Spoken from a guy who’s planning on spending my money? Dude make sure your viewpoints match in the argument otherwise you come off as a dumbass and a AH
Which you say as you plan in spending MY inheritance? Dude make sure when making a point, the bullet points follow the same path. Otherwise you come off as a dumbass and a AH
The Op's mom in the last story is vile for sleeping with her daughters boyfriend that they have both known since he was 13!! I would also say the mom is a groomer, who knows how long she had her eye on that teenager, absolutely disgusting!!
The mom is absolutely a groomer & sexual predator and I think r/slash should have given her a 5/5 butthole score because what the mom did is absolutely atrocious
I think when she was in PPD she did this cuz she hated the kid, probably. That's messed up as well. Also saying that OP should've "gone" instead of the dad is also super messed up
How does RSLASH get off on JUST a 3/5 for these two evil, twisted, horrible people? The man has given 4 and 4.5 for LESS, these twisted psychos deserve nothing short of hate and scorn for their twisted behavior.
@@lorilancaster5917Its only been two weeks and OP has no other posts at the time. It seems like a very recent event, not an old one that was dug up, so we'll have to wait.
Another reason I absolutely would not tutor that sister is that you would immediately become the scapegoat for her grades alongside everything else. The sister could just refuse to learn and blame her failing on OP. In situations like these you really just have to hold on until you can escape and never look back. Work hard on getting scholarships so, in the case what the sister said was true, you can still go away to uni regardless of the abusive family. Maybe when you're out of their lives they'll realise the truth or maybe they wont, but you can still set yourself up for success even though it's really fucking hard to have to totally rely on yourself as a 16 year old.
I do hope OP gets out of that place as soon as possible. You're definitely right about OP becoming the scapegoat for the sister. Hell, the sister would probably INTENTIONALLY fail JUST to get their mother to fly off the handle and punish OP somehow. OP should 100% leave them behind and never look back. Also the dad would be rolling in his grave if he saw this happening.
@@Gabriel-lh7gy The scapegoating had LOOOOOOONG been happening before this. It just would have been another avenue of torture for the sister to use on OP.
I was thinking the exact same thing! It is so obvious, especially when you look at the details. The mom pounced as soon as she could, without it being illegal.
It is gross, and the fact that I don't see a lot of people talking about this is troubling. Imagine if it was some creepy man that pushed his son to date a girl he's known since he was 13. 🤢🤢🤢
Yeah, their seems to be a lot of female teachers sleeping with students so I'm not surprised, the only difference is that she waited for the kid to grow up.
Story 2: OMG! Are you kidding me?! ABSOLUTELY NTA! OP, once you turn 18, run. Get away from your toxic " mother " and your entitled brat of a " sister ", and NEVER look back! I really hope for the best for you, OP. You DO NOT deserve this! Let " mommy dearest " cater to her " precious baby " however she desires, but don't drag OP down with you! Plus, ouch, when the sister told OP, " Mommy wishes you were dead! ", and showing no remorse, yeah... NO! That is just disgusting. OP, find other family members, or friends, to help you get out of there. Definitely go NO CONTACT with both that monster of a mother and that spoiled, entitled sister!
To be fair, we don't know if the sister is telling the truth about that part or not. It could be that the sister is just saying the most hurtful things she can to OP because she gets some sick pleasure out of torturing her sister. Unless the mom actually comes out and says it herself, I'm taking what the sister says with a grain of salt. Do I think the mother resents OP for some crazy reason, yes definitely. Do I think she wants OP dead, highly doubtful, otherwise things would be much worse for OP. Do I think she wishes that OP was dead instead of her husband, possibly, we also don't know what kind of relationship the two parents had outside of the dad calling the mom out on her blatant favoritism.
@@user-ut3jk7it6c No they don't, they literally say at the beginning of the story 'My parents had me (16f) and my sister (14f). We lost our dad a few years ago.'
No one is ignoring anything. It’s all we’ve discussed. Unless there’s proof that she did the deed with him before the age of consent, nothing can be done.
