Positive Things About Being Transgender 

How can people be transphobic? How can people hate on this little ray of sunlight? Just...HOW???

*"I love polo and Jamie equally"* I tell myself, trying not to betray my favorite youtuber to a cat that I've only seen for a few minutes.

Something i have noticed from being around my trans friends or seeing trans people online Trans people can be really handsome or pretty before and after transitioning (or taking hormones) But after the transitioning they look even more stunning or beautiful Why? Not because they weren't beautiful before But after the transitioning (or prosses itself? Idk) They project so much happiness outside it so nice to witness :) It's like their whole beauty is shining through They look so calm and comfortable with themselves it's really enjoyble to see And i think it's related to all people, trans or not If people are expressing themselves how they see themselves in their mindset It so true and honest and beautiful All that is left to do is to sit and admire them for everything they have been through until reaching what they wanted ^^

*He looks so good in yellow 😊*

I'm getting top surgery tomorrow and I'm beyond excited, but I'm also terrified and am having some of those "if only I was born cis" thoughts. This was great to hear and I definitely agree, so thank you!

with all the trans hate crimes and murders in my country_(America) I really needed this....thank you

I'm so excited because im starting T next week!!!!! my parents are still conflicted about my identity but im so glad that i am able to start HRT :))

Thanks for making this, I did need something positive about being transgender

I'm a pre-T transman, and I totally understand your number one here. I have a boyfriend and I've told him about my thought and my uncertainty about being a cisfemale. As soon as I told him, I instantly got bombarded with "my wonderful handsome boyfriend" and he's been so supporting, and I couldn't ask for anyone else.

One of my friends kept on calling me it when I came out to him so I thought he just wasn't accepting because I even told him them/they. Apparently he just didn't know how to use them/they pronouns and just wasn't educated. So if someone close to you doesn't use your pronouns or just disrespects you just talk to them because they might not know that they are being disrespectful and you get to educate someone!

I'm asking this because I'm very curious if I'm the only one. Has anyone else when they discovered they were trans felt in denial and felt that it was just a phase? It's really hard to explain. But ever since I came to the conclusion I've felt worried and scared and unsure about myself. Please let me know!

thank you for the support. my granny is super religious and tells me I'm going against her religious beliefs and her personal beliefs. she says she'll always call me birth name and birth gender because in her mind I'm always gonna be that. I told her that made me sad and she mocked me for feeling this way. my dad and mum as well as step dad are very supportive but still are learning new things about transgender people. my dad however keeps asking me to wait to get hormones and surgery as he feels that because I only came out last year and from what people can see I've only started feeling this way (this is untrue I've realised for a few years) that I should wait to figure myself out as I'm only young. basically invalidating my feelings because he's scared I'm gonna make a decision he thinks I will regret. Thus far I've just tried to tell him I'm getting top surgery and whatever I do down the line is my decision and assure him my age has nothing to do with my feelings. it's frustrating but it comes from a good place so I'm trying to help him to be more respectful of my feelings and choices.

Have you made a video talking on the differences between living as female vs male? Like seeing how people treat you differently when they see you as a certain gender?

thank you for making this video as, as a pre-t trans guy, i need some positive things to focus on and also i came out to a few people today

You're such a sunshine! Being LGBTQ+ I love the gay side of RU-vid SO SO MUCH. And finding positive youtubers, like you! Subbed.

imaging my personality and social perspective if i had been born a cis guy… yikes. With all of the problems that came with getting socialized as a girl (started transitioning at 19 so I very much grew up female), there’s a lot of positive perspectives you get as well, that I would have missed out on growing up as a boy. There’s so much toxic masculinity that I’ve never been socialized to have, I’ve grown up in an environment where I was encouraged to express my feelings, I feel like I have more affectionate friendships, etc. When the day finally comes that I pass as male, I’m going to be a lot more sensitive to the problems that the women around me face than cis guys might be. In the end, I’m very grateful for the childhood that I got!

After he gets his Phd he'll be Dr. Raines!

You've helped me so much!!! I'm trans FtM and I haven't started my transition or even came out to my parents but thank you so much for everything!!

