r/Offmychest My Wife is an Insane Stalker 

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That's my sign to quit smoking. That scared the crap out of me. If I can quit opiates, I can quit nicotine.

His daughter is almost 3?? Man... It feels like only yesterday that I heard the news that he was gonna be a dad. Time sure flies ._.

Cried at the last story. He has cancer and he’s not upset about that, he’s upset about scaring his baby 😭😭💔💔 that’s love, 100% 😭 what an amazing father

I feel awful for that last guy. I hope he gets nothing but love from his kid the rest of their lives.. feeling like a monster is so terrifying and isolating.

13:43 to all the smokers out there.. its not too late to quit

After listening to the last story I feel the need to share mine. I quit smoking over a year ago (more specific on January 1st 2023 at 6:20 pm). I smoked a whole pack of red Marlboro or Lucky Strike a day for almost 4 years. Quitting was hard, and honestly, recently I’ve been so stressed out that I’ve been thinking of smoking again. Addiction is something to not mess around with, is something you battle every day after you quit. If you are planning on quitting smoking, you can do it. The best day to quit was yesterday, but is never to late people. Stay strong!!

3:37 when he said "hold on" I thought he was going to go check for too much curve....

Last story: That was a very sad and heartbreaking story. I’m glad that his wife and son don’t look at him differently.

*First OP:* When rSlash did the math on the number of pen15s OP saw, part of me thought he was going to say, "OP saw 25 pen15s a day. So, about the same amount as your mom." I'm a horrible person. *Second OP:* Shoutout to OP's friend for making OP double check who owned the phone. I hope the divorce will be painful for OP's stbx. *Third OP:* OP needs to run, and take his daughter with him. WTAF?! *Fourth OP:* Despite everything, I'm glad OP has a wife and son who love him no matter what. Best of luck to everyone. And please don't smoke.

My husband lost two fingers at work, and we were initially scared of how our kids would react. At first, he had a big bandage wrapped around his hand, so it was easy to say that Daddy had a big owie and we had to be careful around it. When the bandage came off, they were fascinated with the stubs. That lasted about a week. Now, it's just how Daddy is.

Last story: As unlucky as OP is, he’s also very lucky that his child is so young. The child will grow up with Dad looking the way he does, that’s a lot easier for his child to understand. But I agree wholeheartedly with OP’s message. Please, if you smoke or vape. Please take a minute and consider your future, not just the future of those around you.

Dude that last story with the guy losing his jaw got to me. I'm glad OP's son took it so well. Kids really are amazing.

It's so weird that Dabneys kid is almost 3 Happy birthday to her!!

For that last story, reconstruction surgery for that type of removal looks pretty good after a few months. Heck its definitely noticeable but even without it, after healing looks fine. Laryngeal recustrution is an option to talk about as well. You definitely dont look like a monster.

Story 2: The friend is a real MVP for helping OP find out about the affair. Question is, considering that OP writes that the husband never truly cared about her and has been building a relationship with his mistress, why did he marry OP in the first place?

For the last guy, I was thinking to myself, "you'd be surprised how much kids can look past, especially if they love you so much" I'm so sorry he had to go through that, and I'm glad his son still seems to love him. It's just going to be an adjustment for his kiddo. Lots of love and a lesson learned

To the last story I’ll say this, if I had to choose between seeing my dad without his jaw and losing him to cancer I’d pick the former

This video the smoking story really spoke to me, yesterday i went a whole 5 hour shift without hitting my vape once, i have already refused to buy another one well over a month ago, but I am quitting. I'm 20 years old, its been almost 4 years of me being addicted, I'm done with not having control over MY life. I dont want a substance to control me. Good luck to everyone else out there, i believe in you ❤

Im disabled and have hand and arm impairments with lots of surgery scars on my hands, arms, abdomen, chest and neck. In a way im glad im having my son now so he grows up learning everybody is different and to look past whats on the outside and focus on the persons character and heart. Im glad my nephew and nieces grew up with me being disabled too. I remember how scared my younger cousins were of me whenever i was very sick in the hospital with tubers and wires all around me.

