Most Men Still Don't Understand This About Hot Women 

This girl is just looking for more guys to reject. Rejecting men is a self esteem booster for most women.

there was a girl in my school who was very attractive. everyone was stunned by her beauty which made them afraid of talking to her. when I finally decided to talk to her I find out that she's actually shy, not choosey, and didn't have many friends.

The first girl in the video is a good example for the type of girls every man should avoid (at all cost sometimes) and her TikTok page is a proof of this.

For me, all my life, dating only had one purpose: finding a wife for life. I seriously dated two women in my life, and ended up marrying them both. The first one was my high school sweetheart and she ended up being not quite I what I expected, and she walked out on me. The second one turned out to be my best friend, soulmate and wife for 45 years, right up until she died, nearly two years ago. To my way of thinking, what people view as "dating" today is more than unfortunate, it is toxic to the society as well as to themselves. When you waste those valuable young years on sowing wild oats, you find that when you get old, you will reap the nothingness that you have planted in your garden. You will not always be young and attractive. And when you slow down, because you must, if you haven't invested in a good mate, you will pay the price. And one other point, most "hot women" aren't as hot as you think. Have you seen some of the actresses without all the makeup and fancy clothes? Most women who are viewed as knockouts spend half their time putting on their costume, which is what it boils down to. Women are beautiful naturally, when they are young. The older they get, the more they have to rely on makeup to cover up what they have lost. If you are chasing "glamour" which is mostly fake, you will deserve what you get. After you have been married and in love for decades, you find that beauty flows from the inside, it isn't caked on from the outside.

If unattractive girls are behaving like 10/10, why would the attractive girls be any different?

Most “hot girls” know they aren’t as great as you think they are. Down deep, they know their beauty can be wiped off with a Kleenex. That has to be an insecure feeling.

No. She just wants guys to do that so she can receive validation and attention while rejecting them

It's called the Halo Effect. People superficially confuse beauty with kindness so they are bound to treat you right and create an overall positive opinion about you just because of the posession of an attractive physical feature.

I think the average girls who think they are above average are the worst, toxic woman... and there are A LOT of them. My experience is that the better looking woman are usually nicer. The image of the hot chick that's stuck up and arrogant is a Hollywood creation. Approaching a really hot girl is a good thing; Best case scenario is you pull her and worst case scenario is you get shut down but had the balls to approach a really hot girl and it gains confidence!

"I know lots of women who would take a 6 or 7" 6 and 7's for women: actual 8 and 9s

Funny thing is, once you go through all of this and get the attractive girl, you pretty much signal to everyone else that they stand a chance too, assuming you're average looking, then it's open season and you have to stave off the horde without looking like the jealous type.

She's confusing sex attraction with relationship attraction. Being desired for one doesn't mean you're desired for another. However, she's right about how far confidence and passing frame tests get's a guy because they're based in feelings whereas we are visual

Woman: "SHOOT YOUR SHOT" Man: "What am I going to get out of this outside of the obvious?" Woman: ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!" Man: "Whatever"

I work in a field that is female dominated and I'm pretty content just keeping it friendly. I'm in my 40s now and it all just seems so tiresome nowadays, compared to when I was in my 20s.

My sister has been a good example to this unseen world of women. She is an athletic, attractive, woman. She's very popular, always knows someone wherever we are because she grew up dancing and is now a dance teacher, she is also cheerleader for a professional football team. She has traveled the world with her dancing. She's outgoing, happy etc. She is LONELY. On the outside, she has all the same pictures out with friends, at weddings etc. But in reality those friends don't call despite all the #BFF stuff in the pictures. She is just a regular person. And through her I've met all of her dance and cheer friends... All very similar girls, and they are just regular people that also get lonely. And the men I see them date? Usually nothing special physically.

Problem is, guys would be dating down if they followed this advice and potentially be putting themselve's into legal trouble. Get rejected but keep trying? With narcissistic women who won't make their own move? She's saying that she and other women know they're better than the guy so think about the dynamic that sets up. She wants a guy that will treat her like a celebrity and then treat him like a fan.

The fundamental problem with this advice is that since you can’t actually differentiate between the woman who does not want any interaction and the woman who is simply insecure about interacting, what you’re going to end up doing is antagonizing a number of people because of the misread.

