I am reminded of the process of fertilization, with huge numbers of sperm hitting on a single egg, and only one of them ever gets lucky. It's fascinating that what is playing out socially, between men and women, also plays out at the level of the gamete, between sperm and egg. It's also not an accident. This seems to suggest a principle that the life sciences have thus far failed to articulate.
Richard Dawkins has wrote about this principle decades ago in "The Selfish Gene". He also gave a very interesting explanation of how it may have sprung up, starting out with two functionally equivalent genders.
That's just the way it is, no special reason for this parallel to be. From the social dynamics perspectives, we arent much more than a random ape species. There's actually so many animal species where the genders social dynamics are totally inverted from ours, while their reproductive biology stays quite similar. So there's not much point to be done here...
I think about this all of the time. I’m average in every aspect of life and when/if a woman were to show interest in me for whatever reason she would realize this about me after getting to know me on anything deeper than surface level and be on to the next dude at the snap of a finger. It’s the cold reality of the situation. I’d rather not even try then live with the embarrassment and humiliation of that happening
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 ma'am I'm going to give you a good word of advice, I'm going to advise you to stop reading these comments. The men thats on this side of RU-vid are here for a reason, and the reason is because they are hurt ( that includes me). This RU-vid channel is ment to educate men about women but, but this channel got infested with men that is filled with hate and misery. Don't read these comments and fill your mind with toxicity its draining and stressful. Your better off leaving advice in the comments about picking up women ( i have no game so I'd love some advice 😂). I hope you have a nice day 👍😎👍
@@order7536 this video is different tho. Sure she might be all happy and whatnot with him rn but thanks to this social experiment whenever they get into a fight or anything like that, she will just be reminded that there are 300 guys out there willing to take her out for food and potentially try a relationship with her. Honestly I just feel bad for the man. He was basically just told that hes easily replaceable and she even "teased" him by saying if because of this experiment would he try to be more appreciative of her, basically showing how she already knows she has the high ground against him and subconsciously views him as inferior. I respect the guy for putting his relationship up for this experiment and giving us content to watch but I also really feel bad and truly hope his relationship will stay healthy, which I highly doubt because if she wasnt aware before, shes now aware that she can easily find someone else tomorrow, or even today if she wanted to.
@@kinkyswagfish8005 girls already knew that they can find a guy really easily. this video is only to demonstrate to us men how women in there prime life can find a guy quickly, but when they get older or have kids womens choices gets less and less. You should also look at the fact that she is just as capable of empathy and morals just like anyone else is, and if she does In fact lack those things and leaves him because of an ego boost from this experiment then she wasn't the one for him. I have a question for you... a woman will leave a man just because she knows she can get many men in a single day? Who decided that?... A man is easily replaceable to his girlfriend? who decided that? Only they can Decide those things and its none of our business to dictate what happens in there relationship.
Well to be fair he also said that her looks would fade and she'd no longer be as beautiful as the younger women lol but I agree, I don't think it's a productive experiment for your friends to do lol
She loved the experiment because of the amount of matches her profile had, it inflated her ego a thousand times. She did not feel an ounce of empathy to guy's experience in dating, which was supposed to be the highlight of the experiment.
that's also an important part of the experiment. Most of the reason women get away with what they do is bc we men have been misled into believing that women have it harder than men, and they play on our sympathy. We should have zero sympathy.
To be fair she killed it in getting dates as a guy and reduced the gap massively in that reguard. Getting matched with load of trash is not as rewarding. I'm curious to see the quality of dates she managed to lock though.
I am the right age to be addicted to social media but I'm glad I never did it. Seems like a very temporary and meaningless high that can probably cause more harm than good. Fun Fact: A buttload of social scientists agree with me.
Yeah, I feel this was actually an unethical experience, because I think this significantly increases the odds that this woman will cheat on / dump her current partner. Just look at her face in the opening clip.
It doesnt mean she has 300+ matches for a relationship. It means she has 300 matches that said they would sleep with her. And this is the difference that women don't understand in the dating world (especially online dating). It inflates their egos for the wrong reasons. Then they cant understand why nobody sticks around. You have to be a good and loyal partner to keep one.
That is a great observation. Now that you mention it I’m surprise the guy running the experiment didn’t realize and state that. In reality he probably had more hits of substance than she did.
A lot of girls don't know the harsh benefits they have. Finding a guy is easy. Even unattractive girls can do it. I'm talking A guy that will smash. Not THE guy that they want, will love and take care of her.