I was literally smoking a cigarette as I Iistened to the last story and had to stomp my cigarette out cause oh, my god 😶 that's the PSA everyone needs to hear

Story 3: Yeah, I seriously don't know what lead to Bailey obsession with being OP's ex. I'm familiar with quite a few mentalities and excuses, but not this. The best I can think of is jealousy, like Bailey thinks the ex is better than her and wants to copy her in every aspect to…feel better? I'd say some therapy is needed, because wanting to basically become a clone of another person is not okay

Last story: I know what that guy went through. My uncle on my dad's side had to have something similar. Half his jaw was missing due to chewing. But he had the money and to cover the missing chunk he managed to get metal that was skin safe and basically made a terminator like mask to 'fix' his jaw. If they have the money, maybe they can do something similar. Then the son can go to school and say how cool his dad is.

Bailey's excuse to follow/stalk OP's ex is because she IS super creepy. She's trying to BE the ex, like that character in "The Roommate", where she's stealing the protagonist's looks, her friends, her love and THEN the ex's life! I remembered watching CypherDen's video, where she was being creeped out by "Rose", who stalked her on almost EVERY socials that Cypher has, then stares at her with the creepiest smile, suggests to their group that they should go to Cypher's home, then wants to hug her during the animation presentation at the animation college. If THAT'S not super creepy, I dunno WHAT is!

The last story is *_heartbreaking!_* 😭😭😭 Good luck, OP💐✨️💐✨️💐 Happy B-day, Rslash's daughter!🎂💖🎂💖🎂

Story 2: ah, of course the cheater is panicking and trying very hard to salvage his marriage now... he probably even thinks OP is cheating on him, because cheaters love to project. My favorite cheater story so far was about this guy who, upon finding out about his wife's affair, started faking an affair of his own: returning home late, becoming distant, pretending to be on the phone all the time and being protective of it... this caused the wife to spiral out of control and obsess about him. He then pretended that things were returning to normal, only to later dump and ghost her, leaving only the divorce papers and the lawyer's contact behind, and sending evidence of the affair to everyone they knew.

Oh man. That’s the best anti-smoking campaign I’ve ever seen.

A very appropriate sponsor for this story lol

I wish that last guy the best of luck. I wish showing this to my mom would help her quit, but it wouldn't.

the last story is so rough. I'm glad his kid wasn't nearly as upset as his dad thought. I remember my dad nearly loosing his vision when I was younger and at the time it felt a lot like they might've just taken his eye if it was bad enough. I kept imagining that happening to my dad and how scared i was when they rolled him out to my mom and I. It's not nearly as severe and I can't imagine how utterly terrifying and helpless he must've felt nor how his kid must've felt But i'm glad to have my dad in any state so long as he's still truckin along in his optimistic and sweet way. I hope that guy's doing ok, surgeries like that are pretty rough.

that last story HURTS. I'm sending it to my bf whos been addicted since he was a kid and is trying to quit, i hope it motivates him to keep trying

Glad I never started smoking. And I never will

It’s hilarious to think my ex was standing butt naked in prison

the pen15 one reminded me of an old, old joke: there's a male nurse taking care of a guy, and as he's giving him his sponge bath he can't help but notice that his, ahem, part has the word "Wendy" tattooed on it. He's too shy to ask, so he asks another nurse, a very pretty and outgoing woman, to check in with the patient. A few minutes later she comes out of the patient's room and says: "the tattoo doesn't say 'Wendy,' it says 'Welcome to Jamaica, have a nice day.'"

OP said that the album was started around the time they started dating and she only started recently turning herself into the ex physically.

The Dick Story had me laughing a lot harder than it should have. Quadri-Wang and Long Dong sounds like a super villain Duo. 😂

Smoking does kill. My oldest sister has leukemia and non-Hodgkin’s Lymphoma. Prognosis was 7-10 years left to live, and that was 3 years ago.

That last story is like someone ripping your heart out of your chest and stomping on it in front of you and everybody who has ever loved you.

Cheater phone story: If OP didn’t feel anything off or untowards about her husband before she started sleuthing, that just means that her husband is very comfortable and advanced about cheating and deceiving his wife. I don’t blame her for waiting to leave, until it’s financially safe (I’m assuming) It’s so tragic that a lot of people can’t trust even after years of being together.

