Self Harm Q&A // covering them, sex & existential crisis 

omg im sorry for that really awkward middle part HAHAHA fuck i was trying to take a thumbnail lol ffs

This advice is so so good. Teaching people about emotions is so much better than telling them to snap a band on their wrist. Thankyou for this x

I am currently 3 weeks clean from self harm and ngl I’m really proud of myself bc I’ve been trying to stop for a few years but I actually feel like I’m getting somewhere this time

when my niece n nephew asked about my scars (i looked after them for years at weekends) i explained aunty emily had a poorly brain and this is what happened as a result. they are now both so open minded because of that. my niece had a friend who self harmed and she was always asking me advice for her.

“Everyone has skeletons in the closet but mine are stapled to the front fucking door of the house” I’m getting that tattooed across my head what an absolute gem😩😂

also ur eyes look so blue n gorgeous in this video

Omg I wrote the first question! I never imagined it would make it into a video, thank you so much. You gave me such amazing advice and I feel like you’ve given me the strength to talk with my boyfriend about what I’m feeling. I can really tell that you took the time to really think about my situation and I can’t stress how much I appreciate it. Your analogies were absolutely amazing hahaha! Thank you so much Marie, love you to bits 💕

I teach dance classes to children from 2 - 10 y/o and whenever they have asked about scars I've just said I was poorly before but now I'm better. They normally accept that quite easily. And any fresh cuts I usually blame on me being clumsy which again at that age they accept and normally tell me about all their bumps and bruises xx

funnily enough i use the toilet analogy when describing self harm urges when i give training to professionals

Hi Marie, I’ve recently been diagnosed with BPD and I’ve got my first session of therapy tomorrow after three years of hell, I’m finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel and I don’t think I could’ve gotten this far without you and your videos, thank you💞

Oh my god Marie!! You actually give the best advice!! Have you ever thought about becoming a therapist or something like that? I think you would be amazing! You help SO many people with your videos and your advice! I know listening/watching this it made a lot of sense to how/what I’m feeling and it made a lot of sense ❤️ SO lucky to have you on YT making these type of videos! You actually are so amazing and I love you so much ❤️

''numbness'' anger, pain, guilt, and anxiety would be great for videos

I love how you don't glamorize or talk about your scars and situation overall in an overly sentimental way. Your scars were a symptom of an emotional crisis or latent mental illness, and it fucking sucks and that's all there is to it. But you don't let it get to you. Great video and you have a beautiful personality too.

Have you ever just self-harmed because of how dissociated you are? Just to feel real?

So and so being like “I’m a few weeks/months clean yay” and I’m sitting here like “I’m about an hour clean good for everyone else who can stay days clean

you’re honestly an amazing person. you’ve always been so great at giving advice and helping me. i can’t thank you enough. the way you describe an urge just made it so much easier to explain it to my friends so thank you💓x

Loved this! I just really struggle with actually identifying the emotion, like I just get a feeling in my body, rather than a thought in my head xxx

I just want to thank you so much, you’ve helped me so much with being more open with my mental health. I’ve recently been admitted to hospital and found it really hard with all the questions I get about where I’ve been because I’m still in school doing alevels. In an older video of yours you explained mental health as just being ill or poorly and it’s perfectly normal and that really helped me with trying to explain to people where I’ve been. Your videos mean so much to me and I feel like you’ve really helped my recovery and you should be soo proud of how many people you inspire and help xxx

This video has helped me so much. Recently someone commented on my scars and it was the first time I had my arms out in public. I felt so ashamed and singled out from everyone around me. I’m so grateful that I have positive influences like you to show me and so many others that we shouldn’t be ashamed of the things that we’ve been through. Thank you so much Marie, lots of love 💛💛💛

You are so unbelievably brave and strong and you help me so much with my mental health issues, also your eyes are literally so gorgeous I could stare into them all day, love you btw xxx

Thank you so much for uploading this - you are so brave and this was very needed tonight lots of love for u 💖

You’ve helped me so so much, I truly admire you. Thank you for making these videos 💛

I admire your strength and confidence so much!! It’s helped me a lot and it’s made my self harming slowly go away little by little. I’ve been in recovery for about 3 weeks now, which is longer than I would’ve ever thought. Thank you so much!!

Love you and these videos help me so much, I’ve struggled so much coming to terms with my scars and feeling comfortable in my own body. Thank you, girl!!!

couldn't help but notice how cute those peach covers looks like! 💞

You really are inspiring . I’m going through such a shit time at the moment and I badly want to give up, but you inspire and encourage me to keep fighting . I love you lots xxx

Thank uuu for this, uuur videos help me so much with my mental health, especially that my depression has just relaps, love uu❤️

thank you for existing. you really are such an amazing person and i love you so much♥️ xxx

i would love a video on dealing with guilt. not just the guilt from self harm, but guilt from friendships and relationships - such as the smallest argument or mistake you make

MAY I JUST SAY,,,,, you are so ducking pretty ilysm you are such an inspiration tysm for being so strong and being the person I can go to to make myself happy ^3^

Your analogy of having the urge to self harm being like someone needing to use to use the restroom is brilliant! Spot on.

