A brilliant reply to the died hair thing is "Bright colours in nature are used to scare off predators, not just to find mating partners. If you don't like it, it's working as intended
The one that rated girls and added and substracted points is awful by itself, but the fact that they added points per 7 years of age difference... that sounds awfully creepy.
Yeah. It's like the meme "where have you been all my Life?" "The first two thirds, I wasn't born yet" The only thing I can somewhat see is the first point (as a childfree Person I also wouldn't Date a parent) but If somethings a deal breaker, it's a dealbreaker, not a point deduction.
The only one that seems sorta valid to me is the point deduction for prior cheating, as if that's a reoccurring thing that the person does, and you aren't okay with the possibility that they might see other people while they're dating you, that would be a major con to dating that person. The single parent one also has some validity, but if it's a deal-breaker it shouldn't have a point deduction, it should simply remove them from the pool entirely...
The weird thing for me is they don’t seem to care whether the girl is 7 years younger or 7 years older, just as long as there’s an age difference. Who is interested in age difference in itself? Is this person both a pedophile and a gerontophile?
@@alansbinnie1446 Why the unnecessary hate? I doubt that this is the right place to post hate anout Jamie, especially seeing as he did nothing to offend you.
I love whenever I see these kinds of statements. They never really know what to say when you mention you’re already married and your husband actually loves it.
Whenever I see one of those "Straight White Republican" products, I have a strong urge to make a parody project that says "Queer Nonbinary Heathen. How else can I piss *you* off, Boomer?"
How could you POSSIBLY think that you don't deserve that award from the beginning of the video?! This channel, for me and many others, is a beacon of light and positivity. You give very good and concise information on queer topics, you create a happy and safe space for people inside and out of the community to discuss LGBTQ+ issues, and you do it all whilst being funny. If there is anyone who deserves such an award, it would be you! Edit: w h y d i d i g e t t h i s m a n y l i k e s t h a n k y o u
@@MsSnapeGirl We need teachers who will actually teach that. I'm gadfly considering my homeroom teacher to let me *explain* some things to my classmates sometime.
@@taliablack4080 me too, I’ve also learned a lot about myself from Jamie! My sexuality has always been confusing and now I am proud to identify as bisexual - happy pride month, btw!
When it came to the "joke" about women washing satellites, it's even more stupid when you think of the fact that the majority of window cleaners are men.
I am a straight women and .....it's not abuse tho?- What do you mean by "I feel sorry?" ....I guess this just comes down to that you people cannot understand traditions , cultures and family values.....
@@fellowcomrade3076 it's abusive. Mentally, spiritually abusive. I'm not going to be able to deprogram you in a RU-vid comment. Just think about why ONLY girls have to make these pledges - when the bible (and most other holy books, but I'm assuming you're Christian, because most of the English speaking world is) says virginity at marriage. Not "virginity for WOMEN at marriage". Just. Virginity. Since there's an actually requirement for chastity for BOTH sexes, WHY ONLY GIRLS TAKING THE PLEDGES?! Why is it ONLY girls are expected to be virgins at wedding? Why the assumption that boys WON'T be? (And why is it assumed, no okay, no pressure on boys typ have sex, have LOTS of sex, they aren't MEN if they don't have sex! Who are these guys having sex with, since all women are chaste until married and then only have sex with husband?) There's a LOT more and it gets scarier the further one goes... And it's ABUSIVE. All of it
Because virginity is a regressive social construct. It's used to oppress sexuality ESPECIALLY for women. Find men who do virginity pledges to their mums - then we shall see.
Let's please call out the idea that (only) the male parent has the right to make a deal over their female (but never their male) children's marriage. Fathers do not own their daughters and can not trade or gift them to other men. Edit: While we're at it: what's with this creepy tradition of fathers GIVING AWAY the bride at the altar?
It's also very weird because I have to wonder, why are you (men) overly "protective" over her like she's YOUR sexual or romantic territory? It's possessive and creepy especially when it involves those weird purity promises to the male parent
Good luck, sib! I’m glad you have some family you know support you already. I wonder sometimes if I need to come out to some of my closer family members; my mum and (now late) dad knew since I was 18 ish, but I don’t know if others know because it hasn’t really come up.
