Nothing cures a bad day like using a racial slur, especially combined with watching people react to videos of you merely looking at a camera. Better than trying some meditation or talking to a friend to get cheered up. But what can expect from a racist narcissist who doesn't even understand the basic meaning of the sociological concept he has butchered to create content (the male gaze and the female gaze, which he literally thinks means how men and women look at one another) or that fantastic Edgar Allen Poe comment?
there is no way that the entirety of a tiktok community concluded that the new standard of the female gaze is just some dude who look like somebody tried to draw kurtis connor from memory.
i love how a lot of girls were like "nobody can do it like him" like miss girly im sure you can find TONS of misogynistic, balding people with anger issues
"How i stopped dressing for the male gaze" was a thing, like okay, you are now basing your wardrobe around men. Conservative Christians, school dress codes, and everyone who asked "well, what were you wearing?" are finally happy.
@@imsmolandangery4274 I'm pretty sure when people mean they stopped dressing for the male gaze they mean now they base their wardrobe on what _they_ think it's attractive and looks good on them instead of the stereotypical male idea of "hotness"
I literally thought the female gaze was just in storytelling media like novels and movies and stuff. It's a way of telling a story that appeals to women, especially sexual scenes. I'm so confused as to what people think the female gaze is in this context.
@@MarkelleRayneeSheree Male Gaze and Female Gaze are pretty much that, though it extends beyond just storytelling. E.G. A beer comercial that highlights an woman who is picked because she is attractive to the average man is appeal to the "Male Gaze" specifically because it is assuming the worldview of a male viewer. (Sounds a little tautological there, but whatever.) It is basically any form of media that "sees" the world in the same way as a man does. A super clear example is all those old Conan Style sword and sorcery movies. The men in them are all massive musclebound units, and the women (even the fighters) are all petite and conventionally beautiful. While both groups are wearing little clothing and are "hot" the way in which they are hot differs. The women look the way men would want their women to look, while the men look like the way men would want to be hot. So in either case the aspirational aspect of its worldview is directed towards the male viewer. Important Disclaimer: Male and Female Gaze or not inherently bad. The problem is not that the male gaze exists. It is always going to exist. The problem is that the male gaze is heavily *favored* over the female, which creates an imbalance in media. This is a big problem for media companies that want to pull more female customers into their fandoms. But yeah, it literally has nothing to do with the physical look of some ones eyes. This guy just happened to have soft, watery and non-threatening eyes. Which is not even a female thing? I know a lot of women with intense and confident physical gazes.
He's barely even lip-syncing to the audio most of the time...or moving his mouth at all, just staring blankly into your soul The live stream reaction portion gave me genuine whiplash because as confusing and simultaneously boring as he is, I genuinely thought he couldn't make more than one expression!
Narcissistic injury. He doesn't understand the concept of male gaze/female gaze as a cultural response, yet uses the term anyway because he thinks it just means "how men and women look at each other". He is also racist, didn't get the awesome Edgar Allen Poe joke and literally spent time live-streaming himself watching people react to his face, like a modern version of the tale of Narcissus except that Narcissus had actual depth to his character whereas this guy is just a narcissistic, racist bellend. The woman was perfectly polite but with all the points mentioned before considered, how could we expect him to be reasonable? Also, I don't understand how this became so popular? These are just videos of him fumbling in front of a camera and then pulling a kind of smirk. Then again, from what I've seen of TikTok, not much creative though seems to go into what is produced (I've never been on there to be fair, and don't plan to either - these commentary videos show me enough to want to stay away).
As an autistic kid, it was really a mindfuck that people say this when they know exactly what they did wrong, why it's wrong, and what they should do instead.
