The Most Frustrated Men in the Dating Game (It's Not Who You Think) 

Rom, you were on FIRE with this one. Most of the guys I know are definitely solid men with character who struggle to get women because they're seen as "boring." They're not problematic guys, they're functional, and they are genuinely good men who want genuinely good women. If a woman calls you as a guy "boring," most of the time you're just not chaotic, problematic, or dysfunctional.

Be likable. Not attainable.

This is huge. I'm an athlete, solid height low body fat, like to have meaningful conversion. I just want to chill with a good woman, not looking to run the block with every young lady out there, not super flirty. My experience with women has mostly been them coming at me for my looks and then losing interest when I don't try to tear them up immediately, I see it in their faces. Rom says the good good is essential, but I really want to know a girl and form a connection, they don't have any patience with my approach I guess.

i already knew you was talking about me before i even clicked 😭 incels have no clue. to have your shit together, practice self care, have a career, no kids, empathetic, etc. yet still struggle to find a woman worth being with in a LTR is VERY FRUSTRATING. its like a cruel joke

It’s scary how good Rom’s content is. Nothing else comes REMOTELY close.

Dropping gems Rom. Some of these guys are even funny, romantic, and can fight like Chuck Norris. Women pass them up all day long for a more problematic bad boy persona, even if the good man is truly more of a badass, and doesn't flaunt it.

Because he is following society instructions and genuinely being nice and decent

Well, men and women, you won’t find your husband or wife on the internet or social media. Let’s start there.

This one really hit me. Finding cheeks to clap is just plain easy but finding that woman who can be a good mother is just about impossible. And that's a thing s lot of people get confused. Most of the time, I find that the women who give off a hint of "wild child" tend to be the most cooperative for the right man and that it's the most outwardly conservative women who are too hard headed to be married.

One of my teammates in college was also a Soap Opera actor. He fits the description of what you're talking about. He's literally a model with ad campaigns, and handsome enough to be the eye candy love interest, but he rarely found girls he could pair up with. He's a great guy who's super charismatic and everything else...

31:40 That’s a damn good point. Growing up for me, I didn’t have both parents, but I had my uncle and my grandmother. I didn’t grow up in a drama filled household, it was stable. My grandmother loved me unconditionally, and showed me nothing but love and affection growing up. The only reason my grandfather wasn’t around, is because he died long before I was born. But you’re right. I grew up with unconditional love, stability and peace. So that’s what I want in my relationship.

We're frustrated, and even moreso, disappointed with the overall quality.

I thought i was crazy, this was the hardest truth I've experienced

That “spark” is sometimes drama, in certain women. Those types of women are almost repelled from stability

Never lied on this one! I had way more women when I was young and broke. Fast forward 10 years and I’m in the best shape, multiple degrees, no kids, career driven, and small business owner, home owner. Overall a decent man. Man I am super selective and it gets lonely. Partly because of my selective nature but you also see the lack of quality candidates. And I really don’t require much. It is what it is though !

As someone who hasn't had many partners in my life I once fantasized about what life would be like as a chad. I quickly realised that it would just be a different type of trouble. The problem of over supply rather than under supply.

It’s no wonder every time I tried doing it right I got rejected but when I just did shit to get some I always tended to find “love” I guess I gotta go back to some of those old ways….

No bs your like the mentor that I never had. I really appreciate what you do man much respect. Your sons are lucky to have a father like you! Peace and blessings.

Thanks Uncle Rom too much wisdom . Even if a man is successful and a good guy with integrity he really need how to flirt with a woman and how to tease. We dont need to be too serious we need balance . Thanks for this game 💯💥

I do relate to this! I’m currently building myself up in college, but I was raised in a stable 2 parent household and a positive family tree. For a while before dealing with some women, I felt so out of place because deep down My characteristics are very caring and sincere; not being a player. I’ve sort of developed those characteristics the more I’m outside and my dad puts me on game, but to be smart about it and not deal with bullshit. Great video Rom!

Great video! Someones level goes way deeper than their social standing or career success. Some people can’t even touch your spiritual level. You really have to watch what kind of energy you let inside your life.

It’s simple if you judge women on their actions. They legitimately don’t want relationships anymore.

Some would say that I am a Tyrone w/ autism. The whole "sigma male" archetype are basically attractive men w/ autism who are generally good guys who have it altogether and practice body game. We march to the beat of our own drum, don't follow mainstream trends, obey the rules, have special skills/interests, maybe spiritual or religious, and prefer to be alone more than social. You'll either be seen as mysterious or "boring" to normies. They'll either be intrigued or intimidated by you. My lady and I are natural home-bodies and we spend a lot of time eating healthy, going to the gym, watching nerdy or ratchet shows, sharing memes, and nurturing and educating her son academically. So I won big there. The quality of women has declined, so there's disappointment in the fact that once you build yourself into somebody's who's a catch you'll find that the women are dumb, super masculine, very fat, have facial and chest tattoos, sport weird hairstyles or have fake hair and eyelashes, and if they're slim they got stitching scars across their stomachs b/c it had to be stapled shut after weight loss surgery. You can still get women, but a lot of the times you get hit on by women you don't find sexually attractive, so there's a compatibility issue there.