@@lorilancaster5917 Even if there is proof, the mom would get a light sentence at the most and not receive any punishment at the least, since there a disgusting double standard about underaged boys being assaulted by adult women. For example, a 13 year old girl being groomed by a older man would get people to comfort her and actually acknowledge what happened was grooming. Meanwhile a 13 year old boy would have a bunch of dudes, including there male relatives asking them how great it was to do the deed with the abuser, and people saying it was not grooming or assault since he “liked it”.
@exiledpain6 Maybe but I've heard of parents doing it all the time. Though ots usually step kids or half siblings. So I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if it were true
For Story 2: OP, move out ASAP, and when you do, tell your "mom", that from that moment on, she only has one daughter. She made sure of that. Tell her, that from that moment on, to them, you don't exist and to you, they don't exist. Naming your child after a relative you hated. Saying you wish your own child died, instead of their father (although, this might easily be just the sister being cruel and lying), clearly favoring one child, even going so far as to take the full college fund from your other child and giving it to the baby... That sad excuse of a mother earned the 5/5 in my book. And rSlash is right. For the sister, the issues are rooted deeper than her grades...but they stem from mommy dearest...
"even going so far as to take the full college fund from your other child and giving it to the baby..." This also has potential to be a cruel lie from the sister. Unfortunately, anything the sister 'claimed' has to be taken with caution. The sad thing though, is that it's all believable based on the mother's past actions. Best option is still to leave the moment she can, and cut all ties.
And what did OP do to receive the name of a relative her mother hated? She was a baby! So the mother decided she was going to hate on OP for no reason despite her being a baby and then act like her next child is the perfect one. What a monster.
Story 3 : This is why you don't tell people about windfalls like this. Literally no one. It's not even selfish here because OP doesnt have a parent. They likely wont get anything from their fathers wife or the wifes grandparents. OP is having their windfall collectivised but any losses will be solely on them.
🤔 he doesn't need to split the money three ways or with anyone but not wanting to help your own dad after coming into such an inheritance is a little selfish
@@isaiahtorrezao7461not to be rude but you miss the part after OP spilled the beans, the dad blabbed to his wife, who then blabbed to her daughter, and then the dad and stepmom cornered OP into splitting his inheritance? That’s not the kind of dad that gets financial assistance
@@isaiahtorrezao7461 There's a reason the mother had stipulations about the father remarrying and having more kids. She knew something like this would happen, and the father revealed his true colors. This is OP's money and he can do whatever he wants with it, including not giving any to his greedy father, step mother, and step siblings. Is it selfish, yes, but as Rslash said, it's good to be selfish once in a while, especially if the money is meant solely for you, and nobody else. It's so OP can take care of themselves and insure they they live a comfortable life. If OP did give any of the money away, that's less of a comfortable life for OP. The family's struggles are not OP's struggles, and he should not be expected to pay for the family's bad choices and burdens.
Story 1: don’t you just love it when a potential spouse shows off the red flags before the relationship becomes serious? NTA Story 2: Wow! Just… WOW! I know I’ve said it a million times before but it cannot be stated enough. There has to be a specific layer of Hell for parents who not only shows blatant favoritism, but also to enable abuse and wish for a certain child’s death! Also judging from the sister, I can only imagine her future being in jail or in a body bag! NTA A-F!
@@JamesDavy2009 I've heard that sometimes judges ignore prenups. She's better off dumping him and finding someone else. He would find a way to get that money if he had to steal the account details. He wants that money to badly to not try to get his hands on it. Plus if she ever gets like a bonus at work and her plans were to save it for a rainy day or future kids. He'll already have plans on how to spend it. Plus after she blew up on him he stayed playing games for hours before confronting her. She's better off without him.
OK Dana. In Canada only (that's the stats I have access to), about 240 people die of cancer EACH DAY. Please let's not make this about you getting triggered by a biopsy scar. It's sad your mom is ill, but it does not make you the center of the universe. Let other people live.
Story 1: ‘my bf scolded me’ scolded? Op, you are not a child! I’m noticing a pattern, more often on the relationship sub, women say ‘scold’ or chided’ when they fight with their husbands like they’re a child and not a partner.
