Being a woman is hard. Our bodies go through a lot. Sometimes other women can be more harsh than men. I pray for Selena's health. I gained a lot of weight after my 2 back surgeries. I am finally trying to lose weight again for the 100th time. It's a struggle. I wish all us humans peace and health.
We are harsher than men, and it is because we measure ourselves under those same standards (those that only people who's work is their body or are genetically blessed unicorns have), find ourselves lacking and need to judge someone else that looks "less" to give ourselves value. It's effed up. Even when you realize your are doing this is hard to stop cause it's engrained by society. Effed up
Absolutely men are waaay more relaxed about how a woman looks, the beauty standards is based on marketing created to target women who are the ones who consume the most.
I think one of the main problems is trying to meet all the standards simultaneously and permanently. Even if we are blessed with, or work hard to attain one standard, we immediately start thinking about the hundred other ones we missed out on. I think the constant advertising we’re exposed to plays a bad role here...but hopefully if we work at finding out what beauty means to us ( us, not the algorithm lol) and work to incorporate those aspects into ourselves, with the understanding it is transient (e.g. the stomach expands with food in it, so if what you truly want is a flat tummy, then even with hard work it still won’t be there for your whole hormonal cycle, let alone the full day) and realistically achievable (there are limitations to everything), then I think these standards could be fun and fulfilling, rather than toxic. But it should always be unique to us, 💯 agree that ranking ourselves and others is a cruel waste of time that is unfortunately almost encouraged by our society
Lupus is such a horrible disease, I know someone who was so fit and the steroids just made them gain so much and the lupus makes it very hard to lose weight and it devastates them. Be gentle to people please 😔
Yeah I have Lyme disease, and so much weight fluctuations from it. People tell me all the time that I must be sick because I gained weight and must be eating burgers daily when I actually eat as clean as a Victoria’s Secret model.
A family member of mine also suffers from Lupus and the self hatred they developed for their body is heartbreaking. I love her to the moon and back and tell her she is wonderful and beautiful and I will never see her as any less than perfect.
Indeed. I have autoimmune disease (Crohn’s and Hashimoto’s). Medication side effects, bloating, weight loss and weight gain can wreak havoc on your looks.
In Spain, no one cares about this sort of thing. Girls wear whatever they want and everyone looks gorgeous and happy. It's the way it should be. Having moved here from Australia, I'm still really self conscious of my stomach being exposed or my legs showing. But I'm slowly gaining the confidence of the Spanish girls. It feels good just to be happy. I wish that for the rest of the world.
Thank you so much for your nice opinion of our country! Although beauty standards still affect us all, its true that we have waay more freedom. I don't know why it is like this, probably because of so many hours of sun and the need to go fresh with little clothing, that people get used to see all kinds of bodies! Welcome to Spain by the way! ❤️ ❤️
I was on holidays in France and the women by the pool were the same. They were gorgeous, but their bodies weren’t “perfect”. I was (stupidly) stressing out about my mummy tummy, I looked at them and just relaxed and ENJOYED myself.
Cannot imagine shouting anything at a passerby, like 'you're fat'- or whatever. Like, what's wrong with you if you think that's ok or necessary? What are you accomplishing by doing that? Does it make these people feel good about themselves? It's so far out of my ability to grasp that kind of behaviour.
Doja Cat got liposuction on her legs. You can't lose weight on certain areas. Her legs look completely different now but arms and waist are the same thin. Nothing bad on that by the way. I am having my leg lipo this Winter cause I have lipedema as Doja used to.
@@iloveazaeliabanks And Jennifer Hudson! I bet the list goes on. How many male celebrities have had the same treatment?? The ones I can think of are usually congratulated for it.....
I think most women deal with a transition of having a different body when they were young and then growing into another body as an adult. It’s so normal for our bodies to change. I played sports from 5 years old through college, and now that I’m done my body is so different. I have struggled with it a lot because I used to be made fun of for being super skinny, but now I’m more “normal” and have been made to feel fat by beauty standards. It’s such a mind f*ck to be honest. But I am working on owning my body at any shape, and I hope for anyone else out there dealing with the same thing that you are on your journey to feeling comfortable in your skin too. It’s hard, but we got this!
Can totally relate. I have been dancing since the age of 10. I stopped during COVID and with everything that's been happening in my life never got the chance to go back. Now that am 35, my body *really* feels those changes. I am still at a healthy weight, try to work out a bit and eat well (not diet) but sometimes i feel sad that i no longer have my dancer's body! I used to be able to wear most clothing styles but now i feel conscious of the flab on my arms, rolls on my tummy etc 😬
That's so true... I have been sick for a year and gained weight because of that. When I see old photos I tend to think "oh I want to look like that again", but reading your comment I remembered that back then I wasn't happy with my body either. We are brainwashed into never feeling good enough and that's pretty messed up.
