THE NARCISSIST DOES NOT HAVE YOUR BACK 

NEVER assume your kindness & compassion is how some others act in life. We must accept that our society does not value love, compassion, empathy! Please show all these to people that need it, not fake, entitled, insecure narcissistic creeps!

Gotcha back …. what’s that? learned early on that the ex Narc was acting extremely lame when it came to understanding, loyalty and reciprocation which I called him out on it. He didn’t have an EMPATHETIC bone in his body. I chalked it up, went No Contact and moved on.

Oh this is SOO true. This happened to me time after time and even out of the relationship it’s still difficult to believe. It was just one more layer of these shocking betrayals disloyalty and disregard very damaging stuff and did a card in triangulation 80 cars when I needed his help it occurred consistently in a variety of situations. I even thought that perhaps I was over reacting but looking back it’s so difficult to “unpack” because it’s difficult to imagine admit that I saw all of the signs and I kept coming back for more

Oh I know this above video to be the honest truth, my "so called" wife of 25 years did nothing when i had my heart attack at home and from that moment when the paramedics came she dropped me out of her life and relegated me to the enemy, zero, no one, dropped like a turd under her shoe and down the rabbit hole went I, it took me 5 years to wake up that the problem was not me but the she devil, Im good now, strong in mind and body its been a hard path out of the hell she created but now no one and nothing can hurt me, I stand tall and proud. Thank you for helping victims of Narcissistic abusers.

I am watching this again and it’s reminding me of other things that had happened with me , I was once discussing with her some problems I was having at work over the phone , and after we ended the call , the call did not disconnect , and she did not realize that I was still hearing her , I was appalled that she was telling someone about what I just discussed with her , and on top of that saying that I’m depressed . Even if I was depressed, for her to talk about me to someone I didn’t even know and things I had talked to her about were because I trusted her , I never thought she will use me as a conversation topic in a condescending tone towards me. Later on when I confronted her about that , she denied that she did that ! Back then I had no idea about whom I had let get in my life and I was just baffled how she can lie like that !

I remember having said to her , that I not only want her I need her while I’m having this medical crisis , and that if she can take time off for a while thst will help me tremendously as I already had to go to the ER 3 times for the complications and I wish I had someone with me . She totally ignored my request . If she had done that for me , I would have been totally hers for the rest of my life , in health or sickness . Obviously I was not worth it to her !

Narcissists have the knowledge of human nature far beyond their maturity....they are many steps ahead of us...yet they have arrested development...WHY?? More importantly how are they able to leap ahead of us yet not go through the pain we have to....to ultimately learn. For a narc to willingly and consciously set their children up for failure in life to feel good about themselves is far beyond just a hurt child..

I think one place she failed me big time was whenever I needed someone to validate my feelings , not only she was unable to empathize with me, she actually gave me a condescending lecture about what other reasons the other may have said or done something than what I stated, based on my actual interaction with that other person, while she just started to talk about totally irrelevant reasons when she had no clue about so many dynamic factors that I had experienced in that encounter.

First sign should have been when I was meeting with his large family for the first time and I made us quite late for the lunch. He cared so much about his image that he threw me under the bus when they were asking why we were late. I’m not justifying my actions or saying it’s okay to make him look bad but it was the fact that he cared so much about his image to even his family that have known him and shouldn’t judge him much that he was willing to make me look bad on first impression. I was shocked but ignored He eventually left me at a critical point in my life and that shocked me even more. My trust for people is definitely tainted and I don’t even know if to wish I get it back or not.

Wow. Your videos are really hitting home (subscribed!). This has been my mom. She WILL be there just to the point (like during critical times) where I have had so much cognitive dissonance going back and forth on being able to trust her. But what I've found, is often after they do you the favor, as you said, it comes with a price tag. Sometimes it's literally just like they help you just so they can patronize after the fact, totallt rubbing it in your nose like you'd be nothing without them.

Again you are 100% Correct. My Ex Narcissist Girlfriend was not someone I could count on her to have my back in the 15 years I spent with her. Purely Transactable makes me sick just thinking about it now. When you finally wake up and leave them and Go No Contact. In my case 8 months and you look at all the NOTHING that they did not give to us, but we stayed thinking that she would change. WRONG. Very WRONG. They have No Empathy they are not going to have our backs. But we had there Backs Always. Another Great VIDEO as always. Didn't see any Cats on the BED. Your understanding of these Narcissist is amazing.

