When I came out as trans, the doctor said "Hooray, I'm so glad, I needed another recruit to the trans agenda to fill my quota for the month." Then whisked me down a hall, still in the chair, lopped parts of me off and bought me a pretty dress. Then I woke up, because none of this actually happens, in fact, doctors are pretty resistant to being helpful with trans people.
Yep. Like oh yeah, doctors are so ready to help trans peopl....oh wait, what about all those medical "professionals" who *justified* misgendering me because "we're not treating you because of your gender"? Or "explained" to me that I'm not actually trans?
She… she has never talked to a trans person in her life. No trans person would ever say “I wanted to get the pay that men do so I upended my entire life to transition just to get 25 more cents per hour.”
Check your math, according to your wage gap lies women make 25% less money than men. Your math only works where someone makes 75 cents per hour and that doesn't happen probably anywhere in the world outside of Asia and Africa.
I also love how she’s discussing a very real issue, the wage gap, which has been instituted and held up due to people continuing to perpetuate and encourage gender norms… which is what she is literally doing.
@@gabbykabins4333tbf, the studies on the gender pay gap were faulty, they used lifetime earnings and didn't account for maternity leave. Even using their methods of measurement the pay gap is decreasing, as more men are signing up for paternity leave or are becoming SAHDs.
"Women don't want to be oppressed so they become trans" and then, "women just want to feel oppressed, so they say they're trans" I have so many questions (Also, I didn't quote directly, but you get my point)
Yeah those are TERF talking points that not only are harmful, but are also detrimental to a degree because no, no cis woman is trans (and would ever want to be trans because cis women are cis and happen to have lived experiences different from other women) and no, folks who are DFAB (hence both points misgendering DFAB folks) do not "escape" oppression/misogyny via being trans either.
Yes, If she knew even a sliver of what she's talking about she would know that today's teens have less sex, do less drugs, and drink less alcohol than any previous generation
she seems to be forgetting that since trans women exist, its pretty obvious that sexism isn't the only factor causing someone to be trans. watching transphobes try and argue their points is almost funny sometimes. almost
They only ever see one side and then have to ignore the other because it would defeat their argument just like the "trans women only want to go to the females' restrooms" bullshit lmao
When I came out as lesbian at age 11 my mom literally told me: no, you are straight. Took me more than 15 years of being a miserable as a ‘straight woman’ to be brave enough to explore the options and long story short: I’m in fact VERY lesbian and currently engaged to be married to my stunning fiancée in 2024 ❤ Parental pressure to be cisgender and straight ultimately doesn’t change a thing about who you are on the inside.
I came out to my mom as a boy when I was 13 and was told that I was born a girl and always will be a girl- three miserable years later I started hormone replacement therapy! We did it :)
Congratulations!!! I'm sorry she did that to you, I hope you and your Mom are okay! Sometimes people just don't think and I'm hoping she just wasn't thinking. Sending love and hugs!!!
Similar to my experience of coming out to my father as bi in my late teens and being told that it was not possible and that I would hate myself and regret it if I ever dated a woman - I'm now 30 and no longer in contact with my father and realised I am non binary and finally accepted that I'm not only bi but have a preference for women lol I'm so much happier since I finally accepted who I am
I was a "tomboy" as a little girl. Didn't want to brush my hair, felt uncomfortable with gender expectations, was generally rough & tumble and wanted to run around outside and climb trees, and would hide and ask Mom to order me the boy's Happy Meal bc they had cooler toys. And even so, I never doubted that I was a girl, because I'm a cis woman. I was just less feminine and girly. If someone had asked me I would have expressed this. I was finding my own gender expression but knew I was female, just like a trans kid would know they were trans. Why can't people understand these simple distinctions?
ppl also don't understand that having nonbinary identities and allowing free gender expression can prevent ppl from medically transitioning. enby-phobes force ppl to pick a side, pressuring some ppl to fully transition, just so their masculinity/femininty feels recognised
i was mostly a “tomboy” as well, but with a little bit of girly girl in there lol. i wanted Hot Wheels sometimes and Barbies other times. but that doesn’t mean i’m gender-fluid. i’m still a cis woman. liking “boy stuff” doesn’t make you a boy, just as liking “girl stuff” doesn’t make you a girl.
"just like a trans kid would know they were trans" - Kids dont really know crap though. I mean i thought, actually no, I was CERTAIN I was a cat as a kid. most kids are way too young to know what transgenderism or being transgender is. No hate at all, please educate me if im wrong about anything im trying to learn more about the subject (It also really depends what you age mean by the word kids, since kids come as young as 4 to as old as 12)
I'm a cis woman who's had a lot of transmasc friends and a lot of mental health difficulties and not once have I thought "if I was trans like my friends my life would be so much easier". Ridiculous claim 😭 One of those friends actually also detransitioned and I have never seen that as a reason to deny trans kids their rights, and neither does she because we're not absolute melons
Okay. Explain to me why a 12 yr old should be able to vote. Or a 10 yr old can drive. Or a 6 yr old can have a beer… It’s almost like they’re not of age to make such life-altering decisions. Kids can’t consent to renting a carpet shampooer let alone consenting to becoming a eunuch at age 15. Kids don’t get certain rights for very important reasons. Now please exercise your right to shut up.
@@thrillhovanhouten253 Denying trans kids the healthcare they need is harmful and bad and you're a bad person for advocating for this sh-t. Please stop being part of the problem.
@@thrillhovanhouten253 When a child is trans, they may take harmless and reversible hormone blockers (a medication cis children may also take for medical purposes) and “crossdress.” They don’t start hormone therapy until they are in their late teens (with parental consent and thorough medical evaluations) or adulthood at the earliest. Gender affirming surgery (another medical procedure that cis people also get) absolutely is NOT performed on a trans person until adulthood and a crap ton more medical evaluations, doctors discussions, and therapy visits are had. Furthermore, kids who are trans are trans REGARDLESS of whether they are or aren’t “allowed” to transition. Secondly, a child should be allowed to express that they are trans for the same reason that I, a girly-girl born and raised female, is “allowed” to express that I’m a woman via wearing pretty dresses with mary janes. An adolescent wearing comfortable clothes and asking for basic human decency is not the same as minor being allowed to drink alcohol, operate heavy machinery, enlist into the military, or perform promiscuous adult activities. If it’s the wellbeing of children you’re concerned about, fight against child marriage still being legal in most states, including Florida. With a parent’s permission, a kid as young as 13 can be forced to legally marry their adult abuser. That should be far more alarming and concerning than letting a child get medical treatment from professionals that’s literally harmless at worst and lifesaving at best.
@@thrillhovanhouten253buddy your response is poorly written. It makes sense but is more or less one sided. I could respond in kind but I’ll refrain. While you do make a good point on the maturity of kids, I’ll do you one better. There are these things called doctors. They can advise kids to make sure both come to a good conclusion on what is best for the child in question. Some children know very well what their gender is, and of those that wish to transition, thymes should have the ability to do so, but using doctors and agreement between child and parent, the kids who are less sure can be sorted out.
@@Amara87387 Of course my comment is one sided. Because CHILDREN. CANNOT. CONSENT. Our entire society is centered around the adults protecting the kids. I don’t care if a million doctors say a kid can choose his gender. It’s still incredibly dangerous to let kids get sterilized, never getting a chance to consider becoming parents SOMETIMES MORE THAN A DECADE BEFORE THEIR BRAIN FULLY DEVELOPS. Furthermore, there are countless cases of kids getting “approved” by “doctors” to take body-destroying hormones or for a 16 year-old to get her breasts cut off AFTER ONLY A COUPLE CONSULTATIONS. Do you really think a child can understand the lifelong ramifications of getting his penis cut off because a doctor said it was okay after a couple hours?? Step back and listen to yourself, man. Children should be protected, NOT experimented on. And anyone who says minors should get the choice to be castrated is not only the problem, but is cancerous and unfit to be a parent.
The only thing easy about being trans is now I don't have to buy much gifts for the holidays since most of my family disowned me. But totally the "easy solution" being trans *roll eyes*
it clearly isn't, and I'm sorry to hear you're struggling. However, some young naive kids might think it is, like those from severely homophobic households. Kc miller talked about that. And mental health problems, trauma and stereotypically opposite sex tendencies may sometimes be mistaken for the want to transition. Shapeshifter is another example of that, there are many others on Benjamin Boyce's channel.