I love you in an inspirational platonic way! You give me hope

Definitely needed this today. it's been a long day. being trans is something I can only see the bad side of, given the dysphoria and crushing anxiety. Given this video I have some positive things to think of too. bless you Jamie.~a tiny gay trans boy

you are hands down my favorite youtuber. i aspire to be as upbeat and encouraging as you.

Good luck for your phD!

im pre t and honestly... i find it hard to appreciate any positive outcomes of being trans at this point in my life, but i can still look forward to appreciating and experiencing them later on in my medical transition. so thank you for showing this aspect of it all!

I got my first "real" stp today! The reason the real is in quotations is because it's my first real-shaped stp as I bought a pstyle a while back but today I got my Mr. Fenis. I just wanted to say thanks to you for helping me get through my transition and helping myself become more accepting of myself. I feel much more happy now than I did before I started to transition.

0:45 Don't expose me like that lmao the first reaction I had to that title was exactly "there are no positives to being trans, it's only worthlessness and dysphoria everyday all day". If I was a cis guy I wouldn't be dating the best partner ever, and I'm really thankful for that. Thank you for making me see the positives, it has really helped.

Just gonna say, I love your hair. I want my hair to look like that.

Thank you for existing ^-^

I came out as trans to my mom. She told my sister and they treated it like a joke. I needed this. Thank you

want me to like a video? start it off with the cutest cat in the universe!!

Is it dodie yellow though ...

your sweatshirt and attitude make me so happy!!!!!!!

I hate being transgender. Everyone I see keeps telling me to be proud and happy that I'm experiencing it?? And I'm not saying I'm not proud of my personality and achievements, but if I could, I would 100%be a white cis hetero male. It's part of the reason why people who fake being trans upset me so much, because I hate it so much, being it myself. I'm hoping this video will help.

I’ve just been sobbing in my room because of my dysphoria. This made me feel a little bit brighter, thank you ❤️

This feels something like an "it gets better" type thing. I needed this, thank you. 💚

This is a great video and has helped me to become more grateful for the people who are accepting to me. I'm pretty worried about one thing now. Telling my older sister. I'm only out to two people but I'm too worried about telling my older sister because I've always looked up to her, and always thought up until I realised my low self esteem was related to body and gender dysmorphia, I'd always thought I'd wanted to be like her and now she's getting married and I'm sure she'd want me to wear a dress and I really don't know if I want to... otherwise I'm pretty excited to start transitioning once I come out properly...

Thank you so much for this and all your other videos This one was especially timely. I'm two medical appointments away from starting my journey to my true self. Huge thank you for taking the time to share your journey in such great detail.

I’ve been struggling recently,this is exactly what I needed

I love the fact that how positive you are about everything and you really gave me a new perspective.

I love that your voice broke a little at "for the most part anyway". Perfect timing. :D

Thank you for making this video today Jamie. I needed to hear how it's positive. Hearing stuff like this makes me want to keep going and not give up so thanks a lot :")

I liked as son as I saw the cat

I've been following you since you just started t, or about that time. You are an amazing man, Jamie and I'm so glad to have been on this journey with you for so long.

I came out whilst public speaking to thousands of people at my first pride, and I have finally accepted it in myself and your videos have been that driving force which has helped me so much! I am trans and from the uk too and have started making videos 🙂

Thank you Jammi, your video make me feel better, and everything is not go out of my control again. Greeting from Vietnam.

This is a lovely message, regardless the context. Your outlook on life is wonderful :)

Love you Jammi!! So happy for you and Shaaba, amazing how you're focusing ur PHD on Trans issues....always an inspiration (tho I'm reverse of you ;) )

I really love your channel and how you can give such a unique perspective! That is definitely a hugely awesome thing!

