One thing I’ve experienced is that I genuinely feel exhausted, physically and emotionally exhausted after spending time . At first I thought “she’s having a hard time, she needs a friend”. After many years I sat back and realized “she’s ALWAYS going through something, it never freaking ends”
1. Dead eyes. 2. Telling you right away in your relationship their victim story. 3. Exaggeration. 4. A one upper on your story. 5. Monopolize the conversation, do not listen to you. 6. General feeling something is off about this person. Best tip: Say no to this person and stand your ground.
Yes #6 I called my cousin after a year and said I don't know what it is but something is off...I would catch her at times yelling at her parents...I even told he that see seemed like a spoiled brat that always had to have her way...The proffessional victim was my que that this woman is always complaining...I once heard her mom say no to her and she went off the handle and I said aren't you a little old to act like a child...she is 45 and an ass...Glad that I'm out of that and I have found a great woman who is so genuine and sweet....
most points can be problematic: 1.+2.+5.+6. can also be asperger syndrome, like i have. 1.+6. many aspies are actors, because they have been bullied so much, so they lerned to fake normal... but often people can sence, something is off... 2. aspies are often so honest that they will tell the bad storys right away (but without looking for pity!) 5. many aspies dont know, how much and when to speak... (some talk too much, some too less) i my self sometimes talk a lot... so some people assume i wounld not listen, but thats absolutly not true people with asperger syndrome get sometimes confused with naricicists, because they can seem cold and fake... but in realty they are an easy victum for narcicists, because they are so bad at sozial scills... no. 1+2+(5)+6 fits to me. i just ended a relationship with a covered narcicist. to him only no.6 fits. it was extremly hard to find out for me... after he sucked my energy for month...
When you’re in a good mood, and they are suddenly “interested” in what you’re doing and they want to be in your space at all times even when you make it clear you want time to yourself. More than likely they are using you for supply.
Spot on I'm dealing with one now. Its INSANEEE. AS soon as I charge my energy backup from being drained From her...she is aggressive in my space !!! I'm no ones meal.
That is the true. That is my boss sadly.... I was so charmed at first. Now I miss my previous one, tough and rough but very correct and quick in her interactions
Also, you get the sensation that they are talking"at" you rather than to you or with you. They don't actually listen and consider what you say. That's because they don't care.
One simple way to tell if someone is an energy vampire is just to pay attention to how you feel after interacting with them. Are you energized, inspired, or happy? Or do you feel drained, aggravated, and anxious? If you consistently feel like the latter it is time to get away from them.
i always feel like terribly anxious and afraid when i know i’m gonna see her again. i’ve always had a sense of uncomfort around her.. but it’s slowly gotten worse
I feel angry when I see someone in my husband's relative, she lives with us but I have no motive to talk to her, and when I'm always around her I get so aggravated, a lot of anger, so I always walk away and go to my room where i feel more comfortable.
It does! People pleasing includes filling gaps in the convo and trying to make up for their lack of effort. When you sit back within yourself and relax..they panic, self destruct, lose interest, and leave
1. Want instant relationship 2. Compliments, compliments and more compliments 3. Future faking within couple of conversation 4. Many failed relationships many crazy ex's with tons of drama 5. They are never, never at fault 6. Freak out when you friend zone them ( which you should to get to know them) 7. Say no or disagree with them 8. Won't take no for an answer 9. Confessions of liking you for a while
The coverts talk with their eyes. Thay can't hide their thoughts. I knew what she was thinking just by looking at her eyes. In front of people they have good poker face, in private, forget it.
If I am feeling tired or bad for no reason. I suspect energy vampires. I taught people who may be psychically victimized my method for dealing with it. 1.) Close your eyes 2.) imagine your arm is a sword 3.) imagine silver or different colored cords attaching to your solar plexes from off in the distance to seemingly nowhere. 4.) Take your arm and like a sword cut those cords sucking your energy. It works for me and all the people I've taught this.
@Sunflower Shine If you do this, however way you do it, and someone calls or comes to your frantic and/or needy, then you'll know one of the culprits. They may not know they are doing it, but this may help them to better individuate.
@@lisab1220 You are welcome. I know people like to use sage, but I find smoking up the room with Frankencense add power to your intention and clears a room of negative energy. At least for me. I really should talk about my protection spell.
