Parents are the real reason in siblings revenge. They say we don't differentiate between our children, but it's totally false. Especially in some cases to keep their daughter's involvement in their home they usually go against their sons. But perhaps they don't know, to keep their daughter happy, they are spoiling the life of their daughter and their sons and their own life also. Bitter but truth
Same situation in Pakistan. Parents especially mothers are mainly responsible for this mess. They create sibling rivalries by constant comparisons and pit children against each other in childhood. Their is one most favorite and least favorite child among most families. And least favorite child is rebuked in front of other siblings and that destroys the self confidence and resentment grows in that child. Eventually when children grow older then this is already ingrained in their minds and they keep on competing and comparing with each other and those fights continue.
You are 100% right ….. some parents Enjoy the rivalry and the fact that one child’s family giving them more importance…. Also, thanks for a positive message ..hope your msg. Reaches out …… and stupid family politics reduces…. Thank you!
But how can these parents politics can be reduced? In no way they seem to be affected... on the contrary they behave more silly and weird. Is there a way to complain against such toxic parents?
Exactly, sir, I agree that Indian families me Indian parliament se jyada politics hoti hai ...aur ye sab maine apni shaadi k baad se hi clearly dekh liya tha, luckily meri sasural aur mere maayke dono jagah maine sibling rivalry nahi face ki hai, because siblings bonding kaafi achi hai, but I have seen that many parents play a vital role in siblings rivalry..... parents need to understand this, otherwise they will lose a beautiful relationship
Problem arises when one of either side is egoistic and self centred. Overly compromising one's value only for sake of relationship brings out resentment and later on hatred. So every red flag should be deeply understood even in siblings. The truth is that mutual trust is the most important factor in any relationship and it should be based on truthfulness. Then only a relationship can flourish.
Pro tip: Never discuss your siblings with your spouse. Good or bad that's between your siblings must remain there. Your spouse will listen to you very sympathetically at the time, but it will come out very badly in some other time. Never ever discuss your parents or siblings with your spouse
I beg to disagree. The discussion can go both ways. Whenever my wife has issues, I always ask her to let it go and try to reduce her stress. Talking and venting help people to cope with stress. The spouse should listen and try to defuse not exaggarate the situation.
Never insult your spouse in front of your siblings...never compare your spouse with your siblings..never downgrade your spouse in front of your family.. your spouse will never accept your family then...
Well said. I always tell my children wherever you both will be and whenever you will feel happy or sad, your first call will be to your sibling only. It's a fact. So live with Harmony and in that case your respective partners will also be cordial in relationship and won't be able to misuse.
My elder sister who is financially and socially well off tries to avoid me. She calls me only when there is some death or major calamity. And when I call she cuts off within 2 minutes. I have 2 other sisters.
Please sir make video on how parents compare their child to their cousins. They expect us to be like him/her, and this results a lower self esteem of many children. This is most common issues now a days.
My mother always tell 5 fingers of hands are not same then how come siblings will same .In our family we never encourage siblings rivalry .This is mainly in north India .My husband faced this because he is engineer and his brother is Doctor. My n laws tell we are lucky our son is DR they never given equal love and care to my husband. But my husband never complaints about this .But as wife I feel bad. since in family I never saw this kind of discreamtion.
This plays out pan India . Very insightful video. Many thanks ,You have not just analysed the root cause but best part is you have also given practical solutions to avoid such toxic rivalry that destroys families. You are blessed with great wisdom which only comes when you've been through a lot in life. Keep these pearls of wisdom coming.
Thank you so much. This topic takes me back to my girl hood days. Today we siblings are friendly and confide in each other. But earlier as the youngest sibling, I was bullied a lot. They would pick on me for their own entertainment. Sibling relationships outlast marriages, survives the death of parents, resurfaces after quarrels that would sink any friendship. They flourish in a thousand incarnations of closeness and distance, warmth, loyalty and distrust.
Excellent video, on an original topic. Highlights : 1.If you have to compare, compare with the best in that category from around the world. Not with sibling. Also, never compare your worst with siblings best, and vice versa.2 After parents and spouse, sibling with shared past for years will stand by you, so nurture this relationship emotionally and don't let rivalry creep in. Rather learn from them. 3.Spouses & parents who enjoy sibling rivalry or compare them are unwittingly snatching from them a dependable ally.
Why anybody needs to categorize the children into assets and liabilities. Let them be what they are, your children. Even the birds and animals don't do that.
So glad you are coming up with this type of videos, these problems are real as real as sun and moon but we keep on avoiding them in our life. India (specially north) needs to talk about these things.
Guruji . Vow . One of the excellent comment was that you can divorce your spouse but not yours siblings. Maja aaa raha hai jo hamesha hi aata hai aapke videos dekh kar . Salute , sir
Namaste Amit ji..am from Karnataka Its a grt boon to me dat i came across ur vedios recently ur clarity giver for future life inall da way..still so many vedios lined up to watch thank you soo much from bottom of my heart
Arey bacchon ko asset or liability banana band karo. It is low scum level of existence. janavar, panchiyon se bhi kuch sikho. Kam se kam apane bacchon ko to niswarth bhav se badha karo.
Superb n perfect!! My parents helped my poor lazy brother to steal my 12 years worth of hard work money. Now he lives in grand Bungalow and I live in rented house trying to rework again....
Main culprits are parents.. its hurtful when they pressurise their one kid to give his hard-earned money to their other kid who is just enjoying his life without doing work .. one kid is working hard but they only care about second child ..
Woh toh sahi hai but what about planing and plotting by an elder sibling who is rocking the world making fortune but blackmailing the younger one to return back, leave the job and look after their mother.
I am a confident grownup woman , I have achieved many things but still I can't overcome what my siblings did to my self esteem , I was always the chubbier one and always bullied by parents and relatives in India, my good looking siblings treated me really bad and my elders knew exactly what was happening but no one confronted us kids and when we grew the elders still didn't care, as a result today we are in no contact situation where can say I hate my sibblings( paternal cousins ) and they hate me too. And we will never speak again, I know for sure.
Really your videos are too good and e y e oppening videos thank you sir thank you I am from South Indian Karnataka please don't say sir always North Indian North Indian
