Ruby From 8 Passengers Tells You To Parent Kids Like They Are Military - Who is Taking This Advice?! 

Can’t wait for her to see how much privacy she has in her new four walls! 😂😂

As someone who did not have any privacy growing up (doors weren’t allowed to be closed, no knocking, phones and laptop passwords needing to be known well until I was 18, and a curfew until I was 19. Food was monitored, backpacks were gone through, friends couldn’t come over, never had a sleepover, etc.) I’ll tell you one thing, I have absolutely zero contact with my biological parents and don’t plan to ever again. 🤷🏾‍♀️

There’s a quote that says “narcissists treat their children like they’re adults with bad intentions” and it fits so well

Imagine how exhausting it must be to always assume your kids are up to no good

Ive never wanted to punch a stranger in the face as much as I do when she says distortion 😡

"Your job as a mother is to be constantly scrutinizing her." All I have to say is I'm so glad this isn't my mom.

The way she sees parenting is extremely disturbing. Poor kids, what a nightmare they are experiencing with this woman

Ruby learned the words “distortion” and “manipulation” and RAN with them. She definitely doesn’t hear the words coming out of her mouth as she says them.

"Your job as a mother is to constantly be scrutinizing her" - This line broke my heart for her poor children and the children of the parents that will listen to these BS 'principles'... If all my mother did was scrutinize me as a child/teen, I would be an absolutely broken adult. Shame on you Ruby.

Well, Ruby is living the military-style life now.

I had a parent who did this type of parenting and I’m now unlearning a lot of it for my relationship with my kid. My two cents: do the opposite of what Ruby says and you’ll be okay!

When I was 13/14 my mom found out I was on MySpace and told me she needed to see my profile or I'd have to delete it. I was crying my eyes out. I wasnt hiding anything. But I literally still remember how I felt then, 20 years later. What did she do? Told me why she was concered, discussed online safety, let me keep my account, did not look at it. Here we are now and I tell her EVERYTHING. We've even now read my old journals together for some good laughs. Things could have been much different. Ruby is literally clueless

She said something in one of her videos that parents should not be expected to pay for their kids’ college and that they should work to pay for it themselves. In her specific case, I think that is incredibly unfair. They’ve ALREADY worked for that money that she calls HER money. She basically stole her kids privacy and then stole their money! It should be criminal.

You and Tyson define parental trust. You hassled Tyson about his ugly shirt. Tyson said you bought it and called you a dingleberry. Both of you laughed and carried on. That’s trust.

Rubys thing should actually be called “how to emotionally abuse your children”

Watching this in hindsight of her recent arrest is ASTRONOMICALLY MIND BLOWING 😱😵‍💫👀🤯

Kids are going to start having “fake” journals with parents like this! You instill fear in your child, where you should make them feel safe.

I remember as a pre teen, my mother (who was extremely emotionally and mentally abusive) read my diary by breaking into it while I was at school. My thoughts were so light hearted and special to me. I cried so hard and felt so violated, and she made me feel so shameful for being a human with feelings and thoughts. When I had my son, I made it my mission to never make him feel the same. We are very close. He's a teenager and over time I went from cautiously monitoring him for safety, to viewing his independent choices, to ESTABLISHING trust and not violating it- While SIMULTANEOUSLY reminding him to make good decisions. He let me know he appreciated me for that. Parents need to understand the difference between monitoring kids for SAFETY vs violating privacy. It is a very intimate thing and really makes people, regardless of age, feel secure, helps to build self esteem, and actually can make children feel more comfortable to be open with you. This female, Ruby, is absurd.

My 21 year old daughter was hearing this while we ate dinner. She's home from college for the summer. Her exact words were " Wtf is wrong with that lady?" She said and I quote "I would quit college and get a job to get away from a mom like that".

Who’s going to tell Ruby she is insane?! I feel so bad for her kids and any kids whose parents take advice from her!

