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Yooo the man himself!!!! I watch your animations and they are amazing!!! Leep up the good work, never expected to see you in garnts channel... but yay, we hqve the same tastes.. 😀😀
I did a lot of stupid crap in my 20's. Cooking all day/night in a restaurant, partying at a club or bar until they close, do it again the next day. I went through some pretty traumatic stuff in my teens/early 20's and I think I did as many new things as I could in my 20's to block it out. But it also lead to some amazing things. I went on a solo trip Japan for the first time when I was 22, I worked in some amazing restaurants, I met some incredible friends I still have to this day that I talk to every day. I can't say I "wasted" my time in my mid 20's as I did have fun but I never "progressed" in life. Then I met my future wife when I was 27. Since then, life has been wild and in a good way. To those of you in your 20's, enjoy it. Make new experiences with some awesome people.
Omgggg me too. I’m getting help for it now but it’s crazy seeing someone else who went in the speed run mode just being busy/having fun to block out trauma…
I've become 20. I do not feel as mature nor as happy as I thought I would be. I feel stuck in a tight place. I feel confused. I do not know what I know. Maybe it gets better. Will it get better ?
2 lines that really stood out to me: "I tried to be the person I thought other people wanted me to be rather then the person I actually was" "and in my attempt to combat loneliness I filled my life up with hollow people which in the end only made me feel more lonely" although I'm only 18, what you just said made me realize basically my whole life (mainly high school), I realized that none of these people were my "real friends" but I never really gave it too much thought, then school was over and they went out of my life as quickly as they entered it. a bit cliché maybe, maybe I shouldn't have posted this but that's what I'm feeling right now.
This quote has edged into my mind *"The best thing about being an adult is there's no one to tell you what to do, and by far the worst thing about being an adult is there's no one to tell you what to do"* ~ _Garnt_
Realising that things only change when you put effort into doing it yourself was the biggest motivator that I had a couple years ago to step outside my comfort zone and try new things, memories are mostly created during your first time doing things. To me it's important to keep having as many "firsts" as possible
For me it's just not knowing what I really want to achieve. There are lots of things I like and out of those my favourite thing or hobby of the moment changes periodically. I can't do everything at the same time. I am not even mad that some of my aspirations are completely unrealistic because there are so many things I want to do and can do but just can't commit to so I kinda take life in its stride and perhaps I'll regret the way I went about it in the future, but for now, that's just fine.
lists of quotes from garnt: 3:13 - new experiences won't come to you unless you actively go out and seek it 3:51 - by far the best thing about being an adult and the worst thing about being an adult 4:23 - take care of your time because that's the most important thing that you'll never get back 6:21 - the hard part isn't the idea, the hard part is going out and doing it 7:01 - just by committing to do something and following through with it you've already done more than 90% of the people out there 9:14 - all these experiences both positive and negative are the experiences that shapes me into the person i am today and some of those lessons i don't think i would have internalized as strongly if i didn't personally experience it 9:28 - everyone goes through life at a different pace 10:15 - you'll be able to achieve more in life if you're able to stop comparing yourself to others 10:23 - you're never too young or old to learn something about yourself and really bring a change in your life *Feel free to add your own version of quotes from grant in the reply below
@@Stuttsis give it a watch, even if you do feel hurt or sad, you'll manage to figure out how to go through the struggle. your future self will be grateful that you did.
Damn, Garnt is getting really good in this. He almost feels like a Shounen protagonist that already finished his character arc, I hope he doesn't get nerfed soon though
"Take care of your time because that's the most important thing that you'll never get back" That quote you just said hits harder and harder as you grow older.
I love how you said "if theres a time to fuck up its in your twenties". i don't think many people realize you don't need to have your entire life together at 23 and that most of us in our twenties are still trying to figure things out just like you are. the best time to make a change in your life is always going to be now, regardless of how old you are
Started crying listening to this. You took everything I'm feeling in my late twenties and summed it up so effortlessly. I've been feeling this existential dread as I near 30, desparately trying to fix myself and my understanding of the world. I keep wondering when am I going to be enough, but conversely scared to feel comfy with myself cause I wonder if that means I'll plateau as a person. I just want to exist in peace and hearing you speak gave me a moment of peace, so thank you.
have you heard about Alan Watts and his talk about 'life not having a destination' - The future you are aiming for is always out of reach because when it arrives, you are chasing another future that has yet to arrive. Like a donkey with a carrot dangling in front but never eating it. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-rBpaUICxEhk.html (he has a lot of talks about buddhism which changed my life)
You see that’s the terrifying part. But I hardcore realized just how incompetent most adults are during the early pandemic. When my friends and I talking on discord came up with more reasonable and likely more effective solutions than entire world governments.
@@Zeke1460 well you can't just decide or learn about something as big as covid with discord discussion. There are reasons why they're the world governments, not you and your friends
Just turned 20 and honestly this was really comforting to hear. After “going with the flow” for the past 18 years, after high school I didn’t really know what direction I wanted to steer my life. Idk I guess it was just really nice seeing a RU-vidr I watched as a kid talk about struggles he went through at my age.
@@TheRoleplayer40k I had classmate at college who entered at at 39 and graduated at 42 and another person who is 45 in uni. Its possible :) My mother was around her 30s when she went to study again. If your very passionate on what you love then don't let age stop you
You explained this so well. It's so true about having to go out there and make shi happen for yourself instead of having it set up for you like in your 20's. Well video .
I'm about to be 24 in a few days, I still feel like im a 16 yo teenager lost in his own ideas of future but now with some extra money, I have no real friends and I'm afraid to open myself up because I don't want to be judged. Life gets more depressing the more I fall into the daily routine. But at least I can buy cake whenever I want, and people don't care about my long hair anymore.
I think Garnt is forgetting not all us made it on youtube, not all us are rich we just normal people living our lifes , my most happist time of month is buying anime fig lol
As someone who is in his mid 20s, I'm feeling very lost and sort of grasping at straws to fill my time after work. I'm in a bad place socially (don't have many friends irl) but videos like yours help me recognize I'm less alone than I think I am. Thanks man, I hope life in Japan is treating you well
Mid 20s lad here too. I'm in a similar situation as you as I have very few good friends irl and am trying to work/learn more on what I want to actually do irl when not at my grindy 9-5 job. You're not alone as you said, it can get tough out there friend. Gl!
