When a woman is jogging, or running with a ponytail and her hair bounces back-and-forth. When a woman moves her hair out of her face after she looked down, When a woman is polite, cordial and act with Grace towards other people. That’s all I’ve got right now.
I've done the backwards baseball cap and the forward baseball cap experiment for many months, and the results are: NOBODY pays attention to me LOLOL :D
the usual disclaimer applies - none of these things are attractive in themselves women are just reminiscing about/imagining a guy they already like with these things. when men say they like sun dresses they're thinking of the early 20s hot blonde christian girl not some flabby 50 y/o. straight women are attracted to large masculine bodies that indicate health/strength/dominance and straight men are attracted to feminine bodies that exhibit signs of health/reproductive capacity. accessories aren't going to turn a 'no' into a 'yes'.
Yeah, I noticed some of these were a bit pointless. Like the back touching... That's only attractive when you're ALREADY close with a women... Like that's not meaningful advice when trying to attract a woman.
The point I think is to stand out in a crowd when the person doesn't know anything about you. And yes looks matter the most when you don't know anything about the person until you get to know him or her. This includes body language, posture, mannerisms, and clothes.
Weirdly-specific-things about women that I find attractive: -When they get excited about holding a baby -When they cry about happy things -When they laugh (and it doesn't sound like a pterodactyl or a Mack truck - this can be real hit-or-miss) -When they sit on a couch/chair with their legs curled up to the side
This is way more interesting and informative than the video presented. I found it to be garbage other than I wear a digital $30 watch because I beat and scratch the things up and I have a beautiful analog watch that I am too lazy to put on when appropriate. So there is that.
@@Allojubrious @JACQUEZJOHNSON23 LOL Hey, I like what I like. And when women do those things, I like it. And the ball cap thing, but everyone else was already saying it. Didn't realize that one was so universal.
My ex dressed well, stylishly without affectation. She is from Hawaii, had taken hula as a girl, and was very feminine. One thing I love to see women do is throw their heads back and laugh heartily, naturally and without thought. Women who are naturally feminine move like cats and are a joy to watch; it's poetry in motion. Regarding this video: it's just a joy and heartwarming to hear ANY woman speak well or admiringly of men these days. It's a breath of fresh air. Keep up the good work, Courtney. Much appreciated.
1. What I like to call the “target run outfit”. Usually a messy ponytail, leggings, and a hoodie/shirt. There’s something about being able to be hot even while being nonchalant about it. 2. Similar to the lower back touch, when in close proximity in a crowded space,her hugging my arm. 3. Answering the phone after the first ring 😂
Mine is a phrase. It comes from the movie "The Accountant". The father tells the accountant as a young son: You're different...sooner or later different scares people.
Love a girl who can take the piss out of herself and have a laugh. Love a girl who listens with their eyes and locks their gaze on you. Love a girl who dresses modestly, shows that she has self esteem and doesn't need the attention. Love a girl who laughs at my stupid Dad jokes. Thanks for the Vid Courtney. It was very refreshing to hear, as us blokes can be quite oblivious to the suttle hints.
Most of it is nonsense. The type of woman the guys in these videos want doesn't give a damn about your watch or want to see you in a backward hat. The hand on the back one applies to all woman, but they also neglect to mention that they can usually tell overall if you're one of us who do it out of being a gentleman and has a protective nature or those who are just trying to find an excuse to break the touch barrier. Most women who aren't real young and stupid know the difference.
Being "handsome" has a lot more "variations" than men seem to think. If anything I think women have a far broader defintion of physical attractive for men, the, men do for women.
I remember this edgy comedy from about 20 years ago in which a drunken druggie chick who ended up in jail and was ordered by the judge to go back and finish high school. The girl picked up right where she left off, learning nothing, and the humor was very non-PC (Stephen Colbert played a gay teacher). Anyway one episode entailed competition between students and the best looking ones, who were clearly inferior in the tasks they did, kept winning the prizes.