My kids love, trust and respect me as I do them so I guess I'm in "distortion" and it feels pretty damn amazing.

This from a woman who took away Christmas from 2 of her children as a "present" for them. Unbelievable.

This woman is in a different fkn dimension. I truly feel so sorry for her children which in turn worries me how they will be as adults. I hope they get the chance to love the life they choose on their own. 😵‍💫

Imagine Ruby going to visit her children's homes in the future, and then them forcing her to change her adult diaper with the door open because its "their" home, and they own the bathroom. 🤣🤣🤣 I'm dying!

If I hear her say „principal of truth“ ever again, you will have to admit me into a mental hospital

My grandfather was in the Air Force during the Second World War, shot down by the Nazis and survived a POW camp. He continued being a part of the military in his hometown after the war, although he was diagnosed with PTSD, but he was always a super loving and caring father and grandfather, stern when he needed to be, but never invasive of privacy. He had two daughters, my dads older sisters, but he loved them and treated them with so much respect

God I wish we could fast forward 10 years and see if her kids even talk to ruby!

I’m just thinking about this little girl. She’s a stranger in her own home and now she can’t even trust that her diary is protected. She has no way to express herself. This is bad. This child is a prisoner. It’s heartbreaking.

♥️ Tyson is a beautiful young man. You’ve done right by him and it shows. There is love between you two and it touches my heart. Made my day!! ♥️

When I was worried about my daughter when she was 17, because there was so many signs that she was being abused by her boyfriend, I had my 12 year old watch her unlock her phone so I could read their messages. And it was awful. I was horrified at the things he was doing to her but I couldn’t do anything other than love her because I had invaded her privacy and it was WRONG. I knew that. And I couldn’t tell her because I knew it would push her away from me. She’s 26 now, married to a wonderful man with a precious baby, and now I have told her what I did. She’s like Tyson on that she doesn’t hold any grudges and she has told me how bad her life was at the time. All you can do as a parent is be available for your children when they come to you, by open to what they say to you, love them unconditionally, hold your shock down so they don’t clam up, and never judge them. Comfort them, trust them and be there to pick up the pieces when they need you. This woman is disgusting and it’s alarming that she is giving advice. Thank god she is not my mother or the mother of anyone I love. Josh this is terrible 🥲

Sounds like she is quoting her own kids. “You need to give me privacy.” “You don’t care about me.” “You’re invading my space.” “Those are my personal feelings.”

This gives me the impression that she’s trying to portray herself as a therapist, which is extremely alarming. Please don’t ever take advice from someone like this 😭

Reading your child’s journal is definitely going to become a core memory. I started to write journals since I was 8, I am a very sensitive person so I felt a lot of emotions everyday and the only way to express them safely was through journaling *I wasn’t very close to my parents since I was raised by my grandparents until I was 7. I still remember that one day when I was 9 years old woke up to my mom not only reading my personal diary out loud but to all my relatives who are the most gossip thirsty mf’s I know. I knew from then that she had been frequently reading my journals and sharing the contents with her friends and relatives, which was mortifying. So I did come up with a solution and that is I created my own language & code to write my journal in, the only person who is ever going to be able to read that journal was me. It took a while to become “fluent” but it was so worth it. However I did feel guilty for doing this because I was so concerned of disobeying my parents *btw my parents also took off the doors of my room AND bathroom, I didn’t know that it was weird until i had my bf at 19 years old. I didn’t know until I left my family for uni, that my experience was considered a violation of privacy & I grew up in a constant state of anxiety, being scared of disobeying them, because it was “their house, their rules” my parents also have never apologized, and it’s so true because I have no sense of humility. I struggled a lot in relationships (friendships, romantic relationships) because I didn’t know WHEN to apologize

She should write a book; "how to raise the next perfect serial killer"

The saddest thing for me is the fact that Ruby is doing all of this because she thinks it’s the best way to parent. Poor kids.

