r/Trueoffmychest "RAISE MY AFFAIR BABY!" 

“YOU MADE A VOW!!!” And so did you a-hole. You made a vow not to cheat on her. Adultery breaks one of the 10 commandments whereas honoring your husband and raising someone else’s child is not on the list.

Story 1: As soon as he raised his hand to her and demanded she "serve her husband"... yeah, time to go just from that, yet alone betraying her and having an affair.

The "she called me dad" story made me almost cry out of happiness for them

"You made a vow to me in marriage" Yes, you too, and you broke it. shows how much you care for them.

Me, a Catholic, my friend, a Jew, can site MANY biblical reasons why that Pastor is out of his damn mind. Report him to be investigated

I heard “he slapped me” and that was automatic divorce territory. If God or some other higher power does exist; that man does NOT speak for them.

The fact that the first OP barely registered being slapped by her husband as irredeemable makes me suspect she's in one of those abusive, misogynistic religious communities. Telling the congregation won't amount to much; she needs to just get out of there, cut ties with everyone, and find herself a religious trauma support group.

Also, OP in the first story came back with an update! She stayed in the relationship for two months afterwards and tried to mother the child, but couldn't get over the resentment she felt towards the baby. Actively hating an innocent child and wishing harm on it was what made OP realise that she couldn't do this anymore and she got out of the relationship.

As a Christian, no. This girl deserves so much better. This is not how servants of God acts

The idea of being not only a cheater, but also expecting someone to accept and mother the product of that affair is disgusting. That poor child, if she does take in the child, she will resent the child forever. And the father is horrendous. She needs to get away. That husband is clearly abusive.

“He was always kind to me and made me feel special” That sounds like grooming to me

Story 2: Remember the post where OP was obsessively in love with her married neighbor? Now, what if we took that story, but put it in the perspective of the wife? That's this post. Some people really trying to be a homewrecker.

Story #1: Without even listening to the rest of the story...yeah, OP, you DO need to serve your husband. Serve him with divorce papers...and ASAP! For the final story: OP, you might want to do a DNA test as well, just to be sure...

First Story: I would’ve laughed straight to his face the moment he said "we". I get OP is having a lot of emotions going on right now but the leading emotion she should have is pure rage. This man was having an affair, got her pregnant, tried to force OP into raising the kid, slapped OP, and kept using god to justify all of this. This man is insane and while I agree the kid don’t deserve anything, this guy deserves everything he gets. Divorce is an option always. Yo this sounds like a damn cult. OP needs to abandon ship and run from all of this. She is NOT obligated to take care of this child and she is NOT obligated to stay in a marriage with a guy about 15 years her senior Second Story: Well damn, OP is not taking no bs from this woman. Glad she didn’t immediately believe the lies this person told her about her husband. I honestly want to see the post the person OP is talking about made. That was honestly expected Comment: Why does some people automatically catch feelings and think they're in love with someone JUST because they were nice to them? Isn’t that a basic thing to be nice and polite? Some people are just insane Third Story: One word to describe this story: wholesome. All OP has to do now is legally adopt Hailey. Fourth Story: Wait, did OP say SHE was uncomfortable with him sleeping with another woman while she was loyal to him? Did OP already forget that he is MARRIED. The WIFE isn’t the other girl and second, OP is the other girl and the one that contributed to this affair lmao. All I know is that OP probably ruined a marriage. Not saying the guy is blameless because he is cheating on his wife but OP probably shouldn’t done some digging before she got pregnant and attached to this man Fifth Story: Amy does deserve better friends but she already started with gaining those friends with OP. OP was pissed FOR Amy because of how messed up these "friends" treated her because of what she looked like WHILE taking advantage of her. Good on OP for being a good friend Sixth Story: OP's wife is a horrible person and I can’t wait to hear the aftermath of this. I can’t wait to hear an update on how she reacts to OP giving her divorce papers and OP confronting her. Cheaters will always be considered trash in my eyes

OP1: As soon as she said "our community" I thought "cult." The husband's words and actions confirmed that, not to mention her escape plan verbiage. Divorce. Leave. Run. Seek police protection.