Right?! And if it would then what, female gaze = looking awkward but being able to switch to confident in an instant? I do not understand where this came from xD
Going into this I assumed it was "female gaze" as in "this guy looks kinda nonthreatening and that makes him cute" but 10 minutes in I can't imagine what it could possibly mean aside from "this guy's looking at me like he calls women 'females'"
Sometimes it's fun to hype up a conventionally unattractive person. Sometimes you can be unattractive but there genuinely is some quality about how you carry yourself that makes you attractive. The fun gets sucked out of it when the target turns out to suck but it's totally a thing I understand. I've gotten comments about my partner of 11 years being super unattractive in pictures but then they meet him in person and they're like oh I get it. Appeal is mysterious.
@@murdermyinsanity i don't like to judge a book by its cover but to me he looks on the outside exactly like he turned out to be on the inside (also what am i saying i judge every actual book by its cover)
@@murdermyinsanity there’s no fun about it. firstly, all i know is he has made videos sexualizing beating and raping women, so that’s all i have to know. secondly, im going to touch on a subject jarvis slightly mad run the video. it’s 100% “fun” to you because your white. the black woman subject is really more nuanced, white women set the beauty standards for both women and men worldwide, and that’s a fact. they have set the “female gaze”, and it’s weird, because it’s not something no other race, not just black people, appeal to. especially because the “gaze” fits white, skinny men with brown fully hair. something that isn’t seen as features apart of other races. a man, especially one with a platform like jarvis, using his voice to defend black woman is just nice to see. it’s because most black men die to internalized racism say the most disgusting shit about black women simply to uplift white women.
It's not even that he isn't attractive, it's that he's trying to come across as confident and a "idgaf" attitude when he's obviously incredibly insecure lmao
@@Candyrock15 ok that's too far he can't help that like sure his tik toks are cringe but like c'mon don't rip on his appearance its ok to make fun of his behaviour because thats his choice and its objectively cringe but making fun of his looks is different
@@tyleralan1470 nah, he deserves it. He made fun of other people’s appearances so it’s only fair to say he looks like an insecure incel that never gets out of the house
Thank you SO MUCH for bringing his racist jabs towards black women to light! I felt like I was in the freaking twilight zone for a bit on TikTok with people swooning over an entitled butthole that rants and makes fun of genetic features on people that don't find what he does attractive 😅.
as a queer (trans) man, WE DO NOT CLAIM HIM. I do not know how someone could not understand how making fun of someone's ethnic features is inherently wrong and harmful, especially when that person is part of a marginalized group.
As the same, saying we don't claim this obvious loser does more harm than good. His identity doesn't matter; this guy sucks, and everyone can agree with that. No need to resort to tribalism.
That's what I thought too. I was like....if you want someone to look at you like this just get an attentive stoner. Get them really high and they will look at you exactly like that the whole time. Lol.
I think the majority of people on TikTok constantly throw terms around without knowing what they actually mean. They misuse “female gaze”, “POV”, “gaslighting”, “queerbaiting” and many more. I’m glad I don’t have that app bc I imagine that to be infuriating
the blatant racism when he was making fun of those black women's facial features. pisses me off when people think they can make fun of random people just because they got validation from a couple people online.
This is like when Tumblr thought color theory was the same thing as what emotion you feel when you look at a color, well it's not! -me, a frustrated artist
@@kai_fatallysapphic Yeah except at least Tumblr is basically invisible to the rest of the internet. Tiktok is like the face of it now, so if anything gets popular, everyone knows about it. Leading to mass misinformation
I wanna scream whenever people don't understand that the male gaze is specifically a term to critique misogynistic filmmaking. The distinction matters because now we have people who think that real life women need to be criticized for "appealing to the male gaze," i.e. choosing to look hot to attract men, which is literally not a problem.