I'm from Africa... Nigeria precisely. Women who are curvier/chubby are praised and desired whereas slim women are rarely desired. It's weird in this part of the world because even selena's curvier self is regarded as "not thick enough". P.S. I believe every woman is beautiful regardless of their body type/shape.
@@NotJoegoldberg I don’t want to say those are the only reason, may play some factors. My family is Nigerian and from the Calabar region and back in the day before a woman got married, some of them went through “fattening houses” which basically made you bigger in order to look more fertile, prosperous, and beautiful to the husband. I’m not sure how much poverty and access to food plays a role in modern day for this standard or even back in the day. I think it’s just a different form of beauty? It does show wealth in a way, but I’d have to ask my family why we see curvier women as more attractive. The fattening house is specific to calabar culture so I don’t know if other parts practice it as well.
@@NotJoegoldberg it's coz of availability of healthy foods that make women gain good weight (at the right places) Junk food is expensive in Africa. So you will rarely find women with extra big stomachs. Just big asses. But I believe all women are beautiful.
I was bullied for being "too skinny" when I was younger (often by strangers yelling at me to "eat something") and a part of me always feels down on myself for being "too skinny" even with an overweight bmi. Gaining weight didn't take away the feeling and fear of being too skinny. I'll actually go into panic mode if I feel the slightest hunger pang and imagine myself shrinking down by the second. I have never met another white woman who can relate.
This is why you can’t judge a book by its cover. So heartbreaking that Selena had to go through so much with her illness and then afterward people were bodyshaming her on top of that! There are so many reasons people gain weight wether it’s physical or mental illness. You can’t just bodyshame someone when you don’t know what they’re going through
She also treated the person who gave her a kidney like crap. So . Just because someone’s sick doesn’t automatically make me feel bad especially if they are a nasty person. Just saying
People who are so into someone like that visually praising them are also the ones who are mean enough to hate on them. Let’s praise people for stuff other than their looks sometimes
Great point! Even when people are saying how great they look, celebrities (and regular girls, really) probably all know that they're just 20 pounds away from all that praise turning into something else. Everyone needs to focus on something besides looks!
Let’s praise people for stuff other than their looks MOST of the time. I’m so ready to move away from appearance being the most important thing in our society/lives.
It's scary bc Selena literally went from a teenager, young woman and into a woman right in front of our eyes and all those different stages has different hormones and we usually loose and gain weight during different years
I think celebrities that gained weight after the early 2000's got slammed the most because they were all criminally UNDERweight and borderline starving themselves for the heroin chic trend. In comparison to that, normal looks like fat and your metabolism is a trainereck. Christina Agulaira is a perfect example
Lady gaga as well there was a period of time people slammed her for gaining weight but looking back... she literally was at a normal weight for many women... wtf?
The irony is Selena still looks fantastic with the TINY amount of weight she's taken on.... Not that it matters - women are allowed to exist and be loved regardless of what they look like. I hate that how we LOOK determines our value to others, regardless of our personalities or talents or the fact we are HUMAN BEINGS.
I have suffered from anorexia for more than 20 yrs, spent a combined of 5 yrs in hospitals, had to live 12 yrs in a special facility surrounded by help 24/7. Today I only go to theraphy 2-3 times a week, I live on my own and I’m trying to create a life for myself at the age of 39 yrs so videos like these really help me a lot. Please don’t ever stop making them Stephanie❤️
The question to me is really about: “How can we as a society be such incredible a$$holes”? When did it become acceptable to be so cruel and rude to each other? The irony is, that the people shouting the cruelty and obscenities are certainly NOT anyone’s goals.
I know right. Some people have no manners or boundaries in this society. There is a lot of people that will never reach "the body goals" for various reasons. I would advice everyone to stop wasting precious time on mean people or unrealistic goals. Search for better quality and focus on building your life fun and exciting. There's men and women who will accept you as you are. Don't give up and make world better place with your own gestures to others. Healthy inside, healthy outside. 🙂
i think it is not society, i think it’s influential people, and corporations that want you to buy their products, subtly implying something is not desirable, because your insecurities = more money for them then people get influenced and that’s where the chaos starts
yes! last night i was looking at the instagram account of an influencer in recovery from drug addiction. she looked so much happier and healthier but all the comments were talking horribly about her weight gain 🙄
I can't IMAGINE seeing people write these things....HEARING people yell "You're fat"....I would be a blubbering mess. I'm hard enough on myself...I don't need to hear it from strangers 🙄
Monstera like well draining soil, they don't like to be over watered, it can rot the roots. Only water when the top 2 inches of soil is dry. And they like humidity, 50% and above.
