Psychology To Make Ex Chase 

Ive been watching the your videos for months and during that time i was working on myself and not on my ex's rebound relationship. Not only have my family seen a positive change in me, my ex came back and she loves the person ive become. All i can say is thankyou for your videos, i didn't think i had a chance but listening to what you said and putting it into practice has changed me life in such a positive way. Im with my girl again and i couldn't be happier, my confidence levels have shot through the roof. Massive thankyou

For everyone who is going through pain, sleepless nights, and sadness right now please know that everything will be alright😊

He's right - trust the process more than you trust the pain

When you really stop wanting - it's coming ! This is the formula in one sentence !

No contact for almost 4 months now. The first few weeks have been hell. I was lucky enough to come across Coach Lee's videos and stick to no contact. Still a work in progress, working on my personal growth- exercising, eating healthy, and just going back to the person I was before I met him. Also, realized that I was in a relationship with a narc who manipulated me and don't want him back anymore. While some of you might not be ready to hear this right now, the thing is, no contact works to get YOURSELF back guys. And it can be a beautiful thing. We may realize along the way that we deserve better and may not want our exes back. Stay strong. Don't give your power back.

Thanks Coach Lee. Last year I was a shit show after a divorce, tried to get my ex back, but ended up realizing how much better off I am without her. I dropped 85 lbs, gained more confidence than I ever had, made new friends around the country who I had met many of them over last Thanksgiving. There is light at the end of the tunnel, and it is brighter than you can imagine.

My ex reached out to me totally at Day 32. It was earlier then expected. She did not want live without me. We are trying to work things out. I need to do better too. Thanks Coach Lee for helping me. I want meet you one day and thank you.

She came over to catch-up on Thanksgiving. Talked for two hours, and after she left she said she missed talking to me over a text, and proceeded to apologize for multiple things.

Thank you for being a source of comfort & strength, Coach Lee. Been more than a month of our breakup and NC. I'm at a point where I've lost hope we'll ever get back together. I've been crawling hands and feets towards healing and trying really hard to focus on myself instead. But there are still bad days that the pain and dark thoughts overpower you. Just having you on our side & reading the comments section make me feel like I'm not alone. Hang in there, everybody. Sending you all virtual hugs. Wishing you all healing.

THANK YOU COACH LEE!! You helped me get my ex back after he moved 1000 miles away!! Not only does he want me back, but he's making all these changes to make sure he doesn't "lose me" again!! Hes coming back to Michigan this weekend. YOURE THE BEST!!

Coach lee always on point !! Walking away and Indifference is the biggest weapon to destroy anyone

I was about to text him after 2 months of no contact but before I could send the text, I just saw your video. I take this as a sign , thank you!!!

These videos are bringing me a lot of comfort right after my breakup with the person I was in love with, and also giving me confidence in myself again! I feel myself growing into a better stronger version of myself, and I feel confident that my ex will reach out to me and want me back

I swear I came here to get her back but ended up moving on and feeling empowered

Thank you for uploading another great vdo. I have been NC for about 3 months. I am working on myself, learning new skills, getting certs in my field, going to the gym, and most importantly trying to understand myself.

Just broke up a week ago and feel so broken. Thanks to find your channel it encourages me and make me feel a bit better

you are seriously helpful and resourceful in my early breakup stages sir. but right now i realized that she wasnt good enough for me. it was her lost. im glad i moved on & thats all on you coach lee. keep doing what youre doing, you dont know how much hearts you touched. big thanks and mad respect 🙏🏻 sending loves from Malaysia.

From the bottom of my heart I want to thank you for your effort to make these videos. You have no idea what a tremendous amount of pain they were able to relieve. Thank you, Coach Lee! You are awesome.

Coach Lee. You have done so much for my mental health this past month. I listen to your videos everyday. Thank you Sir 🙏

My ex has reached out through email after about two and a half weeks NC after he broke up with me. Thank God I have been watching these videos because I don't think I would have handled it well. I agree with the comments that Coach Lee should have billions of followers. I don't understand why more people don't follow his wisdom.

Hey, Coach. One common theme I’ve noticed in your videos over the years is… you’ve got really nice hair. Thanks for the tips, as always. Love your channel. You really are the best.

No contact definitely works 💯

You're a wise man. Probably the best in the field on youtube.

Honest every time and not scared to say it how it is. Love it

Awesome video! From my experience everything is 100% on the button

Coach Lee, I have been watching your videos for over two months on a daily basis…. Super hard to go through. My Ex just called me and asked me out to lunch tomorrow. I will continue to follow your advice… my goodness… you rock!!!!