Dead on! 👍 I had a coworker that wanted us to be friends. They were very outwardly warm, very polished, super confident and a LOT of fun. When I got closer though, I was confused because what I felt intuitively was at odds with what I thought I "should" feel, as they were very good at making me feel good and making a big, dramatic show of how much they liked me and supported me. I often couldn't wait to get away from them for reasons I couldn't initially pin down. I finally realized that when we would hang out one-on-one, I often felt drained, not heard, used, and subtly "pissed on" and dominated on occasion. Then finally, I needed them to listen ONE time, and they got angry and turned it back to themselves as if to say, "My problems are more important. YOU need to support ME." That was when I finally got it and ended the close friendship. We can hang out in a big, casual happy hour group that benefits from a loud, swaggering personality lol, but that's it. We cannot be close friends because they only want a worshipper, not a friend. This video is dead on, because they are a HUGE braggart and exaggerator, a self-promoting monopolizer of conversations, and a one-upper with a need to be the center of attention.
Whew, you listed all the things I was trying to ignore with said person, for the sake of keeping peace & trying to help. No wonder I was emotionally drained.
As a helper I was drawn so much to those with victim mentality. I don't know why it took me so long to realize that calling it out (in a loving, healthy way) is why I kept getting discarded.
When they ask for advice about their problem because they always have problems or questions for you to answer and then they never really listen to them and you just keep repeating yourself everyday. I had that friend that knew I had insomnia and every time I said I was going to take a nap she had some urgent need of me helping her or listening to her she would juste watch me suffer, being sleepy af, sleep deprived everyday while narrating a story that actually wasn’t urgent and could be sum up in 5 min
Omg this!!! When you finally get to talk about yourself or what concerns YOU or even about what you had for breakfast they’ll look at you like they are making you a favor and it’s so painful for them to shut up and try and pay attention to what you say
I’ve known at least three EV’s in my adult life. The most obvious characteristic is when you ask them about their day for example and they proceed to tell you every little detail of what they did, literally step by step and spend 10 minutes telling you something that would normally only take 20 seconds for a non EV. That and they’ve absolutely MUST have your full attention at all times. Exhausting !
My neighbour is like that.... I've told her to cut to the chase, and she'll insist on the minuitist details anyway. I'm backing away, and saying I've gotta go, and she's yammering on. That's just one of a sordid bunch of things she does.... I stay away from her. She is not a friend of mine.
Another possibility regarding the smiling observation: I often smiled in social situations but had no light in my eyes, because internally I felt beaten down and emotionally exhausted by my NARC.
holy damn same it would feel like it wasn’t genuine i at least knew it wasn’t genuine i’m currently dealing with a narc or i think and hope becuase that’s the only thing bringing me hope and feeling quite stuck and i can’t help but do the smiling thing i can almost feel the creases near my eyes aren’t even there and i feel like crying around him and if i’m not smiling and having a great time he feels the need to think he did something wrong and take it apon himself to “fix” me, don’t know how else to put it. i’m at the point where i catch myself being narsasistic and i hate putting the blame on people but i can’t help but think it’s becuase of him. having hope is a feeling i realled missed and hope i never take advantage of again lmao
Met my energy vampire at work...dead eyes...eager to tell me tragic bits about their life...very needy...asks questions that anyone who just took a moment and thought about it could come up with the answer...and youre absolutely right...you have to have strict boindries and tell them no ALL the time...they will wiggle themselves right in on in one's natural inclination to help out another human being, but you gotta stand yr ground...be polite, but be unwaivoring...loved this vid! 😀👍
Mine is my current manager. He goes on 60 minute monologues every meeting and he gets upset if we have comments or questions that he can’t answer with more monologue. Getting a word in edgewise is a punishable offense.
Jmfs comments above is exactly my situation! That is worst. You can cut friends from your life or speak the truth to them. But how the hell do you do that to the immediate superior??? I like the job, still need the money, but feel no progress there for me because of her(( She literally uses me as her own persal psychotherapist with no money at all given for that. Just the abuse! Cause God forbid you say anything to her (even about how great she is), she can and will get offended!