I am a straight cis woman who has a lot of "androgynous" hobbies, interests, and clothing. The only people who have ever questioned my sexuality/identity are my far-right relatives. I have never been pressured by any of my LGBTQIA+ friends to be anything other than the person that I am
I had a therapist first say it’s terrible they’re giving kids irreversible surgery and hormone treatment and then proceeded to ask me if I had ever questioned my gender. I haven’t. I’m happy being a cis lesbian. But imagine if I was a trans person that had just turned 18 and getting this lecture when considering telling their therapist… Not going to her anymore.
@@nono-gw7qm Eee- that was the same with my first therapist. Except I am actually trans. The thing is, she also dismissed the emotional abuse I got from my mom because she was *really* biased in the fact that she was a mom and also had the same mindset as my mom. I'm so glad my second therapist was so different and made me feel safe
Same. When I was around 12 I wore unisex clothing and didn't feel comfortable wearing dresses. Not a single therapist, or anyone in fact, pushed me to become trans. "Heteronormatives" are the ones inflicting traumas forcing people to dress and act in certain ways. (Also cis straight woman in case anyone wonders)
@@yani-madara2835 Okay that is very true too. Although I am a trans guy, I've always absolutely loved feminine clothes since I was a child. I found "man" clothing boring and always wanted to walk around in skirts and dresses with some bow. Sad part is, even if I was raised as a "girl", my mom, a tomboy with a conservative mindset, never wanted me in any type of skirt or anything with a slight heel. She wanted me cute but without those, and I actively caught myself trying on skirts and heels when she wasn't around. It still goes on today because I am still with her.
By the way when this girl says ,,When I was on the left'' she actually means when I wasn't interrested in politics. If you were to watch her video about leaving the left, it's basically her complaining that her more progressive friends called her out for being homophobic and ( I think ) racist even. She never actually seemed to hold any sort of leftist positions, it's just a one huge grift.
Can’t believe I watched that video last year and I was manipulated by her. I was feeling down during that time, thank god I got out of that alt right pipeline. I don’t get the point of making that type of content just make gaming or music content.
I’ve seen her channel. She’s actually being insanely hypocritical. She makes fun of “mOdErN wOmEn” on her channel. She doesn’t actually believe any of it. She doesn’t care what she says as long as it paints trans people badly.
“it honestly scares me to think what i could’ve done with this information as a kid”… …it honestly scares me what she’s doing with this misinformation as an adult 💀
It scares me that gender questioning children may be surrounded by nonsupportive transphobes. If her parents are like her, yeah, I'm scared of what her childhood would have looked like. The problem isn't the gender affirming care. It's the transphobia.
I'm someone who questioned my gender and explored the possibility that I was nonbinary in my late teens. I very quickly realized it wasn't for me because the idea of not being female and being addressed as anything other than female was distressing. Gender dysphoria is something that happens to cis people too as I found out. However, unlike the person Jamie was reacting to in this video, I'm aware that the world does not revolve around me, and therefore, there are people out there with experiences different from mine.
75% of 600 people surveyed said they regretted their tattoos. Don't see that getting banned. Shockingly, us adults can make these calls for ourselves, and if it makes us feel better, then good.
I agree with one caveat. The first tenet of the medical community is to do no harm. If doctors are having these conversations with other doctors and backing them up with studies done to the same standards required, I'm fine with that. I also suspect the > 1-2% regret rate will prove such discussions a non-issue. Septoplasty, the repair for a deviated septum, has something like a 15% regret rate and is still a routine procedure done to correct difficulties in breathing.
Ay I think the point in the hormone thing is that it could cause permanent damage to your reproductive system and all that, or if it doesn't cause damage then irreversible changes so if a teen thinks they're trans when they're not and their parents blindly agree it could cause them to transition and maybe a couple years later they may want to de-transition but they can't go back to their own body. The point I'm tryna make is tattoos are less dangerous than transitioning with misguidance that you're trans when you're not. I probs got a few facts wrong but that's the general idea. No disrespect btw
I grew up a tomboy. I grew up hating puberty and what it did to my body. I grew up catcalled and experiencing all the negatives about being a woman. Not once did I ever think "If only I could become a man, things would be so much easier!" You know why? Because I'm not trans. I'm a cis woman who doesn't like gender norms but I've never once felt like a man, or fantasized about being one. If someone had told me I was a man for being less feminine I would've laughed in their faces. I hate the argument that all tomboys or girls who hate puberty want to transition cause its simply not the case
Next to it not being the case, the idea tries to insist that (like is pointed out in the video) there's some secretive society ripping children away when they are like that and pushing them into treatment. It completely ignores the fact that even if a parent would massively overreact and request an intake at a gender clinic after seeing 1 single case of gender non-conforming behavior, there is still a whole gender clinic's team of doctors that will make as sure as possible that the children that do not belong in their treatment programs will be kept out of it. The theory likes to heavily suggest that gender clinics are practicing medicine by having medical malpractice on a massive scale each day, to the point that it would be absolutely wild how fast they would get shut down pending investigations due to complaints... It ignores the identity of people (and especially transboys or cis-girls who are lesbian or having strong tomboy behavior tendencies) in general, and ignores the fact that there's a bunch of doctors who hold a degree to treat us well. To me it always boils down to: "If you can't trust a hospital's critical thinking skills in treating their patients, who or what can you still trust?"
As a trans person who goes through a lot of emotional distress when viewing this kind of content, I have a lot of respect for people like Jamie who are willing to take the time and unpack why it’s wrong. I might not always be able to stomach these kinds of reaction videos, but I’ll always give my engagement. You’re truly braver than the troops, Jamie!
I cannot believe that a single person believes that a teenager would sit there and go "oh wow male privilege is real.... Time to be trans, that's much easier!" It's luuuuuudicrous.
It's the same when people try to use the argument (like she did) that people are transitioning to avoid being gay. As if there's so much less discrimination against trans people than against gay people (of course there's still plenty of discrimination against gay people but it's ridiculous to think there's LESS against trans people). And also as if a large percent of trans people don't also identify as gay/lesbian/bi/pan/etc!!
As a cis teen girl, that sort of thing shocks me the most. That’s obviously not why trans people transition. It’s just amazing(/neg) that anyone would think transitioning is this simple and easy process that you don’t spend years thinking about and then years trying to get treatment for. Plus the agony someone feels as a kid when it comes down to “Why am I different?”. Moral of the story, I grew up around a lot of trans and non-binary friends, many of them being ftm. And I grew up around a lot of male privilege too, and yet, I’m not trans. It’s not a social thing, and it’s not a ‘hey being a dude is easier’ thing. It’s just an identity thing, and it’s not something people take advantage of.
No kidding. Cis hetero male privilege is real. Doesn't mean life is easy for trans men. Being a woman causes a lot of issues, but I've never considered going on hormones and getting surgery to try to avoid sexism. That would be the wrong fit for me and would just cause it's own prejudicial issues. Would rather just... You know... Fight for equal rights?
I am a trans man and most of my friends are cis women I have never tried to "turned them trans" I just talk about my experience sometimes because they are my friends and I feel comfortable to talk to them about my gender. And one of then is a very masculine presenting woman.
Talk to them ONCE? Bullshit, it took me four docs and seven years to get a hysterectomy I needed for MEDICAL REASONS!!!!! The first doc told me to "stop being dramatic". Yes, I can totally see how *passing out from your cramps* is dramatic. 🤬 How dare I? Oh, and it took till the fourth doc to get pain relief that wasn't "Well, you should try ibuprofen". Like yeah, I'm 19, do you really think I never thought to try one of the most common OTC pain meds available that I told you all of 90 seconds ago didn't do shit for me? You mean that med? Yeah no, I definitely haven't tried it. 🤦♂️
My daughter is 13. Her best friend is a transgender boy. Another close friend is gender fluid. My 18 YO is male, but bisexual. My daughter was very much a ‘Tom boy’, actively rejected all things girly, so I chatted with her about it. She was very clear that while she felt some peer pressure to think about her gender, nope, she is very much female. She said that even if she wanted to pretend to be a boy, it would be silly, it’s just not who she is. The girl in this video has no idea who she is. Her identity has been formed by outside factors, and she hasn’t been faced with deciding who she really is. We are all faced with that eventually, and it changes how we accept others. She’s too young and privileged to have a clue what it’s like to fight for your identity.
Identities are always influenced by external factors. Identity is a system of representations (things we see and learn as a part of a culture/society) and relations. We need others to know who we are.