Most women behave like one, also most women have never received criticism from a man just pure flattery whether it be true or just to get into their pants so their first thought is feeling like a child as it would be the first time since their parents that someone told them off.
Story 1: NTA, at first the fiancee wants to marry OP for her, but now, it feels like he is making it look like he is marrying her for the money, which is a massive red flag. And he has the gall to say that the money is his as well, like what? You aren't in the will, son. The money isn't for you! Call off the wedding OP, this guy is a greedy, entitled AH.
OP's lucky the fiance showed his true colours early before the vows and any potential children (though OP stated she didn't want any). It would have been different if he had ASKED but he didn't and assumed. In some places I don't think he'd even have ACCESS to it if they had gotten married as it's a premarital asset that was stated in another comment somewhere here.
Problem with that is, let's say theoretically, that he runs into 2 million dollars and they were in a financial struggle. What if he doesn't spend a dime on her only stuff they share. Is it fair then? I think he overreacted, but it's right for him to think that if they are sharing money they make from their job, then they should share money from an inheritance.
I am thinking he knew OPS grandparents had money and thought to himself "Jackpot, I will have my own personal ATM machine" and will live like a king, off of OPS money sounds like a gold digger to me
Tipycal case of "your money is our money, my money is my money" most women feel that way and behave that way, most men are the opposite, I dont blame OP for being angry since her fiancee was a douche on how he responded, however she is also the AH because she shows that she is selfish and definetely not ready for marriage
someone pointed out that China doesn’t do daylights savings. No big deals but it’s always fun to sleuth the reasons for schedule changes to my Morning Rslash Video
16 year old OP. I get what she's going through. Damn. I think she should get her own account (does she have a family member that can take her to open it?) get a job, and leave at 18.
Last story: did your grandma do that to your mom? Like they are so against you cutting off your mom that makes me wonder if Grandma or grandpa has something they're not telling you. Because I can't imagine being okay with a mom sleeping with her daughter's boyfriend, she kept the roof over your head and fed you because she had to that is not an excuse for her to betray you like that.
Doing the legal requirements to take care of a minor child in your custody doesn’t give you the okay to sleep with their partner. No need for the pedestal since she’s wallowing in the gutter
@@lorilancaster5917 To use a Judge Judy-ism, are the grandparents really trying to justify the fact that their daughter (in law) is a cradle robber/child groomer?
Story 4: Yeah I'm pretty sure you can't guilt trip a cancer survivor because her mom (not her) are going through cancer. I understand this is a difficult time for your friend but not to the point she can demand you cover up your scar because she doesn't want to see it, you two were going to swim what did she think you were going nowhere?
as someone with a lot of scars, it's so depressing when this happens. people expect you to stop living your life freely for their comfort and it's so entitled. you're not responsible for someone's triggers if you're just existing in their near vicinity
Story 4: How is having a scar which by the way isn't exactly something that can be helped insensitive? If anything that other girl was being overly sensitive and expecting way too much out of everyone else. Yes, dealing with a relative having cancer and knowing that they might not survive is a pretty arduous ordeal but you don't get to just start making unrealistic demands of everyone else.
My guess, and I’m not saying that there is logic or reasoning behind it, the friend feels like she has no control in her life and is projecting on to OP. Get some therapy and don’t police peoples clothes
Story 4; So because mom did the bare minimum - provide OP with a roof over her head, food and water and clothes - somehow that makes it okay to sleep with her daughter's boyfriend? What?! No, doing the bare minimum of what is legally required does not give you a free pass to be a 💩 person.
Yeah, I'd say that her transgression completely negates whatever support she gave her daughter over the years. It's like if a friend got you a game console, but then stole your car, but other friends tell you to just let it go since he bought you that game console.
Omg the poor girl in the second story, she’s got no family to help and her mom even sabotages her trying to get a job, literally calling over and over demanding she get fired until she did. I hope that poor girl gets away 😢 seems like she made the post to reach out for support
For the last story, I just love how people or parents point out that they put a roof over someone's head or put food on the table and expect to be rewarded in return. People can choose to have babies and be responsible for said baby, not vice versa.