Only rookies with low experience with women think this way. Women don’t actually care about men’s looks very much in the same way men do. It’s not a simple “he’s hot” I want him. Even if it seems that way. Men operate more like that especially if they are not select men
I find it really attractive when a woman naturally displays very classy and elegant mannerisms. It shows confidence, sophistication, self-acceptance and like she'll be able to provide a stimulating and intellectual conversation, but that's just me.
as a man i dont really get many compliments, however I still remember the first I ever got. I posted on my Instagram as a story a selfie of me wearing a cap backwards, my crush at the time replied saying she really liked my style with the cap and it suits me a lot. That was like 7-8 years ago, I still think about it to this day.
As a military man, I would say the backwards baseball cap says you are in Special Operations building a trench. But a forward-facing baseball cap means you are a special operator on Mission. There is a Delta Force feel with a forward cap. It is also used to protect your identity. A backwards cap means you are not in combat.
@Allojubrious Yeah, because our generation is proud of our service instead of being embarrassed by it (post-vietnam). The country hated the military back then.
@@Allojubrious How do you know a guy's a commenter? Because he can't stop talking to inflate himself. Look, I get it; not everyone thinks the way I do and the way I look at it, and without that statement, there is no weight. In my opinion. OH, but no! Must be that I care that everyone knows I'm military. So go ahead and throw me in with the soldiers that make we want to vomit and that make me feel like I never want bring up that I was military. Go ahead. Just go on and immediately go to that comment like a keyboard hero so you can feel like you're calling out the most hilarious inside joke in the frat, without actually thinking through any type of other reasoning that a person might have to say it - other than being "that guy." Because they always have to be, for sure. For example, I could say any guy who puts that comment on another's comment is fuckboy who sells insurance, and the only they can wear camo without stealing valor is to go hunting, play paintball, or wear it for Halloween. Might not apply to you, but fuck it, I'll say what I want. Just like you. Again, this probably doesn't apply to you, but well, what's the internet without people like you? We would go nowhere without you. You're such a Bob the Builder, who's probably still reading this. But anyway, I'm done and not coming back to this comment. Just want to leave you with one thing. Fuck me for losing my memory in Afghanistan, right? What an idiot, right? What a shmuck who is just like all those people who wear "Army" shirts around town. He must LoVe to say, "I'm military!" in every comment he makes. Because they all do, apparently and it's my job, as the RU-vid police to degrade this asshole and to get more likes on my comment than his original comment.
@iamme25yago There's a difference between being kind or a compliment, vs the tons of guys in insta models' comment sections barking. Compliments and treating people kindly, being authentic, those will never make us look desperate or unattractive
@iamme25yago I can't lie, I also feel its cringe when people see these channels and are like "omg I want a gf just like you" thats creepy asf, but i dont think it puts all of our gender's reputation down. Women that see one dude behave bad and take it as evidence that all men are trash are too far gone anyways.
The reality is, women probably won't notice these details if they don't find the guy handsome from the get go. But when you find someone hot, anything they do can potentially be sexy lol. Card shuffling, yes, never realized how hot that is until now!
I agree. My friend had a roommate Joel, who was a real "ladies man." Back in 1999, he bought (at a factory outlet, and they were all cheap because of the NBA lockout that season) a $10 ugly Kobe Bryant replica jersey, and jeans, and he could still pull it off. "The person makes, the clothes. The clothes don't make the person" only applies so much.
If you're borderline for a woman, a lot of these things can push you from a "no" to a "yes". Don't go full blackpill. Looks are important, but aren't everything.
This is exactly right. I've been married for a lot of years and was watching this with my wife. We both agreed the advice in the video is dangerous. It is also important to turn off the wrong kind of person, the superficial types, unless you're a psychopathic narcissist who wants a woman for one night. Then, by all means, learn all the microtraits that attract the opposite sex. Better advice, if you're playing for the long term, is to develop your character and potential in life. Develop the confidence that you have a lot to offer and show that you can turn away anyone. I've interviewed many people applying for jobs and they come as supplicants instead of people who understand it's 50/50. Attracting a mate is the same.
She's just saying these things make a guy look hot, stop reading in between non-existent lines. If a woman says flipping cards is hot it doesn't automatically mean she wants to take her clothes off for every blackjack dealer. She can find things hot without being attracted to the guy.