Micro expressions also. Often actors are really good at this, if you are watching a movie and there's a sociopathic character the actor will often show micro expressions that give clues to who they really are. This happens in real life too but when we are engaging with someone it's harder to spot. I believe this is one of the reasons why we get that feeling that something feels off. Someone might give you great verbal feedback, but they slip up for a second and look bored. Or they show disdain or some other negative feeling.
your scaring me on how similar that sounds to what i’m dealing with right now. it’s almost like i can feel and slightly see lol he doesn’t want to do things for me or if i ask for something he’ll make a very subtle face saying why are you asking me this why are you inconveniencing me it’s really hard to explain until you’ve experienced it too my b if i made this about me just speaking my peice 👌
The ones that confuse me are the ones that pretend to be understanding but you can tell they are actually annoyed/taking something impersonal personally, like if you're tired/sick and can't hang out and you can sense they don't mean it when they say it's ok. I also find they get more and more passive aggressive instead of being honest. Then I end up confused/annoyed/drained and feel guilty but it's all covert so I usually blame myself. Then I realise I've been ignoring my gut for months/years and listenning to what they are saying rather than the underlying energy! By then I'm usually sick and have to cut them out of my life. It happens over and over gaaah
I literallt had to go on this affirmation journey of every day pressing into my mind I don't care how they feel if Im not up to it or want to do what they want. Because they will in fact get debbie downer but say it's okay 😂
Before I knew what narcissism was, I mentioned to a friend that the person I was with had the strangest eyes. Her eyes could be very hypnotic at times, or even black... dead. I showed my friend pictures of her... how even her smile was ALWAYS the same, and the eyes never changed. No squinting like when one genuinely smiles. Never candid, or spontaneous. I once sent her a selfie where I had my eyes crossed, and I stuck out my tongue. I was being silly. I thought she’d send me one back that was the same silliness. Nope. It was the same, manufactured smile. Like trying to be perfectly beautiful... to present the perfect image... ALWAYS. That’s what she was like. It wasn’t until I prompted her to send me a silly picture did she try. But, what she sent back didn’t seem genuinely silly. It was like she was afraid to act silly. Like she couldn’t laugh at herself. I thought it was odd. I knew something wasn’t right. I can say red flag popped up time, and time again. But, I had no clue what was happening. I just thought we all have our quirks, and we should all accept each other for who we are. In the end, I tolerated so much back-hand, condescending BS for way too long. The relationship is over now, but I still have some trouble accepting what was really happening...because it means that I have to accept I was with someone I really didn’t know, and it was all an illusion. Tough to trust oneself... one’s judgement after that. The reality of how dysfunctional the relationship really was is settling in. It’s been a difficult process of becoming aware, realizing, and accepting how selfish, and manipulative this person really was...how toxic things really were. Thank you for your insight. This helps me confirm that I’m not crazy, and that others have experienced similar things in these relationships.
Common Ego Agreed. One selfie she sent me, my friend says she has that “Casey Anthony” stare. That really made me think twice!! Sleep with one eye open he said.😳
I feel the exact same way. I'm glad you descriptively stated what you did about the eyes like that and the feeling of vulnerability you now have about trusting yourself. Like it was all an illusion and for me felt extremely robotic. I think I caught the Truman syndrome 🤣 🤣😭 😘
I remember I started retreating because life got too tough I had to pull away to recharge and they went crazy, accusing me of not caring and destroying everything, it was like they pushed me into unsteady water and while I was trying to keep my head afloat they were screaming, “what about me!!!” And the crazy thing is that they’re on stable ground, they’re the ones who pushed me int there! That’s how I metaphorically describe the situation.
One definite sign I have noticed is if their laugh sounds the exact same every time. A normal person will laugh in different ways depending on what they're laughing about. The narcissist will laugh the exact same way every time, often when no laugh is really necessary.
@@MiillieMesh it IS creepy. When I first noticed it, the hair on the back of my neck stood up. When you start seeing all the signs It’s like realizing you’re talking to a ghost.
Oh holy shit, i have this friend who never ever complimented me, has mean remarks and i saw her happy, when she hurt me have this death stare. She looks pretty crazy, when she does that. Like pure jealousy, hate and amusement.
When I occasionally caught my ex covert narc off guard, it would flash through my mind that he had eyes like a shark. I used to wonder if he was developing cateracts! Oh boy!