This is so unbelievable that it literally feels like I’m watching satire… the terrifying part is that she’s dead serious. Very scary

If you teach children that love doesn’t equate to privacy and trust, you can not expect them to seek and find healthy relationships when they are older. I foresee these children entering into very dangerous relationships one day. It’s common knowledge and common sense that the first models in life are parents. This is a treacherous slope she is creating.

Ruby reminds me of my step mom. I had zero privacy, she read my journals where I had documented sexual abuse I went thru in great detail. They knew that I was abused and pressed me for details that I didnt want to share. So instead she read my journals and CRITICIZED me for having been victimized. I've had more therapy for the time I lived with her and my dad than I have had for sexual abuse that lasted a year from 11 to 12. I ran away at 17 a few days before 18. Funny u mention burying journals. I ended up doing that to protect my privacy. I burried a box of them in an empty lot in my neighborhood. (Theres a house built over it now)

My journals were read as a teenager and it was incredibly damaging to my trust with my parents, and even to this day in my late 20s I don’t trust journals. I’m grown, married, and live in my own home but subconsciously I do not trust being able to right my own thoughts down for fear they may be seen.

I'm a survivor of several programs in the "troubled teen industry," similar to the wilderness program that Ruby sent one of her kids away to. I was sent across the country to Utah to a wilderness program in the middle of winter at 14 years old and was immediately sent to a residential "treatment" center. These programs traumatized me for nearly the nearly two years I was held there in the name of "therapy." I just wanted to say that watching your reaction to this is very cathartic for me.

The more I watch her talk the more I realize how amazing living in "distortion" is

I wish I could spend an hour with Ruby in a room she can't leave. I would never hurt her (physically) but damn if she wouldn't leave that room with a new version of TRUTH.

This really makes my heart ache for her poor children. Just as simple as wanting a private journal (or a bedroom)

Everyone that listens to her should parent the exact opposite. Kids are human, they deserve trust, respect and PRIVACY.

I love how she's acting like she's just a parenting expert. 🙄

I learned how to do ‘joined up ‘ writing backwards, a bit like mirror writing only I still wrote from right to left. So even if my diary was found, they’d have had to use a mirror and go word by word, and I threw ‘nonsense’ words into every line. I wasn’t writing about doing anything bad, but I had a pretty difficult childhood which I couldn’t talk to anyone about, so I put my feelings down on paper and I didn’t want ANYONE ever reading it. Thankfully I don’t believe anyone ever tried to read it. It was locked and very well concealed, but I NEEDED that outlet, it pretty much saved my life. Btw Josh, thank you for correctly pronouncing tw@t. I wondered if Canadians mispronounced it like many Americans, who seen to rhyme it with trot and cot rather than cat and flat! Sorry, it’s a silly comment but I’m a big fan of your correcting folks words…like ‘guyses’, that stuff annoys me too lol! Keep up the good work!

Honestly, I believe once most of her children hit 18, their going to go live with their grandparents/aunts and uncles and never look back at Ruby, or if they do, it'll be to ensure the younger ones are ok. She's going to grow old very lonely at this rate

my dad put in all of our ( childern) rooms a safe and only we had a key. he told me that I can keep all things I dont want noone to touch in there. as a 6 years old I put my barbies there ( it was quite big safe) later i kept my diary there. yes my dad did check my room time to time to see if it was clean ( he demanded a room to be clean) but that was it. Once my brother found my safe key and wanted to open my safe and my dad punished him ( he couldnt watch TV for a week) and told him that no matter what you are never allowed to look or snoop around anyones private things. and we are christians. my dad never once broke the trust and that what made me realize what boundaries are and what love really is. when I told something i was conserned about to my mom or dad they always asked is it okey if I talk about it to my wife/husband. i trusted them more than I can say and still do.