Woman here. None of these would make or break my feelings about a guy but my personal opinion is as follows… Things I like: - The hands - The back-touch (but only if I’m already really comfortable with him-otherwise the shiver up my spine is not a good one) - The watch is alright; it doesn’t do much for me though Things I don’t like: - The backwards cap I don’t care about the other two
I actually like how honest and funny the girl at the start is. Honesty even if weird at times is attractive as a quality to me. The nicely innocent and fun video is great in a sea of negativity that the internet can sometimes be.
Courtney, thank you for your videos. I enjoy them and I'm an old married guy trying to stay relevant for my wife's sake. I'm really old fashioned so I can't think of anything "weird" that is attractive to me. I like when a woman is sweet, kind, and a little shy as opposed to "sassy". I like it when they feel the need to fix my collar or straighten my tie. As mentioned earlier by someone else, I love it when a woman is running with a ponytail and it is bouncing. Very feminine. I love it when they wear bright colors and clothes that look very soft but also relatively modest (not showing too much skin but enough to be interesting). Maybe this is weird: When they are wearing a neckless and they pull it up to their mouth and sort of toy with it in their mouth. I assume this draws my attention to their mouth. Oh, I do like when a woman is really passionate about talking about something and her facial expressions are very pronounced and emotional (in a positive way). That energy is very attractive to me. Pretty normal stuff I guess.
Yes old married guy here too. We all like different things. For me its intelligent women with Latin looks so its a bit specific but I found mine some 40 year ago and never looked back. I got here though because of my young adult sons trying to understand their world and the pressures they face.
I had no idea you were Teddy's wife, been a viewer of his RU-vid channel for a while, very informative young man and seems an all round good guy, I stumbled on to your channel recently also very good thank you both for excellent contents, congratulations to you both and all the best for your future together , you seem well matched in my opinion.
The way my wife explained the lower back touch to me is that, when i would put my hand on her lower back it made her feel like i was guiding her. If i did it on her upper back it makes her feel like I'm rushing/pushing her. She did say that she loves it when i put my hands on her hips. Don't do that to a stranger though.
Things that women do: I knew a girl who had taken ballet for many years in her youth. Now in her late twenties, when she was waiting in line or otherwise bored, without thinking about it she would do these little toe stands and go in and out of a ballerina pose. It was a quirky little habit she had that was absolutely adorable!
When women put their hair up into a pony tail or undoing a braid/ pony tail and doing the hair head scratch and flip afterwards. ( shows confidence and pure femininity at its peak).
Things I find attractive in women: 1) Blushing. Modesty is so attractive 2) A stifled laugh. A good sense of humor and self-control 3) Saying thank you. A little bit of appreciation goes a long way
I need to get back to wearing watches. I went through a watch phase right out of college, and lots of women at the office complimented them. As for weird things women do that I find attractive, a FORWARD baseball cap with the ponytail pulled through the back makes me weak 😂
Yes, agreed a watch. Just started wearing mine again after years. It is the only jewellery other than a wedding ring I will wear. Backward baseball cap is only for young men. As an older man, I think it looks like you are in some kind of crisis trying to recapture your youth.
Ngl my inner animal is channeled when I see the pony tail out of the cap, I can imagine a cute mom going to the store with one of the little ones pushing kiddo in the cart. Put a rock on her finger 🖖💍👌
I've got a few great watches, but now I have a Garmin Forerunner watch and I wear it all the time for the stats. I need to stop doing that, on dates at least.
Forwards baseball cap: You're a man of focus, drive, determination, career goals. Backwards baseball cap: You like to party, drink, play sports, had many girlfriends, not really focused on your career right now.
Let's be real here for a moment. We are men. We don't notice the obvious things so the subtle things.... Yeah. If I were to think of a list though. 1. The little lip bite 2. When she allows me to be a man. (She will wait for me to open the door. Not that she expects it but because she knows it's what I need to do) 3. Crosses her legs 4. Wears proper accessories ( anklet, chocker, ect but does not over do it) 5. No insane fake nails or lashes. 6. Is a little reserved. 7. Respectful to everything. 7. The ponytail. To steal from other list it's too good to not include. I think it exposes their neckline and it wakes up the little vampire in all of us. (I am not suggesting we want to bite them, necks are sexy. Don't make this weird) 8. Oh, the lipstick/gloss
Like, "women who COMPLAIN and bash other people (especially men) on their Twitter and Facebook accounts," and they think that men find that ATTRACTIVE? Come on! I've actually seen women ask, "Is it a turn off to men, when they see my Twitter and Facebook posts complaining about and bashing men?" Come on, man!!
a vast majority of the women i have had relationships with claimed that they loved my dancing. my ex wife still insists that was the catalyst for her falling in love with me, and even told me the other day "i miss dancing". i guess her new husband doesn't. go figure.