Mid-twenties here too, the social aspect of my life doesn't bother me much, but I'm really not happy with where/who/how I am in life at the moment, can't help but think I could've done so much better and it really hurts, can't say I wish this on anyone else, but I'm glad to see I'm not alone in this, we'll get there, we just have to keep moving forward.
Late 20s here. I felt the same way about 5 years ago. Until I eventually decided that it was time to take responsibility and do the things I always knew I wanted to do. I made a conscious effort to use all the free time that I had on _something_, rather than scrolling through social media or mindlessly playing repetitive games like league or wow. I built a routine that involved spending at least 1 hour every day on a creative hobby. For me, I wanted to learn to draw and play violin. So I used that time for those activities. And I didn't care if it would take me forever to catch up to people who originally inspired me. I have my entire life to catch up. So just start now. The rest of the time would be spent on other less intense activities, like watching anime I wanted to watch, but wouldn't make the time for, or practicing my skills as a software dev. It basically didn't matter what it was that I spent time on, as long as it was in some way valuable to me. It takes a bit of time and practice to find a routine that you can stick too, but once you find it, you'll be amazed at how much more engaged with life you become. I no longer consider my time at work to be the most important part of my day. It's nothing more than a chore to keep bills paid. Instead, I have other interests I consider more important, that I look forward too enjoying daily.
25 here, jobless, talentless, with a degree obtained in 7 years that literally is less worthy than shit in my country (its value devaluated a lot in recent times) that won't allow me to get into good jobs because I lack work experience neither low end jobs because I'm somehow "overqualified"'. All my friends seem to forget about me once I stopped being useful for them, my personal goals have gone from being a researcher in America or Europe to finding a stable job with minimum wage, my desire to make a family has turned to dust and I start to forget the little social skills I gained in college. I feel lost as nothing I do seems to work as no matter how much preparation I can get I still lack work experience and I don't want to face the fact that I wasted 7 years of my life getting into a job which wouldn't even require that much of a preparation. Still even after that clusterfuck of events, I just think I need that the job I'm so desperate to get could be the only thing my life lacks to be on track, as I'm fairly in good health, have no bills to pay or any exterior obligations, I know that working isn't exactly the end of my problems (it surely would bring even more) but at the moment I can't even afford a decent quality of life for myself without having to rely on my parents which are growing tired by the day It's really no use to feel better for anyone the fact that knowing someone's in a worse situation, but if you guys have a work that's still something a lot of people lack, the thing that makes me not kermit tactical sudoku is the fact that having a job it's my main and almost only problem, sometimes if we focus a little on what we currently have we can know what are we fighting for and where we need to go.
@@Daniel-jz9td My situation is kinda similar to yours, my current goal is to find a job decent enough to pay my own rent, then keep going from there, work on my own passions/projects and see where life takes me.
I'm 23 and this has definitely helped me feel not as alone or strange in how i feel. Thought it was just me with worry while everyone around me seemed to be doing just fine.
Love your brain! An honest intellectual with advice from experience. Coming to the later years of my 20’s right now and I’m totally valuing my time more than ever. Wasted a lot of time, but now it’s time to manage my time from now and beyond. This video really helped me feel less alone and more motivated. Thank you for this.
I'm 24 and everyday, I panic even more because I'm literally so lost in every aspect of my life and I have no idea what I'm supposed to do and it doesn't seem like anything will be figured out. I'm so thankful to this video, it makes me feel a little bit better about the chaos I'm in
I'm 23 this year and honestly i feel so lost in life that i genuinely dont know to do about it and u know what thats ok bc at least u can take it slow and try to do something new every day like learning new skills and whatnot
Also 24, I have periods of this, but last year I really made an effort to get out of my comfort zone and try new things and meet new people. It was not easy, but definitely worth it
I am 15 and I think I am also lost. I waste a lot of time you know? And everytime my parents tell me to "spend my time wisely" or "don't waste your time" and "you will never get your time back" but what the hell am I supposed to do with my time? Should I really just try to study for things that I am not sure will make me happy in the future? Should I just give a shot and not commit to it? Should I just take a risk and go all out for something I am unsure about? Am I too immature and idealistic for just wanting to not regret the stuff that I do? Maybe I can't avoid having regrets in my life so I should just do it? Will I really be ok even though I am so lazy? Should I just just leave it to the future me and hope I will magically become a better, stronger, and a more energetic person? "Don't worry, it will all workout" when I have seen people fail in everything In their life. Is it really just "get good grades and you will get good jobs"? Is it really that easy? Will all my problems go away just because I am a little smart or memorize a bunch of stuff on a book and forget about it next year? Is my problems and worrys unnecessary? Is it just a tiny pebble compared to yours? Do you have a much harsher environment? Am I too young for these things? Is this just a phase in my life thinking I have it hard when in reality, it's not that hard to get rid of my problems? I complain and do nothing, always so smart for things that make no one happy. Always so fast to start eating when I barely help with making it. Always having a roof on my head and not asking where it came from. Even with all these things, I always yearn or more. A better food, a bigger bed, better clothes, bigger house. Just a complainer that does nothing to fix it. Even though I know about all my problems, know all the solutions, know they fastest way to do it, I still dont do it.
Something I realized after moving out and started working in a new city, far away from my family in my twenties... While working in a nursing home and seeing the elderly slowly withering away with no one close by their side makes me realize how precious it is to stay connected with friends, colleagues and family... Stay safe everyone and make time for it, even though you may be 'too occupied' by work or other chores!