This is just the commonsense idea that men want women but quantified. It now has a number instead of just being a kind of background fact of life. If you put a thousand dudes in a room and said "hey! Your job is to give a better compliment, look better, be cooler, than the guy next to you, so you can impress this girl! Go!" that is online dating. We corralled all the dudes, let their evolutionary drive to procure a mate face off with the female selection in a direct and pseudofreemarket way, and here we are. They know you are exactly ".4%" of their current option pool. And they used to say women aren't as good at math... ha!
@@morganthem and that is it yes, as we say... it is a numbers game and sadly there are a thousand dudes to each woman that pops up here and there... so the over forever abundance screws things as much as guys being too easy does.... besides society yes giving women countless options and compliments just for existing.
Social media ruined women. They see they have more options so they think they are more valuable. Menwhile men keep dropping standards just to have a nightout.
Absolute bullshit all they have to do is take *Selfies* to amass 1K-100K followers & they can literally start running & supporting there own business. Don't even get me started on the "Fitness" & "Weight Loss " girls either
No person make or female should be basing their worth on partners or lack their of. Working on yourself is the first step in becoming ready for a partner, if you don’t know who you are, it’s very hard to sell
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 Oh please you'll still get male validation no matter who you are or what you do at least you know the opposite sex cares about you most men can't even get women to look in there direction and that is where the suicidal thoughts stem from a man doesn't just want sex in a relationship he's also looking for female validation which he severely lacks , and what you've just said proves my point we have to work hard to get any sort of validation while you just wave your magic wand and get it for absolutely free the dating game is in no where equal for men so take your victim card and go .
It's not ruined. He has a upper hand when it comes to getting into another serious relationship. Men are the ones who make commitment that drives relationships to the next level. Women know all the attention they get doesn't translate into a commited relationship. Men who are ready to stay commited to women are always limited in number, that's why women don't easily dump their commited partners.
Brad married a used up divorced skank with daddy issues that would have one night stands in motel rooms. None of this was hidden, it was out there for the public to know. I'm surprised they lasted as long as they did.
Interesting choice in language the word "keep". The way I see it, people aren't possessions, love or successful relationships are something that is cultivated and committed too, not kept or held.
Men need sex, women need resources. But men can easily live without sex. You have your right hand in case of any sexual urge.. We can always get that over with. But can women live without resources? No. Hence, women need men more than men need women. The financial provider (man) has always got the upper hand. Because when two parties withdraw each other, it's the one who needs the tools for the survival will be in the panic state.
@WINDOWS MINUS he is talking about social way of putting tgem high up. Women that are 4 or 5 are acting like 9 and 10 while guys that are 6 or 7 are seen by those same women as 2 or 3 maybe even less
@Alex M Thankfully the "State" can only do that for as long as there is money; once the money runs out those same women will starve, and the nation will collapse, and natural law reasserts itself for a time.
@@palindrome06 While I am empathetic to your challenges as men, I am quite disappointed by your comment. Do you think we're still in the 50s? Women nowadays can earn ridiculous amounts of money, sometimes more than their partners. Don't be so sure all of us need any of your financial resources, lol. With that mentality, you're definitely left with your hand...
Her enthusiasm when she asked "Do you think _you_ need to work a little bit more to _keep me_ now?" was almost tactile, and it speaks to an entire other part of the evolved female psyche when it comes to mating: _females_ *always* want to "feel" as if they are a "prize", i.e. validated. I don't even think it was malicious; just that extra security of knowing "he's not going anywhere because of limited options." This is likely why anxiety sets in when men show they _do_ have options.
When a man meets a women, the first question he asks varies greatly but usually revolves around her interests, or background, or ideas, or feelings. When a woman meets a man her first question is always the same: "What do you do for a living?"
@WINDOWS MINUS I wouldn't worry. In reality nothing's changed - her looks and personality means that she's already getting male attention in the real world and has been for some time; knowing that she has options on dating apps as well makes very little difference. Especially when the majority of men on dating apps are less desirable than her current partner. Only thing that might make a difference as a result of this experiment is her (assumed) increased awareness that her chances will only get worse as time goes by. Thus, if she wants to change things at all she should do it sooner rather than later. If she doesn't, then she's likely in it for the long run. Yes, hypergamy is very much a thing, but most people won't bother if the potential net gain is too small, especially compared to the risks, be it in relationships or any other endeavour. Her being a woman isn't a red flag - her being too full of herself and unrealistic wrt her own worth, that would be a red flag; she'd likely try to play herself in the belief that she could get someone that much better. So, no reason for him to worry in this case as far as I can tell.
WINDOWS MINUS omg! He’s not on my socials, of course!!! We must be over soon! Ever thought it might be because society is so messed up that I don’t want to advertise my partner because a women is automatically branded/categorised and identified by her partner. I just want to be me. He’s on my stories, but I won’t brand myself inside the patriarchy.