This is good advice. They also burn easily in sunlight, so keep them somewhere where they only get a little sunlight and are mostly in the shade. There’s nothing you can do to fix burnt leaves.
It actually makes me sad that in a carreer like the music industry it's so much about the body and not about the actual valuable asset - the voice. I also can't believe that we as a society haven't gotten further since Britney was bullied like hell in 2009 for her weight gain - I'm not any better, I thought the same thing back then because I grew up with her as a teenager as the perfect body idol, but thankfully I have progressed and don't think like my 14-year-old self anymore. I remember Christina Aguilera having bulimia in the mercyless 00's and Jessica Simpson just torn to pieces after being heavier and performing in a leopard top and jeans at some point, I'm sure some of you remember this exactly as vividly as I do.
I was a teen in the '00s and i remember even the fashions being so much more unforgiving than now. Eg. Super low rise jeans with crop tops...unless you literally had a stick figure you couldn't pull that off 😂
@@minervarose7664 That's completely true! Diesel jeans was all the rage and if you had just a tiny amount of fat on you it was a no go. It really was about the body, not the fashion - it wouldn't have pulled through nowadays with the test of "is it fashion or is it just the body"-thing. :)
You're a stunning woman too Stephanie! Your beauty radiates from your kindness, positivity and love for other women. Thank you for the work you do on your channel x
MJ, you have no idea how Stephanie's channel has saved my self esteem. You'd think at age 34 I'd be mature enough to not care about what people think of me, but beauty standards get to everyone.
@@notyourfrind9415 I’m 34 in august! And the beauty standards absolutely effect me too, even though I KNOW they’re bullshit! It’s just crazy isn’t it! Xx
Last year I found out a I had a herniated disc in my cervical spine. I was in so much pain not even months of physical therapy was helping. Since I was in so much pain, I tried to limit my movements. So I gained about 20 pounds. Then I had surgery and gained about 15 more pounds since then. The worst part is that my family judges me for my weight gain. They don’t understand that I’m still in constant pain. I just went to the gym for the first time in months but I had such a bad migraine that I threw up. Never judge someone bc you never know what they’re going through! I remind myself that working out and eating healthier is for my own benefit. I got to the point that I don’t care about losing weight. I just want to be healthy and strong for my own body’s sake. This is what my body deserves
Sending so much love. I hope you get the support you deserve . Much respect to you strong Warrior .I hope your able to do something more gentle like yoga, Pilates, exercise bands &walking if you find the gym is too strenuous.. I had a lot of health issues in the past & had to learn to be gentle with my body as well 🦋.🤍🙏🌻✨
I have Lyme disease and weight gain from illness, medication and inflammation and my family has fat shamed me as well and my brother only believes in calories in and calories out when that is old science and only a part of the picture. I hear you, validate you and support you. Focus on your health and whatever your body is, is what it’s meant to be to protect you. Much love 💗
honestly as someone who's gone through this and is recovering from this all i can say is thank you for this video,it really opened my eyes. i used to be the very skinny girl with an hourglass figure(that's my natural shape)a big booty(I've always had a big booty,ever since I was like 11)and smallish boobs. everyone used to compliment me on how skinny and gorgeous i was and yada yada yada. plus i come from an abusive household where food is measured with a spoon and everybody looks at you when you eat and observes and criticizes if you eat too much. they call you fat and tell you to eat less,so I never ever felt free. I moved out and in two years I gained a bit of weight. people literally harassed me. i was a model for a while till last year and one time as I worked in a restaurant I told my boss(who was literally like 60,weighed like 100 kg and was hairy af) that I'd been a model and he said yeah you're pretty but you're not skinny enough did you use to be thin? no cause why did you gain weight? how did it happen? my hairdresser literally went to the extent of saying omg how much have you eaten? yeah you should leave your boyfriend maybe you've gotten a bit too comfortable with your body (coming from a guy who looked like santa claus) like what in the actual fuck where in the world do you get the fucking right to say these things about my body??like my value is ALL in my body and when I said something back they'd answer with yeah you're too sensitive OH COME ON LITTLE WIENIE I've battled with this for years when I was 15 i was so skinny i didn't even have titties anymore and in the year between 19 and 20 people just wouldn't stop fucking harassing me it went to an extent that i would cry for a few hours while changing before going out and sometimes would stay at home so I really REALLY feel for these women and if this is what i had to go through i can only imagine what people bigger than me go through it's just disgusting honestly it honestly just boggles me that we are SUPPOSED to thank our bodies because they are our means of living how did we get so far into this contorted culture that all we