@@HeartofDating Hi gusy, I wanted to tell you about something. I'm 41 so I'm meeting a 61-year-old man. We're Christians and love to share lots of things in common. We met in a chat room last September and want to marry sometime in the future. What is your advice for me about that?
I am an older single Christian man. I have never met an available woman who ever showed me a green flag. I accepted years ago that I will never date or marry and remain alone and celibate for life. It's just not worth it.
It took me almost 3 years, matched with ~100+ women via Christian Singles event, 5 online dating apps, recommendation by friends, Meetup events, attending as many Christian events. Within two hours drive is supposedly 2.5 million people with ~38% Christians. Only ~10 dates eventuated. Only found 1 so far... but I found one. Never quit, never surrender, always forward.
Unhealthy. Priority 1 being the Lord and priorty 2 being family, is fine. But if you are not at least priority 3 and 4 semi-regularly, and you are fighting for her attention amongst recreation, friends, and career, you are almost certainly a doormat. You should be at least bringing her as much joy as recreation, friends, and her career. David Richo outlined 5 key things to a healthy relationship: attention, acceptance, affection, appreciation, and allowing. If you are no.5, you almost certainly has zero appreciation and allowing, minimal attention and affection, and you're about as accepted as a car tyre to her. Cut and run.