You helped me to get my ex back, thank you coach lee

I’ve made that mistake about talking to mutual friends even though they were my friend’s first but I stopped that. I was talking smack or even saying anything bad but I stopped talking about it all together. I’ve been great with no contact but my ex is close friends with my best friend’s wife and the ex is there all the time!! I’ll Keep the mystery alive. Everyone keep your heads up and improve yourself for whoever comes around whether it’s your ex or someone else. Thanks for the help coach Lee

We broke up last year in November, he jumped into a rebound immediately. I stayed away and went into no contact. He reached out to me in March and we took things slow and got back together but I recently found out he’s been communicating with the rebound and telling her he was planning to leave me. We officially broke up today so I’m back in no contact. This is really tough and I’m hurting but I have faith that I’ll be ok in the end.

These videos are like a therapy session 🙌

Thank you, Coach Lee. After over a year of no contact, he reached out to me when I lost my brother (someone else told him about Cliff, my brother). I thanked him for his kind words and hoped he was doing well, but backed off. Since then, he's made a FEW comments and likes to comments I make on mutual friends sites. Not sure if I want him now, but if it does happen, it cant have it as it was. I'm not sure he wants me back. He's as skiddish as I am. I now know to tell him that I am open to the possibility, but let's just take things a day at a time to see how things go first. (Actually, that's how I feel.)You answered a big question I had with that information. Again I say thanks.

Hi Coach Lee. My ex broke up with me about 1 month. We were together for 4 years.I watch so many coaching video on RU-vid but you are the BEST. You are very honest and help me seeing things from different perspectives.Thank you so much for creating all these great video.

Our relationship was amazing. I was blindsided when he broke things off in July. Since then, I’ve changed my looks completely and have worked on myself. Several of his friends are chasing after me now but still not a word or a glance from him. Im losing hope that he will ever come back.

Great advice each time. Thank You 🙏🏻

I love Coach Ken- he is amazing- love working with him and thank you Coach Lee for your videos.

I truly learned and know some of these things over time but hearing these type vids sure do help with peace of mind

I'm on my first week of no contact and I'm binge watching your videos and I listen to them on repeat at work. I'm motivated to improve myself and attract my ex back. I'll trust the process and I'm taking on a pocket calendar and Journaling my thoughts. If I want to say something to her, it goes in the book not via text to her. That way I can say what I want and there's no contact. The book goes away when she comes back. Thank you Coach Lee. I'll keep you posted!

Just got a reply from my wife after discussing a business related thing. It was an appropriate reach out and she thanked me for it. I did not reply as it seemed unnecessary due to her temperament, I feel like I have come a long way in three months since she left. A glimmer of hope. Thanks.

Thank you for helping me through this time. I never thought it would be this difficult. But that’s how I know we had something real. Thank you❤️

Thank you So much for your insight and lessons. I've been reeling for a month, going through what felt like hell on earth and I have spent the last 3 days watching tons of your videos. They have given me the first whole good day in quite some time and a direction to move. God bless.

Hello coach Lee! She just reached out to me after 20 days of no contact. I have had relationships In the past where I have pushed them away. The no contact brought her back..Thank you!!

I so appreciate these videos. Took my ex and her son to DisneyWorld in October, she seemed distant, but they were going through a family loss and I attributed to that. After we got back, she ghosted me. I did reach out wanting to know what happened, and got the text “our relationship was over”. Then I discovered these videos. I need them for a pep talk to continue the no contact rule and other guidance. Thx. I do hope it works out between us, but the ball is in her court.

I always come back to coach Lee!!

Thank you for helping me keep my head right thru this tuff time

This Channel has changed my life. I did no contact and after 3 months I got a long love declaration email to wish me a happy birthday. They said they loved and missed me (Nothing about wanting to get back together or seeing me though..) I sent a nice, polite email back stating I also remember the good times but didn’t initiate meeting up, it didn’t feel natural. Now I wait again to see if I get a response.. who knows

The no contact is not to get them back, it’s to create space for you to heal and move on, if you keep talking to them you will never move on and it’s destructive to yourself.

No contact is rough. I was all about contact when we were together, but that ultimately got me so tired and insecure that I naturally decided to step out, and he didn't chase me... But like a year of zero contact he gave the casual friendly comeback. After that, nothing else. I come to your channel to hold onto no contact, because I really really want to talk to him but I don't want to be the one that gives it all and gets nothing, like it used to be. I love him, but not what we had. I think we could do better if we share the efforts. I really hope this perspective of healthy distance makes him see me as someone worth fighting for.