@@bunnybird9342 Misha Petrov. She had a video go sort-of viral if I say that correctly that was titled "Why I left the left", while having talking points in that video that basically showed she had been anything but left in the past, but she probably noticed that she was to right for the left to fit in with them. Some of the talking points she had also were clear examples of falling for some of the conspiracy theories that JammiDodger mentions in this video. She used the right-wing version of the word woke, and used the word privilege a lot without acknowledging the fact that she has lived a very privileged life, and people tried to point out to her that her vision on some things seemed to exist merely for having lived that very privileged life, resulting in a very narrow view of the world in which she was completely unable to realize that some things might not be the same for everyone. Some people also suggested that she had never been invested in politics, and probably noticed that jumping on the (Extreme-)right bandwagon was a very good way to get attention and make money, possibly, and merely "found a way to justify her "leaving the left". This was further exemplified by the fact she never really made any "left-leaning" content before.
„Oh these poor kids will have permanent changes on their bodies, they’re too young to know what they want“ some transphobic mom that pierced her baby’s ear when they were 3 months old.
"We can't allow people to get surgeries they may regret later" >circumcises literal infants without consent for entirely aesthetic reasons and calls people who question this "extremists" and "SJWs" Conservatism: not even once.
Or mothers who forced their daughters to go into gymnastics or ballet at a young age - those both permanently alter your body when done early enough, which is actually why theres so much pressure to start them young
Transphobes: GENDER AFFIRMING CARE WILL CAUSE PERMANENT AND IRREVERSIBLE EFFECTS ON THE CHILDREN! Also, transphobes: circumcizing their babies who have penises and doing SRS on intersex babies without a second thought, and without the baby's consent.
I remember when my nephew was 8 and still my niece. He was at a baseball summer camp and wouldn't say anything to the coaches when they called him by male pronouns instead of female. When my sister (his mom) informed them that they were incorrect in his gender, he got really upset and spoke up and said, "No, mom! I like when they call me a boy." I had commented that I was impressed that he was showing such a strong identity for himself at that age and my sister yelled at me that he was a "tomboy" and nothing else and I needed to shut up and try not to make him be that way. First, I never talked to him. I was only talking to her. Second, I was a "tomboy" when I was a kid. I was amazing at catching tadpoles for bait like the rest of the boys but I knew even then that I was very much a girl who would secretly laugh a little harder at a particular boy's jokes. Either way, my sister went no contact with me for 7 years. When she decided to contact me again was when this child started asking about becoming a boy instead of girl. She again said it was my fault and that she would never talk to me again. Whatever. Now; however, my nephew is 16 and has friended me on Snapchat (I'm 50 and a boring housewife who only takes pictures of animals, nature and my kids so I have no other social media besides RU-vid and Snapchat) and has asked if when he turns 18 if he can come and live with my family. My sister fought his understanding of his identity for years! How would that crap she all said fit in with this narrative?
@@berrysnowyboy5251 she is. I always found it amazing that we were related. She's tried contacting my kids on social media to get them to listen to her and tell her bad things about me but they're both like, "not my monkey, not my show."
@@3ch1dna07 honestly, kudos to your kids for not taking any of her nonsense, and big oof that your sister tried (and even failed) to convince them to listen to her and her nonsense.
@@3ch1dna07 wait, so your sister didn't want you to even speak to her child but then tried to talk shit about you to your children? She sounds absolutely wonderful
I'm honestly so sick of transphobia, it's not being trans that's causing me stress, it's transphobia, I'd still be just a stressed about transphobia even if I wasn't Like yes! I as a transman am SO happy that I GENUINELY have to fear for my life if anyone found out, why wouldn't I do that 😍
There are also a f-ton of older transmasc people who only transitioned in the last 5 - 10 years or so. Myself included. Because we can now. Not because not some teenager peer pressured us. Just one of the many reasons why this contagion theory is so incredibly stupid and detached from reality.
Working in 85+ healthcare from their home; many that "missed the boat" and feel too old (I mean for reasons they get help at home.. often medical issues due to old age; can understand it feels scary and NVM when thinking about medical help to change to true gender) and have found their own ways to expres their true gender (or lack there of, and/of sexuality or lack there of) in their own way :) It is not new and never has.
I'm a 39 year old transman and just transitioning this year. After remaining in the closet for 17 years after realizing I was trans, precisely because people generally aren't accepting or affirming at all in rural southeastern US. I also find their arguments that transmen are just lesbians seeking social acceptance funny since I'm happily married to a cis man.
Myself included. No one ever told me I was trans or a boy. People saw me as a tomboy and were fine with that. I am 35 and came out almost 2 years ago. Been on T for 3 months. The first time I ever wondered if I was trans was when I was 20 and I dismissed the thoughts for 13 YEARS bc my life was hard enough and I did not need one more reason to be marginalized. No one goes and looks for “oppression points” and NO one tells any one that they may be trans. That’s just not how things work, ever.
I meet a few older transmasc people (one of which acts more like a dad than my own father) who only transitioned in the last few years. It's been great to have their voices since I feel sometimes I don't belong in certain trans spaces due to the over dominance of trans feminine people and some of those people made me unwelcomed due to the hostility toward more masculine things (I understand not liking it for yourself but don't tell trans masc people why the hell would they want to be a man and then point out their chest... I've had that happen a few times)
As a trans guy who transitioned in his 30s starting in 2018, annoys me to no end when people talk about the increase in open trans people being a trend. Social media, etc. does play a role but not at all in the way they talk about it. RU-vid gave me examples of people like me, living authentically and happily that let me know I COULD transition and be happy. It didn’t MAKE me, it just opened a door for me that I had never even known was there and keeping me trapped and miserable in the first place.
Exactly! RU-vid opened the door for me, too. I'm a trans woman, but it was actually Jamie and other trans men on RU-vid who helped me to realize I'm trans. I had always assumed that being a woman was just obviously better, and that everyone would want to be a woman if they could, and therefore what I was feeling was just what everyone felt. Trans men made me realize that there actually are people who want to be men; I'm just not one of them.
It's not the same thing (obviously), but some trans friends of mine have said it sounds about right: I have literally never believed in God, even when I can remember believing in Santa. I mean - I was a Christian! My parents were Christians! I went to church! ObViOuSlY I believed in God. What kind of person doesn't? And all these adults around me clearly do believe and have some kind of feeling when they talk about it, and they seem pleased if I talk about it too, so it must be true. I don't think I feel the way they feel and thinking about God doesn't actually give me comfort and I try to pray but I just feel like no one's listening but...that's normal. Everybody feels like this. EVERYBODY FEELS JUST LIKE THIS. And...if they don't, and I feel different, it's because there's something wrong with me, but I can fix it. And then I met people online who said, "Yeah, I think God isn't real" and it was like coming home. Bear in mind here, my parents belong to a leftist social justice church. (Yes, that's a real thing. If you're about to scoff at it, find me one verse where Jesus says, "Rich people are better than poor people, and also if you have a penis you can't use the ladies' room".) This wasn't about being afraid I'd be kicked out of the house because I made eye contact with a boy or something. Honestly, I share about 99% of my parents' beliefs to this day. There was no malevolence, no active coercion involved. It was just about trying to believe one particular thing when many parts of myself rebelled against it being true. And if even a person in the most accepting home in the world can struggle to go against the most passive weight of familial expectation, I can't imagine what it would be like for something where you can't even hide it from strangers on the street, like your gender presentation. So yeah, I think about kids who grew up before I did and never met or heard from a single person who said, "I'm an atheist." If that had been me, who knows, I might have taken decades - maybe a lifetime - to come to terms with myself. Being in touch with people who named themselves and told me about experiences that resonated with my own meant that I could put a name to what I was, beyond "unhappy" and "confused". And I'm sure there are people who would say that if I'd just "stuck with" Christianity I would have eventually come to terms with it too. That I was unhappy and confused because I was a teenager, not because I'm "really" an atheist, and aren't I glad I didn't make any irreversible decisions on that basis? And to those people, I say, get wrecked. First, it's incredibly patronizing. But second, I named myself an atheist at fifteen and haven't looked back in twenty years. Is twenty years long enough to spend agonizing over feeling excluded from God's love before earning the right to say "f*ck this" and start building a life around one's own truth? (Spoiler: their answer is always "no". They will always tell you it's too soon to make such a decision. They don't care if you die miserable as long as their own beliefs can stay intact.) I could start talking about my bisexuality but this comment is already way too long. This is a huge reason why I'm passionate about trans rights, even as a cis person. Nobody says things like "I'm a man with a vagina" or "I'm a woman with a penis" because it's cool. They do it because even in the face of an entire culture telling them they're wrong, they can't continue to live otherwise.