When I told the people around me that I wanted to pursue animation I was heavily discouraged. The amount of pressure to pursue a more "viable" career was insane. It made me so insecure about my future. But in the end, I came to a conclusion. Like you said time passes by so fast. I don't want to spend it regretting not at least trying to pursue something I love to do. I'd rather do it, say fuck it and take that risk and put everything I got into it. I may have regrets when I'm on my deathbed, but I don't want that to be one of them.
i mean i can understand what youre saying its better to not regret it later ive had that as well many times (like learning an instrument they still discourage me) but animators just get overworked and get underpaid it sucks really fucking bad especially for the people in the industry for years and seeing you say that just worries me even if i dont know you
man i dont really have anything that im good at that i enjoy doing alot, im reaching a stage in life where im starting to get passionless and running out of ideas of possible careers in the future, in school when they said what i wanted to be when i grow up i always said i dont know, feel like im just waiting for the idea to come to me.
go for it. Ignore the doubters. Just as a personal anecdote: one of my best friends from high school hated schoolwork besides art class. She was incredibly passionate about drawing, and wanted to be an animator. She failed most of her classes, and eventually stopped coming to school just to draw more at home. When it came to college applications, she only applied to animation schools like CalArts (which she eventually went to). Meanwhile I had no passion but had high grades. I drifted from my elite prep school into the ivy league (dartmouth) an ended up getting a degree in economics that i didn't care for. She's now more successful than me.
As a 21 year old who hates the engineering degree he's doing and wants to pursue something entirely different, this video hit different. Thanks for always being an inspiration Garnt!
@@CK_0verLord1102 Hey sorry to be the random advice in a video content forum guy, but never be afraid of random experience. It always means something to either you or your career at the end of the day - and hopefully both when you think of it! Becoming an adult is kinda partly realising that no-one has a clue what's going on, and we're all just figuring it out as we go along. And you will too, I genuinely believe that.
Fuck, did that single coment hit home man... Currently doing an engineering degree that I feel so lost at it, whilst wanting to pursue a career in languages, that sucks man... At least I'm a bit younger at 19, but fuck me that sucks.
Honestly if you hate engineering now you won't find it interesting later, just drop the degree and go do something else and don't be miserable like the guys at our office who only do it for the money. If you don't have a clear alternative path then finish the degree and get a job for the while you figure out the next move. Just a tip from 31 year old engineer :P
I deeply related to Garnt when he talked about true friendships, ironically it was when I stopped trying to "fit in" that I found my best groups of friends, people with common interests who liked to hang out with me and who I liked hanging out with. All my friendships before then felt so hollow I barely remember their names now.
That's why sports are so important. It totally breaks the monotony, lack of achievements that arrives after you turn 18. As long as you compete, that monotony is broken by the shonen lifestyle.
Yeah man. Sports, group/communities hype fests, game nights, concerts, healthy parties with loved ones, this shit is important. Hobbies are important too but everyone needs that hobby that gives them that social serotonin.
I'm slowly stepping into my late 20s, got fired and had gone years unemployed (countryside down here in South America has been rly rough on employment). I'm full of stuff I started but dropped, and that discourages me from trying new things Cuz I know I'll also drop that too. Thanks for this video, man. I take it to heart. Stay awesome
Looks like you are me from South America :D or... i am you in South Asia lol.... and it looks like the unemployment and career choices did hit you hard just like how it did to me.
"Life just kinda stays the same unless you go out of your way to do something about it" I heard this quote from you in an old TT episode and it really hit me to the point where I screen recorded it on my phone. I'm really glad I clicked on this video and I'm gonna rewatch it a couple more times until it sticks to me that I am responsible for change and my own happiness in life. For everyone who is feeling lost and lonely, I hope you'll find happiness and success!
I felt that dread too as I was approaching my 30s. Feeling like I haven't really accomplished anything and that my life was a disaster. No partner, no kids, no marriage. But then, life started working in mysterious ways. I managed to grow my income substantially during the pandemic. I bought my own apartment, paying it in cash, and now I'm trying to get a house for my parents. I earned enough to start a side business/hobby. I started taking more care of myself and my body. Heck, I even built a streaming setup. So everything I was hoping to do in my 20s I achieved in my early 30s, when I thought it was too late for me. It took about 10 years of grinding and sacrifices, but it paid off. Remember though, we all have our own journeys, so my story might not have the same outcome for someone else. I wish I could have taken a shortcut, as I burned myself out for about half of my 20s, allowing myself to work in toxic environments because I would tell myself it was just temporarily. Letting others convince me that I was worthless and easily replaceable is probably the worst mistake I made in my 20s. I was basically getting gaslit. I have improved my self-esteem and this is the best I ever felt (it's still a process!), but I wish it wouldn't have taken me this long to figure out my worth.
Marriage and kids don’t mean anything. Doesn’t make your life more or less valuable than a good video game collection Just do whatever you want and die eventually.
I felt the same as you thought! I was in the midst of allowing other to convince me that I was worthless. And kind of waste some of the years in my 20s. (Currently just turn 27 recently.) But, this year I wrapped around my head and start to change on my view to what dragging me down the road. Good to hear your story and it really do show that everyone has their own pace of life.
I can say this video has really hit me hard. I am 22 about to graduate college in about 2 weeks. Usually this would be a time of joy, but for me is nothing but stress. I thought that I wanted to be a Japanese high school teacher but now that I have taught for 4 months, I have come to realize this is not what I want to do. So now I feel like I just wasted about 20k and 4 years of my life. I honestly feel like I have no direction in my life right now and am rather unsure of what it is I want to do. I am not really sure how to figure out what I want to do after thanking for so long that I wanted to teach Japanese. I find my self having lost all motivation to really pursue anything. I am hoping this is only temporary and I can find something to be passionate about again.
As someone 23 going on 24 who graduated college during COVID; we're all on our own journeys in life. You cannot know where you will end up in the future, only where you've been and where you want to go. You've completed one section of the open world sandbox RPG, where do you want to go next? And even if you don't get there the journey will still have added to your story.
The intro is written with the kanji of Garnt, pronounced as Grant, this evoques the thought that life shouldn't be taken for Grant'd, so profound, so emotive. 10/10 masterpiece
This video really hit home. I’m currently 17 and trying to complete my senior year of high school. I have this huge weight on my shoulder being the eldest in my family of 10. Trying to be the perfect example and person everyone excepts me too be has been really challenging as of lately. I’m expected to join the US Air Force or Navy as soon as I’m done with high school. I’ve be trying to do my best and its been a very difficult journey in my life. This video really helped me and eased my burden just a little so for that, thank you.