The bridesmaids story, I feel so bad for the sweet lady that offered her home as a venue. I hope she realizes that she deserves better and replaces those childhood friends with actual friends soon.

"You need to serve your husband" "Ok", hands divorce papers, "you've been served"

Dude the story about the guy becoming a guardian to being her dad. That story is so damn wholesome at the end. I feel bad for all the parents who passed but OP is a wholesome guy

3:32 RSlash: Blow up the church when you go . . . Me: I mean, that’s a little much don’t you think RSlash: . . . by exposing his lies Me: oh, not literally- got it 😅

1st story: Op needs to run, divorce and then go scorched earth on the pastor and his assistant. Then get herself into therapy. Like..damn....just...damn.

“this might be a bit extreme, but i think you should blow up the church as you go” this caught me off guard til i realized what he meant

Bridesmaid story: make her the maid of honour! She's more than earned it

"it seems like god gave that woman too much to handle, she died" Slay queen ... oh wait, too late.

First story: 39 year-old dating a 24 year-old: 1st red flag. Affair: 2nd red flag. Getting rid of her office to make a nursery: 3rd red flag. Hit her: 4th red flag. No way is this guy going to "take turns" caring for the baby either. She needs to run. Exposing his predatory ways would be a bonus, but getting out should be her focus.

I think this subreddit may be my new favourite. R Slash could read a gripping story then he would say 'oooo there's an update' that's my favourite part of these.

Last story: OP needs to get a paternity test for his son. There's a very high likelihood of his soon to be ex and her "friend" sleeping together before the baby was born.

Ok so I appreciate the absolute wholesome stories after the horrible ones. I am legit wiping away happy tears after the third story. I love stories about awesome big brothers makes me want to hug my own awesome big bro.

Story 02: There’s actually another update and turns out that the coworker is seriously mentally ill and has a history of obsessing over men due to a traumatic incident that OP would not say. She’s usually medicated for it but was off her meds when she started stalking OP’s husband. OP alerted her family and they’ve gotten her committed and back on her meds so hopefully she’ll get back to a normal state. Not quite the drama we all expected but at least the ex-coworker is getting help and leaving OP and her husband alone.

Last story: you should talk to a lawyer about this. She can still get full custody and you pay child support

The guy who took over as dad of his half sister, what a great guy made me tear up a bit

Can we appreciate OP in the second story trusting her husband and defending him against his harasser?

Story 1 had a full update: Yeah sorry rslash, there is no 'exposing' cheating husband and pastor, this is a good ol' boys town, everyone knows and everyone is "not happy" with OP's husband but is demanding she forgive him, even OP's mom and brother. That being said, OP went off the deep end a bit, she had a major disassociation episode where she didn't feel like anything was real, and admits when she looked at her husband's affair baby she would resent it to the point she thought about ... well, doing harm to him. OP's husband picked up on it, though, and took on 100% of the childcare, moreso because he doesn't trust OP anymore (ironic, isn't it?). Finally, OP is better and she left in the middle of the night while husband was at bible study, changed her phone number, and took all her money with her. She left divorce papers underneath cheater's pillow and called it a Tooth Fairy gift for a-holes.

1st story: GIRL RUN. He cheated on you, hit you, RUN. You don’t need to raise his mistress baby wtf I’m screaming. Just finishing that story and I completely agree tel the whole church.

Story 1: Yeah husband, God blessed you with a child, but SOMEONE ELSE blessed you with the child, NOT OP. Dude, OP'S husband made a vow during marriage that he would not cheat, but breaks the promise and has an affair with a community member? Who really the bad guy here huh? Yeah, serve him, serve him with f*cking divorce papers.

R/SLASH, the story of the wife and co-worker, there was an update.. The co-workers neice saw the post and told her that this is a pattern, she does it all the time.. The neice showed the family the post, reached out to OP and got the ex-employee into inpatient mental health..

When a grown boy cheats on his wife and demands her to take care of his affair child HELL NO!! Throw the whole husband away!

That first story... The minute he hits you, you LEAVE. They only hit once and then that relationship ends. Do not stay with this man, or you will have a lifetime of abuse ahead of you because it will not stop at that one slap.

