r/AmITheA**hole A 16-year-old Stalker Broke Into My House to Give Me Cake! 

Bet

Jokes on you, I like free stuff

I unfortunately cannot turn down a free cake

My BDay is November 23, see you then....

WOAH MOMMA

There's already a bin. So she need to assert all the dominance untill she crowned as Queen of England.

Control and shame, absolutely.

Thing is her son's "saw the bloody pads" which if true why were they looking inside of used toilet paper in a trashcan? They are not innocent, why did sil not ask them why they were going through the trash and looking in used toilet paper? The entire scenario screams Karen energy and the boys are a scapegoat for her digging in trash.

Yeah that's what I was thinking. As someone who grew up with a narcissist mother, this sounds a lot like that. Putting a lock on someone else's door for a total non-issue really just spells out your massive entitlement. She's lucky I wasn't there, because at the "she's a widow" line, I'd have said "yeah, seeing how she behaves, her husband probably offed himself because he couldn't deal with this crap."

Exactly. It's all about control

Yeah, it's very obviously a gender based double standard... The husband and the girls parents clearly think "she's a teen girl, it's not like she can do anything dangerous". If she can break into the house, she's dangerous.

You'd be incredibly shocked at just how many people tell women who experience that the same things.

@@RiveroftheWither while it is true that the majority of murders are committed by men, that doesn't mean women don't commit murder. It's very strange how people seem to forget that statistics saying one thing is more likely doesn't mean the less likely outcome cannot happen.

If it was a guy, OP’s husband would have beaten the hell out of him lol

@@Nerobyrne Well that's true, you are arguing against someone who just see the world differently than you do. Some of my extended family puts way more stock in individual stories, anecdotes if you will, while the immediate family views statistics & probabilities as more credible. As a woman I don't really restrict myself much because I fundamentally know that I'm always way WAY more likely to be murdered or attacked by someone I know, if my life works out that way. Does that then mean that it can't? No. It means I've done the risk versus benefits & I'm not going to live my life based on what if? something happens because I'll miss the fun/good stuff too. That doesn't stop that other half of my family freaking out if I'm out alone after dark at age 42, even if I'm doing something mundane like running to a gas station or a Walmart because they heard from a friend that something bad happened there once, let alone if I stop off for a beer by myself (gasp the horror) because roofies exist & like I wouldn't know how to watch my drink after all this time. To them, their reality feels the same as mine does to me. It isn't really the same as a fact, anecdote & a feeling aren't on the same level really but it feels that way to them. It's the same way it feels to you from what it sounds like. That's fine but other people move through the world very differently.

She should teach her boys to deal too

That's exactly what I thought. Like how tf are they exposed if shes wrapping them?? The boys are being gross not blood phobic.

Isn't there 3 women in the house? How is the daughter the only one getting blame for this.

@@bazookaward3859 true, what does the step aunt and step mom do during their own periods?

What is she supposed to do with her pads? Eat them? Burn them? Also if her 'precious' boys can't handle seeing used pads I hope they turn out gay. Cuz how are they going to handle living with girlfriends, wives, daughters etc? Just get a trashcan with a lid- or even better DON'T LOOK.

Can we get a round of applause for that?

The story says the older nephew had a blood phobia (apparently not specific to period blood) and I can understand how he might be triggered, but that does not excuse the SIL's conduct. As r/slash said, it could have been dealt with by getting a covered trash can for the bathroom. Phobias are real, don't dismiss them as 'indoctrinated'.

I grew up with two women, my older sister who doesn't have a cycle do to medical issues and my mother who has always had her own bathroom. Never seen anything period related until my late teens when my sister's cycle randomly kicked in (Can't remember why exactly, it had something to do with a recent new treatment) I was a terrified at first not going to lie, my older sister was just suddenly tired and then there was just suddenly blood. Was about to call 911 but my mother stopped me and filled me in and that was the end of it. The blood was just another mess to clean up 🤷‍♀ yeah it's gross but I can't imagine being such a little prissy bitch baby that you would be upset and demand someone dump tampons outside like an animal. This "issue" should come up exactly once, "yes it is gross son, be happy YOU don't have to deal with this shit monthly"

@@condorboss3339 thank you

wtaf is that tilda bro

@@andromachke you make me sick

@@morgandiaz6822 👏👏👏

@@andromachke shadow realm for you

@@andromachke No. Not every man deserves it and I’m not sure if you are a woman or not but either way that’s fucked up. There are plenty of innocent guys who get assaulted by us “innocent” women, and they should be treated as harshly as men who sexually assault women.

@@blaze_phoenix3327 The fact that this even needs to be said is just uuUUGGgghh

100%. Double standards suck for everyone.

Ikr equality but some people think that men don't deserve that. Which I hate it when people like that get off Scott free. It's the same thing about pedophiles too, if you're a woman its because "WeLl ThEyRe In LoVe" but when it's a man it's like "nope you're a pervert go to jail ya sicko! 5 years" like in both situations, they should both get life in the same situation. But this!? Why did she think it was a good idea to basically break the law?

