I think you should do one for the men because, even if it doesn't reach them, the ladies will get an idea of how a classy man should conduct himself when he takes her out.
Tracy does fine work! That being said, notice a man's courtesy and consideration of others, particularly service staff and those who are not stationed above him. This is also an important safety indicator. Those who do not show proper regard to others are not to be trusted to show proper regard to you! He is on time, or calls if he is unavoidably detained. He helps with your coat, chair, etc., opens doors, opens and closes car doors. He walks on the street side of the sidewalk. He focuses on you, not, "girl watching,". I've seen videos for men, by men and they are well done. Obviously, gentlemen are not previous in their presumption of touching you, not, "grabby," or forward.
A first date kissed me lightly on the cheek once, when he said goodbye at my front door. Have to say it made a big impression on me. No awkward hug or a too-soon-kiss-on-the-lips. I thought it was just perfect. To me it conveyed his appreciation but also that he respected my boundaries.
I am 22 and have yet to go on my first first date but like you said "failure to plan is planning to fail" theres nothing wrong with learning these things even without an actual date in the near future
I was taught that the man should be the one to text you FIRST after the date. Also, I agree about the man paying first!!!! Act like a lady, be treated like one.
A gentleman always pays and willingly! He is more than happy to. 🙂 And absolutely no physical activity on a first date! I agree with everything you pointed out here! And blessings to your marriage Tracy. That’s an absolute blessing. 💜
It is sad but the gender gap is still very much alive: In most cases men still earn up to 20% more money than women, even in the same position. So as the more affluent one, he should feel an obligation to pay.
I advise people get to know what the characteristics of a narcissist are so you avoid getting serious with one. They are very damaging! If they have the characteristics run for your life!
I completely agree with all your thoughts:) My 18yr old daughter has gone out on a few first dates and she hasn’t given a first kiss yet. Also, my 17 yr old son has a girl in mind who he wants to ask out but was waiting to get a job so he could pay-he got the job a month ago and is going to ask her out. (He’s planning out the right kind of date right now) we suggested an activity and a meal such as bowling, mini golf or the rock climbing wall so they could have a fun and memorable time:) He is already a gentleman, at home & in public so girls should know they still exist:)
Tracy, darlin’, you’ve got to do more of these “Classy Lady” videos! I LOVE them! Seriously I learn SO much from you!!!!!!! You always out here killing it with these types of video 💕🙌🏻🙏🏻 God bless
You did right. The man you want isn’t about that life anyway, they settle down with women who have those kinds of boundaries and stand by them. The men have spoken. That guy will mess around and when he’s ready, will put a ring on a woman exactly like you. Timing is everything.
As a 40 year old, married man, I totally agree with everything you said!! This video popped up in my feed, so I figured I’d take a few minutes to listen and see what you had to say. Totally, totally agree. Men, as a whole, look for classy women for long term relationships. Intelligence, manners, dressing well and just being a lady are all sexy traits.
Bonjour, Your daughters are very lucky ladies. But where on earth are these gentlemen that you use in your examples, but thank you as I will be prepared if I meet a keeper. Love your work, I would like to watch your tips for men. Very Best
You HAVE to do a '5 Dating Tips For Men' video! I think your advice would be much appreciated. I can't fault you on the advice you gave on this video from a man's perspective. By the way, I'm guessing you get more male viewers to your channel than you think! ;)
Brendan Carson I agree. Shes the only person out here teaching any of us! There may be men looking for a classy lady and need help to attract them! My family was less that classy and my brother moved and found a friend who would teach him class. Girl...you’ve cornered the market here and we appreciate it so much.
Thank you so much for this video, Tracy! I am a 23 year old woman who have been focusing on improving myself for the past few years, but I intend on getting into the dating game this year. I feel as if there is a lack of videos like this, targeted towards young women, because many of the young women making videos today are not portraying themselves as classy women. I wish you a happy 2019! 💕
I never had a mother to teach me these little things that make such a difference in a lady in my early 20’s like myself. I appreciate your tips and advice that go such a long way and I implement in other aspects in my life. I truly believe that when you know better, you DO better. Again thank you so much. I learn something new in each of your videos.
You just outlined the reasons that you have been married for 27 years. Class attracts class. I would hazard a guess that your husband is a high achieving gentleman. You give good advice.
Tracey, you look like Sandra Bullock mixed with Anne Hathaway ! love this video btw very helpful. I've always been so confused on date as to where to place my bags
I have to say I am so sick of being treated as some type of call girl because I agreed to go on a date. As a young professional it is more common in my circle. It is about time I learn how to conduct myself when it inevitably happens again.
Thank you, Tracy! All these tips should be obvious to any classy ladies. Just one thing, I would suggest to thank for dinner and wish him good night before you leave, in that case you don't need to text him afterwards. It is his job to pursue you, not yours. He should text you first the next day as well.
