Kimberly is bringing her granddaughter's mother, Nikki, to court for child support. She says Nikki does not provide any financial support and barely visits with her granddaughter, Sterling.
Me personally they should have dismissed the case because they needed to.found out how much that boy that's in the army or Marines is making first not just put everything on the mom ........
You saw this. I saw a mother who fell pregnant too soon in her life. I saw a mother who hesitate to give birth because of a very good reason, she was too young. I totally believe in the agreement. I totally believe the young mother has been convinced by this agreement to give birth, thinking the grand-mother would keep her word. There are chances without this agreement, the baby wouldn't see the daylight at all. It happens a lot, certainly more than we know. In this case, the mother would be right and the grand-mother would be wrong. The problem is now the grand-mother is struggling with this agreement and want the mother to take the responsibility she didn't want to have in a first place to help her. She said it herself, the mother is having fun partying, living her youth as she wanted and it upsets the grand-mother as she can't on her own.
Right? Like I don't understand at all!! I didn't have a child in college (I have a 5mo now), but I did work a full-time and part-time job, plus was enrolled full-time for in-person classes. She just wants to party instead of work lol. These parents are something else I swear!
Hope isn’t totally lost. Me and my partner had our baby together at 19. We are now 23. Our little girl is with us everyday and we have a very happy life. Makes me so sad seeing parents like this girl
@@tamtamxtamI remember being in foster care. It was for a year I was 2-3 probably one of the worst times of my life😭. You remember your mom not being there
Here's the thing, at 2 you don't remember that at all, but part of you will never forget. Part of my family completely disowned me because for some reason they didn't like my mom, that ruined my relationship I could've had with them, anytime I'm with them I don't feel very welcomed. It's hard for me to be with them because of what they did during the time when I wasn't making memories. I don't remember what happened but I always knew something was wrong there, when I got the full story from my mom with all the documentation to prove it I felt this great sense of relief because I thought there was something wrong with me that I wasn't happy there
I was a single dad going to school full time and had a part time job. It’s hard going to school all day, it’s brutal coming home to parent, but it is totally worth it hearing “I love you dad.” I feel for the girl having neither parent in her life, but am glad that she has a seemingly wonderful grandma.
I was a young mom at 17, single, working and school, yes it is hard, one day I was sad, and my daughter was 6 at the time, she hugged me and said, “you’re a good mom, mommy.” I then thought to myself, “this is what keeps me going.” ❤️🙌🏻
How about why encourage children to have a child when their broke. Always screaming this it's good to struggle B.S. this dumb woman told her son to have a baby when they weren't ready. The son was leaving and the girl was leaving to better them selves. Stop telling people you'll take care of the kid when you're broke and can't take care of a kid.
I slept maybe a couple hours a day for 25 years so my kids had what they needed to succeed. While doing that I also went to school and worked my butt off. Do what you are suppose to do you lazy arrogant person
i have so much respect for the grandmother. not only is she raising her grand baby, she’s dealing with the stress of having a deployed loved one. i hope she gets all the great things in life that she deserves!!
The middle-aged woman will return to re-raising children, a job from which she is supposed to retire. Like you, I hope and pray that better days will hurry by. I like your style.
Judge Vonda said "Mom doesn't do anything!" Anything except go to the clubs, drink and party. But she's a "Social Media Influencer"!! Yeah, but she's getting paid too - she just doesn't want to part with that money!! Bet that little girl doesn't even know her mama!! Sad! God bless Grandma for stepping up and raising the child!! At least she cares - it's pretty obvious that mom doesn't!!
I feel like it's better for it not to be on TV as when it reaches TV there's so much BS that makes it feel less authentic, like using buzz words, being funny, etc. Watch people's court and couples court and it just seems so disingenuous.
@Robert Fox I recently found this channel, this judge makes decisions based on the law and common sense. This show would probably never make tv eventhough it should because it doesn't fit the narrative that all the fathers are absent in their child's life. Take a half day off from work and go sit in your county family court.