Take this from a Former Army Recruit: Don't join the military unless it is something YOU want to do. It will test you in ways that it shouldn't, not just physically or mentally. The things they expect from you will be absolutely unreasonable and they will absolutely treat you like trash, because they OWN you via contract. They will not protect or help you afterwards either, even though they say they will. Please, listen to actual testimony from former military personnel. The military is a Risk. It should not be taken if you do not intend on making a career out of it.
im honestly so glad im able to hear this sort of stuff, turning 19 soon and i want to make the most of life. i have already experienced the 9-5 lifestyle (the work was enjoyable but repetitive), and it made me start to struggle getting up in the morning. i recently failed to meet expectations during my probation period and was released, but this has enabled me to start working on a dream ive had for a while, setting up a computer repair store. i have seen what other adults did in their 20s-30s and ive heard their regrets, so i feel like i have been blessed with that knowledge as i can learn from others' mistakes, and try and live a life i can be proud of. i never wanted to grow up, i always knew that i would be bound by expectations and a job i needed to keep up with when i did, and even though my school years have only just ended, i miss them so much already. but i will make sure i succeed, and i will break away from the standard path that everyone walks down in their life. i will make this life my own, and one that i will not regret.
@@somebodych2015 its lit, freedom but also do have some struggles with the fact you are incahrege of your life. like you can sit and wait and stuff will come but unless you go outta you way its not going to just happen. I'm currently struggling with taking vacations from work besides the statutory holidays & find new things to do.
i'm in my early 20s right now and there's not a week that goes by when i'm not afraid of the future/ageing. I hate this feeling of inexplicable dread that i'm missing out on life because i don't come out of my shell more. and also as you've mentioned, i think sticking with friends who only want to drink all the time isn't exactly healthy but i don't exactly know ho to get new ones either because i'm so introverted... I think what i'm trying to say is: life's hard man :(
Hey man, I know that I have always valued a good one on one conversation with someone over a drink any day. Even when my buds grab a drink, I choose to stay sober and just talk with them. Good meaningful friendships are hard as hell to find bro, hang in there.
I'm in my mid-twenties and it's so miserable. Looking back, I feel regret. I feel like I wasted my early twenties and regret that I didn't take anything seriously enough and push myself out of my comfort zone. Regret that I let my darker emotions get the better of me and keep me from passing my classes, to the point where I've now spent eight years in an undergrad - double what it should have been and I'm still not sure I'll graduate this year. Looking forward, I feel dread. Dread that I'm going to graduate without a job lined up, dread that I might *not* graduate at all, dread that I'll leave behind uni - the last time you're put in an environment where you can casually mix with other people your own age - without having experienced anything, not even being in a relationship of any kind, and god knows once you're in the working world in your thirties people judge you for that shit. Life's definitely hard man, good luck to you.
My Advice is keep looking after yourself and look for a opportunity every day to bring something good into someone else's life, so at the end of the day, you can focus on something positive, positivity breeds Positivity, that's a massive belief of mine. keep your head up and if life gives you an opportunity to make a new friend, one who you can relate to that doesn't make your energy negative or suck the energy out of you, leap to it. much love from a 22 introverted anime nerd.
The part where he talks about comparing yourself to others really hits home. I recently entered University and somewhat felt unmotivated because my peers seemed to have more experience and knowledge than I did. It made me fear that I wasn't going to make it in life because I wasn't as good as them.
the ending where you talk about people achieving great things going from being older than you to the same age to then younger than you hits so deep. Kinda made me emotional but thank u for this video!
I just reached my 20th birthday last month and at the moment I'm really lost in life, I don't know what I want to do... I love seeing other people talking about the same problems because it makes me feel not so stressed because is just a normal part of every human life
My advice is to travel mate, just get a one way flight to Bangkok and spent the next 7/8 months backpacking around south east Asia. You'll be surrounded by people of the same age who are all going though the same situation, people from all over the world. Probably the best thing I ever did when I was your age. You've hit your twenties buddy get out there and make some memories :-)
I'm 29 and turning 30 soon, and I really needed to hear this talk from someone who has already hit the bump. I did a lot of the same things you described along your 20's lifetime here and wished I'd learned some of those things earlier myself. The existential bump of this has definitely been beating on my brain lately and it was just nice to hear I'm not the only one who has gone through this. Thanks, Garnt.
28 going to be 29, thinking the same things. We ain't alone in this feeling and...I think thats a good thing. Helps all of us relate and just...let it all out.
I recently turned 28 and this made me think about my 18 year old bright eyed self. So many things and plans I had looked forward to have been ripped away from me by chronic illness. So much of being chronically ill is mourning for your old life and what could have been while simultaneously trying to find happiness and make the most of each moment. I'm very tired of my illness getting in the way of me living life. It's a draining existence, but all you can do is hold on to hope.
I needed this, thanks. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one going through this, what you went through. From being the person I thought ppl wanted to not being assertive, and just all of it. I'm in my early 20s barely any friends and this woke me. Thank you for encouraging me, I think the time of change is now.
This summarized exactly what I’ve been feeling. I’m 28 and I’m struggling with the looming dread that the end of my 20s/30 will bring. I feel like I’m not where I want to be because all I’ve done is gone with the flow and grind away at just surviving. Starting to realize now that I need to start reaching out and taking hold of the life I really want. It’s time to start making choices that are compassionate to myself and not out of a sense of obligation, duty, or that’s how I thought this was supposed to go.
I'm 28 myself. I know what I want. I want a family, children. I want a career as a musician and to not be stuck in my job but I don't have the time because I work at a 24/7 place. So I've been focusing on getting a high position so I have more time to my self to work on what I want. It's difficult though. I just want the comfortable life, I don't want to be rich.
@@starrk7158 Im in the same situation as you albeit at only 22, people look at me funny when I tell them I don't dream of being rich but rather only want to be comfortable. Look, if comfort means being rich, ill do it, but at my current stage with my current knowledge I feel like being comfortable wont need to be as luxurious as most people think.
It's so jarring realizing we're older than our favorite "older" anime characters. Taiga from Fate is younger than me which is weird as hell to think about since she's a teacher. I agree, I think if we cared less about what others want from us when we were younger, we'd actually save ourselves from a lot of heartache/existential dread.
As an almost 40 year old, I find it nowadays strange how young the "old people" in anime are. Most people are not that old that young. I love my animes, but there is the really irritating thing that young people are more competent than they should, and people could as well be dead after they reach 30 years. GAH!
