Happy holidays everyone 🥰 I have A LOT of videos coming out in the next few weeks, even as I'll be on holiday. I'll be with you guys as we enter 2023 and I can't wait for what it has in store for all of us 🦋 Don't forget to follow me on Instagram if you want to see what I'm up to in Tulum 🌞
Happy holidays to u too. And thank you so much for this video, it really resonate with me. And I’m excited for your other video,have a wonderful time in Tulum.
I really needed to hear this. I’m a single mom of a beautiful 7 month old. I’ve been single for 10 months. I’ve been wanting a relationship and everyone always tells me “you need to wait and enjoy your kid.” I think moms are expected to sacrifice everything for their child and put them above all their wants. (No one says the same things to my baby daddy) and while I love my child and happily put the majority of my wants to the side, I want to feel that kind of romantic love. I’ve been in a period of cutting out people and things that don’t serve me and I love your content for this time. Always such great advice!
Yeah so many mothers sacrifice all their happiness hobbies and dreams for kids (they’ve been told they need to in order to be a good mother) but then end up acting resentful towards their kids! So it doesn’t help the little ones
Women are the most single parents & there is still a stigma that men cannot raise kids. So society wants a single dad to get into a relationship asap so the kids can find a "mom" to take care of them. The double standards are frustrating. Also having non related men in your household with your kids increases their chances of them being SA'd 4 fold. All single moms should know this. Some pervs even date only single moms for this fact. I'm not saying this to shame or stop single moms from dating but you need to keep this in mind when bringing men around your kids. I hate that this is the world we live in but since we cannot change men we got to take heed of this. I side-eye both sexes if they have a baby at home & start dating but who am I to impose my values on ppl who do not share the same value.
I don’t think people are expecting you to put all your wants aside for your child they probably just think since he/she is less than a year old, you should probably just enjoy these precious moments.They grow up so fast ❤
Girl, I- Just about an hour ago I was thinking about how I’m feeling lost at life and not quite know what’s my end goal is, and then BOOM! This video is released. Thank you for the content! It always sparks a lot of thoughts in my head.
I’m at this point too. For the longest I told myself I didn’t want love for my own reasons of feeling like I wasn’t worthy of it. & In telling yourself that kind of lie you start to believe it & attract people who just want hookups. I’m not judging it but now that I’ve done the work to heal I’m as healed as I will be for now I’ll never be perfect. I want love & I won’t give up on it.
I'm 27 years old and unfortunately I can absolutely relate to you. I always let others decide what comes into my life. Even if it's just being happy. But finally I'm slowly learning to not let anyones opinion or emotions affect mine. By speaking up for myself, setting boundaries etc. Thank you for this video ☺
That is so sad because my mother was like that and it was always us two. It still affecting me now in my relationships. I was a child and I didn't deserve that. 😥
I had a similar emotionally unavailable dad but he'd always yell at me to be quiet when I'd walk through the hallway and the floor would creek. He was always angry and yelling at someone. My mom was a stay at home mom and was a codependent enabler for him to yell at me for just existing. Anyways, that experience from ages 5-12 really made me hate my parents and dislike my siblings because they were selfish and had an everyone for themselves mentality. I had zero social skills as a kid up to early adulthood. And I had to teach myself by RESEARCHING various aspects of interpersonal relationships. It's a shame what some of us go through as innocent children. My heart goes out to you and what you went through. Thanks for being here and sharing your story with us and your insights and ideas.
My childhood was the same excepy my mom would be the one yelling at any move I make and I would run trough the hallway if I needed to go to the toilet out of my room before she would see me so she wont continue yelling or try to find something to insult me.
Wow girl you are speaking words of wisdom and opening traumas I did not even know I had! I enjoy your content a lot and your tone always gets me motivated. Greetings from Finland 💙🤍💫
Wow girl you literally just sparked some inner child healing I haven't thought about at all- which is so strange bc I did expirience this bored, unhappy, uncomfortable feeling for many weekends- when my dad got out if jail each time my brother and I would start going to 'his house' on the weekend and I barely EVER wanted to go, he would not pay attention to us, often brought us to my grandma's which I would actually enjoy but then other times he would have women over and we would be in that same type of room, I would watch Cinderella with Brandy over and over and be waiting unhappy missing my mbc, counting down the hours till Sunday- wow so powerful thank you 🙏🙏🙏
This was extremely powerful. I also think there's a societal norm to put ourselves in a waiting period after a breakup. If you already ready to date after the relationship ended by all means go for it. If you need to heal do that work too.