2nd story: I CANNOT STAND PARENTS THAT FAVORITE KIDS! I hate to say it but op sister is PROBABLY right about the mom tolerating her, wishing she died, and only loving her younger sister.
Parents playing favorites with their children are THE WORST!!! Clearly, this mother doesn’t watch Bluey. In one episode, they say/show why you NEVER PLAY FAVORITES! But clearly OP’s “ mother “ doesn’t care in the slightest. And her “ sister “ is just the WORST!
Story 2: Hey, hey, y'know what? My mom also had postpartum depression after having me, quite badly in fact because this was just around the time of the SSRI revolution in mental health treatment. You know what she didn't do? Abandon me and shun me for the rest of my life. She took me to stay with her mom (my grandma) while she worked through it and had her and me as emotional support. So any woman trying to use postpartum depression as an excuse for being a neglectful piece of shit of a mother can get bent.
No.. a person in their 30s is just as much an adult as someone in their 50s. Unless that men was mentally underdeveloped there was no grooming here! Just cheaters!
@@Robin93k uhh the guy in question is 18, NOT in his 30s, and OP's mom knew him since he was 13 or possibly even younger (that's just how long he and OP had been "best friends"). Maybe you had ages mixed up with the first story in the video? Anyway, I'd say it's a bit of both, cheating and grooming, because 18 is old enough to know you shouldn't mess around with other people when you have a partner, but the likelihood that there wasn't also grooming involved is basically zero, given the context and how the "stuff" happened RIGHT as soon as he became "legal" :/
Anything inherited before marriage is not considered maritial assets. He's legit not entitled to any of it, even if they marry and divorce; he's only entitled to what they build together, not what she inherited or owned before.
We don't but it's definitely possible, my guess is that it didn't start that way and genuinely encouraged her at first, then in the later years wanted him and that's where it started
Story 1:OP just spoke facts,why fiance mad? OP,Get an ironclad prenup made should you still want to marry that gold digger,you know to dump him if he refuses,know what,just dump him NTA
My dad had liver cancer and had a giant scar from the base of his sternum straight down his abdomen. (It looked like he had been gutted like a fish). We also live in a hot climate, so he went shirtless all the time if he was gardening or running or something. Never once did anyone ask him to "cover up" and if they had, that would have raised more than a few eyebrows. If you're triggered by someone else's scars/appearance, it's on you to deal with it by (politely) removing yourself from the situation. You/your family are not the only ones on the planet who have gone through a cancer treatment, and expecting everyone else to modify themselves to you is beyond ridiculous.
*First OP:* At the risk of sounding like a Reddit cliché, OP should take this as a red flag and end the relationship. OP is NTA. This is why you should never assume. *Second OP:* I'm hoping this is rage bait. If not, I hope OP has friends or extended family she could stay at because I feel that her mom and sister will make her home life even worse than it already is. OP is NTA, and if what her sister told OP about their mom was true, I hope there's a special place in hell for her. *Third OP:* OP's only mistake was telling his dad the amount of money in his account. While I can understand OP's dad's and stepmother's frustrations, OP is NTA. I wonder if OP's dad was cheating on OP's mom and she knew about it, hence the account. *Fourth OP:* I feel for Dana, but it's OP's body and if she wants to wear a bikini to get a tan, that's her choice. OP is NTA, and Dana should've removed herself from the situation. *Fifth OP:* Did OP's mom encourage OP to ask out her then 16-year-old ex to live vicariously through OP? _shudder_ OP is NTA, and she should cut contact with her grandparents too.
For story 3, yeah the mother definitely didn't think the father could be trustworthy considering she went to such lengths. Good on her honestly. Story 5, oh she did NOT need OP to live vicariously through. She got the bf after all. But agreed, the grandparents are terrible for siding with the mother. I HOPE they only got one side of the situation because they're just as bad. What OP's mom did destroyed OP's trust, love and relationship. I hope OP never talks to that trash again, as she deserves. Like some comments said though, it's... unsettling that the mother knew him since he was 13... Raising the potential flag that they were groomed. Though still, the bf does shoulder some of the blame in that instance. Some if groomed, equally as guilty if not.