A 6-7 is not dating down, 6-7 are above average to good looking.i swear women's look scales are all over the place.

The concept that 'less-attractive women are more appreciative' started becoming a fallacy in the mid 90s. I've found that 6s and 7s are the most vicious with their men (although hotties can be the most vicious during and after breakup). 6s and 7s more often settle for a man who's lacking and stick around and emotionally beat his ass.

Not really sure I currently know any hot girls that don't have a boyfriend... and they don't seem to go very long without. Honestly, I don't know many at all (even average women) that aren't at least on a rotation with a new guy every couple of months. But, that's just my friend group. I know that's "not all" women... but if my social circles are any indication... I don't know that even a "hot/shy" girl is really having any problem finding a new man within weeks or even days. But anything is possible.

My mother was an 10/10 exceptionally beautiful woman when she was young. She was a shy introvert who hated talking to people. And everyone thought she was prideful woman and men were so scared to approach. One day my father (fairly tall and average looking) straight up approached my grandfather and asked to marry her. My parents are happily married even to this day.

I don't want to date anyone who thinks they're "dating down" tbh. I would hate to be with a woman who thinks they're better than me.

This guys is speaking the truth, due to my career path being a Social Worker, I have a lot of female friends who are 8's and 9's. This has been the case since college, so I've had the opportunity to demystify how society interacts with hot women. This is also how I got an IG Model as my wife, I just approached her like she's a normal person, and she was enamored by my confidence because most guys are intimidated by her looks. Great stuff Alex👌🏿 Treating beautiful women like normal people, will take you far in life guys.

It doesn't pay off to approach attractive quiet girls either because even if you correctly identify one and make it past the initial defenses, all the other guys will take notice and start barging in left and right. All you really end up doing is walking through the minefield first.

In a lot of cases, they also just know from experience that if they smile or look too approachable, they'll be approached all night by guys they don't want to talk to. It's also why they sometimes avoid eye contact with others. The good looks could be somewhat of a curse at times. A lot of them still end up being stuck up because they're constantly approached wherever they go. Even if it's just by one guy out of many.

So, the ‘nice girl act’ that hot girls put on is just that, an act. We all knew that. Going after women that are out of your league is a waste, she will always know she can do better and once the novelty of your approach wears off, she will quickly direct her gaze on the next best thing. Confidence will only get you so far for so long.

Absolutely true. I've had social enxiety since early childhood. It had been really frustrating, so I decided to approach everyone in any situation, men, women, anyone. It's funny how many people who look intimidating are intraverted and shy, but they're actually very friendly and happy that I talk to them. A few good looking women who look confident get nervous and stumble, they're like anyone else.

Alexander, the reason hot women are feared is because they come up with the most rude things a human being can possibly say to a guy. They don't just reject a man's advances, they turn humiliation into an art form. It is actually negative pre-selection.

Men, its not about the hot, pretty woman. Its all about you and how you view yourself. Stop being concerned about what women want and be more concerned about what you want for yourself! Set goals and standards based on your likes and dislikes. There are beautiful women in all walks of life, from the spectrum of nerdy chicks to party girls to gym rats. The key to successful interactions with women is first knowing yourself and being comfortable with who you are and what you represent. When you have this mindset, confidence oozes out of you, which in turn causes you to present yourself in a positive manner. Also, you must understand that regardless of how confident, handsome, or rich you are, you will be rejected regardless. Andrew Tate gets shot down just like the average Joe does, maybe even more often than you think. When you have a true knowledge of self, you avoid wasting your time with frivelous pursuits chasing women you have nothing in common with. You will recognize that if she doesn't respond or show some level of mutual interest, move on and don't waste your time chasing your tail. You're more likely to be made an orbiter/friendzone fanatic than a potential datin/relationship partner if she doesn't show some level of positive response or curiosity in the first 30 seconds. As a man, you don't beg, plead or tarry. You stake your claim and pursue what is reasonable and cost appropriate.

“Shoot your shot so I get validation. If you get rejected, shoot your shot so I can #metoo you if I feel like it.”