I’m responding because I am also 32 atm. It’s been a trip. Still figuring it out. I’m not traditional so it’s hard to not have a guide book. I’m glad, but low key jealous at my friends that can accept those standard societal norms.
@@joes2735 Nah dude, never settle. If societal norms aren't working out for you then find a way to make your own norms. Don't bend to the system if it doesn't work for you.
@@joes2735 32 as well and that combined with the last two years of covid has really made me down, especially when 2020 was starting to be really good year before that hit. Now I am focusing on becoming an English teacher in japan, which is both the wrong time of year to try that, worried about my age holding me back from being hired, and work visas are only slowly opening up again.
I'm 23 and just recently graduated uni. I dont want to end up having a job that I hate, but I also seriously do not know what I really want. All my friends already have jobs and I'm still unemployed. I feel so lost and unmotivated. This video brings me some comfort and I hope I will soon reach that point in life where I'm committed to doing something.
well i can only recommend if you do find a job but have hard time with managing your own time and get exhausted in the process then always have a backup plan for a new job before getting out. cause it gets real hard to find new place to start again.
First , Did you watched the video? Do not compare yourself with other people Where do you feel lost? Sometimes you have to do sacrifices But never forget what is important to you. Stay true to yourself and to the people you live with And if you want , make that change today. Little by little.
Your friends might have a job. But one of them might be a drug addict, or at the brinc of divorce, while you still have a wife, and don't have any addiction of any sorts. Who has it worse? The more you compare yourself, the more lost you will become. There is no objective metric to determine it, according to your own standards of what one should have and shouldn't have, which is stupid, because you're way more complicated with your desires then you'd like to think abstractly speaking. You don't even know yourself and what you want. And the only way you can, is by doing things that are new to you. And by getting out of your comfort zone as much as possible; but not to the extreme. Get to know yourself, like you would to a stranger. Enter the unknown.
Im currently 19 and turning 20 this year.... I listen to a lot of Garnt's stories and I took the values of his stories seriously... I have fears that one day I have to do something beyond my comfort zone like finding ways how to survive college, earning cash to get by another day... and responsibilities that I have to carry as the eldest those fears are lingering at the back of my head now. But I'm no longer a kid who will just use my time all day watch anime, play games, and do the things that i like. when I start to enter that stage of my life (20s) I can't afford to fail (in college) that's not an option to me... so I have to sacrifice all my WANTS to ACQUIRE what I NEED. Listening to Garnt's contents are my true comfort while Im on my down time, his content is the enjoyment that keeps my morale high... it's so easy to consume and time manageable that it works on my case to get by with the hardship. I know what to expect from this man watching his content for the past 6 years now. And hearing him sharing his thoughts at this particular video... inspired me to look at my 20s wisely but at the same time optimistically as much as possible.. Thanks Garnt for your stories, you inspired a lot of people.. what you did is way beyond anime, took the extra mile to deliver something meaningful to a lot of people including me ... sir Maneetapho, you are my role model looking forward for more great contents.
As someone who's in his early 20s I didn't realize I needed a video like this. Hearing someone talk about rather than their regrets but the things that you'd realize once you're in your 20s is rather eye opening and helped motivate me a little to do the things I want to do rather than be afraid to try something new. But then again I don't know if that mindset would change in a few years I just hope it doesn't.
Early 20s is the fitting time to try multiple things and finding out more about oneself, just so you're not get stuck in a place you despise. As a mid-20s person starting to pivot my career, what i wish i would've done is to start earlier and stop looking down at myself and my potential.
"The hard part isn't the idea, the hard part is going out and doing it". I felt that. 'Hardwork and commitment' is the key to whatever we strive for. Man, Garnt's words really hit me.
I don't disagree at all with the points in this video and I also don't think Gigguk was trying to argue against this but as someone who has grown up most of their life in the kind of household who was one accident away from poverty, money has a LOT of power. The only thing in life that has a limited supply is definitely time, you can't get it back no matter what you try. However, money can essentially buy you time. If you have the comfort of money you can essentially use your time on things that matter, things you want to do, developing new skills and being with friends. If you don't have that luxury you HAVE to spend a lot of your limited time gaining money. It's unfair but a lot of the times when I look back at younger days or when I regret not doing certain things in the past I remember that even if I could go back it wouldn't change the fact that I just didn't have the money to do a lot of these things I wanted.
I think money still uses up your time unless you already have it. It takes time to gain wealth like making a successful business. Maybe you couldn't spend time with family as you wanted. You have freedom to do stuff but you don't have friends or a partner to do it with it now. Your point is valid and resontes deeply me too. You need money to do stuff. I guess what matters is using your time effectively that lines up with your values.
@@rockinrom1524 i understanding both perspective im gonna go a bit off topic but its really amazing that people of this community are going really deep about this topic and are actually giving good advices for life are the same people who argue about boneless or boned chicken
This ruthless truth hits me so hard rn I wanna cry. Allow me to piggyback off that concept... In my personal experience, because of poverty, building wealth not only costs more time, but may also cost more of your health too (depending on what, where, and with whom you choose to spend it). Health/safety is a hidden commodity that some people don't realize they are trading (or sometimes have little choice to trade) when taking on a job/career/volunteering/hobby. And many times, the type of health you lose over certain activities is not replinishable or reversible. Please be aware of this hidden factor. Learn from my mistakes!
For me, I recently quit my job. I was always taught as a child that you are happy if you are successful. I had a good paying job, yet I was miserable since I was far away from my family and in a city I never grew to love. So after 4yrs of trying to live the life everyone around me called amazing, i decided to try to live the life I see as amazing - with less money, more free time and closer o my loved ones. Its scary, changing a job, changing a city and leaving behind everything others want, but I m super proud of this decision. Bring it on!
I needed to hear this. I feel so validated I'm on the verge of tears. I just turned 27 last month and I never valued my time as much as I do now. I thought I wasted so much of it. but i realize i still have plenty. I just need to use it wisely. Thank you for this Garnt.