Thanks a lot coach lee. Me and ex have known each other for the past 4 years and been together more than 2 and half years (there were 4 break ups - the last one occurred almost 2 months ago). It is always little fights that low attraction over time untill a “big” one comes and then she doesn’t know if there’s a future with me. She’s says she loves me and care and yada yada. We even got intimate with each other on the night of the break up. I send flowers a week after and she says she’s value the flowers I give her but she’s trying to move on and I’m making it harder on her. I know I should leave her alone. But please aid me with an advice,. You’re a true master on this. Please coach lee

I made mistakes after the breakup .. over a year .. I started the no contact rule now. Been a month . Nothing still I have the strength and belief that he will be back. I'm just focusing on me and setting goals for myself . I trust the universe ✨️ 🙏 ❤️

coach dont miss 🎯 got the love of my life back in 5 weeks

I just started watching your videos and I am getting a lot out of them. I am almost two months into a separation from my partner and it has been the most difficult experience of my life, break up or other wise. One factor that is making this time so much harder for us, both, however, is that we have a two and a half year old son. Have you ever considered doing a series focusing on breakups and separations where children are involved? I ask because I find your perspective refreshing, in that you are a man discussing this, but it is not from a solely masculine viewpoint.

Im impressed, you clearly know your stuff !!!

Fiiirst 😍 OMG! I’m so excited to watch this 😩🙌🏼

I have been watching all of your videos. This breakup has been tough and I have been following the no contact rule, it has been 8 days and have been struggling the past few days but this video just solidified it. Thank you doc! Hoping things change asap

I’ve been working on myself I’ve gotten back in shape I’ve picked up learning the guitar and meditation. And still practicing no contact while my ex is with someone else. Unfortunately for me this didn’t work and yeah I’m a better person now I have no desire to get to know someone intimately again. The thought of having to go through the ups and downs of being with someone new sounds exhausting. I don’t know I guess nothing would have saved our relationship. You would think after 12 years you could trust someone but I guess not. I’m glad this works for most I’m just one of the unlucky ones which is par for the course.

Married for 19 years, got separated then divorced. Very painful at first, tried everything, nothing worked. Eventually I started to let go and peace started to replace the pain. Now I’m rediscovering who I am and redefining my newer version. Life happens and all we can control is how we react. Choose to let them go over and over. Again, not easy but peace eventually does come.

I love watching your videos Coach Lee

Perfect time to upload

What you say makes complete sense. We women have to stop chasing men who don't want to be chased and stop choosing those who aren't choosing us

Coach lee teach people how to be a sigma male/female, that makes person to be more attractive to the opposite sex, I've broken up with her for 4 months now, at first couple months is always the hardest time, what coach lee told on this video I've done that before, "pushing my ex with anger", contacting mutual friend for help, breaking no contact and I gonna tell yall those are not work, listen to coach lee tips, his advice makes you more attractive and become a sigma person, even after you changed and your ex doesn't come back to you, you still be a different person that will attract more people. Trust the process you'll not regret

This guy is very smart and correct i did the no contact rule and my ex reached out to me then,i thought everything was good and she repeatedly backed off winding me up its horrible but im going to correct it and learn from it 😁

Very good advices. Will do it. Thank you coache lee.

wow everything u say is mindblowing and makes total sense now everything that has happened to me! Thankyou!

Thank you so much coach lee, I love you

If I didn't have anyone to talk to about it I would have had a psychotic break down. Keeping it all bottled in is emotionally dangerous

Hi, Coach. Im sorry im late again, our internet connection just got back, and the first notif was yours. 🥰🥰 im the happiest, reading the title i know that i can relate to this and will be a great help. Thank you so much, Coach. Attendance check: LATE, but still PRESENT! 👋🙋🏻‍♀️♥️

Did the no contact really well. Now hes coming back "half way".. His contacts are about going to him and excepting his "way", his life the way it is. No sense of compromise. I think hes trying to get me to chase and not have to make any compromise half way. All about his life and me fitting into his life.

I did Nc for two months no texts no calls nothing was just focusing on myself it was not easy but I pushed myself to do it . Went to gym I transformed myself, he came back begging…

I 💯 agree with Coach Lee especially about not posting pictures of yourself with somebody else.Sure maybe in a handful of cases that might work in making somebody jealous,but like I know with me as much as I love my ex if I was to see a picture of him with someone else online,mind you I am madly in love with my ex and of course in this situation I am the one that was broke up with, but still you would think that would make me want him back even more. if I was to see him with someone else or find out that he was dating someone else I would be done with him because I would think in order for him to do that he must be over me or he must not really care about me and all chances are lost. I also feel that from the person that breaks up with you's point of view especially if they know that you are bat crap crazy in love with them and you're posting pictures with someone else it looks like a manipulation tactic. It makes you look needy and codependent that the only way that you could move on from them is that you had to find somebody else. I feel like coach Lee's techniques and approach are definitely the right thing and a more powerful approach because if you can stay away from them without having someone else occupying your mind,or at least having them think that, then that shows that you are a lot stronger and more stable than someone that has to jump from relationship to relationship or pretend like you have to.