My family dynamic was EXTREMELY similar to the second story, except my dad wasnt dead, he divorced my mother. She hated me because I loved him and because I did things similar to his mother, whom she hated. She taught my younger sister to bully me just like OP's mother. My sister hasn't spoken to me since we were 16 and 17 and I stopped talking to my biological incubator three years ago when I was 20.
Last story: The mom knew the bf since he was 13. Maybe she groomed him - she waited until he was legal, but still. That's just sick. And it's just as sick that the grandparents are sticking up for her.
@arithefierysecretary6411 i mean, I hope so, too. I really do. But even if she did, it doesn't change the fact that, like you initially pointed out, she slept with a kid her daughter's age, whom she knew since the age of 13. That's an ick that can't be explained away.
Story 3: even if you wanted to split the money I doubt your grandparents are going to agree to it, that money was specifically for you and you alone your mommy declared she didn't want it to go to anyone else. And your father should be splitting it with you and dividing it equally because he's your dad and should want to contribute to his child's future. But it's okay because now he can take the money he was saving for you to his other kids because you clearly don't need it. Your grandparents did what anyone would do helped secure their grandchild future, you didn't expect that much money to be in there but it is and maybe you'll help in the future but for now that is your money.
Imagine telling a cancer survivor they're insensitive for having a scar and not hiding themselves away from others. It's not your job to manage other people's triggers.
Story 2, OP needs to start building up some connections and planning her exit strategy and no contact with family ASAP. Don't tell anyone about it unless necessary, and figure out what you want to take with you, figure out college from that and make sure to have a backup in case the first plan fails. That type of lifestyle can be fatal, and it is only going to get worse.
Selfishness is a scale. Theres a wild difference between "I had another bite of my chocolate because I did good on that test!" And "You should give me your money because it's UnFaIR!!1!!!"
Story 1: I was willing to give OP's bf the benefit of the doubt, even with the Boy's Trip comment, thinking maybe he was of the mindset "we can use that money to pay off things we're already paying, so we can save the money we would be spending otherwise, and spend it on things like Boy's Trips and other luxuries." But when he came out and beratedOP, I was like "Oh, no. Dude is just an entitled peckerwood." Dump him and run like Hell, chica. Dude has all those red flags, and doesn't own a rollercoaster? Save yourself, sis.😂
My guess is RSlash is still out witch is fine but the schedule is set to 8 o’clock like normal but it didn’t take into account of daylight savings so that’s why it’s coming out at 9. Which is fine. Hope RSlash is having a wonderful time with his family. He deserves it
The entitlement to someone else's money is baffling. Someone you know and claim to care about getting an inheritance doesn't mean you get a portion of their money just because you know them and claim to care.
However, there's nothing wrong about asking to be shared on that inheritance. On that 1st story, OP should heavily rethink her plans and never marry thay douche. On the 3rd story, the parents tried to ask, and OP never mentioned any flaws or maltreatment, so it'll be really up to him if he wants to help his siblings...
Video title does that count as a sweet home Alabama? Scar story Reminds me of a time the whole family/extended family went on a beach trip. I had the nail permanently removed from my left big toe (it never quite healed right and is a bit ugly) a entitled mom at the beach with her two kids demanded I put shoes on my toe was upsetting her kids
Expecting and pressuring one child to give up an inheritance from a deceased parent to assist half siblings or step siblings absolutely confirms you have failed as parents
My whole body's thrown off with the DST Spring Forward. I'm in PA, and my friend in AZ doesn't have to deal with this because AZ doesn't do Daylight Savings Time. 😂😂😂
Story 2: For the name, it's definitely so she has a reason to take her anger out on who she really resents. I mean, she chose the name. The mom needs all the therapy to get rid of the resentment issues, and the daughter needs therapy before she becomes and adult and continues her behavior to the point that it ruins her image (and probably blame OP for it even though it's the mom's fault), and OP should go full NC
Pretty sure the mother is just an abusive narcissist. She just needed something to blame her being abusive on, because narcissists can never think of themselves as being wrong. Literally "I can't do anything wrong, so everything I do is right. And if it is wrong, it's someone else's fault."
