Mr. and Mrs. Paul are bringing their daughter Kayla to court for child support. Kayla left her 6 month old son with her parents when he was 1 week old. Kayla has no intentions of being a mother to this "mistake" of a child.
I had a child at 16, was rocking a crying newborn baby in my arms at 2 am doing math assignments online for school. I graduated with a 3.8 GPA and went to college. Took care of my now 6 year old beautiful little boy the ENTIRE journey. Now happily married to my husband who adopted him and are expecting our second child at the age of 23. There is NO excuse. DO BETTER.
honestly wouldnt even phase the mother as all. Once the grandparents are gone. That child if still in HS might end up in the streets & become a product of his enviornment. Hope they stick around for at least college years.
Eh the vast majority of kids are mistakes so I honestly don't see that as a big deal, but maybe I'm just weird like that. It was everything else that was fucked up in my opinion.
I’m 18 years old. My mom had me at 14 while at school walking the track at P.E, raised me throughout high school, graduated, raised me to be a Division 1 football recruit and became a licensed pharmacy technician on her own. Also is doing a fabulous with my sister. Watching this made me appreciate my mother 30x more.
Grandparents like this are a blessing. They already had their own children, brought them up, no doubt struggled themselves. And now their children just say things like "you're retired you have nothing but time". Yes, time to relax, time to travel, time to rest after working their whole lives. They must be so disappointed in their own children.
I’ve been in that same boat for the last almost 20 years and you would think that I’ve done nothing. I pray that their grands are more appreciative than mine.
That cycle has to be broken. My kids know that they cycle will break with their mom and I. We are raising all four of them and when the last one moves out, the world will by my wife and I’s for the taking.
My aunt did social services work…. You are appreciated… she would come home and cry and tell us about all the kids in bad homes and how the only thing she could was remove them and then they would just go back or that even though they knew the state wouldn’t really give them enough support or resources… she was always so sad… she wanted to adopted all the kids… it’s not easy work…
I cant and never will understand how people have children and throw them away a child is such a blessing no matter how bad a day you've had when you get home and see that precious smile it makes you forget about all your problems
While a child would be a blessing for someone who *wants to have a child*, it is not for everyone. I would hold a grudge against a kid I would have. I’m gender non conforming, and the amount of gender dysmorphia I would have being pregnant would never be worth it. Plus I do not want kids. Add to that that I struggle to financially and mentally care for myself sufficiently. I would never be able to care for a kid. However, I have a 7 year old nephew that I would move heaven and earth for to make sure he is healthy, happy, and safe. Still doesn’t change my mind about kids.
“Did u have something to say? I heard u mumbling” “Oh no I had something in my throat” “I bet you do” 😂😂😂😂 how can i put myself in the audience?!!!! I love this show!!
“Oh did you not hear me??? Want me to say it a little louder????” God I love this judge! No nonsense and give these entitled people what they need to hear!
My daughter is my life! The only one I carried after 3 miscarriages. It would be a blessing if she could not carry another child she is to selfish! Our child grew to be a talented and loving person. Her first was stillborn. That young lady doesn’t how fortunate she is to be able to carry a child with a healthy delivery. Thank God that little boy has Grandparents!!!!
@@prettybabyelephant6161 I'm so happy that you finally got a daughter got really blessed you. I hope that your daughter will give you the respect that you deserve
Agreed! I WOULD NEVER EVER DENY MY CHILDREN FOR NOTHING. I love my kids more than my own life and I will do anything for my kids. Lord Jesus… this girl needs serious prayers. I feel so sorry for her child. She’s lucky she has good grandparents who cares.
“It’s my name on the check, they don’t need to know how much money I get” GIRL!! It’s your name on the birth certificate too! They don’t need to raise your kid either. I’ve never been so disgusted with a human
I’m kinda glad this shows that it’s not just the fathers who are deadbeats. The moms can be deadbeats too and sometimes worse. God bless these grandparents.