I feel so bad for the last OP. I can’t imagine how scary and sad this whole thing is for him. To think your child won’t love you after something like that must be gut wrenching. I hope the best for him and his family

little slash is already 3? how time has flown I remember when you announced she existed outside your wife and that seems like just yesterday

"Sounds like a 'hard' job." I had to pause the video so that I can properly crack up laughing. My cats thought that I had lost my mind! 🤣

Story 3: scenario 2 is worse. In the first case it's simply mental illness. Imposter syndrome maybe? She doesn't think she's good enough so she's trying to be your type I guess. Second scenario though doesn't come from a place of love. It would mean she's used OP for 10 years to get back at a bully or something stupid. Scenario 2 comes from hate and a disregard for the feelings of others

Yeah that's what killed my old neighbour, she couldn't even stop herself from smoking during cancer treatments for the tumor in her mouth. I think chances are even higher with that trend of chewing tabbacco people place against their gums.

Hearing you say that your daughter is turning three was a gut punch. I’ve been watching since the channel was 3 months old and haven’t missed a day

My mom died of esophageal cancer. I cried listening to that man's story, but I'm the back of my mind kept thinking: “at least you're still here to see that wholesome, adorable, absolutely loving reaction.” I was an adult when my mom passed away but my half siblings weren't so lucky. Please stop smoking.

Video starts at 1:00 have an awesome day gang

My dad suffered for seven years from cancer, starting when I was five. When I was six, they tried to explain to me what cancer was and that my dad was really, really ill, and might not have long to live anymore (he was given six months around that time. It was a losing battle but as I said, he stubbornly lived for seven more years). The cancer happened to no fault of his own and it didn't affect his face but there were several physical changes, then there was the medical treatment, daily shots given at home, surgeries... From the perspective of the child I used to be: Yes, looking at him and what cancer did to him was scary. But never because I was scared of him. But because I was scared for him. I loved my dad, I didn't want him to be sick and in pain, I didn't want him to be afraid, or to have surgery. On a side note, I've been an adult for a while and to this day, I'm glad I wasn't shielded from the disease. I knew what was going on and I understood what death was (by the time I was six, we had lost two dogs due to old age and my grandpa had drowned when I was four). Yeah, it was heard but there isn't an all-smiles-solution to a situation like this. If anything, give your children the chance to cherish your time together, as limited as it might be. And do not add deception and broken trust to the grief they'll eventually go through. Kids aren't dumb. Cancer can't be hidden, especially if it is terminal. "I can't play outside with you today because I feel sick today" is something that makes a kid sad but they'll understand. "Oh, no, I'm perfectly fine, you're imagining things, mommy/daddy is doing super well! I just don't come out and play with you because I'm too busy [as the kid hears it: have better things to do and don't want to]" will confuse and hurt the kid and they won't understand why you, despite being so healthy and being "lazy" on the couch all day, don't want to spend time with them. But back to the point: Very small children get confused or might even cry if a parent drastically changes their hair or shaves their beard. Being spooked by the physical damages from surgery is by far not as personal as it seems. If a parent is loving and caring, the child only needs to be reminded that you are, indeed, this loving and caring parent. They'll never see you as a monster, they'll just be sad for you because you aren't well. That's something you can't shield them from (and shouldn't) but it also shows your child that love can come in many different forms and sometimes, being worried or sad is one of those forms. Don't shield your kid from loving you through empathy. Love and care are so much more than smiles and rainbows, especially when the smiles are forced.

my dad used to smoke when i was a young kid. i begged him to stop, and while i don't remember exactly what i said, i'm pretty sure it was something about not wanting him to die, because we'd just had one of those "don't smoke" days at primary school that really put the fear of god into you about smoking. he stopped shortly after and hasn't smoked since. the love from a child to a parent is so so precious. i wish that last op and his family the best ♥

It’s been 5 years rslash, where’s my 10$?

Kid in the smoking story: "Dang, that sucks. But anyways, SPIDERMAN"

Granted I'm a male, but in story 2 I would have screen shotted all of the text messages, changed the password on my phone, and taken the evidence to Divorce Court (when that day came). Edit: Number 3: Take the tablet to the police, say you found something creepy and file for Divorce!

Oh that last story made me tear up, what a wonderful relationship they have

Last Story: Man…that story is HEARTBREAKING…not even 10 in the morning and i’m crying a bit…poor Op :/

I grew up with a grandfather that had been severely burned and had skin graft scars. When I was little I cared more about him hurting than the scars. They don’t bother me at all. I saw him, not the physical him with scars, but the true person. It taught me a great deal about seeing beyond the surface as I grew up. I miss him more than words. The beauty of unconditional love like that is that simple physical issues become nearly invisible.

My mum used to smoke when I was younger, I begged her to quit for years. She did quit when I was 7 years old and I couldn't be more proud of her. I'm now 20 years old and mum hasn't smoked since. That last story is incredibly sad, I wish OP all the best in the future.

