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I think it's so messed up how people can jump from a serious relationship to another. These people should make it clear from the start that they don't want to commit
@@MagnetofSuccess literally my ex, together for close to 3 years and ended it. She's on her 4th boyfriend after me and swears each one is the one. Don't even last 3 months. Why do people try to filll a gap instead of actually dealing with the problem?
For real tho. Even if they did better i would still care less, nevertheless, im grateful i've moved on long ago.😂🤣🤣 I dont take community humans. Im too nonchalant.
My ex and I had a fight one time, and he just kept ignoring me and not wanting to fix anything with me. I was literally begging for his forgiveness and I think it was not even worth my time. I had a friend I met through my ex who really helped me out and gave such great advice and it made me think. Sadly he’s not here anymore, I miss him a lot. Any who, my ex and I started talking months later. Apparently the girl he left me for cheated on him. So, we became friends. I still had feelings for him. Then one time we called and we expressed a lot to each other, he added he’s not going anywhere. After like a few days, I find out he likes some other girl. I was upset, even confronted him about it. It’s like, I never mattered to him. And I sit here in the dark wondering if I’m really worth any guys time. :/
Sometimes you have to let people go and when they see that the grass is NOT greener on the other side, they comeback with their tail between their legs.
@@Bond10000 Usually they don't. I tried to be on both sides. I've experienced to be the dumper and I rebound after just a week. It felt so empty but still, Im a man, I want to prove that my rebound will work. At the end, we just call it quits to my rebound, because she also felt empty. And I'm just also her rebound lol. Then now, Im a dumpee. My ex has a rebound after just a week. I let her experience it then after a month, she messaged me, saying she's sorry to me and said that I deserve the best. I said she should be honest and yeah, she talk about her rebound. I was hurt, Im a human, but I've experienced how rebound works. She deserve a second chance. But that would also be my last chance. At least she learned the hard way.
@@janpol2282 Can’t lie your post is giving me hope lol, me and my girlfriend had a great 4 years but home life trauma has always made her easily thrown off when it came to being loved, so she left me because I wasn’t reciprocating her feelings, I recently heard that she went with the most easy option she had with her ex so I’m hoping after some time she’ll realize what she had wasn’t so bad fingers crossed 🤞
They come back because you're the best bet for them. They don't truly love you or want to make your life happy and amazing, but they know that you make their life good. Do not take back an ex! Find someone who actually cares about you!
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@Labelle Ayitiii if you were recently dumped, it's possible that you are romanticizing your ex and the relationship you both had. The truth is that anybody who leaves you are unable to carry a good relationship. Perhaps you were the reason why the relationship seemed good and promising, not them. That's why they ended leaving.
@@mizzcrazygal Not really. It's possible they wanted somebody else, but it's also highly likely that they didnt know what they really wanted, but they knew that what they had, wasn't it! It might feel like they secretly knew that they wanted to see someone else, but the ones who don't know what they want also have a tendency to do what they think is expected of them and therefore head straight back into the dating world without a moment's thought. It's gutting when someone leaves for an invalid reason, but it's especially hard for the dumpee because it offers no closure nor even useful feedback that could aid growth. If you're anxious then it naturally means you'll be overthinking and ruminating a shit load more often.
If they were right for you they wouldn’t have left in the first place. Especially if the reasons were somehow solveable. The right people stay with you through good and bad, happiness and illness. If you are the dumpee just know what you deserve! And if they only see your value when they are down and you’re finally doing good that means they are just opportunists. Would you really benefit from such a relationship in the long run? Maybe it’s time the dumpees put themselves first. Edit: thanks for all the likes. I believe whatever pain you’re going trough will make you stronger and wiser in the end. Trust the process.
Not all the causes are the same. I suspect my ex case is that she is too young. I'm 33 she is 26. I met her when she was 22 and I 30. She was soooo immature about self management and being her own person that all the normal stress that any relationship have as a burden mixed with studies and her job, made her project the negativity on me. Ah did I mention I was her first everything? So yeah.
I dumped him because he was not ready to commit. I wanted to settle down. He didn't have the courage to marry me. He cannot leave me either. After breaking up, he said that I had done him wrong, that I wasted his important years and that I used him. He gives himself credit for my success. Sometimes, it's important to know whether the person you are with is right for you or not. You can't carry on a toxic relationship.
@@pandaheart5112 true. People don't want to give you what you deserve, but also can't stand the thought of someone else doing everything they should have done. Oh well. Toxicity be gone!