I always knew how men could be toxic as I am a man, I had an abusive older brother, a cheating/absent father, and a selfish/absent workaholic/alcoholic mother. It wasn't until I was 11 that I came to realise that girls are way more toxic (even more so than women) and that the prettier the wrapping was, the more screwed up and toxic they were on the inside. I learnt early, so I avoided the lust-inducing traps that were placed in front of me. When I finally found my missus I vetted her for 3 years before we started dating, and ANOTHER year before we started sleeping together. It must have been the right mind-set to have as we've been together 23 years, had a lovely daughter, overcame many difficulties together, and are still going strong. And she's at least a 6 imo. A 7 when she's in the mood for some serious loving. I've never met an 8+ who wasn't so toxic that she drags EVERYONE SHE EVER MEETS down into the dirt where she lives (mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, etc. All of their partners/relationships came to ruin in the end).

Camping for Christmas… Most Australian thing I’ve ever heard 🤣

Prostitutes makes so much more sense.

Don’t reward women for being closed off. Let them learn that they have to open up to get what they want.

Even if the phenomenon that you are talking about exists, I don't think it necessarily has the effect you think it does. Plenty of dudes (lacking self-awareness) will shamelessly shoot their shot at women who are out of the league because of how thirsty they are. Attractive women get hit on all the time, because they're physically attractive, and thus tend to develop social defense mechanisms to screen people out. This is something you've pointed out yourself in past videos iirc. This contradicts your claim in this video that attractive women feel pressured to act inviting. If anything, they'll be pressured to be distant and selective in the sorts of men they give the time of day, simply because people are drawn to them all the time due to their looks.

Most of my ex girlfriends are hot women and one of the patterns I noticed is the ones who grew up with certain dysfunctions tends to be spoiled brat princesses. They’re used to getting anyway with certain behaviors because men are afraid to check them on it so they think it’s normal to act like a child until they get what they want. Another problem is most of them are addicted to real life and especially now, social media male attention. They love to an IG account with hundreds of men following, liking and commenting on their pictures but if one girl comments on your IG pic., she’s ready to start world war 3 LOL😂. If you get serious with a hot woman to the point of engagement and marriage, she should stop getting calls and texts messages from her “guy friends” at least after a certain hour of the night. Almost every hot girl I dated always had guys texting them all day and night and she would say, “We’re just friends”. Women in general but especially hot women who know their toxic USUALLY keep one or two BACKUP PLAN MEN AROUND, because they know they will probably self sabotage the current relationship. My ex girl was like this. She drank a lot and men texted her non stop daily so I had to let her go. Fellas, protect your seed, money and emotions. No amount of hotness is worth a pretty face and a hot body. Look at how COCKY that FIRST GIRL was. She’s used to men chasing her and her acting anyway she wants.

Never treat a woman like something better than you. Be reasonable. Make her earn your attention. Be what she wants and she does not want a slave. She wants something better than her.

You can practice that virtually everywhere. Great advice.

I've never thought about this to be honest. I've actually only noticed that they usually have a bitchy persona in order to scare off creepy men

With Social Media, facially challenged women are starting to also have relationship problems. The seven layers of makeups are creating the power ranger effects in a lot of them. Stuff like “I’m strong and untouchable”

You changed the format for this video. It feels like it transitioned from an educational video to a marketing video maybe.

I’ve definitely experienced this. It really confused me for a long time. Thankfully I am very extroverted, so once I developed some social confidence, I had no trouble, & I just go after what I want. I’ve never been approached by a lot of men, though I’m told that I’m checked out constantly. I have open body language BUT I’m typically hyper focused on my task which might send a sort of ‘unavailable’ vibe.

Excellent content as usual, Alexander! I’m noticing more video effects and editing whatnot in recent vids. Just my two cents, but your info is so compelling that it stands on its own without the aftereffects frosting. Either way I’ll continue to tune in - you’ve given words and structure to things I’ve vaguely sensed for years!

I loved the new editing It added energy and a great vibe Welcome to 2023, I Hope you have a great year, Alexander

Alexander, I've fallen in love with the prettiest 10/10 girl you can imagine- looks like an actress, has degrees, speaks many languages, is a senior manager. As a result I got destroyed- got thrown out of the social circle and got what PUAs call "beta male shaming"- i.e. how do I even dare thinking that I deserve a girl like that. You can say I'm perhaps not realistic in my expectations, but boy- I sure know how to get up close, look her in the eyes and say "hey, I know what I want and what I want is you"

One thing I absolutely love about your channel is that you try to touch on several aspects and problems affecting both men and women, and from the persepective of both men and women. It just feels so fair in comparison to other manosphere / redpill content out there.