First story: yes he can have the nursery for the baby. In fact he can have the whole house for the baby because she shouldn't live there anymore. He will be lucky as hell if she doesn't wise up and press assault charges.

Story 1: RUN!! Leave everything behind except a suitcase, and cash. Go to a police station in another area to the one the church is in. Report the abuse, and what's happened. Then file for divorce and a restraining order. I don't think he's going to just let you go on your own. It sounds like he thinks he owns you.

Imagine if the husband in the first story lied about the mistress dying ,and there was no other twin, and instead mistress abandoned the baby. It could be made up to guilt trip her

The coworker from the second story reminds me of that post where the lady was in love with her neighbor but then babysat his kids while his wife was in the hospital and was having second thoughts cause she didn't like the kids 💀

The first story made me sick. Run girl, run. Please leave him and don't raise that baby. He hit you, he is abusive. It will get worse and he will walk all over you.

1st story: "Forgiveness is a virtue." Yeah, so is faithfulness.

"He and the baby don't deserve this" Honey, YOU don't deserve this!! Ugh, using God to guilt your wife into accepting your affair and to throw the burden of the repercussions onto her is disgusting

First story: GET OUT NOW OR BECOME A VICTIM OF ABUSE EVERY DAY.

The 1st story, he said she needed to honor her wedding vows, yet it’s okay for him to dishonor those vows & knock up another lady? & still force his wife to take care of his affair baby?? Omg the hypocrisy!!

Story 1: it's his cross to bear, not OPs. She needs to get out! Oh and take Rslash's advice too.

I'm sorry, i had to RAGE over the first story. I CANNOT stand cheaters in general as my own sperm donor is a serial cheater and a hypocrite, so the thought that OP's husband cheated on her with another woman, that woman and one of the twins died and he's basically forcing OP to take care of this affair baby... it just made me rage halfway through. OP NEEDS to get out of that relationship. That's not her child, and if her "husband" wants to take care of the surviving baby, he can do it by himself. ETA: I'm ALSO a Christian, and this made me rage even more so. What's one of the #1 important "rule" about being a Christian? DON'T BE A GOD DAMN MOTHER FUCKING HYPOCRITE!

1st story: I agree, OP should run asap. But I also feel sorry for the poor baby, it didn't deserve to lose its mum and sibling and it sure as hell didn't deserve such a "father".

Everyone needs a friend like Amy but not many of us deserve her💘

The graduation half-sibling story: I am crying tears of joy for OP. That must feel incredible having her call him "dad" and I'm so happy for them!

“You needed to serve your husband” does this man believe that women serve men or something? He said this twice and it the word “serve” gets me there.

1st story: if God forgave op's husband for the affair, God will definitely forgive op for not raising the other woman's child. Get out & expose the adulterer.

The story with the woman that was fired, sounds like a story I heard about a woman falling in love with her neighbor who was married and posted it on Reddit how she was babysitting his kids,they were awful and the guy ended up seeing it.

Story 1: The fact that he probably was never gonna tell his wife he had gotten another woman pregnant and only did it because of something so sad and unfortunate and now he had to is so sickening

The last story reminds me of a pro revenge story you read a year or two ago where the guy knew his wife was cheating with another married person (they got flack for keeping it a secret to the detriment of the other innocent spouse) so instead of separating right away and losing all of his stuff, he spent a few years lowering his incoming until it was below hers and a bunch of other steps so when he took her to court he got EVERYTHING instead of it being the other way around.

With the story about the friend who is so kind and was asked to be the bridesmaid, she’s a rare breed I recognize. She’s the type of person my Nana was. Everyone younger than her always called her that cause of grandkids like me, haha. Anyways, these people, the kindhearted ones who always place others ahead of themselves… They’re the absolute best kinds of people. So I fully understand OP’s anger at her friend being called too fat for the wedding pictures. OP, please cherish your friend. She’s a rare person and deserves to be cherished for the kindhearted angel she is.

I had to pause the video and laugh for a solid ten minutes. ‘Seems He gave your mistress more than she can handle.’ That sent me

“It seems god gave your mistress more than she can handle because she died” 😂 I love that, I’ll take my ticket to Hell idc. Divorce that guy, report his spousal abuse.