I don't know how many guys feel like I do, but what really impresses me is when a girl casually does small acts of kindness (holding a door, picking something up, etc) or show s sudden display of skills (showing me a program or site she coded, talk about a piece of furniture she fixed, sketches something quickly). Just a quick casual glimpse of who she is or what she's good at, like that momentary over-the-sunglasses eye contact. LOL
I'm with you! A massive point of attraction and shows she actually has a personality. I was in a relationship once, and we went to visit my parents. I was so excited because she was going to meet my family's dog. She met the dog, became instant best friends, and within a minute, she found a tick on the dog. She said "oh no, he's got a tick" and instantly just yanked it right off him and squashed the MF on the concrete. "All better :)" she said. That relationship is over, for good reason, but god dang if that moment doesn't make a good measuring stick for future girlfriends. A lot of women seem to think they need to dumb themselves down or act helpless to attract a man, and that makes me sad.
I have good hair but I have a thing for wearing hats. I wear a hat almost every waking hour of the day, in fact I'm known for hats. And girls have told me the backwards hat is hot more times than I can count. But it has to be almost organic, like some dudes look great bald and some don't. Same with hats, same with many things. Ya gotta find what makes you comfortable, never dress to make someone else comfortable. Dress for your own comfort and confidence.
These are great, even though I am married and not looking to attract anyone, but I still can try to make the Mrs. happy too I guess. BTW, I find women without makeup/push-up bras etc. most attractive. Athletic clothing is an added bonus (especially if they are actually fit).
I think the overarching common theme in the things they are saying are hot, is competency. Essentially showing that you are skilled in some way which exudes some amount of subconscious confidence.
No not exactly this is where most guys get tripped up because they are so used to dealing with gold diggers on this subject. A watch can genuinely look more masculine, if you can accept that a cheap hat can make you look more manly you can also accept that a cheap watch can do the same. To avoid being objectified just don't lead with your wealth always lead with your character. There's a reason billionaires dress like an average person, people judge the rich and they want people to be unassuming of them. Boys dress rich, Mark Zuckerberg & Elon Musk dress like an every day guy and they probably also have a watch on him that's no more than a few houndred bucks hidden in their sleeve.
@@poeticeclipse to play devils advocate here, 50% of all marriages fail, there is a loneliness epidemic in our culture due to lack of understanding one another and the feminist movement and the manosphear movements deepens the divide and don't get me started on red vs blue politics because most men prefer conservatism while most women support liberalism so you can say the dualistic thinking with lack of nuance is highly polarizing our society. Everything we need for population decline.
Courtney: “Go out with no cap, forward cap, and backwards cap and tell me which one got you the most compliments.” Every man: None. None of them got me compliments. I have never had an unsolicited compliment.
Very important is when an attractive woman keeps her natural hair color, particularly when she is younger, rather than changes it. It indicates stability and confidence in how God really made her. This confidence alone is attractive. Additionally, it means that the man, when he is attracted, is attracted to the true picture of who she really is, rather than make-believe.
I've been out and about today and havd noticed woman and girls are smilling at me more than usual which does great for my confidence to attract the ladies I want
I’ll be 37 next month and occasionally wear my black mesh SnapBack hat (not fitted) backwards, I would get a lot of compliments from women about it how it just “does it” for them. It takes a certain personality type to pull it off though I think. It’s the hat of choice for masculine, physically strong and conservative men in my opinion.
Being gentleman without expecting anything will make you hot, Thanks.
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OK here goes 1. Hands. Mostly, how they move. Skin and nails on point, or at least they must not distract. Manicures and extensions discrete, minimal. Left handedness a bonus - but not essential. 2. Eyes. Sustained contact, broken at the "right" time, broken by what exactly? Looking where? 3. Words. Comfortable in the space between intelligent and intellectual, flirty and confident. And, thank you for your insights! Dragged my automatic out of a dusty drawer...