@@bryn1063 Woman beats up man, leaving him with scratches and bruises: "He must've done something really bad to deserve that." Man raises his voice towards a woman after she did/said something extremely messed up: "HEY, THAT IS UNCALLED FOR! ABUSERS LIKE YOU ARE THE SCUM OF THE EARTH AND DESERVE TO BURN IN HELL FOR ETERNITY!"

@@bryn1063 i understand what you are saying but thats completely not true lots of men pedophiles and abusers get off scott free because they are men sometimes women get off free but not as much as men

Irl they dont discriminate luckily Female fans get arrested when they break into famous peoples homes

Trying to remove a dry tampon is the ultimate battle

my school stopped putting free pads in the girls bathroom because “they were being used too fast” there was 500 people in the school with atleast half of them being girls

​@@garden_goth7140 they probably expected yall to use one pad for each period 😭

🎶 All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid Nymph then a virgin, nurse then a servant Just an appendage, live to attend him So that he never lifts a finger 24∕7, baby machine So he can live out his picket fence dreams It's not an act of love if you make her You make me do too much labour All day, every day, therapist, mother, maid Nymph then virgin, nurse and a servant Just an appendage, live to attend him So that he never lifts a finger 24∕7, baby machine So he can live out his picket fence dreams It's not an act of love if you make her You make me do too much labour🎶

I agree. No matter one's gender, stalking is wrong and can cause serious trauma to the victim. And many times, stalking ends up deadly.

​@@tsubakiofmelancholy6297 ++ what you said. keep the charges either way

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big respect to the brother. that wasn't a boy, that was a gentleman.

Why isnt this getting more hype? It's so good seeing people doing this for others who need it

10/10, we love seeing great parenting

you're a good parent

The fact about romeo and Juliet was incorrect as Romeo was 18/19 whereas Juliet was 13 going on 14. Also that is 100% true with what you're saying about 16 year olds

Honestly, from that age it is purely about how the kid is. Some become really responsible while others just don’t grow up.

@@racooninatrenchcoat4257 that makes the average between the two roughly 16 so still technically correct

Well shit, I’m going to be 16 in 2 years, wish me luck

@@racooninatrenchcoat4257 i always thought they were the same age,,that makes it so much creepier

I'm not saying it can't happen, but statistically, a girl going to that level of violence is unlikely. That's why you have to keep the charges because unlikely doesn't mean it won't happen. It's one in 17 men who experienced domestic abuse. And one in four girls. Also, there's a big asterisk with the statistic on men a lot of times it's same sex couples. If you take the same sex coupling out of it, the statistic jumps to one out of 28. Also, 98.62% of all family annihilators or partner murderers are male. If you want to see where I'm getting the statistics, you can go to the FBI website or the RCMP. That being said, I would keep the charges because why risk your brother being that one. Plus, she's 16 it's a trespassing charge it's going to be a slap on the wrist at most. Maybe it'll scare her enough that she'll smarten up. Also as a true crime listener myself True Crime podcast not all of them but a lot of them sensationalize female murderers. Simply because it's rare. It makes it much more scandalous. It does give you a skewed version of who's committing crimes.

@@LLandS18 You gotta wonder.... are those statistics that way because women are actually less likely to commit violence, or are they that way because women murdering people are underreported and/or they're not found out because fewer people think to investigate a woman for potential murder?

Conversation and communication would have complemented these two kids. Work it out. There is a solution that isn’t so drastic.

@@fvsmithHe needs a restraining order not communication. She broke into op’s home and decorated the walls. That’s fucking mental and should be taken as warning to distance himself.

Your brother is wholesome

@@yesthatmousyiris4887 Not just wholesome, he's downright an angel! Considering how much shit life gave him and yet he's still so kind... I admire him so much

Yea. My older brother is empathetic about my periods

I think that some parts should be separated and some all of them together. Sometimes, there are a few questions that boys aren't willing to ask in front of girls and girls aren't willing to ask some questions in front of boys.

If you’ve been doing this type of things for years wouldn’t you start slowing going insane

@@felixtime4640 Isn't that what he's hinting at, smart guy?

@@okamiame4064 jeez I’m sorry i didn’t know I can’t make a comment

I agree with D4G here like its even starting to effect me a bit. Like his last episode when OP caught his sister with her man (Of three years that she lived in her own place with) and then later found out that she was 4 month's pregnant at the time so they'd been messing around for awhile and they were like basically pushing OP to like commend and approve the relationship. And that now family was weighing in and saying that OP was being selfish and a b-word for not doing it. Why I know this is effecting me is because its like I've read tons of these stories and its been nagging at me like: Do these family members just exist in a black hole? Do they not have social media for their family members, no family celebrations, no little holiday get togethers? No one knows that she's been seeing this guy for years and nothing is odd about how he's with the sister and pregnant at all? And realize that their might be something a foot here? Are OP's parents really running that good a cover story that all the holes are plugged and they have no questions its that tight? It just makes me wonder at times if the family members in these stories are even people that have some sense of what's going on? Are they even real people?