13 confirmed dates as a guy? I want to see what these women looked like. I guarantee all 13 confirmed dates were not with anyone near average or above average looks.
This is what I'm thinking as well. I was like "13 dates in a week, as a normal looking dude? And all you did was say 'hey wanna go out'? That doesn't really add up". She had to be swiping on literally everyone to get those results. I think the telling thing is the match to date ratio she got. 13 out of 30 is 43%. That is quite statistically improbable for a guy. If you were only accepting girls that a normal guy would actually want to date, haven't stats shown that you'd expect to only get like 5% or less of matches to even talk to you and less than 1% to meet up? Plus you'd get way less matches. I don't bother anymore, as I am normie tier. When I WAS trying on apps though, I'd accept probably about 50-60% of women. I'd be lucky to get a match once every couple weeks, someone to talk to me about once every couple months, and an unsuccessful date maybe once every year and half or so.
"it would be different if he didn't appreciate me as much as he did" -> she takes him for granted already, doesn't smell good for him in the future of their relationship
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 That's great! It's amazing that you found someone you cherish so much. As little as it means from a random dude on the internet, I hope it's lifelong and everything you could hope for. The passive aggressive nature in these comments on this video comes from men who have been scorned by the dating world/women in general. These man have sadly valid points, that won't be easily swayed. And while I agree with the message that power does shift more towards the man, I believe a woman controls the power again after children/marriage. She can leave instantly at any moment and still be entitled to the man's money, the government's money, and female/single mother empowerment and praise from society. So don't take the hate personal, society is stacked against 80+% of men, and the comments will show that bitterness society has shown towards them. The hypocrisy of the average young women can sour the views of any guy. Near limitless options, false mantra of "I just want a good guy", yet perpetually stumble over themselves for 'bad boys', and then the gender responsible for 80% of divorce filings. And in the end, it's always worded as men suck. My point to this message, probably best to not get invested in replying, as you're not likely to be believed regardless of merit. Ask to do a follow up video in a year to prove you still love this guy, explain the real traits you fell for in him, and you'll receive a much better response.
Arnab Chakraborty I know that it can suck to be a man sometimes. It can be easy to have resentment towards women...but just know that there are actually good women out there. You shouldn’t always assume the worst.
I was on tinder in the peak of my physical fitness 19-21 and for those three years I got 2 matches. I actually spent a small part of my day each day until I ran out of swipes. 2 matches over a three year period. This is one of those moments the truth is stranger than fiction.
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 im guessing you are new to the internet? you are going to be criticized a lot, and if you respond to every single comment and criticism you are going to be stressed out. it doesn't really have anything to do with being a woman, i suppose in this case it slightly does but that is simply because of the subject matter.
The Real Victoria-Rose Its great you have a good sense of humour Victoria you need a thick skin to put yourself in the firing line of random RU-vid comments obviously as a certified plumber I’m very disappointed that you have hit your peak of dopamine drama today however hats off to your fantastic bloke who will get to enjoy another ride on the merry go round of life with you
I response to the biased tinder pricing that over charges men: Girl (in a moment of honesty) says- 'that's sexist and not cool' Guy responds with self depreciation. Wrong
Definitely life has become more and more wonderful since I turned 45 (7 years ago,) and the urge to have a relationship has faded. It really just gets better by the day!
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 You don't have to reveal too much because I know Alexander has put your texts on the patreon but you say you simply talked to the women normally? Like you would with one of your friends?
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 ... I'd like you to respond to the comment about free food being implied. If you (acting as a man) proposed any dates that required payment... Do you believe that your female conversation partners actually intended to pay their own share of the date?
Jesus, it's 2020 and you guys are still debating over paying for meals or not. I am a big fan of 50-50 and I even had a boyfriend with a much lower income for whom I ended paying most of the time. But seriously, you guys are kinda petty talking about women as if we were some strays, ever so hungry and therefore accepting your date requests, lol. What kinds of women are you dating, really?
She won't leave him, as she said herself. Yes she could eat for free, and for at least 300 dinners. But he is a 5 star restaurant in a sea of Maccas. Her hypergamy isn't going to make her leave him cause her hypergamy is already activated. That's why she is with him. It was already confirmed in the video by all the gronks that tried to speak that bullshit game to her. (him) Honestly I would love to open up dialogue with them as to their experiences with this social experiment. Good video Alex. 👍🏾
Yes they could sleep with another man easily however, they would not be able to find a quality man who will commit as easy as their current boyfriend. And also 'love' comes into the equation.
