stop obsessing over negative circumstances.. your perception is EVERYTHING. 

YES GIRL BEAT MY ASS WITH FACTS!!!!!

This vid came at the EXACT right time! I’ve been in a chapter of isolation for a while and it has caused me to over think and analyse past situations and people. Your video has reassured me in knowing I am not alone in obsessive thinking. The obsessive thoughts only tend to happen when I am alone. So thank you for your kind words of experience and truth 💗

As an overthinker it's so hard, specially when you have tried so much and you see literally everyone get what uve only dreamed of like it's nothing..they make it seem so simple..but I know now I need to stop focusing on it and re direct that into something that will make me better

Ladies, the relationships you have in your life is a direct reflection of the relationship you have with yourself. For instance- a man pulling away from you is the direct reflection of you pulling away from yourself. You are getting something from them, which you are not able to give yourself. Resulting in you attaching yourself to them to the point where your whole focus is shifted from you and your own life to them.

You should definitely keep an open and positive mind at all costs. You shouldn’t dwell too much on your own issues or problems that’s probably clouding your own sense of judgement.

When you’re fixating, just do something that pulls you out of your obsessive thoughts. Music, podcasts, whatever. I walked my dog while listening to a podcast, and there was no room for intrusive thoughts. I also think about a dream I had as a kid, wherein my favourite toy was destroyed. I was upset initially, and then understood you need to let these things go. When I woke and realized it wasn’t broken, I still felt proud of myself for figuring out how to move on. If there’s something you fixate on a bit too much, imagine it being gone completely. Make peace with that. You don’t know what the future holds, so maybe you can attain that prize, and maybe you can’t. Your worry won’t change that, you might as well have peace.

The mindset I’ve adopted recently: he doesn’t like me back- ok and? Lemme move on then. He ghosted me- ok and? Oh well then😂 I’m so much more peaceful I swear. There’s a whole world out there guys, we’re just specks of dust.

I totally agree with you girl 6months ago i got rejected by someone he meant to me alot ive been spending months depressed and scared but then i realized that i am wasting my time on someone who didnt even ask if i am okay or not I started to care about my mentalhealth alot and focusing on my self development and here i am achieving all my goals of the previous year ✌🏻 (by focusing on myself and stop waiting for people to love me and care about me ) I start DATING myself literally

Man, this is so important to those of us with an anxious attachment style due to relationship trauma. I have many times found myself doing "research" to confirm my brain's telling me of my boyfriend pulling away when he is, in fact, NOT AT ALL DOING THAT and is actually just having a rough day. Healing that side of your brain that has been traumatized so much is so so difficult, but so important to do because it affects you AND the relationships you have.

LISTEN...I have been going through depression for monthsssss. I just found you and this is my third video I have consecutively watched just now and it has addressed almost every deep seated issue I have been grasping so hard to make sense of. THANK YOU ✨✨✨

I'm struggling to find a job within my field of studies as a recent graduate and your words are a great reminder to stop myself from going into a negative spiral. Thank you so much for making this video!

Girl, When I tell you I was actually sitting there over analyzing multiple situations in my head while watching my instagram story and your video just popped up lol. Thank you very much, I reaally needed a reminder to go back to myself 🙏💗

And I love my inner child sm, but I never like it when they’re unstable. The growth along the way has allowed me and taught me how to take wheel and make sure I’m protecting my inner friend

What you’re describing is called limerence. Great topic to address. Really great content. The goal is emotional management, not the false narrative that everything will be rainbows and sunshine in life. The reality is life is out of our control, but our emotions are what we can work with to make it better.

I would have killed to have heard this advice when I was 19 years old and heartbroken. Everything you said in this video is spot on and exactly what years of therapy taught me. We have to learn to be happy with ourselves and not be codependent on others.