Those are the kind of people that make me GLAD I'm aroace, how can even a (hopefully) small amount of people think that's... ok in any way ? What is wrong with this world ?
Same. I'm glad I'm not tormented with the need to be with someone at the expense of my self worth. On the off chance I find someone, cool, but I'm not going out of my way for it when there's other things to experience on this planet (usually cooler in my opinion).
@@hannah26198 aroace is an abriviation of aromantic asexual (aromantic, experiencing little or no romantic attraction, asexual, experiencing little or no sexual attraction)
One of my favorite kid’s stories had a line “What is the only thing that does not get smaller when you divide (=share) it? Love.” I understood this principle before I knew what division was.
Imagine thinking bleeding for a whole week out of your genitals was a very feminine thing. I don't think anyone who has ever had a period would think that. I associate periods more with frustration and defeat than femininity.
The Straights(tm) : if your dad doesn't have a beard, you have two moms. *person discovers they're trans mtf and starts expressing themselves differently * Also The Straights: yOu cAnT cHanGe yOuR gEnDeR iTs bAsIc bIoLogY
@@nooneinparticular7076 the teaching is about things not being black and white. To suggest that saying things are not just black or white is in and of itself black and white misses the whole point. You will not be trained.
@Ajit Adonis Manilal I'm a woman attracted to men and don't want to be labeled the same as any of these examples. Thankfully, cishet seems to be blasphemy for that group so that's my preferred term.
I appreciate this is unsolicited input from a random internet person, if you have a obgyn or decent physician and are in an area with access (a lot of ifs I realize), there are options out there to help (not my first choice or first try, but I ended up with a progesterone based device which has helped my violent anemia immensely)
I'm currently planning my wedding, and some of the crazy weird gendered rubbish I seen makes me want to puke. I'm non-binary AFAB (the "bride"), and my partner is a gender queer AMAB (the "groom"). When wedding people see me as the bride, they firstly assume my partner is a man, and that I'm straight and not marrying a woman, but also then force these weird gender assumptions on everything. They're shocked when they find out my partner is actually helping me plan the wedding and has a say in everything but my dress. If anyone starts with the "game over" or "I hate my husband" jokes at or around my wedding I will actually flip
I had this too when I got married last year - I'm genderqueer afab, and my partner is a pre-everything trans woman. We went with my mum to a few wedding shows before the pandemic; my partner was almost completely ignored by everyone, but my mother and I were showered with questions and comments. If my partner - who people were clearly labelling as "the groom" - wasn't interested in the wedding planning, then they wouldn't have come with me to the show (not least of which because they actually tried asking people questions)! In the end, my partner organised all the catering, had a say in everything I organised, and we both sorted out our outfits together (some advice: if you can get something tailored to fit you, please do that! We got some really lovely, gender-euphoric, unique wedding suits made to measure for less money than it would have cost to buy something similar off the rack).
4:10 What the actual .... ? The fact this guy is scoring on attractiveness is bad enough, but the "plus 1 for every 7 years age difference between us" line is a major red flag! This is saying that this guy not only scores the older generations (grandmothers?) highly, but (and I really don't want to even think about this too deeply) also scores highly going in the opposite age direction...omg! Is it time to call the authorities?
What if your dad doesn’t have a beard, but your mom does, haha? There are some cis women (who have PCOS) that could actually grow a beard if they wanted.
Not only because of PCOS. I had an acquaintance in my Tolkien LARP days who was a dwarf, and I don't know what she did but she somehow managed to make a tiny beard grow on her chin (petit goatee? or whatever that type is called).
My mom is starting to grow beard hairs due to menopause. She shaves them off because she's not in the mood for the type of relentless jokes having a visible beard would cause.
a lot of cis women of colour have idiopathic hirsutism causing male pattern hair growth, inc on the chin! i don't have pcos but i do have chin hair (i wax it so idk how it'd look if it grew out)
My favourite thing about the word "Alpha" is that in recent studies people were observing wolves in nature and came to find out that all this time the "Alpha" of the pack was female, and they were protecting their group and offspring. So the term Alpha has been completely screwed up from day one in English. X,D (I enjoy the looks on people's faces when they use that word now. It's just basically slang and lost all meaning at this point.) XD
Oof they would be very very pissed off to get those off and let their own worlds to be permanently destroyed and understand that fact that they are Worthless pile of fuck that deserves to be permanently forbiddened and be forgotten
The author of the original study retracted it, saying that further studies showed that the pack dynamics observed in the first paper only occurred in captive packs of unrelated wolves, and that in the wild, a wolf pack is led by the founding pair, i.e. the parents of the cubs.