I learned that in my past I use to go after dominant women bc I was battling with my feminine and masculine but as I grew older more towards that masculine I’ve become what I use to look for in women and as a result I attract more feminine women… the domanancy and masculinity creates that “spark” that certain “thing” women can’t put their finger on when it comes to attraction.

Rom. You Described My Situation Perfectly. I Am Above Average In All Statistical Male Categories But I Do Find Myself Frustrated At Times. I Thought I Was Crazy, or That There Was Something Wrong With Me. I Had a Feeling This Was The Case, But Your Explanation Made A Lot of Sense & It Has Brought Me Some Peace.

Absolutely right Rom! These are also the guys who complain about women choosing Pookie and Ray Ray.

God damn unk you knock this one out park this is exactly where the fuck I'm at right now. I just let two go I was feeling a little down about that shit. This came right through to confirm that I need to keep going and get the right one 😮😮😮

This is so true and it blows my mind how true it is.

Honestly after watching a bunch of your videos I ultimately realized I received a negative imprint throughout my childhood. My choices in women on a subconscious level are, in purely plain terms, just evil. Still figuring out how to fix this, if it's even possible, as I have a lot of psychological work to do. But I'm not even 30 yet and life can surely be long...Keep doing God's work Unc.

This one hit close to home. Refreshing to hear it from someone else. Great video Unc ✊🏾

Rom dropping the truth as usual!

I’ve been listening to you for a while now I listened to couple of your videos, and you seem to be one of the only man who understand women and see us as actual human beings and I thank you for that. ❤❤❤ new subbie

Finally , someone covered this subject. Thanks Rom.

I live this commentary, we spend a lot time talking about the extremes, but there’s a lot situations in the middle that aren’t talked about much, this is one of them.

This is huge. I got it all, but showed too much love and affection too quickly because I thought she was ready. She ghosted him without a word or explanation. I'm tired of it all.

Spot on 🎯

Being a highly sought after man sexually is both a blessing and a curse

There are videos on youtube of women calling Micheal B Jordan cute but boring and have no edge. I know a particular woman who likes just his Kilmonger character

This video was on point!

I was thinking of this subject the other day. It really is a disadvantage for men looking for a good woman if he has money and status. Yes women will be plentiful sexually, but how many are psychologically or mentally stable to deal with a man on that level in a long-term relationship.

I say the frustration in part is all the temptation when you not tryna be out here like that but these women are applying pressure all the while looking good and being feminine. I don’t wanna be that dude on the side, but shorty just looking too good.

36:15 is crazy lmaooo Whole new address and everything is diabolical.

This is sooooo on point it's ridiculous 😂. I'm a young man who's handsome, funny, smart and I have nothing but good intentions. Women and men both recognize it and verbalize it. Yet, I've been single and celibate for the past 6 years ( by choice and lack of good options ). I've rejected plenty of women's advances directly and indirectly. Men think I'm lying and women get suspicious. I no longer get frustrated though. I know that all the women avoiding/intimidated of me are just weeding themselves out.

I’d love to learn more about this

Rom I’ve been binging your videos I hope your doing well with your recovery God Bless You your videos are giving me so many answers to my life you literally described my life experience and my family experience in this video it’s amazing and very reassuring because now I know for a fact I’m on the right track I’m 24 and also live in the DMV area I’d love to connect with you many blessings you’re heaven sent!

Very interesting topic

Fboy Island is my favorite show! New season comes out October 21st 🔥

This one... kinda ... hurt

This sounds like men that are gonna die alone or begrudgingly become a sugar daddy

Unc you've the best videos on RU-vid to be honest i'm a 27 year old male never really had a father figure and such but also have not had a gf or anything like that. I'm a handsome man clearly I can say that, I work out and goal driven so I just be focusing on building myself up. My family always ask me about getting a gf but I just don't see the point when I'm focus on being a stable man while following my dreams. I do have experience talking to women after I graduated H.S I did go on some lunch dates just to be social but besides that kept it going for the experience. I'm ADHD and autistic too so missed a bunch of signals early on but learned from it and your uploads Uncle Rom really are interesting and can help me understand things from a different perspective so thank you.