9:30 is literally what’s been happening to me for the last couple days through my sad girl phase, and it’s so annoying cause every time I feel like ‘okay I’ll be fine I can handle it’ I just get hit with wave of sadness and negative thoughts. But you’ve finally helped me recognise the cycle and that I’m not crazy😢

thank you so much for your BRUTAL honesty. i literally spent all day crying today over some boy... i will watch this video over and over again during this time. you're the big sister i always needed. god bless

This is the story of my life. You hit it right on the nail. I’m always so focused on the what I don’t have versus what I do have which is a lot. Unfortunate situations that I’ve been involved in cause me to dwell and I sink into a depression. It feels good knowing that I’m not alone with this, and that it’s human nature. I just thought there was something wrong with me lol

I can not express to you how much I needed this video. Lately I’ve been keeping myself in a prison of my own worries, trying to analyze and re-analyze all of my relationships and past actions, wondering where things went wrong. Returning to the present moment feels like an enormous relief, but it’s also scary because I’ve become so used to thinking of myself as something defective that needs to change NOW. You’re right though, it’s just become a never-ending spiral of self-criticism and wondering “why?” When there really are positive things in life to be grateful for right in this moment, and other areas of my life I could be building up instead of dwelling on the past. Thank you for posting this ❤

Girl I needed this right now. I have been in the worst place mentally than I have been for a while and I’ve really been finding it hard to get out of. Deep down I knew all of the things you were saying but I just needed to hear it from someone else. I can’t even tell you how grateful I am for this video 💗💗💗 sending you loveee

Your channel has been godsend because I feel like there are a lot of women going through the same thing that I am. I just got out of a relationship (2 months long). Broke up in August because because despite me being extremely vocal that I felt like he wasn’t putting much effort, he listened to it, said okay and did literally nothing about it. But I was deluded into thinking that he was because I liked him. I had asked him out and I had told him very very clearly I’m looking for something serious multiple times. I was gonna leave the city for a year because of my studies. He told me he was willing to do long distance. I cried a total of 13-14 times because he would disappear all of a sudden after telling me he’d come to pick me up and not even apologize the next day. I had told him that I’m not comfortable having sex without protection, turns out he took out the protection without even letting me know! He had told me that he’s just gotten too comfortable being single for a long time and I said do you not want to do this? He said no I want to, but it’s gonna take me some time. I had asked him out because he was really really honest and I thought dating an honest guy wouldn’t make me miserable. But he was honest with words, not with actions. I’ve even had one of the previous guys I’ve dated tell me to just get an abortion if I get pregnant. Both these guys, I had told them that I’m looking for something serious and both of them wanted a relationship with me because we had the talk. It’s hard to not completely lose your self esteem over those things. But the last guy I dated, really gave me a wake up call. Through his disrespect he let me know how much I disrespected myself. Not anymore. I’m healing everyday. I’m getting better.

as a teen in highschool, my year hasn't been so great. this is helping me out a lot

I'm going through tough time searching for a job, facing rejection after rejection and was feeling a little down lately. This video came up on my fyp in the right time, I actually cried watching it. Thank you, I needed it ❤

been through it - personally - from experience - friends don't need to involve themselves in your love life - one more thing - don't compare / contrast with anyone or try to fix someone else - no one - anyone.

The algorithm is really something 😶 I'm so glad for watching this AND reading the comments, so many of us going thru this obsessive negative thinking phase rn :(

nah my phones listening to me i swear i’m going through this kinda thing for like the first time and i’ve been in the worst depths spiralling and you spoke my mind and your speaking straight to my soul i absolutely needed this reassurance thanks so much

Idk I usually hate videos that give advice because the people seem so fake but this was so so good. You genuinely seem like a super real and kind person and giving such genuine advice. Needed to hear this ❤ thank you

I 100 % was like this all that you mentioned, until lately I started to love myself and healed myself. Now, I don't beg, I don't get triggered, I don't think I'm worthless (as I always thought) no matter what happens.

I would like you to talk about how to not care about how others see you, being confident, do not let fear stop you from working towards what you want . These are some things that I am struggling with recently I would love to see you address these topics even if you don’t it doesn’t matter I love you either way. You make me happy, clear my mind and calms me. So bless you sis sending love, happy and blessings 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜😌😌😌💜💜💜💜💜💜

you described my life rn, a guy I like is pulling away and yk what its okay. I'm in college and I just topped my class i should focus on the positive 🥰

Phew girl you have no idea how much I needed to hear this right now. Thank you.