If you can't hang out and have fun by yourself then that's something you really should work on. Otherwise you're relying on another person to make you happy.
Situations in which it's ok to consider taking an ex back: 1) You & your love were too young at the time 2) Your parents broke it up 3) You or your love moved away either because the parents moved, or because of economic reasons 4) You or your love made bad decisions because you were too young and immature and 5) Any reason that has NOTHING to do with either of you. Then you could probably make it work out.
Frank Holstein yup this was me and my ex’s issue. But he’s the type not to fix small things so he left. I can’t do much about it 🤷🏽♀️ I reached out and no msg back so oh well. Goes to show he didn’t grow up yet.
Depends on how bad the decision was tbh like yeah people make mistakes but no excuse for cheating and consciously treating your partner like shit and manipulating them
@@Lexiannasam I know that feeling. Has anything changed between you two since you posted this 4 years ago? I was the one who like to find and fix things in the relationship. It's tragic when two otherwise compatible people stumble because of things like this. It's especially hard when time passes and eventually you find yourselves to be in a much better and more mature emotional place, but by then one or both are in committed relationships with partners who are not as well suited.
Not true always: Sometimes Ex's need time to grow up, or the timing was wrong, or they broke up with you for stupid reasons to begin with and their admitting their error...I am open for a positive explaination...Because I recognize change and growth are possible, difficult but still possible...And I am still open to God's blessings for my life; because I want my true match whether it comes from the past, present or future it really is in God's hands. All I ask is for a person to return and be correct; Don't come at me with the same nonesence or drama from the past; only a changed and enlightened connection will be entertained. Additionally, sometimes people just need healing and closure which is a part of Recovery. Bottom line not everyone's Ex is a Narcissist or has shady and selfish intentions...Expect the best, sometimes people will surprise you...Generally as a rule, I live my life in a forward direction however Spirit may have other plans for me...Its called destiny or Divine Timing...Anyway, that's my take on it for my life.
Dumpers are too caught up in the "me mentality" to take their time to train their minds and evolve into better people. When you see them breaking up with you, they are so convinced it's your fault, they will almost always dump everything on you. Also, there is no such thing as the wrong timing or thinking you could have done better had you realized it sooner. You are presented with results which is the breakup. In some rare cases, couples reunite years later when they have indeed matured and learned how to live independently. Sadly, this happens more often in amicable breakups.
Your post really touched me I'm in a situation where my ex recently became my boss at my Job a whole year and half with no contact on both parties and I can't for the life of me understand why god put us both back in each other's life
@@MagnetofSuccess Sometimes the incite and reflection happen behind the scenes along with the tears...then a change occurs...Never write off people always be open to what God has for you. We all make mistakes in life and love, and you can't receive forgiveness if you aren't also ready or open to extend it. I would rather be happy with the love of my life than be always right and alone...Of course, this only applies to real and sincere apologies. This is what I'm working on in my own life...I hope it helps you. At the end of the day, I want peace and love in my life which is difficult when you have to search for it because people aren't aware or can't be honest about their feelings or intentions. I've been ghosted online by numerous parties while in my current relationship however I've opted to stay to this point with my BF because to me ... the People who were ghosting me weren't real, serious, etc...and My relationship with my BF was very real and honest now a Dynamic has left me questioning all that I know, think and feel....But what is real is the pain, tears and angst over these games. Still I would never want to miss my blessings or TF because I was jaded and my heart was too closed and guarded. Prior to my current relationship, I was on a self imposed hiatus from relationships living a pure lifestyle for over a decade resetting my course back towards a soul mate union...Bottomline I know God has my back and my tears aren't in vain. Scared and confused by crazy making Dynamic in which I've been manipulated in the dark...I still have faith that God's hand is on my life. This is my struggle what's worked and not with relationship pain...I hope it helps you in your life...I have to tell you, I cried and rewrote this message many times before sending it that's how painful and real things can get behind the scenes.
@@mikealan1984 A very awkward situation indeed but your EX is also feeling this so...Your both waiting for cues from each other...Maybe the best way is to acknowledge the elephant in the room by saying wow this is awkward but are you still hooked on Starbucks green tea lattes because I was thinking we could grab one and talk about how we can work in harmony or maybe friends....Be the bigger man, you will gain respect for the effort even if the other party isn't ready...It sure beats and the petty potential drama if you don't try...Have some faith, be truly sincere and remain open whatever the response is to your invitation. If you get a negative response to your invitation for Starbucks, just say I understand but I'm here if you change you mind and then just smile and go back to your work and stay positive. I have a feeling I will have to remember your comment for coming events in my own life...Call it a 6th sense lol...Good luck to you
With 7,677,666,998 other people on the planet, is there any reason at all to take an ex back. Or, if you chose to socially isolate yourself, one would be defeating the purpose of social isolation if you take your ex back. Delete that person from your life forever. Never speak to that person again. However, if someone asks you about your ex in a curious fashion, steer turn away as a certainty.