Especially applying it to a man creating it lol the female gaze comes from women, women cultivate the female gaze, not the other way around. He can try and perform for it, but he’s definitely not going to be the person to invent it EDIT: AND DEF NOT WHEN HE TALKS ABOUT (specifically black) WOMEN LIKE HE DID!! He’s just another egotistical man gassed up by women praising him
Kevin, to me, is the equivalent of "What if the Dream face reveal was a whole person." He's not ugly but also not hot. He's....Kevin. And that's okay. *HOWEVER,* his personality tips the scales into "gross" territory very easily. No one outright called him Ugly but his thin-skin heard "I'M BEING ATTACKED NY UGLY PEOPLE!! I KNOW I'M HOT CAUSE PEOPLE ON THE INTERNET TOLD ME SO!!"
Kevin's stare is the look men give me while they're mentally undressing you, it's so creepy and unnerving to receive that look/stare in real life. I swear it's these kids who are not experienced who think that is the female gaze
Right?? Like I keep seeing that his age is 22. BRUH IM 22 and I’m still young enough that I sometimes get mistaken for someone in high school. AND HES BALDING LMAO
He doesn't even do what they're raving about tbh... when he spaces out and gets "confident", everyone says omg hes tongue tied and fantasizing about me. No he looks like a huge douchebag.. and does not look like hes lucky to have you... he looks like "omg gurl yer bewbies r so huge.. i get bonar now".
Things I like about Kevin: He looks like the tragic hero in a classic Russian novel. Things I do not like about Kevin: Pretty much everything else I'm seeing here
When Kevin was trying to “roast” the 43 year old women by saying she’s lived “double his life” he’s only digging himself by admitting that he’s a 22 year old thats severely balding 💀
wait ok so, every black woman he automatically makes fun of their appearance (mostly black features),when he’s making fun of a white woman, he compares her to a celebrity…..ok
@@WonderfulArgos there was some drama around him because he watched a girl self harm. Then he admitted to having mutilation(?) Kink so i think thats why he fleed social media
"If you get it, you get it". I don't get it. Dude's a little creep. I don't want anyone to look at me like that... "She's lived double my life". Tell that to your hairline, bruh, if you can catch up with it.
I think the female gaze has been more discussed in recent years. I would not blame it on Gen Z either, as it is a topic that made its way from academia into less academic settings, which I find great! A lot of Gen Z is not done with high school, expecting them to be up on academic topics is a bit unfair. I remember being in high school, hearing any academic topic, and thinking it meant something completely different than what it does. *I could be wrong, but I am pretty sure the woman at 3:50 is not Gen Z.
It's not gen z, is just the general public, which happens to be a lot of young people on tik tok. If someone never learned about the male gaze, they're just going to make something up lol
@@elfsongtavern i don’t say it as a bad thing at all, it’s a completely harmless misunderstanding that is only possible through things like tiktok where a trend gets a name and that’s it. i mean there’s several examples, like “quiet quitting” to mean the long-established idea of “work-to-rule”. it’s an observation i’m not criticising anybody :)
turning the concept of ‘the female gaze’ into ‘when a guy looks at you sexy’ really just illustrates how low the bar for discourse is. gen z needs hardcore feminism and we need it now
isn’t the female gaze supposed to be a feminist media analysis term? i’m so confused, does the female gaze mean a guy makes a face women think is attractive? i’m a woman attracted to men and i would consider myself a feminist, but i have no idea what they’re talking about.
I feel like in this aspect it just more means like what women want vs what men think women will want, like how some girls don’t actually like a ton of muscle on a guy, but a lot of dudes just assume that all women think that’s hot. You know what I mean?