This video popped up and it’s like RU-vid knew I NEEDED this. I have been so obsessed over this certain guy I’ve been talking to. I am such a SEVERE over thinker to the point where I get panic attacks when he’s acting weird or doesn’t talk to me for days or weeks. I really care about him but some days he seems totally obsessed with me and other days he gets distant. I’m trying to detach myself a little from him so I can stop feeling like I need him so much but it hurts. I’m only 4 minutes into your video and currently still watching but thank you so much for understanding my situation. We’re all going thru it ahah. 💗 EDIT: yeah we stopped talking. I noticed he was acting funny and when I finally had the guts to confront him about it he started treating me very differently and became very hostile towards me. Mind you I was the only one there for him in his time of need. Apparently I found out from my dad who is friends with HIS dad that he had brought a woman home and no wonder why he had been ignoring me. When I asked about this he lied and said it wasn’t true and that pissed me off but most of all hurt. We had a huge argument where he said some things and it hurt but I am bouncing back from that in the New Year lol! I cut him off before Christmas and I’ve been healing since. BTW the woman he had at his house wanted to take him to church and JUST BECAUSE OF THAT he got angry, said some awful things and kicked her out. (poor lady) Seems like he was the problem all along. I know my worth and know I deserve better. Happy New Years Guys!!! We’ll all be ok! I promise! 💖 Focus on yourselves this year. :)

I'M SO GLAD I WATCHED THIS THROUGH BECAUSE YOU LITERALLY EXPLAINED WHAT I'VE BEEN GOING THROUGH FOR THE PAST MONTH AND PUT IT INTO WORDS. Omg thank you so much I've felt so stuck in life lately

I seen this video as soon as I opened the app. You’ve honestly confirmed everything i’ve been thinking when it comes to relationships or even just platonic friendships. we don’t know what anyone else is going through, but dwelling on how they treat us shouldn’t have us questioning our worth. Moving on and just living your life is just the response to that. it’s hard for us intuitive overthinkers but it takes educating ourselves with advice like this 👏🏽

I resonate so hard. I didn’t know there wz an alternate self. I think I’ve lived my whole life in hyper vigilance and fear. I feel a weight lifted.

Can’t believe i came across this video at a time where i’ve been obsessed with my boyfriends ex because she is much prettier than me. I should stop being so obsessed about it.

this came at the right time I love this I am so greatful I found this because I am going through or was going through a rejection period from someone and I came up with all theses excuses to why he doesn’t see who I am and I became so very attached to this person and situation that I lost myself in it. I’m coming back and I have my moments but I’m trying to not get obsessed over it too much!! And I am in a new friendship with these two guys and I’m trying not to get attarched to them and learn from the past lessons on self attachment of negative situations

This is quite literally what i needed to hear today. I had such high hopes for this connection working out, i was getting so many dopamine hits from the attention he was giving me, to literally getting no responses and having to ask them if he was still interested or not. which is terrible. I have been so sad about this not working out but i am realizing that you are absolutely right. He was upfront and told me he isn't emotionally ready for a relationship rn and he didn't feel it was fair to make me wait and i completely understood, and we did agree to stay friends. it just sucks that i went from being so hopeful for it to just not work out after having so many disappointments this passed year when it comes to relationships. I am slowly refocusing the attention towards my goals and my aspirations, finding a better job, becoming a twitch streamer and just doing things that i know will make me happy at the end of the day. God, thank you for this video

I really needed this. Recently Ive been having a lot of wake up calls like a random post that addresses of a man doesn’t call you and that post said it’s simple, he just doesn’t want to talk to you and that hit me hard even tho I knew this already. I’m just coming to terms with it so that I can release these negative thoughts and official put that someone who neglects to contact me in my past and to keep moving forward. It’s so crazy that this video basically covered all that I need and beyond and for that I am grateful☺️

This video has been sent to me by whatever divine powers because I need it at this exact moment. I've been fixating way too much on how I have been wronged and I have already given these people too much power over me. Thank you!