I’m so glad this channel exists! Recently I’ve found myself rejecting my femininity and just hearing that it’s okay to be a lady is so refreshing. Blessings to you 💕
You can get nice handbag holders off eBay, Etsy, etc. They're essentially a hook to hang your bag from the table. Search purse hook, handbag hook, purse hanger, etc.
I needed to hear this. I am a classy lady but over a few decades I became less classy. I would see men who I was attracted to but I did not always get the response that I received decades ago. Now I have began a come back journey creating my brand and it’s amazing how my outer appearance is getting attention at a higher caliber level. I am enjoying it.
What an awesome video AGAIN.....I'm married (for almost 34 years) and class is always (whether a man or woman/married or single) very attactive. Keep it up Tracy!!!
As a man who has been around the block a few times, I agree with everything you’ve said. There r two things I’d like to add that come more out of respect. 1. Show up early. Leave enough time to change a tire if need be. It’s says a lot about a person who is late. 2. If u finish your meal first, do not let the server or bus person remove your plate and do not order coffee. Believe me if u r a man, women will love this because u r being thoughtful not to rush them or worse yet they won’t feel comfortable finishing their meal. Thanks for letting me know I’ve been doing something right.
Maybe not everyone would agree with this but I find this so empowering. Like I think people always see etiquette as something you do for other people but I truly see it as something you do for yourself that opens doors and opportunities for you. I also feel like when you are that in control of yourself and have a strong sense of awareness, you benefit the most
Absolutely agree with all of this. My husband and I met once before our first date and we took it slow. He was SUCH a gentleman. He set up a whole romantic day before kissing me the first time (one month after dating.) it was special and very rare in this culture, as far as physical activity goes. I actually get more compliments and positive responses rather than negative, from people when I tell this story.
I'm married and I don't technically need the tips, but I was curious about what your take would be on this topic. Also, I don't like to miss any of your videos because you are classy, educated, warm, full of energy, and hilarious! Thank you for the video! Take care ♡☆♡☆
Hi Tracy, I just wanted to say that I am learning so much from your videos and I really appreciate you putting this content out there. I’m 24 and because my mother is more tomboyish I grew up without ever learning much about style, etiquette and dating. I’m trying to improve myself and your videos have been very helpful, so please keep this content coming!
I’ve been happily married 25 years, and I always LOVE your content, and this video is no exception. I rarely say this about another woman but your hubby is soooo lucky to have you. You are amazing. 🥰🙌🏻
I feel the same way about women in the work place- trying to 'be a man', cussing, being loud and/or carrying on are SO unclassy!!! Great video, again 💃💗
Even if a "Classy Men" does not reach many of the fellas... I believe its important for women to know what to look for and expect from a gentleman who is husband/father material. I find in my practice many do not and marry then are dissatisfied early on or years into a marriage. Ball is both courts... if you want to marry a classy lady this is what you look for and if you want a classy gentleman this is what you look for. Great video and I applied all and then some 13 years ago and we are married 10 years.
It has been shocking to observe women LOWERING their value by sleeping with men so quickly. DON’T ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE USED LIKE THAT, LADIES! It is very sad - women have done this to ourselves & now men take advantage of our stupidity.😔
It is a pitty I am married and do not need this type of information anymore 😂 but I absolutely loved it! I agree with you on every single thing and I am saving this video for my daughter when the time comes. THANK YOU TRACY, I always admire how well done your videos are!😍
Most men today are much higher maintenance than women today...and when the woman is more high maintenance then she's over-the-top high maintenance. And I think phones in restaurants should be illegal. I'm a waitress, and it really makes me sad when I see a family or a couple dining and they're all on their phones. I hope your wise words reach enough people in the dating world. (I'm not even one of them, I'm just interested in these kinds of videos.)
You remind me of my mother. She is the classiest most beautiful woman that I know! I have been taught these things since I was teenager. You are so right the current trend is to appear more masculine. I disagree I think if you are looking for a traditional guy you need to behave in a traditional manner. ❤️
Great video on dating! Please do one on "when (beginning, middle or much later?) & how" should a woman tell a man that she wants a relationship that leads to marriage💍. Include the red flags a woman should look for that let her know a man is not serious or leading to marriage, and also the flags that indicate the relationship is leading to marriage💘.
Literally just when I needed it. To answer your question, I ABSOLUTELY THINK YOU SHOULD MAKE A VIDEO FOR THE FELLAS. So many of the guys I have met that are my age/similar to me in age (early 20s) lack basic skills that I think a gentleman should have. It would be great if you could help them out. It may not reach a lot of men, as you mentioned, but it could greatly help the few that it does. Thanks Tracy!