It was literally exactly the same for me. I transitioned at 31 and part of the reason I even learned I could was because I had a much younger sibling who made me get a tumblr so we could follow each other, and for the first time I got to see trans masc people through their own lens living their own lives. Social media just put a word to the feelings and experiences I was already having and honestly being REALLY depressed about and feeling broken because of.
@@fnjesusfreak Yes. I'm starting my transition now, at age 47. I had never really applied the label "trans" to myself before, but I've had a feeling that I was supposed to have been a girl, at least since kindergarten. (So, that's been 42 years or more that I've been feeling that way.) That's pretty clearly not a phase. I wish I'd had the knowledge and confidence to label myself "trans" decades ago.
I grew up in an anti-lgbtq+ environment. I didnt get to really think and explore what i feel my gender is until I was 22. I'm 24 now and been on T for 10 months. I've never been so happy ever in my life.
@@electroskates2434actually it was around 40% before they started T, it is now down to probably 5% and shrinks each time they feel more and more comfortable in their own skin
It's so uncomfortable to hear that. I also living in anti-lgbtq country. As well as it environment. I must say I'm a non binary, somehow coming out is difficult and it doesn't have to be. I'm 24. I wish I can wear whatever I please. Please take care. Love❤
As a trans man WHO IS GAY and suddenly faces a lot of questions and backlash for being interested in men.. I despise this woman. 🦆 her for implying people are trans because they are interested in their own gender. 🦆 that.
I'm 36 now. I was 28 when I learned about being trans. I didn't have any trans people around me at 28, I never knew it was an option and neither did my parents. I could only seek help after learning what was ailing me
@@chesh1rek1tten I'm 32 and have known I'm trans for about a year (a little more, maybe). I am a lesbian because I'm trans and attracted to women. I thought I was a cis/het man, and then I identified with asexuality before figuring out that I'm a trans lesbian.
Same. I'm also a gay trans guy. I finally figured out I was trans when I was around 45 and began my medical transition at 46, after a year in therapy (I'm 51 now). The lack of visibility of trans men in the media kept me from realizing I was more than just a 'tomboy.' Thank goodness for RU-vid and people like Jamie!
If I had this info as a kid, I would probably not have gone my entire life being incredibly depressed and confused about why I hate everything about life so much. I would've learned before age 20 what "trans" was, and I would've been able to get treatment before age 25. Life would be so much different, and better, had I known this stuff when I was a young trans child.
@@theavanguardista calling for someone to end their life is sickening. It's not funny, edgy, clever or badass. It's just showing that you CHOOSE to be nothing more than scum
Wow I guess I am nonbinary cause I am not oppressed enough as a black disabled person who was assigned female at birth. Thank you cis white woman for telling me this information. Guess I will detransition now /s
Please say you're joking, I'm going to talk to my gp about E on friday. If he denies help I'm going to a clinic but 10 months sounds like my anxiety is gonna get the best of me.
It's like as an afab non-binary person, some of her arguements at the start were stuff I genuinely had to think through when coming to realise my gender. Me being non-binary isn't just internalized misogyny or thinking women are inferior, no, I am just not female, I do not feel this gender. And realising this has actually made me be able to truly accept women so much more than before because I can finally accept that I'm not a part of that gender.
I haven't watched the video yet, I was just scrolling comments, but if internalized misogyny and thinking women are inferior is the cause for afab people to become trans or nonbinary, damn I'm doing it wrong LOL I love women and I think women are amazing, but I also know that I am not one. Wow... I'm going to be thinking about this for the next few hours.
Having the right vocabulary and the right definitions are essential. Younger me saying: I don't want to be seen as a girl or I don't want to be treated as a girl. May be understood as I don't want to be seen as less because I'm female. But me being genderfluid (probably agender at that moment) didn't mean that. Being out to myself make me appreciate more women / men / and many other possibilities on the gender spectrum. Thinking that non-binary people are misogynist is just non base speculation.
I had an almost impossible time calling people "women" until I accepted that I was non-binary and I never could understand why it felt like such a weird word. Now I can see the women around me as women and not get extremely uncomfortable because it feels like I'm supposed to be more like them but don't know how. Of course society is influencing how many trans and non-binary people there are, because now the people who would have just suffered their whole lives not knowing why are able to come out instead
@@paigeseliger836 You said the things I wanted to say in better ways than I could ever say it, this was a big part of my experience, and for the longest time I was just thinking 'why??' and not even considering that I'm non-binary because I didn't have the vocabulary then!
Agreed. My literal girlfriend is trans, the human being which I am the closest to. I am cis and I wasn't pressured to be trans. Actually, I realised on a deeper lever that I am cis. When I called my girlfriend her chosen name and real pronouns, she had a beautiful smile on her face. If you called me by a name and pronouns that were not assigned to me at birth, it would not do that to me.
@emmaxdrawer5208 well that sucks for you ig. I'm just saying that even if it has happened to like, two people in the world doesn't mean it happens to everyone
@@Hackfishy maybe you are older than the people who this is happening to because my the kids who were born in my year, this is happening to all of them, I saw it when I was in middle school and now high school, it is not two people for context i’m in high school now so maybe you are just out of the demographic
14:33 I'm afab non-binary. When I was a kid I disliked as much feminine stuff and tried really hard to fit in with "the boys" and noone came ever up to me and said "Oh. You must be a boy." or "You're so boyish." No! People kept calling me a princess and gifted me make-up and dolls and dresses
My parents are extremely transphobic and homophobic and religious, and they watch TV a lot. Every once in a while they watch anti-LGBTQ+ videos and stuff. I am a queer Christian, always have been, and I have to hear that stuff being blasted through the house. It insults me but it also makes me want to laugh because everything their videos are claiming about the LGBTQ+ community is wrong. I almost feel bad for my parents feeling like they to drown themselves in hate over LGBTQ+, and claiming that it's wrong without having anything to back up their claim.
When this person talks about how having masculine girls and feminine boys is good and okay...she reminds me *so much* of the people who bullied me for being a masculine afab child. Edit: I'm 35 now and have been out as nb for like...12 years. This person seems so, so much like a bully. I hope they come around.
I'm 26 amab came out as NB in January 2022, it's hard because everybody still calls me my dead male pronouns. It hurts, and I hate my body so fucking much.
And these people are never really okay with masculine girls and feminine boys. They only use it as a talking point when it might help their narrative. They dump it right after
@@Vahlee-A that's one of the most frustrating things as Non Binary people. And especially enbys with deeper voices :( People tend to go with one set of pro nouns or the other based on trivial little ideas they have about what gender should be... I'm so sorry. I hope you find some friends and places that are affirming for you
Just sharing my experience: I’m a cishet woman and through my high school years I witnessed most of my close friends transitioning and coming out as part of the LGBTQ community (just making this clear, I am so so soooo happy they confided in me with that and they’re all doing so much better now). I sort of felt some peer pressure to fit into that. I questioned if I should also be identifying as non binary or bi, those things didn’t come from them influencing me but from a place of inadequacy, I wasn’t confident in who I was back then. When the girl mentioned that teenage girls nowadays are questioning if they’re trans or nb, I remember going through that, however I am of the firm belief that more people questioning and experimenting (even if they’re cishet) is way better overall. There’s nothing wrong with exploring or questioning who you are anyway, it’s just part of life
@@trevorchester4439 quick question are you mad nobody's liking your comments and nobody agrees with you because you're a bigot? Just want to know real quick
Yep, if exposure=identity I would be straight. But I'm not, I'm aroace. The only positive relationships I saw portrayed were straight ones. Hell the first "gay" kiss I saw was actually straight, a woman's consciousness ended up in a man's body (gotta love sci-fi). Oh, and I was in my teens by that point.