I love your q&a’s! And I love you as well! Keep going girlie💓

I have never been able to describe my urges. Thank you, you don’t understand how much those few sentences has now helped me. I can finally, myself, understand what my urges are like. I’ve always just done in and be put under so much pressure of why I did it.

I know I need to stop. But I don't want to. It's like I'm afraid of not having a let out.... I started watching your videos a few days ago but I love you and how you handle everything...💛💚

I work with kids every week and although I mostly cover up my scars, teaching gymnastics can be strenuous and because I’m human I get hot! If kids ask questions I do exactly what you said and tell them it was from when I was ill but I’m okay now and they usually accept that. Older kids are a bit trickier because they usually know what they are and are shook not going to lie but they normally shy away from asking questions so I let them talk among themselves and act as though I would if they are covered and normally they get over it pretty quick and now most of them aren’t bothered at all 🤗🤗🤗 Also love your videos Marie, thanks for sharing love you 💓

Been waiting for this I love you Marie!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Thank you so much for being you and making these videos, they help so much

Omg yes I love the idea about the 5 minute videos❤️ please can you do it about feeling guilty, feeling anxious and feeling angry xx❤️

Omg Marie love you so much!!! Keep slayin gurl I look up to you!! This video was amazing and I would be interested in the mini emotion series! Much love Xxx💗

Oh my goodness I don't normally comment but i had an existential crisis last night too at 4am i just woke up and thought i was the biggest failure on earth because i don't have a job yet due to my bpd, it's so nice to know i'm not alone thanks marie xox

Omg the way you described it about going to the toilet is so true I understand that 💕💕

It’s mad how much I relate to you aha, Iv been over a year clean and even though I still get urges and feel down, I’m so much more in control and I wanna thank you for helping me and others out!🌻

what an amazing video, never fail to post the best videos, lots of love xxx

Hi Marie I found your channel recently and it's really helped me alot.. I've been struggling in this hot weather having to cover my scars and seeing you feeling so confident helps alot. Even your video about your worst reaction helped because you had so many people validating you that it made me realise that the people who matter will never judge.. Anyway just wanted to say thanks :)

Omg I love your q and a s. It helps me sooo much. Ly ♥️♥️♥️

I love love love this it's so amazing you talk about these things. I love you 💕💕

I love the video idea, I’m definitely going to try it. Love you Marie ❤️

I love listening to your videos and advice, also w o w you are so fUcking gorgeous geez like omg you're beautiful!! Your videos have helped me so much in that they have helped me realize that I don't need to be afraid or ashamed of my mental illness/hospital visits, all that. Thank you so much for everything you have no idea the impact you've made on me. plEase never stop making videos!!

I completely agree w what you said about people referring to scars as battlescars! I hate it I think it's so patronizing even though I know they mean well

Aghhhh Marie, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!❤️❤️

so much love for you❤️🔆

I love your honesty! You say it like it is, no bullshit. You gave some great advice and I know that you are helping so many people out, I hope you realize that. Take care! :) xoxox

this was super helpful and altho i do cover my scars as much as possible, i try not to feel as bad when i slip up and roll up a sleeve in public or something. youre amazing, love ya x

I would love it if you did videos on couping with different emotions. I would say the one I stuggle with the most is shame. But also sadness, Anxiety, and stress; and at those times usually cause me to self-harm. I have Depression, Anxiety and BPD, btw. I'm working through my emotions and trying to point out to myself the underlying emotions that cause me to hurt myself; and I keep a journal, and that totally helps. Thank you so much for making these videos, I love you so much!!!

I cut and it’s really hard to discuss it so your really a big inspiration to me xx

Love you! You're so inspiring!!

Been waiting for this ❤️❤️❤️🖤🖤

it's 12:40 AM in Cyprus.i don't know why but when i saw the notification it made me very happy. love you

Love your videos! I recently was basically given an ultimatum to stop cutting and I totally agree with everything you said. Even though I did stop cutting the urge is still there and I will not tell my parents because of the way they still react to anything self harm or depression related. Sucks but at least I have your channel to make sense of everything I'm feeling lol💕

thank you so much for this video Marie ❤️

My anxiety often makes embarrassment difficult to deal with because I find it often develops into shame - I’m in a good place now but I’m sure that video would be helpful for others in that situation xx

hey, I know this is two years old but I came across this video completely randomly and you just made me cry in the best way because I completely relate and I’m trying to practice self love but it’s so, so difficult. If you see this please know how brave you are, how much you’ve helped me by being honest about that guilty / self worth issues in literally the space of ten minutes - thank you and good luck in both your bad AND good days from a complete stranger aha x

I love your q&a’s ❤️🌺

first!!!! proud of u girl!!!!! ALF-BEE

and i love the idea of the emotions videos - emptiness would be really helpful

I have a lil sister who’s 3 and she’s into everything and asks questions about EVERYTHING. She saw some of mine and I just told her it was the cat😂 and yeah she believed it and replied with “she’s a silly cat” and yeah, ima just leave it at that for now and then when she’s a bit older will go onto the fact the i was ill xxx

I love you so so much Marie ❤️❤️

i love u bby you're so brave

I would describe self harm like holding your breath for many seconds maybe a minute until you have to take a breath, if u get what i mean ?