Doesn’t believe in her kids having privacy, then proceeds to share personal intimate details of their life for money. Hope she’s saving some of that money to send her kids to the therapy they’re going to desperately need. But she strikes me as someone who doesn’t believe in therapy because “God is in control.” She could definitely benefit from a mental health evaluation herself. And that’s not to shame her. She needs help.

While I agree that parents shouldn’t try so hard to be their kids’ friends, this woman is making it seem like you shouldn’t even be nice to your kid. You can be strict and set boundaries but still be nice to your kids. Her idea of parenting is live living in North Korea. She is nuts.

My mom looked at my private journal when i was a teenager. I grew up very controlled and i wasn't really free to express emotions, so i let it all out in my diary. I was grounded for its content for a month. I made up a "code" so that no one could read it except me, and when my parents found out they burned it and didn't allow me to keep a journal anymore. I was 15.

If Ruby ever has apologized to her children it was probably "I'm sorry you feel that way."

Wow. I am actually terrified for those kids. I think it's really dangerous that Ruby seems to think there's a one size fits all approach to parenting, thats ridiculous. Even within the same household every kid is different, and their relationship with their parents should be unique to them. I'm 20 now and in college, and I just know a parenting approach like this would have sent me down the wrong path. I was extremely independent and liked making decisions for myself, but luckily I was also a good kid and made generally good decisions, so my parents gave me that leeway. They always trusted me and gave me the freedom that I showed them I could handle. I just can't imagine what it would feel like to Ruby's kids being constantly not good enough in their parents eyes, constantly under scrutiny and not even worth an ounce of freedom/privacy.

Truly sad for those children. Psychological abuse narcissistic behavior , they have to be in complete total control. Ruby and Kevin need serious help and fast. I wish we could rescue the younger ones in the home.

I grew up with a mom who went through my things on a daily basis (I was such a badass too, 15, church goer, never broke curfew...yeah I can see how I was a danger...) This made me promise myself that I would never even for a second let my child feel like I was made to feel. My child's room is their sacred place, I don't go in unless invited (basically I'm doing the opposite of what was done to me, and it's worked like a charm)

You and your son have a beautiful relationship, I loved when he called you a Dingle Berry at the door lol

Ruby is something else. I feel soooo sorry for her kids.

I told my 17 year old son this scenario. He said the daughter won't trust her mom with anything ever again.

Im more and more convinced that Ruby doesn’t know the definition of distortion, like back in the day when people would say literally for everything.

When Ruby talks about being in "truth" and "distortion" sounds a whole lot like Lori Vallow and we know how that ended up!!! Also, this is very similar to how I grew up (funie christian parents) and now I don't want to be a parent, don't have a relationship with them, living my childhood dream life with my husband and healing from past trauma.

just clicked on and watching from the beginning...have to say, your lad sounds like a very level headed, intelligent young man. Can tell he's been raised in the right way, with the right to develop into the young adult he is now. Thanks for the input Tyson! Very honest and realistic response I think most of us would have, but its nice to hear from someone closer to the age.

My youngest son was a teenager. He had a journal. That was his privacy. He is 27 years old now. I was cleaning his room. I saw it. I didn't read it. This is when he was a teenager. Years later, he thank me for not reading his journal. I told him. That his your thoughts and privacy.

Having a trusting relationship with my children is not wrong Rubes!!

I am so glad that I decided to not follow the trend of looking at my children’s text messages, social media accounts and looked for things in their rooms. Kids need their privacy and they need to make mistakes. I let them close their doors and always knocked before going into THEIR room. I did not tell them it was my house. My children did not ask to be born, I choose to have them. The least I could do was show them respect. Parents do not own children.

I am so thankful my parents weren’t like this! As a child and teen, I knew a family who adopted kids and once they got to their teen years, “couldn’t handle them” and they essentially asked the police to “help” them and take them to jail. One kid even went back to live with their birth parents AFTER ADOPTION and had no contact with the parents who adopted them after that. I remember always being confused.. how is jail going to fix them being sassy or getting mad? And thinking if I was sent to jail for being a teenager I would be so mad and hate everyone even more. I totally understand jail for a real crime but jail is not a time out for attitude, getting angry, ect. Ect.

oh my goodness... she gets even worse! this is my house, my space? what a cruel person she is! I can feel for her teenage daughters and son!