@@okamiame4064 it's a rhetorical question bro

Yeah and also happened on his 18th birthday so he can no longer take her cuz she's a minor if he's an adult so yeah you can definitely put a restraining order on her

What got to me is that how selfish can she be to harass and stalk him like that, seeing that she's upsetting him, whilst he's grieving for his parents! This girl is a budding nut bag! I hope they throw the book at her and op get's a restraining order for his brother, that poor kid, smh

Any story like this my first response when people say "oh she's harmless!" is to say "reverse their genders. Is it still ok? No? Ok ."

EXACTLY!

YEAH I'm like ????? How are you even SEEING that blood dude??? Those pads are wrapped which means you shouldn't be able to see anything!

exactly! Wtf was she on about? Sounds like the aunt is being really weird for no reason, and she experiences periods like?? What does she do at that time of the month?

@@goofyrat2938 nah, the boys are digging thru the trash and mom refuses to parent. We went thru this with my cousins and it was rough. My aunt also refused to parent them on digging thru the trash until she caught the youngest one eating trash.

Like maybe you can see some red peeking out but unless you unwrap it you won't realize it was blood

SiL is just an unhinged control freak. OP should've gotten CPS involved at this point because those poor boys are going to grow up messed up in the head thanks to their overbearing mom who shames others for normal bodily functions.

Nees to be shut down before she fully metamorph into Yuno Gasai v2.

screw that whole "if" thing. By the time we're at "breaking into your house to give you presents" level, it's time to act and act quickly. The next time could be deadly.

I agree with these comments. OP really needs to do something because I have a feeling that the ex will start to feel jealous and might break in again and sabotage something… options including their lives. Red flags popped up when she didn’t just accept his concerns and give OP’s brother some space. She didn’t bother trying to understand his feelings and I have a gut feeling that she may be trying to force herself onto OP’s brother (not in the r*** context). OP needs to do something… AND FAST.

Agreed! At 16 bad decisions are not uncommon but this crossed a line. Get a restraining order. The family of the 16 yr old needs to get her into therapy like now.

In the update op was in the process of getting one for the brother and one for her

The pinning of pictures of them together is serial killer vibes

I think most people understand that at age 5 ^.^ Really makes me wonder what goes on in the minds of these people.

@@ShockingPikachu it’s actually a thing that has gone around that SO would do for their other half’s birthdays.

@@Brandallita but not when your ex breaks into your house and does it.

@@Brandallita yeah if you go into my room and hang up pictures of how happy and lovey dovey the relationship was and standing in the dark with a cake like a friggen psychopath, it ain’t lasting

"another great option is for SIL to explain to her kids what periods are, how they're completely normal, etc. and just get over it" They probably already know.

Yeah, when my step brother was ten, we were all at the supermarket getting our groceries and my sisters and I grabbed some pads. My step brother asked what they were for and my dad pulled him aside and quietly explained to him what periods are. Simple as that.

Exactly! I know my own parents were big on period shaming, no matter how much you buried it in toilet paper. Some people just hate women and girls, including other women :(

These people are just nuts like women can't do anything about that it's natural thing it happens so rarely so what's the problem with that, yes it's blood and maybe smells but they don't have any rights to open their hole to shame someone because they don't like it, like don't look at it if you don't like it.

I Don t get why she shames her. Like she's also a woman and is bet if u ask her where does she dispose her pads. She will get angry

WTF even is period shaming? I'm honestly having a hard time figuring out how that's ever supposed to make sense.

What were her kids going through a rubbish bin in the bathroom for. Regardless of what's in the bin and ones thought on it why do you need to go through the bin?

the pathway to hell is paved with good intentions... and B&E, apparently

Fck that's a yandere

agreed

Literally ex yandere gf.

Sound like what happened to a friend's roommate. The dude in question had done the gal a bit of help. She got it into her mind that he was her boyfriend. She got into their apartment by claiming that to the building maintenance person. She had been following him for months. And the dude was NOT the first one she thought that she was his due to him being kind to her.

I wouldn’t care I just survived cancer after all

Why is everyone making this guy out to be the worst. Like think logically his nephew was on his friggin death bed. Are you literally going to tell me that you wouldn't do the same for your nephew. Plus financially you have to think like him if nothing else was going to be gorgeous enough to sell. I mean I'm pretty sure he would have sold his blood but it didn't come to him as it wouldn't come to you to do that if you were in his position.

@@officialbrucewayne Bruce Wayne supporting the theft of other people's property to buy chairs? Hmmmm sounds a bit Jokery to me.

@@officialbrucewayne Yes. I'm telling you I'd very much rather sell my sole entertainment instead of selling something that potentially will become a momento to someone I care for. But than again I live somewhere where minimum wage actually allows for basic comfort, so I wouldnt have to do either.