Many many many deadbeat women! And many many more abused men…. The problem is who is going to believe them.. even when the child is with them most people don’t see the mom as a bad mom they see her as overworked…. Just such a double standard
I got pregnant with my child a few weeks after I turned 18, his dad turned out to be a deadbeat and I have never had help from him physically nor financially other than the rare occasional visit in the first 5 years and a small amount of forced child support that he did not pay consistently(maybe 500 total over 13 years). I had already graduated high school and unfortunately had to drop out of college. Everything was a hard struggle with minimum-wage jobs, being young, and no help but never had I ever regretted having my child. He is my reason for living, my entire world. I don't understand ppl who regret their babies or abandon them. Makes me sick, get your tubes tied or a vasectomy if you don't want to be responsible for a life that you created.
I had my daughter right after highschool, in the middle of my first year of college. I never thought of her as a mistake. She is my joy and my inspiration to be a better person. She is my everything. This woman made me cry. But you know what, if a woman says these kind of things she is probably going to do more damage than good for her kid so best that she stays away.
I’ve raised my granddaughter with no support from either parent she just turned 18 still lives with been working for two years and saved and bought her own car and pays her own car insurance and phone I feel blessed
im about to turn 18 and i went through the same thing except it’s just my grandma. she doesn’t have a good job because of health so i’ve learned how to budget and take responsibility. grandparents are such a blessing and i am so thankful i have my grandma to prepare me for my own adult life. i guarantee your granddaughter will always love appreciate how you impacted her life ❤️
@@reaghanmartin6018 thank you so much, I know she does she takes care of her Nana and I’m so proud of her and I’m proud of you for taking care of your grandma Good luck and God Bless
Regretting having a child is a real feeling that many people deal with and is horribly shamed. I am not defending her actions or the way that she's gone about the situation since she's clearly immature and entitled, but I do respect the way she made those feelings clear in a direct and shameless way.
She said she left her child with her parents because they did such a good job raising her yet she’s sitting there so disrespectful forwards them LMAOOO
That's the bitter irony. She was being sarcastic with that comment, it just sounded like a zinger to her to claim that as a lame justification to pawn off her newborn baby to them. The adult daughter's disrespect and behavior as well as the only other adult daughter of the couple are prime examples that they did not do a good job of raising their own children who grew to have children who they are doing an even worse job raising. The wife's hair & weave flicking and cattiness with this daughter in the courtroom are telltale signs of the poor relationship and discipline exhibited in that household.
ago @ Monica Parker why not?? You seem like you on that ratchet FNF sh💩 ttt…if that’s your profile picture. I feel for the black boys looking for blk women bc young women like yourself are for the pookies and ray rays. Once you’re done having your 304 phase then can’t find a man then say ain’t no good blk men out here. This is the typical masculine energy that most blk women Bring to the table. Nobody can tell blk women Nothing
My husband and I fought for 10 years to have a baby. 10 years in hospital and out of hospital. I am watching this while my healthy 6 month old baby girl is sleeping. This episode breaks my heart.
In private fine, public shaming and laughing at her is cruel, and a good indicator as to why the parents and daughter don't get along. Don't get me wrong, the daughter needs to woman up and take care of her own baby.@@Fleezy81
What a horrible example of a mother. She didn't show a shred of love or care for that child. More power to the grandparents who willingly took him in. As sad as it is to say, I believe he will be better off without someone like her in his life.
@@patricia1333 if this woman never had a kid then her attitude wouldn't have been a problem, granted she's an entitled narcissist. But she decided to carry that child to term and then abandon it. That is the real problem.
These women out here catching babies n not taking care of them. If they didn't want the responsibility they should take precautions or keep their legs closed all together.
@@aaliyahmarshalleck5536 yeah birth control is too common nowadays to have any excuse. Granted nothing is 100% effective, but if you're on the pill and use a condom there is almost no chance of anything unwanted happening. But she was messing around with a married man anyway, so I imagine neither of them had any sense.