Men: women paying is WEIRD, men pay, it is what they are made for! Also men: women just suck the money out of my wallet, I need to buy everything that weird chick wants, I need to pay during every date and give her stupid presents, I'm wasting so much money because of heeeeeer.
I think the men who repeat both of those things at the same time are the ones who want to belittle women. If women aren’t incapable people who only want men for their money, these men might have to treat them with respect, and they don’t want to do that
It's also really weird to think that paying is what men are made for. Do they not realize how dehumanizing they sound to their own gender? Also, pretty sure men existed before the concept of paying came around..... so kinda hard to think men were made for it.
I just wanted to say thank you Jamie for educating me on the topic of trans people and trans issues! When my best friend came out as a trans man, I decided to try and understand why my friend was feeling this way, and your channel has truly helped me understand him more than anything, when I was hesitant to support trans people before due to the misconceptions I had about them. Now my whole family supports trans people! Thank you so, so much for helping. I’m proud to be a trans ally. 🏳️⚧️
I know this wasn't directed towards me but you're so sweet!! I'm so happy allies like you exist, thank you for your willingness to educate yourself as well as your supportive attitude :)
I wish more people would actually try to educate themselves when their kids/relatives come out instead of just saying that it's wrong and believing those misconceptions.
Hope you figure yourself out! It’s a long journey (speaking from experience lol), and if you come out in the end still unsure, then that’s ok! Sexuality is a spectrum. It’s weird, confusing, and it still doesn’t make sense to me. All the best to you in the future!
Ok, so I grew up in the middle of purity culture in the evangelical church in the early 90s. I read the books, I had a ring, and I signed the cards. (Yes, it messed up my perception of intimacy and I've struggled with it in my marriage, if you were curious.) But I NEVER came at all close to the creepy virginity pledge thing. My dad NEVER made it about him and he would have throttled anyone who would have suggested such a thing. And he is the least violent person you'd ever meet. That is so creepy, so gross and just wildly inappropriate! Bleh!
Ugh tell me about it. I grew up Catholic in the 2000s so I only got the abstinence only talk and signed a pledge. My parents were cool if I decided to have sex outside of marriage. However a couple years ago, I assisted in planning a father daughter gala at my aunt’s Evangelical free church which was all about fatherhood and girls saving themselves for marriage. Let me tell you, there is nothing more creepy than a woman telling a room full of young girls that Jesus’s sacrifice was bought at a price - their purity. Oh and did I mention this was around when Unplanned come out so everyone was talking about the evils of abortion prior to this dance?
@@rorolilred oh don’t worry the boys signed the purity cards too which I will give Catholicism credit. At least they believed in gender equality in that regard. The Evangelical Free church only targeted the girls.
re. the purity pledge pictures: they were probably all taken at the same time, because purity pledges and the photos are generally made at events called Purity Balls. Loads of daughters there making the same pledge to their dads
The only person I want my daughter making a purity pledge to is herself. Her sexuality, her beliefs, her choice. I'll be over here with science and real life experience to help guide her in making her own choices but not judging her for them. All this purity culture is 🤮
God I wish sexual orientation/how you present would determine if you geht the period or not because for me as an asexual who tends to present more masculine I literally don't need it. Please make it stop 😂
@The werewolf of Tibet asexual means you don't feel sexual attraction and/or are simply not interested in the act. Simple as that. Heterosexuals feel sexual attraction towards the opposite gender, homosexuals towards the same gender (there's more orientations but I hope you get the point) and asexuals feel no or very little sexual attraction towards any gender at all. It's not about liking or not liking sex.