They simply settled for each other that’s why the guy is pretty stupid that’s asking for divorce he should basically just give her half of everything now
Day 52 of no contact and just the video I needed to see as it is Mother's Day and I was struggling with the idea of sending her a happy mother's day text. I will remain strong!
Sagan Worshipper man Preach, the thought crossed my mind today as well. To send my ex a Happy Mother’s Day but I knew it was the devil lol 😂 and said no. I’m glad I didn’t send it. You after you think about it. You know you did the right thing. Besides what if you had sent it and got no response. Simp mode
For me, it has been 18 years, 9 months 7 days since I deleted everyone in my life that had anything to do with my venomous exgirlfriend. Since I had a small social circle, it turned out to be everyone in my life. I have had nobody in my life since the deletion date. I never bothered replacing the ones I deleted out of my life. This assures that I can never again have my emotions devastated like they were back in 2000. Loneliness is a very small price to pay for the enormous benefits gained by socially isolating yourself. I recommend all try it. It is a very different way of life with unequaled security, predictability, peace, safety, freedom, affordability, and time. It may not be for all. But all should try it to see if it is a good fit. One can always rejoin a social herd if they can not live socially isolated.
@@indridcold8433 damn, was planning to live like this back when I was 18 (I'm 26 now) until my serial cheater and narcissist of an ex-GF entered my life and filled it with dreams and promises of growing old together for 8 years. 8 years of my life wasted on someone who only wanted me because of her emotional problems. The only thing I got out of it was sex, having an arm candy, and cuddles. Everything else was fake and manipulation. Now that I'm free of her, I'm contemplating on whether to pursue this kind of life or to rebuild from scratch since I deserved a better partner. I already found one which I'm dating right now, but remain torn on what to do since I might be setting myself up for another roller coaster.
So true.My ex is a miserable POS,misery loves company.He knows how happy I've been without him,and just wants me back to bring me to his drug fueled, horrible existence
@LoveofVelvet close physical proximity and physical contact release a bonding drug called oxytocin. This happens with every being you come in contact with or interact with. It is released between relatives, friends, pets, and lovers. Those you like and love. This is especially released when you're involved sexually and can be extremely extremely intense 😉 I hope I'm right lol This is what I think
@LoveofVelvet it was my pleasure, and I like what you said. Yeah, the oxytocin is such a wonderful drug when enjoyed intimately with the right one for sure. Unfortunately the withdrawal can suck ass if the intimacy discontinues..
Thank you needed this got dumped by her few days ago, Going strong no contact day 10.. Working on myself on my health, Working on myself to be Happier and Get mentally strong i have more time to explore and seek opportunities in this world Now. Thank you for these kind of videos they really cheer me up
10 days is not gonna cut it. seriusly Giraffe Rider... it did take me around 4 months untill i was healed. go full no contact, no likes on social media, no texts, nothing. right now she proberbly see you weak. but when you dont reach out, she will notice and wonder about you. and eventualy miss you if you didnt do any abuse. dont post anything on social media, just be quiet for atleast 1 months, then show signs that you have moved on. and you acualy need to move on if you want to heal and change your behaviors.
I don’t think they necessarily come back bc they had a new relationship and it failed. It could be one possibility but not the only one. They can simply realise they did wrong breaking up and they may want to start over again with you if they are in love or attached to you. Maybe they want some validation, who knows
I'd say out of all the "ex's" that resurfaced, there was only one who loved me and wanted to start again. We were teenagers and he became addicted to a substance. I was 14, he was 15. If that had never happened we would have stayed together for life. He came back from Juvenile and I was already in love with someone else. I went from worshipping the ground he walked on to healing my heart. I don't know if I ever loved anyone as much as I loved him.