Excellent video. I've met most energy vampires at the gym. They have stalker like tendencies and watch how you socially interact with others. If you are empathetic, friendly and kind they will eventually come into your orbit. Slowly but surely you begin to notice how tired they leave you feeling after every interaction. They interrupt your schedule and impose themselves upon you without every worrying how it effects you. This is all done under the disguise of wanting to just say hello and being friendly. Its a manipulative form of control. Soon you see them everywhere as they synchronize their schedules with yours. We are often too well mannered to be abrupt or rude or ignore them and this is how they use our own good natures against us to get what they want. It is now time to see the enemy for who they are and begin to deliberately create distance and reduce all forms of interactions with them. Avoid them as much as possible, change schedules if possible, keep conversations short and shallow, never approach them and always say no and re-enforce boundaries. They dont care for you, only what they can get from you. Dont worry about feeling guilty, it just takes practice for empathetic good people to start putting themselves first for a change.
Amazing video. Energy Vampires have a hard time taking feedback and being accountable. They love to withhold people's belongings for control, play into power differentials to feel superior, and disregard other people's boundaries. They are pro at gaslighting and emotionally deflecting responsibility while also overpowering others when they do say no. They like to overlook what other people feel by speaking over them, not truly listening, and making every situation about them by emphasizing themselves over others and making it seem like they have it worse no matter what. Anyone can be an energy vampire but of course the energy vamp is clueless and unaware because they don't want to be conscious and have to do the work to heal or be better. Enabling themselves to behave dysfunctionally and narcistically is in fact how they covertly manipulate to get their needs met through indirectly harmful ways. Dodge them, get them out of your life, and do not invite them into conversation, relationship, or your home at all costs. Steer clear and protect your peace and energy. These kinds of individuals do not actually care if you get hurt or suffer consequences due to their negligence as long as they get what their ego desires. Insane. Run.
This is scary...I’ve just got into a friendship with someone who fits those criteria crazily well. I guess just me looking up this video is scary, since my gut instinct directed me right.
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I have a question, as a man, regarding the role that 50 Shades of Grey (I call it 50 Shades of Rape) has had on this attraction the women you help have to narcissists?
Great video! I recently had two people from my past get in touch during lock down. At first I was thinking nice to hear from them and I was also feeling a tad lonely. But I soon realised they were going a bit corona-crazy, in other words not dealing with the current crisis very well. I of course felt concern for them but noticed the calls and the texts were getting a bit much and I was feeling very drained by their negativity. Last week I had to spend a bit of time self reflecting as to whether I should continue the contact but my dilemma was a feeling of guilt! Anyway I have decided not to answer/reply to their messages as the most healthy way forward. I also thought about it and I realised that I hadnt heard from these people in couple of years but suddenly they wanted something from me and this did not cut it for me. You are right about saying 'NO' straight away.
Recently realized a close friend I’ve had for about a year is an energy vampire. Finally saw what the pattern looks like and feels like for me. Thank you for this video and the series. Going through them now and will journal about my experience for future reference. The “how did I even get here?” Feeling is the worst and I’m done with the cycle. Someone mentioned grey rock down below and I have to say it really does work.
A lot of my family members are energy vamps ... starting with my grandparents who raised 11 kids .. most of who were also .. which contributes a whole lot of pain in this world... some of the most awful people ever . I simply stay away .. I thank GOD that I am not built that way ... Thank you so much for your videos .. I love them all .. saving the world one empath at a time ... 💛💚💙💜
My ex had dead eyes and always blamed everything she did wrong on her issues from childhood. Also blamed me for conjuring up her issues when I did something wrong. And I had to constantly ask her " are you listening to me?". She would parrot it back but she wasn't actively listening. I felt she was memorizing and scanning what I said.
Friend at old job when we were in our early 20, going on 16 years. EV ALWAYS needs validation and uses me as a therapist( through every relayionship, and her current marriage )bc I've unintentionally let her. I've done my own healing and finally put my foot down via text last week. She acknowledged it bc shes in Co-dep. Anonymous but once again has been bombarding me with texts on her healing trauma. Since Monday. I'm trying to find words to tell her it needs to stop, before I become a ghost.
I work with one. As a home health CNA, it’s hard to ignore or leave. I needed to set boundaries and do not take the adult tantrum personally or even explain myself and my behavior/boundaries.
