The Best Ways to Say You’re Not Interested Without REALLY Saying It 

I like what Tam used to say “it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.” 💁🏽‍♀️

Garcelle is spot on. I always say *" I am not the woman for you, you deserve someone that gets you. I don't"* For me it is better to be honest because if the chemistry isn't there, you can't fake it. Better to let him move on to a woman he is better yoked with.

Just say what Phoebe did in friends.. “Oh I wish I could but I don't want to...” 🤷‍♀️🤣

all of these are good and honest but they’re still hurtful when a person is really in love with you. no matter what it’ll hurt

Garcelle is the best thing that has happened to this show

I don't believe it's fair to waste your time and especially mine, let's go our separate ways

I know the famous one “ I’m talking to somebody rn “ or “ I have a gf/bf “ 😂😂😂

Guys don’t get hints and I think hints can be a little immature. Tell someone the truth though the problem with that is some guys think they can fix the relationship so they work harder and it’s annoying once you are tired

Let the person know that you're taken it's not good to play with someone's emotions it can turn out bad for some people

Adrienne little feet in her shoes… so cute 🥰🔥🥺

I just go ghost. 🤷🏾‍♀️ for me once I lose interest, I block them on everything.

Yeah i remember what happened to Mollie Tibbetts just because she rejected her killer. I am the queen of turning male and females down when they ask me out. What I say is "aw i'm flattered. You are very atrractive and so kind and akways been good to me but I dont look at you that way. I hope we can still be friends though" or something along the lines of that and they all have taken it well actually.

I had this dude lead me on for like 5 years and he used me when he needed me and then pushed me aside when he was done. Wasn’t right for him doing that but I feel like it was my bad for sticking around as long as I did hoping he would change. We were in high school for most of it tho so …. I learned a good lesson

Their outfits are always so amazing. I absolutely love Loni’s for this segment. I did have a “it’s not you, it’s me” situation, because that was 100% the truth for the situation and time. I’m married to him now and didn’t realize his amazing nature. I had my own problems inside at the time. I was so used to all other men/guys being horrible. (I mean I still don’t like men in general. Have trust issues with everyone but especially men.) So finding someone so great, who was different than most men was a Godsend because he’s really who I needed. Sometimes you just have to know someone’s true intentions! Chemistry really is a thing and timing is so important too!

What if you tell them you are not interested but only want a friendship, but they don’t listen and secretly see you as their girlfriend!! 😩😩 HELP!!

I paid for a storage unit and that was it. I gave him time to get it together and he didn’t. I feel you Loni! He thought I was gonna take care of him.

That's one of the things I know I'm not good at which would be pretending or altering my authenticity to please people. People deserve to hear the truth and it saves misconstruing what and where a relationship stands. Whether marriage or friendship if it's built on truth it's bound to last

I wish that people would just be honest and say what's on their mind instead of throwing hints and ghosting someone as if it's acceptable when it's not. That's what cowards do.The worst one is when some people offer to be friends after breaking up, but they don't follow through by being a friend at all or even consider how the other person might feel about that. Just be up-front from the beginning.

Just be honest and gentle. Do not make excuses. That person deserves to know the truth.

Tell the truth.....I like " I'm not in love with you deserve to be with someone who is.".......Be an adult to me the absolute worst thing is to 👻 somebody

I agree with Garcelle.

Right on ladies!👏👏👏

Adrienne is dressed like khloe kardashian when she came to the show lol. She looks so glamorous

Honesty is the best policy along with respect and kindness 👍🏾

In high school I'd just send them a song with lyrics that said what I wanted to 😅😅 I've come a long way lol

I just say “I’m good” until they finally get the hint that I’m not interested in no relationship with them.

i knew ade’s feet were little but these heels are proof fr she can’t fit them. i wonder why she never came up with her own shoe line?

not ending a relationship, but i've encountered guys that i knew in the past that wanted to reconnect. they would ask for my phone number and i told them straight up that i don't give out my number to anyone these day, not interested in getting to know anyone again.

It’s not you it’s me had me crying lmaooo 😂 it’s the way she had it loaded to unleash

“And I’m gonna get on this rocket ship.” Loni, I cannot with you!

Adrienne is so New York with this look!

All the best ladies-of-real♥

I’m Good! That’s what I say, or just say No! Why do we always feel the need to keep changing language just to fit with the times🤷🏾‍♂️

“You’re a great person, but I just don’t think you’re my person.” I love that.