Thank you xx I am in a relationship of 7 years. We have not been going on dates together but have decided to date each other again to bring back the spark xx
I just love you. You make me feel better. I have always been very shy and you are helping me feel more confident with basic rules and reasoning. I get so panicked I can't think straight. I appreciate your advice.
Dear beautiful Tracy. Where were you when I made the poorest decision of my life. Your wisdom could have saved me so much. I really hope young women listen carefully to you. Your advice is priceless! ❤️
Thanks for videos like this Tracy, even though you haven’t dated in so many years I think you’re absolutely on point about everything you said whether you’re 20 or 50 years old, those advices will never go out of style, I love all your videos ☺️
Thank you thank thank you thank you for calling out women swearing!!! I have always been of the opinion that it is one of the most unladylike things we can do!!!
Ma'am, I'm 16 n ur videos are so much informative and u talk everything practically, they include every aspect needed to lead a healthy life...I remember my mom when I look at u ma'am...I pray to God that he showers his merciful blessings upon you and and ur family and keeps u healthy, wealthy, happy and contented...lots n lots of love to u ma'am...❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I really enjoy this video so I can talk to my daughter so she doesn’t have to be embarrass on her first date you are so very beautiful and so very classy I love it
What an awesome video with priceless information! Tracy, I wish all women were more like you & raised their daughters to be classy & respectful. I’m married now, but If i had this video MANY years ago while I was dating, it would have been helpful! I would recommend this video to all my single friends. :)
I'm a guy and I really enjoy your videos. I believe etiquette is very classy. It show just how much you care for yourself and the people around you. Please do dating tips for men!
great video! Could you do a video on what your secrets are to looking amazing as we get older? Fillers etc.. what do you use for eyes?cream? So young looking!! ❤️❤️
Beautiful video. You are a breath of fresh air in a world where it seems like everything you do is okay. If you do a tip video for men, it would be fun to have your husband chime in. Hugs and blessings to you.
Appreciate this video, a gentle reminder on the importance of making proper and classy first impressions - definitely monitor the amount of alcohol you drink and _no_ intimacy. I was married for 15 years and have been single for the last 9 years. I’ve dated here and there, but it is a very, very challenging dating market, to put it nicely. The last date I went on was in the summer of 2017 - the “gentleman” flirted openly with the female server. Needless to say, that was our last date haha. I enjoy many of your videos, thank you and have a blessed day!
2021 I'm 32 and just getting out of an 8 year relationship. I don't want to date but I do want to meet people I've been totally sheltered this last decade and I need to live and meet people.
Tracy, to help even more, please do another additional classy ladies video. This time in relation to the femenine's vibe women give off. Men's love come from within the vibe women give off; not the actions we take and so we have it within us...being genuinly classy. Thanks. Much love
Thank you for the advise. I totally agree with your tips. I think you should make a video for the men, but the young men (like your tweens and teenagers). My nephew is starting to date, and he notices that girls want to be kissed and touched. I always tell him to keep his hands to himself and let them know that it's too fast. He's a perfect gentleman, but I don't want him to think all girls are like that. If you can make a video as if you are talking to your kids what to do in situations like that, and how to know if she's worth the second date?
Yes. I have a nephew and his friends are joking and pressuring him to "hook up". His high standards and faith are what he listens too. I think he's scared to date because women are so brutal now.
Last night I was getting ready for a date, nervous as heck because of bad dates and this guy is super cute. I listened to this video while getting ready .....and it was a successful date. Thankyou! We plan on seeing each other this weekend and even if it doesn't work out it was just nice to have a good date.
you've gone into more detail on IG stories. Its so helpful as it goes beyond just dating. I'm well past first dates but thanks for reinforcing some self responsibility etc
Hi Tracy. I love your videos but specially the ones focused on social skills and making values a current topic. I've been following you two years now, and keep enjoying all the information you provide. Hope you have a wonderful 2019!!!
I'm 38 and trying to date again but don't want to come off as too desperate or "easy" by what I wear, or think I'm lazy or dont care about my appearance if I'm in a shirt and jeans and not made up. I have a good idea about the balance now after this video 🙂
Thank you Tracy... just wanted point out an important point missed in your video. Be aware of the nite of the week he plans for your dates. It is subtle but it says a lot. For instance, a man that asks you out only on a Monday nite is indicative of either a married man or a man with a gf or a fiancé. If possible Always try to schedule your dates on a Friday nite or a Saturday nite. These are prime date nites and If he’s not available for a weekend date then you have your answer. Don’t be his Monday nite girl! I just wanted point this out considering the amount of married men who are dating online these days.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Susan. It sounds as if you have made and assumption based off past experience. I am sorry that things have not worked in your favor. It's important to recognize that 'some' will form their own opinion and not limit themselves based off of another person's bad experience. The world is filled with 2 types of people and I want the viewers to have both options presented to them. That being said, I would not have mentioned a limited belief, such as the one indicated. That goes completely against what I coach on. I hope that makes sense and perhaps can help guide you to not be limited in your thinking. Opportunities get missed all the time due to ones limited beliefs. I wish you success in the future.