You're really smart. I appreciate your videos. Thank you.

If she had any love for me she could not have acted the way she acted after she inflicted serious internal injury through her careless behavior . She knew I had no other support but had no problem in initiating a situation that it was more hurtful to see her callous behavior than to be without any support and cope with the crisis all alone! For last two years I’m dealing with multiple medical appointments, some of them out of state for treatmrnt of the complications resulted from the injury she caused !

we were raised by narcissists. we were scapegoated. we attracted what we knew. our lives descended into darkness being surrounded by vipers. Somehow, we escaped and are climbing upward. verify them and then trust them.

Sometimes when I listen to these videos I wonder if we did it the same man LOL or if there is a book a handy-dandy quick study guide for various forms of narcissism because it’s almost like they are reading from the same script. Thank you for sharing your story. For me this is one of the most got wrenching aspects of the relationship and looking back I cannot fathom Why I would think that he loves me And why I would settle for that. It is shattering to believe that someone has your back and wants to reciprocate and be your partner and then to find out that when you need that person to show action behind those words your eyes that you were in a precipitous freefall

It is interesting to view your videos that go into an intense depth. It seems once some learn what went on, they are finished with ii while others myself included find the dynamics fascinating, albeit chilling at times. Perhaps something internally still needs verified or justified. While traits are similar, it seems multimorbidity is at play. You never know when their "snapped" day far spectrum leep may occur. We all have ways to improve as a human being, if you want to. If a pathology prevents this, it must be recognized as such and leaves no choice but to bail out. It may save your life. That literally must be accepted.

My solicitor sister ❤️ has helped me get a lot of $ back from a friend who took a lot of gold bullion from me and wouldn't give it back, i thought i was dying when i gave to him, i think 💔 she enjoys winning and she always wins in legal pusuits!

Mine takes the side of my narcissistic sister until I'm yell at him that how is it gonna act like it's on her side when I'm your wife and you've known me longer and you don't even know her tame with my mom any time I needed her to just show some empathy inside what are you gonna do now? Oh well, you made your bed. You gotta, you're gonna lay in it. In my sister and messaging my husband talking about how horrible I am. He don't know why he married then because dummy me and couldn't confide in her when we were having a bad time, and I was really ready to get it divorce and I said stop messaging him if you can't messaging him and we were in a whole argument that had nothing to do with him and she's like. What are you gonna do? Come out here and beat my butt? I'm like wow, I'm 52. You're 57 what's going on here? Of course, he didn't have my backyard yelling at me trying to tell me how to how this argument with my sister. And in the end he says oh well, you're gonna divorce in any way, right? I'm sitting here telling her like. Do you not understand that you could be causing? Me to be homeless right now. You don't care. I don't care you p*** me off. Horrible man And then you wonder why am I not like this? How come I can deal with stuff like? I don't have anything or guilt from my past. I've faced everything. Because I don't know a shame to talk about the dumb idiotic stuff. I did bad to say that I made. I mean, they're done, there's nothing you can do. But it doesn't make sense to even bring everything up all the time. One time my mom cannot divisive. Haven't seen her like 6 years or sitting at the bar. All the time she turns to me and has this ugly look on her face. And it is almost like. How dare you be living alive and you just. Are so content while I'm over here miserable. I cried all the way across I 40 and all the way down. I 95 back to Fayetteville from Raleigh. I said never again never again. Will I share? Space with this evil land they act like they wanna have relationship with you, just so they can dig at you all the time may use you like. My sister just uses me to talk you on the phone while he's walking around. Going all over to the stores and throw dry throws and I'm dislike, okay. What are you doing, but trying to be nice, then they lie, and you like OK. Well, you didn't say that then you're call me a liar. No, I'm not calling you a liar. You're just like what the f it's happening here. I'm in the Twilight Zone. And they love to do these kinds of things when they know there's no proof of it. And then they pretend they're gonna go look back in their text messages. But of course, you know, they're not gonna find the text messages because the stuff that they were saying that you were trying to discuss with them. What's something they said on the phone? It's just like math house.

I only wanted sma L portion back, he could have kept $9,000 but he got greedy and lost all!

And then if you do go anywhere for a few days, then they are on the phone oh I miss you. Do you miss me and you're really like no of course, you're not gonna say that

This is an excellent video. You should really have to start doing shorter videos on Tik Tok and You Tube to spread this knowledge! 👍💝🙏💣💥