literally yesterday i found myself having the same conversation with my ex about how i’ve always been WAITING on him. this video brought me to tears, and your words have inspired me to stop WAITING and to start LIVING. sending so much love and positive energy, happy holidays ❤️❤️
This is crazy I watch a lot of videos but this one this was is like the one I really needed at the right moment it reflects on childhood & adult life I appreciate this video very much thank you 🙏
I’ve been binge watching all of your videos lately and I almost click on them without even reading the title. This one right here resonated with me SO MUCH because it is exactly what’s been having me on a bad place lately. I just realized you upload it it today and wow. It feels like the sign from the universe that I really needed. I knew I had to confront my “situationship” but didn’t know how. I didn’t want to do it from a necessity to be with someone or from a fear of losing him… But you made me realize I need this for me. I can’t be like this anymore. I need clarity. Thank you so much 🥹❤️
I'm finally taking this time to heal. Thank you for sharing your story. Sadly I feel so alone and so many people are being negative and judging me. So I'm so done. It's me time now. May my heart and soul heal so much it no longer hurts over people I have out grown and no longer have the same energy with me. ❤
Unbelievably grateful for this video!!! That's exactly what I needed to hear. My last relationship/ engagement ended really bad and I'm doing the healing and feel like maybe it's just not for me. But truth is these guys aren't ready and it shouldn't hold me back!
Thank you so much for these videos. I'm so glad I found you recently, I need this stuff, because I've been feeling like a mess for way too long and it's time I show up for me. My life has been so beyond messy and I've been ignoring it and allowing it, ugh. I just graduated from college just last week and I have a job lined up starting in the new year. I'll be doing what I love (teaching and helping kids), but I'm doing it without the person I love. I broke up with my boyfriend after having been together for four years, doing long-distance for the past three since I've been away at school. And school has not been ideal. Took me almost six years because I went at a slower pace, did most online, then COVID happened, etc. And especially NOT ideal, I lived at home and still do, completely my choice, but I felt I had no other choice. I know we always have a choice, but my life and family is so complicated and toxic. My parents moved to the college town where they wanted/want all five of their kids/my siblings to go to school (family thing to go there; family expectations), therefore, my boyfriend and I did long-distance. Only thing, they are very strict and they don't like my boyfriend - well, ex - because he's not a member of the church and my parents say that I can only date/marry in the church IF I live at home (I guess I'm a bit of a rebel). My parents are very religious and I was pushed to go to the church school they wanted. And I really didn't have any other choice because of my social anxiety. I tried on-campus in 2017 and didn't sleep for ten days. Yes, that was a long time ago, but it's affected my confidence and increased my fear. And so I ended things with my boyfriend this past fall when our plan has been that I move back to my hometown where he is also and we live together and basically live happily ever after. My parents were very unsupportive and judgmental. And hella strict. On everything. I have only seen him for a few days at a time once a year for the past three years. Note, I have my own car, paid-off and I pay for everything that's mine to pay for. The last time I went to my hometown to see him my dad went with me and he had a work trip there in our hometown anyway. He was like my taxi driver and I had strict rules or I couldn't see him. My boyfriend - ex, I guess - is 31 and I just turned 25. My parents had so much control in our relationship. He's an amazing person and good soul and I will always love him. He had been a saint to put up with my parent's shit. I ended things strictly because I need to become more independent before I can live with anyone. I was stupid and a dreamer and I didn't realize this - that I have to live on my own first and for a time - until my last semester of school. I grew through school, but because of my anxiety and my strict helicopter parents, I need to live on my own first. I know I may very likely get sick going from 0-60, living at home and being coddled even at age 25, to living with someone, even if that someone is my significant other. I plan to move out ASAP (hopefully within the next few months). My apartment and job would be in the same town as my parents, but I'm just doing that because it's such a cheap area here and plus it's close to home and so it would be an easier transition. I'll re-evaluate my life and where I'm at by May 2023, the end of the school year. My ex and I are still on good terms and he's been very understanding. If we were to get back together/ever get married, we'd be distant from my family, which breaks my heart. It's so toxic and abusive and confusing. It's been so hurtful and harmful, the whole thing. I don't think legit anyone will read this, but I had to get all this nonsense off my chest.
I don’t know you but I’m wishing you big blessings. I hope in a few months time you’ll have more clarity and peace. I really resonated with the whole foggy state bc I forget to also be independent. Happy dream achieving 🎉
Had this same epiphany come up last night. I want to surround myself with stronger and uplifting people who can adopt a similar mindset ❤ Thanks for recording and posting
This deeply resonated with me, I was literally telling my best friend yesterday, saying that I'm so tired of waiting for a relationship. No, I get to decide. This is such an empowering video! Your videos are always packed with tough love and healthy constructive advice and you are such an inspiring figure to me! As a teenager, I'm really figuring life out and with your help, things are just a lot easier.