Or when you Flex on the Gram that you live in a new house and bought a second car and she's regretting leaving You. Success is the best revenge and I'm barley getting started 😈
Before getting back with an ex that hurted you 1st ask yourself one thing "Do I love myself? " If the answer is yes then you should know what follows... YOU DESERVE BEST THAN BETTER!!!!!! We are all beautiful and deserve great things and should never settle for less than great because our worth is a valuable thing and so is our sanity, our heart... ALL THAT WE ARE!!! are a valuable thing that we have and there's someone out there that won't settle for less either and is dying to have it all and to treat you like a king or queen that you are. So never settle less than your worth... reach for the stars cool ppl cuz y'all deserve it...I know I do deserve great things and happiness 😊😊😊!!!! BUT THE QUESTION IS... DO YOU KNOW? 😍😍😍
Tottally agreed have experienced she left me but she came back i dont know about no contact rule but she told me that her new relationship was failed this time she left me again now i dont want her
Yep Boyfriend got back to me that explains what happened to his new relationship and I'm talkin about the lady he left me for and I thought I told him there's nothing I can do for you and God bless you
O jeez. LoL I'm watching and reading the comments. Thank u guys for confirmation and confidence not to go back to my ex. Cleared up some issues and feelings.
yeah my fiance of 5 years dumped me about 3 months ago. we have a 7 month old daughter. i truly hope, though i have to do smart contact since we have a child, that she will eventually miss me to the point she wants to work on it. never in my life have i felt so much unbearable pain. every day is a battle in my mind.
I got dumped bc he was goong through a rough time and felt like he "wanted to be left alone" ... I feel really stupid bc I want him back but I also know that we obviously would never work out and I just want to not have him back and stop feelingthe pain... but I guess this will still take some time... sorry I'm just really emotional rn
Sofi Andi Too little too late. Back then I loved her so much, and I gave her my heart but she throw it in the trash. Anyways I’m dating someone else already.
Sometimes people don’t break up because of lack of love, but rather because of a breach of trust. You established boundaries & they broke them. If it was a deal making boundary, like cheating for example, breaking up with them is self-preservation rather than hate or disinterest. Life is complicated. I will always love my ex, but I broke up with him, because he broke my trust & my self-esteem is too fragile to handle betrayal. I was very clear about that with him. He knew the consequences. You can love someone & always want to be with them, but they haven’t dealt with their coping mechanisms so your relationship cannot, at this time (perhaps never) be healthy & respectful.
It’s not about coming back or wanting to come back, it is about why he or she is an ex to start with. There is two sides to every story. Then there is the third side you do not know about and most likely will never hear about.
This is not the case all of the time, I was in the height of new love and I went back to my ex to try and fix my family, it didn’t work and I ended up regretting losing my new love but at least I tried to keep my family together
Yeah she randomly left me after 4years for some other guy.. it was hell at first but it's amazing now best thing she ever did for me. 😁 never take them back people your worth more. Oh and she came back begging and I sent her on her way. ✋🏻
then what should i do? my ex really comeback after breakup with his new relationship. he told me he so lonely, depress lol.. so satisfying to know that🤣
Before my divorce my then-wife wouldn't let me in bed with her. A few weeks after my moving out she says she wants to "date" again but the only place we went was to bed. Once we were divorced she cut me off again but like before a few weeks later and we're knocking it out like rabbits. I knew she wasn't horney and she was trying to fill a void in her life. I didn't care as I was getting laid and the last person I wanted in my life beyond the bedroom was her. I met someone else and kissed off the ex-wife. That was over twenty years ago and she still hates my guts. Know what? IDC.
What if your ex isn’t the one who left ? I left her cause I felt taken for granted and unloved . She never cheated , just never expressed enthusiasm for me . I’m a Leo and have no reason to settle for that .
I felt the same bro and believe me, you re better of without her then with her. Everytime i told something her something that i really liked she was like "ok" and after awhile i just had no fun talking to her. She realized i guess, becauze she broke up, but be strong bro. I always had to force her to say that she loves me, but now i realize (after 1 month) that she probally wad using me just for the attention. Be strong
Would u give her a 2 chance if she cameback ? I treated my ex the same way...she left for the same reason....i was afraid of adlitting ly live nit because i didn't love her but just was afraid she will. Leave le when she know i love her.. Eventualy she did..