Yes and that's possible. My mom didn't want me either, but she sure loves me to death. If she had made the decision to not have me, I would get that. She's an awesome human but humans have limits. Grow up.
Not wanting a child child doesn't make you a bad parent. In today's western society a lot of people have children they weren't planning on having. Doesn't mean you don't love them once they get here. How you respond when the child gets here determines your parenting. On the other hand she sounds like a bad parent but the two aren't synonymous.
She basically was trying to give mom , her child . The child she never wanted in the first place . There are many forms of birth control . If she is in college she should’ve been smarter then that . That’s sad . And yes the child will remember when mom wasn’t there . We all have are own past experiences.
As a preschool teacher for kids between 2-4 yrs old…this is completely untrue. 2 year olds have come to me saying: “I miss my mommy. I don’t see her much” and it’s heartbreaking.
Frfr my granddaughter 18months and she remember if she having a cuts up spend a nite an tell her it can be such a and such nite she be remembering😂 she talks like sailor and her memory is something else lol That’s a shame I help my son and his finance go to working and my son having a little business and her she work and go to school I help them but they take they baby home I’m just the grandmother and do what grandmother to and do to help them
“I’m an influencer” “And you can send money for sterling *sips coffee* 👀” “And I do” “And you don’t *sips coffee* 👀” I love her 🤣 & the Grandmother is so beautiful & facial expressions have me weak 🤣🤣🤣
When she said 2,000 my heart DROPPED. I get NO financial aid I'm a full time student with bills and I get paid $1,400 a month from the VA. So when I say I have money left over, I do. I had a job and no kid .She is FOUL mother
I was thinking the same till they said NYC. At 2000 a month, she lives in a shi* hole or a place with Many roomates. The average rent there right now is $4000-5000 a Month. It's Insane. I get why she has everything maxed out. The rent issue was in the news. Now granted this was months ago. But even then the average was $2500 to $3500 a Month. So most people don't get that and can't relate. If she was in say, Ohio, or Indiana I'd totally agree though. (Only talking about the lack of money part). But ya, in general, she is still an awful mom.
Also, this internet stranger is proud of you. I know how hard the struggle is. I went through it and my oldest is going through it now. But keep fighting the good fight! That finish line will be So, So much sweeter because you worked so hard to get there. 🎉❤
Nope. Unless a child support is filed then they will take it out of the paycheck. I watched my grandkids while both parents were on deployment. Parents paid the child care only.
“i didn’t choose this life” but she did when she had the baby. grandma ain’t put a gun to her head and said “you’re having this baby” ms.gurl need to take responsibility. school is not an excuse to not take care of your child.
She actually had a metaphorical gun to her head when grandmother said she wanted another child and the opportunity was with the grandchild. This girl can easily win this is another court but ethically, it would be shitty for her to do so coz it would mean abandoning the child completely. However, her claim is valid, the grandmother wanted the child as hers.......
@@marzadky4934 "metaphorically gun"....a social pressure or Peer pressure?.. It's an interesting topic I'm not mad but I've been called blunt so excuse me if I come out some what mean But I think regardless if u give in to the pressures of society that responsibility is still on the person that took action .... sure mom [grandma] had input but society is full of input and we still need to make our own choices and she still choose to go with that input over her own judgement That metaphorical gun isnt gonna do anything but add weight to an option she doesnt need to take and it might be hard to go against but hard doesnt mean impossible or she cant ..it just mean you have to put more work then u want to put in.. Ontop of that ....she knows her mom and should had an idea what she would and would not approve And should know how much she values her moms opinion or how Much of a pain her mom can be when she does something her mom disapproves of [ IF that's the case cause I've know some people 😬] And if either way she is a grown woman who had unprotected sex ..when u have unprotected sex u can get a baby and/ or a STD .... that's not uncommon knowledge.. so she is aware of the risk she was making with those action and responsibility that come with either options should something happen and these can be prevent before social pressure can even become a significant part of the equation but people *choose* to be reckless for some quick gratification. But consequence can last longer then the action and ca ripple through other parts of your life ..... people shouldnt choose action on short term gratification or to "avoid" other option cause even choosing to do nothing is a choice but the possible consequences and responsibilities that'll will come with those choices will never be as easy to get rid of as just choosing the action that would be hard to do in the present but have the consequences you willing to take on in the future Consequences doesnt nessercially mean anything good or bad even tho it's used more on the negative side. I mean it more as a cause and effect..