One thing I would say is it’s made me almost *more* appreciative of my body and how my gender is perceived. I’ve been on T for over two and a half years, but I still just stop and admire my reflection in the mirror sometimes. I know that makes me sound arrogant as fuck, but it’s not even because I think I’m attractive, it’s because of how nice it is to look in the mirror and see an reflection that validates my identity instead of negating it. It’s been probably over a year since I got misgendered, but I still smile every time the waiter says “and for you, sir?” I’m just over a year post op for chest surgery and I still run my hands over my chest all the time (in private, of course) just to remind myself how wonderfully flat it is. I’ve heard the phrase “gender euphoria” used to describe basically the opposite of gender dysphoria. I think cis people can feel gender euphoria, but I think the most intense and joyous gender euphoria is felt by those who have been carrying the burden of dysphoria and, through a social interaction or biological development, had that burden lightened. I still remember waking up from top surgery and seeing my chest for the first time, it was the most intensely euphoric moment of my life. I still have dysphoria. The fat distribution of my torso is still too feminine, I’m only starting to get some facial hair after over two and a half years of T (though I am 18, so it’s not too uncommon for a cis guy my age to not need to shave), and, most significantly, I haven’t had bottom surgery yet. I in no way think that the joy of gender euphoria is worth pain of gender dysphoria. I’d much rather have been born cis. But I do recognize that it’s not exclusively negative.

I love watching your videos. You seem like such a wonderful, pleasant person. Also, you and Shaaba (and Polo!!) are a really, really adorable family!

Todays my birthday, and I've been feeling really down and dysphoric all day. This video made my day honestly, thank you Jamie

It's been ages since you've posted this, but be informed, that it's still being watched in 2019 and you help a lot with dealing with my spouse's transition

Awe. Your cat is so adorable! Much love, Jammi. Keep going!

Thank you so much for your perspective, I very much am still in the beginning of being a trans man and can now actually see that things won't always be as they are now. Thank you.

You look really good in yellow.

I LOVE YOU

I needed this video so much thank you! This has made me realise some things that I opened my eyes to because I thought there were very little things that were good about being trans. I use to wish so much that I could be cis boy or girl I just wanted to be comfortable with my gender I was born as. So just a big thank you! With out trans people in the media like you I would be in a very dark place. Thank you so so much! Xx ❤️

Your cat is sooo beautiful *-*, also your and Shabbas realation ship is really goals.

I'd love it if you talked about your PhD more! Sounds very interesting ❤️

Aww jamie this is such a necessary video. You help so many people.

Saw this on Huffington Post and just want to thank you! Thank you. ;)

I really needed a confidence boost today and this vid really helped me thank you ❤️

You are an excellent role model for young people, whether they be trans or not.

Jamie and Polo are fucking WHOLESOME

Y’know sometimes I think my mannerisms are too feminine but then I see you have similar ones and they seem very masculine on you. Old vid but I just needed some cheering up and it really helped.

I love this so much. Every video out there is about how much it sUcks being trans, thank you for giving me a new perspective on le positives ahck

OMG YOUR CAT IS LITERALLY PERFECTION.

Hi, I've been watching your channel for a while now, ever since the start of 2017. I need your advice on something. Okay, so I have a homophobic and transphobic grandma but I don't know how to come out to her as bi and trans. could you help me or give me any advice on how to come out to someone like that?

I needed this, and even though you made this video ages ago, thank you :D

I just love you... You are such a wonderful person and I am so so happy for you :)

Omg thank you i really needed this video today, it have been a bad day today....

You're so lovely Jamie. I didn't know you are going to study your Ph.D. I wish you the best of luck :)

That sweater looks really good on you! :)

You are a very beautiful trans, a lot of love to you & your friends !

thanks jammy i was having a ruf day at school i had to talk to my counceler and we were talking about the positive side then i open my laptop ans see this video i rilly needed it today (:

I'm really glad that people are positive about their transition and themselves and I don't want to take away from that. All I know is that, while I'd be sad that I wouldn't have made the friends that I have, I would trade in every life experience that I've had in order to be born as a cis guy. Being trans has prevented me from doing so much and will continue to prevent me from following my dreams that I just can't be positive about it. I try to be more positive but I don't think I can. Either way, good luck to everyone.

You're amazing. I have no words. 😭😭😭❤❤❤

Thank you for this,I am thinking if I was actually a lesbian or a trans man, I have looked for the upside bc I always saw the downsides to it. I really appreciate that :)

Being able to sympathise with people of my biological sex is definitely an interesting perk to being trans, I can sympathise with women and understand a lot of what they're going through just because I used to always be so conditioned to a lot of their issues. Body issues kinda went with it >.> But it's a good thing I feel! It let's me understand more of what's going on with my friends and such!

