a fairly reasonable $160. Also love their size range! Makes things so much easier as a plus size gal.

I was gonna say I rly wish someone would at least help her out

fr and $15 is not a lot so they should be fine

Why is no one talking about that?! She wasn't a huge fan but kept her mouth shut and and told her sister she did great. That big sister goals there 🙌🙌

How it feels and living the whole experience are not the same thing. Some single moms have their whole family to come and help. Some have next to no one. You can often see the difference rather quickly.

I paid for my bridesmaid's dresses.

Same, i paid all 8 dresses for my bridesmaid and 8 suits for mybgrooms man..

@@fara981 WOW - that's a lot of money to shell out -- well done. I think it's shocking when a bride can spend thousands on her wedding gown yet draw the line at spending a couple of hundred bucks on bridesmaid's dresses. I find that selfish.

here in the Philippines too the bridesmaid, flowergirls and sponsors can keep the dress even if the bride paid for it

I had one attendant, I paid for her dress because I got my bridal gown for a steal. I bought both her dress and mine straight off the sample rack, and I needed a 16 so that was quite a feat. But every other wedding I've been involved with, the bridesmaids paid for their dresses.

I mean you're not wrong! 😂😂😂😂

Right!! These dresses are ugly and cost more than they’re worth.

Right???

My sister let our friend and I pick out our dresses. The only requirements were that they be matching, navy blue, and knee length. Our friend and I have completely different body shapes so it took a while but we ended up finding a dress that made everyone happy for only $15.00. I love watching these clips but really, screw bridal boutiques.

In this case, I would agree. These dresses might last longer and be better constructed, but realistically people don't rewear bridesmaid dresses.

My WEDDING dress only cost $160, and I got it from David's Bridal! Don't be afraid to wait on sales and shop clearance racks!

Most wedding dresses are like 1000-6000 dollars, I can see why she can’t find hers.

Yes this is cringey and sad. I am American and I bought my bridesmaids dresses for them (which was the norm where I am from). 🤷‍♀️

Unless you can find a dress thst can be worn more than once.

But why cant you wear it again?

@@miraculousraichibug7092 some are too formal and can't be used for an informal night out.

I wore a bridesmaid dress many times after.

I thought the same thing. Like well why didn’t all the bridesmaids chip in?

Bro those dresses aren't even worth that price. 60 dollars max. So many other affordable options online.

@@JV-bc8um right 😭 that looks like something that you can pull out from any department store

It obviously didn’t mean as much to her as we were led to believe by the show. My guess is the show either made them try it on to create drama or she was nowhere near as devastated to let it go as she made out she was (for the cameras).

What I did was discuss the budget with everyone. Found a brand and color I liked Dress was $75 and they could get it in multiple styles. Told them they could pick any type of off-white dress shoe. I provided jewelry and hair and make-up requirements were as long as the hair was out their face.

Well this happens, some people just don't get along with eachother after a while, or life happens, for example my dad passed away when I was 6, 7 years after my parents got married. Nothing strange about it that people move on. Things happen in life. Important is not to give up.

Thats what i thought too! 😶

Right

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I thought so at first, but I think she was just trying to acknowledge that she found it affordable because she has more resources. Looks like this bride is stepping into a more comfortable lifestyle that could leave her friend out of more than just dresses. Miss Two-Incomes was quick to support the cheaper gown when it came out. When I chose my bridesmaid dresses, I bought dresses off the rack at a chain boutique after prom for thirty dollars. My girls were all graduating students and all over the map. They couldn’t do fittings, so I got a long A-line with spaghetti straps and a lace up back. I had one of them come try it on and brought my fiancé for second opinion. They were hq taffeta gowns with lovely embroidery. And they were in my colour. Nicer than what I see on this show. Everyone looked fantastic and were grateful for the budget. Of course, my SIL still managed to make problems by neglecting to pick up her dress from the layaway and we almost had an odd one out. There is always one girl that you have to monitor constantly, no matter how easy you make it for them. That’s life. There are so many special moments that you don’t realize at the time. The dresses, even the bride’s, are so quickly forgotten. She was wise to keep her friend. The way the world goes, she may find herself a struggling single parent again one day. Haven’t seen the man in twelve years and don’t care to, but I still have the pearls my best friend took off her own neck because she couldn’t afford a “real” gift. Don’t get so caught up in the hype that you lose your greatest treasure.

@@alisonfraser3305 yeh right ..but I wasn't meaning abt the bride .I was talking abt one of the bridesmaids ,who were keeping on saying yeh I'm ok with costly dress cos I ain't a single mother

UK here and same - or if the budget is tight, they are rentals. Which is great because who wants a wardrobe full of bridesmaids dresses you’ll never wear again?

I am from Germany and 200€/$/£ are very expensive. I wouldn't demand anything from my maid of honor or bridesmaid especially when they can't afford it. In Germany the guestlist is normally from 30 to 100 people (not looking at corona circumstances) so closest friends and family. How big are normally the weddings you go to?

A year?! And i've been pleased with having attended 2 in my 24 years 😂

@Bella Vandeale : In India guestlist is minimum 500 and can expand upto 2500 for middle class people. Here weddings are a huge deal...if you miss out on inviting your far off relations, they'll cry hoarse for the rest of their lives. I tried to have an in family wedding with 300 guests(extended family both sides which was a failure and us bride and groom did not get to try all the dishes bcoz they were over due to extra uninvited guests) and a reception with 1000 people. I still meet people who have grudge that they were not invited for wedding but instead for reception even after 6 years.

Can only speak for the UK, but it’s a really wide range. I’ve seen weddings with bridesmaids in their own best dresses and weddings that the couple were paying off 5 years later. But as another commenter noted, in the UK it’s more usual for the bridal party to pay for the bridesmaids dresses which is much fairer.

@@bellavandeale8895 well in india a normal middle class family will have around 500 to 1000 guests and if they want a big fat wedding then there would be easily more than 1000 or 2000 guests And weddings in this pandemic with lots of restrictions are having 100 to 200 guests that with verg close relative and friends Indian weddings are really huge if you compare indian weddings to western ones you will be shocked it's celebrated like a festival over here

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It’s super weird and I will never make my bridesmaids pay for their own dresses

Yes, that is usually the way it works in the USA. I had to pay for the bridesmaid dress I wore when a friend of mine got married. I was supposed to be in another wedding but had to back out due to the cost of the dress . I wasn't going to be able to afford the dress plus my travel arrangements.

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