The 2 Faces Of Women (A Perfect Demonstration) 

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The reason why women freak out if an ugly (or average) man approach them is that they are insulted - it's insinuating that he thinks she is on his level of attractiveness (in her logic, if she thinks he's ugly, then she thinks he thinks she's ugly too), and therefore attacking their inflated perception of themselves.

" Sexual harassment ain't nothing but ugly men trying to get some." Chris Rock

The difference between harmless flirting and being called a creep depends on how hot the guy is.

I see an old man at the gym. He’s not good looking. He is old. Very old. He’s bald and his body is old. I use him as an example at the gym to ask girls about this very topic : creepiness. I know this man lives alone. He doesn’t talk unless spoken to. He walks the track and he looks around. No , he doesn’t stare, but he does look around. From what I know about him: this time at the gym is the only time he’s around other human beings. He is lonely. All the girls say he is a “creep” I always ask them why, and after they are done I ask them what they would think about him if they knew he was extremely isolated and lonely. They don’t care. He’s a creep. I’m so glad I’m not in a relationship with any of these females. THEY ARE THE CREEP!!!

Nailed it with the main character syndrome. I feel like this is too many women nowadays. Happened to me just yesterday. Went to the ER and there was a female sitting across from me in my age range. I didn't look at her even once, but I can tell how old she was because the registration person talked to her in front of me. Anyway, I can feel her throwing energy in my direction. She would do things in her seat to catch attention, like listening to music at inappropriate volumes on her phone and singing. We're literally the only two people there and we're seated about 10 feet across from one another, which is basically face to face close. She doesn't have headphones either, so it's just music blaring from her phone and singing right in my face. At one point I got on my laptop and started writing with it, and she actually reacted by beginning to stomp one foot repeatedly. This went on for A WHILE. So now, there's no more music, and it's just the sound of me clicking away on a keyboard, and her foot hitting the ground. I can even catch how high she was raising her leg in my peripheral vision each stomp, that's how close we were to one another. I continued to mind my own business, then after a few minutes, I hear her let out a few deep sighs, again, not modest sounding, but as though she was throwing them in my direction, then she eventually gets on her phone and calls a friend. I heard her complaining that she was bored waiting at the ER, and she threw in a jab that the people in the city aren't very friendly. This is when I started to crack with laughter. I tried to mask it by looking down at my laptop and making it like I was interested in what I had going on, but I'm not sure if she bought it. I just found it funny how entitled women can get sometimes. They're like attention vampires. This girl was doing everything to get me to look at her, including stomping a single foot over and over again like a crazy person. In my experience, women who do these things only want the attention for their own validation, and NOT because they're actually interested in me, so I didn't want to fuel her ego by giving her the satisfaction. It's just funny how they engage in these behaviors to where it almost becomes like an SNL skit.

The problem with the concept of creepiness is that every action that would truly be a norm violation ALREADY has a name, like if he stalks he would be called a stalker if he touches women he is a harrasser if he did someting wrong you simply would describe the wrong behaviour like he talks to slow or holds too much eye contact. the term creepy is is proof that there was no real norm violation because again then you would just name it / describe it. creepy means i dont like your appearance that overshadows your behaviour and therefore gives it a bad vibe.

I intentionally use terms usually used by females like "creepy" to describe certain women just to see the reaction of females. Very interesting. Most of what I get is "How"?

Not only will an ugly man get penalized for completing the same behavior that an attractive man can get away with, but an attractive man can get away with behavior that no man should be able to get away with. This explains why so many women find themselves in dangerous situations on dates. They assigned the halo effect to their attractive mate, who is the predator. And he may have had all kinds of red flags as a predator, but she didn't see them because he was attractive!

I had a similar experience. An older gentleman in my area walked his dog early in the morning before work and he got labeled creepy.

Feminism is not about men and women. Also not about equality. It's about women only.

You can be attractive to a woman , but if you're too honest and direct ( in a positive way ) , or/ and don't play their ( vague ) seduction games , a lot of women will feel ' uncomfortable ' too.

Averting eye contact can also be a sign that she’s attracted to you but also shy.

All women have two faces.

Because of women, we’re living in a *winner takes all* kind of world

When all social constructs must align only to what *women* find acceptable, using derogatory terms to describe unaccepted behavior shames any non-feminine behavior. It's the misalignment of the social construct that is the issue. There's a major imbalance that women (as a whole) refuse to acknowledge.