You should contact your hairdresser first in order to have a good man's haircut, so you go shopping. Look, this part is very important: you gotta go to the mall and look for manly clothes, not clothes for men. It's very important not to mess up because you'd get a gift for an adult man and that would be unacceptable!! /j
My favourite thing about this is that EVEN IF it was acceptable to deem women unattractive for having kids, somehow it was being a single mum that specifically got -4 points on his scale? Like he'd try it on but only if she was already with someone
When my dad shaved his beard for the first time, my sister didn't recognize him and started crying. He looked like a potato, according to my mom. So he's been called Papa since. I didn't see it until he shaved it off 30 years later. That awful onesie made me remember my adorable potato father.
Jamie excuse my French, but you are a Fucking Icon. I'm an older gay man, and see you and your generation represent my community (LGBTQIA+ community), fills me with pride & gives me hope. Thank you for all your hard work for the Trans community & just being an amazing human.
Omg I'm totally voting for you . You're not only deserving but you're literally the most wholesome person in all of RU-vid. My days are a little brighter ever since I discovered you.
Right? I feel like if I drew Jamie a picture he'd put it on his fridge and tell me he's proud, and mean it. He's such a sweet person and I hope he does win.
@The werewolf of Tibet The Straights (TM) doesn't mean every straight person, but a particular bunch of toxic straight people. Those people are made fun of. Edit: also misgendering people on purpose to piss people off is kinda bigoted isn't it?
@@jazwhoaskedforthis you know what he sounds like a person who would do exactly that. Just voted for him multiple times, not sure if that's ethical but I really want him to win.
Love you Jamie!! This content is gross!! As someone who is in a straight relationship, I feel none of these posts are okay. I am embarrassed that other straight people think that any of this okay.
There are fine examples here of toxic masculinity, which is where a lot of this (if not most) comes from. It's a shame most people can't even understand what toxic masculinity is, much less recognize it. There's also some toxic femininity, which is even less understood.
To make us more gay babies before the world was ready for our amazing little gay family Edit: I'm getting a lot of replies saying others such as bi and pan people can have babies yes I am a where it is a joke/lh :)
I was lucky enough to not get covid all this time until like 2 days ago. I’m vaccinated and this shit is still kicking my ass. How are there still people saying it isn’t even real
Oof, my sympathies. I had it about three weeks ago, despite being vaccinated, and it was the worst thing. I'd hate to have had it without that buffer, especially seeing as my case has been the unholy gift that keeps on giving (a lingering cough that just _will not_ go away). It's the sort of thing I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy, and yet people think it's a fake. They crazy.
Congratulations, Jamie! You're so humble; wondering how you got nominated with ALL that you've done and continue to do for the LGBTQ+ community. Seriously: the moments of light you've brought to many of us in dark times, the support and comments of the community you've grown, the charities and services you've championed; you have done so much to try to make being LGBTQ+ better, especially for young people, and that SHOULD be celebrated. You can be surprised, but we all KNOW how awesome you are. Edit: I, a wlw, wish I could be butch enough to skip a period once in a while. 🤣
@The werewolf of Tibet straight people are usually chill and pretty ok, while the Straights™ mainly bitch around about everything they don't relate to 100% and make it everyone else's problem
@@cewla3348 I think that one girl still is. Apparently she went up to my other friend and was like “Ik about your secret. Your relationship with Alexis or whatever.” (Please call me Alex) At some point relatively recent. We were not in a relationship, we were actually both in separate relationships then I think. Just really close friends. Sorry for the rambling and any potential misunderstanding
I really, really, really, REALLY want to run into someone spouting that "if your dad doesn't have a beard, you have 2 moms" bs. So I can look them dead in the eyes and say, "No, I only have 1 because my mom died when I was 15." lol
Yup, I’m heteroromantic. I’m also heterosexual because when my demisexuality allows me to experience sexual attraction, it’s only to men. Hugs to my fellow demis in this thread! 🤗
@lovelykatsuki some straight men think that their wives and children are 'too loud' and so they shut them up and say 'peace on earth' they silence their spouse and their children and claim it as bringing peace
i think i know how you were nominated. ive noticed you popping up on all sorts of other channels/other youtubers popping up here. its like 3 degrees of separation for queer youtube, all roads lead here. impressive, congratulations!!!!!!
By that "giving your heart away"-logic, nobody should have any children. With every child - assuming they get the love they deserve, of course - there will be less love left for the husband! Also, Points-dude would happily marry a 55 year old woman at 20...? I mean, she got 5 plus-points, right?