8:47 this is very true. They like love and hip hop in their own life

With attraction like what you were discussing regarding "F-Boy Island" we have to recognise that there's an unquantifiable, mysterious (mystical even?) and un-rational element to attraction - some subconscious or beyond the veil unexplainable aspects that apply to both men and women. Nobody can fully explain and quantify why they find their partner to be so attractive, or why they love them, it is something beyond full rational understanding. Many guys give the impression that they are uptight, overthinking and over-analysing every interaction with potential partners - you're not interviewing for a job vacancy in your life you're trying ot latch on to the above mentioned mystical connection that cannot be rationally understood whenever it reveals itself to you - I think Daoist philosophy is useful here. These guys need to relax and then pusrue the connections that present themselves, of which there will be many. And all the better for it, I say men and women should embrace that, lean in to the mystery and the gut feeling, that is the heart of romance for me. But I am young and idealistic and don't have trouble with dates, I may change my tune in future.

Man Rom, you spittin as usual. This video applies especially to black men. I just graduated from Howard, and I knew I had a find a girlfriend before I graduated not because that’s what I really really wanted, but because I knew how scarce the market was for “good women” to my standard after. And I did find mine. There’s a an abundance of women like that at Howard, trust me.😂 But yea, I fit the description of what you described, and the dating game is definitely difficult cuz u just not tryna fuck everything. Good women are a scarcity nowadays. And remember how annoying it was being single. You preaching to the choir tho. God Bless.

Damn those brothers are the only ones that need to go overseas 😅 cuz even disabled men are getting something

This video came at the right time. I’m one of the frustrated bunch.

Instant classic Uncle Rom. After a certain point as an elevated man it goes from frustration to acceptance. You look at how peaceful your life is and problematic pu$$y has no appeal. Most of your encounters with women will be brief. When they cross the line and attempt to come back, you’re mentally and spiritually checked out. Rinse and repeat until an elevated woman enters your space. The residue of the problematic woman is often a permanent stain.

24:18 😂this line right here Unc Rom tho

Real talk.

I’ll say I fit into the category of a genuine good man after listening to this video. From my perspective, most people that knows me have said that to me at some point in my life. It can get frustrating to find the right woman, but I’m a picky man. So I understand that it will take time to find that woman. When I do, I’ll be confident that I chosen correctly and she will add to the peace I’ve established in my life. Appreciate the video Uncle Rom. Peace and blessings.

This reached me rom.

It is fascinating coincidence but there is video in the sidebar , How to Recognize Your Twin Flame, a womens channel, I presume, and over 160k views. They are looking for magic and no amount of logic, or rational appraisals will stand up to that. Sometimes it is hard to imagine how men and women even like each other.

FACTSSS

My father used to talk on how the people of their work need to watch themselves, he said: in reunions they try to include a woman who is working on the night by saying she is a teacher or something... How obvious it was that a woman overly using make up and doll herself up, is not a teaacher!. Those reunion are important so they put a rule on it: do not bring a woman if not your wife. Corporate man and such want to be with a woman who is on the same understanding as is described on the video. 100% true

I used to think my height at 5'6" would be a huge issue with dating. And while it isnt ideal, I managed to have a few relationships and had a fair amount of attractive women. My friend whos around my height has had way more than me. His best friend is shorter than us and is married to a really sexy lady. Its really not as bad as some men claim. Keep in mind women claim what they dont want in a man, but women never know what they want lol.

17:47 aka the building phase.

Rom, you're the man! The game is never what it appears on the surface! So many men make superficial and presumptuous assumptions about what women want. You are the true Godfather of the manosphere! If I am lying, then read the intro to Mode One. Just saying.

Rom....you've probably been in some way asked this question already, but I'll ask anyways(lol). Have you ever considered elevating your writing talents,& insight into relationship dynamics to stage plays, or movie scripts? Btw....keep up the good work 🤜.

This is straight up real talk 💯. I'm a young black handsome man, dress well, slim fit figure, six figure salary with a couple rental business's on the side, genuinely good man. You'd probably think I'd have women lined up but I don't, and it's mostly to the points Rom hit on. One, I already have two kids. I use to lay em down before then, but now I have to be much more cautious because I definitely don't want more kids unless its a woman I know for sure I'll be marrying. I'm not trying to get caught up with no ratchet and lose half of what I've built. Location and social circle is also a real thing. Unfortunately I don't have nearly as many options due that alone, and if they are an option, are they "on my level". It's very frustrating. I'm actually thinking about packing up and moving to a location with more options.

Rom with it 🎶

With Yet Another 🎬 #CarVideo #RomTalk

Grew up in the hood and had a single mom raise me. But my everyday thoughts was I wouldn't have my child grow up like my dad did. He fucked up, but we good now, love the guy but will not have the same shit go on. My mom used "You really yo daddy son" as an insult one time and I never forgot that.

You revealed some deep issues here Rom.

BIG FACTSS…I don’t have any issue getting women at all , my prob is mentally I moved on from the real fuck boy shit since 2019 - end of Covid ….priorities different but mindset still the same.