I can try to summarize it as this: 9/10 gigachad can do virtually anything shot of murder and get away with it, woman will have a smile on her face no matter what. 7/10 chad lite can get away with a lot, most jokes even dumb will be laughed at, PUA game works very well usually, but there are still limits. 5/10 normie, will be rejected often, though typically not very harshly (sorry I have a boyfriend type of rejection). PUA game can sort of work but it's still hit or miss, although in the 6/10 above average normie I'd say is when PUA has most value, enough to generate intrigue to makeup for the slight inferiority of your looks. And below 5/10... that's when rejection becomes harsh, when the word "creep" comes into play, and even when they try to send cops after you.

I won. I found a high quality woman 15 years ago after learning what one was with many low quality ones. I still love your content and recommend it to men still in the trenches. Great job.

You know something that would solve a lot of these issues for both women and men? If women approached men they were attracted to instead of waiting to be approached. Guys almost always have to be the ones to put themselves out there just by the nature of that he is more likely to be called "creepy". The same girl might think the way you came across was creepy one day, where as if you had met her on a different day she might not have. There is no consistency or any patterns men can really even discern, because there is no logic too it. If it become more of a cultural norm for woman to approach men then they wouldn't be approached by guys they weren't interested in all the time and the men wouldn't have to be worried about being called creepy when they most likely just have pretty innocent intentions.

They missed the opportunity to say "Batman vs Fatman".

Flirty guy is American Psycho lol... because that's the great irony here. Women are most attracted to guys with dark triad traits, the guys most likely to mess up their lives and devastate them emotionally (with an elevated risk of physical violence as well). Woman, know thyself....

The flirting guy is the same guy as the harasser guy. It's Christian Bale

Let’s we’ve got this guy who’s a 6.5, if he tries to cold approach a woman, he will surely get rejected. But the same guy can get that same girl if not cold approached. Women will accept being cold approached by a 8/9 because if she’s gonna “degrade” herself by accepting, she wants to be with a very attractive guy in compensation. But if you’re the average guy you’ll need a setting and a reason for talking to her, say colleagues, or you both at this association, or you’r students in the same class. That doesn’t guarantee anything, but you won’t be seen as that big of a creep. Tldr : Not all of us can cold approach but that’s Ok there are other ways.

Thankyou for bringing this matter to light Alex. Its important to note that this is not just a feministic viewpoint or behaviour- most women behave this way. Most women who didnt have male siblings or cousins or strong male role models behave this way and get caught in this mindset. I had all brothers and remember girls who wanted to date my brothers would be asking me to line them up on dates one minute and complaining they were a creep the next if they were rejected.

The flirting Guy and the Sexual harassment guy are both Christian Bale. Just shows how different sides of the coin one can be, and how a simple fact that she liking you can have on any interaction between both sexes.

Imo I think the women on reddit that were hating on the man in the story was cause they weren't reading the post in an analytical way but as if it was more of a text message from a friend.

Basically, we have to be detectives.

'creepy' triggers men cuz a creepy label can destroy his career, family and life without due process (especially these days) and men can't stop doing creepy things because men aren't the judges determining what's creepy or not, therefore we lack the feedback loop that allows us to determine when we're creepy until it's already too late. It's like asking women not to act like witches back in Medieval times, there isn't a specific set of behaviours determined to avoid. Any knowledge of medicinal plants, owning a cat, living in a cabin in the woods, not dying form some disease or even rubbing the wrong person the wrong way could get you a witches trial, at which point it doesn't matter whether you're found guilty or not: your life would be over anyway(usually in the literal sense). Edit: The comment 'Creeps love to be victims when they're caught' kinda shines a new light on the Amber Heards of the world...

16:50 That is the typical projection. She thinks men behave like that when they get caught because that's what women do. Men don't claim to be victims when they get caught, they run and hide. It's women who do that, because it's easy for them, because the entire society supports and rewards that behaviour, that total lack of accountability. For instance: if she cheats, it's his fault. So that comment is pure projection. Men don't behave like that AT ALL when they get caught. Men can come up with the weirdest and absurd excuses, but they don't play the victim card. That comment goes to show you how biased and ignorant many women are, because they don't need to be aware or empathetic, because the entire society tells them that they are victims by default, ALWAYS, so the possibility that she is the perpetrator, or even that she is wrong, is dismissed, unacceptable. If someone grows up, hearing how stunning and brave they are all the time, no matter what they do, that person probably is going to be a horrendous human being, a sociopath, and extremely narcissistic.