This was a great topic! I’m going through this right now

The struggle is real

I like everyone perspective on this. However a younger me have just walked away...no reasons ... just that am gone. Now the older me i guess will give a reason as to why am leaving or want to leave. (This is not your time to convince me am going either today or tomorrow, am still out ✌🏾) team Loni on this lol

Me taking mental notes because I have never had a healthy break up conversation in my liiife

If someone is hurt by me letting them go, I’m sorry. We’re still cool, but take it up with your momma or God because I said what I had to

just be clear, no matter what you say.

What if the person is dangerous???

I love this headband look on A soo bomb💣

Loni savage 🤣🤣🤣.... I love you all

The 🚀 had me 💀

Garcelle fit today

Most people just ghost

My boyfriend has that shirt 🤣

Women have such a HARD time Dumping boyfriends. Think about how a Man dumped you. 1. Sorry. It's not working. 2. I don't feel the same way you do about me. 3. You deserve someone better.

I'm not ready but I'll let you know when I am....knowing damn well I'll disappear from planet earth and boy won't see me ever again 😆

Firstly,whatever you say,l think you should say it before the relationship goes any far,like when it's at the trial stage. When you tell somebody you're a great person but..like Garcelle says,you really don't sound Genuine, coz if am that great,why can't our r/ship proceed then ? Andrienne says 'am Not in love with..' which should come only if you're parting in an acrimonious way. I think one shoud just Vanish Gradually,slow down on going out,chatting ...until the other person starts getting equally disinterested. Yaani,doing it humanly 🤔

Yeah for sure. Being honest is the best, they gave good suggestions on things to say. The other person deserves someone madly in love with them and that’s not me. It may feel awkward and uncomfortable but I’ve rarely found someone who was just totally upfront with me (and I don’t really have dating experience IRL, so I mean online chatting, long distance) and the freaking withdrawing and mixed signals from someone is the worst, when they don’t want to just say how they feel. Not being upfront is really annoying, when you can sense someone is thinking something but they won’t say it, but their actions are speaking louder than words. I’m scared of hurting someone that’s why online dating is hard because some guys catch feelings even before the first date and then it’s awkward to cut ties for me, I’ll do it but it’s an icky feeling for me. Actually dealing with this right now lol

Tbh I like this trio much better than 4. I’ve watched the Real more with just them 3 then I did when the other lady is there. I think 4 is a crowd and her voice is like nails on a chalkboard to me imo. When she comes back I’ll probably won’t be watching as much

Can someone please explain Loni’s story at the end? I do not get it. She randomly said, “Just say something”? What was he supposed to say?

Lmao Bye Loni 🚀 !

We should be friends…😂

Adrienne been married too long lol. There are situations where you need to break it off where you’re not living together or in love lol. Sometimes it’s after a few dates😅 saying “I don’t love you” is INAPPROPRIATE lol

Just keep away

Me: *"You look JUST Like My Mother! It is eerie. I wonder if we are related? We have to be. This just makes me so uncomfortable!"* Him: "😭"

"I'm just too much for you. You deserve a girl that will love your...uniqueness."

💜💜💜💜

Send them a meme of Loni ✌Deuces!!!

Just be an mature adult and say it in a nice way

sounds harsh but sometimes ill go ghost cuz I don't wanna hurt anyone and u never know how they'll react so it's like I just rather just dip out without saying anything

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Think about some of the thing's you say and ask if you would like someone to say that to you?

A woman that says she is unhappy???? What a shock!!!

Man just say it. Stop all these ways of doing everything but saying it. It's all misleading

Not liking this version of Loni - she was always balanced and smart and funny - now just a bit crass?

You just think about it slavery!?

I'm not staying with you you can't be trusted even tho things are Critical don't need that on any way it forged with in out authty putting name of game plan forgary of name don't No ofp

I think Loni jokes around too much. You would say "deuces"? Really? So what if James says "deuces"? You know you'd be crying your eyes out. Try to think about the other person's feelings. Put yourself in their shoes.

Aren't all these so called ladies single?

Just tell Loni I cant afford to feed you anymore

The panel is much better at 5 people. Less time for Garcelle to slowly give boring details and less time for Loni to laugh-yell out loud

Bro just be honest! I can't rock with you. You are not my type. We ain't smashing.

Just do something that will earn you some money while you sleep. no matter how little. A pandemic is the perfect way to open your eyes to really see what life could be like without your usual income stream and everyone had to stay home. Well I never felt it because I invested in a trading company where I earn 4 digit per week. The best the thing you can do for yourself is invest more and spend less