A ‘10’ in looks with a ‘2’ in attitude is still a ‘2’.

I'm not a great looking guy, but I have dated several 'hot' women before I got married. They all approached me, because I ignored them. I would be on the dance floor all night, pausing for a drink occasionally, then back dancing. Meanwhile, the guys that were buying them drinks all night, were giving me the evil eye like I was the asshole. Long story short; focus on yourself and your own well being. If a woman wants to join you on your journey, then YOU decide if you want her to be by your side. Regardless; you're moving forward.

It’s not only that you need to dare making the first step. You need to be able to keep a conversation going which is witty, intelligent, feeling-biased, not seeming needy, not weird, not show-off. And you have to keep this conversation going without any input from her.

"Stuck up" is not what's going through my head when I see a hot girl. I'm more likely to be thinking "high maintenance."

Risky actions are avoided, creating less competition, making them less risky. This is true with almost everything. *It's less risky to take risks*.

I’ve been married to two really hot women. Believe me, you get over the physical beauty pretty quickly. It’s more important that they have integrity, character, emotional maturity and a capacity for loyalty and unconditional love.

Too funny, they'll date down, a six or a seven, because they're all tens.

SUPER-Video! The Manosphere needs way more like this one. This illustrates the dark-side of the “Halo Effect”, how to recognize it and how to navigate it in a way that benefits both men and women. Excellent!

In my ventures during 2005-2019, I have found that super-attractive women are a lot nicer that the average ones. Among them a real princess, actually, super-attractive, and the nicest and most gracious person ever. Also, the nasty secret about attractive women, after the third, let's say, "social exchange", they all look the same.

The fancy editing was a very nice touch I like it

Yeah, right. For the average (or below) guy, it doesn't work. First problem, how often do you run across a hot girl let alone one that's shy. Over my life I can count them on one hand. Chances are very limited. Second, they always go with the better looking dude unless you have money to throw around and I don't. Then there's your presentation. Feel her energy? Approach her, don't freak yourself out even if you're uncomfortable, but if she's uncomfortable... You'd need to be an expert at meditation to be self aware enough and still be able to pull your game together.

A friend complained that everytime he went to the bathroom, when out with his hot girl he would come back to some random guy having a try... and he got fed up with it.

This video is akin to advising people to play the lottery because you could win!

Ive had interactions with girls where in the bar where they have a friend come up to me and say they are interested, but the minute we start talking she's actually very socially awkward and only talks in a "yes" or "no" manner even though my questions are imo deserving of a better answer lol. Usually I just tell them that Im bored and get out quickly. It's a real shame as they are physically attractive but resort to using their phone when talking to someone they claim to be attracted to

Yo right out of the gate I notice the change in editing style 🔥 I quite like it

That was dope, boss, thanks! I'm a bit older and this affirmed something I learned a while ago, but especially late-20-to-early 30-something men with half a brain and a bit of ambition toward ANYTHING need to hear this, great job! Just wanted to affirm you taking more "risks" like this moving forward as you produce and share more quality, useful info.

I disagree with this video. The simplest explanation of why this woman (our any woman) encourages men to approach is they like attention. Maybe she's a dating coach. A man's chances aren't any better with a hot, shy woman. They're worse because the better looking a woman is the higher her expectations and the less outgoing the more the man would have to carry the conversation.

I remember when a new girl came into our area who was so classically beautiful that she could've been a fashion model. Everyone was intimidated by her looks (including the women), so they avoided her. I decided to hang out with her on break, and it turns out she was a really cool lady. One of the most interesting people I've ever known. There's definitely some truth to this. If you're in the market, take his advice on this. You might be surprised.

The day I see that this hot woman is dating 4 or 5 I'd listen to what she's preaching. In most cases they say it to be PC but in reality doesn't follow that advise.

Some of the beautiful women I talked to in person have been very reserved. Makes sense now. Great video.