This wasn't a unsafe creep vibe she got, if she did she would leave not him. This was a shatter to her ego that a guy wasn't talking to her and all over her which she later had to come back to the internet to restore her ego by shaming the guy and calling him a creep.

04:00 Look at this picture. Its two times Christian Bale. One time slim and young, next picture another role, older and chubby.

Women know within 0.3 seconds if she likes you or not. I’ve been told this by women

Man, that story about the "creep" was so well thought out😂

to me the most astonishing thing about this video is that "unsafe" means "talking to an ugly guy" and is used synonymously by girls nowadays. As if every ugly guy is a rapist and every hot guy isn't

Regarding the topic of creepiness-though, a bit more serious-I looked into some studies on s. harassment, and female flight attendants, when it came to acts by captains and baggage holders, tended to consider acts in the case of the latter as s. harassment.

Why are men so sensitive about being called creepy?! Why are women so sensitive about being called bossy? Because it is a description which directly attacks what "self-esteem" thinking creates within the respective persons. It suggests that the lies we tell ourselves about ourselves are actually lies. P.S. Having two faces is called "hypocrisy". And everyone (everyone!) is a hypocrite quite a bit more often than we'd like to admit (it's another form of lying). Just watch 97% of drivers when they realize that a cop just pulled on to the road with them.

Creepy = lower Sexual Market Value.

Alex's analysis here is so bloody spot on, thank you man

Yeah.... Uncomfortable smile vs. genuine smile. Guys need to learn to tell the difference.

I correctly predicted a split between positive and negative reactions. But I clearly did not expect that one comment (*) would be so on point and that it would garner the most support. (*) btw, because 1 (only 1) comment is accurate and supported, doesn't mean that many feminists could and would accurately perceive the situation by themselves. One of them could. Yay! A few hundred millions more to go!

Dude, you take all the points which men face in modern society and present them so rationally, with confidence. Tbh, i wouldn't be able to discuss such things without fear of being judged by society/women. Bravo!

This past year, I experienced 2 times when women were creepy. I went to a concert wearing sweatpants. A woman I didn't know came up behind me, put her hand down the back of my pants, pulled my pants outward and snapped them back on my ass. Then she stood REALLY close to me on my side. I looked over at her and she gave me the "I'm too good for you, eyes straight ahead" look. I just walked away. Next incident: Some woman that just moved into my building introduced herself to me one day. We talked for literally like 3 minutes. I found her off-putting. A few nights later, she comes down knocking on my door at 4:45am on a weeknight. I opened my door. She was drunk off her ass and just said, "Do you want to watch me play the fiddle?" I said not at 4 am. She started giving me attitude. I shut the door in her face. I never mentioned anything to the landlord. But some time later, the landlord was here looking at my stove and just said to me that she's kicking that girl out due to multiple complaints. Imagine knocking on a stranger's door at that hour to literally ask for attention. And imagine being kicked out of your building for behavior like that as a grown ass person. Imagine I, as a guy, had done that.

Love these discussions.

Women use the word single term 'creepy', and men use a series of words like 'strange', 'off', 'weird', 'ugly', 'disgusting', 'trashy' etc and ... so men are just using precise language to describe what we find offputting (FACTS), where women just describe their feeling of offputting "creepy" (FEELINGS). Reals vs Feels ... always.

The comment from shestammie surprised me. Shout out to her!

Same old saying: if you holler at her from a Bentley, it's flirting; if you holler from a skateboard, it's harassment.

3:05 not only the exact same line. The exact same guy, Christian Bale.

That was so good! Honestly really encouraging.

Good discussion! I encourage you do more like this.

man great experiment! the way u typed that story was pretty entertaining XD!

Your analysis is spot on 👍

I did not expect that outcome. It proofs in some way that only the loudest voices get heard. What are usually radical or extreme.

This is one reason Trudeau and Newsom get away with crap. Literally some of my friends said they voted for them because they were the cutest candidates.

Your story was so brilliant, it got a 50/50 approval/disapproval. Great job.

3:24 "exact same line" yeah, and exact same guy too: Christian Bale

This actually restored my faith in women, just a little bit. Thanks for that.

This video was uplifting , not everything is doomed.

Wow, what a beautiful plot twist at the end.