I love you so much you're so inspirering!!!💜💜

Thank you for being so awesome Jamie! I'm coming out to my parents as ftm today and this is making me feel so much better : )

Your cat is so beautiful!!!

I really fucking needed this today, thank you

I am wanting to be transgender and I am scared of all the negative thing but thanks to this video it is something to hear and help me open mind me of being transgender.

Your cat is so beautifull! ♡^♡

As much as it hurts to be this way, I can imagine not being friends with who I am now had I not been trans. And hey, my friends can now say that they have a guy they can talk about girl problems with lmao

Thank you for this video 💜

THANK YOU JAIMIE ✌👍💞☄🌟🌈

I like the way being trans has made me understand women. Before T, when I was percieved by others as a girl, I was not aware of this at all. But 6 years after starting T and having had these years of seeing ”the other side” of society, it’s all become so clear. First thing I noticed when people finally started seeing me as male was that I was treated differently. Both by people I knew and complete strangers. Family gave me more responsibilities, they became tougher on me, especially my parents who literally reacted like: ”Great, now we have a man in the family, now we can step back.” To this day I am THE one asked to go to the bank etc because ”it’s not safe for a woman”... I knoooow it’s ridiculous. 😂 But it’s funny that people HAVE these ways of treating women vs men, whne we only look different on the outside. I am the same person, yet I’m treated differently from before. Strangers also showed me a new world I was not prepared for: Men started siding with me, like we were all of a sudden on the same level. Women started (this actually upsets me) MOVING AWAY from me, in some cases like out of respect or to not be in the way... and in other instances becase they don’t feel safe, which I totally understand with the kind of world we have. Elderly also started giving me this huuuge respect I don’t really deserve, lol. Not anymore than before anyways. I also realised I became ”invisible” after starting T, and what I mean by that is I could go out day or night without people really noticing me. When I looked like a girl I couldn’t do that. I didn’t feel safe, people (mostly men) had their attention on me, but also women judged me for some reason. I had to in some way PROVE my existence, my right to take up space and have my voice heard, yet I got no respect and were often treated like a stupid child, especially from older men. And that’s what hit me, that’s what I am now grateful for having experienced. That’s not only how I was treated, that’s how women in general are being treated and fuck that’s awful. So I am glad that I can now say I completely understand their point of view. I couldn’t if I was cis. Also the experience of periods and hormonal changes, moods, cramps etc. Knowing first hand what that’s like has removed the risk of me being yet another guy who makes fun of women when they have their period. So being trans and seeing lboth sides of the coin” is something I am overall grateful for, and something I really think cis people should be jealous for. Honestly.

this is such a cute and important message

I am also trans MTF and after watching some videos of both trans men and women is that after they come out to family and friends they are happy. It is like there is so much pressure off their shoulders. I am feeling that now myself.

this is a video I definitely needed :)

Hi Jamie, I didn't know you were doing a PhD. What are you looking at in particular? I'm currently applying for PhDs in Bioinformatics with mathematical modelling. I'm so excited to continue my learning after finishing my masters :D

u are my idol,,

Boiiiiii!!!!!!! Yo stash is 10/10!!!!!

an interesting thing ive been thinking also goes well with this video im not out to anyone as trans so i havent really gone throug the bad social stuff but i know that if ive have the choice of being born a cis male or magically getting a male body tomorrow id choose the latter me having grown up in the role of a woman and me activelly thinking about my gender and questioning gender roles made me realize a ton of stuff that i wouldnt have and if i was born male and i probably wouldnt be as open minded as i am nowadays so yeah, being trans make me who i am today and i wouldnt change that

I've been in a similar place. To me being trans has caused more distress than not. Regardless I still have been able to find some positive. Major one having an appreciation for my gender that cis folks don't often half... (Even at the cost at being hated and despised by a large portion of society).

You remind me of Zac, from Paramore, but in Taylor's yellow jumpsuit.

Your cat is really pretty. 😍

Your cat is so beautiful😻

I came here to cool off because I was angry. Thanks for trying to stay positive.