You're right, it is a media analysis term. The 'male gaze' was theorised by Laura Mulvey and its basically where the camera is/acts as a heterosexual man and women are likely to be objectified. The 'female gaze' is simply the opposite (Mulvey didn't talk about this however)
Male gaze was specifically a Film theory concept (the audience is assumed to be male so top gun volley ball scene is homo erotic but women sensually playing in swim wear is straight, there are other aspects about how men and even objects are depicted) but the internet is allergic to using words correctly
Jarvis getting legitimately upset at the degradation of black women is exceedingly closer to capturing the female gaze than Kevin and his pathetic attempt to seem humble and approachable. I thought the Kevin thing was overblown on tiktok, but man those lives really sent me over the edge
I feel like I have seen 100 creepy dudes do those same looks on TikTok. EVERY TIME me and everyone I heard/known thinks it's creepy. Its a shallow way to look like a you are trying to look "sexy." But somehow when this guy does it people are saying it's sexy. I feel like it's this weird mental thing where the supposed context or labels change how you feel, not the actual content. Also, it's weird that this is the female gaze. It isn't exploitative or demeaning in any way. You just look at a camera and bite your lip. Sure, people find it weird, but finding it weird isn't what they are talking about correct? When you look at the male gaze in media it is explicitly demeaning. Only hiring hot "chicks" because they are hotter, making your looks your value. Writing in those woman without any character or nuance. Making them be primarily a secondary position that needs saving, or is treated like an object or trophy. Like a possession. Or practically enforcing that successful woman HAVE to be good looking. That is what the male gaze was. It's gotten better sure, I hope. All of that was only possible in the first place was because men were, and still are, in power. The female gaze, what is it? Looking at people? Huh... After watching more of this video, I'm not even going to continue. Both "gazes" are not even close to be comparable. This topic will die soon, probably...
not black (asian); showed my sister this kevin guy the other day and she said people probably like him because 'white girls will like any white guy who just sort of has nice eyes' lol
Oh I especially feel this, I don't live near many black people where I am right now. Sometimes it hurts cause it feels so isolating. Though I also just don't have any friends here in general which makes it worse. But it feels good to know I'm not crazy for feeling like I'm being treated differently as a black woman.
I personally have never understood why someone looking at you like they're trying to undress you is supposed to be sexy or attractive. I don't understand it, it makes me feel creeped out. If other people like it that's cool but I just don't, I see the same thing in all those story apps promoting werewolves love stories and the like.
It just looks like the thousand yard stare. He didn't just catch a glimpse of an attractive woman, he realizes he left the oven on, faucet running, and his door unlocked.
I feel the same. The blank stare is so creepy. Like there's bad intent behind that and not in hot way. I feel like most people are gonna have more positive micro expressions flicker on their face. You might see someone you are interested in and get an excited smile on your face. Additionally micro expressions are very hard to intentionally do, like they happen unconsciously.
Right? When I saw his "tutorial" vid, I just know that he thinks highly of himself before the trend. And when people blindly succumbed to this madness, it inflated his ego. 🤮
Jarvis who very rarely ever gets upset or angry on camera saying 'oh fuck off' in that tone made me sit up straight. defending that woman who did absolutely nothing wrong against a racist bully was maybe bare minimum but still really nice to hear amongst all the shitty things on the internet today.
The fact that the definition of the female gaze is about what female creatives can bring to their work separate from the male eye, but it's been turned into 'this man has cracked the woman code and now all women find him hot' speaks numbers
I think this all starts with, like, people taking male gaze (= misogyny produces movies that turn women into something to be consumed by The Male Gaze) and turned it into ✨ Male Gaze ✨ = woman sexy in movie, so then, when creatives and thinkers actually try to come up with a term for works that seek to portray the subjects as all human and not as a set of Men and their Playthings, naming it The Female Gaze in opposition to the original male gaze, the crowds immediately latch onto the easiest definition which is "When Man attractive to Woman"
@@Sir-Taco People have misunderstood more complex film concepts/feminist critique of film (movies are made by men for men, the inherent misogyny in our culture results in a diminished and stylised representation of women as objects or an accessory to men)...so in this instance that's been boiled down to "this is what men find hot" conversely they've wrongly assumed the female gaze is the opposite and "this is what women find hot" and that's just not what those terms mean.