@@Scarleto Bruce Wayne inherited a fortune and was able to maintain it to at least the same level as he got it. That in a city notorious for corruption. Sorry, but I doubt Batman gets the mayority of his income trough completely legal means.

think it has to do with the whole '14 year old white girl' thing. We have sort of a 'state of mind' that we can see girls be where they can be lovesick and absolutely delusional(e.g. faking mental illnesses and shit) and still understand where they're coming from, and still humanize them, but reverse the roles and it is much more unlikely for a 14 y.o. boy to fake/trick themselves into thinking they have a mental illness on tiktok. The whole 'girls being more mature and defending boys in a 'masculine' way' state of mind is also sort of not written into our code so when we try to categorize a girl who's stalking someone and try to categorize a boy who's stalking someone it confuses us and we end up with this. (just a theory. I'm no psychologist and am also a 14 year old girl, albeit of color, so don't take me too seriously lmao)

@@nebula_unauthorized3093 I think it's something that people should look into. I'm all for equality. Twitch thots can get away from way more things than male streamers, probably because the twitch moderators are afraid of getting accused of being sexist or something.

@@spoon4956 huh, really? I'm not on twitch so I wouldn't know. Well that's dumb. As for your other statement, yeah, it's really been written into us at this point, though luckily it doesn't seem to apply(as heavily) when we get to know people, cause most people seem to tend to make an exception out of stereotypes when they get to know a person, so there's that I guess. Hey, maybe humanizing people who are strangers on the internet will help? Normalize humanizing people! /lh hj for the last bit

The word you search is sexism. They ask for equality The truth is they have more rights than us and they get milder (POSSIBLE) punishments. The fucking simps most call society will call me a madman, even though they know it's true. Also the genders get different treatments when they are an LGBTQ+ Society is disgusting The internet is disgusting Twitch and Discord are full of simps and stalkers.

my bet is her husband died because of her abuse,atleast partially part/reason of the death...

Her parents should go nuclear on her. Imagine if OP was alone, and daughter walked into a 12-gauge shotgun blast. Or OP has been an assault victim and freaks. More over, you need a police report to file a restraining order. You don't have to file charges. Parents should be worried about counselling and not criminal issues at this point. Since if daughter is crazy enough to break into a house to give cake to a former boyfriend which has already told her to leave him alone... she's going to get herself killed in a few years.

Sadly I was stalked in high school. everyone including the cops told me I was full of crap and wouldn't let me file for restraining order. She finally stopped when they arrested her for breaking into my house, judge stilled called me full of crap and denied restraining order. I guess she just found someone else to harass.

@@megatroll2590 restraining orders are virtually worthless. Sadly, a majority of the time, they’re just viewed as pieces of paper and if the stalked is dedicated enough, they won’t care. That said, I’m sorry you were treated so poorly by the judicial system. At least it seems she’s moved on, but if she comes back, record and document everything. The more evidence you have, the better your case would be, and seek out lawyers that take stalking seriously. They’re out there, but sadly they’re not very common. :/ here’s hoping she never comes back though

I think the girl needs a talking to rather than police involvement. She’s only 16 and been fed a steady diet of the lies of romance movies. If the behavior continues after being talked to then get the police involved

@@Darrylizer1 I agree the problem is that he didn't actually cut their relationship since it wasn't even because on their couple.

Literally

Yes being a house wife is a job but that’s expected of her tho for an even exchange of him going to work and providing for them with the things they need/want (things like water, food electricity, paying the mortgage etc etc.).Which is expected of him however no where in her story did she say she doesn’t share in his income. she more likely than not left it out to make herself look better in the story. Because more likely than not he’s paying for things like Christmas gifts/decorations, Halloween decorations/costumes, Valentine’s Day gifts, anniversary gifts, random acts of kindness some examples include buying flowers, chocolates, paying to have her hair or nails done etc etc. so I don’t think it’s unreasonable for him to ask her to use that money for things on both of them.I would have understood if the husband was trying to be selfish with it asking her to buy him things like a gaming console/ set up or anything else that only involves him. But no he’s asking to go on trips with her & possibly their kids and make improvements/ fixes to the house they all live in he wasn’t being selfish at all

@@G59escobar even if this is true, if he didn't contribute to the mother's health/hospice care, he doesn't get a say in how the inheritance is used/spent/sold, the wife and brother do.

@@TheVampireAzriel I said “I don’t think it’s unreasonable for him to ask her to use that money on things for both of them” with heavy implications on the asking part. He should have just asked and after she said no that should have been the end of it. I’m not saying that he should have the final say on it I’m saying it’s not unreasonable for him to have asked her about it. However what was unreasonable is him bringing his sister into it and him being upset because he doesn’t have a say in it.

@@G59escobar it's early for me, I misread. 😜

I think a cancer patient happiness is more important than a old tea set she probably will never use

@@youllknowme2079 its not about cancer it is about consent!

@@goldchild100 consent to what extent? They're both assholes for the same reason, they just had different motives. Because consent is a two way street

@@asimplethievingbat5978 exactly!