I mean let the girl finish her schooling and maybe she CAN found a better job or career or something ...... but that grandmother I feel she should have stayed obligated to just pay for everything until she found out how much that boy is making from the army or Marines.......because let the girl go to school and maybe she can try to do something with the degree if she's going to school in New York...to provide financial supporrt through her degree ....... and another thing is the boy that is in the military or Marines ...... they should dismiss the case because they need to found out how much he's making and have him pay child support.......tell him to send a military or marines' notice or something of how much he is making in Marines or army then gooo from there but don't have that girl just obligated
@@wfsweinthere234 she pushed the child out of her and flat out said “i didn’t want the child.” she should be paying CS period. yes the father should be checked out but the mom has to take responsibility as well. she’s not being a mother or taking care of the child. she would not be in court if she was. my mom struggled just like this “mother”did. my mom had 4 kids and was a single mother and still made time to go to school and work and STILL take care of us. it’s possible.
When I had my oldest, I went to college full time, worked, and took care of him as a single mom. I'm glad my dad helped with a place to live while I finished school.
Really sounds like grandma talked her out of aborting the baby or giving up the baby. The daughter kept saying I wanted to wait. I didn't want this. Daughter says grandma chose this.
Unpopular opinion here...I think she got pregnant and was going to abort it. The son and his mom convinced her not to. Now the son is deployed and Grandma is holding the bag.
This “mother” needs to sign over her rights. She birthed the baby, but is not a mother. I was a single mom for over 4 years. I worked, went to school full time, did all the laundry, shopping illness etc. I did it all! This woman has abandoned her child.
I don't think she did. I think that she was bullied into giving birth, with the We'll take care of her, if you have her speech. She should have signed over her rights at birth.
“I’m an influencer” if I hear that one more time from a woman, I’m gonna lose my hair follicles. Everyone women says this. She sounded like she wanted to “party” more than be responsible. If your daughter was the “best thing” than your actions would say so
I work in daycare. I have served several women/mommies who have several children whilst they try to finish college and work part time. Years later, when they visit daycare just to say hi, I’m in tears because the kids are grown, obviously mommy made it and it’s a beautiful thing. The struggle is real but it’s so worth it!!!
This is along the lines of where my mind was. There are so am h men and women going to school, working, AND caring their children. They sacrifice sleep, getting their nails and hair done, etc because they care about those babies and want to give them a better life. She is fortunate there is a grandmother that is taking the care of the child off of her plate so the very minimum she could do is get a steady job to send money home to help. Oh, and when you say you are an influencer but you ain’t got money rolling in in deals, baby, no, you are a person with social media accounts!!
I was raised by my grandparents for the most part my grandmother took on all 9 of her grandchildren for years at a time. All of us thank God for her daily ❤
I stg!! She said “ maybeeee $2000 a month” I said OMFG this girl is NUTS! She REALLY, wholeheartedly feels like this lady should take care of her daughter by herself and that she shouldn’t have to do anything for HER baby because she’s in school 😳 & $269/month is literally NOTHING!
How I see it. Homegirl didn’t want to have a baby but the grandma begged her to keep it. You can’t force someone to be a mother when they tell you they don’t want to be.