I met mine in school. I told her, "no" for once in my life... and she begged me to stay threw a tantrum tried to deflect blame calling me a narcissist and then completely left. She later hinted at needing money.. .again said I wished her well but gave her nothing. She is now mostly out of my life.
people don’t believe me when i’m being nice. maybe i’m not interested but i’m trying really hard to engage and be happy for them. i work towards building a relationship, remembering the details and caring. i was poorly socialized so i mimic people. sometimes it comes off as inauthentic but i’m really trying. 😭😭😭
The eyes are the tell tale sign. You just get a weird vibe from their eyes. Every taker or soul sucker, always the victim or very selfish, egocentric and vindictive person in my life that clings on, the eyes just seemed dark and didn’t line up with their facial expressions. Just weird feeling something is off and doesn’t line up. Great video! Get out or they will ruin your life! Everything is true especially the intuition part.
First meeting with my ex narc I left feeling inexplicably exhausted. It was something I had never experienced before. The truth emerged over the following months.
I have encountered so MANY energy vampires . I just turned 47 and although I have reas every book out there , done my inner work, even studied psychology in college , I am still amazed of the large spectrum of energy vampires. Even people that I never considered them to be in that Category, are there too! For example, a “ friend “ that is 54 years old, who is clear about not wanting a girlfriend or any commitment, but still calls me and text me every morning , during the day and at night ! 😳😳😳😳 I mean , for someone who doesn’t want a girlfriend he attempts to be a little too close . Then I started asking myself , what does he wants from me ? It’s clear to me now that he want my time and attention. Pretty much he wants to use me to fill in his empty spaces and to entertain him when he is bored ( he is a DJ and have lots of free time ) ugghhhh. So annoying! Specially the part that I discovered that all these “ Energy vampires” come in all flavors and sizes . From the sociopaths being the worst and most dangerous to the cool guy that just wants your attention all day , everyday.
WOW! Lady you have so much WISDOM,. Best video. The EYES are a key! You are right these people can talk their problems out to everyone and are POOR listeners. FABULOUS, FABULOUS!!!! Thank you so much!!! you are helping the masses here.
I hate the unnecessary touching 😠 like mine would grab or touch my knee, oof. Anyone else could probably do it & I'd be fine but with this person, I want a shower when I get home.
Very interesting and insightful video, thanks! I’m glad you mentioned depression as I think it is important to note that many people might exhibit one or more of these traits for other reasons. Social anxiety, OCD, Aspergers, or just someone’s state of mind can cause them to seem a bit ‘off’ without an apparent reason. I have known two people who I would say were real energy vampires - both were people who seemed to leave a trail of social chaos behind them, and wherever they went, trouble was not far behind. Both were work colleagues and were very hard work, manipulative, overly emotional and over familiar. I always find that this kind of person creates a very unpleasant atmosphere where everyone is on edge and you almost don’t realise it’s happening until they’ve gone! Thanks again for an interesting video 🙂
I had moved to a new country from my base location for a short project. Over the phone when in my base country my boss(based in the new country) seemed normal and a good person. But after moving there and talking to him, I could feel my energy drained and there was always a fear. Constant bully and no empathy from his side.. After watching this video I can surely say he is an energy vampire.
It's a tough situation to call these people out unfortunately especially if you're outnumbered which is unfortunately in most situations such as maybe a work environment. Especially being an introvert like myself intensifies the suffering so it seems 😂
I think I have one of these in my family. This person is younger than me, so the relationship has always been unbalanced anyway. I haven’t thought about them as a potential narcissist, but the traits are there. It’s always about them, and they get in a tantrum if something doesn’t go their way. But me and others in the closest circle have learned to not give in, and say no when it’s something unhealthy. I’m a new subscriber, and very happy to have found this channel! Thank you for your insight!
Being too nice (Charming) a regular person wants to know who you are just as you want to know who they are. Nobody's buying you flowers and food on the first/second day of meeting. Nobody's offering you gifts so fast
Also I met my narc baby father at work. I shouldve known when he came to see me on my lunch the next day and asked "why you ain't got a boyfriend" ..."well why can't I be yo boyfriend?" Like what idek know you yet. But I fell for it. Never again
Sometimes stare is a sign of PTSD like flashbacks. Look for other signs as well. Quite often after flashbacks people with trauma will be unable to communicate. The difference is simple. After genuine flashback, conversation may become awkward but if that person is looking for reaction and highjack the conversation, run.