As someone who grew up in a house with similar ideas of "privacy", I know how damaging this can be for children and their relationship with their parents.

My dog will not stop growling and barking at Ruby while I'm watching this. That says a lot about her.

I feel like these moms feel like their children should be prefect/ without sin. Everyone is sinful including you Ruby. They are young humans that need love , guidance and grace not constant punishment for being human

My ex sis in law was a lot like Ruby and now her daughter is rebelling to the fullest ..

He has your mannerisms! Love it! I have a 15 year old stepson who we struggle with so much. He is the literal best student (first in his class 4.3 gpa freshman year) but he constantly messes up with real life. A few weeks ago he stole gunny worms from a theme park.... He used to lie and stay up until 2am talking to his girlfriend on the phone... Idk if this is "normal" because I had a strict upbringing with lack of privacy and no phone until I was 18. We struggle with trying to ride that line of giving him responsibility and privacy without letting him think he has control (cause, yeah still a kid!) We also coparent with someone completely opposite making the whole thing super volatile. Not sure why I'm sharing just looking someone else to validate that being a parent to a teen is HARD!!! And everyone messes up sometimes!

I died laughing when your son called you a dingleberry because that’s such a Josh saying

I found out my parents read my diary as a late teen (I'm 35 now), and I lost so much trust in them and also almost completely lost interest in writing as an outlet. It's really a shame when parents feel that it's ok the violate trust that deeply. Then several years later a boyfriend admitted to reading my diary when he found it. Didn't bother me as much as knowing my parents had gone into my room and searched it when I wasn't home, but still don't understand the lack of basic boundaries and respect that people can have.

There is no way that Ruby actually shows affection to her children. They must feel so unloved. Ruby has no clue about West Point. There is privacy, it's a college after all. The government is sinking a lot of money into each cadet, unless this cadet was going out of their way to not wear the correct uniform they wouldn't be expelled. Getting onto the campus requires a reason to be there and an ID. Nobody is trying to break into West Point either Ruby. Maybe the US Mint West Point Facility.

Regarding the whole journal thing, this has just crossed my mind, if the parent reads it then it could stop the child using a fabulous tool getting her thoughts and feelings on paper. So what does the child do now???? The thoughts and feelings are still going around somewhere, then come out as self harm or other behaviours. If as a parent, you have concerns, allow space for conversation. You don't necessarily need to read the journal. Also as a parent - are you prepared for what you are going to read, it could be really great or be really bad. So what are you going to do?? This statement applies to so many situations in life - just because we can does it mean we should. Yes you can read journal, does it mean you should.......????? I would love to know what Ruby's kids think and feel now that they are no longer vlogging day to day life BUT their mom (and dad) are in this Mom's of Truth and Connexions. I think "newer" stuff is worse!! Josh, thank you for what you do.

Tyson is so sweet, great to see him. You've done a great job with him!

I would never let someone read my journal and it’s literally just random thoughts and goals for the future - nothing that deep or personal or dAnGeRoUs. I just simply like to be able to write in my journal without ever having to pause and wonder how it would be perceived by someone else.

"Your job as a mother is to be constantly scrutinizing her." HER POOR CHILDREN.

"If Ruby could beat her kids with a belt, she absolutely would beat her kids with a belt." 😳

Holy sheets! Here is Ruby in a nutshell. She hates herself, she lives in fear. She hates being a caring loving warm nurturing mother. She is a narcissist who is so insecure and unsure of her own beliefs so much if you don't agree with her you are in distortion. She makes my brain short circuit. Never once did she mention Love! WHAT ABOUT LOVING YOUR KIDS INTO BEING GOOD HUMANS! I'm so darn mad right now . God please protect her children from her.