I wanted a baby soooo bad, and after many hospital and doctor visits and various medical procedures, we were blessed with a sweet little girl! but due to many physical problems during pregnancy, we were assured that it would definitely be better for my body not to want to have a second child. but of course our hearts really wanted another child. So I would have taken her baby from her...in a heartbeat! How ungrateful to treat her child, the most precious thing you can have in your life, this way. The three of us are very happy, and we are grateful for the blessing. Without a doubt, God has had His plan, and that is good!
I never wanted kids, but once I had my daughter, I’ve never loved someone as much as I love her. I can’t IMAGINE calling her a mistake or not being in her life
Same here, I cried when I found out my ex was pregnant, I thought my life was over. But as soon as I saw her heartbeat on the ultrasound I never went back, I even had another with her My relationship failed, my career in the navy ended over that, she took them to another state with her new partner and it’s crazy hard seeing them, I’ve struggled badly over all the fallout related to my kids but nothing would ever make me say I regret them, they’re just so amazing, the best thing that ever happened to me What is wrong with the mother?
@@johnnytower6169 wow I’m sorry that happened. I don’t know her side of everything but no one should keep their kids from their parent of either sex, unless there is abuse. I hope you have some kind of visitation. If not, fight for it. My husband went through a lot with his sons in NY because we are in GA, but now they they’re old enough to leave when they want, they know it wasn’t their dads fault that they could see them. I hope things get better for you and the kids.
@@lanalovesjesus6133 I try and fly them over during school holidays and make multiple phone calls every week. It’s heartbreaking when families split but we can only do the best we can. I really appreciate the kind words though, thank you
The entire family is disfunctional, to include the parents. It wouldn't surprise me that these parents allowed or condoned a family environment where respect and accountability were in short supply, as were fairness and equal treatment and punishment between the now adult sibling daughter's. I can tell just from this brief interaction and the cattyness that the wife here has a sister-daughter dynamic relationship with her kids, and the husband either couldn't or wouldn't regulate and enforce proper discipline in that household for both his daughters AND his wife. My ex-wife has the same issue with her kids, my now adult stepdaughter's; they speak with complete irreverence to and about their mother as well, and have the same sense of entitlement that momma should carry all their baggage, because momma has always shown them and told them she would do so most of their life. Now that she's hit middle age, she thinks they should suddenly detach from the teet she's allowed them to remain on for far too long, and respect her as a mother. It doesn't work that way.
Judge Vonda, you are wonderful! I love that nobody gets away with BS in your courtroom!!! But you are still fair! If I was 30 years younger and we were both single I’d be all up in that!!! 😂 love you Judge V. God bless you!!!
This is a great example of how you can't always blame the parents. These grandparents are clearly great, wonderful and caring people. I'm sure they did the best in raising their children. But those girls were negatively influenced by other people or factors.
That's what the parents are there for to make sure that othere factors don't effect there kids especially at 16. Parents are there to teach and protect their kids to be contributing memeber of society.
I was a young mother, and my mom said, "You go to get your high school diploma." After you get home, this is your responsibility, it made me grow up and take care of what's mine
Same here ladies. Im exactly 40 and am being talked into IVF. No thank you, the good Lord didn’t want me to have any and it’s partly my fault but I see this and think 🤔 why don’t I adopt?
@@deemart7397 it’s not a fault issue. Only you can decide what you want to do. It took multiple rounds of IVF for me and it’s not fun. Adoption is also difficult though. We have friends who did foster adopt. One if the kids recovered well from the trauma. The other one is going to need therapy for life. I suggest looking at orphanages in south or Central America. That way nobody will come back later and take your kid away. That happened to a couple in Missouri and we decided we couldn’t adopt in the USA. The judge overturned the finalized adoption. They had her from newborn to age two. Mom lied and had not told bio dad. After that - I would never advise someone to adopt in the United States
@tillytoad804: That is tragedy of life: People who are well educated, mentally, socially and emotionally fit can’t physically have children whereas people who can breed like cats are unfit to be parents.