@@Sir-Taco I'm no expert on this but Maggie Mae Fish gave an example that resonated with me in Silence of the Lambs. Normally in film you'd see a woman as beautiful as Foster walking into that room she'd be the object 'cos she's a beautiful women, let's move the camera up and down her while the men (all the police officers in the funeral parlor) leer at her and the men in the room would be in on it as would the audience, there's no judgement of that and no empathy for her. Instead, we see her entering through the door from her perspective. For once it isn't Jodie Foster being stared at...the camera is her looking at the men all gawking at her and it diminishes them. You can see that they're either leering at her like pigs or are uncomfortable "why womz in FBI?". It doesn't glamourise her objectification or her strangeness or her opposition to the male and even more importantly it doesn't glamourise them. We saw what it was like from her perspective to be diminished by a bunch of creeps and sexist jerks and the end view was that they were in the wrong for that. It impacted me heavily at the time I was still a kid and I didn't know why but that's what it was. For once they were made to look bad for doing what most films do all the time to women. Enable misogyny and male primacy.
@@amani98001 girls: *have an opinion* Kevin: *races to Google images to attempt to halfass a roast about their looks* the chat: "oh Kevinnnnn 😭😭😭😭😭😭" bro was acting 15 to defend himself
This dude screams "nice guy" energy. I'm sure the people fangirling over him is a nice ego-boost, but he can't expect everyone to have the same opinion. Edit: I’m not sure if people know that “nice guy” is not actually meant as a compliment. You can look up “nice guy” stories and find plenty of disturbing behavior from guys not getting their way.
@T N hey sorry, but I'm a little confused. I might be wrong, but to me it seemed more like he was just making fun of people in general and jarvis' two examples just happened to be black.
He looks like those hyper awkward guys that “space out” looking at your ass. And then genuinely try to bs you that they just accidentally zoned out there.
I am begging people to look up the thing they are talking about, that's not what female gaze means, it's a film theory term about the portrayal of women in film.
I’ve seen it suggested that some women saw him as a stand in for their partners. If your partner looked at you like that, it might be appealing. If a stranger does it, it’s creepy. I’ve also heard that it might be attractive because it’s fiction where people know they won’t face negative consequences from the look. Kind of like how people romanticise a lot of abusive tropes in romance fiction. So a guy in fiction looking at you like this might make you feel desired in a fun way, whereas a guy irl looking at you like this might make you feel desired in a more predatory way. I’ve also heard some women just have weird taste and we're all different. So I guess some women genuinely would find this look attractive irl. Idk. I personally don’t really get it either and part of me thinks a lot of women were just pretending to like him because that was the trend lol.
I’m straight and have seen less conventionally attractive men (and women) as attractive usually because of their personalities. This man has a trash personality and the videos he posted did not depict anything redeemable about himself. I feel like some of the people who find him attractive are those who obsess over serial killers or people trying to boost the confidence of someone they think appears modest.
@@genericname8727 I also have a theory that women probably tried really hard to find the attractiveness in him, and when you concentrate on the good things, it kind of becomes all you see. I’m demi so it doesn’t work for me, but even I could agree that the slight femininity of his features and sanpaku eyes might be seen as attractive.
"The male gaze" and "the female gaze" refers to filmmaking techniques and other art-- the male gaze shows women whose bodies are pointed towards the camera in a way that would not be their natural posture, who are shot in sections of their bodies rather than focusing on their faces. It's about presenting the female body through the eyes of the spectator, the audience, who is presumed to be a man who is attracted to these women. The "female gaze" would be the opposite of that, a theoretical portrayal of women through the eyes of a female spectator. Language is fluid and I don't think it always only has to refer to cinematography, but a dude filming intentionally awkward thirst traps for women is not "the female gaze." That makes no sense. The male gaze is not just what men are attracted to, and the female gaze is not just what women are attracted to.
I think qoves studio has detailed videos with a concrete scientific perspective on male and female gaze. The logic behind it lies in evolutionary psychology.