care about is "body goals" and how our bodies look?? not how they are our means of survival and how they make daily tasks happen,but how they look just ask a disabled person how they feel about this and i'm sure they'd say that they'd give anything to have for example a pair of legs that person wouldn't fucking care if the legs were big,or hairy or whatever they'd just want legs and all this culture can value is the looks🤢🤢 anyway now i'm trying to work on having a healthier relationship with food(fuck diets) and on losing weight at the same time,for me though. i have a goal and i want to achieve it,plus sculpting my body makes me feel hella good. now i've been working out 5 times a week for the past 3 or 4 months and it honestly makes me feel so good, it especially helps with my depression. i send SO much love to people who are going through this and please don't let society tell you who you should be ❤️ love y'all
I AM SO HAPPY SELENA IS IN A MUCH HAPPIER PLACE AFTER ALL THE TOXIC EX THING AND BULLYING SHE HAD TO GO THROUGH . SHE IS MAKING MILLIONS AND SPREADING POSITIVITY , SO HAPPY FOR HERRRR, QUEEN
I think it is wonderful to see beautiful women like Selena and Camila in their "fat" version. They are obviously not fat. I have a similar body type that I struggle with (I've been bullied about it by my family from early childhood). And seeing those two and other gorgeous women look so beautiful in their (abosultely normal!) bodies that aren't "body goals", anymore, really helps me to accept my body!
I'm glad you talked about Camila because for a while there everybody was saying that Shawn Mendez broke up with her because she gained weight. Like grow up everyone! I really hate tabloids and rumors it's so pathetic and childish.
I totally agree but it’s not just women. Men like Brendan Frazier and even Jonna Hill have dealt with hate due to fluctuating weight. Food for thought 🤷♀️
"Coz I was running and existing like a normal person that doesn't tuck it in all the time!!! Camila Cabello That should be one of the greatest quotes of all time.
Use a dry wooden skewer and dip it into the soil for the monstera. If there's soil coming out attached to the stick, its not time to water. If its damp but the stick comes out clean, time to water
When I was in my 20’s my weight would always fluctuate (110 -125). My boyfriend of 13 years used to tell me he preferred me with a little more weight. He said “it’s like hugging a bicycle” when I was thinner.
I am so torn between "Hey, even the world's most beautiful celebrities feel insecure, maybe I'm truly not alone!" and "Even the world's most beautiful celebrities feel insecure, what hope is there for me?"
I was never happy with my body just because of these "instagram perfect dolls,, that I see everyday but since I started watching you it really opened my eyes and now I've never felt better in my skin. Thank you Steph :)💞
Regarding the monstera:🌿 -make sure she’s in bright indirect light. -make sure the pot has drainage holes -if the leaves turn yellow crusty, she’s dry. If the leaves turn yellow and squishy, she’s drowning -take her out of the pot and remove the soil. If the roots are mushy and brown, she suffers root rot. In that case there’s loads of tutorials online to get rid of it. If they are white they’re healthy -generally the soil a plant comes in isn’t the best quality, so buy a good quality soil (maybe mix it with perlite and orchid bark to make it airy, this prevents root rot) and plant in a planter big enough for its rootball -water when the first 2 inches of the soil are dried out (just stick a finger in to test) -when you water don’t just give it a splash but completely let the water come through the drainage holes (in the sink or bathtub) and let it drip out a couple minutes, then place back to its original spot This is only what works for my plants 🪴 Hope this helps ❤️
Hearing about the body shaming of Selena was breaking my heart BEFORE I got to the part about her health issues being the cause! This is really sad for me, partially because I was so happy to see a more "average-sized" woman being cast in a fantastic show (I LOVE "Only Murders in the Building"!), and I thought she looked beautiful and was thinking that everyone else thought so too, and partially because I just feel so sad that anyone should be treated this way. What monstrous stuff to say about OR TO someone! I'm so glad there are videos like this to help balance things out a little and give us a forum to call out how ridiculous this all is
Stephanie, thank you so much for these videos. I wish I had had these when I was young. I am a 42 year old woman who has suffered with body issues since I can remember. My mom, who passed away at 58 also suffered from this my entire life. She worked out daily and heavily restricted what she ate. When she was in the hospital before she passed away I remember her telling my brother, who also suffers from body issues to eat whatever he wanted in moderation but to eat because life was too short to deprive yourself. I took that to heart and while I still have issues and work out 3 to 4 times a week, I can finally say I have accepted my body and appreciate it. It has allowed me to carry 3 beautiful babies and while it has changed significantly, it has also given me curves I never had before. I have stopped caring about what others think and work out more for myself than for the approval/acceptance of others. Again, thank you for your videos and please keep them coming because it is important for women to see this type of content.