So true. Im currently obsessed with my ex's new relationship. I was fine with it until I saw that they were going out on dates, taking our daughter along, and taking family photos together after knowing each other a month. Ive been livid since, and it is affecting every area of my life. I cant focus on school, work, or myself. :(

THIS is it. I feel like absolutely every female can relate to this, and I know I deal with this literally every day, so I’m so grateful for this video and ur advice. thank u so much.

this is everything I needed to hear today, specially after an anxiety crisis where my inner child TOTALLY took control and I almost started crying.

Oh, girl you caught me. For the first time in my life, I feel like I'm actually engaging with someone healthy to the point that the fact overwhelms me. I've gotten attached to the situation that I'm holding on so tightly to keep things exactly as they are. The smallest changes threaten my nervous system and confidence that if I don't regulate myself soon, I might end up being the toxic one. I'm glad this video found me early. It's not easy transitioning from unhealthy situationships to healthy real relationships because even if you've done a lot of healing on your own, you're bound to get triggered. But that doesn't mean you don't try again. That doesn't mean you go back to old patterns. You learn something new about yourself, and new pieces of information about your pain and persona will arise FOR your benefit. You don't need to react to every negative thought, to every fear. You need only to inquire deeper within why you attach your stability so much to these external people or circumstances. Nothing in life is permanent, but your relationship with yourself is. So learn to be non-attached ~ allow things to unfold as they do, allow people to come and go, just let them. It's challenging not to doubt. Perhaps, most of us will never get to the point of ideal full confidence or stability, but we have to try because there are good things waiting for us on the other side to just experience it. Thank you so much for helping me realize this, sweet angel that randomly popped up on my feed. Sending you blessings and healing!

I started being grateful about every little things that I love or made me smile in the past. I keep reminding myself of these things over and over again, so that my inner child feel safer and more appreciated❤️ I also try to pull away from people who makes me feel bad about myself. It makes me alone at times but I feel so excited for this healing journey, it’s just the beginning and I am certain better days are coming🥰

YOUR TOP LOOKS LIKE A BUTTERFLY IT'S SO CUTE

This really helped me understand some things about myself and others. I recently just stopped talking to someone( we talked for about 4 months). He was pulling away and didn’t feel the same. I try though I was doing things wrong and he even told me it wasn’t me but I couldn’t stop fixating in the negative about myself. You have helped start to understand I have to stop obsessing over others and learn to ban control within myself and try to up my self esteem. This will help me for life in general and my love life. Thank you❤️

I’m GROWING through this now. My last journal topic was focused around the mindset shift from “Things happening TO ME” to “Things happening FOR ME” It takes you from a negative space to one where your looking for blessings and lessons in even the most uncomfortable situations. Also, I realized the “panic” or “anxiety” that comes with overthinking or over analyzing a situation can be WAYYYYYYYY WORST then what’s actually happening. I experimented with this just yesterday. When I texted my BF and he responded “I’m not home”. I caught myself overthinking instantly and stopped myself like “chill out and finish your errands peacefully you can simple just ask him ‘what did he do today’ when you get home” Then I ran into him in Target and he was getting house supplies we needed 😅. Imagine if I would’ve reacted.

This video is really reminding me that I’m still maturing. I’ve practically had to raise myself and I keep beating myself because my thoughts/words are not matching up with my actions.

I love this video so much, helped me a lot!! my ex broke up with me 4 days ago and i did so well but i recently ( a couple of hours before watching this) i called him 5 times and messaged him on a new account since he blocked me on two others accounts. spoiler alert; im now blocked a 3rd time but im going to get back to myself and regulating my days again and tomorrow im meeting friends

Truely thank you so much. I’m not going through anything you’ve mentioned in the video, but it’s a very unique situation to do with my relationship that Is making me far more unhappy than it probably should. I’ve spent like a year trying to fix it and it’s getting to a point where I just don’t have the energy to keep thinking about it. This video really helped me understand how to stop obsessing over it and accept that what happens, happens I hope that this helps but so far thank you

We are definitely in alignment because I’ve been starting a spiritual purge and did an Akashic Records meditation learning and understanding so much about my aura and heart and root chakra being cluttered. This is another step: me trying to understand why I live so negatively in ego when I know I can be high energy and uplifting. It’s because I spend so much time giving to others and neglect myself feeling I ain’t worth much but… 😅 My fears are lies

I needed to hear this more than anything. I thought I was legitimately doomed to my thinking until he changed, and was obsessing over what I should be doing to get him to go back to the man I fell for. Turns out I need to stop putting all my energy into this. I’ve been so exhausted. Thank you.