The watch on a man's writst does NOT have to be expensive (much less a Rolex!). I first noticed the sex appeal when I was 19--and I thin k it was a metal TIMEX
These might seem strange to some people. Whats stranger is doing or having all this and NOT being tall, handsome, with the appearance of wealth and status. Then expecting any of this to make a woman think you are sexy.
I think something could be said of ensuring you’re going after women who maybe aren’t 10s if you know you aren’t. There’s more to what makes you you and makes you great than the stereotypical crap. Lean into those things. There are a LOT of people paired up who aren’t tall, handsome, and wealthy, so those can’t be the only qualifiers.
@@poeticeclipse But sure those women who got paired with a guy who's not handsome cheats with hot guys either be it the hot male stripper at their bachelorette party or after marriage. It's unfortunate but it happens more often than all of us think😊
@@rebel3391 I’m curious if you really think all woman cheat, regardless of level of attractiveness. And let’s clear this up… Marriage doesn’t make people cheat. It can happen, and anytime can do it, with or without marriage and with or without someone more conventionally attractive than their partner. I’ve known plenty of people who were betrayed by someone less attractive than them, so that has little to do with it. So does gender. Statistically speaking, more men cheat and more men’s infidelity lead to divorce. I’m not placing blame, just stating a stat. It’s Not a thing that’s “all men” or “all women.” And I can sure as hell tell you as a woman that I have ZERO interest in seeing a male stripper, let alone cheating on my partner with one.
Courtney ... It was wonderful to see you being so positive and loving toward your husband. Most women (at least in my experience) are so busy cutting men down that it's extremely refreshing to see the opposite.
5 Hot things women do 1. Play with their hair - Weather they are tying their hair into a ponytail or braids, it looks so cute when they are playing with their natural hair. 2. Hugs around the waist -Mostly if the women is just an inch shorter than the man, when she get excited to see you, she will hug you around your waist in place of side hugs or over the shoulders hug. The women is shows more excitement hugging around the waist meaning she wants him to stay with her, shows interest. 3. Head tilt down smile - When a woman tilts her head slightly down and gives a happy smile, exerts such a beauty that is so hot. 4. Winning in games - Its strange but when men play games (board games, arcade games, etc..) with women and she surprises him by beating him in a game, it gives off the sense that she no push over and it makes the games more fun because she is competitive. 5. Makes me laugh, not on purpose - The women may not be funny, however she has a sense of humor and she can end up saying something or doing something by accident and it can makes us laugh uncontrollable. You don't have to be stand up comedian to make jokes
Heath Ledger as the joker in The Dark Knight is my all time favorite acting performance no cap. However, I don’t use this as a model when I’m around women 🤣
I always come back to this analogy... we often bring junk food people into our lives and then find ourselves unhappy when we're not in a healthy relationship! So a lot of women like junk food men but when they go from unhealthy relationship to unhealthy relationship, they never addressed the fact that they've chosen the people that they want to have in their life. They typically instead just complained that "all men"...
having her hand going thru her hair looking like she's in her thoughts, or fiddling with it. the only materialistic thing i can think about would be a personnalized charm that has meaning to her, either in her hair or on her ankle. i can definitely see the sunglasses thing working for women as well 😎🤣
A textbook example of putting the cart before the horse. :) Let an unattractive guy try all of the mentioned things and you will be able to observe no reactions or "he is a creep" reactions by women. Let an attractive guy do all of the mentioned things and you will get positive reactions by women. But also that guy could do anything and it would be sexy for women. This is coming from a decently attractive guy that sometimes tries weird and goofy things around women to test their reactions. You would not believe what women "find attractive". Here are a few random ones: breathe inhale pause look into her eyes before saying anything and prolong the pause until she says anything; plainly saying no with a confident voice; switching gears in a manual transmission car; talking with one of her female friends but in a boderline flirty way; simply being non reactive; ignoring her while repairing something; veins on muscles... Always remember guys: there are things that women say they like and then there things that women react to.
And then there's me who gave up caring what women liked a long time ago. I just do me and if they like it, fine, and if they don't, fine. I have more to be interested in than what women like.