Can't wait for the sequal: The Biggest Regret of my 30s Joking aside, as an 18 year old who's going to be going to university later this year, it has struck me that I've been getting into cycles and I've turned down once in lifetime opportunities because of my own comfortable cycle... Thank you Garnt! I'm going to make sure that I don't have the same regrets when I leave uni!!!
real life and debt starts right after you graduate, study hard but remember to have fun and all the new experiences you can have at uni. Don't wait for your mid-20s
My tip kid, don't be cheap. Buy the book, don't try to save money by staying with parents. Go for a beer with classmates. You won't regret to be more independent.
as someone who feels like there's nothing to achieve in my life right now and is trying to write a book, this video helped a lot Garnt. This is the reason why I don't regret discovering you as a content creator
We need more of story time with garnt. This video made me feel things. I’d be 18 in 7 months, i know here a bit early but this video made me feel intimidated yet a bit hopeful about the times to come. I would definitely try to learn from your experiences and try to mess up a bit less, and try to find a decent life for once rather than thinking everyday about how its a pain. Thank you and please make more of this.
i am in my mid 20's right now and seeing someone older than me talk about these things, puts my mind at ease for a bit. I 'm still lost on the path of life even at that age.
Take my advice; work, invest. Even if your job isn't bringing in a ton of cash, save and invest what you can. You will thank yourself for it later. . . or curse yourself, if you don't.
While there is a lot of people sharing their story and how they've finally made it, there are a lot more story about those who didn't make it, and you'll never hear about it. Sure it's sounds so inspiring when someone said they quit their job to pursue their passion then make it big, but that's like very small percentage. To people who feel lost in their 20s, remember, It's okay to follow your passion, but be realistic about it.
There are a lot of people that don't "make it", in the traditional sense. But to me, the people that truly don't make it are the ones that give up on their dreams just because of failure. Failure is a natural part of success. If you fear failure, or fail once and get scared off, you'll never know what could have been. You'll never know if you could have made it.
This is the truth right here. It's survivorship bias. The people who make the most money tend to take the greatest risks, simple rules of nature. However the problem is you don't hear from the 99% of people who failed and only the 1% left has a story to tell. This creates the bias that these "survivors" have formalate the most optimal strategies, when in reality they are most likely high risk high reward strategies.
@@RiseUpToYourAbility and oftentimes what appears to be "high risk" isnt so high risk after all for the people that are attempting these things. if you have a certain amount of intelligence and are resourceful or have a lot of money to work with, things are inherently far less risky because you generally have a much better idea of what you're doing and how to understand the system than the average person is going to have. people like that are also generally going have lots of different options and many other great alternatives for themselves if one given venture doesnt happen to work out
I mean I guess there is some truth to it, but it doesn't mean you have to just quit your job. I think there is definitely a middle-ground. And just randomly starting a carrier is probably never a good idea. You should probably get experience in the field before starting something yourself. There is a correlation between experience and the success of a start-up, the more experience a person has the more likely the start-up succeeds. And I think it's also applicable to other fields. So just thinking you are good at something or thinking you have a great idea without even knowing the market or the competition is just bad. (which at least from what I see quite common) If you look at Garnt he made videos before he got into RU-vid full-time, same with the Anime-Man, CDawGVA or Abroad in Japan. I think following your passion doesn't mean just ignore common sense, but rather don't stand in your own way. And while success isn't guaranteed, it's neither that your job is save. And this is also assuming your passion lies in being self-employed.
Really love as a viewer that from 2014 to now you've really shifted from the self proclaimed anime variant of Zero Punctuation to really coming into your own style with videos. Being able to have comedic takes but then come around with something very well articulated and thought provoking is really great to see. Thanks for the videos and making me think about life and stuff in a positive way. Especially since I'm in my late 20s now and these exact anxieties are daily thoughts.
As someone hitting my 20s this year, this was really insightful. When I was younger and I'd hear adults say time only passes quicker as you age, I though they were chatting out their ass. But my time in sixth from flew by ,possibly due to the state of the world at the time, and my first year of uni has gone by even quicker while I am very much still young. The thing you said that struck with me the most was that everyone has a great idea for something, because I feel like I do have a good idea but the anxiety of being wrong about it being good or wasting my time with it have prevented me from trying to turn that idea into reality. So thanks for making a video like this cus its kinda given me the push to make more of an effort now that I'm reaching 'adulthood' and I'm sure I'm not the only who's gonna get something out of this video.
The system were everyone has put to in a very discreet way, ya knows getting a degree is an must, you have to be either doing economics, doc ect to than be seen as successful with still having parents being decades behind on their mindset. There is alot of factors, espcially for non privilege people being lost and simply not happy what they do. Gladly we have the internet and some guidance to hopefully achieve the dream people want to.
I’m actually in my 20s and so lost in life. I have friends that started to work or uni but even getting engaged! And here I am living with my parents and working the bare minimum just to have some money to spend. I really don’t know what my future holds but I feel like i’m stuck. With your storytelling video made me realize that it’s ok to feel like this and I’m not alone.
Honestly as someone in their early 20s, I'm still looking forward to things that I still didn't experience as a kid like finding a best friend, e.t.c.. I'm just very afraid of what Garnt is talking about will slowly come to be a part of my life, which is not finding the time to do stuff. A bit of a tangent, but one of my absolute favourite games was P5, and I compared myself to Joker all the time (from the beginning till the very end). And I admired how he was a loner and slowly turned into the leader of a group of friends , all of that happening while he is still in Highschool. How he managed a schedule, got closer to specific friends and hung out with them.. I wish I had these skills/courage to do this stuff but I just couldn't acquire them. Till this day (where I am much older than Joker), I still strive to obtain these sets of skills. Probably noonenwill read this, but man... it felt good just saying all of this. Call me a p5 fan boi or whatever, but this game kinda shaped me into the person I am today.
I totally get were you're coming from. I think I lost a lot of my passion for video games as I was growing older, but then somebody talked me into getting P5. The characters, visuals, music and basically everything else just felt so great to experience. I had a lot of fun as Joker, trying out new hobbies, meeting new people and growing as a person all the time. It made me feel incomplete, but somehow in a good way, like I could also achieve the same things he did if I set my mind to it. I pretty much regained all of my passion for video games ever since starting P5 for the first time. Now I'm seriously considering to study Game Art and become versed in all sorts of media design. Maybe I can make someone just as happy as me someday.