I agree about the term but disagree about what this guy did not being the female gaze. In film the actress & crew are told to act/move/ shoot them in them through the male gaze" which is supposed to be what men find most attractive. Here he is acting/moving/shooting himself in the "female gaze" in a way supposed to be more attractive to most women. Of course the 2 are not equal & most of thr discussions around the male gaze is negative. It often focuses in the predatory aspect & reducing a woman down to eye candy, where as this guy adds more depth to the focus character through his female gaze lense. However I I think he does a good job at highlighting the differences between what a lot of alpha males think women find attractive, compared to what a lot of women actually find attractive... Now the same could be said for the female gaze too, with diffeeent archytypes & tropes appealing to different men but I'm not gonna rehash old ground & this comment is probably already long enough!
@@NotAnotherKuromi i dont think either male or female gaze has predatory aspects. Its just the way people percieve it. Its weird that male gaze has become a synonym for creeping while science based channels explain them easily with the help of evolutionary psychology. Its no wonder that feminists are crying all over the video even though it has a neutral to positive stance on both male and female gaze.
DUDE THIS! I don’t understand how anyone finds him attractive lol. He’s a good lookin dude, yea. But it’s not the “I wanna fuck him” attractiveness LOL. This is wild to me that so many people are drooling over him
I don't see it, for me, who can't read emotions well, his eyes just look...empty. Like when they go "it's all in the eyes" I'm just "sociopath eyes????"
I even think it’s bad to exalt people who are actually doing good, big things because it ruins everyone. It gets to everyone’s head and they really lose touch.
i'm so baffled by what on earth made so many women attracted to this man. like, his videos made me uncomfortable at best, repulsed at worst. i convinced myself that i just don't understand it since i'm a lesbian, but it seems like i am not the only one utterly perplexed by this situation
Him being gay was the biggest twist for me. This is the kind of dude that will hit you up on grindr and if things get even a little bit awkward in the conversation he will start shittalking you about how he didn't even find you attractive in the first place
I think if you get a load of stans and then whittle away the ones who might criticise you for being petty or making fun of somebody's appearance you'll end up with a pretty hardcore fanbase who'll probably double down to defend whatever you do. You can farm those suckers for a lot of money & views long after the mainstream has moved on
Since the first time I saw this guy he gave me the heebie jeebies. Not only does he look like a 45 year old man but his eyes say “I’m gonna follow you into a dark alley after this party” imo. He goes from pretending to be a nervous awkward guy at a party to looking at the camera like he’s thinking about how he’s going to assault you later and the switch up is so creepy makes my skin crawl I don’t get why everyone is all over it 😭
LITERALLY SAME. the first video i saw of him there were idk a few, maybe a 100 comments about him being hit and all that and i thought they were jokes, like yk typical tiktok “SLAAYYY HAVE MY BABIES” comments about unconventionally attractive people yk. but then 4 or 5 more vids on my fyp and i began to question this “joke”….. then the whole “female gaze” thing started and it really hit me that they were serious. okay then….
Back in the 90s in the UK we were taught if someone makes you uncomfortable, it's called the no feeling, and you should move away, or get help. I absolutely get strong 'no feeling' vibes...
Even the girl who said he has sanpaku eyes wasn't making fun of his appearance, she was just pointing out what women were reacting to. His eye shape is often known as having "bedroom eyes" because people find them seductive. The fact that he was almost shaking with anger while reacting to those women makes him seem unstable.
Ah, that helps me see how anybody was seeing those tiktoks as sexy, though it still doesn't come off to me as bedroom eyes. On him, it feels halfway to a Kubrick stare.
@@ganymedeanoutlaw 😂 "Kubrick stare". I agree. He set off my fight or flight response. But for the women who found him attractive, I think the heavy-lidded look was what did it.
@@ganymedeanoutlaweyes like that are only attractive when the rest of the eye shape is attractive like Maddie from euphoria. His eyes are too round and have too much upper lid for a man. He also just looks creepy so. Plenty of studies on “senpaku eyes” if u look them up