You are my new favorite person / channel. I have been watching your videos for the last week or so (after the gym or when I’m at home doing self care). You have inspired me / given me so many realizations that apply to my life. I have been on a journey of healing my inner child / my trauma for the last 2 years but you really are saying everything I have been trying to! I am so thankful that I found you. Sending love and positive energy to you! ❤
I relate sm, honestly everything you’ve been through in your relationships is like what I’ve been through My mom being shitty to me is the reason I’m always letting the women in my relationships dictate what happens. It always left me vulnerable, but honestly the reason I don’t get to make the decision with confidence is because I’m afraid of losing that person, if I’m being honest. My last relationship just ended because the girl wasn’t willing to respond to any version of contact I was attempting, even though we were together the whole of last year 😢 But listening to you gives me sm hope, I’m rooting for you with all my ❤️
You always post what I need to hear in the moment! You’re just like that big sister that tells you what you need to hear. I appreciate you, your work & content. Thank you 🫶🏼💖
thank you SO MUCH for this! I feel like as women we tend to not stand up for what we truly want and let people decide instead. specially with men ! we let them be the dominant one in the relationship, saying when we go out, when we stay in, depending on what they want. also for marriage, and moving in ; waiting for THEM do to the first step, and us being always passive. "why should i have to wait for things i want in my life when I am actually ready ?" thank you so much!!!
I resonated with this. When you mentioned you used to sleep with your mothers shirt because of the smell I cackled because I used to do the same when she would leave me alone with my brothers. I overstand you!
THANK YOU SO MUCH! You’re spitting FACTS! Please do a video on how to heal from a toxic/abusive childhood and family, and how to leave a toxic and abusive family and rebuilding yourself and be a better person
Thank you so much for this, you put this out so well. Ive been feeling the same way for the longest time, always letting people step around me and just me sucking things up and thinking I deserved all that. I needed to hear this and found myself understanding my own needs. I hope you have a good day!
Made me cry whithin the first few minutes..my mum tries to take charge over my life and I’m sick of it, I’m going to take charge, her way to happiness is not always the same as mine
Thank you for this video. This year I’ve really been actively attempting to put myself and my needs first. By my birthday in June I realized I was still falling short on honoring my wants and needs by still attaching my plans to my friend. So fast forward to last month I got an opportunity to move and almost let it go because I wanted to be able to show up for my friend for her birthday since she’s been talking about what she wants to do since right before all the 2020 shut downs and 2023 is the first time what she wants to do will be open again. I reminded myself we aren’t making plans for others we can still show up for myself and for her and if I can’t show up for her I have engaged time to realize that and let her know in advance. Anyway I took the place. Been here for a month and last night got a text from her that she was canceling her plans for her birthday cause she needed time to heal. I just told her ok take her time and honor herself. Right after I said it I realized I was relieved. Not because she canceled her plans but because I didn’t put off my needs again for what others want in their lives. Your video also made me realize this all started with my mother. Growing up I also was never able to make my own decisions or plans even though my mothers whole thing was you should plan accordingly. But anytime I did she’d make me cancel my plans to do whatever she wanted and had this the world doesn’t work the way you want it to type attitude so get over it. She still acts like that to this day. She turned me moving into being about her and her timeline as well. By basically letting my sister throw all my items into a plastic bag and dropping it on my doorstep all while acting like I should be grateful even though I told her I wanted to come and sort through the stuff cause not everything there I needed somethings were just there to making living at home easier but it’ll just be junk now that I have my own place and I want to come in here fresh and not having a bunch of old useless stuff I’ll have to go threw and slowly throw out here. Anyway because of this I’ve decided to take some time from my mother because I recognize she’ll never be able to let me live my life she always has to find a way to control it and I can’t share things with people like that when I decided to take charge of my life.
thank you so much for sharing your story, i needed to hear this through another's experience i am literally holed up in my mom's room, intimidated by my dad's moods i want my d@#% locus of control back inside of myself it's always the authority figures outside of me that overrule my ability to feel and anything that could be born of my feelings... omg feels so powerful and weird to tap into this
You brought so much of my hidden memories with that video, I relate to your words so much.. Its’s amazing what you said and thank you for that. Love your channel
This is sooo needed for me right now. I feel like I'm the least successful in my family and my mom agreed with me and it hurt. I drag myself constantly and feel deeply lost in life.