4:27 I fucking wish not, at least for myself, I’m a butch lesbian with PCOS and my period lasted for three weeks in February, if I could just be more masculine and have it disappear I’d do it in a heartbeat
@@sakshikandgatla5795 It's basically a formal event, where fathers and daughters (usually girls who have just begun puberty/mensuration) dress in formal wear and eat and stuff. Where fathers make a vow to protect their daughter's purity and daughters make a vow to not have sex before marriage. The idea is that it improves father daughter relationships which (in theory) make them less likely to get into sexual relationships at young ages. In reality, like most abstinence only initiatives, studies show that girls who go to Purity Balls have sex at the same rate as those who don't, but have higher instances of STDs and teenage pregnancy. The other big criticism of Purity Balls is that they reinforce old, sexist ideas about marriage and purity and fathers controlling their daughter's sexualities, especially since it's not like Mother-Son Purity Balls exist. It takes two to tango, after all.
@@sakshikandgatla5795 What's funny is that I feel like a Father-Daughter ball or a Mother - Son ball would be so much fun and great for familial bonding if it just didn't have all the purity bullshit involved. It's a good idea, but they ruined it by being creepy. >_>
A reel I saw recently had a baby looking at a shirtless guy with the caption "Love at first sight" and in the comments people were debating whether it's inappropriate or just a joke.
Im not trans but I experienced some transphobia coming from my aunt and uncle today. My mom and I tried to prove them wrong, but they wouldn’t listen. Came to your channel cause I needed some LGBTQ+ content to cheer me up :) aka you deserve that award, I promise!
Jamie, I 100% agree that we need to get rid of the dumb stereotypes. The memes I hate most are the "real men (do, have, or are such-n-such)" and "real women... (likewise)".
You bring so much into the world, my dude. You show people it's possible to be yourself and find love, find self respect, and give empathy and kindness to others in a cruel world. You deserve any award they can throw your way. You're exactly the kind of person I want society to hold up more. You're just a wholesome, kind, good guy and I think you'll be a great recipient of that reward
You deserve that award more than anyone I know. You helped me be more open to my friends about my sexuality and I'm sure you have helped countless others.
“Why you should talk about marriage on the Second Date” *I recall my 72hr long first date with my gf* Jamie is confused *Lesbian panic intensifies* “Why would you need to do this?” *Can’t hear over sound of UHaul engine revving in the background*
Oh lord...that ridiculous convention thing happened over _my_ birthday, too (ugh, gross.) Well, on that note, happy belated birthday, Jamie! And on the note of the whole "women shouldn't give gifts to men/men always pay" thing...oh, heck no. My little-bitty grandmother would've practically stabbed a guy for trying to take a restaurant check from her, and that included family members. That woman had a damn system when it came to her airline miles credit card, and woe betide the fool who disrupted that. Even trying to take her out for her birthday would become a perilous balancing act for my dad, uncle, and aunt, as they tried to treat her out for a nice lunch or dinner, without her getting hold of the check at the end of it.
Pls don't do this to your self. Just be happy you are not straight😔 I'm struggling every day with my straightness and it's very hard to accept it and even more difficult when I see how other straight, like the ones from the video, are😔😔😔
I can sort of understand "discussing marriage" if they mean "do you want to get married at any point in the future" but NOT "do you want to get married to me?" Though that should be left until a bit later when you potentially see a future with this person unless, like Jamie shared, it just kind of comes up naturally.
An additional note, being a 'ho' isn't bad! I hate when people equate promiscuity with morality... I wonder if small/huge b-word means height or attitude...
@@tinkeramma It was in one of the videos when he was reacting to gay memes and said something like 'some women just like other women' And I was like wait what if that's me
Oh dear. Those straights in particular are definitely not ok!!! Also, you totallyyyy deserve that award! You’re amazing and I love your videos! BTW, I just learned that we are birthday twins! 19FEB!!!! I am a year older, but still!
@5:00 he's trying to fit into the photo. He's a large attractive celebrity man. Seems like his masculinity is pretty secured, given that he's literally paid for it
Voted! It’s really easy to do everybody! For those of us with limited funds and off the chain anxiety about even small things like this, it’s a quick, simple way to show support. Keep up the fun, joyful, loving content, Jamie! We need some brightness in the world right now. ❤️