I'm pretty shure grandma told her she will help her and she is twisting her words. She need to be clear and tell the judge and grandmother that she will give up parental right and grandmother can adopt baby ,She need to stop pretending she is a good mother ,or a good human, and our taxes need to stop paying this stupid woman students loan,that is in college and and can even put a coherent sentence together , is a lier ,and most like it taking grands as a struggling single mother ,Stop enabling bad women behavior or bad behavior despite of gender ,She is a disgrace for women, mothers and humans .
That mother was a horrible , Self centered, person. I don’t want to say what I truly think of her. But thank you Judge ,you did an amazing job. The Attitude coming out of this woman’s mouth, with the physical gestures, I wanted to scream .
It’s entitlement. Part of the blame for her behavior is her parents and this is true for many millennials and gen Z. She takes zero responsibility even after the ruling she rudely tells the woman who is raising her child “are you happy now?” It’s so disrespectful. Being abandoned and emotionally rejected as a baby stays with you and even if her daughter won’t remember everything her subconscious will and she will have have to deal with those feelings later in life.
Okay, so why didn't she terminate rights to the child then? I mean, she said she didn't want this life. If she is going to leave the kiddo anyway, then terminate rights and stop pretending.
@@mariejones7332 Simple: Grandma says: Don't abort, I'll raise the kid while you go to college. Daughter says "Yes." In this context, "yes" does not mean "I want nothing to do with the kid." After the kid was born, she obviously got attached to it. However, she stuck with the plan believing grandma. Now she's in a position where she can't abandon her kid and she can't continue college either. So, either her boyfriend helps her out, she gets a job besides college, or she gives up college altogether to take care of the kid. Either way, the grandma-mom relationship will take quite a huge hit.
My mom had 3 kids went to school and worked full time. My mom was there for everything we did. I look back now and don't know how she did it. She was amazing at 45 I still think my mom Is superwoman..
I think the grandmother is paternal. She didn't raise Nikki. Most military people being deployed cannot have their children with them, so someone else takes care of them. I hope she stays with grandma and when the father comes back or retires from military, he can take custody .
To all the teens and young adults watching this video, or been dealing with situations like this in their lives,, don't let your parents coerce/guilt you into having a kid you do not want. Sometimes parents get so caught up in wanting to be grandparents, they will "PURPOSELY" ignore the fact that you're in no financial and/or emotional position to have the child in the first place.
To the young teens who don't want to have a child...make sure you and your partner are using contraceptive to avoid a unwanted pregnancy. Contrary to popular belief, dismembering a innocent unborn is not the answer. Prevention is.
Recruiter for the Navy here… depending on the branch, the father should’ve been placed on child support in addition to health insurance. In some cases, even if the member gives up temporary custody they are still required to pay child support. Both parents should be placed on child support in my opinion, and I’m glad the judge made them both pay.
@@Bennimiir I watched it. However, having been in the military for 20 years, its rare for a service member to leave their kids for training or a deployment and not have monthly payments setup for the child's caregiver.
When I heard her say she's an influencer.....I IMMEDIATELY WENT "😮💨🙄🤦🏽♀️" Because any "influencer" that acts and behaves like THAT...poor kid is all I can say😒
" 🥴 Im studying fulltime && having fun as an influencer while my mother in law does all the work being a mother to my kid while the father is in military 🥴 && im a great mother" This mother is woooow !! Thank you to everyone that does take these kids in 🙏
Man, I am so glad that grandparents are there to step up when the parent won't. My grandmother took my younger brother and I in when we were kids and now that I'm an adult with a child myself, I fully realize what she had to do to raise us. What she had to sacrifice for us. And just how uncaring my parents were. I shudder to think what my life would have been like if I had to stay with either one of them
That’s exactly how I feel. I am very grateful for my grandparents when my dad kicked me out in 2020 at night I was terrified and my grandparents rushed from Huntersville North Carolina to Salisbury North Carolina to come and pick me up and they got me back on my feet they you know let me stay with them until I finish my first semester of college at the University and then they helped me apply for healthcare benefits because my dad had cut me off from getting healthcare. They help me get my own phone they show me how to organize my medical bills everything and I was so so so grateful for both of them they took me to go get my teeth fixed because that use of dental damage they take me to the dentist so I can get my teeth fixed and everything and then once a week as well in my mom and stepfather we’re over there Covid and my grandmother was over her Covid then I was able to move in with my mom and my stepdad which was awesome because then they helped me out, so grandparents are awesome.