We’ve been commanded to forgive, not trust. Don’t stay with someone you don’t trust. Red flags all around.

Story 1: OP needs to leave ASAP. And yeah, she's 29, she can start over! But if she stays, that slap will be nothing more than a taste of what she'll be facing if she decides to stay with him. And get away from those people, they're all hypocrites and stupid fanatics; and as Rslash said, definitely expose the pastor and his assistant to the rest of the church. If there's one thing I've learned is that people like them wont be forgiven.

Im so glad for you Dabney that not only did you take everyones advice about taking a break but also to have some wholesome stories in your video's, i hope you continue with it.

That one about the bridesmaid reminds me of my mother. My mother is the sweetest person, I have literally watched her give the clothes off her back (it was a jacket, she wasn't publically indecent) to help someone, yet my mother is permanently disabled due to cancer along with having a disabled daughter (me). Time and time again I have seen people treat my mother as an afterthought whenever anything good happens or when my mother herself needs help, yet come to her first when they need help. It angers me so much and I wish I could do more for my mother because she is so sweet, and I know if anyone invited her to be a bridesmaid she'd automatically assume it's out of kindness rather than because they actually want her there. Heck, my mother has been asked to make clothes/jewellery for a wedding and then wasn't invited THREE TIMES. I hope Amy has a continued friendship with OP as OP also sounds like a good person. Include people in your life, guys, and not just when it's beneficial.

The post about the woman harassing the other lady's husband reminds me of the story when that woman had a thing for a neighbour "Kevin" and babysat his kids once

As someone who also was married into the church, very young, let me tell you I am now in my mid 40s and the best thing I ever did when my husband was abusive and told me to serve him when he was being ungodly was to run like the wind. I have never regretted leaving him ever. Not once he had money and affluence he was also a pastor or supposed to be in our church, I am glad every day that I am not with him. No, my life hasn’t been easy, but he has been more happy and joyful than I ever was living the life I lived with him, feeling the way I felt, trapped, alone, being spewed, lies to day after day not only from him, but from the church as well. I still believe there’s a God, but that’s not the God I believe in. I don’t believe that you should control your wife or treat her like property. You are your own person? You deserve happiness, and to be treated with love and kindness, none of which you have described in that story. This is his cross to bear not yours.

Story 1: Spouse commands obedience and slaps OP. Spouse needs to be turned into Bob-like wall decor, in the style made famous by Michael Audrey Myers.

Morning Rslash peeps!

"I don't understand why she stays with him." GIRL WHY DO YOU??? WHAT MAKES YOU THINK HE WOULDNT CHEAT ON YOU LIKE HE DID HIS WIFE

RSLASH YOU CANNOT SAY "BLOW UP THE CHURCH" OUT OF CONTEXT AND THEN PAUSE, I WAS IN SHOCK

Last story: who jumps into having an affair after having a baby!? I really don’t understand their mindset.

When OP in the first story said that the mistress got more than she could handle, since she died, I honestly laughed out loud. That sounds like something I would say haha 😅😅

It's one thing to _choose_ to raise a partner's affair child (and major props for those who do), it's another thing when you're essentially being expected/told/commanded/threatened to raise the kid. It bears repeating that if someone uses their religion as a justification for their awful behaviour, they were never a good person to begin with. _[side-eyes the Republican Party]_

Story 1: tell your husband that you won't even consider taking care of the kid until he stands in front of the congregation and confess his sins. Then ditch him

After that slap i would have been like "well god has chosen for me to find a new husband"

I feel bad for the "other woman" story. She's also a victim in the cheating. But I lost my sympathy when she choose to continue.

Story 1: *RSlash takes a week off making videos because he has been getting angry* Also RSlash: "You should blow up the Church" Me: *surprised Pikachu face*

Man, my heart breaks for the last OP, I hope he is able to get full custody of his child

Some people..... The mistress complaining that the married man he's cheating with is being unfaithful to HER by sleeping with his WIFE is the ultimate delusion. The audacity of that w___e lol

I audibly gagged when the husband in the first story, slapped OP then demanded she serve him. Sooo gross

Story 4: Oh hunny why would he leave his wife when you have such low self-esteem that you didn't leave him when you realize they're not getting a divorce? I would have some sympathy for you because you didn't know he was married but you do now and you're still sleeping with him and acting like his wife is the problem. I can tell he doesn't respect you and this is from your point of view, where you're wearing 3 Rose colored glasses on top of each other. If you have any self-worth then leave him and tell his wife the truth because she most likely doesn't even know.