@@asimplethievingbat5978 if the decision ended with consent for the tea set, but not the Xbox only one asshole. If it was for the Xbox and not the tea set, one asshole. Full consent for both, no one sucks. Simple as that

Ohhh, man... that just touch my feelings... Yes they should had talked to you, maybe it wasn't only guilt, shame was mixed too, when you as a parent can't keep your family well feed 😢

@@Sasael Sadly it was literally almost losing the family home for a scammer. My grandmother legally owned the house and had early onset Dementia and some crummy excuse of a human being came very close to legally stealing the deed of the property out from underneath our family. They wanted a large sum of money, 30,000 USD, or would go through with it and take the house. Not many people have that amount just lying around and panicking my father saw the antique tea set. He got it valued little over that amount and sold the set and bought the deed back from this awful person. I honestly wrote this crying it still brings up a lot of memories and emotions.

@@fishlady7930 oof, that's painful. How do you tell your baby that grandma made a mistake and now mean people are trying to take the house? As much as it hurt, he probably thought it would be better to blame himself than your grandmother.

@@DarcOne13 That is his mother as well, my father never once had a anything negative against her in his life, which is rare. He made her a promise after my grandfather passed that she wouldn't die alone. Losing her memories he would pretend to be his father and dance every night with her to their wedding song. When her health was going down he would sleep in a chair by her bedside holding her hand. He did that for 4 months until she passed away in her sleep at 96. That said he had his moments of not being the best father and has burned the bridge but peice by peace maybe one day we can meet in the middle.

@@fishlady7930 Lady, you are making me cry. Your story is sad and beautiful at the same time.

Also is nobody gonna talk about the fact that this crazy LADY most likely has HER OWN PERIODS?? And has to dispose HER OWN PADS/TAMPONS??? This woman is freaking stupid and it makes me angry

Abuse and neglect of the poor girl!!! Also yeah the pads are not offensive or anything!!! Get a better bin or get her, her own bin with a lid, I’d understand if it was like used pads left for weeks on the floor or some dirty things but yikes forever

Rslash is inconsistent af. That wife was fighting for the wrong side and he gave her 0/5. Meanwhile usually in these situations he gives 2/5 for not standing with the kid and such

@@waltgrisly509 The kid did their best, THEY COVERED THE THING IN TISSUES FOR GOD SAKE! How is it their fault for a natural occurance?

my thought on this one was 6 days was too long.. the moment you stop my kid from access to somewhere like a bathroom in a one bathroom house YOU'RE GONE no questions asked and her kids like he said not their problem1 my kid is my responisibility and your kids aren't mine1

Agreed. I didn't need the celebrity doll at all. The boy's reaction was all I needed. Although I do think her brother along with his ex-girlfriend are making bad decisions. The ex-girlfriend for obvious reasons, the brother for not accepting counseling.

@@nicolelawrence7722 you can’t force someone to be ready to talk through something

@@nicolelawrence7722 It takes time 🤦🏻‍♀️

They're both as bad as one another. The husband wasn't right to sell the tea set but it still doesn't make the wife right for selling the x box. In the words of Gandhi an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind. Got to wonder why they are even married going by that story.

@@benmac940 thank you! This completely encapsulates my thoughts on this story

@@benmac940 Exactly. What she should have done, if she wasn't ready to let it slide (and the guy really was an ahole about it and didn't even see what he did wrong, so it would be totally understandable to not go easy on him), is setting him an ultimatum: Pay the money to buy the teaset back or she'll press charges for theft (and if he doesn't take that serious, actually press charges and offer to drop them if he gets the teaset back). Let him struggle to get the money and if he needs to sell his x-box to do it, let him decide that for himself, but don't react to a crime by committing another crime.

@@chrisrudolf9839 you can't press charges against someone you know in some states/countries. I know because i had room mates steal from me. The cops said i shouldn't have told them who i thought stole it because now they can't investigate (this was in Colorado) but the cops in Colorado suck. They also wouldn't help my husband when he was 20 and his parents wouldn't let him leave. They said as long as he stayed, he wasn't in danger so they refused to even send a car. Keep in mind, his father had a gun and said he would kill him if he tried to move out. Cops said that was fine: just don't move out.

the only problem I have with what op did was selling that thing for only $400, most consoles are worth $500. There's also the possibility that the games were digital, making the console worth even more.

I think both of them are being assholes, yes he shouldn't have sold the tea set, she shouldn't have retaliated selling the Xbox and the buyer unchanging for what was essentially stolen goods is also an asshole.

@@breadstix- And the fact that if the account had not been deleted properly off the xbox, the buyer could access the credit card that OP's husband was using. Cuz if he would buy digital games, he'd have to use a credit card and thinking nothing would happen to his xbox he could've saved it onto the info without the need to ask for verification.