Yes Fr, there’s this detransition video going around and I watched it just too see if they had actual good points. It was just a teenage girl being like “ yeah I had a lot of gay friends” and said stuff like that, and I’m just sitting here like bestie nobody made you trans. It just got me pissed because the whole comment section was like “ preach “ “the young generation needs to hear this” and all of that, also there wasn’t even any proof that she ever actually transitioned at all ( socially or medically) so it might just be a publicity stunt or some shit
yeah it helped me to discover what i was because i didn't knew before i had the right to be an boy and that i had the right to not fall in love or feel sexual attration
She doesn't: those are just confused men wanting to have a legal basis for rape, according to her. You need to remind yourself that these people don't based their/an opinion on reason, but on bigotry, lies, hatred and disinformation, and are more than happy to spread disinformation themselves. That's true for the whole "anecdotal experience"-thing that these people love to regurgitate by claiming that "if I was born now I for sure was made to go on hormones for being a tomboy", but it's just as true as now suddenly being really concerned about all these "girls" seeking treatment, while obviously not giving a single flying fuck when it was boys in the past... These people are capable of saying that they want to protect women/girls, by showing how a deeply rooted form of sexism makes them say the thing about "these girls might not actually be transgender but just really easily influenced": it is suggesting that all women are stupid, easily deceived creatures because of how emotional they are. It tries to instill the idea that when there is legislation based against women (like for instance: the right to have an abortion), it is because "strong, logical men" are the much better party to make decisions on women's bodies that they thought through very well, after all, these women act on whims and emotion way to much... She thinks femininity is hated by everyone because she doesn't realize what it actually is, and has probably only seen the hyperextreme versions of it that most feminists also do not like to side with, just because it's not what they want to stand for.
I am 46 years old and roughly two months ago I finally came out as a Trans Woman. I've lived most of my life as a Cis Gay Male and I reached a boiling point and said flat out - I'm a woman. I am transgender. There are still so many stories about my process to share when I'm ready and willing other than what I've already shared on my own channel. Watching your channel has given me so much more insight into being trans and dealing with transphobia in a rational and sensical manner. Kudos! Thank you for this channel! I get to laugh, cry, smile, tear up and learn at the same time and knowing that you cite a ton of your information makes me trust you all the more. Excellent work, excellent and beautiful life. Please keep it up.
As a tomboy i don't ever want my existence to be used as fuel for hateful rhetoric. Love you all (Honestly my existence proves a difference in sex identity and what you enjoy)
@stop Igbt That's very cool. Please, go do that and hopefully it isn't like your shitty "I'm bombing the LGBT flag video" It sucked, you spent way too long on a shitty rendition of the Kaaba, that would insult Allah so much he'd kill himself. Christ almighty I've seen paintings made by five year old's that look better than that Kaaba.
It took me TWO AND A HALF YEARS from when I got on my first waiting list, until I was finally able to go on T. And I'm one of the lucky ones. Most trans people where I'm from have to wait for more than that to even have their first appointment.. I hate that people like her think it's so easy when it's really not.
i went on the waiting list at 14, waited a year for ONE APPOINTMENT and its another 2.5 years until i can be diagnosed with gender dysphoria. i will be 17 and a half at least before getting on t 🫤
I managed to get HRT started within a year, but I was 26, my psychologist understood that this was not a new idea for me and worked to find loopholes to help me. Other trans people where I am wait 2 to 4 years on average to get their HRT.
Yeah, they seem to think it's like getting headache tablets or something - when it is oh, so much more complicated than that. Absolute best of luck to you!
They don't think it's easy, they're just lying, they couldn't care less about what is and isn't the truth, trying to argue logically with people who came to their worldview through anything but logic is a waste of time.
I’m in the process of going on T and it’ll be ~ a year or so before I can go on it, and several years before being approved for surgery, and the only reason I’m going through the process so quickly is because I’ve been documented as being out as trans for over 4 years. It takes. So long.
THANK YOU JAMIE. I have horrible OCD, and all of her talking points have been swirling around in my head for 30 years. I finally just came out as non-binary, (they/them) and it's been rough. I've needed this video for so long. You challenged every thought I've had, every horrible doubt, and made it make sense in a way I couldn't for myself. No matter how much of an ally I am, I have horrible imposter syndrome, and have basically been trying to conversation therapy myself to "prove" that I'm not deluding myself about who I am. I think maybe that part of my brain can get some rest now. I wish I could give you a hug, and bake you a cake or something. Happy New Year!! 🙏💖🏳️⚧️
I'm not even LGBTQIA+ but the amount of transphobia that's been popping up lately is genuinely painful to see, espeically since I have friends in the community. I can't imagine how much more hurtful it must be for LGBTQIA+ people. Also, there's always been a strange argument that just simply teaching kids that LGBTQIA+ people exist, children will be "brainwashed". Well, what about places where being LGBTQIA+ gets you killed or imprisoned, or made into a social pariah? That never stopped them from existing in those places, and if anything, hurt people way more than helped. Or is that the kind of country they want America to become?
Honestly, I didn't know much about the transgender community. I was aware that there are transgender people in the world, but I didn't know much about the process of transitioning and what it feels like to be trans prior to transitioning and after transitioning. Watching you and other transgender RU-vidrs has taught me a lot about the experience. People that claim things as facts without taking the time to research it are just causing damage. It's not that hard to talk to trans people and ask them about their story and gather research to properly present actual facts and not opinions that they may think of as facts. I'm glad that there are transgender RU-vidrs who are debunking these "facts" because they have gone through the experience.
Honestly, I'm trans and I didn't know how we feel until I listened to other trans people's experiences and then realised most of my problems with myself were just me being trans. This is why we need gender education in schools tbh
@@Jane-oz7pp Exactly. Bad part is not everyone is that willing to change their opinions because they aren't open-minded and that's probably why it's gonna take the same amount of effort to give LGBTQ+ rights and a safe space (mostly) in society as it took to give people that weren't white rights and a safe space in society.
@@Jane-oz7pp Yes, me too, exactly! I've known how I feel since kindergarten, and I've known trans people existed since I was 15 or so, but I didn't actually realize that how I feel is exactly how trans people feel, until I was 47. So much time lost.
Yep. It is amazing! It harasses and misgenders many! How great! It is also very transphobic and parents are picking this up for their nb, trans, transmasc, transfem, or maybe cis child! OMG, what a great book! (Obvious sarcasm!)
I feel like I'm having braincells die off listening to her. I'm only half done and I can guarantee that if it wasn't for Jamie chiming in I wouldn't have listened to her for more than 90 seconds because holy crap Someone send her a book that actually teaches facts
The girl's like 16; chances are she was never to the left anyway. She stinks of privileged rich "pick me" girl parroting talking points that she thinks will get her attention.@@Dutch3DMaster
It's so ironic that she doesn't realize that telling women that they're more likely to feel pressured to fit in and just do stuff because others are doing it, she's being massively patronizing and infantilizing the very women she claims to want to help
It’s such a dumb argument. Saying groups of separate people do the same thing for one same reason is always stupid. I mean saying people transition because living as a man is easier is a dumb argument.
I'm transmasc as well, and when my egg cracked I remember crying for so long. I remember how terrible my parents took it when I came out to them (they're better now) and how horrible I felt about my life and even wondering if I was going to have a future. Transphobes spewing lies saying "oh it's so accepted nowadays" piss me off so much. It's really not. The argument "women transition into men because it's easier" is so stupid because even though men aren't oppressed, being trans comes before any of that. Being transgender isn't easy. Transphobes need to open their goddamn eyes and see the destruction they're doing by spilling oil and lit matches everywhere.
For quite a while I thought I was a trans guy, socially transitioned and everything but recently I’ve did a lot of thinking and understanding more about myself (like the fact I have autism) and honestly don’t really know anymore. I may be I may not be. But one thing I am sure on is how grateful I am on is the fact I was able to socially transition and begin a journey of finding out who i am. I don’t think I would have been able to be comfortable with myself for a long time if I hadn’t. I think being able to take some time to explore things like gender identity should be more accepted, wether the person ends up being trans or not they should have support through the whole process. Also thanks for making such informative videos Jamie :)
Totally agree, the freedom to experiment, especially at a younger age, really ought to be normalized. If someone genuinely wants people to not "mistakenly" identify as trans, they should be accepting of experimental social transition and try to mentally decouple gender and physiology.
Regardless of what gender you are, that's completely okay! Exploration is a very vital part of self discovery, and I think it's very cool that you've shared your story. I hope you figure out your gender, and have a very nice day :)
Yeah its good to experiment to know yourself better. It sucks people use this questioning phase as a way to invalidate people. Like what is the harm of maybe exploring being bi or gay or just using different pronouns and dress differently for a bit to see if they fit u. Its always weird that people don't want you to know more about yourself
Yay fellow autistic. So glad you have the freedom to explore and find your authentic self (including gender or possibly lack thereof). Don't let anyone rush you, figuring out yourself can be a journey with either autism or gender identity let alone both.