I feel like father of the year after watching this. I'm gonna hug my little boys for an extra second or two tonight. Little boys need their mommies and daddies.
This is crazy. I was in the right grade when I had my first son. He just turned 40. I'm 55 now. It was hard but we thugged it out together. Life is good now for the both of us. I had minimal help to none. God is good.
Me as a new to be mom about to have her first child, i couldnt believe my ears, i could never let my child take accountability for the "mistakes" i made, i think of my baby boy as a blessing and i havent even had him yet and im already protective and ready for whats to come for me, this is so heartbreaking 💔
As someone who works with kids and wants kids of my own, seeing people who call their own children a mistake, or say they're too much work hurt me deeply.
She had the nerve to say, "Be grateful" at the end🤨. I can't help but wonder if they made things way too easy for their kids growing up. This looks like a perfect example of what happens when kids are admitted to grow up without any accountability
I have been working crazy hours and have my son full-time. I have been going to school on and off day time evening and distance over the years. I am slowly moving forward in life and providing better for my son. I am also teaching him hard work and dedication to pay at the end.
I had my 1st daughter at 19 and was 1 year into college. You make it work. I didn’t really have any help because both of my parents passed away by 18. My husband’s parents were always “busy”. But I made it work and my husband was my support. I know many single moms that have busted their butt to support their children
Exactly. I had my 1 and only child at 21. I worked and went to school while pregnant with her. Jumped right back into school full time when she was 4 months. I'm currently working full time, doing school and running a business all while attending to my now 6 year old daughter. I graduate with my Bachelors next year and then I'm off to medical school. I didn't make excuses, I just did it. And congrats to you, I'm proud of you.💜
How do you treat the people you love like this? I'm 63 my mother died 3 years ago and I am still devastated by it. My mom helped me a lot when I was injured and a single mother. When she asked me to move 250 miles to help her as she aged, I did. I made sure my children were okay with it and I moved up there when my youngest went to college. Did I do it because I owed her? No did I do it because I loved her and would do anything I could to help her? Yes, because that's what you do with family. I had family that was within 20 miles of her and more financially secure than I am but helping her was too much for them. Because of my own health issues I did not see my mother for the last two and a half years of her life. I got to the hospital in time to hold her hand for the last 5 minutes of her life. She was unconscious. Even when I was injured and a single parent I did not PAWN my children off to my parents. My parents are my family and if I needed their help I would have asked for it. No one should just abandon their child and call that child a mistake.
Why have people gotten so cold. She left the baby after a week. She should be arrested for abandonment. People used to have tough hard lives and they got on with it. People now are spoilt. Pleasure generation. Need to grow up and take responsibility. Imagine that poor 6 month old. Babies bond so much with their parents. Its so sad.
I just got chills of pure hatred for the daughter after calling her baby a mistake and saying if she could take it back she would. As a result of the system, I was lucky enough to be born and have a happy and well-earned life due to hard work and perseverance. Hearing what she said makes me weep for her child.
I would never call a child a mistake. I've had 2 miscarriages and now I have a 3 month son. I love him with all my heart, and I never let him out of my sight. He means the world to me. I can't believe women like her exist.
Horrible that they do .My mother, despite a judge being present would have jumped over my dad to get to me , to slap me in the head for my behavior! I wouldn't let her anywhere near that baby .
Hey, some kids are mistakes. That doesn't mean they are bad mistakes. I was never meant to be, but having me saved my father's life. A mistake isn't a bad thing. With that being said, this woman should absolutely NOT be allowed around that child, and the child shouldn't even know she exists.
This is sad. You know how many people are praying to have a child ? Going through a lot and nothing happening. This breaks my heart. Children are a blessing. How can someone say they wish it didn’t happen. That baby is better with hi/she grandparents
There are millions of women out there who are desperate yet unable to conceive. Till date, no word exists to describe this selfish mother who discarded her baby. I think even the lowest of demons cherish their babies. This episode was too painful to watch.