Story 3 wife needs therapy now! Ultimatum: either counseling, both personal and marital, or picking up sticks. In the marital counselling, OP needs to make it abundantly clear that he loves HER, not his crazy EX. It is a gamble, but the situation may be salvageable.

That last story reminds me of my uncle. He was scheduled for that surgery but passed before he got it. That was 30+ years ago but he didn't have kids but yeah. Rough story!

Story 3. reminds me of that one episode of Gotham where Riddler's newest girlfriend dressed up as her ex to get over his trauma. Both girlfriends were played by the same actress

I lost my Dad to cancer from smoking when I was 8. I wished more than anything that he loved, even if his body had to be altered. Op is lucky because despite everything his kid still has a dad

That first story has helped me decide my next career path 😂😂😂

Cheating husband phone- I think OP’s friend knew about the affair. But didn’t want to be the Messenger. She took advantage of an excellent opportunity to hone OP on the target and let OP discover everything. And then coached her through returning the phone. The husband likely broke off the affair (I assume as he’s not going anywhere, according to OP). The friend is still an MVP, but I think she knew

Story two: I can relate to OP's feelings. After a quarter century of critical care nursing there are plenty of things I just cannot unsee, and dream about far too often. Based on conversations with my brother, who spent thirty plus years in the RCMP, this may be a problem shared by all essential service providers. "Thank you for your service," is what we hear as we retire, but even after twenty years off the job I still dream about the burn cases. I wonder if OP will be dreaming about a parade of genetalia. We definitely don't get paid enough for that.

That last story… your baby boy isn’t scared OF you. His scared FOR you. And bless your wife as well. Hope all three live a healthier and happy life together as a family

Poor Op in the last one.. Tell mini R/slash happy third birthday for us!

The post about the wife stalking the ex had an update. They talked about it, and it seems OP talked more about the ex than he thought, and she did it because she was insecure and it eventually became like a game. Don't know if it was this story, but I *think* they went to couples therapy. The update seemed promising, however, that the marriage will continue.

Last story; I'm not a smoker nor have I been one up till now (28) but after hearing this story...I don't think I want to even look at a cigarette let alone touch one. I'm sorry about everything OP. You boy sound's so precious and adorable. I hope things work out in the end.

That last story? That's what plastic surgery is for: facial reconstruction after major surgery for quality of life. Insurance will usually cover it because this isn't about being dissatisfied with how you look. It likely would be considered a medically necessary surgery because being without part of your jaw makes it hard to eat. After he finishes healing from this surgery, facial reconstruction is probably the next step. Either way, don't smoke. Honestly, I'm amazed his kid doesn't have asthma - you don't have to be around a smoker while they are smoking to be negatively impacted. Even third hand smoke - the smoke that lingers on clothes, hair, furniture, walls, etc. - can be medically devastating to those with less than great immune systems, i.e., small children.

Story2 There's no way I would have returned that phone. At least not without sending screen caps of absolutely everything on it and forwarding everything they'd sent each other to a new email he knows nothing about.

Last story The son isn't scared cuz of what he looks like...he's scared cuz it's a hospital and his dad is hurt.

The one with the stalker wife reminds me of that criminal minds episode of dr Reid’s girlfriend got stalked and harassed so bad she became a shut in. She always thought it was a man but turned out to be a woman that attended the same college and class as her but she wasn’t as smart and was jealous and became obsessed and stalked her even took her ex boyfriend but stopped harassing her when she became a shut in but only came back when she found out she was dating a doctor that was an FBI agent in criminal behavior. The ending wasn’t happy 😢

Oh my God Lily's almost 3?!?!? I feel like we've all listened to her grow up from listening to Dabney every day! She's getting to be such a big girl! 😍😍😍

Congratulations on 3 years of being a dad Dabney! Or, should i say Dadney?

This is why we don't smoke. My dad learned and so will some other people, it sucks

I don't smoke, never have, and this has convinced me never to try. I also value having teeth. My uncle used to smoke every day, and most of his teeth rotted out

Omg. That last story! 😢 I hope OP does well with his recovery and he and his fam heal and adapt well to their new reality. ❤

I saw the first two and the last one just yesterday in the newest video by The Click. lol

I lost my aunt to smoking two years ago. It was heartbreaking, I saw her only a day before she passed away. For the love of your own family, DO NOT SMOKE. All you're doing is committing slow suicide in front of your loved ones and if you force them to stay in the same rooms, you're taking them with you.