"Put yourself out there", the worst ever dating advice I've ever heard. It supports entitled women who want to play games, get approached and making men vulnerable and exposed to rejection to boost her entitled ego. Long story short, it's time for women to make the first move. Modern women aren't traditional so they are the ones who should make the first move. Otherwise, men are no longer going to put up with modern women attitude.

Great video and seeing from the comments , talking about bias people have towards women and men is needed. Seeing as there is so much negativ bias and tunnel vision being commented🎉

If you’re a man and think someone is out of your league then you need to change your mindset. No one is out of your league. It is them that have that opinion and sums them up. That already tells you they are unpleasant and stuck up. Most hot women tend to have the personality of a rock. They don’t have to try and therefore never have. They live on easy street and they don’t have it as tough as others. Ask them if they would rather be plain? They wouldn’t swap places so let’s not weep for hot women. They know they have it easier. Society treats the good-looking people better.

Love the new snappy presentation, much more engaging and captivating.

I automatically avoid them like the plague on account of them usually being used to getting what they want in life simply on account of being hot.

Hot girls are less approached, but they are also approached by more confident high value guys ...and really experienced players. So to the sheer number of competitors is smaller, but they are harder to beat.

An interesting psychological phenomenon affecting prettier / more handsome people: _"self adaptation"_ to the projected/perceived image of yourself. I've been, at times, rather ugly (say: a 4) and rather handsome (say, a 7) -- only possible if your main flaw is being _fat_ , particularly in the face: once much leaner, you climb several points. And, I noticed, _when I was a 7, I would act like a 7_ , not just adapting my "targets" to my _new range_ but also in terms of _knowingly and intentionally missing out_ on very clear "avances" form girls _absolutely in my "new" league_ just because _I really wanted to make the people around me, and the girl in question, know, that " _*_I_*_ am a better person"_ that does not go after every chance or occasion. Can't it be that many women act like they do out of the very same phenomenon?

You are right that being stunningly beautiful is a double edged sword ..... And you're right that you can't really tell what their internal monologue is. But in my experience the shy beauty is rather rare and most beautiful women are extremely socially educated and get an absolutely insane amount of offers. Most of them are quite friendly because why wouldn't they be unless you're overstepping their boundaries.

Limerence - Falling in love with the ideas we have about a partner, instead of falling love for who and how they ARE. (i.e. she looks hot so she is worth loving/pursuing)

That woman is full of it. Womens standards are higher than they’ve ever been thanks to dating apps. Even 5’s think they deserve 10s these days. If you try to talk to a woman in public they call you a creep. Women just make videos like that to get guys to try to chat them up so they can complain about guys talking to them all the time coz it makes them feel wanted.

From my experience the overwhelming majority of hot women are not friendly, smiley, or open. Hot women intentionally avoid those traits to weed out men that they don't want approaching them.

None of this applies to me. I’m 5‘6“. and bald. 😅 This “bias” (from their own anecdotal self reporting) doesn’t even come in to play unless approach is even a possibility 👍🏼

Love how you pull in these insane clips...and rip on them....great content man!

I am constantly amazed by conversations that go something like this: Person: I actually met george clooney once and hes such an amazing person. Me: Why what did he do (that was so amazing)? Person: oh he just said hello (to me). Beautiful women just need to be friendly to be amazing.

A female friend who gives me really good advice has a saying; "Every girl is a '5' until you talk to them." Her attractiveness is the reason you're talking to her but if she doesn't match up in other ways she's not good enough for you.

Most attractive girls already have a social group and that alone just makes it even harder to approach her. (She would gossip about you to her friends and stuff). Experienced this and wished I was dead afterwards xD

2 cents. I find the new production distracting, Alex. If it is necessary, I understand, but mayyybe at the minimum tone down the sound effects.

Part of the problem is many can and do shoot their shot thinking they nabbed a date with future prospects long term. When all it really was is a free meal for her.

I've been married for years, so I'm not in the "walk away" camp, or whatever you call it. However, I do enjoy your channel and appreciate hearing your perspective. When I was dating, I tended not to go for the hottest women. Pretty yes, but not the girls who were the hottest. Going to a smaller university and living on campus made things interesting. I pretty much knew most of the hot girls on campus. Almost without exception, they either 1) had a boyfriend from day 1 and were never eligible or 2) had other issues that made me not want to date them. I can't stand drama. So I wanted a girl who wasn't high maintenance, who was fun, easy to connect with, and who was at least attractive enough. I figured that, no matter how hot they were, they weren't going to be that hot forever. Plus, if there were other significant issues, them being hot wasn't going to be enough.