I feel really bad for Selena. It's like being sick is a crime, being yourself is a crime. Sometimes I feel like I understand why older generations hated internet initially. Sarah hyland on the other hand was always criticized for being to skinny or small, and even she suffered from many diseases and had multiple surgeries. It's like women are never enough
My bf told me today that he and his male friend from high school called a girl they are both friends with from hs as well fat because she gained 30 lbs in a few months after a breakup (long term relationship). Girl went from maybe 90-100 lbs to 130-140lbs. I immediately understood the body positive movement and why its so important. I told him, "So I'm fat?" Because same thing happened to me after we got together and I cooked more often. I said, "you got fat too then, look at yourself." We're both at healthy weight. I lectured him. He got quiet. There's more to it but that's the gist. How incredibly frustrating time we live in.
Read that about Selena, her finally coming out about her lupus and felt so bad she had to go through getting fat shamed, when it was because of meds she has to take. The same with Britney for her mental illness, the papps were horrid to her It boils down to the male gaze, and the healthiest thing you can do is don't give a fuck about what men think of your looks. It's about you and what you like and what makes you happy and confident. And it's about doing and living And if a man (or a few women buy into it) give you that creepy once over, stare or sneer or make rude comments, call them out and switch that microscope 🔬 around onto their looks and their bodies - because a lot of the time, these creeps are extremely unattractive and are overweight and flawed themselves. I can assure you, it's quite effective. They don't like it, and it's a stress relief, I don't need the burden of their toxic shit. Here you go, Buddy, giving it back to you
The same way we have rolls, fat, etc because we are human, we can be affected occasionally by mean comments because we are human. Sometimes we can truly not care, other times we will, because our feelings fluctuate the same our bodies fluctuate. Mean people are always going to exist. Expecting to not be affected by them occasionally is also unrealistic. With time, I think we all learn how to deal better with those situations.
Thank you for bringing awareness about lupus! I am fighting lupus myself and also struggling with weight gain due to the meds! I am trying so hard to loose the weight i can relate to Selena so much.
Thank you this means so much too me. I was recently diagnosed with Fibromyalgia another auto immune disease that makes it hard to lose weight and chronic migraines so everything exhausts me and I’ve gained 15 pounds which doesn’t sound like much but for me it has impacted my mental health thanks to societal standards.
i hope you’re doing okay! my weight has increased a lot over the past couple years too and i’m in the middle of an autoimmune disease diagnosis myself. it’s hard to not be so hard on yourself and beat yourself up about it but i hope you can get to a place of acceptance and realising you’re beautiful no matter what! much easier said than done but i hope one day we can all learn to stop associating weight with beauty so heavily. btw are you irish? me too :) just spotted your name
@@lauryn6037 Thank you It’s hard finding people who have similar issues since im 31 . Im doing better mentally physically I am trying to get to do yoga. I am 73 percent Irish born American though :) My great grandparents came from Counties Galway Cork and Clare ❤️😊. Thankfully Stephanie is helping me have a more positive outlook I’m glad we have a loving community here with her !
If I ever have a daughter, I will be showing her your Videos! It’s sad that you even have to make them but I’m so glad that you are because honestly we need to hear it.
Selena and I shared a birthday I’ve loved her since the start. No matter what she looks like. Selena’s interview where she talks about her weight that going like “i dont have to fit in my teen and early 20’s body cause that’s not me anymore my body has changed”. That made me feel so much more confident in my body
I think to many people get some kind of sick kick out of being vile and mean to strangers behind a screen, whether the person that is attact is a celeb or not.