And also I’m not saying it’s wrong but he did offer to pay her back and get a better one and yes I get that but she sold it then proceeded to not say if she deleted the account making them prone to scams and debit and also her husband agreed to pay it back so she could’ve been smarter by selling it for more and also notice how she doesn’t pay him back like honestly this kid he got the chair for had just had cancer and she sells his x box and doesn’t even say she’ll pay for a better new one like her husband said? Seems like she’s a bit of a brain dead person here

@@Aname_the I think you're missing the point that he stole, STOLE, a beloved family heirloom. And better? Are you kidding me? He probably would have gotten her some shoddy tea set made in a sweatshop for as cheap as possible. And it wouldn't have any of the history of personal significance that the old one obviously has. Okay, so the kid beat cancer, he deserves a pick me up. But does that really have to come at HR expense? The SO couldn't save up for it himself? He couldn't sell one of *his* items to buy the kid something? As for selling the XBOX, while it's not cool it's not nearly as bad as SELLING A CHERISHED FAMILY HEIRLOOM THA YOU STOLE FROM YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER. It's an XBOX! They're literally mass produced! Could she have sold it for more and given her SO the remainder, possibly. But this was a _used_ console. They won't sell for the same price as new. And if she sold it directly to the guy she was buying her tea set back from that guy obviously isn't going to buy it for top dollar, he has to sell it and make a profit! Lastly, OP was just returning her SOs energy. He stole something irreplaceable and 'promised' to replace it. If your SO is willing to steal something that important to you... They don't care about you and they don't respect you. So there's no guarantee he would have actually replaced it at all. Here's hoping OP broke up with them.

didn't expect that line. like a punch to the liver. ouch

@@bonda_racing3579 don't get your liver punched in the US that shits expensive

Agreed 100% I was glad to see someone addressing it correctly too.

So that applies to the wife too, right? Any funds or assets she has belongs to the household

@@DrakeNAllen Of course, that’s entirely the point. I’ve been the breadwinner before, and I didn’t count our money as solely mine. In this post, the man is claiming the income as solely his (and has been doing so for a long time, presumably), so I can’t blame the woman for doing the same with the inheritance. Whatever the genders involved, the principle is the same.

@@gillianc8106 right. That was my thoughts too, that Everyone Sucks in the situation. But rslash called the husband out, but not the wife for doing the exact same thing

@@DrakeNAllen Yea because he is the a/hole, the husband is literally financially abusing his wife, so why should she give up her inheritance to keep him satisfied when clearly the money he earns, according to him is his, and not shared? She needs to protect herself.

how long until she decided 'the sister is controlling and abusive, I must rescue him from her!'

A hit from reality that's what she needs

@@Lucky-Nick123 I'm sure the charges will fix that right up. She needs to know when things are plain excessive and she didn't respect the brother's wishes. I get she wants to make him mentally happy, but how she went about it is bad for 2 reasons: 1) she crossed several lines which affected his mental health and sanity, which meant she did more harm than help and 2) though not violent, she created a situation where the brother's physical health is put into play by breaking into the home. The girl needs a wake-up call and fast.

@@johngennaria7081 She needs to go to a community service lessons for sure and her parents need to go to parenting lessons cause they are irresponsible

@@Lucky-Nick123 agree on both. Community service likely will be if she gets off easy, but something has to happen with the judge on that fronts since the gal did commit a major offense.

"The road to hell is paved with good intentions"

*100%*

"oh she's young and young people do wrong things, it's normal" It's normal to fuck up as a young person, BUT IT'S NOT NORMAL TO COMMIT A CRIME, BULLY, STEAL, STALK etc The amount of bullshit I've seen people making excuses using the age card is just not ok I'm 15, my friends are between 14 and 16 Most of them are mentally unstable or mentally ill I'm a minor, i have friends who are minors, i had friends who are minors, i met a lot of young people, because I'm a young woman So I know what I'm talking about when I say that some things are excusable for minors, some things are not, even if they are mentally unstable She's not even a kid anymore, she's 16, she can drive Imagine having a family member hit by a 16 year old and hearing "she's just a child!" This is result of bad parenting and/or mental illness and/or lack of punishment for the girl's actions

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That's an excellent analogy, she should tell him pay me the salary I've accrued over the last 4 years and then we'll talk about splitting my tip money, until then, piss off.

Maybe you can mention the toilet seat to your sister. I've been guilty of this as well, we never lift up the toilet seat as women so she may not realize she's leaving spots or drip.

Ikr, it would be a problem if the daughter left them exposed/didnt discarded them properly because it is indeed a bummer to see that, but she doesnt. It would be so easier to just explain to the kids what is happening, just the basic like "oh sweety its something that happens with girls when they get older", does she planned in never telling her children that periods exists?

"15 I think" this is how I know you're being forreal. I'm 16 and only remember my big sister's age because she's a year older. My little sister tho I have no fuckin clue

Because the “Uncontrollable Bleeding of the Female Body is Scary AAAAH” But seriously, it’s ridiculous.

@@sa4ru328 I have a friend who would just leave her used pads upside down in my trash can. I had to ask her to please roll them up because it was nasty. Especially in someone else's home. We're over 30...

Makes sense those two were so insane

Romeo’s age is anywhere between 16 and 21. Which makes it worse

The original poem, which the play was based off of, set Juliet at 16. Romeo was slightly older. For some reason Shakespeare shaved three years off of her age.