Hi Courtney! I am finally fully healed from my breakup from my now ex-fianceé. It took months to do so, but I did. I feel free, I feel out from under a giant black cloud. Going forward, if a girl asks me about calling or dating her, I’ll go for it. It’s such a feeling of joy and happiness, having broken free from the pain and heartbreak for the last time.
That's ONLY if you do it to a woman Yu Do NOT Know!!! or have JUST MET. Reality-check: you put your hand on lower back of women you're DATING or in a relationship with. Now, do you get it??? (It's not that hard, guys!
Lol, unfortunately a lot of those things will do that anymore. It doesn't even have to be overtly intimate or even borderline, some women just hate men it seems and are looking for a reason to go viral for calling out a "creep". It's this attention based society we live in anymore. Everybody wants the eyes on them. Not me. I want the exact opposite. I operate in the shadows LOL
everything around you depends on who you are on the inside. for example, being rich is a great sign that he is powerful, capable, useful and determined. being physically healthy (to the female gaze), muscles, maybe some ab definition, maybe even some visible veins is a great sign that he’s healthy and would likely produce strong healthy children but also that he would be physically powerful enough to protect and provide for her. she mentions a lot of things that have to do with being masculine in some subtle way. makes perfect sense, but these are definitely subtle
When I use to wear a baseball cap, it was mainly because of my hair was messy and didn't get a haircut. The only times I turned the cap backwards was because when riding bike or on a moped, the cap won't get blown off by the wind. Or, I have it backwards just to help cover the back of my neck area from the sun.
Agree with you on the backwards hat... When I, a man, sees a girl with one of these guys, I just laugh saying to myself: "Poor thing, she had to go with the Doofus bottom feeder!" Just google "backward's baseball hat images" and be prepared to laugh. The one I remember was a photo of a guy with his hat on backwards at the ball park holding a program above his eyes to block the sun from his eyes... That one image alone tells you all you need to know about these sorts of guys. I never wear hats other than a winter knit hat and even then it would need to be real cold. When my hair started thinning in my late thirties, at that point since I cut my hair real short and I love it as who looks better in a rainstorm with no umbrella, people with long hair or the guy who pays no attention to the downpour and just runs his hand across the top of his head to to wipe the water off?
two strange things that women do that I find attractive is doing the messy bun and wearing one of my t-shirts/jerseys around the house…absolutely killer
A girl that snorts sometimes when she's laughing too hard is attractive. Also, any time they have showy hair accessories like scrunchies or flower pins. Am I the only one?
I totally agree, that many young attractive desirable women, look sexy and hot with their hair tied up with scrunchies. That can make them look athletic and fit, like they go to the gym a lot. The snort, I respectfully disagree with . Nothing that likens a woman to a pig, is attractive. BUT, I have my own unusual things that I find attractive, so all is good. (with me, I love seeing a desirable woman "sniffle, as if to simulate crying," when I don't initially agree to her way)
Hair over her shoulder 😍 healthy skin with low or no makeup. White teeth under a smirking grin. Natural colored hair. Long hair in a bun. Nails with pink or red nail polish 😍 glasses when she wears reading glasses because she's smart with one foot in the grave and hopefully RICH.
Whenever I've worn a baseball cap forwards or backwards I get the same amount of attention I get when I'm not wearing a baseball cap, None. I can shuffle cards really well even like Gambit from X-Men, still no looks
My experience: When I go out with a baseball cap, people seem to avoid eye contact with me. No one says hi or smiles at me. When I go out with my hair done, people smile at me, say hi to me, and make eye contact with me. These things still happen to me daily.
Intimacy takes a lot of work. We can start with some or a lot, but as the relationship proceeds, we have to put effort into building it - small improvements. Sometimes, we have to change our behaviour so that our partners perceive us as more intimate. Sometimes, our partner needs a little bit of guidance. Typically, it's good to do both.
What cracked me up is I’ve been watching Teddy for a couple years and just discovered you a few months back as a sigh of relief to the alpha m’s and the like of RU-vid. It caught me completely off guard that you’re married to Teddy. Great surprise! I’ve had an Apple Watch the last couple months and hate it. I had a seiko years ago after one of Teddy’s video got me to buy it. Unfortunately the watch got lost on a vacation and we never got it back so I had to settle for the Apple Watch. I’m currently saving money up for a watch again and now I know both of you, I’ll buy the watch directly from him! 😊