Omg that scar story made me laugh. My family and I have been through a LOT and have way too many scars from those moments. We're all insecure about them but the only ones I find triggering are the ones on my own body and I have had to accept that these scars are now a part of my loved ones bodies and I can love and accept them even if they're really not pleasant to look at or be reminded of why theyre there. It's hard enough to accept yourself enough to show scarred parts of you in the privacy of your home but it's even worse to be judged by everyone else. My dad also had cancer which was a really difficult thing to go through but I couldn't allow myself to get triggered by everyone else who has any form of cancer and are just trying to live their lives. The concept of psychological boundaries have been kind of warped from "this is something I can't tolerate so I'll remove myself from the equation" to "this is something I dont like so you must change yourself to appease me" and it seems like this is a classic case of that. It's not fun to be reminded of the shit you're experiencing but you can only change your own behaviour and thought process.
The mom in the last story is really bad because not only did she cheat with her daughter's boyfriend, but she knew the guy since he was a child. That's gross. I don't know how you could look at someone you saw grow up and think of them sexually. Poor girl, 2 of the closest people in her life betrayed her.
I don’t know if you’re still in China, DadSlash, but the clocks got set back yesterday in the states. I think it might be tinkering with your upload time.
Story 2: a few years later ops mother will be regretting her blatant favouritism she’ll be saying things like “I never did anything wrong” they always do
My money story. It's true that OP doesn't have to share the money with anyone. But it's also true that the parents could've saved money on OP to save for the siblings if they had known. But I guess OP doesn't want a family in the future.
Story 3:People,rule #1 for having lots of money:"never tell anyone you have lots of money,just get the absolute necessities for basic life,then dependong on the behaviour of those around you,get other things,but akways make sure you save most of it" OP's money,OP's decision,NTA
According to the story as well, it seems the parents aren't the AH, too. It's just a case of no1 is the AH. OP has all the rights to hold on to his inheritance and not share. The parents isn't wrong on trying to ask and convince OP to share. The parents might had called OP selfish, but that's because he is being selfish. OP didn't mention anything about the parents doing any retribution on OP's selfishness. It's actually gonna be nice if OP could help his siblings, he doesn't need to give the parents any money, just help out his siblings when they are on college, no matter how he could. If OP choses to still not really want to help and just be very selfish, he's got all the right to be. So, no1 is the AH on that story for me...
Google when your time zones daylight savings is and that’s when it’ll change (in New Zealand his upload time changes from 3:01am to 2:01am and it changes in April)
Story 3: dad saved for OP, so he can take that savings account and split it between the other two kids can't he ? He should just be grateful that he doesn't have to worry about OP financially.
For the stories that have to do with this, Stop telling everyone in your family how much money you are inheriting, idk why you wouldn't think this wouldn't cause a ton of problems. You can decide to help (or not) without giving all your private information. 😪
My first thought was that when he came with "She's going to become his financial burden" BS was she should have pulled off her engagement ring and gave it back to him. Now, she won't be a financial burden.
Oh, my God, if a biopsy scar, upsets her, tell her not to look at it. You don’t have to hide yourself because she’s sad. My mother has survived cancer twice, but that doesn’t mean I have any resentment toward anybody else who has had cancer. Even while she was going through her cancer treatments. Her friend needs to shut up and mind her business. Your body has nothing to do with her.
The mother in the second story is a real piece of work. If she had asked me how I could put the sister’s future at risk by not tutoring her, I would have said, “You put my future at risk first by giving my college fund to my sister, so turn about is fair play, mommy dearest!"
"My money" story.... Yep, exactly. It is OP's money, period. If he chooses to give some to others, it is HIS choice, not a requirement. Scar story.... So, a little three inch scar. OP is NTA. Her choice.