It generally sickens me that people like this exists and go about their entire life spreading the kind of nonsense that this lady has just shot out of her mouth. Jamie I want to thank you personally and specifically for making videos like this because I for one am not seen this original video nor would I have ever picked up that book that they mentioned so many times, and I got to say that it is a wonderful thing for you to shine so much light on this topic that really does need affirming. God bless ❤
Holy shit this is a paragraph I was going through something Also TW I mention some sensitive stuff down there That whole,"They want to be opressed" thing is so dumb. As a trans man, I have felt terrified of the judgement of others and just want people to see me as a dude just being a dude. I would have frequent thoughts that someone would hurt me or do something bad to me whenever something seemed off or I expressed my transness out in public. When I walked to pride parades alone with a flag tied to by back, I always worry about getting shot/beaten up. Whenever I would lose my stuff when I was in middle school, I had intrusive thought like "My backpack is gone. Maybe some kid saw the pride button on it and stole it." To this day, I've only corrected one person for misgendering me; my mom. Not once have I said to anyone, "Hey, my pronouns are he/him, remember?" Why? I'm afraid of someone lashing out at me and seeing me as this "triggered sjw" or whatever bullshit. Basically, I often felt I had to be "not-like-the-other trans people" or somewhat of a "pick me trans." Why? Out of fear of opression, bullying, rude remarks, etc. The biggest thing that tears me down is that so many problems could have been avoided if I had just been born male. No period, no fear of being oppressed, no disordered eating, less depression, and no needing to pay hundreds and hundreds of dollars just to feel a sliver of the comfort and euphoria that cis people feel every day. I wouldn't have to pay money to feel like I was in the right body, I wouldn't have intrusive thoughts of people hate criming me. The supposed people she's talking about "who want to feel opressed" probably don't actually want to be opressed. Most people have watched the news. They've read the articles. They've seen the statistics. No one is really that willing to go through a whole medical transition that lasts YEARS just to fear being denied healthcare, getting r@ped or physically harmed, getting kicked out of their house, getting bullied online and irl, getting stereotyped and misrepresented, and constantly being the butt of the joke. Being trans is beautiful, and I'm proud to be trans. But if I had the choice, I would be a cis man. Why? So I wouldn't have to pay fuckloads of money just to want to live in my body, and so that I don't have to fear being beaten up when I walk down the street. So yeah, no trans people "want to be opressed." In fact, we are trying extremely hard to conform and be "as cis as possible" for acceptance, and in some cases, even safety reasons. Most trans people wish they were cis, or were at least treated as such. I just want to be a man in peace. If I wanted to be opressed, I could just do anything that would make me a minority that doesn't cost money or change my entire life. Do you think trans people WANT to get hate crimed????? Damn english teacher are u proud of me? 😌
I'm a 63 year old cis het woman, so social media has only been around for a small part of my life, but I do know that seeing trans people like Jamie doesn't 'influence' anyone who is not trans to be trans. I do think Jamie and others like him are a really positive prescence, as role models and providers of real information and experience, and making it clear that people of all types have their own paths to follow and there is no 'one size fits all' answer. So they may spark a recognition in people who don't have the language or knowledge but also know that in some way they 'don't fit', who may then explore further and realise they have a different gender identity. I also know that it has always been that way - historically many gay and lesbian folks only realised what they were when they first met other queer people, or when they read something that described what they were (even medical textbooks) when they couldn't describe it themselves. There have also always been communities IRL which provided support and social opportunities, even when they could be arrested and jailed for it, but often those were not accessible to all for geographical or financial reasons, so social media is simply reaching more people - hence the 'numbers increasing'...
Preach. Contrary what many LGBTQ-phobes will try to say, it's not about young people seeing LGBTQ stuff and deciding to identify as LGBTQ because it's "trendy". It's about young people having easier access to resources and basically realizing "Oh heck, that's what I am". Therefore suddenly having labels that they can apply to themself, so that way they have a better understanding of themselves (and so others understand what they are). Aside from that, because of the boundless amounts of more accurate and positive information, people are starting to become more accepting of LGBTQ stuff. Which also means the people that knew what they were, but were afraid to come out about it, are also starting to come out. Which just bolsters those numbers of people who are confirmed to be LGBTQ.
Exactly, all that on top of trans and nonbinary people being ignored or rejected by (social) science(s) up until relatively recent history- from a eurocentric viewpoint!
Not true. There’s a huge difference between being gay or lesbian and the new trans contagion. The woman on this channel has many children and teenagers following her and if you read the comments you can see many, many of them acknowledging that she influenced them. You know very well that trans was not a thing until a few years ago, except in very rare cases; extremely few people your age have stated that they were trans all their lives, even fewer of them actually transitioned the past decade or so. Go watch shapeshifter and isaac uncooked for rational and insightful views on the present dangerous fad. This Jamie woman deserves to be sued by hundreds of parents, and in time she will be.
I love how you site everything you say. I am a professor in China and I use some of your videos for our unit on gender. The students love you and even go on to watch your videos after class. Thank you for providing accurate information :)
Yeah, if you're gonna argue that transitioning is bad because of a tiny regret rate, does that mean we should ban all marriages because 25% of all marriages end in divorce? No, that'd be crazy because _checks notes_ it was their choice and they should be allowed to make it? Oh, so you mean just like how it's each individual person's choice to transition? Right, so it's not "concern" , it's transphobia.
So glad to finally see someone talk about Misha and the dangerous mentalities she casually spreads as an anti trans movement. She managed to get away with bullying lgbtq+ youth mostly enbys and trans teens for way too long for simply DARING to be open on tiktok and figure out their identity targeting them for harassment knowing how vile her audience is. Thank you Jamie 🏳️⚧️ she doesn't deserve a platform I have no idea how youtubers like this aren't reported for hate speech
I find it hilarious as a trans man, when they say things like 'those young girls with 'masculine' hobbies, boom, they are 'turned' trans'. As a trans man, I have become MORE flamboyant and feminine since I came out because I am comfortable to, because gender expression, as always, is not gender identity!!
@@c4el4n You are a female. You are either a girl or a woman. You don't have a choice in the matter. You are also a homosapien. You can't change that either.
@albertgreen8347 so you are denying the extremely clear science, and disregarding my feelings (as someone who you don't even know)? that's bold, mate. I wouldn't comment transphobic things, there's no need. I know who I am, I listen to the science backing that. No need to try and discourage someone, uncaple of being discouraged.
@@c4el4n There is no such thing as transphobia. A phobia is a medically diagnosed mental illness and transphobia, like homophobia do not exist. Your feelings have no bearing on your biology. While I do have pity on your confusion, your sickness is detrimental to the well-being of other people.
The fact that I got slapped in the face with an absolutely stupid transphobic ad at the start of this video about a petition to ban gay marriage and equal rights for trans women…..my faith in humanity is dwindling
So… I’m a middle aged cishet lady and I don’t know how to convey this properly… but I’m so annoyed that you have to deal with this insane misinformation. Like… m new to all this and trying to educate myself just so I don’t accidentally hurt someone with careless language or lack of experience and it’s exhausting just for me to trudge through the BS to try to learn actual facts. I can’t FATHOM how it feels when these people misrepresent your very existence. I think you’re lovely, Jamie, and I really enjoy your videos. Please accept this internet hug.
Thank you for your kind and understanding efforts. People like you make trans lives (and lives in general!) so much better. The misinformation out there is staggering, and unfortunately it isn't just trans people who are affected by it. Thanks again. I hope you're doing well ❤️
Her argument about the "epidemic" stemming from hookup culture/the liberation of women is hilarious from my perspective as an aroace (who also isn't interested in relationships). Huge props to Jamie for pushing back against these bad faith arguments :)
Honestly, I'm shocked that she even knew what genderfluid people were... and yet, she's still transphobic. I'd rather not have her know I exist, thank you~
I always find the “teen girls are becoming NB/trans more than teen boys” headline so funny, because I’ve spent so much time in spaces where the main trans demographic is trans women. I’ve branched out a bit now, there are many masc NBs and trans men on tumblr, but it always feels like such a weird point. Btw, if you’re in a space of trans people of predominantly one gender, it’s worth seeing the other side as it gives a surprising amount of perspective.
It was so less "indoctrinated" into being a man for me so much as realizing all my greivances with being a girl and having physically girl traits weren't just me being a tomboy. It's almost like... education helps you learn more about yourself...
Like, I'm not trans for other people lmao. I'm trans for myself. Cause that IS myself. And the "getting approved for surgery without gender dysphoria" hits hard- there is ONE place about 2 hours from me that MIGHT take me in and even then, I'm not sure.