We are all built by the characters we admire. I grew idolizing Goku, Tai (Digimon), Ash, Link, Zidane/Cloud/Vivi (FF9/7/9). I still watch anime and strive to be like people like Midoria or Asta. Keep fanboying dude. Keep finding people/characters/stories you connect with and keep shaping yourself after them. I was an anime watching/ pc building/ video game playing hipster and I grew up in rural Alabama. But the moment i stopped being "the jock from alabama" that i tried to be to have friends, and started really trying to be the person I wanted to be, the friends showed up. Some of them the same people I was trying to impress by being someone else, told me they always loved those things about me. I was trying to be someone other people didnt even like because i thought it was what they wanted. Now I try to be the characters I admire. I'm less angry. I'm less lonely. I'm more successful. The absolute blur and grind of my twenties has recently become the acceptance and success of my early 30s (33). If i have any advice. Work hard, but work hard for you. Do what you need to get by now, but find time to invest in things you care about, even at jobs or in situations you dont like. If there is something at work or home you don't like. Don't say "I don't like this". Learn to say "How do I fix this?". Then ask yourself "What would Joker do?". That answer won't come from Joker though. It will be all you. Not every will recognize your value when you can do that. But I beleive with every fiber that the right people will. Good luck on your journey bro.
You’re not alone in that feeling. I’m almost 30 and I still look up to characters like Sora and Usagi (Sailor Moon) because of their awesome friends and sheer optimism - something I feel is so important to keep especially when you get older and everyone expects you to be jaded.
I'm early 20s and persona fan as well. I've played P2, P4, P3 and few SMT games in my teenage years, but man, Persona 3 hits me different. My god I've even forgot my identity after playing for many hours trying so many things, building arcanas, etc. confusing myself as the main character living in that world. But could never forget the things I've done there but never in real life, that time exist and spending it well is very VERY important because eventually we'll all reach our end. After finishing it makes me think that death doesn't really matter, it's the things you've done that makes people you love remember YOU. In conclusion It really changed my perspective of what life is, and why I want to become better person. Like him. Good luck grinding everyone! Memento mori.
This hit me so hard. 30 is no longer on the horizon but coming up fast and I've started getting so much nostalgia lately. Thinking about the friends I have vs the friends I thought I would have. Rewatching some anime and rereading my favorite books. You hit the nail right on the head with this one.
Going into my late 20's so much of this resonated with me!! I'm still very much in my comfort bubble but I've been taking small steps to get out of it this year and focusing on filling my life with curiosity and then following it whenever it may lead 🌠
I'm proud of you for making this video, self reflection will stay a superpower and being the best version of yourself will only lead to a brighter future and true happiness. The fact you take time to take a step back and reflect just shows how you're maturing and going through life with a healthy mindset.
As always, this video was just what I needed. I'm almost in my mid-20s and I've just started my first proper office job after uni, and I quickly feel suffocated by the monotony of "adult life". I don't have any concrete career goals other than to make money to support myself and there's nothing I'm particularly passionate about doing, it feels like I'm just drifting along and I don't know how to recapture the time I've lost. It's hard not to compare myself to people I knew from school who are pursuing phDs, working at big investment firms, writing books, and travelling the world. I want to experience more in life but not sure how to get there. It's definitely a lonely and isolating time, but I found this video comforting.
Turning 25 next week, and yeah watching this video hits hard lol. I feel lost and I just realized that everybody my age is like that a few years ago. I have so much stuff I want to do, but just can’t. What I used to do is I just do them all at the same time until I realized after burning myself out that yeah this is a horrible thing that I’m doing myself lol. You just have to sacrifice doing stuff for the meantime and just focus on one thing at a time, focus on that one thing first, do it right, and then move on to the next moment in your life that you feel that you can manage to start doing another thing. I was also at the lowest point in my life like 3 years ago, it was like life said fuck me, put me down on the ground, started kicking me, and just beating the living shit out of me. Just recently that I’m trying to crawl out of the hole I was buried in. Of course, I felt depression and anxiety eat me up. That made me develop a fear of talking to people, took away all my confidence, and I wanted to end myself (tried a few times actually) I was always mad, sad, and confused. I felt like I was falling behind in life, to the point that I avoid hanging out or talking with my friends just cause I thought I had nothing to show for myself. I don’t have the house or the cars or even the comfort in life that they sometimes talk about. And whenever topics like hey let's go out came up I feel overwhelming anxiety. This stuff constantly comes back to my mind, even until now some of my bad habits sometimes come back as well. It’s an everyday battle. I don’t know still if this is the real me, or the me I’ve become. But I am taking steps to better myself because I have dreams that I want to achieve. Happy birthday to me I guess lol. For anyone reading this until the end, thanks and sorry for my bad English.
I’m just about to begin my 20s and kind of feeling miserable at times, and I feel that I’m just wasting my time and at the same time I just feel uninspired to do anything, don’t know what to do
Happy birthday, trust me you’re not alone in feeling this way. I’m turning 25 this year in august and I just started to fall back in love with life and I have no idea what the hell im doing with it.
Damn.... so much of this video hits home. The anxiety around life becoming like the Groundhog Day movie - and the comfort and fear that stops things from changing. Especially poignant when I'm listening to this randomly browsing for something to drown out how soul sucking my current job is, on the job. I don't know hoento overcome it. But I am in my twenties. It'll probably be twenty twenty in hindsight.
Yeah I feel this. I'm 22, recently changed my major in college and due to covid and issues I took this semester off. Even my most recent video on my channel makes it seem like I know what Im doing but Im still...lost. Oh well. Sometimes you gotta enjoy being lost at sea. Never know what tales you'd hear and lands you'd discover. Here's to a bright future my fellow lost lambs.
I threw this on in the background as I was colouring my first comic. I'm on chapter 1. I'm 32. So, this video came at exactly the right time. All those fears about whether or not anything is even going to come of this have been making me want to give up and not even try. Thanks for this video, Garnt. I needed it.
kinda needed this as I will be entering my 20s this December and I'll be doing new things. feeling cared and uncertain and teared up watching this vid so thanks grant for being everyone's isekai-loving older brother
This is really helpful man. I was having anxieties about the future then i found this vid you made. It is really nice to see the perspective of someone who grew up and became an adult and after watching the vid it eased my mind
I just turned 30, and I just recently found out the exact thing Garnt said at the end lol. Comparing yourself to others will literally paralyze you and keep you from being the best you, instead of being as good as others. Practice on being ok with others having negative or positive opinions of you, it helps a lot.