You are great. Made this 8 weeks of NC much more easier helping me with what to do. Was thinking of reaching out around the 3 month mark as a nothing to lose, I’m really missing our dog that we had for 4yrs. Problem is that 3 month mark is New Year, just after my birthday (Xmas) and before hers (Jan). I don’t want that to be a reason for reaching out.

When my ex told me she wanted space and didn't want to talk I replied "I love you and goodbye"

Another great video coach.

Been married 25 years, dated 2 years prior, I adopted her 3 boys from previous marriage, this last Veterans Day I had to work 4-5 hours she was by my work so I said let’s grab lunch we had lunch and after lunch she said she is staying at our Sons house, I asked her if she had someone else she said no I love you!! But I haven’t heard from her since!!! My heart is crushed but I’m doing the NC since last Wednesday

Oh you answering is so difficult questions in our journey

I appreciate your advice in your videos. I wish you would do a video on how to deal a HSP, hypersensitive person. My ex is a HSP & trying to navigate a break up with that is next level difficult. Especially when I wanted it to work, didn’t want it to end. Also dealing with my ex’s things. How to return them or just leave them where they are.

Great video coach lee!!!

ITS BECAUSE YOU DONT OVERTHINK THINGS AND YOU DONT QUESTION THEM YOUR CALM FACE REFLECTS WHAT YOU ARE

He cheated. I was the dumper. It broke me to dump him. I am generally extremely strong but this guy broke me. I went into no contact and it lasted 40 days. He reached out by a call. I was polite and friendly but kept it short. Somehow i cannot let him go out of my heart, a part of me wishes he'll call and have the courage to own up. But alas. Many men haven't learned accountability.

I’m not sure if i miss him or just the memories and everything we’ve done together.

No contact is the answer how to love yourself more than anyone else..

I have grown so strong now that I don’t know if I even want my ex back. But he wants to see me so I will give it a try. 😄

Obviously I’m doing something wrong! I bought your kit. Am doing the best to follow the steps. Things suppose to get easier so I can forget her but the longer the time. The harder it is. So stupid! The thought of dating some one else, sleeping with someone’s else is just blegh. I feel gross. I have been telling my self. Like she told me. WE ARE NEVER GONNA HAPPEN. Til this day I force myself, forget about it. Her and I is NEVER gonna happen. Legit i am doing the best to erase the memories and forcing myself to let go. Not force but practicing to let her go and just move on even though my heart feel strongly other wise. It’s hard B😣😢

Important to know how to reel in the catch.

Broke the NC rule a few times, but currently over 3 weeks now. Bought the breakup kit, I'll let you guys know if it's worth it. Doing everything to follow the gameplan now.

ohh i should do this mystery thing. i should start to hide him on my post story and timeline and stop talking to our common friends. thank you Coach lee for guiding me.

For all the people starting out or who have made a few mistakes along the way… I am living proof that it can still work! First break up January, tried to reason with logic… got nowhere! NC for 2 wks, he reached out. Fell straight back into it but then he withdrew. Spent the next few months just trying to stay in his life. Lost all respect for myself. NC again… this time 5 weeks. I’d still not seen the video on the dangers of falling straight back in so off he went again!! Strong word with myself, all videos binge watched multiple times. NC for a mammoth 3.5 months. Decided to do the casual reach out as nothing to lose at this point. Also I had told him before tech NC that I deserved better etc He didn’t reply. Then later that night liked some of my social media photos. I didn’t react, breadcrumbs right?? Then the next day I got a reply! Bit of a conversation then nothing. I stayed strong. Just over a week. Another conversation (initiated by him) and then the next day another.we are meeting up soon. I just need to keep my head!! Thank you @Coach Lee And to everyone else…. You got this!!!!

Coach you are so elegant with the white shirt!

Im constantly watching your videos Coach Lee! Im from Phillipines! You have helped me a lot and your videos kinda source of my strength during these tough times in my relationship. No contact rule is really true, my ex reached out he still loves me but when i asked him if he's into fixing our issues his answer was he wants us to stay connected but doesn't want a commitment which i declined and doing again the no contact🥺 what's next Coach? God bless you for helping a lot of people.🙏

Thank you Coach Lee. Jana - Texas

Broke no contact after 18 days. It went great the first 3 days but she started blaming me for things in the past , we started arguing and now I’m blocked everywhere. Stick to no contact

Living this comment here, I will come back here after 6months of no contact to see how I feel.