Regarding the reddit post; yeah, being called creepy got his attention. That's just one step removed from facing grape accusation - before the court of public opinion. In this day and age, the sensible move is to keep recording the interaction and leave. At home, note the day and event, and archive the video for safe keeping.

Problem with the first video is that if you didn't know the girl it could just be her personality to be a bit nervous. One job from years ago, I found out after I left that everyone liked me at the job except this one girl. She told some guys I know that she thought I was the creepiest person there. Why? When we first talked she said she was always ignored by everyone, so I decided to give her a bit of attention each day. Something like staring at her and waiting for her to catch me. She'd laugh and tell me to stop it, I'd wave and go back to whatever I was doing. I talked with her after this as well and nothing was said, conversation didn't seem awkward although we kept things largely impersonal. To be fair she was like a decade younger than me. While initially interested I didn't expect it to go anywhere and the approach was meant as friendly. Once I knew her age I decided against trying but I remained friendly because I generally prefer to be on good terms with my coworkers. So moral of the story: you could be building up some rapport, get laughs and conversation from someone who looks comfortable and still be seen as a creep.

"Acting beyond your station" Very well put.

I agree with your guest. It seems to me the woman on the right hasn't made up her mind. She smiles at the guy a couple of times. I've seen uncomfortable women many many times in my life. You'll never see a smile. Complements will only make the situation worse as it sets off alarm bells in their mind. Their face will be crunched up like they just smelled something horrible.

If you are an average bloke / double hex if you are short - there is absolutely no reason to talk to women. Just opt out of it. If they want you - they will initiate. And guess what. They by en large - they wont. How should you treat women? *EXACTLY* as they treat the average guy - invisible, transactional, utilitarian & inconsequential.

It is the consistency of inconsistency of some women made them dangerous to be around. Depends on if they feel attracted to you or not, they could either accept your compliments or call you a pervert. I have learnt a few tricks from the corporate world. Never ever be alone anywhere with a female coworker especially if you are higher up. Imagine her name is Amber Heard and you will know what to do;)

In this day and age, a man will need to give enough proofs that he isn't doing anything wrong and even if he does it he will still be considered bad for gathering proof as he can make the accusers look bad. When you make a rude comment and get humiliated in return you can go to social platforms and paint a guy in bad light... Well that's called being a woman these days. Now the time is changing and those women can't find approval of their act anywhere and they are bitter about it.

My teen son IS that devastatingly handsome guy whose social cues turn woman completely off. Leave it to girls to react that way.

Not only the same line, also the same guy! Brilliant!

Fascinating, Alex, we would love to see more content like this. More concrete evidence of double standards and the like.

The fact that the same woman is to have the same verbal response and to have an authentic emotional reaction. makes me raise questions.

what i love is that both of the pictures are of Christian Bale and the the one on the left looks like its him from American Psyco or Batman Begins and the one of the right looks like its him when he was gaining the weight for Vice but it just goes to show that like that the diffence between flirting and Sexual Harassment is how attractive the women find the guy even the same guy lol!

I agree with Alex. In almost all cases it's completely inappropriate to associate a feeling you have with a character flaw in the other person. Women spend crazy amounts of money and time displaying their bodies and trying to make themselves look alluring, but then somehow expect only handsome men to notice or comment. I've learned to look away, or change my path to avoid them. I slow down or speed up, change the door I was going to enter/exit, and avoid going up stairs anywhere behind them. All to avoid seeing their uncomfortable body language or their glare.

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it's not necessarily just that he's better looking though. Because the level of creep vibes a woman will feel from a man isn't just about how he looks, it's also the signals she is sending, and whether he seems to be reacting to them or ignoring them. Story time: I was reading in a corner in gym class (this was high-school, I don't get out much😅) and a random guy sat down next to me and started asking questions about my book, he was relatively good looking, as I recall, I just wasn't interested. (as I said: I was reading.) I was curt, brusque even, I just wanted to be left alone with my book. and but he just kept talking to me and I remember thinking to myself 'why is this creep still talking to me?' it wasn't his fault really, and eventually he got the hint and left. when I got home and told the story to my family they teased me, saying he was just trying to flirt and I had been quite rude actually. but that is neither here nor there. The point is: the fact that he came off as creepy had nothing to do with how he looked, and everything to do with the fact that he kept talking to me despite my obvious disinterest. long story short the girl thinks she's giving off stronger signals than she really is and when the guy fails to react the way she wants/expects, it can come off as deliberately ignoring them. and I think it's fair to say that if you *do* notice that the other person is uncomfortable but you continue to hit on them regardless . . . well, that's a creep move no matter how hot you are. (and it's just as creepy when it's a girl coming onto a disinterested guy, it's just a different dynamic of creepiness, so don't come at me with that nonsense.) Bad behavior is bad behavior no matter who's doing it.