Monstera- aerated soil- basically lots of loose bark and leca (which is basically clay balls, just search for leca) and not much soil. Water regularly, probably once a week in Australia, in winter maybe once a month. You want to water a lot and then leave it alone until the next watering date. You will know it’s well watered when the leaves drip water- this is called guttation and it gets rid of any extra water in the leaves, it means your plant is thoroughly watered. If your plant is doing this every day however it’s probably being overwatered. Ideally you want it lasting maybe 1-3 days until the next water. Monsteras can cope with lots of sun but straight from the nursery they are probably used to an indoor environment, so near a window that gets lots of sun is a good place to start. If the leaves get brown spots on them where the sun hits, move it further away from the window. If your plant is really reaching towards the light at an acute angle, move it closer. Monsteras move quite a bit so I turned mine every could weeks to keep it straight, but if it’s completely keeling over in that time it probably wants more light. If you overwater the leaves will go yellow and stay that way for a while and eventually drop off, starting with the lowest leaves. If you underwater or give too much sun the leaves will drop and the ends could go crispy and dry. Adjust your watering schedule accordingly. DO NOT TOUCH NEW LEAVES until they have fully unfurled and gone a darker shade of green or they could come out with marks or worse die before unfurling. If the leaves are coming out smaller and smaller the plant isn’t getting enough of something, I.e. food, water, light. I feed in summer with some baby bio in the water. They are really easy to look after when you get the hang of it. The most important things are watering schedule and soil, get those down first, and then you can play with how much light it gets and plant food and moss poles later when you’re confident, but just start with those two things.
One thing that gets me is hearing about medications causing weight and I’ll hear a lot of patients that don’t want to take them because of the potential weight gain. I just appreciate your channel because it keeps it so real and reinforces taking care of your mental health. 😌
Thank you so much. M crying my eyes out. I'm getting old, in menopause and am no longer size 8 uk and have got quite big over the last year due to illness. I have been so hard on myself, like suicide hard on myself fir getting so big. Thanks I think I shall concentrate on being better and not give a toss about the weight until I'm better.
“A flat belly doesn’t equal happiness”. Thank you! We are so brainwashed thinking that being skinny is the solution to all our problems. As LatinX women, Selena and Camila have genetically more curvier bodies and are beautiful. Shame to all the spineless people spitting hate at them. It’s so easy to insult people about their weight to make yourself feel better huh? Pathetic behaviour. I think Camila and Selena are inspirations. They make me feel normal and seen.
I have a flat belly my whole life and am skinny and that literally made 0 difference, I was still ridiculed and bullied for my body my entire life. I receive unsolicited comments about my weight and appearance to this day, almost on a daily basis. Just wanted to put this out there to prove your point. It was never about being a certain way, it was always about just shaming women for their bodies and the way they were physically manifested onto this Earth, as if male bodies aren't strange at all... like there's something inherently wrong with our bodies, any trace of physical maturity in a woman is drilled into us as a "mistake". Think about that for a moment. It's alright though, all the more reason for any woman ever to just NOT CARE, and live their best lives. You can't win so it's best to play an entirely different game 😎
When I was 17, I was put on depakote for a few months that made me balloon up. I went from 115-125 to 175ish. That opened my eyes so much to how society looks at people who are not society’s “standard of beauty”. I’ve fluctuated and currently sitting around 150-155 almost 10 years later. It’s HARD to lose weight you gain from medication. You feel so shitty because your body has gained weight rapidly and that makes you feel like crap physically and obviously it takes a mental toll too. I can’t imagine how painful it is to go through this as a celebrity, seeing people say awful things about you all over the internet, if it’s painful for me and I’m a no one.
I always find it so wierd why everything thinks that they need to say things people probably already know.. they just want to be vulgar then act innocent when things go further down hill then they thought..
I’m a size 8 uk, go gym 3 times a week for over a year. When I’m on my period I can fluctuate to a 10. Then back again a couple days after my period. It’s normal 💕
World is a cruel cruel place. Babies please take care of your physical, mental and emotional health. I hope everyone learns as soon as possible for them to love their own selves and realise no one will be like someone else. Evolution has worked really har for thousands of years to make sure of it.
MONSTERA CARE TIPS: I have a forest of Monsteras in my patio, what I've learned is that the like bright indirect sunlight. Outside the need to be protected from full sun. Inside they should be placed right infront of a window but don't let it get full sun. Don't place it in a corner far from the light. No enought light they die, too much sun they die. They don't like to be overwatered. They need good draining soil and watered when they are dry. Give a good shower to really soak them and then wait until it's dry again. They don't like to be overfertilized and they need a big terracota pot because they get rootbound ver fast because they grow very fast. Don't cut the aerial roots just stick them back in the pot so they root in.
Weight is a mystery sometimes. Folks who believe it is strictly calories in vs calories out. I just went through six weeks of a strict liquid only diet due to serious jaw surgery. I took in from 500 to 900 calories a day. And I GAINED 16 freaking pounds. And I forced myself to get up and walk and move during this time. I am so upset and having a hard time not feeling defeated. Sigh.
It’s possible that any medications you were on during that period may have caused the weight gain, and if that’s the case your body will go back to its normal self once you stop them. But it goes to prove, once again, that the calories in/calories out thing is a total misnomer!