This is really true. I dated this gorgeous blonde single Mom who had a half-black baby and just asked if black was her preference (didn’t care - just curious - I’m Korean). She said NO. Just black guys were the only guys who ever asked her out (and I saw pics of her past boyfriends - they weren’t that good looking). She even said she liked my swagger/confidence (and I’m probably only a 6-7/10.). One thing I know from having a lot of black friends, those guys are (generally) aggressive about approaching girls and getting their numbers and it’s ultimately a numbers game. We live in a society where men are being immasculinized, and it’s a strong male trait to approach girls - so it shouldn’t be a surprise that that strong male trait is rewarded by getting numbers

Yeah, but what’s the probability of a hot women with over abundance of “resource”. For example, looks, men checking her out, flirting with her, hitting 100 likes on tinder per day. This person can become hollow or not care about the resource they have so much of, in this case, men. A poor person cares about money, because of the things it could bring them, health, happiness, doesn’t have to worry about job firing you. While a rich person wouldn’t really care about even spending 10$-100$ unlike a poor person would be humble and appreciate the resource. So it’s all about probability and just by understanding a regular human being. With too much of a resource: attention, money, men, women, etc, can lead to that human, person, to start not appreciate what they currently have. So what’s the probability of a hot women wanting more attention, guys approaching her, and not being “full of themselves” and be a good person.

Ugh, I hate to admit it but the editing really works. It radically improves my engagement to the video, simply putting text in front to read and the zooms and the transitions and cuts to clips. The dynamics change our psychology when looking at the video. Alex, you might have to pay attention to something like this too maybe

Not a fan of new editing, but the content is great as always!

This Is One Of Your Best Most Understanding Videos. Truth!

I agree with the analysis re very pretty girls' frequent insecurity & approachability. Not sure this really applies to the girl at the start though! I definitely think a lot of guys make the mistake of avoiding the 9 and approaching the 6. That 6 may well get hit on *more* and be more likely to give a harsh putdown to raise her own status. The 9s tend to be at least pleasant, for the reasons given.

Man you usually have good advice. I can tell you now from years and years of experience in dating, this is not the case. It's very rare that the traits you describe are in hot women. I've gotten rejected by so many women on approaching. Even more so into my 40's. 5/6s constantly approaching me or in my dm's telling me how cute/sexy I am blah blah, most recent was at a party where she came up and said I was the best looking guy there, she was a 3 at best. 8/9/10s just fob you off with 1 word replies or laugh at you. In the 5 years of dating, I havent dated anything above a 7. That being said though, this is Perth women we are talking about.

I once dated a model (well she wasnt a model at the time), i got to know her when a girl in my click added her to our group, and then i just treated her as one of the gang without treating her any different then i treated any other girl in our friend group, witch she liked because she didnt have any real friends and was rather lonely because she intimidated other people because she was so beautiful. Moral of the story, beautiful girls are still girls, and girls are still people, and if you treat them like that, they wont think any lesser of you.

This is applicable in the pre-social media era and also before online dating became the norm. It can be done today BUT IN VERY SPECIFIC SITUATIONS.

Couple thoughts: if a hot girl doesn't get the kind of attraction she wants does she then take the opportunity it go out and talk to the guys she's interested in? It's the 21st century women can go ask a guy out if they want to. Second, if a girl is reserved in everything to the point that they don't respond much at all even in an interaction they enjoy, is that a bad sign going forward in a relationship? Will she want to work through things with you or just drop you once it becomes too hard? Last: could this just be a social chameleon feature, eg she doesn't know what to say yet so she says nothing.

if you are a quiet and reserved woman THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU ARE MORE FEMININE

Lay off the sound effects.

Women NEVER date down, they date across and up the hierarchy they occupy.

She doesn't deserve that pedestal you placed her own. Make her earn it in a fun manner. Tease her instead of trying to please her. She's probably used to that and it doesn't effect her emotions.

Even a 6 is above average! She's not talking to normal men here.