Thank you for your first date tips! I agree with this, it’s how I was taught, but sadly many women do things that don’t allow themselves to be seen as high value sometimes. I know I’ve made my share of mistakes in the past. Thanks again, I can see lots of classy oozing out of you!
SPOT ON Tracy! Trying to date at 60 has it challenges. Unfortunately, mature men 60+ are so wounded by their past and frustrated with the dating scene that its hard to find a quality man that appreciates a woman of grace and maturity. Although I have put myself out there but rarely come across a true gentleman to date, I am proud to say that when I do and only after several conversations, I have never acted like an ill mannered desperate sleazy unkempt woman either but feel there are plenty of single women at my age that need to view this video and heed your advice. TYFS your wisdom and inspirational messages always xo
I have been dating 6yrs. Ive always been a classy lady. The problem is single men in my area are not looking for classy lady. They want little girls. I have dated various ages of men it seens to be same story. Most men dont even want to go on a dinner date because they are cheep. The struggle has been real for me as a single divorced mother of 6yrs. Most men in my area dont care to forth any effort with dating in general let alone wanting a classy lady. Can you offer some tips or a video for classy ladys who cant seem to find single available gentelman.
I love to see videos teaching classic etiquettes than being sexy or attractive on a first date because it is more important to know if you want to keep a guy❤️ thanks 😘 #classicisattractive
Modesty, purity, sobriety - lovely tips, Tracy! Three drinks would be way too much for me to handle personally, I get tipsy after half a glass of wine! Do you have tips for maintaining romance in marriage?
Yes, this would be great! If I may add one tip that I have discovered for myself, I think it's disrespectful to the person you're dating to accept an offer to view the photograph album if it's made by anyone other than that person themselves. But at the same time his mother (it's usually the mother!) is also keen to tell her stories, and I wouldn't want to snub her either. So I would perhaps say something like, "oh wow, I am really looking forward to seeing this, but I'd rather wait until [[boyfriend]] is ready to show me, so in the meantime, why don't you and I go into the kitchen and you can tell me all about his favourite recipes?" I see that as a second door into his past, and she still gets to tell all of her stories ("this is what he liked to eat after sports, and that reminds me, there was this one time at practice..."), and she might just chat, but she might start making his favourite cookies. It's doubtful she'll give you her grandmother's secret recipe on the first go, but you're starting to set up a pattern that you and her will be in the kitchen, talking about food, and history, so it's unlikely that your conversations will grow stilted. Sometimes you learn more about a person by doing something with them than you do just sitting down to talk, so you'll get to know her better, and learn more about the family, and you never know, down the line you just may be trusted with the honour of the family secret recipe that will make your partner happy. Ms Hensel, what is your opinion of this, please and thank you.
Tracy, can you please do a video on body language for a job interview and how to tackle the obvious questions from the HR, especially when you are leaving one company and joining another? Thanks in advance!
Loved this! I definitely think men could benefit from something similar, Tracy, especially from a woman’s point of view. I’ve been on first dates where men have put WAY too much out there and although I think I handled it like a classy lady should, it was uncomfortable and I was mentally crossing him off my second date list! Terrific topic to kick off a new year, too.
Tracy I love your videos ... this advice is so timely... Sometimes it seems that if a girl decides not to drink or engage in physical activity on the first date ...she is, automatically placed in the " boring" category...sadly.. Well I like standards and class so I rather stick to my values then try to Please someone else.but I hear stories from my male friends that validate .my beliefs and also the message you are sharing on this video...🔥🖒😙... which is extremely encouraging ... men do pay a lot of attention to this things ...
I am very intrigued by this topic of class. I have found that these videos are FANTASTIC, hardly any women really talks about it. It is hidden is debutante classes and only an elite group of people get access to such fantastic information. One thing I struggle with a lot (mostly because it is hard to discuss this without sounding vain)... but here we go ...when a follower of your work starts to achieve a certain level of success with your tips and advice, it is fair to say that you will get noticed.. and maybe not by people you want to notice you. How do classy women/people address unwanted advances, how do you correct a conversation suggesting a relationship you aren't interested in. I work in the automotive industry and I refuse to be unlady like - as many women have become just like the men where ever I work. I have noticed that in my life, being charming and refined has become a double edge sword scenario with unwanted advances. Do you have any advice on this? Thank you for all your advice!!
Im going on my first date today and good thing I saw your channel and I appreciate all the advices because I really feel nervous... Thank you so much❤️
Love you, thank you for putting these videos out here. appreciate the information. your whole anatomy especially mount, face way of speaking, articulating is so elegant