What my grandmother did. She worked for a Dr who was willing to pay for his employees to go to college and she became a nurse and raised 3 kids. Eventually worked for a big hospital after he retired. One day years after she retired the hospital called to ask her what she wanted to do with her $35,000 401K. She repaired her home, replaced her roof, and paid off her debts. She lived comfortably the rest of her days. I miss her. She was always my champion.
@@nicolejayy it’s very sad. Both of their children think they can just drop their children off. How is that ok? I’m very sorry to hear about your situation.
I have a 4 month old beautiful baby girl, and the audacity of this girl saying her child was a mistake….? That is absurd. I don’t even know what life would be like without my daughter. She is the best little girl, she’s with her mom now in Brazil visiting family, didn’t make a peep on the plane all the way from Boston to Brazil, she’s so happy and such a love, I’m so happy to have her in my life, she is so great! I miss her like crazy though! 😊
My mother always reminded me how much she regretted having me and my sister, it took over a decade of therapy with my husband to stop believing it. I hope that baby gets all the love he deserves.
I'm a single mom. I was pregnant at 19 and gave birth a week after I turned 20. I've been working non-stop since I gave birth. I went to school for Dental Assisting and worked in that field for 7 years. I've worked as a temp at warehouses, clothing stores, you name it I've done it. Now, I work from home as an HHA taking care of my mom, and I'm going to school online for Business Administration. There are no excuses when you become a mother. Grandparents are just that, GRANDPARENTS. They're not here to take over your parental duties! That's not their job! It's yours!!
This is the highest level of dyfunctionality and ungratefulness I have seen on daughter. Her level of entitlement is top notch. Thank God for these responsibility grand parents
Thank god my parents were grateful. I was taken at 3/4 due to their drug issues and have lived with my nana ever since. Grandparents have ZERO legal obligation for their grandchildren anything they decide to do is a blessing. I’m not even religious but god bless these grandparents and others like them
What angers me the most is that there are so many people desperate to have a child and Miss Paul just pretty much throws her own child away. I’m so happy to see the grandparents step up but it’s not fair to them.
I was a single mom at 18, full time in college, and living on my own. She needs to be responsible for her son. She was old enough to know what could have come from her actions. That poor baby boy.
I love this judge. She's got everything on its place inside her head. She doesn't take sh**t from anyone and she's a boss. I wish more people were as sane as her.
There are women outside looking for kids and someone has one and she calls him a mistake and doesn't want to take care😢. May God bless the grandparents and the judge
My oldest sister did this to me when I was 12. She left my 2 week old nephew with me and my mom before disappearing for years (still don’t really see her), and it was really hard at first, but we’re honestly so happy about it now. Like it wasn’t a great situation, but I wouldn’t trade it for a million doll hairs. I now have the best little brother in the world, and I just know he’s going to do awesome things in life.
I got pregnant at 16, had him at 17, between my junior and senior year, took him to school with me both highschool and technical college, and graduated from both. I got my highschool diploma and an associates degree in business. When I turned 19, I started having really bad epileptic seizures. Because of them, at 21, my daughter was born 2 months early and spent the first 4 months in the hospital. In 2011 I got a degree in massage therapy. Not long after I graduated from it, I was in a very bad wreck and broke my back, my foot, cracked my hips, did all kinds of damage. I've had health problems since a week before my son turned 2. But I still raised them on my own. The only time my mom took care of them was when I was in the hospital. They're grown now.
Geez!!! And the parents wonder where their daughter got her attitude from. The judge told the mother to pretty much shut her mouth until she was addressed and yet the parents still kept addressing their daughter. 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
I had my daughter at 16 in 1973 and graduated, married her dad had one more at 18 and never did I think it was ok to ditched my responsibility even after the divorce and continued to raise them until they were out of the home and now have grandkids, great grandson - life is good.