This felt like it was made just for me. I really needed this!

OH MY GOD. I need to watch this video EVERYDAY. I was like this almost 10 years or more. I don't know you or why RU-vid brought me here but thank you.

I'm going to turn this on everyday after work as a reminder. THANK YOU U SAVED LIFE.

RU-vid needs more of this! I am watching videos every day trying to find EXACTLY THIS TOPIC… no one talks about this in the way you do. This is exactly my situation and I am grateful for this video ❤

My pain didn't want to watch this video , but I got 4 minutes in and couldn't resist. Man. How I needed to hear these things! Urgh!! But I am so very grateful for knowledge and knowing that it can and will get better. Definitely gonna learn to put my lovely inner child in the passenger seat😭 cuz my oh my , she be driving places. As an adult. I need to take charge of my life. Thank you ❤..

wow girl u really told me off🤣i needed this though because it seems like everyday i take up too much time complaining to myself about situations that don't even need my energy put into

You always talk that talk… you’re helping so many women ❤❤❤

there are things that depends on us and only us, and well-being is basically dependent on how we deal with those things we can't blame other people forever

i was just going through it. i feel like the universe showed me this for it to be meant to be for me

Gosh this is so needed right now for the collective. I am SO glad im not the only one kind of reverting back to unhealed patterns of thought. I feel like we collectively realized this a few years ago yet recently the comparison and everything has become “a thing” again and your video is helping me a LOT right now

Thank you so much! You are so right when you say that even knowing we have to stop thinking and focusing on something didnt work out 3 seconds after we still doings things related to it

I don't really comment on videos but I can not stress how much I needed to hear this from someone! Thank you so, so much for this! Truly, I am going to try and focus on what I HAVE and not what I DON'T. As a 17-year-old who happens to have piss poor social skills (but working on it now!) I am so used to going to negative spirals and them further really just ruining moments I am enjoying, or going for opportunities I could take but didn't due to overthinking. This really motivated me to just.... speak about things I like, which I struggled with. From going to crying for no reason, to being more in control of my emotions, I still sometimes require some form of acknowledgement that I'm doing right, and this did just that. Thank you so much :))) Hope you had a good day!

I would say I needed this 5 months ago when in the middle of my breakup, but I think it’s good you posted this 11 days ago and that I’m seeing it now, i feel like I’m able to absorb the message more thank u ❤

I love how you have the perfect assertiveness with THIS TYPE of information.

this is the best affirmation for me right now! 📮 I’d been worrying about exams but after video I realized how much I could take under control. the best advice is to be proactive! I wonder, if I can do this every time. your speech motivated me a lot. 😌🧘🏽‍♀️ thank you 💌💔

Wow. This said everything I needed to hear. After my long time crush who used to give me lots of attention pulled away I started questioning if it's all because I'm just not pretty enough. But this really helped me detach and take more control over my feelings.

This is crazy that this video came to me at this exact moment. Thank you. Edit: (More to add since I’ve now finished the video.) You are so wise, it’s incredible. You have a great energy. I love your perspective on these situations. It’s also helps to know so many women struggle with or have struggled with the types of issues you discuss at some point in their lives and it doesn’t mean you are broken or crazy, you’re just human. Your analogy regarding you guiding your inner child was groundbreaking for me. I am a very visual person and this is the first time I’ve been able to visualize and therefore understand how to control, or “guide”, if you will, my mind and emotions. This could not have come at a more crucial time in my life. There is a few situations I feel like this could apply to in my life right now. I am so grateful this came to me at the exact right moment.