@@sayaann yeah my fiance told me how when he was dating a girl for 11 months back in HS he did mention that he broken up with her bc she was "boring" and "couldn't hold a conversation". Apparently she did love him, and was good to him but I guess he felt that he couldn't communicate with her which is understandable since communication is the most important part of any relationship. He told me whenever they'd go to each other's houses that if they weren't having their fun that they'd just sit on the couch and not talk while she stared at her phone and remind you this was back in 2010-11 so phones weren't much to stare at back then lol.. but that she was more interested in texting her friends than enjoying the moment with him. But they were young, they just weren't compatible. His ex tried a few times throughout our relationship to come in between us bc she was jealous, or lonely bc her boyfriends weren't making her happy it got to the point that he had to block her bc her intentions were not good. You live and you learn I guess. But me and him have been happy together since 2014! Hoping to get married this Summer! Good luck to you and to everybody. 💓😊
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What if you left because you were on a nonstop self destructive path and didn’t want to hurt them in the process? Does that really make you a bad person? You love them so much you can’t stand the thought of bringing your demons around them..
ex broke up with me because we kept fighting and all I wanted was for him to stop flirting, we've been together for 7yrs and yesterday he told me he loves me and he will always be there for me but we should become friends.. soon.i don't understand him.
Move on. Don't become friends. My ex gf always wanted to stay friends after she broke up. She just saw what she lost when I wasn't around anymore and didn't contacted her... Even on her birthday she got nothing from me. All she got was the gift to miss me. And yes, we came back together. But now she broke up again..
Please!! Dont b friend with your ex!! Let him miss you!! And let him knw wht really you r!! Go no contact..he will come back..!! Dont try to msg him!! Simply ignore and focus on your self development! Once you will become attractive!! He will come back crawling
Lols am no garage to fix broken cars!🤣🤣🤣 He can remain out there! I focus on myself! What he does with his wounds, issues or time is none of my concern! 4 months no contract and finally I feel good and back to normal! Thanks for a great video!
Much depends on why you split up to begin with, and where you were in your lives at the time. Dating in your teens is very different to dating in your 30s or 40s as your priorities are completely different. As a rule teens should not really be looking for a significant long term or lifelong relationship because they haven't experienced life as an independent adult properly, so they may not even know who they truly are at that age. A lot of childhood sweethearts reconnect years later when they are both different people. Not being self aware is no different to the young teens just starting out in life. Speaking from experience I didn't become self aware until middle age after having a nervous breakdown. In just 2 years I've become a very different person and see former friends and partners in a totally different light. So it would absolutely be possible for exes to get back together if enough has changed in them since they were together last. Good communication, openness and a growth mindset are essential though.
So me and this girl were talking for like 3 months and were serious about us. I fell in love with her not going to lie. One weekend she went away and we had no contact from Friday to Saturday, I didn't want to text her first because I was trying to play hard to get but Sunday came along after not hearing anything about her and I gave in. She dumped me right there after my first text to her and said she had "family issues" and didnt want anything with anyone right now, this deeply hurt me as I was in love and was about to make it official with her and ask her to be my girlfriend. Thats the last time I talked to her and haven't chased her at all and have had no contact whats so ever just seen her at school a couple of times. PLEASE any advice to get her back????
My ex is GETTING MARRIED! So this vid is not for me😞 It was feb2019 that he texted me we can’t be together since he has new gf (I didn’t contact him since oct2018 coz he moved out at my place i didn’t invite him for my bday though he greeted me) April2019 they’re engaged! and this june2019 he is getting married! How did I know?! His photographer friend told me that she took there engagedment pic and she will be there wedding photographer!
My evil e girlfriend was never given the chance to come back. After she painfully used betrayed and abandoned me, I deleted all people that had anything to do with her out of my life. They were turned against me by her evil manipulation. Thus, deleting all of them from my life was a good thing. Then I disconnected my cellular phone and got a landline with a new telephone number, very limited calling, and no options like caller ID, and fall waiting. Then I shifted my life to night instead of day. Now I work from 2100 to 0600 and also live during my time off at night as well. It is impossible for me to see any of those people ever again. To make certain I never go through any of the emotional cruelty my evil exgirlfirend and her friends put me through again, I never bothered to get new friends after I deleted them all from my life. I also never bothered to make a new girlfriend. With my new nocturnal life, it is nearly impossible to meet others, much less make friends or a girlfriend. It is impossible for me to be hurt again.
Indrid Cold That is sad as hell. There are other ways to handle it. Don’t you want to be happy? There’s no feeling better than being in love, but we have to learn to be strong to do it right.
@@nunya257 It is more a priority not to ever be emotionally hurt again than to be happy. One can function perfectly normally while experiencing loneliness. However, being used, betrayed, and painfully abandoned, by someone you thought loved you, then she turning everyone you know against me, was crippling to the extent that I could barely function. I should have saw it coming. She insisted all her friends become my friends. Since I had no friends to begin, she controlled all my friends. There is also a rather large benefit keeping me working and living in the night. My current job pays quite handsomely. I can not simply walk away from it to reenter day life. Besides, I have not socialised since I left daytime. I deleted everyone from my life 8 August 2000. I no longer possess the knowledge of how to be a social being. It is very likely the social protocols and complexities have changed a lot since I last socialised. It is doubtful I could reenter the herd.