I've found that with energy vampires, they tell half a story - the bits that show them as a victim, not the aggressor/abuser. Always how people reacted disrespectfully. When I caught on to that, I asked this ex friend, "Feels like there is more to this story - what happened that lead up to their reaction? People don't react to nothing, they react to something- so what else went on"? No answer. Now she knew that I was onto her. I always knew there was something 'off' about her but couldn't quite put my finger on it.
A psychic vampire bumped into me last night at the bar so im here trying to understand it better. I was sitting alone having a drink and started getting an awkward vibe from a group of people sitting about 6 feet away. Their interactions with each other seemed fake and i was becoming annoyed by them so i moved to the other end of the bar. I went and sat by a guy i know and we talked about sports an politics for an hour and a half till the bar closed. At the end of the night one of the guys from the group i was avoiding approached me to ask me why i changed seats and he asked me what my name was. I asked him what the problem was and refused to shake his hand or tell him my name. He instantly acted offended and walked off mumbling something in anger. Dude felt my energy and scrammed.
I met him in the park I have blocked him for days ago .. man the energy is coming back. Healthy happy al the good stuff. After depression mental ilness everything i'm already healing.
I fell in love with, now I understand, an energy vampire. With your words, brings about more clarity. The eyes tell me so much. I never understood why the person I loved would not look at me or could stay looking into my eyes. I met this person in a University library. She was a friend of a dear friend. Thank you. This has been more than helpful. 🙏🤍
I met a couple of older ladies at Walmart today. They were asking around about headphones. I thought I would be nice & help them out. I showed them which ones to buy & the main lady was very touchy. Her eyes were as small as pin points. She kept hugging me & trying to kiss my cheek. I kept pushing her away. I didn't tell her anything about myself, but she told me about her ex-husband & how he SA her kids. How her kids are SA her grandkids. She was talking about it like she's Ok with it, which made me mad. She was talking about this very personal topic to someone she doesn't even know. I started to feel like she was the predator instead of her ex-husband. I listened to her for 6 mins & I'm not sure why I stayed so long but afterwards I had to throw up. It was the worst experience I've ever had. I've been around Energy Vampires but most of them know when to stop or take the hint. I still feel icky.
Thank you so much, brilliant analysis! I've found out my partner of 3 months is a narcissistic energy vampire. She has this knack of turning every comment I make about my own experience immediately back to herself. Then she's sounding off about her comparable experience for 5 or 10 minutes having had zero time for me. She's just not interested in me, least of all in my achievements. I realize that I'm just food for her, not someone she's in love with. As a couple we are always at her place and always talking on her terms. Whenever we're together it feels like I'm exclusively in her world the whole time, and sharing in all her many dramas and traumas past and present. Because I'm a good listener it's always all about her. I get back home in the late evening drained and almost empty. Your final tip is brilliant. I'm finally learning to say NO, and gee, it works wonders!
These people are vastly overrepresented on online dating sites, in my experience. As a deeply introverted woman, my social circle is small and I'm nearly 50...so my chances of meeting available men "naturally" are miniscule. Nevertheless, I will not use online dating again.
Neighbors mostly, drama seeking neighbors. The one I am dealing with now does not take a No, major red flag. She came right out and admitted to me she wants to invade another neighbor's space because she did not want contact info after he moves but wants to be in his space while he lives here- quite scary and a bold admission.
She talks in her sleep, and early on she was deeply asleep and all of a sudden she opened her eyes and looked right at me and said "I'm dead inside, please send me a pulse." and then went back asleep.. 😳😳
@@TeamNoSafeWord Oh man FR, you don’t know the half of it. There was definitely something demonic attached to her. I would have dreams about her, and wake up with scratches all over my back! She would also text me things I was thinking about. Just a lot of weird paranormal activity around her.
Everytime I spend time with my cousin, my forehead aches during the conversation and my head will ache after. And I feel low energy towards myself after spending time with her. This happens twice already and I'm tired of the headache 😭 that's why I searched this because I want to make sure she is. :(
I have a friend who is an energy vampire. She doesn't give in always trying to get me to do whatever she wants. I'm exhausted. I tell her in nice ways I need my space . She did throw tantrums...
Biggest red flag for me seems to be thinking the person is great and wanting to spend more time with them even before these warning signs come up 😞 whilst with mentally healthy people I don’t feel a connection or I don’t feel comfortable to be myself which then of course can’t result in anything. It’s such a struggle to address!