Your point is very valid, but I know quite a few women that would really go for the guy on the right.

3:23 Exact same guy as well just older.

That Reddit write up was amazing

A number of years ago feminist Marieke Hardy ( on the ABC's Book show) used the term "Sex Pest" in regard to a man she encountered. What an offensive put down, similar to "Creep". This sort of language is counter productive.

The modern use of "creepy" or "creep" is not shaming, it's defamation, it's immediately dangerous to the man depending on who's nearby. People nearby will probably get really hostile with him, simps nearby might get violent, women nearby might get loud as if calling people to physically remove him from there. It's really extreme and men should avoid approaching or talking to women they don't know in certain scenarios(if you don't have a ton of friends around as witnesses for example) for this reason alone.

I heard story of blind man working out on gym, some woman stand before him in her outfit when you can see everything and call him out for watching her, he told her that he is blind but she didn't care and go for security. When security came she showed his blind id card or how it's called but that security guy told him that it's ok he is blind but he can't staring anyway xD so ....

That story sounds like the guy took his dog to the park, took a few photos, and because he didn’t immediately pay attention to the strange crazy lady she got triggered and started barking orders and name calling. Half that story is just her judgmental attitude.

you should make a book on everything you learned

Is there a link to the social experiment post on txc? Absolutely interested in thumbing through it

that top comment made me feel so good. Kudos to this woman, there is a chance for the world.

This is fantastic content.

Where can we find the original flirting versus felt unsafe video?

Say hi to coworker: HR would like to have a word with you in their office

If those videos weren’t put side by side, then it would hard to differentiate. It’s like men have to walk on egg shells not hurt a woman’s feelings.

The extra kicker, is both of those pictures are of Christian Bale

Alexander, my Friend, maybe that 22 upvoted answer came from another infiltrated man xD

The eyes and mouth gives it all away, it's really subtle. Sometimes even the frame on the right could be indicator of extreme interest (secret crush).

Pleasantly surprised.

Yup, the eye contact.

Both faces looks like she's about to hit you with something heavy

I believe guys get called creepy and females get called crazy...

The lack of eye contact with creepy guy look. Is the hug difference and the only sign need.

Okay I've been sharing this with some people, but I'm only telling the guys about this video. I genuinely find this very interesting, so I want to hear multiple opinions. Here is paraphrase if initial response from a mid 30s single mother: Masculinity and male egos tend to be quite fragile. Someone once explained the main difference between men and women like this: men fear being mocked, while women fear men might harm them physically if they don't comply. It's a significant contrast. So, if I occasionally hurt a man's feelings because I felt uneasy... well, it could be much worse. I don't know if she's read the comments, but it's not like men don't realize women have a legitimate fear of danger. I've actually been trying to improve, and I'm attempting to make her see it from the perspective of the guy.

I like these experiments

Damn bro you gotta change your shirt too 🤣🤣

@alexandergrace Shouldn’t the phrase be “men who are perceived as ugly” as opposed to “men who are ugly”? I find the way you assert this phrase slightly ironic seeing as in the video, you encourage people to take adequate ownership of their perceptions of other people, and ensure that this is reflected through their use of language (I.e. by speaking in a way where the observer is positioned as the active agent). Since I myself, favour this principle, I just wondered whether you’d agree with me pointing out that (similar to your proposition that men aren’t fundamentally creepy)…men/people also aren’t fundamentally ugly either? If you happen to agree then I’d encourage you to consider using another expression in future, since dispensing the term ugly just seems incongruent with the core of what you’re debating in this video (Thanks you for the content btw).

6:30 I think there was something you missed in this video as well, it wasn't just the looks of the guy but also the social presentation he puts forward including grooming, clothing selection ("dressed inappropriately" she said), and signs of income status ("a nice watch"). Those are things that don't usually matter to a masculine frame of mind because men have had to do the dirty jobs in society and that lends men to be less worried about presentation if we are in our work cloths. Just a side note. Great video and keep up the good work!