The conclusion you've come to requires rational thought. It's a typically male analysis. But that's not how women are wired. Their idea of a quality man is, first and foremost, a genetically superior (= tall, well built, good looking) and, if possible, successful and wealthy man. Wether he's also high value in terms of personality, reliability, etc., is of lesser concern, or something a woman might deal with later. As for love, women simply "love to love" and, of course, to be loved, but rarely do they ever really love a man for the individual person he is, including all of the weaknesses and faults that are just human (but not accepted in a man). Fact is, men are as replaceable/interchangeable as they are useful/profitable.
Ian Cavon if men were so replaceable and your view on biology is correct, then theoretically women would take every opportunity to cheat on their husbands when a biologically superior male comes along. The anecdotal evidence against this is everywhere. Why do some women stay with their disabled husbands after they get in accidents or combat? According to your theory there are plenty of superior males around for them to choose and branch swing, yet they don’t. I’m not saying your claim doesn’t have truth to it, there are plenty of women like this, it just does not account for the women that stay with men even when it’s detrimental to themselves
Love these videos. It still boggles my mind how in the dark women are about their own advantage in the dating market. Like almost none of them have ever sat back and put any thought into it. But as a young man thrust into the dating world it becomes immediately evident exactly what's going on.
there was a experiment done with monopoly ( i dont remeber who done it so i cant cite them). The experiment goes: two sets of people one started with more money than the other. After all the games ended more ppl from the set started with more money won. When interviewing the participants on how did you win.. most of them ignored the fact they started with more capital and answered with better investments, better deicisions.... I think it sums up why women are in the dark about their own advantage. The situation is good enough (or not bad enough) for them to realise they need to reflect on themselves to improve their current situation.
@@seanchen9771 interesting study. I got a beer with a female friend recently and she was complaining to me about how all her girlfriends are actually kind of uninteresting and dont have hobbies whereas all her male friends have hobbies and say things that challenge her and make her think...I told her she sounded more sexist than me 😛 I explained to her that since women just get attention based on looks without having to do much of anything, they generally dont have any incentive. She agreed this seemed to be the case. She says she is now, at the age of 27, trying to take on interests such as shooting, golfing, what have you. Meanwhile I've been working on my craft for the past ten years at least, and adding new crafts and studies on top...
In a nutshell, If you are a man of value, you are not on dating apps. If you are a woman of value, you are not on dating apps. If you are on a dating site looking for a perfect match, you are looking in the trash heap of leftover rejects.
not always true.. Plenty of good looking women now a days are depressed and anti social, just like men are, but they re usually still pretty picky, where as men aren't
@@tourmalinestone3988 Stay away from meat markets. Don't appear to be looking. Get involved in volunteer work, social gatherings, etc. I met my wife square dancing. I have been involved in the American Cancer Society with the Relay For Life. I have raised guide dog puppies with Guide Dogs for the Blind. Go where people go, other than drinking and dining. You find higher quality people who take an active role in their community.
I think it was a hypothetical. It's a question I'd have been interested in having asked, and I'm glad she did. It's easy to read into everything negativity if that's where your mentality is. It was obviously just a bit of adventurous curiosity.
I wonder how this will affect their relationship. (That said I just finished watching the video and it’s nice to see her appreciate his quality as a man and recognize it might not be super common out there.)
@@therealvictoria-rose1905 Instead of empathizing with how guys experience dating you told your bf to compensate because of how many potential dates you could have.
@@fighterpilot12 you don't playfully tease someone you empathize with. Are you gonna playfully tease someone with an eating disorder by calling them chubby or fatty if you really empathize with them?
In High school and my 20s I had more girls after me by far than most other guys and even then an average to below average girl would surpass me in choice of the opposite sex.
If she does end up leaving him it won't be immediate. Right now the seed of doubt has been planted in her brain and it takes time to grow, with a little help from alcohol. She is trying to be polite if front of her boyfriend, but at such a rapid response rate it doesn't take long to find a man who she perceives as being on the same level or higher. Keyword *perceives* so it could be someone who technically isn't as good of a man but is just way more of an exciting alpha bad boy.
Couple of thoughts for you. In your opinion or perception, could there be a chance that Victoria Rose is actually a high quality woman? And that if they were to break up, you know in the future, that it could be amicable, or maybe even Adam who made a mistake?
I would love to see more experiments like this. In fact I would love to see a whole college classroom do this experiment and see their results in a group format. Seeing their reactions where there is a large amount of men and women together.