Turning into the ex: I think the wife is insecure. What has op said about his ex over the years? Maybe the wife has got it into her head that op loved the ex more than her? She needs therapy. Not necessarily abandonment.

"RSlash, off my chest." That sounds painful.

I’m glade OP is quitting smokes, I had an aunty who passed away over 10 years ago from smoking…this is nothing compared to the ads on tv n media…and the horror pics on our smoke packs (I’m Aussie), which just depicts the resulting images from smoking. I once read in a study: that every smoke takes at least 11 MINUTES OF UR LIFE SPAND!!!

I love math. Today was not the day to love math after story one...

My dad smoked from childhood. He finally stopped about a decade ago when my sister and I begged him to quit. But he was still diagnosed with lung cancer a few years later. He's lost one entire lung, limited functionality in the other, and his diaphragm stopped working because of the chemo. Don't do that to yourself for a quick minute of pleasure or relaxation; find something else to give that to you. Find a creative hobby or take up gaming, archery or hiking or something. Everyone who loves you will be grateful to have you around for a few more years.

Last story: me and my cousin convinced my grandma to stop smoking, if she didn't stop she would probably be dead, we convinced her when she was around 60, she is already over 80 and probably outlived all the people she knew that smoked, is not all good, the years of second hand smoking had an effect on one of my aunts and now she might die before my grandma, we don't know how long we have with them, every interaction I have with them is a treasure now. Remember that smoking doesn't only affect you, but you can even cause your kids, the kids you would give your life to see healthy, to die prematurely, she didn't knew better, she couldn't knew better at the time, and she stoped when she knew better, when there was more communication, when awareness about the effects of smoking was ramping up in my country, we helped her know better, she stopped for us, now people in general knows better, there is no lack of information excuse anymore, don't harm yourself, but if you don't care about yourself, don't harm your family, your friends, the people around you, they also could suffer the consequences of you smoking.

How is nicotine still legal!! Harsh drugs like opiates aren't legal. Wtf!!

that child in the last story has a heart of gold and i really truly hope he has the greatest life ever along with his father. i am so glad i never picked up smoking.

Damn this is the first time I’ve watched one of your vids and realized I’ve heard these stories before elsewhere! (Courtesy of The Click) still going to listen because of rSlash’s unique style

3rd story: i dont think the stalker is obssessed with op's ex, then the album would be dated further back id imagine

I never smoked or vaped in my life yet, and that one post has fully convinced me to never get curious.

Lily is almost 3? 🥹❤ HAPPY (early) BIRTHDAY LILY 💝

That last story is really starting to pull at my heartstrings. I can’t have kids but I do have a nephew. He’d be terrified of me if I looked like that. Maybe if I quit this time it’ll be for good.

My question is how she got candid photos and street photos of this woman in another country. Has she hired someone to follow her or what? That’s another level of crazy.

When I Was about 2 or 3, my mom was assaulted. Apparently I was so terrified of her, I had to live with one of my siblings that had moved out of the house for a month until my mom started to look normal again.

Just realized I’ve been watching rslash so long he’s gotten married and has a 3 year old, time flys man

spider man shoes that light up are pretty darn cool. they'll be ok.

I have been smoking since I was 17. I quit about 2 months ago. It's been tough and I still catch myself wanting another smoke. But that last story makes me feel really glad that I took the leap and haven't touched a cig since I stopped.

For the cheater phone story, hasn’t rslash covered this story before?? ik i’ve definitely heard this story and this is the only reddit podcast i listen to

what's funny (well, fucked up) is that the chemical delousing isn't even something they *have* to do, it can be done in a much less stressful way rather than stripping someone naked and forcing them to be gawked at while chemicals are sprayed on them. They do it this way specifically to humiliate and break down the will of the prisoners. If you think "well , they're prisoners, theu dont deserve privacy" firstly you're a terrible person, secondly look up the statistics for how many innocent people are in jail... they treat these people like subhuman on purpose. Jail is not rehabilitation, it is legal slavery and torture.

The last story made me cry becuz I imagined myself in the kids mom shoes. My husband smokes. Needless to say I am having him listen to that one and talking to him about quitting to not put either of us in those shoes later in our lives

rSlash, I love hearing about your daughter because I've been watching you for so long and I had my son around the time you had your daughter, today is his third birthday 🎂