What a brave step at our age. I feel like my identity is so ingrained that I can’t imagine changing it now, but then, I’ve always been comfortable with my gender. Good for you!
@@karenneill9109 Thank you! And I totally understand, but honestly it was like I was pretending my whole life until I decided to finally be me. My name now feels right and my old name seems like it never fit.
@@Valerie_Valkyrie315 I’m so happy for you. What a difficult step it must have been, but it’s great to hear that you feel like yourself! Names are so funny, eh? My given name has become a bit burdensome lately, but for now it’s staying. I hope your family and friends are supportive of you.
@@karenneill9109 that’s the thing though- when you’re trans, you are not changing your gender. You’re just coming out about what that is, instead of the one you were erroneously assigned at your birth.
as a nonbinary person i had far more people try to convince me i was "just a tomboy" than people trying to convince me i was nonbinary (which no one does???) lmao
I'm just going to throw this out there: About ten years ago in my twenties I did not care for watching news stations, other than the weather, I did not care to have friends or "social circles", and focused on just having a job and keeping up with my family. I didn't keep track with politics or anything like that and was just generally removed from outside influences. With that said one day while out on a walk my mind wandered into thoughts like "what does it mean to be a woman", and "what does being a woman feel like." At this point I will add that I am a biological female. My thoughts also went to me saying that I felt like "me". I have only ever felt like "me". Other than the way I was born, everything else was society telling us that because of "what", we are born with we have to look and act certain ways and fall into the roles aligned with that gender and it was never mentioned about how we were supposed to feel to be it. It wasn't some sinister movement or whatever that told me to think like that. It was taking a step back, looking at our society and asking why everything is the way it is. I mean, it wasn't something that happened in an instance and was more moments that helped bring me to that conclusion. The force that harms the most is the one that says "if you're born this way, you have to live your life this way. And if you're born that way, then you have to live that way." And it is always the people touting "freedom", telling everyone else how to live.
I didn't realise I was transmasculine non-binary until I was 30. I saw my doctor when I was 31. I'm now 32 and am currently facing a wait of 5 years to have a first appointment at a GIC. What part of that is easy? I had to fight just to get my tubes tied after having two children; I can't imagine how difficult it's going to be to convince these doctors that I want hormones and surgery.
@Phil Davidson As an amab enby, I would have given anything to be able to have puberty blockers available when I was a teen/preteen. Give me time to think about what I want for myself and how I want my body to be, instead of coasting along like the physical vessel my brain pilots is some sort of defective mech-suit.
@Phil Davidson Insofar as you may ever know, treating "man" as the classification of physical sex and ignoring any use of it in relation to gender identity, it may or may not be my genitalia, my gonads, my chromosomes, my hormone levels, or literally any other marker of 'physical sex'. Do I have a dick? A vagina? Both? Neither? Am I XX or XY or X0 or XXY with a nonsense mutation on the Y that nullifies its coding and results in a physiological and biochemical development akin to XX? Or was I born with an active androgen-sensitivity gene on a non-sex chromosome pair and the sex-chromosomes had experienced a crossing-over event in cell-division. Any of a thousand possibilities exist just in terms of how I could be assigned male at birth by a doctor making the decision solely on whether they think what they see in the two minutes after I'm freshly born is or is not a penis, and yet have a physical sex that is not fully male or is partially female or is equal parts both. But, above and beyond that, there's the fact that physical sex is not gender identity. And even if I had all of those conditions simultaneously, if my gender identity was as a Man, I would still be cisgender and thus not be non-binary.
I waited 2 weeks short of 4 years to start hormones on the NHS (I was going private for 2 years while I waited) because I was waiting for so long,my family tried to force me to detranstion
i find it hilarious because i LOVE looking feminine, i love cooking, taking care of people, knitting, all the feminine things but still i am nb. Accepting i am nb made me love my feminine presentation even more because it feels like i do it because i like, not because i have to.
My social studies teacher did it when I brought in a 'current event' about a trans man was pregnant. It was awesome and eye opening to me, but my teacher was like "that's not a man, it's a woman that thinks she's a man." I lost so much respect for him after he said that.
You're spot-on with all your responses to this harmful rhetoric (as per usual). Plus, as a middle-aged gay trans man who transitioned later in life, she got my hackles up when she mentioned that you "don't see it in middle-aged women." Like BS... there are plenty of middle-aged trans men, but no one cares about us, do they? The focus is always on children and teens because that's what really gets people riled up.
People always talk about the irreversible consequences of puberty blockers when there aren't any. But what about the irreversible damage of going through the wrong puberty for you? I'm cis. I LOVE being a woman and as a kid I LOVED being a girl. My brothers are over 6 feet tall, extremely hairy, strong jaw/chin, broad shoulders, some of the biggest hands I've ever seen and my oldest brother has the biggest adams apple I've ever seen. If I were born male, I would have a VERY expensive transition into a woman because there's no way my mother would have let me take puberty blockers. I'd be getting my adams apple, brow ridge and jaw shaved down, but I'd never be able to do anything about my broad shoulders and large hands/knuckles. If you are a trans woman and have these features, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND VALID AF. I just know that for myself personally, having the very strong secondary male sex characteristics that my brothers have would give me crazy dysphoria. I have a family member who was assigned male at birth and they have all these features and they are actually a woman, but they will never transition #1 because of family and #2 because there's not enough surgery or money in the world to alleviate their dysphoria. It's sad. Let your kids take puberty blockers if they want them and the docs/psychologists are behind it. Your child has nothing to lose and most likely, much to gain.
It's very refreshing to hear this take from a cis person. Puberty is a wrecking ball of a process. It's disgusting that the rightoid fertility cult thinks it's appropriate to impose that upon an unwilling participant and baffling that they can't summon the basic empathy required to arrive at the same conclusion you've expressed.
I'm cis as well and started puberty at 10 and by 11 developed Endometriosis. Blockers would have saved me years of pain and damage until I could get my Endometriosis under control. My siblings developed PCOS around the same age and now has heart damaged from the anemia it caused. Blockers help everyone, they could do so much good regardless if you're cis or not
@@fallenking578 that’s like the whole thing with transphobes. They don’t want life saving gender affirming care for trans people to exist. But forget that cis people also need that type of care too.
Agreed. I’m transmasc and unfortunately have to go through a female puberty, and it would be so much nicer to go through a male one. So for now I have to live with my body changing in ways that are extremely uncomfortable for me mentally, and I will have to get surgery and a second puberty to get the body that feels most comfortable.
Not quite the same thing but I'm a cis woman with PCOS. And I'm not even fully going through male puberty or anything but the way my PCOS presents is I basically am currently on a medication to melt an ovary that's too large and producing a sht ton of T in my system. I cried over this many times. I hate it. My voice sounds as if old me had a cold. I have hair in places I never did before and they make me feel so ashamed. I'm this miserable over a handful of things (some of which I won't get into cause... Yuck). Transwomen who never got puberty blockers? My heart goes out to you. It would be infinitely worse.
I'm in uni learning how to do it right now, and believe me it is much harder than I thought it would be because we were never taught this in high school, but you're absolutely right.
I'm always so impressed with how eloquent you manage to sound when debunking these transphobic arguments. I KNOW they're wrong, but I have trouble putting into words WHY they're wrong. Thank you for taking the time to debunk them and explain the missteps in logic that they're taking.
Same here! I recently had a terrible interaction with a now-ex friend, who brought up a lot of bizarre arguments when I came out to him as nonbinary. The arguments were nonsensical and baffling, it was hard to properly debate them in the moment because... you don't expect people to think these things. Jamie is awesome
Most of my friends happened to transition when I did. It wasn’t because we “spread the trans” to each other or anything. Like-minded people gravitate towards one another, regardless of if they are aware of it yet or not.
I had this same experience. Had, like, 5 close friends come out as trans right around when I did. I feel like the word "quəər" really captures the je ne sais quoi that drew us together in the first place. Like, just a bit odd.
@@ms.aelanwyr.ilaicos Yeah, that’s really the only way I can describe it as well. After me and my friends were out and proud, it inspired more friends around us to be truthful to themselves. To those who don’t understand the queer experience, it could be seen as a “spread” of some sort, but it’s really not.
@@BrodyMK64 What was wild is that we were all friends before we even came out. It wasn’t until years later that we’re like “Yeah.. that’s interesting.”
Exactly, I was the first one to come out, and I was a big source of resources and information for my friends. They realized and they felt emboldened to also come out!