Your story about when you were a little girl and you were on the dark room w the vhs blue background? Makes me just want to give you a huge hug . I am so happy to have come across your thoughts and stories 🥰🌹 happy Friday ✨💕
Yess!! I feel the same and im done waiting cuz IM READYYYY!! God, im ready for love!! I also made a love list, which a few months back, I feel reluctant to do it... Now Im calling in love for 2023 and i cant waitttt
You always post what I need to hear at the time I need it! I’m going through something similar and I needed to hear this. I wish you the best on your healing journey. thank you so much for sharing you with us 💕
You are so strong, supportive and calm person, ❤️ My whole life I only did what other people wanted from me , I have been a big people pleaser , right now I am 17 year old , it's been some months when I started to not give a dam. About anyone else and decided to follow my dream which is to be a doctor or a nurse . I am earning money right now and saving for my school so I can study again , becouse I was sh*t and always listening to other people's, the main reason I stopped going to school was becouse I was se*ally harassed by some of the fake friends , they told me it's normal between male friends when it wasn't I never was comfortable, they did alot of dirty things without my consent , same goes for my cousin ,(they took alot of advantage becouse I was quiet but now I talk back on these sh*tty people and let them know where they belong and are no longer part of my life) now I am so mad and sad that I had let that happen, but I am healing now and becoming really strong. I talk back to anyone who talk sh*t and manipulate me again , your videos are helping me alot alot ♥️ , In my journey to be mentally, physically strong . It becomes tough alot becouse my family member have a narcissist person which makes me feel like a loser , but I am already seeing myself x20 better then my old self .
So happy I found your channel today, I've been watching your videos all day and you're the first person I've seen on RU-vid that says what I think in my head but is putting it in practice! So great to see, wishing you the best 2023
i've discovered your chanel few weeks ago and I simply can't get enough of it! especially thank you for sharing this one, it came in just at the right time! i'm born and raised in a developing eastern european country and like in many countries like that, ur father is the one who gets to decide what you're gonna do with ur life so this video resonated with me a lot. my father is a control-obsessed, extremely negative, soul-sucking man, so it was never easy. i got the chance to study abroad, which helped me get my life back, understand my needs and who am i as a person. i still struggle with a lot of undesired behaviour patterns I've developed in my childhood, but i'm aware of them and ready for a change. i'm also learning how to set boundaries with my father. nevertheless, every day i'm getting a little bit better at standing up for myself and choosing wisely the life i want. i'm really proud of myself ✨
I resonated so much with being happy whenever my dad would take me to see my sister's. I was also sad around my dad. Your videos are truly a gem and so are you. It's time for me to stop watching certain tarot readers. I've allowed tarot to dictate my life a lot and I am putting an end to it! . Happy Holidays
I was in a situationship for a while. But we both didn't make any move toward each other even thought the energy was always present and the suble flirting. I know i have my issues i am working on with therapy. I recently discovered that i have been rejecting myself all my life. And since i see a lot of myself in him, i kinda rejected him too. But he too didn't make any major move toward me. Now he is seeing another girl. More carefree and cheerful than me. I know i am very late in my journy of selfhealing and i wish i started this earlier. But its a fact that i lost him for real now and it breaks my heart 🥺 I don't know what to do to get over him sooner..but at the same time i don't want to let him go 😭
Thank you for this video! I completely related to how you described your childhood experience. And it made me reflect on some situations I went through as a child. I'm in the process of being more decisive in how I live my life! 2022 was great for this. A lot of growth and realizations. 2023 will be even better! 🙏
Thank you for sharing your experience with us…the recent past and distant. And the passion in your voice in this video…i think we REALLY needed that. I felt like it was my dear friend spilling the truth cause life is short and we need to make this happen and not let others dictate our lives. Even though I am not in a relationship, this still applied to me in all aspects of life. Especially about not letting others decide on how we should be feeling and how to life our lives on our own terms. Brilliant video Elicia! Bless you! Happy Holidays!
Omg yes! I’m so happy to know you could relate even outside of the situation I was going through. Once again I’m SO proud of you!! Happy holidays babe ❤️
There is a mini series of guided meditations on insight timer by Sarah Blondin that would be so so helpful to anyone who is on a journey to heal. My favorite episode is called Remembering Your Worth. Listening daily can seriously change your mental state in a positive way! May God provide comfort, guidance and pain relief to everyone who needs it right now, Amen!
Started watching the Video expected something else. I like what you tell us it's interesting your thoughts!! Love it. Grateful for clicking on this video it's not a 0815 video.
I think it takes time! And also remind yourself that you don’t need to “fully” let go, it’s more so “giving” yourself more permission to go for what you really do want in your life ❤️