@@Jennifer_MB that's pretty sus ngl. Even though such a relationship wouldn't be too strange for the time period, it's still rather weird that he made such a deliberate change which ultimately didn't affect the story, just made it weirder. I remember reading a book in my native language literature class, and it was about a teenage girl who is married to a wealthy 38yo merchant at age 17. That's very much intentional, as one of the points of the book is to criticize such relationships, which were still somewhat common during that time. But, Romeo and Juliet makes no such effort, making me wonder what the point was.

Juliet just turned 14, and I believe Romeo was 23…. Ew

Good thoughts but people don’t think like that

@@gamestertime598 I would love that to be true. Sadly, I've seen it too many times now. ☹️

@@gamestertime598 You'd like to think so.... but no, it's still around. Not as overt as say.... back in the 1930s, but that kind of misogyny is still around in more subtle ways

Yeah unfortunately I witnesses this first hand with my parents. At first it was all ok they shared their money, but when my mum had us kids she didn't work and even sacrificed a full time job that would've paid very well. But she instead became a SAHM and raised us three kids, as my father was never there he even was absent from my birthday a couple times because he had something else planned. So eventually things became pretty bad between my parents fighting every day and sleeping separately. During this time my dad planned to move with us all to Australia (We lived in Germany). So for 2 years he organised everything to move to Australia. My mom agreed because she thought this might fix their relationship as it was my dad's dream to move there. So anyways we all moved to Australia except my sister she was 18 and wanted to study in germany. Well in Australia my dad bought a hotel and got loans from our family members to finance the initial investment. One of the people he got quite a big loan from was my grandpa (Motherly side). This will be relevant later in the story. So as you might already guess the relationship between my parents didn't get better, in fact it got much worse. So you see as my dad bought the hotel he was the boss and did the financial stuff and sometimes the reception, so his day started at 8am and ended at the latest at 9pm. My mum managed the reception and also managed housekeeping was the cook for the restaurant for 2 years and did the gardening on a 1.7 hectare property, so mum days started at 5.30am to start preparing for breakfast for 7.30am had to open the reception at 7am, at 9.30am closed the restaurant for breakfast and had to do the reception and organise housekeeping for the next day till 2pm, at 4pm she had to prepare for the dinner service and finish her day at 22pm while earning 35 p.a. While my dad earns "less" but doesn't buy anything out of his own pocket but let's the company pay for everything he wants, on the other hand my mum wasn't even allowed to buy a singular phone as hers was pretty much a broken 6 year old phone barely working. So now to put the cherry on the cream my dad has told my mother a few years ago that he had planned everything from the beginning. His plan was simply to get to Australia, so he had to do it with the family as it would've been way harder if he did it alone as he was close to 60. So the other benefit he had by this is that if you divorce in Australia you would get 50% of the other person including inheritance which my mum had become as her parents sadly passed away. So with him earning "less" than my mum he would get more money from her plus 50% of her inheritance while he has to pay nothing extra as the hotel is bought by his company meaning "not actually his" per say. And that was his plan that way he would have gotten the loan he got from my mum's dad for free. The loan he got from his dad he will just not pay back as he knows his dad won't take any action. Meaning he would've moved and financed his lifestyle in Australia for basically free. So as you can see this is what happens when your significant other controls you financially. Oh did I mention when I was 2 years old my dad beat me blue and and purple because wouldn't stop crying because I was hungry. So yeah my mum dad is sociopathic manipulative asshole.

They’ll probably end up divorced because they’re not on the same page about money. He is definitely trying to control her. I hope she tells her husband to F right off.

@@philipritter9367 OMG did your dads plan work? What a horrible person.

@@fourfurrypotatoes no it's still ongoing they're not divorced yet but the legal part had changed since my mum moved with me back to Germany and the situation is a bit different

If you are pooling the household money then how can anyone be short on money yet the other person have money? The household account should have money, shouldn't it? I don't understand that. One account doesn't have two different people.

Yeah I was gonna say, he had a dumb take about the fairness of the buyer essentially holding their stolen item at ransom. The owner of the item didnt consent to the selling of the item.

The story says the boys are 13 and 16. More than old enough to know about periods and just deal with them.

This is how we get boys that think people with periods can control when they have them or even worse LAY EGGS. (Yes, some boys think women lay eggs once a month????) Seriously. This is a natural thing that most everyone in a relationship will have to deal with. Teach them young and teach them to be respectful. It isn't a dirty thing.

It is no guarantee she still get periods though

@@Ikajo doesn't matter if SIL still gets periods or not. She needs to respect the daughter and the fact that SIL is a GUEST in her home. The daughter was polite enough to wrap the pads in toilet paper so unless her male cousins go snooping in the trash can for her used pads, how the hell would they even know it's there? Sounds like SIL went digging in the trash to find wrapped up pads in the trash bin. She's gross and entitled!

@@moonspider55 we need better education. We talk about how women's eggs are release monthly but not how or why.

Yep.

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So true

I like that he called her childish as he whines over xbox.

@@MsSteelLizard Yeah, hypocrite much?

Yeah, he is being a real hypocrite. The tea set is something she inherited from her grandmother, and it is ANTIQUE. It is FAR EASIER to replace and Xbox (they are literally EVERYWHERE on the internet and in game shops), but oh noes, she is the monster for selling his gaming console. Reap what you sow, indeed.