Wow, this video somehow puts everything I've been feeling the last few years into coherent words, I'll be 27 in a few months and I get older keep thinking more and more about how boring my life is and most of my days just feel the same, I want more out of my life but I don't know how to get there, having ADHD really doesn't help as my sense of time is even more fucked and trying to get anything done can be painful a lot of the time. This video puts a lot into perspective for me, I'm terrified of change but I also don't want to still be stuck here when I do turn 30 so I want to try to change, thanks for the great video!
"How Homogenous adult life feels" Yea, it's basically that. You spend your youth thinking how much you're gonna accomplish, spend your teens chasing what you believe is right, spend your 20s fighting for what you'll want to achieve. By the time you're 30s you'll be desensitize of the daily routine that you'll prefer to fall back into a checkbox style of life.
I'm sitting at the middle of my 20's and I'm thankful I was able to learn so many things about myself and life in general at this age. I know there's a lot more to learn and go through, but I'm thankful everything's going well so far. I'll just work harder to move out of those comfort zones when I feel I'm stuck there, that's all we can do to change things.
Thank you Garnt, that actually meant a lot. I'm in the early 20's identity crisis of feeling lost and like I just want to give up, and it makes me feel better to know it isn't just me
Honestly, after reading the manga yesterday. I want to make a video like this too. I am still in my 20s and I related a lot to the 3 days in Happiness manga. Especially the thoughts of the main character and the things he said.
Honestly, when I turned 18, there were a lot of things about myself that I thought would just stop being a problem when I became an adult. Some things about how the world around me worked. And some things about how myself as a person worked... After I turned 18, I kind of just became depressed because my problems didn't fix itself. The phases that I thought was a childhood thing didn't miraculously vanish once I became a legal adult. On top of that too, I turned 18 near the start of the pandemic, so the isolation only fed into it. Only recently, the thought came into my head that a lot of those problems weren't problems. Some of them were, and I'm working on those too, but some were me refusing to acknowledge parts of myself I didn't like. Your initial video about 3 Days of Happiness probably came at the best possible time for me. After watching it, I read the manga, and rewatched the video again. It gave me a good opportunity to reflect on my life, how I got here, why I am the way I am, and how I can go about myself in the future. I'm still reflecting, and I'm nowhere near being completely better, but now I think I am making steps towards having my 20s not be full of regrets. Thanks Garnt.
Im currently going through this. Being in my late 20's, ive reallized ive done nothing with my life but ive had this one thing ive been wanting to do, and thats comic books. I have a few ideas running through my head and i tbink theyre great but what you said is true, The hard part is getting started. I dont even know how to draw, but i do know how to write and tell a story. Im scared of how long this will take, or even if i will be successful but this seems like my only chance to make something of my life. I dont wanna be working the cash register all my life. Id figured it'd be best to go to college for two associates, one in business to help bring in an income and one in art to pursue a career in comics. You released this video at the right time, i finally "woke up" this past march and become extremely sad because i see everyone else doing what they always wanted to do. Heres hoping for the best.
That's actually what I have been and still go through but I'm getting finally getting close to my goal. Let me tell you this, I start drawing since 2019 and found an online teacher to built that drawing skill almost everyday. You dont have to draw for 5 hours a day, as beginner 1 or 2 is enough. Build fundamental/anatomy/ color and focus on doing projects while you do it (aka ur comics). Life is an long journey and trust me, it's better to start now than regret it later. Even if it's shit for 1 or 3 years, im promise you it wont be shit when you do it for more years
absolutely follow that passion and I wish you nothing but success. however, I'll caution you that thoughts like "this seems like my only chance to make something of my life" are really, REALLY toxic to creativity. That kind of pressure will do you no good. You can live a worthwhile, meaningful life even if you utterly fail at making comic books. You can live a disappointing, regretful life even if you succeed. The healthier thoughts are that 1) it's something you feel passionate about doing, 2) that you have stories you want to tell, and 3) that you simply want to get better at it. I know it's easier said than done, but as someone who has a number of creative interests that ebb and flow (just look at my RU-vid channel for example), wrapping too much identify and self-worth in your passions or creativity makes it much more difficult to stay positive in the inevitable let downs and motivational ruts. I'm 25 and still a work in progress, but the more I just resign myself to the pure joy of doing something I'm passionate about, the more successful I ultimately end up being. The more I put pressure eon myself, the more I abandon it all together. I hope some of this was helpful and I wish you nothing but success in your comic book endeavors.
How dare you accurately describe my feelings as a 25 year old. This all hit way too close to home, and I feel like i’m constantly waiting to get it together and finally have a strong sense of identity.
My life went into a sudden full stop when I hit 24. Lost my job due to management politics and couldn't land a proper job for the next 2 and a half years. Ended up working as a technician in a broken down PC shop and doing a side gig as a cable technician installing fiber optics cables. When I was 27, saw an ad for working in a R&D company in their Russia branch. Went for the interview, interviewer thinks I'm not up for it. But funny things can happen in weird little ways. Interviewer's phone had problems, I told him I could fix it. Gave me a task to repair the phone on the spot within the day. Got it fix and I got an opportunity of a lifetime to work with their Singapore R&D division instead of the Russia one. Now I'm 32 and the head of R&D division of a different branch. Just wanna lay it out after hearing Garnt's story. Love your work.
i can not put in to words how much this video was accured and it almost make me cry just by knowing that there's people who shared the same feeling that I do. Thank you.
Hey Garnt! Turned 22 last month and this vid perfectly summarized what I've been feeling recently. Getting comfortable with my routine isn't going to fulfill the things I want to do unless I actively invest the time and effort to do so. So I'm leaving this comment here as evidence of sorts that I WILL : ACTUALLY TRY to make a video game seriously IDC if it's a shitty flash game or a trashy platformer or even a generic harem visual novel, I'm releasing a game this year and if I dont Ill post a vid of me eating a Carolina Reaper by the end of the year. This comment is proof that ILL DEFINETELY DO IT