Hey, not sure if it will help, but it’s possible your metabolism dropped as your body thought you were starving. It then holds onto and burns fat much much less to keep you alive. I just learned this from a video with pretty respectable credentials so I’m sharing the knowledge. If you go back to eating normally, your metabolism may increase back to normal. Then if you really want to lose weight you can go back to a slight calorie deficit. And I think by staying active and mobile you were doing the right things. I may not be right but there is scientific backing to this. I hope it helps :)
I'm a little chubby right now. Nothing crazy, but it is noticeable and it hurts my self esteem (especially since it happened quickly and I used to be athletic). My partner tells me I'm beautiful and sexy and that weather I'm toned and fit or rounded and soft, they love me and my body and think I'm the most beautiful woman they've ever seen. Surround yourself with people who are good to you, and be good to yourself. You are so worthy of love and kindness. You deserve to feel confident at a size 2 or 22.
This one is quite personal to me. There was a time when I gained a lot of weight from medication that kept me alive. The saddest moment came when I realized that I am being painfully shamed not just by strangers but also by members of my own family. I was told "I wouldn't take the medication if it made me gain weight" .... . This whole problem is completely out of control. I am still struggling with my health condition, but I will be all right. Unfortunately I have never forgotten, that people cared more about how I looked than whether I was healthy.
when we dont care about what our body looks like, were ridiculed and told TO care and told what our bodies should look like and what we do with them, and the second we start showing that we care or understandably stressing out about it, were shamed for it and told that we "shouldnt spend so much time on our looks"
something else that bothers me (especially the Selena example) is some of these celebrities were so young when they were "body goals"... people cannot expect a 30 yo to have a 15-17 yo body... it's a stupid AND gross expectation. PS: All these women should just clap back with "You think I'm fat? You should see my bank account." 🙃
If i was a celebrity then I could already see everyone comparing 2016 me to now, and saying "wow she's gained so much weight", dude I literally have hips and an ass now so wassup?
Omg same! I am also 4'11" and My thighs are huge! It's hard to find pants because my waist smaller than my thighs as well :/ it is also hard to lose fat on my thighs too no matter how many exercises I do.
I’m 5’2” and I have the same issue! I’ve had 4 babies now and sometimes I just wish u was taller so when I carried the baby weight it wouldn’t look so very MUCH!!!
You only live once. Dont keep yourself from feeling good from wearing shorts in a hot enviroment just because you think some stranger will think bad. They wont think anything. And even if they do, then fuck them. You may sometimes think things about other people as well, but does that mean that they should change whatever you thought of them? No. Its just strangers who means nothing in your life. So live your life
@@annelarsen4480 I noticed this at the beach! Everybody worries about if their bodies are beach ready but nobody actually looks around at anyone else! They are all too worried about themselves lol
I began taking anxiety and panic attack medicine a few years ago. One brand of anxiety med made me gain an excessive amount of weight and one day I noticed something different and I was shocked. It really threw me off because I am really self-conscious of my image.
Calling Selena and Camila influencers is a pet peeve. They’re actual celebrities who worked hard within a job that is inside celebrity status, not influencers.
Camila… tall, slim… tall. She’s 5.2, she’s short. Ok. Idk why your video is a bit irking to me. I get it you’re not a journalist so you don’t research things but I would have thought something within context to their image and body would be something you would know or research about the people you talk and do videos about.
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omg when you put the quote that camilla said at 12:25. i truly felt what she said like it makes so much sense. we do it for our health but when it becomes soemthing else pretty much and it starts affecting our mental health. thats the perfect way to explain it. this is such a good video and i feel like you picked good people to do it about. i also appreciate this one as well becasue i am latin. love you so much girl!! keep on!!
This is the big reason why so many celebs, models, singers etc suffer from EDs. It is sad that no matter what you do, you're never good enough in your natural form. It is disgusting the way people were/are towards Selena. She is absolutely gorgeous I hope some day in the future this situation changes. But so long there comes new generations with similar needs to look plastic perfect, it won't change. I do what I can from my part and show unfiltered pics without makeup. But one unknown person can't do much.
I completely agree.Women have been brainwashed from a young age to aspire to a Barbie doll body shape.It's not realistic at all,and we all gain weight with age and slowing metabolism.People are allowed to be human!!