Your videos really help me❤️💕

I look up to you so much Marie xx

You are so insightful! Such a mature woman you are.

1700th like! Just noticed that when I clicked it(besides the point) Thank you for making these videos it really helps me through my depression and anxiety.

Admire you so much! you're the only person I have notifications turned on for, love your videos

anyone that wants scar coverage cream go to the GP that shit is brilliant!!!!!! and waterproof PERFECT for holidays n u can swim with it n it doesnt budge!

I’ve recently subscribed,, & I love having a RU-vidr I can relate to:/ & actually makes me feel something

Another way to think about urges is holding your breath. Containing urged is like trying your best not to suck in air.

Hey Marie, only just discovered your channel and now it is one of the highlights of my week. Obviously I'm a bit late but I have a question related to the topic of this video. My question is did you always want to stop self harming? Like was there a time when people were telling you that you need to stop and your internal response was just like "no i dont want to"? I ask cause everyone is telling me to stop and expecting that i want to stop but half of me really doesnt want to, which i know sounds nuts, i know its bad and all but i struggle with wanting to stop if that makes sense? Love you and your channel so much

love ur videos, thank you for all your help xxx

18:59 it was probably the dont worry part of the statement. Like the person is telling you that your scars arent worth your concern or stress, almost like theyre invalidating your feelings.

I love your videos so much they've helped me out a lot and your really inspirational thank you 💕

Totally agree about needing to at least inform a partner that you have scars so they don’t feel you’re hiding anything and trust them!! It might just be me but I too would just want to help support and be there for someone if I knew they self harmed maybe because I know what it’s like so you can relate!

i have self harmed since i was nine and my school found out. they took away everything that is sharp including pencils (honestly they helped so much) but they gave me a rubber band to put on my wrist and every time I had an urge to self harm i would grab the band and let it go on my wrist to make a sensation of self harm. it was a really good coping method for me. if anyone else needs a coping method it works really well (at least for me) *I STILL USE THIS*

anger and guilt defiantly but I get really anxious and paranoid about little things that I later see were stupid. If you do the series id love if you could include anxiety swell. You have really helped me, thank you x

Hey, I know it's been a while. But I would really lie the worksheet, if you ever found it! I am also really amazed by your attitude and your great advise. I wish I had someone like you when things were really bad. I hope you're having a good day/night

Would love a vid about how to deal with emotions! :) Especially with anger!!

I'd love videos about how to deal with sadness, emptiness and feeling lonely 🙈 ly❤

I’ve self harmed since I was 13, my family asked if I wanted help and I said no so they never did anything from there. None of them have ever gotten mad or sad or even remotely scared, I now do it 24/7 and have no intention of stopping, so all is good as my family couldn’t give a flying donkey. Now, the reason I’m typing this is to ask: I want someone to tell me why self harming is a bad thing. This is in no way sarcastic and ABSOLUTELY doesn’t have any intention whatsoever to encourage people to self harm, that isn’t even close to my aim. It’s just because I’ve never been told it’s bad or I need to work through it, so I don’t understand why everyone online gets mad when people encourage it (that’s why I put that disclaimer, so no one gets upset...) or sad and sympathetic when people announce that they do. Isn’t it just a coping strategy? Again, I’ve never been exposed to content encouraging me to quit until recently, so sorry if this is offensive as I’ve seen lots of people getting upset about comments like this one...

Anger and guilt definitely

last comment i swear but i LEGIT could relate to EVERYTHING u said

Omg you are stunning ❤️❤️

Please please please do one of those five minute videos about guilt and shame - it would be super helpful!

Thank you for this video💕💕

Emptiness would be good, If that’s even classed as an emotion??? Xx

This video helped me so much! Thank you so so much

You are an inspiration!!!! Xx

Omg please do the emotion videos it'll help so much xxx

for self harm scars, i would recommend dermecol , you can get it from ebay and people use it as stage makeup and is very very very full coverage, a little goes a long way 💖

i would love a video on coping with guilt and shame!!!!

I have been struggle with this addiction since I was 12?? Yeah and I am 19 and I will say my mom is super not understanding. She told me I had to stop and only mentally ill people are like that and it made me feel so bad. She likes to punish me when I do relapse. But I can't tell her either cuz she will still be very mad. She will just say hurtful things to me. So I still open about stuff but when it comes to the darker stuff like self harm and suicidal thoughts, I don't speak of that with my mom. It does make me angry but last time I told her, she said what can she do. Or tell me she can't deal with my mental health and addictions, she told me, she can only deal with her troubles and my sisters. I understand she needs to do her own self care. But when she added my sister into her list (my sister has OCD and GAD), I felt so much anger and I mean it still affects to me this day. But yeah, I notice I am being more open about my mental health and past experiences but I don't like that either. I instantly regret. But with u I feel like I can relate some to u.