I met my former friend at university, but we became friends after we’d graduated. We were about to start a company together. I’m happy we didn’t. The friendship recently ended after almost 4.5 years!
My narc ex gave no eye contact and I should have known from the very beginning dating him that how could I trust him what I've learned is don't listen to people's words alone watch what they do and see if their words and actions match up
Thank you for this video. I believe I have two of my past best friends energy vampires. We were friends for around 17 with one and another 10-11 years. I feel like I’m an empath and I feel like I attracted in my life few energy vampires one it was my best friends sister, but I managed to left her and now two of my best friends and they always used to make me feel bad in whatever I did. I had such a terrible experience and I regret all of that I did I came to visit my friends and they offered me to stay in their place as I was on my way to start new chapter of life maybe even some new opportunity. I was making videos as I always wanted, but I was shy so had to brake my comfort zone and all I’ve heard from them it’s just what is missing, you do this wrong, this is bad. All I was doing never understands me. I’m mostly always crazy. Then coronavirus hit and I had no job and lost faith in doing passion because of lost energy and afterwards didn’t even thought of that should I do. And they by the way kind of spiritual people. I started going on my spirituality journey in 2019, but more intense it was last year, it took me until 2020 October until I fully opened all of my chakras and I raised my kundalini energy and I started developing my psychic gifts, but it was something odd in that place I was never able to relax, it used to take me lots of time to get into relaxed state and I had to use headphones. I was even doing some cacao rituals with them and I sensed how they didn’t want to go deep into themselves all they managed was just make everything tense, get into conflicts from nowhere between them and make me always feel I’m part of it. When my energy raised enough I started shaking in their place that I couldn’t even calm myself anymore and afterwards all I wanted to do was to leave their place just didn’t know how as always what I wanted to do just didn’t go well. And one day they told me to leave until end of month and I was on my lowest point in my life had to clothes, not many stuff with myself, didn’t have much money, owed them for rent money and that was quite an excuse always to make me feel bad. And now it’s just looks like they don’t want to leave me alone and it’s quite tough for me to stand for myself as they always were more controlling but hope all goes well. And how I recognised they were energy vampires was when I went through emotionally, mentally and physically hard times they didn’t care about me all they did just ignored and just been making fun. Their energy was always higher but it looked like they were manipulating me with how they’re bad and the only one who is wrong. And it’s so much more. It’s really hard to get rid of them but I hope I’ll be able to do that.
I worked with an energy vampire and she brought her baby daddy drama to work. Interacting with her was mentally and physically draining. Even customers (truckers) weren't immune to hearing about her baby daddy drama. She had 4 kids with 3 different guys. Luckily she eventually quit.she claimed all 3 baby daddies mistreated her. If people didn't give her what she wanted, she would put them on blast on social media and claim they were being mean to her (defamationof character). Even ignoring her will cause that. The only way to stop it would be to tell her to stop, then if that fails, get a lawyer to send a cease and desist letter, followed by getting a court order if that fails.
You should make a distinction between these psychological traits and people who feed off of others' chi. I have met my share of "unawakened" psi- vamps who stir up negative emotions in others to feed off of that burst of energy. I myself have been self aware for a long time and I have learned to drain people in a symbiotic way. I bring about positive emotions such as laughter or joy and instead of my donor feeling drained, they just feel relaxed. Most of us who are a awakened try to feed in a way that is beneficial to ourselves and our donors. Just my thoughts.
Sounds like you're describing someone depressed/broken who's eager to connect with anyone since they'd do anything to not feel how they do. Addicts are like this. People need to help themselves but also need support or at least acknowledgement that they're human.
This was was spot on. It was my boyfriend I dated for 4 years and I met him online dating. He didn't have all the traits at first but slowly it came out
3:58 This is one of the most insensitive lines of teachings I have ever had the displeasure of listening to. Having a bad childhood makes you a bad person and you're not allowed to talk about it. Got it. Sounds good. You win this time.