On may 2021 my partner of 17 years dumped me after I did not see the signs, she was partying at her job ,getting drunk a few times a month,yelling and insulting for small things,then I left home and in 4 weeks of no contact I received a text from her that she was going to get married to a better, younger man , I felt devastated instead of receiving an apology I was like stubbed in the heart by the person I loved the most, I analyzed the situation, we have a house, a rental business , 3 daughters etc… I decided to fix the relationship and I did things that devalued my self as a man,I begged her to work it out and asked her to reconsider,nothing worked she was capricious and said that she was selling the house and was planning to go to Las Vegas to start over with her new found love , she even threatened me with a restriction order so I could not get into the house I built. I asked her why ? Why are you doing this to me ? She said “ ASI es la vida ( life is like this) I was sad , depressed, I had feelings and emotions that were consuming me from inside, then I learned red pill, I started watching this videos I decided not chase her anymore I built my business I studied and got my licenses, I am working out everyday,I am eating healthy, I fix my teeth, I am dressing better, I’m stronger then ever and I am making sure my needs are fulfilled first , I have my life insurance with cash value in place ( my own bank ) I’m studying finances , and she called me and texted me to tell me that the other guy is an alcoholic with flaws and no aim in life , that she regrets leaving me for him and that she is afraid of leaving him because he may die if she breaks her heart,I thought WTF and I told her that if she wants to talk to me she can only talk about our relationship not about anybody else,now if she calls I call her if she texts I text her , if she starts acting and saying that she doesn’t want to come back to me I say that I don’t want to come back to her either, and she is the the one calling me,however now I am stronger and I think to myself “ Screw that bitch I won’t bail her out , she lost her job , she blew her car due to no maintenance, she is in a go to hell mood most of the time , she is spiraling down, on the other hand I found strength in me , things that happen, words, rejection, actions can not touch me nor hurt me inside , my mind is untouched, thoughts create feelings, feelings create emotions, emotions create actions and actions create results.massive success is the best revenge I have dumped her many times and I have put her in her place, I told her that above love what I want from a woman is respect ,I. Am over her I have dignity and I must respect my self first to be respected next , no contact works , women are crazy,no doubt about that ,men are stupid for falling in love with them ,I’m putting my stuff together and now many women are easy with me they can feel the confidence in a man ,I am the man and the man is always in charge,stay strong stay red pill is hard an is a real pain at the beginning but I found my happiness inside me , women are just the cherry on top of the cake , they are not the cake itself.

Really appreciated these videos over the past few months...but sometimes you have to recognise when you haven't been treated the best...and move on.

Awesome info

It’s such a difficult thing to go through especially when you have a kid with the ex & they move on from you… NC is the most difficult method to enact for this situation because they assume you’re “being cold” towards them…

Thanks for the video coach. My ex has reached out three times since the breakup and I’ve moved slowly towards them. We had some good intimacy shared. Problem is I haven’t heard from him in a week. Also it’s ldr so I fear he’ll move on faster. Yes I should keep waiting for him to come to me or no I should initiate some?

5 year relationship, 7 years of best friendship… gone mid September and she entered a new relationship 2 weeks later She still wants to be friends and after a month of NC she messaged Christmas to try and just be friends and then put a relationship status up a day after reaching out and us having a decent conversation, as much as I love her I can’t have that. No contact again it is

Never let someone chase

Thank you Coach Lee.

We’ve broken up the first time, after 30 days almost on/off no contact, we get back together. 2 months in, we’re starting off on a the wrong foot. The last two arguments, he suggested breakup… the first one, I solely talked him through it and we kinda worked it out. The 3rd time, he mentioned “ I think we should break up.” My answer was “ We absolutely SHOULD.” Good riddance, I’m now free and blocked him. I even blocked his guardian angel. I don’t hate him at all, his oxygen is between him and God. He’s such a narcissist that he can’t even see nothing past his nose. He can move on and find his next victim, all I know is that… I genuinely DO NOT care about this demon whatsoever lol. I feel at peace knowing that I don’t have to babied a 28yr old man who always makes excuses about everything. He always had some types of mental battles. I started setting boundaries and that’s when it’s all gone down. I knew I was turning into a beautiful butterfly that I wholeheartedly DO NOT CARE about this species smh. I’m at peace cause I literally programmed my mind to never remember that I met this type of Lucifer on earth.