They never realize femboy trans guys and butch trans women exist. They just think femenine boys and masculine girls are less secure in their gender when they really arent
What's really funny is that I was a "tomboy", and it was my cishet peers who told me that this actually made me a man/a lesbian (because those were totally seen as the same thing back in the day). It was THEM who told me that I had to start working towards being a "real woman"! Nowadays, as an androgynous autistic person, all I'm doing is acknowledging that androgyny, and pursuing body modification that I've wanted for years...and now, suddenly, it's my job to NOT do that and "redefine womanhood" instead. Absolutely despise this shit, at no point have "tomboys" and gay children EVER been accepted.
What's even funnier is that back in 2003, i went through a huge tomboy phase and i was always asked by peers if i liked girls, if i was straight and boy things or if i wanted to be a boy. I always clarified, and said i was a girl who liked boys, and that was that. People just wanted to know where i was at and how to regard me. It wasn't even weird or complicated. They'd go "oh, ok", and it was over. I even had some campground friends ask me. Half of them were absolutely sure i wanted to be a boy, and they were actually not expecting me to shatter that. 🤣 a couple of them had crushes and weren't sure what to do with that, especially based on how I'd answer. The general consensus was that it wouldn't have changed the friendships we had made if i HAD been trans. They were just nosey and really wanted to pry🤣. It was an awesome experience, actually. Lol We were all 13-16. Lol
@@commentbot9510 Wrong way round, babes! Funnily enough, people have used your exact line of thinking to "explain" why they think I'm bisexual: "So people bullied you because they thought you were gay...so you convinced yourself you were gay!" So you know, you're about as ignorant as your garden-variety homophobe, what else is new. I have never felt like a female/girl/woman, and at this point I don't care if I "can" be defined as such, but as a child, I could only define that as "tomboy". As a bullied youth, however, I did the opposite of what you've assumed I did: I insisted that I WAS a heterosexual woman. Because straight woman can be tomboys! Wearing trousers didn't mean I was gay! The idea of bullies being "right" about me - that they were right to say I was queer and not a woman - hurt me greatly, and stopped me exploring gender/sexuality issues until I was in my late teens/early 20s. I wasn't bullied into "thinking I couldn't be defined as a woman," I was bullied into thinking I HAD to define myself as a woman...so, bullied into the closet, which is exactly what they were going for.
Right? “Back in my day, trans men were just allowed to be tomboys” - firstly, I was a tomboy, not a trans man and we all know the difference. Secondly, the only people forcing tired gender roles on us was the people who also hate trans people. Jamie, your YT channel is awesome and so are you. Please carry on!
I came across this girl's channel earlier this year and it made my stomach turn. She still shows up in my recommended videos sometimes and it's so upsetting to see how many people support her view.
I hate the implication that people have been "convinced into being trans". As someone who is genderfaun and transmasc, I spent my time growing up being forced into not only being a woman, but having to adhere to feminine gender roles. The only other alternative was being a tomboy, which according to those people, required me to be into sports. I felt like I was a broken and defective woman because I couldn't fit into either category and like there was something wrong with me. I was forced into being cisgender. I was forced into gender roles. I'm happy having discovered who I really am. I feel like I can stop BSing. I finally stopped feeling broken. But then certain sorts of people come in and tell me I'm broken for being trans and I need to go back to being "normal" and it stings that they'd rather be pretend to be happy being something I'm not just because they're bothered by who I'm happy being.
I, too, wasn't convinced into being trans. About 30 years ago, I watched the cartoon version of "the last unicorn" (the main character transforms, in the course of the story, into a beautiful lady). It appealed to me, the idea of "changing my sex" (it was still known as transsexualism, back then), and I found out that there was such a thing, by reading my encyclopedias. There was no "Woke" agenda being pushed in either medium, I came to the conclusion on my own, that I'd like to be like that. I still am :).
my entire life would have been earlier and happier if I had been able to transition. I was ignored, fobbed off, dissuaded and disbelieved and fought tooth and nail for access to hormones, and I'm still fighting for surgery. terfs and anti-trans legislation and sentiment have played active roles in pushing me towards SH and Sui, as I believed for some years I would never have proper access to the affirming and life saving care I needed and still need.
Man it is just so tragic how misinformed she is. She'll probably grow up as a even more transphobic adult if she keeps getting these dangerous misinformation from people around her.
Hi, as a cis-woman with many trans friends and a non-binary sibling, I can confirm that it makes you think about your gender identity. It makes you consider that you don't have to be a woman, just because everyone told you you were. I can also confirm that it does not make you trans, if anything it either makes you either realize that you have been trans all along or it makes you feel even more secure of your gender-identity that conforms with your assigned sex at birth, because you have actually thought about it. (Not saying that you can't realize at any stage in your life that you were trans afterall, that is totally valid
Gender is worth questioning, because no matter if cis or trans at the end of the process you can say to others: "Nice gender, did your parents chose it for you? 😏"
My best friend is officially getting his legal name changed and I will tell you I’m so freaking excited! He’s my best friend in the whole world and I’m so proud of him finally being able to be himself. Just needed to share with somebody! Thanks y’all!
Aaah that’s so exciting! Thank you for sharing with us and if comfortable please feel free to tell him a random person on the internet says “way to go!”
Representing a group/belief as a doctrine, i.e. "-ism"ing it, is a scare tactic. "Transgenderism" is not a thing. Trans people exist. The purpose of our activism is for recognition, respect, and safety.
If someone's overly concerned about surgeries performed on children, they should be defending intersex infants from needless surgeries that have no impact on their health. Unfortunately, transphobes care more about normative sex & gender than kids.
I took a course in college about the history of cancer and an interesting finding is that at one point they thought cancer rates were increasing rapidly and everybody freaked out and one of the things they realized was once people realize that you couldn't get cancer by being a kid of someone with cancer or by touching somebody with cancer people stop hiding it on their death certificates and started actually admitting to their neighbors that they had cancer and it was reporting rates that were going up not necessarily actual rate of cancer
Yes everyone. Listen to the blonde haired, blue eyed, clear skinned white girl talk about how our dysphoria isn’t real because she’s not trans and doesn’t feel gender dysphoria
This was tough to watch. On one side because I'm nb, am interested in gender studies and love the trans community in my city and she's being hurtful... On the other side - there was a time when I was partly spouting the same nonsense as this person. At 19-20 yrs old I repeated some of that same transphobic bullsh*t and I'm so ashamed right now. I hated myself then, forced myself to play a role and expected everyone else to do the same. Of but hey, goes to show there's hope, and why educators like you are so important
Literally! Cisgender teen girls can get breast implants for purely cosmetic reasons with a parent's consent, but an adult tans man getting top surgery? The HORROR
I'm non-binary and coming back to my mom's this christmas, and she just saw a "documentray" on Sweden saying that the country has gone "too far too fast" and "faster than science" regarding trans healthcare. She sent it to all of her friends before I could say anything about it. We're supposed to talk about it when I get there, and I'm just SO HAPPY that I have your video to explain to her what happens in reality. Thank you !! 💚💚
I'd encourage your mom to look for actual studies and references, not uncredentialed statements like the video Jamie is responding to. She may not change her opinion, but if she's going to even try to support her child, she needs to use real facts, not rhetoric passed around by the opinionated loud.
@@tinkeramma Thank you for your response ! She's actually really sweet, just incerdibly misguided and misinformed...she's trying her best and that's why she wanted us to discuss the documentary she watched, but it's taking time and sometimes she slips back into fear for her child. Thankfully I'll have plenty of "actual studies and references" like you said for our talk !! (and merry christmas if you celebrate)
@Yuna Brimeling Merry Christmas to you as well! I'm a big fan of mothers (or any parents) being concerned for their children. I'm a mom and will always been concerned for my babies, no matter how old they get. Genuine concern comes from a place of love.
@@tinkeramma Thank you so much, and yes, I agree with you, that's why I'm trying my best to be patient with her (as she has been with me my whole life!!). I wish you well with your kids, I'm glad they get such a kind mom !
As someone from Sweden, it sadly is still hard. The waiting lists just for a first meeting it atrocious (+1 year, might even be over 2 now) and there are barely any clinics for specifically gender affirming care so unless you can go to another city a few hours away some might not even be able to get there, if they’re lucky enough to get an appointment. It’s fucked up
Don’t listen to that bigot that replied to you. Be yourself and don’t be ashamed of who you are. Everyone is beautiful and anyone who want to disagree isn’t a real friend and needs to go fuck themselves.