I was also raised by grandmother and also had 4 of own and helped my youngest daughter raise 4 grandchildren and all of us are doing just fine Thanks To Heavenly Father and Mother.
I feel like she's saying had grandma not made this "agreement" she would've chosen to have an abortion. She seems like she's too focused on her own life. I don't know if once she finished school she was going to take the child back. If yes, then the child support payments are warranted. If she has no intention of that then she should give up parental rights. She seems to not want the responsibility and wants to tag in when it's convenient. That's not healthy for children
Correct me if I’m wrong but I don’t think you can just give up your rights and end up not paying support. Because the judge isn’t there for you but the child so no one cares if you don’t want the kid…. The point is it exists. I mean men can’t even choose abortion she could have so she really doesn’t have an excuse.
My parents both raised me while working full time and doing online masters degree programs. My grandparents were a huge part in not only supporting my family financially, but emotionally as well. If it wasn't for my grandparents, I wouldn't have had the amazing childhood that I did. But my parents still did everything in their power to support my brother and I while spending as much time with us as possible. I am so incredibly blessed to have the family that I do, and seeing a case like this makes my blood boil. I hope that little girl gets the love and support that she needs
I can relate, my dad abandoned us before I was even born, and my mom lost her job due to her pregnancy. My mom moved us into my grandparents house and they raised me while my mom worked a 40 hour job plus went back to school to better support me. My mom saw me 5-6 days outta the week and the 2 days he worked and had college classes right after, she took time to call to see how I was. God bless sterling’s grandma💜
That arrangement could have worked had the mom not been a deadbeat. My mom and paternal grandparents did this exact arrangement for me when I was born up until I was 4. My mom was in college and would get me on the weekends and leave me with them during the week. She helped out still and WAS STILL MY MOM at the same time
The mother and father should be paying for the 2 Year old’s child’s care not the grandma. You don’t have a child because somebody else wants the child. She’s a lousy Mom.
i disagree i think it is hard cause i did the same i give u allot of credit!! i had no help from friends or family i did get child care subsidy i got a 3rd job to try to better myself and i lost my child care so i had to quit it their some good people like us who do our best i wish their dad was a citizen and didnt pass it wouldnt have been as hard with alittle financial help i love my kids to death and I wish i could have been their more but i did the best i can! ur an amazing momma !!!
so does she tell her fans that she dumped her baby because she was inconvenient and wanted to party and do her own thing? so is she saying this is a good thing to do. I just hope her followers know the difference between right and wrong
I believe her when she says that her mother asked her to have that baby and she framed it like this is a blessing, I'll take care of her you can still accomplish your goals blah blah blah. I think the grandmother hoped that she would change her mind want the baby and then do more, but that girl is doing what they agreed to. I believe that 100%. Where She Went Wrong was at the end of the day you still had that baby, so if you didn't want to be involved you should have just completely relinquished your rights
Thank you! I was saying the same thing. I’m sure the grandmother convinced her to keep the baby knowing the girl didn’t want it at the time. Smh but the mom is definitely wrong for not giving something towards the child at all.
I totally agree. I had a baby for someone and got left with it alone. She didn't want the child and they begged her to have it and take care of it now they are mad because she's holding up her end of the bargain. I actually feel sorry for the mother
This lady is amazing (the biological mother) I was in college when I found out I was pregnant dropped out and went back when my son was in kindergarten and was a ft student plus I worked several jobs. I can’t imagine being recorded saying several different ways I didn’t want my child. 🤦🏾♀️ I just found this show I love how you keep accountability for the men and women. Stay blessed!