Indrid Cold I can understand. My life has been defined by loneliness . Anyway, I’m really sorry she did that to you. There are horrible, damaged people on this earth. It’s been a year and I’m still messed up over my ex. He lied, cheated, manipulated...the usual. God, I trusted that man and I’m old enough to know better. I can empathize with the most extreme reactions people have to betrayal, since for me there’s nothing worse. I can’t give up on love though, even after decades of drama and pain. You do you, but just know that there are good women out there...and you never know. All the best wishes to you.
@@nunya257 After 19 years of social isolation, I no longer have the knowledge of how to approach others for the reasons of amicable or amorous relationships. I would be completely lost on his to speak to others in a manner other than a client would interact and speak to a service provider or a merchant.
@@indridcold8433 .That was terrible thing she did to you,but you must realize that shes moved on with her life and what about you? You can't let the old hurts of the past take the best part of you forever...you deserve happiness aswell,but your dennying that to yourself.so sorry but i hope someday you will find it in your heart to be happy again.
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Yep, there's a reason why you broke up in the first place. If they don't come back with the legitimate intention of trying to fix those areas with you then ignore them. But I'd say in general don't give them a second chance. It'll be weeks to months until you find out if their intentions/new perspective works.
My ex and I talked for about 4 months. It was a ldr and we only met once when I stayed with her for a week. The visit was good, remained infatuated after. One night her friend asked if we were official and she asked me. I pussy footed around with it and didnt give an answer because of fear of getting hurt. She remained affectionate for the weeks after but it slowly slowed down. The next week I bucked up and asked if she wanted to be official. She said she could go either way and I agreed. That didnt really do it for me though and then as the next few weeks passed she slowly started pulling away. She says we couldn't be exclusive because we are too far away and wouldn't get to see each other. I agree it would be hard but care for her. She definitely wanted to be exclusive at some point before and after the visit. At this point she snaps me randomly about every 2 days. Should I do NC? Will it help? Should I indulge in her random snaps? I care for her so I would like to roll the dice with this despite the obvious drawbacks of a LDR. If I do NC should it be indefinite or try to reach out when I begin feeling better?
Hi Adam. It was her idea to break up with you so it has to be hers to get back together-or at least back on talking terms. You have nothing to lose by going indefinite NC. It's the only card you have left to play-so play it.
@@MagnetofSuccess more or less what I was thinking. As per usual you're very insightful. I am still perplexed about her still snapping and and whatnot about every two days. She'll leave me on read after a short convo but she has been doing it for the better part of a week and a half now. Not so much stringing me along as in maybe keeping me available if that makes sense
Hes not coming back here..I spoke to him.again after 2 months of no contact..its was basically the same shit. different day..hes truly a waste of my time..I got together with a long standing friend..and we have a true love..no games..
She comes back only to give false hope and false promises after I leave and go no contact. I can't control that when she shows affection even briefly it surmounts all of the negatives... She doesn't love me I don't understand why I love her.. Perhaps because she existed as someone who caused me to transcend my previous life and grow into someone my elders respected for once... Idk why but I have hate and pain. Her life wasn't the easiest by far so I want her to feel happiness and satisfaction with or without me in all seriousness. I just don't understand why my pain won't subside, I've tried everything only to find remedies not cures. It's ruining my life I dont value life anymore, I don't want to love again I can't give what I no longer have to offer. I've changed who I am I feel death is an escape from it all, I don't feel anything but pain shame anger and fear or hopelessness. The worst part is seeing how many people have overcame much worse, the fact I can write a book on my blessings yet I'm still like this. I can fake it until it boils over or I break down... My only option outside of checking out would be live my life dependant on a forever remedy and knowing the reality is that without the remedy I'd rather not live, it's pathetic idk what to do I am not who I am nor who I worked to be this is a broken excuse for a shell of my former self. Idk what to do but this ain't it, and I refuse to exist like this much longer.
I dont know why but sure most of them returns with a look like i wish if she takes me back it and i look like Thank God i got rid of that and some of them are sticky to point of shoot them up to get rid of them idea worth regarding ,thats all i noticed in this exes drama 😁
Definitely! All cases are different. Unfortunately, the undenying factor is that they aren't happy with their decision. It doesn't get any more basic than that. Thanks for commenting.