I’m just going to say uuuuuurrrrrggggg this woman is creepy and SOOOOO wrong. Nice to see your son again. 👏👏👏 he’s so smart!!!

I’m going to use “Principles of Truth” with the family tonight. I’ll let you know how they react. 🤣

That talk with Tyson was lovely, you really can see that he trusts you, and was raised with respect. ❤

“Those are my personal feelings.” The daughter says that & the mom thinks that MANIPULATIVE?!!! Are these weirdos serious????

Did anyone see Bonnie's vlog where her kids did the tortilla tiktok challenge? I thought, ohhh, don't let your aunt Ruby and Uncle Kevin see this.

All jokes aside, this is honestly concerning. Saying that you can never trust your child is truly scary.

I find satisfaction in knowing it probably drives Ruby CRAZY that she can't actually hear her kids thoughts in their brains, like she can't read their minds. 🤣

The best part of this whole video was that Tyson called you a dingleberry hahah. Honestly, it's my favourite word.

Omg.. I would PAY to see Ruby have a discussion with Josh. 😂😂😂🤣♥️

Love you Josh! Just watched this and am blown away! I counted..Distortion=20 times. In truth= 15 times. She's lost her mind!!

I was a teenager in the 80’s so parents didn’t have to deal with cell phones or social media but child privacy issues were still a thing. Personally, my Mother absolutely respected our privacy so we never kept anything from her. So, yeah, the more you respect your kids privacy, the the less they will try to hide. Would Ruby be ok with her kids reading her journal?! Or going through her purse? Of course not. Not because she has anything to hide but because IT’S PRIVATE!!!!!! Kids deserve privacy just like adults do. Ruby is giving parenting advice here, but 14 months later, you, Ruby Franke, just pleaded guilty to torturing your children!!!!!!!!!!!!

The first part where she is reading out the comment/post thing, makes me feel like I am in some really bad high school english class where the actual english teacher is away. So the teacher is a sub and is usually the religion teacher, so she is clueless and doesn't actually know what she is saying but she is just going to pretend she is confident and think we will all be dumb enough to be tricked into thinking she actually knows what she is talking about 😂😂😂

Her oldest child recently turned 18 and she thinks that makes her an expert on parenting. First of all, you forced her out at 18, forced her to go to college where her father teaches, and won’t allow her to live at home while attending school. Just because your child survived to adulthood does not make some kind of expert on parenting. Who told you to do this? Who told you the world needed your parenting advice? Your so high and mighty and think you are perfect Ruby, news flash…. Your not. She is a cultist!!!!!

Imagine if Ruby was treated the way she talks about privacy. If she has no private items, if she has no door, no bed etc.

Here’s the thing about her West Point analogy…. Those are all adults. And those in positions of power are not their parents. A child/parent relationship isn’t even comparable. She’s beyond irresponsible with the message she’s spreading.

I am watching this after Ruby has spent time in prison/ been sentenced, and wonder what she thinks about privacy now????

Ah I am so proud of Tyson and you Josh such an inspiration!❤️ You both went thru a lot and became this amazing human beings… so so so proud. Love your family! Wish you all the best from buttom of my heart!

This mother needed to speak to a therapist, a licensed trained professional that went to college and studied this stuff for years to seek this type of advice for her daughter. NOT Ruby and these random people online who know nothing about this and are just pulling mormon terms and crazy vocabulary words out of their asses. It’s so crazy now these days how people turn to the internet and take shitty advice from these narcissists online who exploit their kids. Facebook needs to ban that group immediately and not allow these people to speak on things they aren’t educated on at all.

I know a mom like this. I’m sorry I missed the live. I knew a mom like this. We went to this parenting class at our church for parents of tweens and teens. We were like “Yea, no!!” We went to a three day marriage intensive a couple years later. She was there. Her husband never showed up.

Now Ruby knows what ”No privacy” feels like