Exactly. I was in school full time, with newborn twins and worked a part time job. I'm thankful my grandma watched them while I was in class but you can definitely raise kids and be in school.
I really hope her child never sees this because I can promise you that child will never want anything to do with that mother or at least never feel that maternal relationship
Yup! I got pregnant straight out of HS. Waited til kiddos were in school worked and went to school and still made time for my two boogers. Now they are teens and we have a great dynamic I have a good job and although we aren’t rich we live with a roof over our heads and a decent job that I enjoy.
my mother went through college when my brother and I were little and after divorcing my father (he paid child support and was around to support us but work would take him overseas) and she always managed to put food on the table spend time with us and make sure we got an education and now she has her own private practice as a therapist for children and teens. goals and schooling can be achieved even with children.
She lost the case soon as she said I didn’t want the baby when I was pregnant… you love your child and you don’t regret anything but you never wanted your child she’s a walking contradictory 😂
I was in school full time, being a mother, and had a full time job. After a time it seemed things were tight and I knew I had to give up something, so school was put on hold since my child was more important! Mom is horrible! Pray for the grandma!
I was like Lord if she says “I’m a full time student” again. I wanted to knock everything over! Lol! I remember my freshman year in college some girls had their babies in the dorm room with them every once in a while. And my junior year when I got pregnant, my mom wanted me to go back to school while she took care of my baby. I just couldn’t bare the thought of her doing that. I’m her only child. She raised me already. Then to raise my child? No way. I moved back home and continued school there.
my mom would always tell stories of her rocking me to sleep during her classes while she was finishing college. She said it was ok tho cus i was a quite baby so i was pretty chill and never really cried. she HATED the idea of me being raised by my grandmas. love her for that
My son and his ex gf have a daughter who was conceived while they were both in college. Her mom agreed to keep our grandbaby the first year, and I did the second year. Mom graduated with Bachelor's and Master's degrees. Both of them worked and saw my grandbaby almost every day while at my house. (I lived in Atlanta, so they were within driving distance.) They maintained their respective grades, worked, parented and still had fun occasionally. They did what we agreed and more. That little girl should have signed her rights away.
Definitely unbelievable, my grandma raised me for 2 yrs cus my mom was in another country, every week they sent money, extra money for my school supplies/uniforms and if anything additional if needed that I needed. When i had my son when i started working my son stayed with my mom overnight, we picked him up at 2pm, dropped him at 8pm. I showed up every morning to pump, wash bottles, fix bottles for the day etc and I payed her $200 a week, i was the only person who ever paid my mom to watch their kid/s, she never charged me or asked for money, but I did it cus she was helping me so much. This girl be something else.
My only child is an adult and she can still go back and tell me about memories that she has of us together when she was two years old, and she blows my mind because remembers things that actually happened. So baby two years old is a critical age for a child's development.
My mom is a live-in caregiver and homeschool teacher to our 6 and almost 9 year old. I could not IMAGINE treating my mother this way. Ever. I could not IMAGINE not seeing my children every night after work and all weekend to give my mom all that free time. My husband and I had the kids...they are OUR responsibility. My mom is a GODsend....we make certain she is cared for.
Judge Vonda: “Ok” (changes posture, picks up her coffee ☕️, while slowly leaning back and taking a sip continues to say -) “So… being in school full time… means… (lifting her coffee) you can’t… (trying to stay composed)… be.. a mom?”
Me personally they should have dismissed the case because they needed to.found out how much that boy that's in the army or Marines is making first not just put everything on the mom ........
Omg I love this judge !! Every time she sips her tea I’m here for it !! I’m a stay at home mom of 4 and it gets hard especially with my 1 month old but you chose to have children you take care of them !! Simple as that . YOU tell em judge vonda ❤️☝️