Eh still an ESH

@@TheDarkswordswoman Yeah, antiques are incredibly rare and cannot be found anywhere else, and selling it was a bad move. Why the hell is the husband upset that OP sold his Xbox, which can be bought pretty much anywhere? Online, game stores, etc. Plus, he sold it without OP's consent, so he reaped what he sow.

LMAOOO

You know your country is looked down upon when that is the general consensus amongst ALL developed nations, and even some that still have the title of "3rd world" 😂 I compare America to that stereotypical bumpkin from the 90s movies, lives in a dusty old town pumping gas and talking about how DECADES ago he was the star of the high school football team, relives his games every chance he gets, but never became anything past the school bully and football captain, yet still thinks they are the best, cuz at one time decades prior, someone told them they were.

expenses are low? Must be either swedish or canadian

I mean, yeah our healthcare isn't accessible to everyone which is really bad, but the quality is a whole lot higher than nations with free healthcare...

@@juju66792 I mean, does the high quality really matters if barely anyone can get that treatment in the first place? We may not have the best of the best here, but we sure as hell don't die because we can’t afford to call a goddamn ambulance.

I believe that surprises like that can be a good thing, when organized correctly. If she had legit given him space and been there for him and let him grieve a d grieved with him instead of being an AH and then talked with his older sibling and their spouse about setting something cute like that up it would have been totally acceptable. But this chick crazy.

Holy crap you're right.

@@raydav2141 I absolutely agree with "I believe that surprises like that can be a good thing, when organized correctly." However, too often, for the sake of brevity, RomComs and teen books skip that crucial step.

Yep. I blame books like Twilight

Unintentional pun? 👀 I love it

I see what you did there

Bloody good pun 👏

I agree 💯 I was 15 when I went through my first breakup and I did NOT handle it well. And I kept up the habit of following my ex around campus for about a month or so afterwards. And I won't lie, I was acting really weird in several different ways because, again, it was my first breakup and I didn't know how to cope. I didn't know what I was supposed to do or how to feel. My ex was harsh with me about it after a month had passed. But it got me off his back for a few months until the dust had settled and then we talked it out. I felt awful for the way I acted but he wasn't mad at me cause he knew I was hurting and that I do have some issues. We kept our distance after that but remained on friendly terms and we still are to this day

Exactly. Antique dealers, and any business that buys used things must legally return it for the amount they bought it for, if it is revealed the item was stolen. Which is why many antique dealers and shops often ask where you got the item, and if it is yours, or a friends or family member's item.

@@tsubakiofmelancholy6297 well,that need police statements and/or court order...

Preach

I thought juliet was 12

I thought Romeo was 17

It also took place a REALLY long time ago, so it was a little more normal back then.

I thought both was 16 or so

My child is yet a stranger in the world; She hath not seen the change of fourteen years. (1,2.) Juliet's father when he first refuses to marry her off to Paris at the beginning of the play. She was young and so VERY dumb.

no. at least it wasnt the husband who said that. the SIL is definitely guilt tripping OP here. but i think the husband is not pissed because of the money, he is pissed about the way OP handled it. its not the husband's obligation to help her mother's medical bills, but its not like he was asking her to use the money on him, he suggested her to use the money on the household (which includes him, OP, and their child(ren))

@@Kitsunegami of he's the only one working the money is both him and OP's. That's how marriage works

Some real ''how do you do, fellow kids'' energy.

I honest to god thought he was going to say “kinda sus”

the d r i p

IM CRYING RN- PLEASE-

I mean he is a dad now so that checks out 🤣

Yeah, while I'm on OPs side, I'd say two wrongs don't make a right.

Agreed. Glad OP got the tea set back and her husband is an idiot. “I’ll buy you a better set” yeah right. He doesn’t seem to comprehend that the tea set had sentimental value to OP. Also, if you’re going through financial troubles, spending $300 on a gaming chair that’s not even for you is irresponsible. As much as I understand OP’s actions, it’s never okay to sell someone else’s things, even if they’ve done the same to you.

She's very clearly unhinged and obsessive, she needs actual therapy because she's gone beyond sitting down and talking about boundaries

@@RiveroftheWither Too true. It's sad that a lot of people make the grieving process about them. 🙄

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@@iamtheonewhotalksbutyoucan5781 God dang it

@@goober_gamer2024 r/TIFU :p

@@rashef Yeah :(

"given the fact that they live with their mother AND their aunt" Not aunt but uncle!

It's not "kid to Yung to see" it's :he has phobia" Let's not blame the son for his mom's actions here or call him imature for a phobia. Phobias are real things.

what rslash made was a strawman argument.

@@ArunShankartheRealOne using hyperbole is not the same. A straw man argument is dodging the subject matter completely and ignoring the main subject matter, which is not the case at all. If your looking to try and use uncommon phrases to make yourself look better, I suggest trying R/IAmVerySmart.

Ya totally. He started it. Stole something and then doesn't like the outcome?