She said she had 13 dates, but women often says "yes" to a simple proposition, "Wanna go on a date?" anyway, but if you suggest a certain time and date and location it's much harder to actually meet them.
I already knew how easy it was comparatively between men and woman. One thing that did surprise me what that tinder charges men twice the price than they do women! That seems sexist and shouldn't even be a thing, incredibly disappointed in Tindr. Also it would be really interesting to see those texts of hers, might be worth the patreon membership if I had a job.
We'd have to know how old they both are, because I've heard that Tinder charges more once you're past a certain age. But if they're the same age then yeh it's definitely sexist
@@barry2349 sadly not, can confirm. Woman prefer the feel of security behind a big bloke all day everyday eventhough he looks worse than the smaller dude.
Not just for children. But for affection and love. That's a real psychological need, and women have access to affection of any type they desire, at any time they desire it. Men have to learn to self soothe in various ways to cope with the absence of female affection.
Yes women have an advantage early on BUT the dynamics change dramatically once they hit their 30s. You'd be surprised at just how willing they become to settle down with previous men they've rejected I say this to all men, there is nothing wrong with having standards of your own for women despite how much society will try to shame you for something women always do i.e. not wanting to date single mothers, promiscuous women, fat women etc. More men should have a spine and know their self-worth
Modern dating is proving the wisdom of our ancestors who created traditionalism. A society will simply cease existing otherwise, especially with birth control, social media, dating apps, and 'Go girl!" mass media. We are in an existential crisis right now.
Judging by the ridiculous comments from followers that think they're alphas when they're clearly betas who are really socially inept by thinking it will break up the relationship of these two people who clearly vibe wonderfully with each other and love each other , shows you how painfully clueless they are , Alexander.
I don’t think your hypothesis is strictly as clear as you stated. Whilst women do lose their looks and fertility, Women can leave a rich guy at any time and have access to his money and kids. They don’t lose much
This experiment only proves that young women have an easier time on the dating market then young men. To prove your hypothesis, you would need to repeat this experiment with a late 30's or early 40's couple. If a late 30's or early 40's man gets more matches and dates then the late 30's or early 40's woman, only then does your hypothesis get proven. Without this comparison, what you essentially did is prove that a fully grown cow is heavier then a fully grown elephant by trying to lift a cow off of the ground and deciding it is too heavy to lift, and therefore assuming that it must be heavier then the elephant. I'm not saying your hypothesis is incorrect, only that it was not proven correct.
yeah, just one couple is not gonna make a statistically relevant result obviously, but I think to show the quality and power dynamics, these types of "experiments" are a good pointer already. I doubt if you would repeat that with a late 30s, 40s couple that the results would be much different. probably on a total number scale, but percentage wise, I think it will not differ too much... probably 10-15 % error margin.
??? Women will still get more likes than men. Yeah, even when she's 30 or 40. Less than women on their twenties, but still more than most men, no matter their age.
I'm not blaming women for being entitled, or picky, or thinking they are better than they really are, or not improving. I'm not even blaming them for not responding to messages. It's their reality, they are not entitled to something imaginary, they live that reality every day. You saw Adam being tired of responding to every message, and it's been only one week. Just imagine years and years of that situation, you just would not answer at all to most people. And whenever you'd feel down, you would probably go get some self esteem boost on those apps. Women's behavior in the dating market is very logical.
Todd v has a great video on why girls flake... And it's a about expected value... Upside vs downside. And compared to known quantities, like her friends or family.
*We need an update on their relationship* It would be nice to know if their relationship is still going strong after more than a year has passed since this Social Experiment.
@Admiral Kipper Indeed, but that doesn't mean that they're not together anymore : what would be relevant to know is if they were pictures of them together before
Exactly. When emotions get the upper hand, bad decisions are made. And with easy access to alluring bad decisions... The outcome is nearly certain. All it takes is one really bad fight. And one moment of weakness from an emotional woman to redownload tinder... And boom.
Adam may not have been affected by the knowledge that he could be easily replaceable since it's a basic reality guys just learn to deal with. How many times has the advice been for men to suck it up and go out to find women? You can probably see it in word usage. Men are consoled by saying they will find someone, while women are consoled by saying they will meet someone. He's also comfortable enough with himself to know his girlfriend is amazing and beautiful, which is why is dating her. Why wouldn't he think other guys would be interested in her.
I once had 76 matches, didn’t know that was a lot. But, they ended up either losing interest after a conversation or just didn’t respond. Being a guy is very difficult.
We all knew this. And we also knew when she said that if they broke up, she would have lots of choices, but they wouldn't meet her standards. As it's been said, the 80-20 rule is becoming 90-10. I hope they both realize what they have.