I met mine during a night out with the girls. I didn’t want to go but went anyway. I met him. He was nice but wasn’t my type. Me and my guy were pretty much done due to him cheating. My narc was calling and texting for two weeks but I ignored him. When me and my guy at the time finally called the quits it was like clock work when he called and I picked up the damn phone. Ladies listen. Those two years were the worst years of my life. All in all I put him out and he got an apartment in the same complex 😳🙄.. I’ve moved now but ladies.. if you see the signs RUIUUNNNNN 🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️
I'm married to an energy vampire. I told her no, and she moved out. She took everything. I was left in an empty house. My wife, my kids, my belongings. It was all gone! She left some food. I ate green beans for a week. Then, not in the right state of mind. I was checked into a psych ward in the hospital. Its been 5 years and I'm still crawling out of that hole. I'll survive. I always do
I had a “friend” who was all of these especially No.5! I tried to detach myself by pulling back but she wasn’t having it, so in the end I had to tell her straight up and block her. So this was a friendship not a relationship, and I met her as a customer ( I am a Tarot reader) I felt really guilty for a few days but now I’ve closed her off I can see how much she manipulated me to feel sorry for her yet she has so much more than I have in many ways.
This is on target and highly valuable information. Other than autism or aspies, this will usually be true. As a former teacher of at-risk students, I will mention one more exception, however. There are people with all these traits who aren't at heart these kinds of people, weird as that sounds. The sick/sad thing is these days some kids grow up with TWO narcissistic parents, or two full blown narcissists. Believe it or not, it's not that uncommon now, because narcissism is burgeoning. Since the brain is in hypnotic alpha-theta brainwave states through age seven, all those behaviors the parents are modeling routinely are programmed into their children subconsciously and consciously as perfectly normal, from birth they are around it routinely. Even extended family often won't confront those parents, even though they know that the behavior is inappropriate or even if they are emotionally abusive to their children, because they don't want the chaos that ensues for confronting the narcissistic parents in any way. Dysfunctional parents even keep their kids away from most other children and may maliciously end their friendships routinely on some pretext (because the parent is jealous), so where is that child going to see normal behavior modeled? TV shows and movies very rarely show ordinary polite, calm, mature people, so that's no help. Their peers are children, so by definition most are immature and terrible role models. So all they have is the schools. They may learn "classroom" appropriate behavior, but that's about it; they see how students behave in class and how teachers act, but largely they will model the behaviors they've been around most - their narcissistic parents. They may therefore on the surface seem like narcissists, behaviorally they exhibit ALL the traits. Inwardly, they may be gentle as bunnies, given half a chance. I've seen these kids blossom time and time and time again, after being given lots of patience and love (and a hint here and there after a while, about "a better way to say it might be...") I find the kids of such parents can blossom even as teenagers (or adults in some cases!) despite seeming like horrible people. They aren't horrible people, their hearts are just terribly mistrained and wounded, in fact traumatized. They need trauma therapy but rarely get it. They were simply deeply trained in the wrong direction. I'm not saying give everyone a chance to walk all over you and drain your energy. I'm just saying please, before you abandon someone, have a heart to check into people's hearts and see if a caring person is in there struggling to blossom - sometimes it actually is. If nobody's home you will see that. But sometimes they truly are just misguided but very goodhearted people raised by wolves - and that's an insult to wolves. If they feel loved enough and safe enough, they can be given the suggestion to consider trauma therapy because "it seems like you had some pretty mean parents, and trauma therapists know how to help people recover from even that." (Energy healing can also help them transform a lot faster, btw, if they're open to it - but they will need therapy as well, so don't try to be their therapists.)
Yup I know this type very well. Unfortunately it's my mother. She's always been like this, even my grandma said so. She tends to throws tantrums or silent treatment.
I met my energy vampire on an instagram post where we were all signing up for Manifestation coaching. We became manifestation buddies and it turned out to be a HORRID experience with this women harrassing me all day long with messages and she was in a CONSTANT state of emergency always on the verge of a mental breakdown. Of course the conversation was entirely about her every time, and the only time we talked about my life was when she needed something to insult me with. It turned out she was trying to "manifest" a man into her life meanwhile she was already married, and was trying to manifest this man to be her boyfriend on the side but move in with her and her husband and everyone be "ok" with that. Then she praised herself for manifesting contact with her boy on the side claiming that a shooting that killed 30 people was a "bridge of events" for her manifestation because it was an event that caused her boy on the side to text her because she lived near the shooting and he was concerned. She claimed if that event didn't happen her manifestation may not of unfolded... and pat herself on the back for being a good manifestor. I finally told her to F-off.
Sooo true .... Say NO ... (they bullying me , or start be posting things to hurt you constantly to get my attention , or beg me like baby desperately ) .So anointing