We should be aspired to embrace life to be outdoorsy as much as possible. To touch grass I would say. People in this world are modifying their bodies to look the sameeee
As someone with lupus, the medications are ROUGH. I had autoimmune gastritis on top in 2020 and drug induced pancreatitis from a lupus med that made me lose weight until i was hospitalized for it as i physically couldnt eat solid food for six months. Then i was taken off those meds and put on steroids which made me gain a lot of weight. Ive never been at a weight where ive been totally happy because of how our society treats weight loss and gain. Loss is never enough and gain is always seen as bad. Its crazy to think we care more about weight than health.
I used to be size 00 and between 100-105 lbs in my early teens to my mid 20s. I hit 25 and I started gaining 5-10 lbs each year afterwards. I’m now 150 lbs and I’m only 5-1 so I think I look enormous plus I have this picture of myself in my brain how I used to look. I used to be able to wear anything I wanted. Now I opt for big loose and baggy clothes bc I don’t feel comfortable in anything else.
What I find so startlingly horrific is how utterly shamelessly evil some women can be to other women! It’s honestly beyond me and iv never understood it! I’m sorry to be so frank but it’s scary, it’s so dumb and makes no sense whatsoever and it also makes it ok for blokes to get on the bandwagon of bringing us down too! If we can’t be kind, supportive and strong 💪 for each other & this utter shite carries on then as well as feeling appalled 🤯 & saddened, then I’m sorry to say but female society is totally fucked! 🥺😢😭😤 Great upload Steff! You so beautiful 😍 keep up the awesome work babes! 💪💪💪💪💪 Lots of love Tia xxx
Pretty much it’s a vicious cycle. I don’t think anyone should bash someone else for doing it, people don’t always feel their prettiest and may try to adjust it to look their best.
the most wild part about this video is that it just showed me an ad for some BS laser treatment to "melt body fat" while watching. like hello, READ THE ROOM, RU-vid
this is why i am greatful that i found this channel. being someone who has no self confidence on my body and even bd, her videos makes me realize that i shouldn't be too harsh on myself. her uploads makes me have the courage to love myself more. and yes, being a woman with hormones that causes so much change in our bodies is so hard. the bloating that is caused because you as a human should be eating to survive is scrutinised. the weight gain caused by the child birth which people are expected us to have is called "letting ourselves go" is being shamed. and now with what's going on, we can no longer have choices over our bodies? tf with all this standards.
Body love starts within ourself, not outside ourselves. Seeking validation is a bottomless pit. Even when we are perfect, what does it mean if we are empty inside. We change society by changing ourselves. Loving ourselves and being a role model to other young girls to do the same. That we are not perfect but we are brave enough to love oursleves anyway. Live the values you cherish even if those around you live by different values. You know what it is true for you. It takes daily work, because the daily external influences outside of us. It's so important to have daily habits and rituals to build ourselves up and reject what brings us down. We get to choose to create the lives we want. If you struggle with body shame, try this. Write 10 things you love about yourself (or like about yourself if love is too hard right now). Then write 10 parts of your body you are grateful for and why (like your arms for letting you hug those you love). Try to feel the positive emotions from this. It actually reprograms your brain on a subconscious level and it works. Its called neurogenesis. Do this for 21 days and you will be really surprised how your relationship to your body changes.
Coming back to rewatch this video because I needed the wisdom 💛 I grew up being the single very skinny person in a family where everyone else weighed much more than me. Skinny was my label and even though people meant it as a compliment, it became this weird part of my identity. Now I’ve put on close to twenty pounds and I’m so terrified. I’ve been working hard to shed the extra pounds to be this perfect skinny person again because my identity feels out of tact if that’s not what I am. But I think maybe I’ve lost sight of what’s important, agonizing too much over calories and sucking it in, all the stuff that you mentioned in this video. Thank you for what you do, Stephanie! It really helps to see other women like myself and know that I would never judge them as I judge myself.
What makes me laugh is when men demand that their girlfriends go on the pill. Then complain when some of the girls gain weight. It makes me so angry!!!
Thank you so much for this, Stephanie. I was just looking in the mirror lamenting my belly when I came across this video. I really needed the pep talk. May God bless you ♥️♥️
It really is a sickness of society that people make such horrible comments about how others look!! Even if you are not in the public eye you are judged by others and most clothing companies do not offer larger sizes I can’t 😮but appreciate you talking up for normal people
I personally wouldn't recognize a celebrity if they set next me .. also I've never heard anyone at airports even look up let alone scream that someone is fat .. most people just want to reach their flight on time and don't want to be detained by security for calling people fat . Imo
That's most people though. What some of these celebs are experiencing are those outliers that will legitimately go out of their way to make someone feel bad for the sake of attention. Plenty of the people doing the harassment are also stalkers on some level.