Jeez this is what i call "speaking the damn truth" XD she's so right!

This video came at the PERFECT time! It's like you were reading my mind! Focusing on the negative situation only makes you feel worse about yourself and the situation and we need to learn how to focus on ourselves and the positive things going on in our lives! Thank you for your wisdom and big sisterly advice! 🙏🏻💞✨

I really love channels like urs because it helps a lot of people like me whose can`t afford refular mental therapy. Here I can literally hear things I always knew but didn`t understand they source or process of work, so after watching I feel more connected to inner child and my emotions. I`m currently hardly trying to escape victim syndrome, because logically I`m out of it but mentally still in

W o w. Legit my life rn so I stumbled upon this for a reason. Tysm for talking about this bc I’ve been honestly hurting and took it so personal. I feel bad for him because I’ve been in that same situation so many times but I just feel like such a fool . I hope he forgives me one day (he probably doesn’t care) but 100% need to forgive myself for being legit human .

I don't know why I found a lot of comfort sinking into negative feels. It's like a wakeup realisation or sort, I feel like dwelling into my sadness makes me more intelligent to figure out stuffs compared to being just happy and missed out the lessons of the dark side. But too much of something is never good and now that I grow older with more maturity, I look back and wonder why my younger self loved to do that even more. Perhaps those were age of growth where we felt every why's has to be answered whereas today is the time of mature where we felt we've learnt and equipped with a lot experiences enough, so now it's time to just embrace and do the life instead of keep letting life do us.

You have no idea how helpful this video is! The fact I could relate to each sentence you were saying and the current situation that I am facing is just wow! I have been going through some self help video and came across yours and it feels like a relief! There is a way out of this roller coaster- all I gotta do is recommit to myself and my life! Thank you for making such relatable videos and helping out! Lots of love ❤

Thank You ! This hit home !!! I'm an overthinker/analyzer I've been distracting myself by putting that energy into my goals. It's not easy though because you do have to step back, let go of the thoughts, and stay in a positive space.

This is so so true. The boy I love who ik truly love me he want to work on himself and he was explaining to me how he don’t wanna keep blowing me up and seeing me while we’re not together because it’s unhealthy right now for both of us and I agree but like you mentioned in the video I keep going on this roller coaster where one minute I’m fine I got this everything going to be ok and the next minute I’m upset and crying and don’t wanna get out the bed thinking that he’s never going to come back. It sucks but ik he means well and I’ve been doing good with disciplining myself and I stopped checking my messages to see if he texted me usually I’ll block him but i didn’t no longer reacting off of emotions it’ll be ok I’m just gone take it one day at a time. Im going to watch this video daily! Worrying does nothing for me! God is in control

this is so what I needed to hear right now, I feel like an angel just sent me this video. I know you're talking about dating situations in the video but this completely applies to so many other situations where someone is feeling anxious and having a spiral of low self worth!

This is one of my fav videos of yours! ❤ great advice and breakdown of the reasons why we do this

WOW, I have been searching for a video like this for YEARS! I was trying to desperately understand why I reacted so poorly to one situation I was in. I couldn’t comprehend or wasn’t self-aware that I reacted because I had such low self-esteem. I wasn’t taught the right way to handle my emotions by my parents and that really hurt me in the long run. I’m just learning now that it is MY responsibility to teach myself the right way to handle emotions. Otherwise my hurt hurts other people. THANK YOU for this video. I felt crazy in this situation because I was SO paranoid and obsessive with analyzing why someone behaved differently toward me. My reaction to the situation made it SO much worse. And I apologized to this individual when it happened and have wept privately for the hurt I caused them FOR YEARS! How this person treated me wasn’t right but my silence in response to them would’ve been much more affective than what happened. I’m learning that silence in response to gossip MEANS I have the confidence to withstand their lies. These people don’t even deserve not ONE breath from me. I can’t waste my breath on people who don’t want to take the time to be kind. It was a big and PAINFUL lesson. But so needed to recognize I NEED to parent myself and teach myself how to properly handle emotions. So happy for this video because I am aware now and I forgive myself for that situation because I simply used the tools I had at the time. Had a very embarrassing situation I am beating myself up for that happened this weekend. And I’m trying not to obsess and analyze the situation. It happened, it will make for a funny story later, and it’s completely okay