Great analysis.

19:25 this is all the way true. Professional man are super picky!!!

Amen…

this is why i focus on myself and my relationship with god..these 304s are not worth the energy if its not returned surplus📈

This is me to some degree. Now I can't be my own witness in this due to the fact that any human can delude themselves into seeing themselves as the protagonist of any story but I've definitely had this experience before. I wouldn't say my mouth piece speaks the language of the gods but I'm not horrible around women either (I've had impressive days and days that I'm glad were never caught on tape). Women got to know me and were disappointed that I wasn't some brooding emotionally unavailable hypersexual emo guy because once you get to know me I'm very friendly (I just happen to like being alone most of the time, which is why I think women found me mysterious and aloof). One woman actually said this to my face and I could hear the disappointment in her voice (and as you have already guessed, the disrespectful/emasculating treatments followed soon after that up until I distanced myself from her). She also told a mutual friend of ours and he said she expressed how disappointed she was that I wasn't her tormented and mysterious emo guy that lit up her fantasies. Another woman I dated briefly used to try to make my decisions for me (particularly my vision). She tried to operate our relationship from a position of authority even over something like my vision which is where I drew the line and dumped her. Later on she texted and called me about how much she respected me after I chose my vision and stood my ground against her antics. Another one tried to punk me because i liked her but I wasn't the man she expected me to be so she played those "hot and cold" games with me. Left her alone, saw her a few years later and she tried to get my attention the same way she used to in the past while walking with her fiance and her baby but I just kept on moving like I saw nothing (because having an unnecessarily awkward encounter with her suspicious fiancé in public wasn't about to be on my to-do list). Come to think of it, most of my relationship issues came from me not being the player women thought I was. It's weird but maybe if I was actually a player they would have respected me...think about that...me being a womaniser would have rewarded me with more respect than me being a genuine man who actually wants to build something with/for her (not in a simp way though, just building for her in the sense of providing protecting for her on the condition that she plays her part). It's why these days I'm seriously considering just going through a f-boy phase and womanising for a while...enjoy all the free 😺 and not bother myself about anything long term. Its gotten to a point where I wonder if I'd be more content as a player rather than Mr Commitment. That's how fucked up this is🤷‍♂️

I haven't watched it yet. I wanted to see if we agreed. I would say people like me. You get the money. The house, car and assets and then those 8's and 9's don't come. I tell younger guys all the time... the money is not gonna fix your women issue.

Easiest way around their bullshit in the dating game is to be dating multiple at all times. Date someone who likes you alot more than you like them, maybe she's a little heavier than you like or not as attractive as you prefer, but she's going to hang around, you can kind of treat her almost like a girlfriend but she knows you won't commit all the way. Then it makes the rest of the game easier. Once a man has one the others are easy.

Thank you Rom. It’s a fine line to walk between being a player-player and a Handsome Good Man. It’s ironic, I grew up in the Hood, but I do have both parents. I went to a terrible school, I even fought myself as a child. Despite that, top 9th and 8th percentile of my state, but It’s hard man. I want the ratchets, but I like the sophisticated ones intelligent smart. Then I found one who was fucking crazy and who had both. Finding that triple threat of balance is the only woman worthy fr But, what will I have to sacrifice to get that, a lot of free pussy or some isolation years?

The issue is that a guy in an orange jumpsuit with D.O.C. written across the back will get more action than a guy in an Armani suit.

He's authentic not following new trendy catch phrases also friends with Locario whose real smart when it comes to opposite gender.

I'm that guy lol wouldn't say in a 12/10 but iv had alot of women in my life, alot and usually I always fit the criteria, good looking, body game, gentleman, knows what he wants, wants 1 girl to himself etc. And what he's saying is facts, it's so frustrating dating women even if u have all these traits, infact sometimes I feel like it's a curse lol but hey u just gotta roll with it until the right one comes along 😅

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I don't understand why people think the man is either a good man or a f boy. I'm literally right in the middle.

So then whats the solution then? Just stop wanting a relationship and fuck around? Like genuinely curious. Like idk if I could switch up. That personal imprint shit is deep lol.

Damn, I never really considered the Imprint thing. Also, would you argue that maybe these guys just lack raw sex appeal? Once I heard the word "Spark", I knew what time it was.😅

Rom didnt talk much, well almost, but turnoff for me is when woman talks badly about men or even their son.... it is pretty common no matter how educated or not and what background. I bet not all of them are like that but that is something that sticks from other people. That last part seems to apply to highly succesful women too. It is common sense, someone close by keeps feet on the ground and personality in check to not go overboard in useless things. Although bad relationship can work other way, or working way too hard can break good relationship (work addiction).

I'll give you 3 ✔☑✅!