Last story: How many think that his child isn’t his but the male best friends? I think when he tries to divorce her, it will come to light.

We need rSlash whole stories! The she called me dad was needed today OMG THE BRIDESMAID STORY🥺🥺🥺 I’ve been in your friend’s shoes for years. I can’t tell you how much that meant to her for you to see her heart when others could only see her body. That kind of validation is very overwhelming when you’re not used to it.

The nerve of that man in the first story to tell her she made a vow when he broke one of the commandments, did “thou shalt not commit adultery” just slip his mind that day 9 months back? The audacity.

Story 3 it’s so amazing I am so glad op’s officially her dad

That one story reminds me of how this woman was being stalked by this guy and he tried convincing the husband that he was her male mistress. Basically always doing things to make it look like they were cheating. Well the husband fell for it and One day when the guy was stalking his wife he secretly followed her as well and all three of them were in a Walmart parking lot when he unalived both the stalker and himself. Some people believe she actually was cheating but she swears she wasn't. I mostly confused why you would set up a meeting with your mistress at a Walmart of all places.

In that first story when Dabney said "Blow up the church" I was thinking "damn bro, you ok?". Then I realized "blow up" as in "raise hell" (which is ironic choice of works come to think of it), exposing drama, etc.

I think I heard that story! Someone narrated it, maybe Mark? But it's this woman who's "in love" with her coworker even tho they have literally zero contact and hes never given any indication he likes her other than being polite. So glad the wife posted! The stalker never listened to any advice trying to set her straight, she needs therapy like last week

I lol'd so loudly when she said "god gave her more then she could handle". The cajones. Hope she has the same cajones to tell him to f**k off

Bridesmaid story: that really broke my heart. I'm glad she found a better friend. I can't believe how terrible her "lifelong leeches" have been. ... Last story: I can't imagine how hard it must be to know that your partner is cheating but you can't say anything. But you're correct in saying he should think about it differently. He has to build tougher skin because of his situation. He has the opportunity to collect absolute proof. I'd have a hard time not fckn with them. Finding ways to pop up nearby, grabbing her phone for silly reasons so she acts a fool and has a heart attack every time. Lol. He can have a little torture sessions to pass the time during this year and a half.

What a rollercoaster. That pastor makes me furious. Hiding behind God to excuse his crimes and then invoking the vows HE BROKE to force op to deal with the consequences? Not to mention resorting to violence after. If there is a hell, he belongs there. That said, dadbro in the third one is an absolute treasure. Same to the bridesmaid.

The only thing that pastor is going to learn from her leaving him is that next time, as he's grooming another way younger woman, to not allow her to have a job (aka self-sufficiency) that enables her to escape

Someone who cheats should lose everything in a divorce. Period. No custody of kids, no money from shared accounts. No home value or vehicle. Cheating is one of the worst things you can do to someone you supposedly care about

I had an unfortunate breakup, and I’m now raising her on my own. Hearing dads reminiscing raising their kids tears me up every time.

The first story is divorcable offence... husband forgot to be faitful when he did hoppty hop with mistress and produced not 1 but 2 kids and he smacked his wife... good riddenance regarding staying by your UNFAITFUL AND ĀBUSIVE SPOUSE...cut the losses!!

The story where big brother is now dad made me wanna cry 🥺 that was such a nice wholesome story to add

This subreddit is wild. Happy stories, sad stories, ones that rile you up and ones that make you wicked-cackle.

Half of these stories are about adultery and the other half are really wholesome

OP needs to run. You are not obligated to raise this guy's baby. He dug his grave, he can lie in it. Period. Leave.

"He told me that I had made a vow to him in marriage . . ." Yeah & he also made a vow to you, but that didn't stop him from having an affair. Run & don't look back!

Story 1 tell the church everything. Run girl. Run.