This video is everything I need at this time of my life. I subscribed the moment I saw your videos !!! I'm currently living the life "of my dreams", living with my boyfriend, we adopted pets, yet I keep being obsessed with every little thing that's upsetting me (a girl that keeps trying to get his attention, the fact that he is struggling to express his feelings, the fact that we are not physically as close as we were at the beginning...) and I cleary see that it is keeping me from living the life I deserve, a HAPPY life. So recently I have been shifting my perspective, but since it is not something we naturally do, I constantly have to read about it, listen to podcasts etc. Your videos are SO helpful and I'm really grateful that they were recommended to me by RU-vid ✨❤

This niqqa spittin’ It definitely doesn’t matter. Read a positive book ladies. Override those thoughts. Thanks for this content. This is fire.

I thank God, life, energy, the universe for having found this awesome video

Needed this in my life, I’ve been struggling with my attachment to friends

I’ve never heard anybody hit the nail on the head with this topic like you did in this video!! AAAH, thank you so much for creating this. It showed up in my recommended at exactly the right time. It’s so comforting and validating to know that so many of us are going through “push-pull” situations right now. As much as they suck, we’re all together in it! We can choose to grow from them. Your no-bullshit direct explanations and advice truly helped me so much. I’ve been trying and trying to move on from this situation, and you gave me the reminders that I needed. It seems that many others felt the same way! :)

Love this video ! It’s so true. It took me a long time to get to this space but it’s been so worthwhile. There are so many other things to focus on

I got worried so much about my job that i got a stiff neck and I lost so much just because of it for something that got a solution quietly. I had never thought of working like that. thank you

I'm in tears rn, thank you

Honestly what I found helpful was journaling. I can write it down and leave it on that piece of paper yk

I’ve been needing to hear this for sooooo long. I really needed this clarity. 😮‍💨Thank you Goddess. I’ve recently cut off pretty much all of my close friends because of I was feeling a pull away. I became mentally obsessed in trying to mend relationships because I was obsessed with getting that old thing back for years. I grew so tired I had to do a clean cut off to avoid those “highs”. I didn’t realize my inner child was in control. But now I can make that conscious effort to shift myself. My whole life has been quick highs and lows so I know it won’t be easy.

just got broken up with a few days ago. it’s soooo easy to dwell on what went wrong. but it has absolutely nothing to do with me, and everything to do with them. i need to focus on myself or i will never get through this. it’s okay to be sad and feel your feelings, but do not search out reasons to feel sad!! overthinking has never helped me. NOT ONCE!

I literally do this about everything. I start obsessing and make everything worse. Lord I needed this.

Such a fantastic video. You talk about topics in a way that no one else does that I’ve seen.

This came at the RIGHT time …Cas I’ve been going crazy! Been so emotional pushing him away and made it worse. Thank you😭

It's really about how u see things. Like try being either delusional or shift the way og thinking for example: Instead of "Why if he doesn't like me?" Try "Why if I don't like him?" or "Do I even need him to like me?" Try seeing things other ways

It's scary that I do all the things that you have mentioned in the video but I'm happy that I can heal my inner child now.

although i haven’t mastered this yet, detachment is been one of the greatest skills I’ve worked on. A lot of us can’t handle NOT having control, same people when it comes to men WANT to know what they’re doing, what they’re feeling, why they’re acting this way etc.. But we will never get the answer we want. And im telling you right now you sometimes just have to say fuck it and be okay with not knowing certain things. Protect your peace, especially if you know you don’t want to leave him. If you know you’re done, then yea, try to leave. Either way, protect yourself. Nothing is yours except you. Sooner or later you’ll realize that you wont even start to care about everything they do and the things the really matter will come to light on their own.

I love how you are so straight forward girl u saved me

LOVEDDDDD this video!!!! You're changing lives 💓💓